Colors of my life

Sharpen the Saw...............

2021-09-05T00:10:00.004+05:30

Nobody starts walking with their birth.............

There is a minimum period of 10-14 months after the birth human baby starts walking, even that too is not an easy path......But when babies are born one thing is inherent and gift of god which is Learning power.

It starts as soon as baby comes to in their senses, they start learning from their surroundings, how to move hands, their speech therapy, their observing power. This shows how their mind is so pure and without any outer impurities so honest so true, which is why it is being said "Babies are Form of God's".

Babies start their journey from Crawling to walking which is big learning process but how quickly they learn is very surprising. Ancient India had proven this fact that whatever is being taught in early age of kids, their mind will grab it quickly. Proven example was Son of famous saint Ved Vyas whose name was 'Shuka' and he learned the entire scriptures and all four Vedas when he was not even born. There is an another example- son of Arjun - Abhimanyu who learned art of war when he was in his mother's womb.

Learning is a process which goes all together our life and every human being had to keep learning with their experiences in their life and the decisions taken by them. At times decision would be wrong at times right but its all learning. People who are able to distinguish and answer below questions will surely find their way......

The entire crux of discussing all this is Learning does not have any age, you can learn at any age. Early you start more you would be able learn and experience. We all want to do so many things in our life but all wishes doesn't come true, for making your wishes come live you need to learn new things, new hobbies, new books. Learning builds foundation and stepping stones to take you to a level which makes all our wishes Live.

"Sharpen the Saw"

I am sure people who have read book - '7 Habits of Highly Effective People' must be familiar with the 7th Habit which is "Sharpen the Saw". This habit is one of the key to your success, people who had been successful in past or present had followed this tool very effectively.

Reflection of our ageing is through our body, mind, heart and soul. When your mind is old, you will start feeling tired and older, what makes us old - our thoughts. How come thoughts ? Thoughts because our life becomes stagnant without any learning.

How to be young back again with same young thoughts? Only way out is Sharpen the Saw, which means we need to improve out thought process we need to help and support our Mind to learn new things and pull him on the treadmill of Knowledge so that it could be young back again.

What do we do when our tools get old and loose their sharpness, we sharp them with Saw. Saw in our lives is Knowledge and learning tools.

What are knowledge and learning tools?

we are living in 21st Century where there so many learning tools available at 5G speed. There are so much of immense knowledge and learning tools available for each field and each area, whatever we want to learn we can learn now through Internet.

There are lot of people who invest for their old age so that they could live merely and happily in old ages with their money but they forget their true investment is learning if they keep learning they are getting far richer than they can think.

Life these days is so easy and is just click away with lot of Application based learning tools have come, you can learn musical instruments, you can learn science with the help of Live demo's, there are so many books which you could be listened while walking, driving and working too.

"Youtube" you will find 1000's of videos on any kind of subjects, not only you can learn but also you can also teach through these videos on certain subjects which you want to communicate to the entire world through various social media modes.

Sharing of this knowledge is another new thing which started in this decade with Ted Talks platforms which bring so many big achievers to share their journey which is truly something to learn about.

Keep Learning............................

Thank you GOD for Everything

2021-08-28T23:31:00.002+05:30

Whenever pain comes into our life we realize the meaning of pain but till it doesn't happens with us we all think it could not happen to me. we are living in a artificial world thinking we are going to live in this world, when we know no one had lived in this world and we all have to leave this world some day.

At times it seems that we are living in a dream world, we eat sleep, watch our mobiles, watch television, read books and live to entertain ourselves. what is the real purpose of our birth we are not aware of.

With so much pain and suffering going in the world, people are dying like poor ants in some part of this world. We are all living an entertaining lives however in some part of world people are suffering, they are living in the fear of death of their lives, their families, their kids. Money and Food is far away from their thoughts and the only aim they looking to God is to save their lives and atleast not there's than the lives of their kids.

Its really difficult to imagine their life and whats going through their minds, however we sitting in our couches are more worried about our kids coming future what they will become in their lives, will it be doctor, engineer or some other professions. However in the other part of the world people are thinking will their kids will survive until next sunrise and if he does will they would be able to survive the night.

We all are so mean that we never thank god even sitting in our couches with absolutely nothing to worry but still we live for tomorrow and yesterday unaware that Today is lost in these thoughts. Why we all don't cherish today and thank for each morning and night that we are still alive in this world to see the sunshine and moon light every day.

We had so much stress of our routine activities - how will we handle the office today, how will we handle our customers today, how will my wife react if i reach back late from office, what if my kid doesn't passes the exams properly, what will happen if i don't get promotion next year, what will i do if my business doesn't grows. I have to do that, i have to this, so much of anxiety in the mind of upcoming days. To our surprise we never think of God in between anywhere. Only he comes to our mind when something goes wrong with us. Just to either complaint about what went wrong or to Pray him to make everything good in our lives.

Gratitude....We all are missing this in our lives, our parents and our ancestors did taught it but somehow this all is missing out as the world is changing at a rapid pace. We are living in "KALYUGA" and this the yuga which is worst among all, where everyone would be living a stress full live all together till we die and go into peace.

Only way to live peacefully in this world is through following path of "BHAKTI" (Prayers) and "LOVE FOR GOD" This is the only way to attain the peace in this world. People who find the dedication for the almighty and remain in his thoughts will always be happy and will always attain peace.

Thanks God Morning and evenings and keep thinking about him every moment instead of thinking of your worries. Worries will evaporate when we think of him.

Keep Smiling and Be Grateful with what you have........

Too Much Thoughts......

2021-08-21T22:45:00.000+05:30

Why do I think so much.................

This is the standard question which we all ask ourselves very often, its human tendency to think wherever we get a break to our mind. Even at times without getting a break too, mind keeps on working in the background even if you are working on something, even when we are sleeping. It always ticking and its very difficult to control it.

Most of our emotions are driven by the thoughts running in the background of our mind. we feel happy if the thoughts are positive, we feel sad if our thoughts in the background are negative. Mind runs faster than the speed of the light, within a second it can think continuously and simultaneously so many thoughts.

Most of the time when i drive the car, in the background my mind will start checking the emails which i read 3-4 days back and for which response is yet to be done, or it will start thinking about my parents well being if they are fine and what they would be doing or about 2-3 months ahead what is coming up or what i would be doing this weekend.

Even at times i had seen moments when music is running and my thoughts are somewhere else. It seems very difficult to concentrate on things which is going in your real life. Most of us are so deep diving within our sub conscious mind that we start hating our real lives.

The Only way out of these thoughts are positive energy, remain positive with saying to yourself that whatever happened, happened for good, whatever is happening for good and whatever will happen will happen for good. I know its not as easy as we think. We have lot of sync issues between our body, our mind and the real world. The person who is able to sync his mind and his body together can only be a saint or a holy person who has true believe in God and trust the almighty blindly without second thoughts.

I had seen various people online trying to teach about meditation but its not so easy to learn meditation. Its actually a beginners guide to sync his mind to the center of his eye and control all their thoughts to the center of the Eye and keep concentrating it. If you are reading this blog, just stop for few seconds and just it for a while..........

So what was the result?

Were you able to concentrate between your eyes?

Were there no thoughts while doing concentrating between the eyes?

I know the Answer but this question arises inside all of us why we are not able to do that.

Answer is there is so much going inside our mind that its so difficult to control your thoughts.

Why few people are not able to have sound and peaceful sleep?

Its because they keep thinking day and night and that all impact and deprive them from sleep. if a person is having sound and peaceful sleep, 6 hrs sleep is also sufficient and the people who are thinking day and night will be deprived of sleep as they will have their sleep only in bits and pieces resulting a huge impact on to their bodies, early ageing, you will not be able to concentrate on anything and resulting in to various other issues which includes Depression.

We all think that Depression is because of certain reasons of a persons with he or she is disturbed but its actually a virus which attacks your mind with various thoughts which gets difficult to control them and person feels to live alone with his thoughts doesn't like to open up and being in their own thoughts of sub conscious mind they lose their consciousness of real life and start living imaginary life with various thoughts of their future about money, their family about their loved ones and BLA BLA...............

Depression is at fast pace with youngsters too, reason is simple the are not able to cope up with huge pressure and expectations from them, they look for easy way around instead of working hard resulting into building pressures into their brain result is lack of focus and concentration and than suicidal instincts.

Upcoming generation is running away from natural process starting from waking early to sleeping early, they are just opposite sleeping late and waking up late. Thinking a lot and working very less. Physical activities are less and mental activities are more. We are trapped in a worldwide web of mobile, laptops and social world.

This is all is taking us to an imaginary world instead of real world. We love the imaginary world more than real world. This is real dangerous situation and we need to give break to this some day if we all don't want to be deprived of consciousness. We need to go back to natural process and meditation which our ancestors had taught the world and keep remembering God through the internal eyes and bring peace to all of us.

Stop Overexpecting.......

2019-07-06T15:02:00.001+05:30

We are in 21st Century and nearing to 22nd Century but as we are moving quickly from one century to another i guess there is one thing which is diminishing day by day that is patience.

I guess everything is going in a speed of 5G, just like internet, we have stopped enjoying the life instead speeding up to the next level of the game called Life.

All this is resulting in over expectations in everything, i think expectations are good as far as it under limits. Overexpecations will not only ruin us but also riun our upcoming generations. We need to start teaching the lesson of unforgetable word of patience to upcoming generation to bring peace to their minds.

Same lies with us and our families, daily we hear new stories on the newspaper on mass murders and suicides because of certain reasons. This is primarily due to resulting in impatient behaviour, overexpectations of the family from an Individual.

We need to learn the old moral stories where it was told that failure is a stepping stone for sucess, any sucess story comes in when we face failures in our life. Thats what patience is, you bounce back strongly after every failure but today due to impatient behaviour we loose our hope and start reacting on every failure and once we have a mjor failure, we loose our self confidence all together inview of the thought of failures resulting in depressions.

If we come to our professional life overexpecting the premature promotions, over expecting the hike of 20% every year. Its resulting into imbalance in to our life styles. Couple of years back promotions were based on the maturity, experience and attitude of the individuals to handle things which were not so often and which were to certain extent helped individual learn things from their experiences, however today instead of learning and experiencing things, for faster growths people rely on shortcuts or political nature to attain growth of self overexpectations. which not only hit their social life but also person peace.

Coming to our personal life where we have every thing today to ease us from the hard work, which was a luxury couple of years back. But now overexpectations had blown our minds so badly that even we have every luxury for ease our life we are still impatient about things we don't have and running behind them as it is a rat race. My neighourer had bought a new furniture, my friend had bought a new luxury car, my cousin is on overseas travel tour, my sister having a big house. All this is nothing but overexpectations and disturbing our today and tomorrow.

When we chat with any of our friends living in USA or any other country it seems they have such a luxury lives sitting in India checking their facebook or Instagram accounts. I had rarely seen people posting their bad day or their fearful experiences in that country on the social media. You will always find their selfies with a background which you always thought to visit, Social media had become like a place where you can make other people experience with negativity and jealousy of not being at the place where you are. Earlier people use to enjoy the place more and use to click their sorroundings more to keep them as a memory not like today we click selfies or pictures just to upload on the social media to get maximum likes or comments, also we don't get likes or comments again a over expectations started why people didn't liked my pictures.

Coming to kids education, we expect them to be super kids who can learn anything and everything with a shorter span, if they don't we put pressure on them to learn it quickly or we compare them with other kids who are smarter and faster then them. 99 percentile nothing less than that, every kid had a hidden talent, which needs nurturing as he or she moves in their lives. Better to focus on their talents instead of overexpecting from them and making them machines.

I guess everything is going over - over reactions, over manipulations, over expectations. We need to put break to these over expectations. Life is great, show gratitude, stop cribing, start living, start enjoying, we are blessed to be in this holy God's world in the form of Human beings. Let us be patient and stop overexpecting. Cherish your family, cherish your kids, cherish your friends whom you love and in stop expecting that every love you showed needs a return. Belive in God.........

New Day New start - New Challenge

2019-06-16T11:21:00.000+05:30

A new day a new start, new challanges. Don't stop, don't halt, Be ready for the next Challenge.

Don't say why now, say it bring it on. I am ready for my next challenge.

Keep handling new challenges as far as you will handle the new challenges you will learn new things which will be a new experience and this will help for your today and tomorrow.

Don't handle any new challenge as a burden, accept any new challenge as a learning, don't react for new challenges accept and execute. While taking new challenges don't think about obstacles, think about GOAL. if you think more about obstacles, mind will not allow us to move a inch, it will keep reacting to take the challenges. Think about Goal, thats how most of the sucessfull people had done in past, present. If they must have thought of obstacles, they must have stuck in the obstacles only.

Once you take a challenge it can be a sucess or a failure, but it really doesn't matters. Important is when you have taken the challenge, you have won your mind which is far most challenging that the outside challenge. Don't Stop taking challenges, it will bring confidence in you. Failures are also learnings.

Most of the time we fear to take a new path or new road during our travel because we don't want to fail. However we don't realize that there can be a sucess or better path on the new road or path as well. we have a mindset which doesn't allow us to take a new path. Thats why we become Rigid & Stop taking new challenges.

We need to be more flexible and be ready for any challenge thrown to us as Life is challenging and one who can accept any challenge thrown to him, Sucess will come to his life.

Who went to become sucessful, who ran against the wind. There are people working with the old ways, bring change inyourelf and adapt to changes and challenge yourself each day.

Keep watch on Time

2019-06-09T22:46:00.000+05:30

This weekend i went to watch shop to mend my couple of old watches and get them back on track with current time. Watch shops are having poor time these days since mobile phones have come or may be you can say, the new era of digitalization had come, even watches are also now e-watches which can track our sleep, our steps, our blood circulations. Even works as assistant to us reminding all important activities which we need to do for the day.

I was just talking to this horologist, who was saying old watch manufacturers are out of market and whose ever are left are pretty expensive because they are meant for matching the style and fashion of today.

As he repaired my watch and handed over back to me, i told him its showing the date as 9th Jun, whereas it is 8th Jun. The reply which the horologist gave me was awaful - he told me sir, you running out of time, catch it as you had missed a day, Today is 9th Jun'19.

While coming back to home i realized the real meaning of the words said by the horologist. It was a real truth. Time flies and we even don't realize it, it is ticking second by second, minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day, week by week, month by month, year by year. Nobody was able to keep hold of it, only best thing what people had done is keep watch on their time to ensure they are not behind and running along with the time.

We are hearing the story about time gone never comes back but we realize it only when we get old and find what have we earned all this life running around the circles. There are few people who loves to be in past remembering the old times and memories are stuck, there are few people who are ahead of time who are always thinking of future, however there are very few who are walking along with the time but whosoever is walking in the present is a successful person as he know whatever had happened in past can't be changed, whatever is going to happen in future can't be controlled. So the best thing is Live in present and enjoy it at most.

Most Important part which i realized that why people use to wear wrist watches that was not to be some fashion trend or some gadgets, It was one of the important tool and discovery of human beings which helps us to track our present and keep reminding us to keep watching and ensuring we are on Track with the Present.

My Favourite -A Story of a Frog

2019-06-08T21:44:00.002+05:30

When i was kid, i had been born and bought up where my parents were very much linked with the Spritual Gurus, Every Sunday was dedicated for the same where we use to learn something new about the iinerself and outer world.
Being a child we use to feel pretty bored with such ritual of spritual lessons, however now i realise how important were those lessons and how it impacts our though process in the real outer world and helps our bring peace to our inner world.

I guess my favourite preachers during this spritual journey were those who use to guide the sprituality in a form of story, because thats how we understand quickly.

So there is one of the story which i remeber since than and will always remember it.

A story of a Frog.

Once upon a time there was a Frog, who used live in well, which was older than the age of frog. Frog had never been out of that well, neither in his thoughts or dreams did he ever felt of going out of that well. he was pretty happy where he was living from years.

One day a pasing traveller was passing through that well and came across this well to drink water, He say this frog and asked him, hello Mr. Frog how r u doing. Frog replied - I am doing good. Traveller asked, its pretty awesome outside this well, have you ever seen the beauty beyond this well. Frog replied - No i don't know how does it look beyond this well. Are you sure it is beautiful outside this well. I had never been outside this well, neither i had thought of coming out of this well ever.

Traveller asked him, would you like to see the world beyond this well, i will help you and give you rope to come out of this well. Frog went in deep thought and was in confused state as there was lot things going on his mind, how would be the outside world, what if i come outside and some animal creature come and eat me or may i get killed by human beings. Atleast living in this well I am safe and i love this well, this is my home.

Frog asked traveller - why should i come outside, i am pretty much happy in this well, this is my home and what should i be doing in the outside world. It is of no use to me. Traveller said to frog - Mr. Frog i guess you had never been outside this well thats why you are not aware of the beauty of this world beyond this well. But once you come outside of this well, than only you will be able to see the difference inside this well and outside this well. I am insisting you that i will help you to see the world outside this well, don't fear. I will take care of you, the only thing you need to do is to hold the rope and i will pull you up. It would be easy way out.

Frog was so attached with that well and had fear of coming out of that well, that he refused and asked traveller to go ahead with his travel as he is not intrested anymore to come out of the well.

In Spritual terms Summary of the story - This frog is none that we Human being, Traveller is God or Spritual Guru who try to help us to see the inner world which is beyond the outer world but we are so attached with the outside world that we don't feel seeing the world much beutiful inside us. God is so kind to us to give us spritual lessons in a form of rope with which we can easily come out of the outside world to inside world but we don't feel even doing the hold the rope

In Real Life terms Summary of the story - We know that we are living with wrong preceptions to certain things, still being wrong we don't tend to change ourselves and our preceptions because of our deep attachments with those preceptions. We love to remain being a frog in this world with those wrong preceptions, even if someone come and guide us we don't want to change.

Feeling of Fear.......

2019-06-02T22:44:00.000+05:30

Fear is feeling just like happiness, sadness only difference is when you feel fear, mind starts bringing up every possible negative thoughts in our brain. These thoughts creates confusion, within seconds or minutes we get close to thousands things in our mind about something bad is going to happen.

Just example - when we drive to office, if we are stuck in the traffic, you mind will start throwing all posible questions to you......How will my boss will react if got late, how would my subordinates will feel if got late, there are so many emails which i need to respond will get delayed. what if this traffic continued for 2-3 hours or more. Mind will ask all questions possible & will make you so confused that you will start feeling a kind of fear.

We all are aware what happens when we are under that feeling of fear, our mind doesn't concentrate on the work we are trying to do and mind will behold doing whatever way it can. we come under the trap of our mind and your heart will start pumping heavily, mind would get block in this confused state. When you are in fear, you abdoben will also react in that way, where you will either start feel thirsty or hungry, slowly slowly this fear takes us to the next level impacting our body. Our shoulders will shrug automatically in this fear, face becomes pale, hearing capability reduces due to concerntration.

Some people have this frequency very frequently, some have do have but not so frequently. The people who are prone to this trap of mind on frequent basis get depressed sooner or later because of this fear factor. They have fear of loosing freinds, loosing family members and they trust level also reduces a lot, there confidence levels reduces. This is extreme cases only but this is how they become with just feeling of fear taking seriously into their lives.

Now question appears, what should we do in such situations where mind traps us in the feeling of fear. If any one had seen Hindi Bolywood Movie - 3 Idiots, where actor Aamir Khan says to his friends - "All is well" and clarifies it what does it means with a Story of watchman, who use to say these words every night while taking guard of the streets during night time in order to control emotions of our minds that everything is fine nothing to worry, in a similar manner, the only way to control your mind before it takes control is to make it fool by saying everything is fine and divert those thoughts.

If you follow spritual persons, they can control their minds through meditaiton which is little rigrous way of doing but therapy is very clear calming down your mind removes feeling of fear from your inside. If we start practising meditation for half an hour after we wake up will bring lot of calmness to us. Practising it regularly will help us healing our minds. It is one of best medicene to heal your mind.

Keep regular check on your water intake, more you take better it keeps your mind cool, as you must have lot of people saying - Chill down, take some water.

Music is another wayof healing if it helps to divert your thoughts....Only way which i presonally feel is let yourself free from everything, every boundaries, every bad or negative thoughts just feel free.

At last if nothing works than remember God and his teachings. I always remember whats said in holy book - "Gita".

There is another beautiful poem i always remeber written by the greatest poets of India, Ravindranath Tagore -

Mental Stability

2019-06-01T12:41:00.001+05:30

Back after 4 years on this blog.......................................

I had been working on myself for last couple of years to bring mental stability. In coming years i feel most of the people would be mentally ill, bceause of the current generations involvement with Mobiles, laptops, televisions and artifical ways of living life.

We have forget our core way of living life, coming kids are more interested in playing online rather than on the playgrounds. I am not against the new generation toys of mobile instruments, however i feel overeusing them making us more dependent on them. We wake up with them on our hands, we sleep with them on our hands. If you check out of 24 hours most of us are using mobiles close to 9-10 hours a day and at times continously for 3 hours. Such kind of conditions are making us sleep deprived, depressed, also hunger deprived.

Living at high speed internet age is a reward for our generation, but if not handled properly brings lot of virus along, what all viruses it brings -
Virus of gettting too much involved will end up huge expectations, we click pictures now for not our satisfaction but for social networking sites.
Virus of feeling sad if some of your friends are posting lot of overseas pictures making you jealous that life is easy for them and hard for you. without thinking the challenges of their lives.
Virus of overthinking about anything and everything - good or bad, resulting in mental unstability of decision making.
Virus of not spending time with yourself, virus of not doing anything creative without help of mobile.

I think life is more about mental stability living withing these modern toys, how can that we achieve, here are few tips:

Wake-up early
Spend time with Nature - Trees, plants, greenery, this will not only heal your mind but also bring peace to your heart.
Do regular excercise to increase your mental strength as well physical strength.
Write about thoughts in your mind, specially in early morning hours which will help you to think and evaluate your inner-self. (Specially writing with pen on a notebook)
Getting involved with art, music or dance. These are very important aspects of our other side of mind which brings stability of achieving things which we always wished to do.
You may face failures in life don't over expect things, take them positvely.
You will face bad relationships in life, don't over expect them. Keep moving in your life without expecting.
Eat healthy, don't eat anything and everything.
Most important of all, remembering God and spending time with God. Not necessary to go to temple for that. Most of Gurus had said it very clearly. God is within us, its all about connectivity. The day you get connected to your innerself, you will meet God within you.

This will bring mental stability and calmness to your mind, practise it regularly.

Social Evil.............Old....Older and Oldest .............The Big Dowry System................

2014-09-20T16:47:00.000+05:30

I got an Idea to write about this subject after going through various articles on Hindustan Times and various sufferers of this social evil.

Getting back to our Education system in India, i do very well remember my school days when we use to have several debates and essay competitions on the subject of Dowry system....But question arises.....is that learning is only for earning points and grades, Where our parents or gurdians portait and help us with writing this essay or debates. Is this learning is not what is expected out of us....to get rid of this social evil.

This social evil is not new for India and is as old as our grand and grand parents.....Coming along with each generations of generations....Question arises which generation is going to put a complete full stop. In India its not been treated as social evil but as a social or relegious traditions, which at times are even linked with the Indian Gods.

At times i feel so pity that are we not even competent or capable that we have to be dependened on parents in law for the such small things like TV, Refrigerators, Washing Machine, Air conditioner, Car, Furniture and even utencils. In India at one place we consider the daughter in laws as Godess Laxmi. In fact it is saying in India that with the blessings of Godess Laxmi your house will be filled with loads of wealth and precious gifts. At another place we Indians treat our daughter in laws (who are considered as Godess Laxmi) in ill treated manner just for the sake of dowry. There are so many cases in India piled up in the courts of Stove of cylinder bursting, which is nothing but fuel of this social evil which has bursted the minds and our souls.

Other day my office collegues were discussing this subject on the lunch table and i was surprised to listen what they discussed. India we proudly own ourselves as Indian, where we have so many religions, languages, communities but suprisingly every religion and every community does follow this social evil. One of my collegues was updating us that dowry is more prominent among North Indians - specially Punjabi families where each family expect marraige as a course of business where the deal of marriage will bring lot of money, gold and other gifts to each family member.
Another collegue who is Gupta prodouly said that our community is much better in that respect, before marraige we make an agreement and discuss the budget with the girls family. If girls family agrees than only we go ahead with the marraige proposals. One of my other collegue declared that South Indians are not behind they demand everything in Gold.

The upcoming Generation, this is the time to bring change, this change can only be bought by you people and none other. You are independent, you are brave, you have voice.......bring that out......bring the happiness to the society by killing this social evil.........
Boys are strong and confident engough to refuse for accepting any kind of demands as Dowry.
Girls are confident and independent to take stand and refuse for any kind of demands as Dowry.

Evolution of human beings- childhood.....Adult......Old Age....

2013-09-24T17:44:00.001+05:30

I still recall those childhood days when we were kids with no worries no tensions of the real lives......I wish i can go back to that period which is golden period of our lives.

Being a child we all dream about our future about being independent about being flying like a kite.......we feel dependent on teachers, parents for everything we do.......we dream for the day when we can do everything and anything of our own choices.......

Now we are adult we are in real lives, most of us married and few of us have even kids as well. The life is completely filled with responsibilities, we are completely independent but does that is what we were looking for.......perhaps not, we are in the situation where people are dependent on us.......Our parents, wife, kids.......we are independent but still dependent on our boundaries..........

Now slowly and steadily your focus would be to earn more to invest for your old age and for the future of your kids.............Focus is all around on how to complete all key achievements of buying a new home, savings for new car, savings for new investments.

Sometimes on your free times, you may still idle and think about your old childhood days...you may feel to go back to the school days........where you were free of all these responsibilities.......you were more focused on enjoying with friends....playing outdoors and indoors.....
Now all your friends are busy with their lives,, with their families........you may be socializing them on either Facebook, Twitter or Whatsapp........rather than socializing by visiting each other New generation........new choices................

Sooner or later we would be getting old........all we would left with again a complete dependency on our kids........who may or may not take care of us at that time.......You will feel again like a child where you don't have choices to opt for. All your eating habits and diets would be controlled by your Doctors.....Your kids would either be away from you and you would be completely alone thinking about them with passing of the time..........

I believe we as human being have changed the evolution of our lives.........we need to bring balance to our lives.........we need to bring childhood into our lives, we need to bring our friends back in to our lives....we need to bring love and care for our parents and grand parents into our lives.........
We need to bring back humanity back to our lives.........

Summer Holidays........

2013-09-20T16:26:00.003+05:30

Holidays Holidays.............Summer holidays........

Lets run, lets fun..........hip hip huray its summer holidays......

No Early wake-ups......no running behind the school bus....

No Tests.......no punishments......hip hip huray its summer holidays......

Just Chill & fun..........with friends all around............

Full time games........indoor and outdoor....hip hip huray its summer holidays......

Painting, dancing, swimming........all my hobbies will come alive

Lets run, lets fun..........hip hip huray its summer holidays......

Sighting, dreaming ...........mountains & beaches.........

Mom, pop, brother and sister.....its time to get together.........hip hip huray its summer holidays......

No hurry.......no worry.......homework is so sweet and honey..........

Mom is relaxing, pop is relaxing.......hip hip huray its summer holidays......

Bird Watching......................

2013-06-12T17:24:00.001+05:30

Last Sunday when i was gazing around my balcony, i was surprise to see little sparrows around an earthen pot which we had kept to feed water to the birds........

It gives me and my wife immense happiness and joyful feeling when we see those birds coming to drink water from that pot. when they drink water from their tiny mandible.

So many different birds coming on our balcony includes sparrows, pigeons and parrots.

Every bird is so unique in their appearances, most of the birds i saw drinking water were sparrows, different variety of sparrows. They seems so naughty with each other, they come in the groups of two or three not sure weather male or female. Its very easy for them to hang around anywhere on the balcony, at times on telephone wires, at times on the windows at times on the AC cabinet.

For some birds they find their landing difficult on to the balcony due to their weight. I remember last summer a group of pigeons came to drink the water on the pots and it got tilted on the direction where pigeon sat and pot fall on the ground. Pigeons are so innocent birds before drinking the water they would see right than left than right than left and will drink small amount of water and than again will see right, left. Just to see if there is no one around.

Couple of years back i remember Peacock on my balcony spreading her beautiful feathers, couple of them dancing on the terrace. It was so beautiful to see them, one of the rarest sites you can imagine live at your home. People pay to see them in the zoo.

Gurgaon is becoming one of the highly spreading hi-tech city in India, i am not sure if in coming times we will be able to conserve these birds and our nature for future. We need to teach our coming generations to conserve birds and nature by nurturing and loving them as much as they can. Please circulate this message to all your near and dears.

CONSERVE NATURE AND ITS BEAUTY

Lazy go crazy........

2013-04-21T21:19:00.001+05:30

Finally I had found way to write my blog through my tab, it looks as simple as writing through your PC or Laptop.....just downloaded Google blogger...

Lets come back to my new blog subject tag Lazy go Crazy......

You know today we see lot of electronic mechanical devices around us.....we are living in 21st century where modern technology had changed the idea of living.....

May be some people may agree or may not agree with my next remarks....
Long back when the human beings came into existence, they changed a lot as compared to other creatures or animals around.....some people say that this was because of sharp brains inside human body...which is very true and scientifically proven.....

Do you know how Engineers and engineering came into existence? Being sharpest of all existing creatures, human beings were also among the laziest, they had always looked for the options which are shortest, fastest and easiest of all.....This is where greatest engineers were born and discovered....
How engineers were discovered from the bunch of the people, the test at that time to become an engineer was not as tough as it is these days......it would be like the person who is not at all a hard worker, the one who used to be laziest of the bunch and would have craziest ideas in his mind were declared as engineers, they were given the task to convert there ideas into reality and they were provided with full resource of hardworking people and money.......

This is how engineers changed the world and brought revolution in the world and now we can see the entire world with just a click of our touch screens......not only world but in fact the entire universe......

So never underestimate the laziest person among us, they are actually the craziest creatures or you can say engineers who are making difference to the world....

Some time ago, Bill Gates himself said that when I had to develop most difficult programming jobs, I always pick the laziest one of the bunch as they are the one who can develop any kind of program with shortest time and with easiest and effort less ways...

That's why when a Lazy go Crazy, world will change......

Change your routine.......

2013-04-12T17:20:00.001+05:30

Today i reached home early than routine weekdays and i was feeling little surprised how this had happened...Any how i am back from office early but now what?

I just started recapturing my day starting from when i waked up at 7am in the morning till i go for sleep.
7:00hrs - Wake up
8:30hrs - Breakfast
9:00hrs - Ready to go to office.
10:00hrs-Routine office work
13:30hrs- Lunch
15:00hrs- Tea Time
19:00hrs- Wrapping things up to move home.
20:00hrs - Reach back home
21:00hrs - Dinner
23:00hrs - Go for sleep

Most of my weekdays are just like this....no major changes, life has become so stagnant. Mind, thoughts and physical appearance same for all weekdays. There are so many things we want to do but we hardly do:
- Wanted to hit GYM but hardly able to do.
- Wanted to cook and eat something different but we end up eating outside at some restaurants.
- Wanted to read books but we make ourselves so busy with watching soap operas on our television sets.
- Do you remember when did you last saw the sun rise while you were on your morning walk.
- Do you remember when did you last played any indoor or outdoor games with your family.
- Do you remember that if you had ever left your mobiles/ laptops/ tabs at peace.
- Invited your friends along with their families to enjoy and have fun..
- Do you remember when did you picked up a comic book to have some fun reading.

Life is not about sleeping and working but it is also about saving some time between your work and sleep.

Feel The Colors.............

2013-02-15T18:14:00.000+05:30

Red has more personal associations than any other color. Recognized as a stimulant red is inherently exciting and the amount of red is directly related to the level of energy perceived. Red draws attention and a keen use of red as an accent can immediately focus attention on a particular element, so it is associated with energy, war, danger, strength, power, determination as well as passion, desire, and love.

Pink signifies romance, love, and friendship. It denotes feminine qualities and passiveness.

Brown says stability, reliability, and approach-ability. It is the color of our earth and is associated with all things natural or organic. suggests stability and denotes masculine qualities.

Orange, a close relative of red, sparks more controversy than any other hue. There is usually strong positive or negative association to orange and true orange generally elicits a stronger "love it" or "hate it" response than other colors. Fun and flamboyant orange radiates warmth and energy. Interestingly, some of the tones of orange such as terracotta, peach or rust have very broad appeal. Orange represents enthusiasm, fascination, happiness, creativity, determination, attraction, success, encouragement, and stimulation.

Blue is the overwhelming "favorite color." Blue is seen as trustworthy, dependable and committed. The color of sky and the ocean, blue is perceived as a constant in our lives. As the collective color of the spirit, it invokes rest and can cause the body to produce chemicals that are calming; however not all blues are serene and sedate. Electric or brilliant blues become dynamic and dramatic, an engaging color that expresses exhilaration.

Green occupies more space in the spectrum visible to the human eye and is second only to blue as a favorite color. Green is the pervasive color in the natural world that is an ideal backdrop in interior design because we are so used to seeing it everywhere. It is Soothing, Relaxing mentally as well as physically, Helps alleviate depression, nervousness and anxiety, Offers a sense of renewal, self-control and harmony.

Purple embodies the balance of red simulation and blue calm. This dichotomy can cause unrest or uneasiness unless the undertone is clearly defined at which point the purple takes on the characteristics of its undertone. A sense of mystic and royal qualities, purple is a color often well liked by very creative or eccentric types and is the favorite color of adolescent girls.

Yellow shines with optimism, enlightenment, and happiness. Shades of golden yellow carry the promise of a positive future. Yellow will advance from surrounding colors and instill optimism and energy, as well as spark creative thoughts.

White projects purity, cleanliness, and neutrality. Doctors don white coats, brides traditionally were white gowns and a white picket fence surrounds a safe and happy home. aids mental clarity, encourages us to clear clutter or obstacles, evokes purification of thoughts or actions, enables fresh beginnings.

Black is authoritative and powerful; because black can evoke strong emotions too much can be overwhelming. A classic color for clothing possibly because it makes the wearer appear thinner and more sophisticated. Suggest feeling inconspicuous, a restful emptiness, mysterious evoking a sense of potential and possibility.

A Human Killing A Human Around.....

2013-01-25T18:20:00.000+05:30

Its so sad a human killing a human in its sourround,

like a butcher killing birds and animals around.

Rapist, burglers, theives, dacoits all in-human words,

so common that you see them in news all around.

Terror has a new name, raping girls and womens is their mind.

scary are now day and night, safety is not been found.

No body cares no body shout, its a jungle of evils around.

Trust is loosing sound and faith is not being found.

Its so sad a human killing a human in its sourround,

like a butcher killing birds and animals around.

where do we go, where do we fight.

Every where we find them in our sight.

Delhi is capital of India you are right.

Welcome to India, its a sight.

Let us rise, let us unite, let us oath.

To put full stop, crimes of any kind.

Its so sad a human killing a human in its sourround,

like a butcher killing birds and animals around.

To Every Action There Is Equal And Opposite Reaction

2013-01-22T18:39:00.001+05:30

All of us have read Newton's Third law of Motion:

"To every action there is equal and opposite reaction."

Couple of days back, we had a trainning session on Effective Managerial Skills. There is key important learning which i had from this trainning programme that is stop reacting, although at times i am unable to control my reactions on certain occasions.

My personal observations, being young we are comfortable in taking targets, doing things differently, accepting new challenges. In fact our mind our body is so flexible in accepting any kind of actions.

As we get older, experienced, our mind, our body starts generating reactions. Like if i ask some help from one of my experienced collegue, the immdieate reactions would be:
I am busy please talk to me later. (which is still fine).
Please dont disturb me.
What do you want?
I don't know abou this?
There are other people who are free why don't you contact them.
I am already having so much work, i can't do this.

More or less, in 95% cases people would not even listen to the other person and would start reacting. This reaction is nothing but a mindset which is predefined to any kind of action.

Why such reactions? why we change from active to reactive?

Mostly these changes are due to change in our physical and mental changes, with the passage of time and age our arrogance, ego, attitude enhances which makes us superior to less experienced and younger age groups than us. This directly affects our active nature to reactive nature, we become defensive instead of progressive.

Why such reactions with change in age and experience?
Majorly beacuse we beome less target oriented and love to be in a comfortable zones. Therefore whenever we have tasks infront of us we hesitate to accept and fullfill them.

How to get back on track of active performer?
One can be an active performer if one has enthusiasm, energy and attitude for take new challenges. One can never get older if he keep on accepting challenges all through their lives.

So what are your waiting for?

Grow Old with Someone you Love..............

2012-12-21T12:24:00.004+05:30

My hair had gone grey, my eyes had gone weak. I am nearing onto my 70's, my old habits of late rising from sleep had changed. Now me and my wife had turned early risers. We are back from our morning walk.

With a cup of tea, i am reading the newspaper headlines. Nothing much had changed politically in India all through these years. Priyanka Gandhi's son is on the verge to be the next prime minister of India, Kejriwal's son is still fighting against corruption. Lets put end to these newspaper stories here.

Nikki (My Wife) is busy with her early morning Yoga session, she had turned 68 years old but still managed to looks 15 yrs younger than her age. I am gazing her my double lenses, its almost 40years of our togetherness and still it seems that we had just got married yesterday.

Nikki raises her eyebrows from the corner and asks me whats in the breakfast honey? I distract myself and pretend that i had not heard her words. She speaks more louder with adding - "You promised me before marriage that you will cook on weekends and holidays, now you are full time on holiday cook something fresh and healthy for me."

Technology had changed now with just a click of the touch you can select for the menu & recipe. With another touch robotic technology will cook the food opted by you....I wish old days were better where you cook your food by your own as it reflected the love & passion of cooking for your loved ones.

My first love for country music is still alive & i love listening that in the background, Nikki hates my music numbers thats why she prefers listening to her dance numbers with her ear phones. We both are very different from each other, our likes, dislikes are pretty different but it doesn't stop us living together, we both miss each other a lot when we are not together. I occasionally gift her with white roses (her favorite), whenever she gets annoyed or angry on me. I am pretty smart here to defend myself at any likely situations.

We still keep fighting on little little things, we still cry & laugh as we used to do in past. I still don't like to watch TV & seeing soap operas with her, i still had to watch her live drama's & bear with it. She too don't like my PJ (pakao Jokes) but still had to bear that because i can't control. We love each other so much that we are use to it now........

If you have somebody to love you,
if you have somebody to care you,
What else you may need more from this Life!
Life is short enough but still big to live with Grudges.
Just learn to give & forgive, give & forgive.
You will found True love of your life...
Happiness & sorrow are part of the life,
Living & loving each other during those moments
is what a True love of your life.

Rainy Rainy day and night

2012-07-07T13:46:00.000+05:30

Rainy Rainy day and night..........
Clouds and drizzles all around...

Happiness in the each drop...
Falling from the high above......

Rainy Rainy day and night...
Cooling people all around...

Nourishing the crops and fields...
bringing the farms back to life....

Rainy Rainy day and night....
Birds are flying all around....

Sun has gone and clouds are on...
Pouring heavily in the dawn...

Rainy Rainy day and night
cheering people all around....

Its time for love and joy...
Sing and dance a loud a loud......

Rainy Rainy day and night
I am dancing all around...........

Everyday i wake up with a thought

2012-06-21T15:40:00.001+05:30

Everyday i wake up with a thought to transform myself,

And by end of the day i am unable to change myself.

Everyday i wake up with a thought to bring happiness to my family,

And by end of the day, i even forget to give them a smile.

Everyday i wake up with a thought to call all my old friends,

And by end of the day, i don't find time to even remember them.

Everyday i wake up with a thought to go for a long drive with my sweetheart,

And by end of the day, i end up reaching late night at home.

Everyday i wake up with a thought to read new books and new authors,

And by end of the day, i end up scrolling my official emails.

Everyday i wake up with a thought to bring innovation to my life.

And by end of the day, i end up searching the dictionary for what innovation is!

Everyday i wake up with a thought that some day i will be successful,

And i will not let my day end, until my thoughts are accomplished.

Oh Such a Beautiful Morning

2012-06-18T12:39:00.000+05:30

Oh such a beautiful morning with mist and moisture in the surroundings,

fresh air trying to remove my blanket and asking me to feel the nature...

Oh such a beautiful morning with mountains on my backyard and river on my gate.

Tree leaves and branches waving asking to feel the joy and happiness that's in the air.

Oh such a beautiful morning with russet sparrows, red-billed blue magpies and rosy minivets..

chanting just as different sounds produced on a guitar by vibrating strings of varying length & tension.

Oh such a beautiful morning with milkman, busy with his cattle: cows, buffaloes and goats

Milking out the fresh milk to feed people in towns and cities to make a healthier tomorrow.

Oh such a beautiful morning with Lord Sun rising slowly from the eastern mountains,

Diminishing the darkness and brightening our lives with re-filling hopes, ideas and energy.

Oh such a beautiful morning with soothing sounds of Aarti's at Temple and Gurbanis at Gurdwara's.

People are taking the blessings and Prasad from the priests to start their day with holy blessings.

Nature from the birds eye...............

2012-06-13T13:14:00.003+05:30

I am flying on the blue sky like
a kite on the high.....
It looks so beautiful for the eye...
unending land all around.....
Rivers look like silver ribbons
Tied to the earth like a beautiful gift.
Trees looks like green covered bed-sheet..
Giving oxygen into the air....
Mountains looks like snow covered huts.
Shielding from the cold winds..
Farms look like green & orange patches
filling the colors in the barren fields.
Cattles look like ants & insects
in different Avatars & colors.
Desserts look like Orange sea
& camels look like rare fishes in this ocean.
Oh i forget about Sun, which looks like
orange light warming & brightening the world with its heat.
Moon which looks like Tube in the black night
giving the peace to sleep calmly.

Why? When? How??????

2012-02-23T23:50:00.000+05:30

WHY?

I am having so many things which i want to write but i am unable to write & question arises why????????

There is so much we want to do in our lives but we are unable to do why?????

Life Changes after marriage but why???

Time runs so fast but why????

Heart beat goes fast.......when you love somebody but why?????

Kids are so innocent but why????

Unending why's.................i remember being kid we use to ask so many questions to our parents or our guests or our teachers who get irritated with our frequents why's????

Actual fact is that some people ask why to increase there general knowledge & correct their understanding about anything & everything, whereas few people ask why to divert the communications. I personally feel - asking why is not a bad idea specially if you don't have proper knowledge of the subject or the respective communication than why to hesitate. Open up & ask loudly why???

WHEN?

It might be easy to answer why but its never so easy to answer when????

When i will grow bigger???

When i will get a job??

when i will fall in love????

When i will get married?

When i will have my own house???

When i will have peace of mind????

Often we're pressured to make decisions before we're ready, or we take too long because we feel we're not. Setting a time for important decision-making can solve both problems by providing time to think and a time when you have to decide. Important is HOW? & answers for WHEN will automatically come.

HOW?

You must had observed being a kid we had rarely thought of questions like how?

When our mind starts maturing questions start coming in our minds How?

How should i complete my homework?

How should we can win this match?

How should we can get a good job?

How should i work hard?

How should i earn more money to buy a house?

There are so many answers which rotate around our mind when we ask this question How???? try doing this wonderful exercise & practice it, you would find lot of difference. Your confidence level will increase to an heights. How is nothing but an brain storming exercise...... to know the answers by yourselves.

Life after marriage...........

2011-10-30T18:40:00.002+05:30

Hey Friends writing this blog almost after 10months.......here i am back with bang........

I would be completing 6months of my married life...................
So how is life after marriage??? that's what everybody see on our faces...........

Changes after marriage:

Boy becomes a Man & a Women becomes a Girl!!!!!!!!!!!
Boy works hard to earn more & girl relaxes as much as she can.
Boys favorite past time at home is cooking & girls favorite past time watching television.
Boys become soft toys who have to smile at every occasion whereas girls become Army Colonel ruling the home.
Boys need permission for spending single penny out of their purse whereas girls have full access to your purse...............
Boys friends after marriage hardly any....& girls friends after marriage both her friends & her husband's friends............
Boys best holiday's after marriage....when her wife is not at home, Girls best holiday's when she is at partying with her friends...........

Are you mad i didn't said anything like what is written above.........those are not my thoughts..........yeh to Anshu bhaiya ke comments hain..............here comes my personal thoughts:

While every union is unique, there are certain phases that most marriages go through. Each has the potential to either help a couple's relationship grow closer and more solid, or to pull it apart. What's important to keep in mind is that there is no perfect marriage and no relationship without conflict.

The First Year of Marriage begins with a period of excitement. Negative feelings are swept aside by the optimism of both partners as they begin to share a future. These positive feelings help a couple face the often daunting issues of the first year. Money - who handles it and how it's allocated - is a key issue for many couples. Time apart versus time together, division of household responsibilities, even who controls the television remote, are among the issues couples must begin to hammer out.

In short its sweet lovely 6months which i had spend with my wife & i hope this will continue all through our lives, because hope pe to duniya kayam hai..............hehehehehe.........Don't tell my wife about this blog.......else no dinner for today.............