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noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 07:11:00 +0000

And still after all this time,

the Sun has never said to the Earth, "You Owe Me".

Look what happens with love like that.

It lights up the sky!!

GENUINENESS DOESN’T EXPUNGE INCOMPETENCE

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 08:34:00 +0000

You sincerely want to help, but what if you employ strategies and habits that cause harm.

Genuineness doesn’t expunge incompetence.

Portraits of lousy helpers:

Overeager helper:

When time allows, step back and let people struggle with their own challenges and problems.

4 benefits of struggle:

Self-respect.
Grit. Struggle strengthens. Over-protection propagates weakness.
Openness. When people feel the challenge of struggle, it opens them to receive help. Learning moments often come slowly.
Respect for help. Quick interventions feel degrading to recipients.

Needy helper:

Helping elevates perceived self-worth but lowers the status of others. It’s not helpful to make others feel less competent when you want them to boldly take ownership.

Controlling helper:

Expert helpers need others to do exactly as they’re told. In the end, dependency develops.

The goal of helping is getting to the place where helping isn’t needed.

3 Tips for humble helpers:

#1. Define help.

There’s a difference between the ‘presenting’ problem and the real concern. Someone might come to you with the ‘presenting’ problem that concerns production.

After some exploration, you might discover that the real problem is fear of bringing up sensitive issues.

It doesn’t help to solve a ‘presenting’ problem while the real issue lurks in the shadows.

Don’t assume you know what help looks like. Maybe they need you to listen, but not solve. Sometimes help is connecting people with experts or resources.

#2. Ask, “What have you tried?”

3 reasons to explore what they’ve tried:

Send the signal that they are responsible. You share their concern, but the challenge or problem is still theirs.

Respect their efforts to meet the challenge or fix the problem.

Eliminate irrelevant suggestions.

#3. Generate options.

NEVER offer potential solutions before competent persons generate their own.

You give power and elevate status when you generate a list of options and ask, “Which would you like to try?”

What makes leaders lousy helpers?

How might leaders become more effective helpers?

How might leaders overcome arrogance?

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Thu, 31 May 2018 11:46:00 +0000

The cure:

The idea that you can overcome arrogance is an expression of arrogance.

Don’t try to overcome arrogance. You can’t stop that puffy feeling in your chest when respected leaders respect you. It just happens.

The practices of humility are the only cure for arrogance.

In my early twenties an elderly gentleman complimented me on my choice of clothing. I gave him a short lesson on style. I’m embarrassed by that today. Humility says thank you. Arrogance gives a lesson.

Notice your arrogance and respond with humility.

Calm – Not Speed – God Calling

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Fri, 11 May 2012 17:43:00 +0000

“In quietness and in confidence shall be your strength.” Isaiah 30:15

All agitation is destructive of good. All calm is constructive of good, and at the same time destructive of evil.

When man wants evil destroyed so often he rushes to action. It is wrong. First be still and know that I am God. Then act only as I tell you. Always calm with God. Calm is trust in action. Only trust, perfect trust can keep one calm.

Never be afraid of any circumstances or difficulties that help you to cultivate this calm. As the world, to attain, has to learn speed, you, to attain, have to learn calm. All great work for Me is done first in the individual soul of the worker.

Stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls. Jeremiah 6:16

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Sat, 21 Apr 2012 17:24:00 +0000

Of what use is it to discourse learnedly on the Trinity, if u lack HUMILITY & therefore displease d Trinity? Lofty words do not make a man Just or Holy, but a good life makes him dear to God...

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 07:42:00 +0000

When you’ve prayed every prayer that you know how to pray, sometimes you just run out of words and all you can say is “Lord, have mercy.”

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Wed, 04 Apr 2012 17:12:00 +0000

I Cant Brag about my LOVE for GOD bcoz I Fail him Daily. But I Can Brag about his LOVE for ME bcoz it NEVER FAILS

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 17:44:00 +0000

If on sundays, you can sing worship songs & impart great knowledge and preach all day & finally if you go on to live normally as an atheist on mondays , You have just missed the Whole Point

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 02:30:00 +0000

The Gospel is like water. No man has invented it, yet no man can live without it.

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 13:51:00 +0000

“Most of our assumptions have outlived their uselessness."

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 02:20:00 +0000

WoW!!!! the Living Word of God is Super sharp & active.......

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 03:07:00 +0000

You multiply the impact of your life when you encourage others! Letting others give lets them shine & humbles you....

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 16:40:00 +0000

The true heart of Christmas is realizing that we can celebrate the birth of a Savior and that there’s hope every single day of the year

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 17:31:00 +0000

Prevailing Prayer is almost an impossibility where there is neglect of study of the Word of God

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 02:27:00 +0000

For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ - 2 Corinthians 10:3-5

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Tue, 06 Dec 2011 16:26:00 +0000

True Worship means , I no longer need an answer to my questions. He is enough.

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Mon, 05 Dec 2011 02:47:00 +0000

One Useful Strategy for Becoming More Useful - Leaders are useful when they honor the contribution of others; When you honor the talents and skills of others, they will honor your wisdom with loyalty.

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 16:07:00 +0000

Feast Of Christ the King : "O Lord, my Father and Master of my life" - Sirach 23:1, Have Mercy On Me

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 18:29:00 +0000

It Is Not Because I have earned it, But Bcoz of a greater Purpose, that i have been Blessed!! Amen!!
Refer Ephesians 2:8-10: We Were Saved, Chosen & Anointed Bcoz of his grace & his plan for betterment, Good works for saving Souls for our Lord Jesus, But If we do not care for his souls then we may stand loosing our anointing, the more we care for his souls the more his anointing in us.

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 13:13:00 +0000

"God, Help me to be weird" :
calling us to live – sanctified, set apart, separated, consecrated,the bottom line is that believers should be choosing to live differently .
(Refer 1 John 2:15-17 & Romans 12:2).

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 04:54:00 +0000

Our transformation through Christ can be so dramatic that people around us may think that we are out of our mind.

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Mon, 03 Oct 2011 12:41:00 +0000

Hmmm..... you Know what????
I was never good at school, I couldn’t sit still;
I was substantially inauthentic and superficial.
I am learning that the only person I can change is me, Change me Jesus.........

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Sat, 01 Oct 2011 06:32:00 +0000

Stop aspiring to become a leader its a waste of time. Leaders don’t aspire to leadership;
Leaders don’t wait for titles; leaders don’t need titles. Lead today.
create it by humbly leading, now......

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 11:58:00 +0000

Where else can i go?, With Whom Shall I go Lord?, everything that i am is through you, everything that i have is from you, Whom else shall I go to Lord But Only you have the word's of eternal life?
Lord, I in you & you in me.... May I Always remain in you & you in me ....... I Love you Jesus...........

"Called to Be Saints"

noreply@blogger.com (VictorDCoded) — Sat, 24 Sep 2011 08:34:00 +0000

"Called to Be Saints" - Romans 1:7

We need to come to realize that every one is called to be a Disciple of Christ. in fact, in the early church. "Saint" was the word used to refer to the believers in Jesus Christ. In The letter of St.Paul & St.Peter & in the book of Acts, Christians are simply addresses as Saints. St. Paul in Writing to the church at Philippi says, "Greet every saint in my name" -Phil 4:21, he voices the conviction of the early Christians: "We are called to be saints" - Rom 1:7

" The Identity of the believer in Jesus is embedded in his Call to be a Saint"

"you shall be Holy" - 1 Peter 1:16: this is what being a saint means - a person set apart from the world to belong to Jesus. the moment I am baptized into Jesus Christ, I am a new creation, For Jesus Says: "If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world" - Jn 15:19; We are chosen by Christ to be his own. And Christ himself shows us the way to live this belonging.

Jesus Said, " Abide in Me, and I will Abide in you" - Jn 15:4 ; Deep intimacy is the relationship that Jesus expects with us. St. Paul uses a very special word for this: en christo or in Christ:

I am in Christ & Christ is in me. Everything from me flows into him, all my sorrows & anxieties, my burdens & troubles, my sins & temptations, flow into him. And from Jesus, peace, joy & love into me. this flow of Love is the Holy Spirit. In Jesus, through the Holy Spirit, I Flow to the father. this is the essence of christian life - I in Jesus, & Jesus in me & in the Holy Spirit Jesus constantly taking me to the heavenly Father. this is the relationship we enjoy with the Holy Trinity, when we have this experience, we are taken beyond this world.

the World, which St. John speaks of, is lost under the influence of Sin, he defines : "Sin is lawlessness" 1 Jn 3:4, every sin is a rebellion against our Maker, a rejection of the one we belong to. therefore, when we are united with Jesus & Jesus Is united with us, we live a life in this world but not of this world. Instead of rebellion against God's Will, we will surrender as Mother Mary did, " Here am I, your handmaid; let it be done unto me according to your will" - Luke 1:38, - This is Saintly Life, this is Authentic Christianity. This saintliness will mould our relationship with god & with our Brothers & sisters.

let's realize that life is not in receiving as it is is giving, let's Share the very mission of Jesus. Then in our reaching out to our brothers & sisters, especially the needy & the poor, with love in our Hearts, that the righteousness, peace & Joy of the Holy spirit Shall be Ours.

Amen.