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Reflecting on Now

2017-06-10T20:01:00.001-04:00

Journal Date: June 6, 2017

So imagine that you cannot turn off your thoughts. In my mind, my memories are like pieces to a puzzle. Some of them fit and some of them do not. At times, when I try to relax my mind, it can be difficult. Nothing seems to work. As I reflect, I realize there are a few things that I still wish to accomplish in the near future.

What is it that I actually remember that is accurate about my life? Well, for one, I have not accomplished all there is and that I have set out to do. Motherhood is one, everything else seems to be a blur. Yet, I acknowledge there have been small wins along the way. Add in a few degrees and what else? Hmm-mm, nothing seems to come to mind right away.

Come to think of it, I have read more books to keep my mind occupied. In fact, once I decide to do something else, I am sure I will make headway to get it done. As of right now, its just reading, reading and more reading. Oh and also prayer. Prayer has become part of my routine. I've learned prayer keeps me focused. I've learned that prayer is essential. So, I have decided to pray and see what happens. I did find that prayer is refueling too. As a matter of fact, prayer is exactly what I needed to refuel my being. I really found prayer to be helpful. Those life crisis are not as prominent when you pray. Prayer will help you decide what to keep for now and table for later. I got to go ya'll, I need to figure out what it is I want to create for myself in the next few months.

Until next time,

Lavilada

Update !

2017-06-07T13:15:00.000-04:00

Journal Date: May 21, 2017

Systemic:

Relating to the good ole fashion system of the game never changes -just the players. It is the ultimate institution of systemic thinking that hinders the most intelligent individual. Thinking patterns are related to character development.

It's one of the few things you realize in this journey of life. I've realized a lot in these past few years. One of them being the unshakable ability to make a decision. It is a very important step. To make a decision is the first step to becoming an independent thinker. Decision making is a threat in many ways. A decision-maker is a critical thinker. A thinker whose identity is deliberately crafted in the choices he or she makes. It is an identity that forms the characteristics of an individual. A decision maker-one who is able to determine right from left or left to right, up or down and down to up. A decision-maker uses her or his ability to understand the circumstance as a whole.

Who is the decision-maker in your life? Is it the thing you submit to or an action you decide to do or not to do? A decision-maker is a powerful person.

He who chooses to make decisions for himself will find absolution!

-Lavilada

On The Way to Good Health

2017-05-06T13:06:00.000-04:00

Journal Date: May 6. 2017

Did you know that good health comes at a cost? One way to obtain better health is by drinking water daily. I learned that a gallon of water a day will help you lose weight. Yes, it's true!! At least a pound, if not a few inches in a week.

Fortunately, I discovered that water is essential to the proper function of the body. And here we thought that drinking large amounts of water was a hoax. I did think it was too good to be true, but drinking water can make you healthier.

To look good as most people you have to understand how your body works and work at it. It is as simple as that! To begin your journey to good health you can start by drinking as much water as you can to avoid dehydration and fatigue. Learn how your body reacts to the amount of water you consume.

Happy Drinking- Water that Is....

Until Next Time,

Lavilada

LEARN TECH!

2017-04-27T21:38:00.002-04:00

Journal Date: April 27, 2017

Learning is essential. I have decided to learn more about technology. It's not as easy as everyone thinks. For me to become more techie driven in the ever-changing world of social media presents a challenge, to say the least.

Amidst the world of technology. I have begun to read self-help books to learn the fundamentals of tech. Technology influences everyday life. From the mobile phone, cars to kitchen appliances. Even Steve Jobs knew technology alone was not enough technology has to be interactive.

Now, Artificial Intelligence (AI) the imminent forward projection of technology will change life expectations in how consumers interact with technology. The Harvard Business Review discuss said changes and the impact such changes will have on conventional innovation. And so it begins, technology transformations. The end of traditional businesses, the so-called enhancement of new world processes where technology eliminates excess.

Until next time,

Lavilada

HUMBLE WHAT?

2017-04-23T12:27:00.004-04:00

Journal Date: April 23, 2017

What does it mean to be humble? Why is it important to be humble? Humbleness brings a sink of lowness to the thought in people. It is difficult for people to obtain the idea of humbleness.

Why, because people associate humbleness with a low status in life. When in actuality humbleness is needed for everyone to see eye-level.

When you are able to see at eye-level, you never put anything hire than the next. Humbleness allows you to see a situation for what it is and everyone for who they are. People who refuse to be humble often struggle with being content. It's because of the inability to be content messes with your inner spirit of I don'ts.

Then I don't have what everyone else have or I don't want the like-mindedness of a poor person. Which are a few of society standards?

The biblical adage to keep you in perfect peace is the principle of loving thy neighbor as you love thyself.

Humbleness is an action that infiltrates everyone regardless of levels in wealth or academia.
No one leaves this earth differently in the sense of death we all will leave the same way. In nothing but the state of releasing the spirit from the physical body. We all exit by dying.

Humbleness should be a way of life. Practice humbleness!

-Lavilada

Drink Water

2017-04-21T19:37:00.001-04:00

Journal Date: April 21, 2017

You may have heard so many times that drinking water is essential to staying healthy. But, why?

Do you really know why it is important to drink water? Did you know that if you drink at least a gallon of water a day it will keep you regular? A gallon of water actually flushes out the system.
When I say the system, I mean body. My bowels stayed regular from drinking gallons of water.

As someone with gastric issues, water benefits me in multiple ways. I am not as tired. I lost a few inches and some weight. Water is intrinsic to my life. In all our life. Now, it's a staple of my day-to-day routine.

Becoming healthy is a Lifestyle. Drinking water makes me feel full and digestion wise I am no longer constipated. I've also read that water flushes the organs, such as lungs and liver. I found myself often thirsty in some cases due to medication. Water has definitely helped me with dehydration and thirst elimination.

At times I became so thirsty with some medication it was ridiculous, which is how I learn by default that drinking water can improve most situations.

My next venture will be to add apple cider vinegar to the health journey. I have seen so many accolades on social media about the benefits of apple cider vinegar and its aid to weight loss.

I aim to seek out these remarkable results I've heard so much about.

Happy Health,

Lavilada

Eating Healthy

2017-04-13T16:00:00.001-04:00

Journal Date: April 13, 2017

Eating healthy is important. I had to learn to stop making excuses. Even in the midst of being ill. A decision to eat right is as equally important as it is to exercise.

There are seasons in your life where you may not be able to physically exercise. I mean physically unable to move. In my situation, I had to ask myself what is it that I can do to modify the conditions to best fit me, I recognized that I needed to make efforts in increments to make progress.

So, ultimately, the moment I decided to eat better. By making simple changes in what I drink and ate helped me a lot. If you need a place to start-start by drinking water. It's the easiest and simplest thing you can do without any immediate cost.

I know you've heard the phrase drink water, drink water, drink water. The deal behind drinking water is to get your body to the state where it does not aggressively crave things that may not be beneficial to you.

Double check to see what it is that you want. Decide if you are really hungry or do you want to binge on something to eat to emotionally feed something else.

Learn what your needs are, carefully examine them and get rid of what it is you don't need. Until next time,

Lavilada

Update!

2017-04-07T22:50:00.004-04:00

Journal Date: April 7, 2017

Today was better. Today was a better day. I was able to work through a lot of my thoughts and accomplish a few things. Life is not only about finding ways to do what it is you like to do and doing it, in addition to the aforementioned-life is about doing what you have to do and then doing what you want to do, but it is also about balance.

Know that prosperity takes time, find out what success mean to you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Learning how to 'STAY FREE' and 'STAY WOKE'!

Lavi

Update!

2017-04-06T16:35:00.000-04:00

Journal Date: April 6, 2017

This is not a moment of bliss for me more like a moment of agony. I get so aggravated with Life sometimes. Just down right aggravated.

There are things that you have to learn how to work through. It's just no way around it, I have to learn how to not get annoyed, even though I do.

I simply get annoyed with trivial things that are so insignificant to all that life is. At which, I learn to take initiative whether I felt like it or not. I promise it is life-changing. This strategy requires that you move beyond what you see and do what needs to be done to get the result you desire.

It's no way around this one.

Until Next Time,

-Lavi

If you could do one thing different what would it be?

2017-03-30T15:40:00.000-04:00

March 30, 2017

If I could do one thing different it would be to work through fear. My fear was something that alerted me to think-hey, I don't think I want to do that or learn that it looks hard. I'd rather play it safe. Safe never gets you anywhere or anything.

Don't be afraid to work through fear. It's a scary thing to learn to work through fear. Once I learn to just take one step, then take the next step and take the next step and another step. I realized that working through fear is beneficial. Working through fear is a process.

                          You can only see what's next if you decide to take the next step.

                                           It's the only way that you can be sure to make

                                                                          'Progress'.

Is the Legal field becoming Lean?

2017-03-27T16:15:00.000-04:00

March 27, 2017

For years, I've loved everything the study of law has to offer. I had a desire to become an attorney earlier on in life. Except, changes presented a different outcome.

Often, I read and review what's happening in the legal world. Interestingly enough, I'm amazed at the changes that have taken place in the last few years. To see a field I love- too saturated for potential prospects is disheartening.

When I read and complete case analysis, to determine/predict a particular outcome, it does not feel like work. As it may be for those who may not enjoy the field as much as they thought they would have.

After all, being competitive has never been an issue, competitiveness is what makes the best become the best.

Competition is not the game for those who are faint at heart. Which is why I love the field so. It is difficult to consider a field other than law, but it is doable. The updates and options for those who practice law preserve the optimism many have about the legal profession.

What is your career choice? Are you a professional in the legal career? Do you have a desire to be an attorney?

Till Next time,

It's Lavilada-

Update!

2017-03-20T23:14:00.000-04:00

Hi All,

Finally, I am able to access my blog. I know its been awhile. I'm excited about the new journey. I will bring you guys along the way. I will share my experience. I'm happy to be back and do what I love- writing to inform. Also, I want to let you know that I will discuss ideas, share books and general information about things I like and think about.

Talk Soon Lavilada😉

Twenty-Sixteen

2016-07-23T14:53:00.003-04:00

July 23, 2016

I've had an opportunity to reflect on life. To be honest I'm always in reflective mode. There is so much I want to accomplish. For instance, mindset goals is not the same as goals with effort. The difference is both take two forms that vary in action. I read this book that actions have no season written by two brothers who are attorneys. The book immediately inspired my thoughts and I still have not acted on aspirations of known, but I plan to do so soon.

A few personal goals will avail in the near future and I am adamant about allowing myself to be as creative as possible just to see what I can do. Back to me....and-

I'm loving it....

Lavilada

Want to Do Better- Decision Making

2015-12-27T04:14:00.001-05:00

December 27, 2015

It's 3:39 am and I cannot sleep. Thinking too much about life and the choices I've made. Some good some not so good. The price you pay for pursuing the permission of others. Allowing people, random people-even family members who I deem as random people allowed to make decisions for you that are not in your best interests.

As people, we give others too much access, absolutely too much access to the decisions that must be made in our life. Too much access to suggestive thinking, when the decision is entirely yours to make. I ask myself, what will be different in the next few days? What will 2016 bring?

Daily we live as if we control life's clock. In fact, the one who's yet to unveil the mystery of life is the one who has complete control. He sets the time table of life, the beginning, and the end. The thought alone should be disturbing because ultimately, people do not control the very thing they give others to access.

Be careful of who you accept into your life, be careful of who you allow having control over you. Be careful of who has immediate access to your thoughts, because in retrospect you are giving permission to others to control how you think and undermine your perspective in response. The influence the person or persons may have may not reflect your viewpoint.

Do not allow others to waste your time. Your time is valuable.

My last questions are why does it take so much time for people to work out their life challenges? It's the randomness, craziness, foolishness, and debauchery from other people that halts prosperity and productivity in your life. In fact, some parents cause 85 % of their children(s) craziness.

Here's how most parents have not been taught better and therefore parents cannot teach better. It is not until we work out our own limitations that we can do better than what we were taught.

It's simply this, parents cannot do better because no one other than their parents have ever taught them to do better. I've learned that you cannot be mad at what parents do not know. Heck, you cannot be mad at what others outside of your parents do not know. Just be sure that you learn and do better.

Welcome better for yourself and those that are attached to you by association. Disassociate yourself with those that do not influence you to be better. For their relevance is less developed to do so, thereby have the courage to receive what works and ignore what doesn't. A young person once told me to Live the Life you Love. Thank you.

And to others, I share the sentiments of this very statement: Live the Life you Love, because without your decisions nothing else matters.

-Lavilada

MERRY CHRISTMAS!

2015-12-25T08:08:00.001-05:00

Merry Christmas Everyone!
December 25, 2015
One of my favorite Holidays of the Year, Christmas. Lights, Lights, Lights, all of the Lights. Christmas Trees. I love Christmas, a reason to give, whether its hugs to gifts. Most importantly, remember Christ our Lord Jesus, the very reason for choosing to have a better life. I wish you all a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
-Lavi

New Book & More !

2015-12-21T23:13:00.003-05:00

December 21, 2015

So, I'm reading this new book I have by Cora Jakes-Coleman on Faithing It. An awesome read by the way. Within the first few pages, I was hooked. It's a read that I needed, no matter the internal and external chaos that has engulfed my life. I find my self in a situation that makes me the angriest person in my world. Like most Americans in our country, I sincerely am not enjoying my current employment. It's easy for people to advise with their unwanted opinions even though the decision concerning me does not affect them in any way.

Years before, I had a knack for listening to people convey their problems and sounding off their frustration in their daily life. At the time, I was able to really soak it in, be the listening ear, give advice and Godly advice at that, now, the time has come, where I no longer feel concern about humanity and the concerns thereof. I will have to ask God to help me with that because I did not always feel this way.

I find myself, angry with people in general. I am not a person who lacks the ability to do their part to help balance the dysfunction in day-to-day life. The passive, less aggressive, indecisive individual(s) who desire change, but will not commit to action to make change happen. I am not her.

I know what it means to make decisions. Life-altering decisions where you do what it is you got to do and get it done. I had to adapt. You can adapt. Life is full of seasons that may require you to adapt. In the elapse of time, life can and will sometime become adaptable.

It's Christmas in a few days and I could care less about the festivities. I've spent the last few holidays in the hospital and it is not a place you want to be during the holidays. The convenience of being able to commune with family and go back for seconds. Eh! My thought of healthy eating, healthy me from here on out. Know that commitment to self-care comes a lot easier than you think.

Anyhoo, Merry Christmas everyone, Happy New Year! Another year to be thankful for life. After this, my goal is to work towards something that will bring joy into my life.

Forging onward to 2016!

_Lavi

2015-08-19T10:43:00.001-04:00

What I find most intriguing is the ability to read and relax my thoughts in reading. I read this article and it talks about the "Golden Rule" written by a therapist from the 'NY' here's the link if you're interested, http://www.goodtherapy.org/Brooklyn-Therapy.htm.

I believe, I do what most people do, never think to treat myself like I would treat a bestie. You somehow ignore the thought and forget that you too are human. There are things in life that is overwhelming and most people have no one to talk with and talk about these things without limits. It's difficult. Reading this article allowed me to revisit my thoughts and sit with them to understand the new phase, I'm currently experiencing. I believe it is important to take care of yourself in the same way you would take care of others.

Life happens, things that are beyond your control and learning to deal with each phase in your life will help and allow you to mature as an individual. I have found that day-to-day reflection is a good tool in situations like this.

I would always hear people say ' treat yourself,' what does that mean? In the beginning, I truly did not know or understand how to do this, but throughout the years, I have learned to do so and in the beginning you will feel guilty, don't ask why, because I can't tell you. However, I have learned to push through the feelings of personal indulgence and get those mani/pedi's when affordable or watch YT to learn the DIY either way it works. Learn to treat you, like you treat someone else, I concur. Well until next time, be loving, be kind and bless someone,

Alwayz,
Lavi

2015-08-08T10:30:00.000-04:00

Hi Guys,

So I have been reading this book on money management. It is my desire to become debt-free in the next few years or at least cut my debt in half. I decided to learn as much as I can about debt-free-living. So far, I'm in chapter 8, a section on credit scores and credit reports of the book.

Taking the time to understand debt basics and having gone through multiple sessions of debt counseling, I have learned a lot.

By learning and applying these simple tools, I have been free of credit card debt for five years. I had major credit card issues and one of my projects within the last five years was to eliminate unnecessary credit card use. In which I have done.

My motto is "if I can't pay cash for it, I will not buy it." I HATE owing debt, I simply hate it, and it does not justify the means to owe the world and barely live. Seriously, the "struggle is REAL."

So, I decided to take on my debt as a personal project and see if the end results would change, if I took becoming debt-free, seriously. The book I'm reading will not be mention at this time, because it's a bit premature to recommend a current read. However, once I have completed the book and decide if the remaining strategies in the book have helped my financial situation. I, then, will share the strategies from the book that offers a step-by-step approach (author reference, 2006).

So meanwhile, for those of you who are interested in the beginning stages of becoming debt-free, here are a few tips
1) Sit down, set an hour or so aside and write down all the debt you owe-the list will give you an immediate financial picture of your personal debt.
2) Of all the debt, select the smallest debt and begin to make arrangements to pay on that debt first-the larger debt is not going anywhere, so be cognizant of it, but don't focus too much on it temporarily.
3) Meditate and give your mind rest from the round-robin thinking, 24/7, worrying that your mind does when you feel like you owe the world.
4) Give your self-time to become debt-free, it took time for you to 'GET IN DEBT, IT'S GOING TO TAKE TIME TO GET OUT OF DEBT.'
5) Whether it's a $1, $5, $10, $15, $20, $30, set aside the amount in an envelope or a separate account to pay off your selected debt. This way you can see progress aside from your monthly income. Don't intermingle 'the money.'
6) Once you hit an amount to pay off a credit card or extra money to pay down a bill, due so in increments or possibly all at once. If the latter is not an option, spread the payment out so you can see the progress of the debt payment and this in itself will be a reward, because you will have accomplished a short term goal overtime.

Well, this is enough to get you started, so blessings to becoming debt-free and keep focus, try not to get off track and forge ahead.

Until next time, be sure to be kind, be a blessing and as always show love to one another

Lavi

2015-08-05T10:24:00.004-04:00

Good Morning Folks,

The Presidential Election is on its way with the GOP Republican camp. The Democratic Party has settled into their choice for the next Democratic president-elect and it's Senora Hilliary Clinton. For years we have watched men run this country into the ground with all their ideologies and power plays, it's time for a new direction. The GOP candidates can speak all they want, it's hands down Hilliary Clinton for me. I would like to see the First Female President after Obama's reign.

To all the voters out there choose wisely, know your candidates for this is not the time to slack on knowledge, but it is a time to become informed.

America we are smart people- intellectual people and have more degrees to cover the variances of the earth and we need to use that same intelligence to select the "Right" candidate. Your selection of the next President determines your future, so I request that every American dig in and become knowledgeable about each person elected into office. Choosing the wrong person will and can be detrimental to America's way of life.

The GOP current front runner is sparking the race, but as a famous businessman, this will not hold him in the election seat if the republicans are smart. Well hello 'Daffy and it ain't gone be pretty', let's make history once more. Instead of his story, this time around it will be her story-our story, I hope. Let's do it again America! Make the change that needs to happen. Change is good and it is difficult for some to accept change. We live here and we must do what is in the best interest of Americans in that which is service to our needs. Let's Go!

Lavi

2015-08-02T12:53:00.000-04:00

Sunday Morning,

I awoke from a nightmare with living and dead people in it. I know eating late at night is not a good thing, but I got hungry and craved a sandwich. I drank two cups of tea (sweet tea) and laid out. Until this morning, when my dream awoke me with an uneasiness that I did not like. I am waiting to watch T.D. Jakes via the internet for my morning worship. These sessions have kept me going post-surgery. Last night, I watched Sheryl Brady, a pastor. Pastor Brady's messages are inspirational.

Anyhoo, here's what I know. If you are unable to attend church on a regular basis and you want to feel as if you are still sustaining your worship life. Streamline a few of the well-known bishops, pastors, or inspirational leaders that will keep you uplifted. Another thing to do is purchase devotional material, it will keep you inspired. Research to see if there are free devotionals online. Sometimes you may find some good ones and you will feel as if you have not missed a beat.

You will become focus and God-oriented in your temporary inability to attend your local church. Also, do not forget to read a scripture or a two every other day. It will also keep you motivated.

It's been two years since I've updated my blog and I wish to write a bit more to discuss self-care topics.

Truth be told, I have not always felt my best these days, life at times can be a BEAST! However, you must learn to navigate the spiritual warfare that attempts to keep you bound. So, I have decided to keep occupied by reading and writing. In the hope of seeing what comes next in my life.

Stay blessed, stay focus, stay kind to one another, see you soon,

Lavi

DECLUTTERING MY LIFE!

2013-06-29T08:43:00.001-04:00

Good Morning to All,

Today is Saturday, June 29, 2013, and it's been a minute. I have been away too long and decided to use the next few days, weeks, and months to focus on me. It will be different, in that I always do what is in the best interests of others with the exception of doing the same for myself.

What small steps can I do to make these changes- well I will share these steps soon? I have decided to leap and see where I land. I will make changes in increments surrounding my work life. I will read more on topics of interest. I will share books that I've read with the hope of writing more in the near future.

The beginning of cutting the clutter
Step 1) gather all my bills and pay them off one by one, get rid of what I can no longer afford. No matter the advertisement, I will stick to my decision to become financially free to do the things I want to do.

Step 2) Celebrate the small beginnings.....Happy Saturday to me and I look forward to sharing my findings with (you...the world) at least those of you who stop by. BE BACK SOON....meanwhile enjoy your Saturday!

Lavilada

Cycling to Improve Weight

2013-05-22T23:28:00.000-04:00

Hello All,

Today- May 22, 2013, I have begun to cycle in order to improve my weight. I realized that cycling without resistance allows me to cycle longer and it's less strenuous. Short term goals- cycle for 15 minutes or more to see if I can lose any weight or burn more calories in a short amount of time. I'll be back to update my progress.

Lavi

ALMOST EASTER

2013-03-29T08:17:00.000-04:00

In last night's debate Mitt Romney tiptoed around the issue concerning foreign policy.

Most of what Mitt said, showed when the President pointed out Mitt's confusion about previous statements concerning foreign issues.

Mitt began back paddling to find dry land; when he(Mitt) realize that he was sinking.

Governor Mitt Romney's political game is surrounded by the act of manipulation, seeing who can be manipulated to put him(Mitt) in office. Well, I want to be the first to inform you that it will not be my vote.

For the undecided voters, consider "the value of change for the better has always been a cursor," to improve the democratic society. Not letting people( meaning those that oppose) what is right subtract from our right to see what is inevitable, "change," change that is going to come either way.

Folks you have been shown time and time again, Mitt is not for the people who need and deserve better are those who live in poverty and are middle class.

Mitt is a millionaire, just like the Commander in Chief Barack Obama, the difference is Mitt stands for the ones who are not in the middle class.

If the middle class doesn't make it....oh well..its what Mitt considers to be competitive capitalism, but Obama sees that inasmuch as he is financially settled.

Knowing that every American should get a piece of the pie. VOTE for whomever your choice is, but make sure you VOTE!

Let your voice be heard on the person ' You' choose to put in charge at the executive-level of government. It's business for me#TEAM OBAMA...good day!

Lavilada

Just Another Day!

2013-02-16T20:52:00.001-05:00

Today, I accomplish one thing that I needed most. I had a progressive day, but I am nowhere near finish.

There is so much work to be done. I am working through a clouded and unfocused mindset that irritates me fully. I cannot seem to get everything I need to be done today. I feel in love with life but frustrated at the same time, oooooh my goodness. I'll manage. I will. It is going to take time.

I have decided to work in increments. I learned through trial and error. When something is not working as a whole, break it up into pieces. This way I am able to accomplish something rather than nothing at all.

Work it in increments baby! It may take time, but work that thing one task at a time.

Lavi

2012-12-23T19:35:00.000-05:00

It is almost Christmas and in a month my life has been changed for the better. I am happy to report that I have returned to full-time employment and I am still trying to be patient with the rehabilitation matter concerning my post knee surgery. I thought the process would have been moderate but having a set back makes the recovery process much longer.

Nevertheless, I am certainly happy for the upcoming events that will soon take place in a few months. I hope everyone has a great Christmas and even though this year, I do not have a tree or gifts, which I have not had in the past 6 years.

I am eternally grateful to God to have the means to provide for my family. So even if you cannot do all you desire, being able to pay your bills and provide for your family is enough... I myself am eternally thankful and grateful to GOD for not too much interruption.

Peace and love....talk to you soon...

Lavi