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2013-06-14T19:49:00.002+01:00

The Biblical Perspective Of What A Lady Should Put On..

2013-06-12T18:10:00.004+01:00

Hi Beloved, Can You Please Explain To Me The Biblical Perspective Of What A Lady Should Put On?

ANSWER:

My Dear, One Of The Biblical Perspectives On The Issue Of What One Should Put On Regardless Of Sex Can Be Found In 1 Cor.6:19-20 Which Says “Do You Not Know That Your Body Is A Temple Of The Holy Spirit, Who Is In You, Whom You Have Received From God? You Are Not Your Own; You Were Bought At A Price. Therefore Honour God With Your Body”

Secondly, 1 Peter 3:3-4 Says That “Your Beauty Should Not Come From Outward Adornment, Such As Braided Hair And The Wearing Of

Gold Jewelry And Fine Clothes. Instead, It Should Be That Of Your Inner Self, The Unfading Beauty Of A Gentle And Quiet Spirit, Which Is Of Great Worth In God’s Sight.” When A Lady Puts On Christ First, Her External Clothing Will Reveal That Fact.

Job 29:14a Says “I Put On Righteousness As My Clothing.” Rom.13:14 Says “Rather Clothe Yourselves With The Lord Jesus Christ, And Do Not Think About How To Gratify The Desires Of The Sinful Nature.” Col.3:12 Says “Therefore, As God’s Chosen People, Holy And Dearly Loved, Clothe Yourselves With Compassion, Kindness, Humility, Gentleness And Patience.”

Again, 1 Cor.10:13 Says “So Whether You Eat Or Drink Or Whatever You Do, Do It All For The Glory Of God.” There Are Other Verses That Also Talked Of Honouring God With Your Body So As A Lady, What You Should Put On Should Be Checked With This Question; Does It Glorify God? Secondly, Ask Yourself; Can I Preach To Someone If I’m Putting On This Kind Of Dress?

Finally, Do Not Allow Anyone To Tell You What And What Not To Wear But Allow Your Conscience If You’ve Been Born Again To Check Everything You Do. There Are Things Others Can Put On But You Cannot Because The Seed Of God Dwells In You. Search The Scriptures For More Of Who You Are In Christ And The Manner Of Dressing That Befits You.

What It Takes To Be A Godly Wife..

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Daughter Of The Most-High God Who’s Praying Day And Night For Her Husband To Come; And Those Married, Has It Ever Occurred To You That God Is Also Checking Daily To See If You Really Have What It Takes To Be A Godly Wife?

**A Godly Wife Is First Of All A Help To Her Husband; An Asset And Not A Liability Or Burden To Him. She Knows That Her First Duty Is To Assist Her Husband In Reaching His – Not Her – Goals In Life ‘Cos That Was Why God Created Her In The First Place.

**A Godly Wife Is Her Husband’s Backbone Who Knows His Soft Spot And Completes Him As His Missing Rib. She Will Never Compete Or Rub Shoulders With Him ‘Cos She Knows They Are Not And Will Never Be Mates Before God Who Made Him Her Head And Made Her From His Ribs.

**A Godly Wife Will Never Put Her Children Before Her Husband ‘Cos God Joined Her To The Man And Not To The Children; So Taking Care Of His Needs Must Come First Before Those Of The Kids.

**A Godly Wife Is Not Weak And Lazy ‘Cos She Knows She’s The

Second-In-Command. So She Must Be Ready To Temporary – Not Permanently – Take Over Once She Senses That Her General Is Down Or Weary. She Will Never Drive Him Mad With Her Naggings.

**A Godly Wife Will Never Discuss Her Husband’s Weaknesses With Her Friends ‘Cos His Weakness Is Her Shame Since She Came Into His Life To Turn Those Weaknesses To Strengths.

**A Godly Wife Will Never Flirt Around With Men Nor Allow Them To Touch Her Anyhow And She Constantly Prays Never To Cheat On Her Husband By Committing Adultery ‘Cos It’s An Ungodly Act And A Sin That Can Completely Destroy Her Matrimonial Home.

**A Godly Wife Will Never Falsely Defraud Her Husband To Buy Jewelries, Clothes, Weavons And Attachments That Can Never Be Compared With Putting On Christ. She Knows To Respect His Opinion And Would Never Lie To Him So As To Get What She Wants.

**A Godly Wife Is In Her Marriage To Complement Her Husband And Not To Compete With Him. She Came To Add And Not To Take Away From His Life; So She Constantly Prays Against The Spirit Of Competition ‘Cos She Knows It Can Destroy Her Home.

**A Godly Wife Will Seek Her Husband’s Permission Before Making Any Purchase Because He Is Her Head And As Such, Responsible For Her; And She Is Prudent In Her Spending ‘Cos She Knows That Excessive Spending Is Not Of God.

**A Godly Wife Avoids Quarrel With Her Husband At All Cost And Lives A Life Of Obedience And Submission To Him ‘Cos She Knows That In Daily Doing So, The Presence And Blessings Of God Is Drawn Down Daily In Her Home.

**A Godly Wife Is Not Dirty ‘Cos She Knows That Cleanliness Is Next To Godliness So She Fights Against Body Odour With All She’s Got, Knowing That The Stench And A Dirty/Smelly Home Can Drive Away Her Man.

So Do You Have What It Takes To Be A Godly Wife? If Not, What Are You Waiting For To Go To Christ Jesus Who Alone Can Make You Become One? It Begins With Having Christ!

When Is It Wrong To Be A Friend To A Married Woman??

2013-06-05T13:22:00.005+01:00

Dear Beloved, When Is It Wrong To Be A Friend To A Married Woman? I'm Not Ready For Any Relationship So I'm Always Careful To Make Friends With Single Or Young Ladies So That They Will Not Be Thinking About A Relationship. Though I’ve Never Spoken With Her Husband, She Does Visit Me At Home And I Visit Her In Her Office. We Speak A Lot On Phone But Recently, I Told Her Not To Call Me Whenever She’s With Her Husband To Respect Him.

ANSWER:

My Dear, There’s Nothing Wrong In Being A Friend To A Married Woman BUT Some Boundaries MUST Never Be Exceeded. As A Single Brother Who’s A Born Again Child Of God, You Should Never Allow A Married Woman To Visit You At Home Alone Because The Bible Warns Us In 1 Thess.5:22 To “Abstain From All Appearance Of Evil.”

Even Though Your Conscience Is Free But People Around You Might Begin To

Wonder What Goes On Between You Two When That Married Lady Pays You A Visit. That’s Why The Bible Used The Word “Appearance”. Don’t Get Involved In Anything That Will Give People The Chance To Suspect Evil About Your Actions No Matter How Godly They May Seem.

Visiting Her In The Office Is Not Bad At All But Telling Her Not To Call You Whenever She’s With Her Husband Out Of Respect For Him Is Not Right. Remember, They Are No Longer Two But One So If She Must Have You As A Friend, The Husband Must Also Know You As Her Friend. If She’s Not Comfortable Calling You Before Her Husband With The Speaker On, Then She Should Not Call You At All.

Finally, Put Yourself In Her Husband’s Shoe And Think Of How You Would Feel To Find Out That Your Wife Visits A Single Man In His Home Alone. Again I Say, Let There Be Boundaries If You Want To Be Friends With A Married Woman Or Better Still, Befriend Both Couples And Become A Known Family Friend. #BetterToBefriendACoupleThanOneOfThem#

What It Takes To Be A Godly Husband..

2013-06-03T07:30:00.003+01:00

Majority Of Us Are So Quick To Jump Into Marriages Without Considering If He Has{For Ladies} And If I Have{For Gents} What It Takes To Be A Godly Husband.

**A Godly Husband Is The Spiritual Gateman Of His Family Who’ll Never Allow Anything That Is Not Of God Into His Household To Trouble His Wife And Children.

**A Godly Husband Is The God That His Wife And Kids See; So In His Thoughts, Words And Deeds, His Family See God In Action Who’ll Never Say Cruel Words To His Bride/Children But Words That Will Build Them Up And Place Them At The Apex Of Their Destinies.

**A Godly Husband Will Never Abuse Nor Disrespect His Wife ‘Cos He Knows That Though He’s

First Of All Weak, She’s The Weaker Vessel And A Part Of Him So Hitting Her Will Be Hitting Himself And Loving Her Will Also Be Loving Himself.

**A Godly Husband Trains His Wife Spiritually Especially In The Place Of Prayer So That She Can Carry Him And The Family Along Whenever He Is Weak. He Never Ceases To Pet, Love, And Carry His Queen As The Precious Egg She Is Because He Knows That What He Puts In Her Will Return As Great Dividends To Him.

**A Godly Husband Will Always Pray Against Unfaithfulness And Will Never Cheat On His Wife Because He Knows That The Sin Of Adultery Will Ruin His Relationship With The Lord And Break The Hedge Thereby Giving The Serpent Freedom To Bite And Wreck His Marital Home.

**A Godly Husband Is Never Ashamed To Be Called A “Woman Wrapper” Because He Will Always Find Pleasure In Assisting His Wife In House Chores And Baby Care For The General Well-Being Of His Family.

**A Godly Husband Is The Bread Winner Of His Family And Takes Pride In Providing For His Wife ‘Cos He Knows That The Bible Says That A Man Who Cannot Provide For His Family Is Worse Than An Infidel.

Having What It Takes To Be A Godly Husband Starts With Becoming Genuinely Born Again And Having The Life Of Christ In You Who’ll Work In You To His Pleasure. If And When This Is Done, Then The Holy Spirit Will Empower You To Truly Become A Godly Husband To The Glory Of God.

So Do You Have What It Takes To Be A Godly Husband? If Not, What Are You Waiting For To Go To Christ Who Alone Can Make You Become One?

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2013-05-31T06:15:00.005+01:00

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My Mother Is Standing Against My Relationship Because I’m Ahead Of My Guy. What’s Your View On This??

2013-05-29T11:42:00.002+01:00

Dear Beloved, I’m In A Relationship With A Guy Whom I Believe Is God's Will For My Life Through Various Confirmations But The Challenge Am Having Is That Am Already Through With My Degree And Am Presently Doing My Youth Service But He Is Just In Year Two(2) In A College Of Education And This Is Making My Mother To Stand Against The Relationship. She Said He Is Going To Delay Me And She Wouldn't Want Me To Experience What She Experienced ‘Cos Hers Too Was A Similar Case. Please I Need To Know Your View On This Matter.

ANSWER:

My Dear, Let Me Start By Saying That Once You’re Certainly Sure And Can Stake Your Life On The Confirmation You Received From God, Then Don’t Let Anyone Stop You Or Make You Change Your Mind About The Matter – Not Even Your Own Mother! She May Have Your Best Interest At Heart But Gently Let Her Know That It’s Better To Obey God’s Instructions That Hers.

But Where Problems Will Arise Is When You’re

Not Sure About The Confirmations From God. Let Me Ask You These Questions First; Did You Receive The Confirmations Firsthand From God? Or Are You Believing In Other People’s Confirmation From You? If Your Answer To The First Question Is Yes, Then I’ll Encourage You To Hold On To God And Wait For Your Guy.

But If Your Answer Is No To The First Question And Yes To The Second, Then I’ll Advise You To Go Personally To God In Prayers And Hear From Him Directly Without A Middleman. In Serious Issues Like Marriage, Approval From God Should Come To Us First Before Others Can Come As Confirmation Of What We Have Heard From God. If Not, We’ll Not Be Able To Stand Our Ground When Seemingly Serious Issues Start Springing Up.

Finally, Delay Is Not Denial Therefore Refuse To Believe Any Other Person’s Report But Stick To The Confirmation You Received Personally From God If You’re Really Sure They’re From Him. At God’s Own Time, Your Guy Will Graduate And Meet Up With You. Remember, God Makes All Things Beautiful At His Own Time.

#ObedienceToGod’sWordIsBetterThanSacrifice#

Emotions – Godly Or Carnal??

2013-05-28T08:06:00.000+01:00

The Abuse Of Our Emotions/Feelings Have Become So Great That Even Some Churches Now Preach Against Recognizing Our Feelings Or Discussing Our Emotional Challenges. This Was Not So From The Beginning. God Created Adam And Eve And Emotions Were Among Their Make-Up. If It Was Bad, God Wouldn’t Have Made It.

Emotions Are Beautifully Designed By God Himself And Since We Were Created In His Own Image, He Has Emotions Too – Anger, Joy, Compassion, Godly Jealousy, Etc. But Sin And The Fall Of Man Have Destroyed And Twisted The Original Purpose Of God In Making Emotions A Huge Part Of Us. As A Result, We Can No Longer Rely A Hundred Percent{100%} On Our Feelings.

As Genuine Believers In Christ Jesus, Our Emotions MUST Be

Taken Captive Of And Make It Obedient To The Authority Of Our Lord Jesus Christ By Surrendering It All To Him. Then He Will Sift The Wrong Ones From The Right So As To Enable Us Run The Heavenly Race Continually Victorious. Now, Should We Hide Our Emotions? NO!

2Cor.10:5 – “…And We Take Captive Every Thought To Make It Obedient To Christ.”

There’s Nothing Wrong Or Carnal In Discussing How We Feel With Our Intending Partners{Fiancé/Fiancée} Or Spouse If Married. For The Engaged Couples, There’s Nothing Wrong In Saying “I’m Really Missing You” Or “I Love You So Much” And For The Married, They Can Say Anything They Feel Towards Each Other To Themselves.

But I Will Say A Big NO! NO! To Those In A Relationship And Engaged But Unmarried Partners Discussing Sex Or How Aroused They Make Each Other On The Phone, Chat, Mails Etc. Because It’s Of No Use Inciting Each Other When You Both Know The Time Is Not Right. This Is One Of The Causes Of Masturbation ‘Cos One Or Both Of Them Would Want To Cool Off After Such “Hot” Discussions And We Ought to Know By Now That MASTURBATION IS A SIN!

Eccl.3:5b – “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”

I Also See Nothing Wrong In Sharing A Crush You Have On Someone With A Spiritual Father/Mother In The Lord For Counseling And Prayers. There’s Nothing Wrong In Sharing Your Inability To Control The Power Of Lust Over You, Your Sexual Urges; And Your Weakness In Stopping Masturbation With Someone You Respect And Trust For Godly Advice And Prayers – That Does Not Make You Carnal But Human!

It Is In Sharing And Prayers That Victory Is Gained But Satan Triumphs In Keeping Secrets. We Shouldn’t Hide Our Emotions But We Ought To Know The Right Place To Channel It To. You Are Responsible For Your Emotions/Feelings And Will Give An Account Of How You Handled Them And That Was Why Apostle Paul Said That He Brings/Beats His Body Under Control So That He Will Not Miss Heaven.

1Cor.9:27 – “No, I Beat My Body And Make It My Slave…”

Finally, Not All Emotions Must Ne Satisfied. Those In The World And Outside Of Christ Can Do As They Like By Satisfying All Their Feelings BUT NOT YOU That Has Been Pulled Out From The World{Born-Again} By Jesus. Never Act Based On Your Feelings Alone But Seek The Wisdom Of God In All You Do And He’ll Direct Those Emotions To Their Right Channels.

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2013-05-24T07:33:00.001+01:00

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How Do I Help My Sister To Stop Masturbating ‘Cos She Said It’s Not A Sin??

2013-05-23T13:07:00.003+01:00

Dear Beloved, Please I Need A Solid Back Up To Assist My Sister Of 26yrs Old Who Has Been Masturbating And She Claims It’s Not A Sin, I Tried To Advice Her, But She Told Me To Prove It To Her Where It Is Written In The Bible That Masturbation Is Sin? That Is Only Fornication And Adultery That Is Been Recorded As A Sin, That It’s Either I Let Her Be On Her Masturbation Or She Goes Out And Sleep With Countless Number Of Boyfriends; Which Do I Prefer? I’m Confused. Please What Do I Do To Help Her ‘Cos She Means So Much To Me?

ANSWER:

Hi Dear, For The Fact That The Bible Does Not Out-Rightly Call Masturbation A Sin Does Not Make It Right. Masturbation Is All About Pleasing Yourself And That Is What God Hates Because He Will Never Share His Glory With Any Man. When A Lady/Gent Masturbates, He/She Is Not Doing It To Please God But Rather To Please Themselves.

In 2 Tim.3 1-4, Paul Said That In The Last Days, “People Will Be Lovers Of Themselves, Lovers Of Money, Boastful, Proud, Abusive, Disobedient To Their Parents, Ungrateful, Unholy, Without Love, Unforgiving, Slanderous, Without Self-Control, Brutal, Not Lovers Of The Good, Treacherous, Rash, Conceited, Lovers Of Pleasure Rather Than Lovers Of God…”

Take Note Of

The Words, Lovers Of Themselves, Unholy, Without Self-Control And Lovers Of Pleasure Rather Than Lovers Of God. Anybody That Masturbates Loves His/Herself More Than God And They Seriously Lack Self Control Which Is Why They Cannot Control Themselves And Thereby Involve Themselves In Unholy Acts That Brings Shame To God.

Before We Can Truly Become Disciples Of Jesus, We Must Hate Ourselves. Jesus Said In Luke 14:26 That “If Anyone Comes To Me And Does Not Hate His Father And Mother, His Wife And Children, His Brothers And Sisters – YES , EVEN HIS OWN LIFE – He Cannot Be My Disciple.”(Emphasis Mine). Someone Who Masturbates Does Not Hate His/Herself And As Such Cannot Be A Disciple Of Jesus Christ.

Finally, Tell Her That The Root Form Of Masturbation Is Selfishness Which Is Not Of God. Then I Want You To Know That Your Sister Is Responsible For And Will Be Judged For Her Actions As You Will For Yours. Tell Her The Truth But If She Refuses To Change, Don’t Feel Too Bad But Continue Praying For Her To Become A New Creation In Christ ‘Cos Once God Opens Her Eyes, She Will Be Delivered From Masturbation. #AllWillBeWell#

The Cycle Of Worldly Love – Is This What You Want?

2013-05-20T11:44:00.000+01:00

When I Came Across This Wall Paper, I Really Felt Sorry For Whoever – Especially Those In Christ – Will Allow His/Her Relationship To Follow This Worldly Pattern. How Can You Engage In A Relationship That Rules Out God? How Do You Think It Can Ever Succeed When You That Claim To Be “Light” Associate Yourself With Someone Obviously In The Dark?

1Cor.6:14 – “do not be yoked together with unbelievers. for what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? or what fellowship can light have with darkness?”

A True Son/Daughter Of God Will Never

Enter A Relationship Without First Seeking To Know From God If The Relationship Will End Well – Marriage. Then You Must Be Prepared To Wait – No Matter How Long – Till He Assures You That The Relationship Is From Him And Will End In A Glorious Destiny-Fulfilling Marriage.

1Kings 22:5 – “…first seek the counsel of God”

Psalm34:10 – “…but those who seek the Lord lack no good thing.”

In The Cycle Of Godly Love, Christ Is At The Center Because A Three-Fold Cord Cannot Be Broken. Here Is How It Should Look Like: Becoming Friends >> Best Of Friends >> Consent From God To Love >> Courtship{Fiancé/Fiancée} >> Marriage. Boyfriend/Girlfriend Romance And ‘Testing-The-Waters’ Is The World’s Way And Most Often Ends In Heartbreaks.

Eccl.4:12b – “a cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

This Kind Of Godly Relationship Without Heartbreaks Can Only Come To Pass When You Completely Hand Over Your Relationship To God To Assess And Confirm. Have You Committed Your Relationship To God? If You Do This, Then You Will Avoid Heartbreaks And Returning To Square One Or Zero All Over Again.

Can A Marriage Be Blessed If One Of The Partners Committed Adultery In A Previous Marriage??

2013-05-15T14:45:00.001+01:00

Dear Beloved, Can A New Marriage Still Be Blessed If At One Point One Of The Individuals Committed Adultery In A Previous Marriage? Or Will The New Marriage Be Cursed And Suffer. Example: A Husband Is Still Legally Married But Been Separated From His Wife For Over A Year. The Wife Had Moved On During The Separation And About 2 Years Into The Separation Became Pregnant By Another Man/Boyfriend.

The Husband Had Moved On To Dating Another Woman During The Separation And Lived Out Of The Home. He Stayed Married To His Wife, Because She Would Make Up Excuses About Signing Divorce Papers, And Would Always Threaten To Keep His Daughter Away From Him Over Trivial Reasons. So, He Tried To Keep The Peace By Keeping The Divorce Topic To A Minimum To The Wife, Although She Had Already Moved On With Another Man Herself. The Divorce Finally Took Place Once The Wife Began To Cooperate, After She Became Pregnant By Her Boyfriend. At That Point She Brought Signed Divorced Papers To The Husband.

All The While During The Separation The Married Man Carried A Relationship With A New Woman, And Now Him And The New Woman That Dated For 4 Years Of The Separation Are Married. Both Love God. Will This New Marriage Be Blessed, Or Will There Be Bad Karma/Punishment Because They Did Not Wait To Date, And Carried On During A "Separated But Married" Time? How Should The New Wife, Who Really Honors Marriage Proceed With Confidence In Her Marriage, When She Was Technically Wrong For Dating Her Now Husband, When He Was Still Previously Married On Paper?

ANSWER:

My Dear Sister, In Answering Your Questions, I’ll Use The Scriptures Expressly So That This Matter Will Be Objectively Addressed. First Of All In Mal.2:13-14, God Refused To Answer Their Prayers Nor Accept Their Offerings Because He Is The Witness Between Him And The Wife Of His Youth Which He Has Broken Faith With. She’s His Partner, The Wife Of His Marriage Covenant.

Going Down Further To Verses 16 Of The Same Verse, The Lord God Of Israel Himself Said “I Hate Divorce…” In The Conclusion Of That Verse, We Were Warned To Guard Our Spirit And Do Not Break Faith. So Let It Be Clear First Of All That God Hates Divorce ‘Cos He Takes The Wedding Covenant Very Seriously.

Now, Let’s Go Over To 1Cor.7:10-11 Which Said “To The Married I Give This Command(Not I But The Lord): A Wife Must Not Separate From Her Husband. But If She Does, She Must Remain Unmarried Or Else Be Reconciled To Her Husband. And A Husband Must Not Divorce His Wife”. That Word ‘Must’ Is A Very Strong Word So Even Separation As We Just Read Is A No, No.

Jesus Himself Said In Matt.19:3-10 That Moses Allowed Divorce Because Of The Hardness Of The People’s Heart But From The Beginning, It Was Not So. He Said No

Man Should Separate What The Lord Has Joined Together And The Clause For Divorce Is On The Grounds Of Marital Unfaithfulness Of Which He Has Given Us A New Heart To Forgive ALL Wrongs Done To Us; Even Adultery!

He Said In Verse 11 Of The Same Chapter That “Not Everyone Can Accept This Word, But Only Those To Whom It Has Been Given”. This May Be A Hard Teaching And Many People Even Men And Women Of God May Not Accept It But That Does Not Change The Word Of God. I Will Say It Again: Marriage Is No Child’s Play ‘Cos It’s A Covenant That God As A Witness Doesn’t Joke With!

Finally, From Issue You Shared With Us, The Husband And Wife Both Did Wrong By Having Extra Marital Affairs And Before God, That’s Adultery Which Is The 7th Commandment. The New Wife Also Did Wrong By Having An Affair With A Married Man But In All, Prayers And Genuine Repentance Will Return Them All To The Loving Hands Of Our Lord Almighty And He Will Direct Their Steps Afresh In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Don’t Settle For Just Anybody – Wait On God!

2013-05-14T13:34:00.000+01:00

What Has The Enemy{Satan} Spoken Into Your Heart That Will Make You Settle For Just Anybody Like A Common Beggar? Did He Tell You That ‘All Your Mates Are Getting Married?’ Tell Him That Your Destiny Is Different From Theirs! Did He Tell You That Your Time{Age} Is Fast Passing By? Tell Him That God Makes ALL THINGS Beautiful In Its Time – Not Yours!

Jer.29:11 – “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Eccl.3:11a – “He has made everything beautiful in its time.”

If You Really Know Who You Are In Christ Jesus, You Will Never

Make The Mistake Of Choosing Any Lady Just By Thinking She’s So Hot And Sexy And You’re So Lucky To Catch Her Interest! You Will Not Accept A Proposal From Just Any Man When He’s An Ordinary Bench Warmer In The Church!

If Only You Knew The Treasure God Placed Within You, You Would Never Hurry Into Marriage And Give That Treasure/Pearl To A Pig/Swine Who Do Not Know The Worth Of Who He/She Got Married To. Am I Talking To A Bona-Fide Son/Daughter Of The Most High God? Why Can’t You Wait On The Lord For The Correct Life Partner!

Matt.7:6 – “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. if you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces.”

Desperation And Settling For Crumbs Are Not For The True Children Of God ‘Cos God Is Never In A Hurry. So Whenever The Enemy Pushes The Thought Of Settling For Just Anybody In Marriage Into Your Heart, Bind That Thought And Cast It Away Telling Him That You’re Not A Beggar ‘Cos Your Father Is The King Of kings And The Lords Of lords Who’ll Present Your Partner At The Appointed Time!

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2013-05-04T10:37:00.001+01:00

How Do I Know God’s Will On Who To Marry??

2013-04-30T21:20:00.003+01:00

Dear Beloved, How Do You Really Get To Know God's Will On Whom You Are To Marry? I’m In My Second Year At The University And Want To Ask; Is There Anything Wrong Engaging Into A Relationship Leading To Marriage?

ANSWER:

In Knowing The Will Of God On Whom You Are To Marry, The First Step Is In Knowing God As Your Father; Jesus As Your Lord And Saviour; And The Holy Spirit As Your Guide And Teacher – This Means Becoming Born Again. If You’ve Not Come To This Point In Your Life, Then I’ll Advise You To Begin At This Stage.

Secondly, The Will Of God, As Shown Us In 1 Thess.1:3-5a Says “It Is God’s Will That You Should Be Sanctified: That You Should Avoid Sexual Immorality; That Each Of You Should Learn To Control His Own Body In A Way That Is Holy And Honourable, Not In Passionate Lust Like The Heathen Who Do Not Know God.” This Is First Of All, God’s Will For Your Relationship.

You Cannot Be In A

Relationship Where You Are Engaging In Pre-Marital Sex And Know God’s Will Concerning The Guy/Lady. Being Sanctified In Christ Will Now Open The Way For You In Choosing The Right Life Partner. As A Lady, When A Man Proposes To You, The First Answer You Should Give To Him Is To Give You Some Time Before Getting His Reply.

Next, Take The Matter To God In Prayers And He Will, Through His Word Or A Deep Knowing In Your Heart, Confirm The Right Person To You. In Doing This, He’s Already Directing You On Choosing Rightly. And If It Is Not The Man That Proposed To You, Please Do Not Keep Him Waiting But Kindly Explain To Him That He’s Not The One For You.

Finally, Even In Your Second Year, There’s Nothing Wrong With Engaging In A Relationship That Will Lead To Marriage But You MUST Allow God To Confirm The Guy/Lady Before Proceeding. As For Me, I’ll Advice You To At Least Get To Your Final Year Or Even Graduate Before Planning To Settle Down. Maturity Also Helps In Making Wise Decisions. Shalom.

Be Careful Of Who You Get Married To ‘Cos It Defines Your Destiny!

2013-04-29T22:37:00.001+01:00

One Of The Hells On Earth Is Marrying The Wrong Person{You Can Ask Those Sadly Lamenting In A Marriage Of Barely Two(2) Years}. Your Marriage Can Make Or Mar Your Destiny Depending On The Person You Choose To Marry.

Some People Are Fire Extinguishers Used By Our Arch Enemy{The Devil} To Put Out The Godly Fire And Zeal In The Life Of A True Believer In Christ Jesus. You Must Therefore, Be Very Careful Of Whom You’re Getting Married To ‘Cos It Will Define Your Destiny!

So Many

Brothers And Sisters That Were Full Of Godly Zeal And So Passionate For The Things Of The Lord When They Were Single Are Now Lukewarm Or Even Cold Since They Got Married – No Thanks To Their Spouses!

Do Not Allow Emotions/Feelings And Lust Confused For Love You Into The Everlasting Bondage Of Unholy Wedlock. Do Not Allow The “Wed” In Your Marriage To Disappear Leaving Only The “Lock” To Remain Because For A True Child Of God, Divorce Is Never An Option!

So Why Not Wait Till God Brings Along The Right Person Your Way So That Your Destiny Will Remain Glorious In Christ Jesus

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2013-04-19T19:55:00.002+01:00

Is It Okay To Take And Send Pictures To Your Long Distance Partner??

2013-04-18T08:31:00.002+01:00

Dear Beloved, Is It Okay To Take Pictures For Someone You Are Committed To, Especially If You Guys Are In A Long Distance Relationship And Do Not Get To See Yourselves Often? What Are The Restrictions If Any That Should Be In Place If This Is Allowed.

ANSWER:

There’s Nothing Wrong In Sending Your Pictures To Someone You’re Committed To Who’s Far From You. But It Becomes NOT OKAY When Those Pictures Arouses Sexual Desires In Your Partner. Any Guy/Lady That Asks You To Send Nude, Semi-Nude Or Scantily-Dressed Pictures Of Yourself To Him/Her Is Not Of God. The Bible Strictly Warns Us To Avoid All Appearances Of Evil And This Warning Should Be Heeded.

When It Comes To Restrictions In Relationships, I Believe Every Relationship Is Unique And As Such Should Define Their Own Boundaries Because

What Favours This Relationship Might Not Favour The Other Relationship. But One Rule That Applies To Every Godly Relationship Is That Everything Should Be Done To The Glory Of God.

The Adage That Says “Too Much Of Everything Is Bad” Will Also Apply To Every Relationship. Sending So Many Pictures Of Yourself All The Time, Having Spicy And Sexy Talks Which Arouses Your Emotions All The Time, Sending And Texting “I Love And I Miss You Messages All The Time, Etc Shifts Your Focus From God To That Person And This Is Not Good.

Self Control Is A Fruit Of The Holy Spirit And Must Be Applied To All Relationships. Serious Matters That Will Help You To Know Each Other Better, Should Be Discussed. Never Do Something You’re Not So Comfortable With All In The Name Of Love. Speak Up And Tell The Other Person That What He Wants You To Be Doing Most Of The Time Is Not Okay With You And If He Really Loves You, He’ll Respect Your Feelings. #ApplyGodlyWisdom#

Is There A Problem In Meeting Your Spouse On Facebook??

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Dearly Beloved, I Met A Guy On Facebook ‘Cos We Happen To Have Hundreds Of Mutual Friends Including My Siblings Whom He Went To Same School With. It All Started When We Started Liking Each Other's Comments On Other People's Walls. This Continued For About Two(2) Years But None Us Was Bold Enough To Say Hello Or Add Each Other As Friends. Finally He Sent Me A Message To My Inbox. We Added Each Other And Started Talking Everyday And Now We Are Both In Love. The Good Thing I Like About Him Is That He Is Also Born Again & We Are Both Celibate. He Said He Is Only Into A Relationship Heading To Marriage So I Pray Every Day That It Works Out Fine ‘Cos I Really Like Him A Lot. But Here Comes My Problem, We Still Haven't Met ‘Cos I Am Thousands Of Miles Away From Him So I Don't Know How He Is Like In Person & This Gets Me Very Nervous. So, Please I Need To Know, Is There A Problem In Meeting Your Spouse On Facebook?

ANSWER:

My Dear, There’s Really No Problem In Meeting Your Spouse On Facebook Or Any Social Media On The Net. I Say This Because God Cannot Be Limited – He Can Use Any Medium To Being Two People Together. Actually, My Elder Sister Has Been Married For Four(4) Years Now And She Met Her Husband On One Of The Social Networks And By God’s Grace, They’re Both Happy And Enjoying Their Marriage.

Their Relationship Was Equally A Long-Distance One Like Yours But Before She Ever Committed To Her Husband, She Insisted That He Must

Pay Her A Visit(Take Note: Not You Doing The Visiting). He Did, They Discussed At Length Before They Both Committed To The Relationship. So, I’ll Advice You To Do The Same By Asking Him To Come Down And See You.

But Before Doing So, Pray And Seek God’s Face About The Relationship. That He’s A Born Again Christian Does Not Mean He’s God’s Choice Of A Husband For You And Also, People Can Claim A Lot But Actually Seeing And Knowing Them Reveals More Than They Say. Above All, Ask God To Reveal His True Person And Nature To You.

Finally, As He Visits You, Make Sure You Work Out The Modalities Of The Relationship Because Distance Relationship Requires Harder Work And Attention To Make It Work. In All, Commit Everything To God’s Hand And I Pray He’ll Work Everything Out For Your Own Good ‘Cos That’s His Plan For Your Life.

To Love And Be Loved In Return..

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Have You Ever Loved Someone Who Never Returned Your Love? Being Hurt Or Heart Broken Seems Of No Significance When Compared To The Silent Agony One Experiences Watching Who You Love Busy Loving Someone Else And Blissfully Ignorant Of Your Love.

Have You Ever Listened – With Pain In Your Heart – To The Secret Love Of Your Life Telling You About His Love For Another? Those That Has Passed Through Such Will Testify That It Is Not An Experience They Would Ever Want To Find Themselves In Again! Why You May Ask? It Simply Squeezes The Life Out Of You And It’s Also Against God’s Plan To Give You Life In Abundance.

God Never Wanted You To Experience A One-Sided Love. He Wants You To

Love And Be Loved In Return! One-Sided Love Causes You To Think You’re Inferior Or A Lesser Being But That’s A Big Lie Because You.. Yes You! Are Fearfully And Wonderfully Created By The God Almighty Himself In His Own Image{Psalm 139:14}.

One-Sided Love Begins When You Rush Ahead Of God And Fall Into The Trap Of Infatuation And Lust But When You Allow God To Bring The Right Person Your Way, The Person Will Love You For Who You Are And Not For What You Are Because The Love Of God Is Also Flowing Through Him/Her.

Unrequited Or One-Sided Love Should Never Be Found In The Life Of A Genuine Born-Again Believer In Christ Jesus Because It Is Not From God.

Decide Now To Wait For The Right Partner From God And He’ll See To It That You Will Love The Right Person And Be Fully Loved In Return Because Your Happiness Matters To Him!

FORNICATION AND PREGNANCY BEFORE MARRIAGE IS A SIN!

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“FIRST YOU SAID AM NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO YOU AGAIN, WHY SHOULD I? I DON’T ENJOY ANYTHING IN THIS RELATIONSHIP. FOR FOUR YEAR NOW I NEVER HAD SEX WITH YOU APART FROM THAT INCIDENT WHERE I ALMOST RAPED YOU. THIS MEANS U DON’T RESPECT MY FEELINGS, YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT MY EMOTIONS. IF YOU WANT ME TO START PAYING ATTENTION, GET ME WITH MY WEAKNESS. MY WEAKNESS IS SEX. GIVE IT TO ME. SO TO GET ME, GET PREGANANT FOR ME. IF YOU CAN DO THAT, I PROMISE NOT TO LEAVE YOU BUT TO MARRY YOU.”

Ladies In The House; Have You Ever Come Across Brothers Like The One Who Said This? Any “Brother” Or “Pastor-To-Be” Who Will Ever Utter These Words To You Is Not A Genuine Born Again Christian And You Should Run From Him! Another Man Who Will Appreciate You For Wanting To Keep Yourself Will Come For You By The Grace Of God.

Sex Without Marriage Is Fornication No Matter How We Try To Paint It And Any Guy That Says You Should Get Pregnant For Him Before He Can Marry You Is A Liar. Why Tempt God? Your Getting Pregnant Might Not Solve But Rather Compound The Problem And What Would You Now Do In This Case? Abortion? God Forbid!

[1 Pet.5:8 – “Be Self-Controlled And Alert. Your Enemy The Devil Prowls Around Like A Roaring Lion Looking For Someone To Devour.”]

What If His Family Or He Personally

Rejects You After Getting You To Commit Fornication And Becoming Pregnant For Him? Will She Now Take The Other Option Of Abortion Or Laying Curses On Him? Know Now That Curses On Him Will Not Work Because He Did Not Force You To Commit Fornication With Him. You Agreed!

Even If Him Or His Family Accepts The Pregnancy, They Can Still Refuse To Marry You. So Is It Better For You To Conceive And Raise Your Child Out Of Wedlock? Is It What God Asked You To Do? Have You Forgotten His Word In Heb.13:4 And 1Cor.6:18-20? Don’t Ever Allow Emotions And Desperation To Make A Mess Of And Wreck Your Life!

Finally, Any Man That Tries To Rape You Against Your Will Is Not A Christian Even If He Lives In The Church And Tells You He Wants To Become A Pastor. Flee All Works Of Darkness And Embrace Christ For He Alone Can Protect From Wolves In Sheep Clothing Going About As Brothers In The Lord.

#BE WISE#

Weekend Quote..

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What Can You Do If Your Partner Finds It Hard To Control His Emotions Around You??

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Dear Beloved, What If Your Partner Who You Are Convinced To Be The Will Of God Still Finds It Difficult To Control His Emotions When You Are Together Though A Christian. What Can You Do To Stop It?

ANSWER:

In As Much As I’ll Advice You To Avoid Being Together With Him Especially In Private Places, One Question I Need To Ask Is This; A Man That Finds It Hard To Control His Sexual Emotions Around You Will Also Find It Hard To Control His Emotions Around Other Ladies; So How Do You Plan To Put His Sexual Emotions In Check?

If It Is About You, I Can Easily Advice You On How To Control Your Sexual Emotions With The Help Of

The Holy Spirit Of Course, But This Is About Your Partner And Even When You Help Him Control His Emotions When You’re With Him, Who Would Help Him When You’re Not There? Being Just A Christian Is Not Enough; He Needs To Become Born Again In Christ Jesus.

When We Become Born Again, The Change Occurs In Our Spirit But We Also Have To Work On Our Mind Which Influences Our Bodies And That Is Why We Are Told In Rom.12:1b To Present Our Bodies As A Living Sacrifice, Holy And Acceptable To God, Which Is Our Reasonable Service. When We Do This, We Honour God With Our Bodies.

It Goes Further To Say In Verse 2 That We Should Not Conform To This World’s Standard But Rather Be Transformed By The RENEWAL OF OUR MINDS So As To Prove What Is That Good, Acceptable, And Perfect Will Of God. As Born Again Christians, We Must Make Sure To Do Away With All Fleshy Desires That War Within Us And Put On Christ Jesus Because We’re Dead To Sin And His Spirit Is Alive In Us.

Finally, On Your Part, Avoid Visiting Him Alone In His House If He Has A Place Of His Own. Do Not Sit Close To Him On A Chair If He Has A Tendency To Touch Or Caress You Whenever You’re Close To Him. Avoid Conversations That Arouses His Sexual Needs Rather Let Phil. 4:8 Be Your Watch Word. But Above All, Let Him Not Just Be A Christian But A Genuine Born Again Believer In Christ Jesus. Shalom

Do Not Waste Your Love..

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Do You Know That It’s Very Possible To Waste Your Love On The Wrong Partner? That You Spent Three(3) Or Five(5) Years In A Relationship Does Not Make It Marriage-Worthy If You’re With The Wrong Partner. It Means You Just Wasted Priceless Years Of Your Precious Life..

**Why Go Naked By Over-Exposing Your Breasts, Buttocks, Thighs, Fixing Artificial Eye-Lashes And Everything Fixable Just Because You’re Hoping Against Hope That You’ll Get Him/Her To Approve Of You?

**Why Lavish Your

Love And Expose Your Heart To The Wrong Person Who’ll End Up Trashing Or Breaking Your Heart Without A Second Thought?

**Why Waste Your Energy Servicing A Relationship – That You Know Deep Within Your Heart Will Not Last – Just Because You’re Desperate To Get Married?

**Why Waste Your Money Buying Heaven And Earth For Someone Who Does Not Give You A Second Thought And Forgets You Once You’re Gone Just Because He/She Is Physically Attractive?

**Why Labour In Vain By Cooking And Washing For A Man Who’ll Carry Another Lady Immediately You Leave His House ‘Cos He Really Has No Plans Of Marrying You?

When The Right Person Comes Into Your Life, Surely You Will Know It Except You’re Not In Christ Jesus. Better Wait On God To Give You The Right Person To Shower And Lavish Your Love Upon Than Suffering Avoidable Heartbreaks.

##PLEASE BE WISE!!

HE IS RISEN!! HAPPY EASTER!!!

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HE IS RISEN!!!

Thankful As We Are For The Empty Tomb, That Should Not Be The Only Thing That Convinces Us Jesus Is Alive..

The Greatest Evidence Is That He Is Alive Within Our Hearts – And For That We Ought To Be Eternally Thankful..

Happy Easter To You All..