Life Experiences

Relationship Breakup

2012-03-27T07:57:00.001-07:00

Everybody falls in love and then later on breaks up. The world looks beautiful when we are in love. But it doesn't last long. The relationship ends for whatever reason maybe. Either we end up breaking or the other person wants the breakup.

There are different ways of breaking up. Some people would simply disappear without saying anything about the breakup. Some would hang on because he/she doesn't want to break up with you.Some people will give you a piece meal information when you ask them.

I think at this juncture of breakup we have to be more understanding. We have to explain to them the reasons for breakup in detail. The person will in great pain. If possible request him/her for breakup and set you free. He/she will understand you and will be happy to let you go. Tell them that you have shared good times together and had so much fun. Maybe write him/her a letter and explain to him/her in detail for the detail. Please be honest about everything you write and tell the person. That way, it will be easier for both of you. There won't be so much pain in the breakup. It will be easier for other person to heal the heart and move on fast. That person won't lose trust. I have met heart broken people online and they are still struck in pain and couldn't move on because their breakup has not be proper and good.

Let us be little more kinder by being honest and talking to them in person then just disappearing when breakup. I pray that breakup do not happen in the first place.

My third favourite book- "The alchemist" by Paulo Coelho

2012-01-17T13:09:00.001-08:00

My dear readers,
Wish you a happy belated new year!. I was busy with the project which was due to be submitted on 31st December, 2011. I couldn't finish by the latest deadline. I managed to finish late. I was so engrossed with the project work that I didn't get time to wish you.

The year 2011 has come to an end. I will take the opportunity to thank all my readers for reading my posts and passing their comments and appreciations. When I saw the topic of my blog posts being searched on google search engine, I get inspired to write more posts.

Have you started to collect books to build up your home library? It would be better to start now. One idea is enough to change our life. The source of ideas are from books.
If you want to improve your personal and professional life, just refer the how to do books and they will improve your life for the better.

I have indicated two favourite books in my earlier two posts. The third favourite book is "The Alchemist" by Paulo Coelho. It is a book which inspires us to dream and pursue our dreams. The universe will help you to achieve your dreams. The life will throw you signs and omens to indicate that you are going is right or wrong directions.

I have debated with my mind hundred times whether to put this book as my second favourite book instead of "the monk who sold his ferrari" by Robin sharma. However, this book has taken the world by storm and I made up my mind to keep it in the second place.

So, if you want to get a gist or read my third favourite book written by Paulo Coelho, the book is available at www.amazon.com. You can click on link given below:

The book is available at any bookstore.
Wish you a happy belated new year and enjoy reading this book.

My second favourite book

2012-01-09T05:37:00.000-08:00

I have indicated that my first favourite book is " Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. My second favourite book is " The Monk who sold his ferrari" by Robin Sharma. It has taken the world by storm. Indeed it has taken my life by storm too.
Before reading this book, I used to believe that happiness is all in the state of mind. I used to make up my mind to be happy. Of course, I was happy for few minutes. What I felt was that something is amiss. This book is introduced to me by one of my best friends. After reading this book, I have experienced true happiness. I realized that we can experience true happiness.

If you fell that something is missing in your life, you should certainly read this. You can find it in any bookstore at cheap price.
This book tells us of following our dreams and be passionate about everything you do, fill our negative thoughts with good thoughts. The most important of all, you experience true happiness after reading it. If I tell you the story, the charm of reading will be lost. So, I keep for you to read and change for your life for the better.
Check this bookstore if you intend to buy online. This book is available in any local bookstore.

You won't regret buying this book.
To your happiness

Book collection

2011-12-20T05:25:00.000-08:00

If you have a garden and books, then you have everything in this world. Books open windows of wonderful opportunities. One of my hobby is reading books on personal and professional development.

I was inspired by one of closest friends to read books three years back.Since then, there was no looking back. I bought books at airports and train stations. I have a collection of books and some of my favourites are given below:

Think and Grow Rich By Napoleon Hill

What I liked about this book is that with the help of our mind, it is possible to achieve everything we want in this world. This book is a classic book and this is my number one favorite book. Next favourite books will be mentioned in coming posts.

If you do not have collections, start with this. You can get this book in every book store at low price.

All the best!

Head or Heart?

2011-12-19T15:35:00.000-08:00

Did it ever happen to you that you didn't know whom to follow? Either heart or head? So, what really happens in love is that your heart loves someone very much. Your head says he/she is not your right person and you shouldn't pursue him/her. Then you follow your head and never approach that person. You are simply scared to go against your head.

Then what happens is that in due course of time, the person you love is involved into relationship with another person.When you hear this, your heart is broken into thousand pieces.Then, the head feels so sorry for the heart and knows that you love this person very much. At this juncture, head says heart is right and try to get the person back.

Then, the emotions and feelings of the heart died down and you become heartless.You will mourning for the loss of beloved one.You will be regretting for not telling the person that you love him/her.

Did this ever happen to you?

Teach your children to read.

2011-12-17T11:10:00.000-08:00

Do you encourage your children to read books? If not, you can start now. Teach your children to read books and your children will be grateful to you for that. Instead of sitting in front of television, you can sit with your children and read books for them and teach them to read also. You know that reading has many benefits as follows:

Reading is said to lower your blood pressure.
Reading can open whole new world to the children and will develop his or her memory.
It can help in personal development.
It can give you ideas to solve any kind of problem and will help children to lead independent life.
It can improve your career.

Next time, when you sit down with your children infront of idiot box, think about the benefits of reading books.

Parents can encourage children to read by gifting them books and reading with them or reading for them every half hour on daily basis. You will be happy that you did that and your children will be grateful to you for that.

If you are really interested in helping your children to become successful in school, check this store.

To you and your children's success!

are you living fully?

2011-12-07T15:34:00.000-08:00

We are born only once and we will be treading on the planet earth only once. We are not sure what our next life will be and where we will be born. We have this one lifetime and we have to live it to the fullest without any regrets on our death bed. Are you living fully? If not, it is never late to do so.Better late than never. I have come across one quotation which will help us to live to the fullest.

" To laugh often and love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children; to earn the approbation of honest critics; to appreciate beauty; to give of one's self, to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived- that is to have succeeded" by Ralph Waldo Emerson.

By following the above quotation, we will find meaning and purpose in our life. We have a bigger purpose of serving the community and the world than living for oneself.

Wishing for you to live to the fullest.

Happiness within you

2011-12-02T07:05:00.000-08:00

Did you read a book titled "The power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle? I love this book.There is a story given in prologue of this book. It tells a story about a beggar begging on the street. A stranger comes to him and asks him about the box on which the beggar is sitting. He asks the beggar whether he has opened the box or not. The beggar says "No" and the stranger asks to open it. To his amazement, the beggar finds gold and silver coins in the box. The stranger says, you are sitting on the box of gold coins and you are begging for coins from other. This is the same case with happiness.

We look for happiness outside when it can be found within us. By living in the present, we can find happiness. If we remember the past, it brings guilt and regret and if we think about the future, it brings fear and anxiety. If we live in the present, there is no regret, guilt, fear and anxiety. So, live fully in the present. Be alive and don't let your music within die. Play, have fun and at the same time do your work or study. This is life.

To your happiness!

Yoga for Super Brain

2011-11-11T06:41:00.000-08:00

If you have been worrying about your failing memory, you have come to the right place. As we grow older, our memory fails to keep up with age. If you have also been struggling to lose weight, then you have come to the right place as well.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSwhpF9iJSs.

What I liked about this yoga is that it is very simple, keeps me alert and makes me smart. It has improved my memory and at the same time helped me to reduce my weight. I have developed stamina to study for longer duration because of this yoga. You can try this yoga. Click to link below to watch the video:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSwhpF9iJSs

I hope it helps to improve your memory and reduce your weight.

To your memory improvement and weight loss!

Are you on rebound?

2011-11-02T14:07:00.000-07:00

Do you think you are on rebound? Do you always think about the ex boyfriend or girl friend? Do you always compare any person with your ex? Do you always talk to your friends about the physical appearances of your ex? If you answer to all these question "yes", then you are on rebound. That means you haven't moved on and given up the relationship emotionally.

When you are on rebound, you see the physical image of your ex in other person. Let's say, your ex boyfriend or girlfriend was very tall. Next time, when you meet a tall person, you will be reminded of your ex and you will become emotionally attached to this person because of his physical appearance without knowing his innate qualities. Later on when your heart is healed, you will find yourself that you are with wrong person.

You tend to compare any person with your ex and find that he/she isn't better than your ex. That isn't good either.

If you remember your past love story with sadness instead of happiness, then you are on rebound and not in position to fall in love because you are on rebound. When you fall in love with a person when you are on rebound, you aren't being fair to yourself and to that new person.

However, you can heal your heart and move on. Love is the greatest gift you can give yourself and to the world.When you are in pain, your friends and family can feel the burden. They will be in pain.

So heal your heart and move on. I heard that it takes six months to heal your heart.I wish you all the best.

Head or Heart?

2011-10-10T10:26:00.000-07:00

In our day to day life we have to make decisions very now and then. How do you make it? Do you follow your heart or head?

As for me, I follow a simple rule and it has helped me to make decisions in my life, be it wrong or right.
I follow the simple rule.

" If you want happiness, peace and tranquility, follow your heart.
If you want wealth, money and power, follow your head."

The above rule or saying has helped me to make decisions and most of the times I have been following my heart and never went wrong.

At times, I have made decision based on what my heart said and it went wrong but I have learnt my lessons.
Head can be quite manipulative at times.

In matters of love, don't make decision based on your head because head never knows the gentle beating of heart.

You can make decision on what you want. I wish you success in whatever decision you make.

To your success!

2 Tips to reduce weight

2011-09-16T13:13:00.000-07:00

My dear friends,

If you have been struggling very hard to reduce weight, then I have got two tips for you. If you follow the two tips strictly, then you will surely reduce weight within short period of time.

First Tip:
1. Eat heavy breakfast.
Breakfast is important for your memory and you need energy to carry out the day's work.

2. Have moderate lunch. If you have heavy lunch, you might feel sleepy.

3. Have light dinner. Maybe half of breakfast.
Since you are sleeping and don't have to work, light dinner is sufficient for you.

Second Tip:
Go for walks or do aerobics in the morning or in the evening. The more fun way to shed extra fats is to dancing to a tune of music.

If you follow the above tips, I am sure you will reduce weight fast.

if you have reduced weight by following the above two tips, just let me know.

With regards,
Gayleg

Prayers better left unanswered

2011-09-12T10:20:00.001-07:00

I would like to share an experience with you. This is experienced by my lady friend. She has narrated her experience with me and I am going to share with you.

She was an intelligent student and won prizes for her academic excellence in her school days. She was very much concerned about her study. She had dreams to become a doctor. In fact, her father wanted her to become a doctor.When she was in class 7, one her classmates who was a boy has fallen in love with and passed the message through his friends.

She didn't know what love was then. It was a new word to her. She was scared to fall in love with him because she was concerned about her studies. However, that boy kept on loving her and gave her hints that he still loved her dearly.

When she was in class 9, she started liking him. It was her first love. However, she couldn't tell him that she loved him. So, two years passed.

Then in class 10, that boy got into a relationship with another girl. She told me that she was heartbroken and felt like crying. It was like as if the whole world seemed crashing down. Her world seemed hollow. She lost interest in studies and her grades were falling down.

She got scholarship from government to study Bachelor in Engineering in India. She still loved him and she spoke about him to all her friends everyday. Her friends must have got fed up of hearing her sad love story.

She graduated with good grades from the college. She got a job in the private company. She couldn't forget him.

She told me that she couldn't forget him for 8 years.She dreamed about him and she felt like picking him up from her dream. She was so much in love with him.She prayed that they could come together and get married.She wished upon the wishing star so that they could be together forever.

Fate decided otherwise.They were never meant to be with each other. One day, when she called him on his mobile, he told her that he is married. She felt that her world has come to an end. She was in a hope that she would be together with him.

She couldn't forget him. It was her first love. First love has the deepest cut.She tried to move on and got into number of affairs with other men. However, she was comparing these men with the first person she loved. She was on rebound.

One day, she got a call from one of men who said he loves her. She was astonished as she didn't knew that person.However, she decided to meet him over the cup of coffee. They met and fell in love and decided to get married after one year of their acquaintance. They are happily married and have two kids.

She told me that sometimes the prayers are better left unanswered.

Investing your money

2011-09-10T15:25:00.000-07:00

As Rich dad in Rich Dad Poor Dad book said, we have to let money work for us and not make us work for the money.

Investment means letting your money grow. As the rate of inflation increases, the value of our money decreases. To combat inflation, we have to invest our money. Many other authors have suggested investment tips as given below:

1. Buying shares
2. Buying bonds.
3. Investing in Real estate.

I would like to focus on gold and silver.
Buying gold and silver is one of the investment strategies.Gold and silver are precious metails and their production are dwindling day by day. it is a golden opportunity to buy gold and silver metals to survive the inflation. Prices of silver and gold never goes down but goes up on daily basis. Prices of silver increases rapidly and it is used for industrial purposes.
If you want to buy for heirloom which will be passed from generation to generation, purchase gold coins. If you want to sell it, buy silver and gold bullions (bars).
Buying precious metals is one of the best investment strategies.

First love

2011-09-10T15:22:00.000-07:00

Have you fallen in love even once in your life? Yes, everyone must have that experience. I had fallen in love too. I can still remember him vividly when I was in my class seventh standard when I was very innocent and studies girl.

He was my classmate who got transferred to our school from another school. Maybe fate was written that we could meet for short period of time and change my life for the better.

He proposed to me through another friend that he loved me. I was concerned about my studies and was scared that it would disturb my studies. I didn't respond to his reply.

He kept me loving from a distance and he never disturbed my life. He always gave me hints that he still loved me. He would pull the chair for me to sit or sing a romantic songs for me.
In my childhood days, I used to suffer from my inferiority complex. However, I felt beautiful because he loved me. He made me feel confident about myself. Although, we were never in a relationship, he kept me loving and that love made me strong. I knew what love is and what it can.

At present, he is married to another woman and got a kid. I still feel thankful that he made my life beautiful and what i am now is all because of him. We meet every person for a reason.

How to deal with breakup of relationship

2011-09-10T15:19:00.000-07:00

Everyone of us get hurt one way or another in a relationship with the person you love.I want to tell you how to deal with it.

Breakup

Everyone of us has experienced happiness, joy and love while being in love with a person. While in love you feel the world is very beautiful. You feel as if you could fly. It makes your world go round. You maybe someone to the world but you will be the world for that person.

You know always that everything is impermanent. It cannot last forever. The relationship with the person you love is gone suddenly. It is no more there. You are left by that person. You can't believe that it is happening to you.

This has happened to me one year back. I didn't know what to do. I wanted to cry but tears couldn't fall easily.I could feel a lump in my chest. My heart was crying. I couldn't tell my mom or sisters as I couldn't wanted them to feel pain.

When we are hurt, we don't feel like living. Our world seems hollow. We feel as everything has come to an end.

How did I deal with breakup?

I was browsing for help here and there. I was telling about my breakup to my friends as I require their support and help.

While I was on official tour to India, I stumbled accross a second hand book called " Starting over for Mars and Venus" by Mr. John Gray. He has written about how to heal our heart and move on. Our heart is broken and it needs to healed and become strong once again before finding love once again. If we don't let our heart get healed, we will be on rebound. It won't be good for all of us.I have learnt some simple exercises for healing our heart. They are given below:
Take a paper and a pencil and write down the following emotions:
1. Anger: for example:
I am angry because you left me for another person. Here, you can write about your anger about the breakup.
2. Sorrow: I feel very sad because you left me. I feel so scared. Please write your sorrow.
3. Fear: I feel scared that I won't be able find another person like you again.
4.Sadness: I feel sad that you are no there in my life.
You can explore all the emotions and write it down.
It helps alot.

I have always found that doing exercise like walking, jogging, yoga will help you alot in bringing control in your life. We become so dependent on that person. Exercise is the one of the ways to restore your independance.

I think we should remember about the good side of the relationship although tears might drop down your face but those are healing tears.

If you feel happy to remember that person, you are ready to move into a new relationship. That means your heart is healed and you can move on to find new love. I wish you all the best.

Finding love once again

2011-09-10T15:07:00.000-07:00

Falling in love

Everybody falls in love and as the time passes, the passion and love is not there. It is all gone. Relationship with the person whom you love is gone. What remains is sadness, loneliness and tears.You think it is end of your life. This article will tell you about finding love once again and be happy for the rest of your life.

Losing love

You are so happy when you meet a person of your dreams. Everything about the person is good. You talk to him for hours and hours at night. You hang out for a candle lit dinner and movie with him. The world seems so beautiful. You believe it will last forever.
But nothing lasts forever. Everything is impermanent in this world. As time passes, the passion and love is gone. You are on verge of breaking up as he is in love with another girl.That is the end of the relationship. One day, he tells you that the relationship is over. He wants a break up.
You couldn't believe the relationship is gone and the guy leaves you. You find yourself in tears. You beg him for one more chance. He doesn't give a second thought and leaves you alone. The first two days and nights are horrible for you. You wonder how you will survive through whole night. You soak your pillows with tears. You tend to fall asleep anyhow.

Next day, you wake up and you come to realize that he is no more with you.

Finding love once again

You also feel scared and afraid that you won't find love once again. I am sure you will find love once again. You tend to lose someone when you are destined to find someone who will love you more than you love yourself once again. To meet and recognize that person you have to heal your heart and move on. Please refer my article regarding how to deal with break up. After healing your heart, you will be able to meet your soul mate.

Finding love once again is the greatest gift you can give yourself and to the world. If you carry that pain, your family and friends will also be feeling pain and suffering.

I wish you all the best and I am sure you will find love once again.

The power of thank you

2011-09-10T15:03:00.000-07:00

I am going share my experience while working in office. This has happened to me and it changed my life.
Have you ever said "Thank you" to others when they open the door for you or do something to you? I think it is the time you start from now. This two words "thank you" has so much power. It changes your life and other life as well for the better.

I can tell this as I have experienced in my life. I used to work in the office where there is no appreciation for the work I have done. My boss was strict too. I always feared while I was working in the office. I was not able to ask question or clarification from my boss whenever I had doubt. I felt I was not appreciated for the work I have done.

My life was going same everyday. However, my life changed one day.

It was one fine day when I received a call from one of the managers of the companies with which our company was dealing with. At that time, my boss was busy. I told him that our boss was busy. He requested me to call him when the boss finished talking and connect the line to him. It was long distance call. After my boss finished talking, I called that man and connected him to my boss through PABX. They talked about the official work for ten minutes. It was important.

After they finished talking, that man called me over the phone and said "Thank you very much." He told me that he could talk to my boss. He thanked me for calling him and connecting him to my boss. I was dumbstruck.. I couldn't believe that somebody is thanking me for the first time for the call I have made. I couldn't believe it. I was so happy.That made my day.

After that event, I always try to say "thank you to every person" who do things for me.This is sort of chain reaction. These two words changed my life. I always say thank you to every one and even to strangers when they help me or do things for me.. I know it makes them happy.

I request all you to say these two words to everyone who helps you because that will change their lives for the better and make this world a happier place to live.Who knows there might be a chain reaction.

So, this is the power of thank you.

Fitness for life

2011-09-10T14:50:00.000-07:00

If wealth is lost, something is lost. if character is lost, something is lost. If health is lost, everything is lost. We have to be fit and healthy to enjoy the life. In order to be healthy and fit, walking is the best form of exercise. It reduces weight and keeps blood pressure under control. People who are walking regularly are fit and healthy and they do not suffer from diabetes.

Walking for thirty minutes every day can give immense benefit to you. It will keep you in shape and keep all diseases at bay. If you can't make time for walking, you have to make time for sickness.

If you are healthy and fit, you can do whatever in life.