Light and Dark

Sa vorbim putin despre Fiverr!

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 11 Jul 2015 21:45:00 +0300

Aceia dintre voi care nu ati auzit despre piata de pe Fiverr, va recomand sa faceti un mic research (pe google) si sa cititi despre ce este vorba. Pentru multi poate parea pierdere de timp, dar pentru cine a castigat deja un salariu lunar de director, lucrand de la biroul de acasa, din masina, din tren, din oras, din pat, din bucatarie sau din Cheile Dobrogei... si cate si mai cate locatii.

A fi sau nu a fi freelancer in Romania pentru toata lumea? Cine vrea sa aiba lumea la picioare si sa se simta intr-o continua vacanta? Eu stiu sigur ca imi place la nebunie ce fac... :)

Black Sweet Music and Dance

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 23:40:00 +0200

Sunt extrem de placut surprinsa sa aflu si sa vad cu cata gratie, eleganta si pricepere dansau majoritatea barbatilor dintr-un alt secol, persoane publice sau nu. Ce femeie s-ar fi putut plange intr-un astfel de caz? Voci si dans.

Ma opresc la una dintre formatiile care mi-au atras atentia in mod special, in primul rand prin vocea solistului si mai apoi prin coregrafia adoptata si anume: The Temptations, apartinand anilor '60.

Dean Martin and Frank Sinatra

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 6 Nov 2011 10:42:00 +0200

M-a surprins in mod placut ce show-uri televizate puteau realiza cei doi ilustri neegalabili in istoria muzicii, si anume, Frank Sinatra si Dean Martin. Personal, i-as aseza pe ambii pe un singur piedestal, la aceeasi inaltime. Talentul, umorul fin, eleganta si 'acel ceva' cu care trebuie sa te nasti pentru a ramane in istorie. Timpurile vitrege nu i-au impiedicat sa-si maximizeze talentul si nici sa incalzeasca milioane de suflete prin muzica lor si pofta de viata. Unii considerau ca acestia erau ipocriti. Poate am folosit un termen dur. Si pentru ce erau blamati? Pentru ca nu au alungat muzica din viata lor...si bucuria vietii. Mai ai o zi de trait. Ai refuza sa asculti o piesa superba?

Enjoy the show!

Prietenia dintre un barbat si o femeie? Ramane "?"

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 5 Nov 2011 12:42:00 +0200

Invartit-a mama soacra ce'nvarti si se pomeni cu o spoiala de toata frumusetea, tocmai'n fundu' curtii. Taiat. Taiati! Nu despre mama soacra incerc sa scriu. Ce vina sa aiba femeia?

Bun. De luminat spirite alese si chinuite, nu's priceputa. Cu prietenia asta, dintre un barbat si o femeie, mujer si hombre (incerc sa trag de timp, scriind inca 1 minut baliverne, sa para textul bogat, iar eu sa arat ce cultivata sunt) lucrurile sunt sucite, mai ales de cand cu libertatea in gand, exprimare, atitudine, viziuni asupra masinilor (viziunea asupra vietii/dezvoltarii spirituale, in acceptiunea majoritatii, nu si a mea, e o prostie fantastico-ireala-pentru batrani ramasi fara adaposturi) si s-a renuntat la a mai contura ceva, inteligibil, intre cele doua fiinte.

Ma indoiesc uneori de ceva: femeia nu este femeie...barbatul sa fie femeia? Iar femeia sa fi devenit barbat? S-au schimbat rolurile sau...? Clar lipseste conturul.
Unde vreau sa ajung?! Cat timp continua procesul asta difuz, obscur, incetosat, vag, confuz intre schimbul de roluri barbat-femeie aka femeie-barbat, desigur ca, pana si posibilitatea crearii unei prietenii intre cei 'doi' incepe sa-si piarda din nuanta, contur etc.

Barbatul nu mai poarta doar pantaloni. A uitat sa devina barbat in clipa in care a inceput sa-si epileze parul pubian sau fesier ori a inceput sa se penseze (cele mai apropiate exemple), ORI se vaita (de ii sare camasa) din cauza nenorocitei de ospatarite, care nu i-a gustat acea bezea si clipitul ochiului stang (ochiul drept fiind ocupat cu 'sectionarea' blondei/brunetei/roscatei din capatul barului). Frustrati, deprimati, sensibili. Clar, da. Barbatii sensibili, sentimentali, duri, prapastiosi, dramatici etc.

A se intelege ca fac referiri doar la majoritatea barbatilor care ocupa globul pamantesc, cel mult adorat (o clasa speciala si cu un nr. in continua crestere) cu nume gen: Iarta-ma, dar nu ma uita!, Te-am adorat si in somn!, Oala-sparta'n-cot (capul lipseste), Iubita mea cu corn in frunte!, Plang zi si noapte, iubita mea!...si tot asa.

Femeia si rolul pe care a fost nevoita sa si-l puna fix in geanta, au schimbat-o mai mult decat s-ar fi crezut. Cum nu imi plac generalizarile, specific si de data aceasta: afirmatiile sunt strict indreptate catre o anumita 'clasa'/categorie de femei (care acopera, in jur de 90% populatia globului).

Daca inainte (vremuri apuse) se mai putea vorbi, cu lejeritate si fara strop de confuzie, de prietenia intre un barbat si o femeie, iata ca spre crunta-mi dezamagire, nu mai este posibil sa sustin cu tarie asa ceva.

Cum? De ce? Si de ce naiba?...Dar au sens raspunsul si intrebarea?

Femeia zambeste cu superioritate cand simte gustul dulceag al razbunarii si cand il vede pe barbat 'aplecat' cu greata (am scris greata? de fapt era GRATIE), ca barbatul sa se intrebe "unde o fi mashina mea, Gratiela? Daca i-au furat rotile, cum mai ajung la coafor?".

Unii vor citi mesajul dintre randuri, altii nu vor intelege nimic, altii nu vor avea rabdare sa citeasca pana la capat, altii vor zambi (amuzati sau ironic sau misogini), altii se mira, altii casca, altii vor fi de neclintit, altii vor ramane apatici in continuare, insa, cu siguranta ramane in picioare pentru toata lumea, urmatoarea idee: nu mai este sigura relatia de prietenie dintre un barbat si o femeie! (fie ca iti place, fie ca nu, esti nevoit/a sa accepti si iti asumi riscuri)

The Animals from 60's

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 08:31:00 +0200

1964

1965

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Big girls don't cry

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 23:17:00 +0300

Cine garanteaza ca FETELE MARI nu plang?

THE 4 SEASONS

LULU

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I LOVE 50's & 60's

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 21:39:00 +0300

Muzica care a facut istorie si a influentat generatiile urmatoare de muzicieni. Enjoy!

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De ce ai cont pe Facebook?

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 11 Sep 2011 17:43:00 +0300

   Mai e putin si se implineste un an de cand am un cont pe, mult mediatizatul/cunoscutul site de socializare Facebook si am tot observat multe fenomene bizare, atitudini, reactii, interpretari eronate. Am vazut slabiciunile afisate cu atata nonsalanta ale utilizatorilor inraiti ai acestui site, cum ar fi oceanul de singuratate in care se scaldau. Nevoia de atentie creste de la o zi la alta pentru majoritatea utilizatorilor. Cu cat mai multe like-uri, poke-uri, comment-uri la poze, statusuri diversificate samd. cu atat depresia creste mai mult, dependenta pune stapanire pe oameni. Cati dintre voi ati recunoaste ca sunteti dependenti de Facebook? Cei care sunteti. Cate relatii de prietenie ati legat pe site? Cu cati din lista voastra de 'prieteni' va intalniti saptamanal...? Se trateaza dependenta de Facebook, exact ca la alcoolicii anonimi.
   Au ajuns multi sa te judece, sa afirme ca nu ai o viata sociala tocmai pentru ca nu ai sute/mii de asa zisi prieteni pe Facebook. Cat de stupid e sa fii catalogat astfel? Dar inainte de Facebook, ce aveai? Cati prieteni ai de fapt? Incepe numaratoarea inversa.

   In principiu, este util la ceva Facebook-ul. Din pacate, utilizarea lui este defectuoasa. Sa aducem argumente:

FEBRA F A C E B O O K

Ma lasi sa scriu pe P E R E T E L E (aka. WALL) tau?

POKE! FRIEND REQUESTS! Te superi daca iti dau IGNORE?

Facebook in REAL life! Cum ar fi?

Imnul F A C E B O O K:

Astazi avem cu totii aceeasi culoare

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Sun, 4 Sep 2011 13:10:00 +0300

Iti convine sau nu, TU 'albule', caci astfel te-ai autoproclamat de secole, cand te nasti culoarea pielii nu ti-e alba, ci ROZALIE; cand te infurii, pielea ta va capata tenta ROSIATICA; cand primesti un pumn in falca, pielea se coloreaza din nou: VIOLET-VERDE-ALBASTREALA; cand mori GRIUL isi cere drepturile de autor asupra tenului tau alb ca o perla. Si, totusi, nu realizezi ca aratai cu degetul si radeai de (aici nu voi folosi termenul arhicunoscut; binevoieste sa citesti printre randuri) de cel care nu avea culorile tale. Cum? Da, tu 'albule' esti de fapt cel colorat. Mai stii alta rasa atat de colorata? Mai ai putin si devii un curcubeu.

Revoltator cat de dogmatici au fost si inca mai sunt multi.

Si totusi.... s-au format familii.

A fost candva suferinta oamenilor cu o singura culoare a pielii. Si, prin cateva
colturi ale lumii,
mai sunt si astazi. Dumnezeu si judecata lui unde e? Pentru ei. Pentru ei...

S-ar fi crezut vreodata ca SUA va fi condusa de un om cu o singura culoare a pielii? Caci este unul dintre oamenii care au mereu aceeasi culoare a pielii. Ce se mai rasucesc in mormant stramosii.

Cum sa arati ca nu stii a scrie?

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 27 Aug 2011 17:35:00 +0300

Dau raspunsul: postam frumos cateva randuri pe un oarece site de socializare sau chiar pe blog. Ca sa fim in trend, dara. Asa cere obiceiul: nu ai blog, nu existi! Ganduri bune sau rele, suicidale sau nu, de amor sau ura, de ranchiuna sau marinimie, de exasperare sau frustrare...TOATE, dar toate aceste aspecte existentiale trebuiesc asternute frumos in randuri, in vazul tuturor. Sa vada vecina de la 3, draguta de ea. Dar imi place si vecinul de la blocul alaturat.

Ei, cum pot oare sa arat ca habar nu am sa povestesc si sa ma exprim in scris? Blogareala, clar. Trebuie sa fac dovada clara si de necontestat ca nu am acest talent a scrisului. Nu stiu de ce. Fiecare cu ce poate si stie. N-are a face.

Observ un lucru: singuratatea si lacomia din juru-mi. Lacomia omului de a avea atentie si din toata chestiunea asta nu se vede decat oceanul de singuratate si cum oamenii simt nevoia cronica de a arata ca se simt singuri, de a arata celorlalti ca au nevoie de atentie, au nevoie de sprijin moral, intind mana dupa ajutor de fapt. Asta se intampla. Cui sa-i placa un astfel de adevar crud? Si mastile purtate zi de zi: 'dar imi este foarte bine, draga!', "dar ce te face sa crezi ca cer atentie?", "ma simt fantastic cand schimb zeci de ganduri cu oameni pe care nu-i cunosc si stiu ca citesc cu sufletul la gura", "draga mea, dar ai idee cat de implinita ma simt pentru simplul fapt ca-i simt aproape pe oamenii aia straini?! Dar stii ca nu i-am vazut in viata mea? Ah, dar mai conteaza? Dar de ce ar conta? Eu sunt ferm convinsa ca Vasilica imi doreste binele. E asa prietenos cu mine. Habar nu ai tu, draga! Ce stii tu?! Sa vezi tu, aseara mi-a zis ca-i place cum arat in poza xvbr. M-am emotionat nespus de mult." , "Bine, bine. Imi pare bine ca ai zeci/sute/mii de id-uri, ip-uri si ca primesti un La multi ani sec de ziua ta, de la oameni pe care nu-i vei vedea in vecii vecilor tai si care se prefac ca-ti doresc sanatate, iubire, liniste sufleteasca. Imi place teatrul. Mereu mi-a placut teatrul. Regie! Ridica cortina aia si treceti la treaba. Nu cu graba, domniile voastre. Pe rand. In linie dreapta, va rog, ca in liste de mess sau ca la dansul ala, Pinguinul. Putina consideratiune fata de cei mai lenti si saraci cu duhul".

Asa. Parca arata mai bine acum. Nu e nici o logica. E doar fanfaronada.

Eleva criminala, Alexandra Pintili

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 19:40:00 +0300

Va mai aduceti aminte de "eleva criminala" (multi ani o sa aiba, din pacate, acest pseudonim), care facea senzatie in tara noastra la inceputul lui 2009? Mai exact luna martie 2009. Alexandra Pintili (17 ani), caci despre ea este vorba. De mai exista si o alta 'eleva criminala' bucuroasa as primi informatia. Se intampla sa mai gresim cand e vorba de asemenea informatii.

Nu voi face pe justitiarul si nici pe bunul samaritean. Fata a comis o crima. Fapt dovedit. I s-a acordat o sansa la viata in umilul ei popor. Tanara e libera sa-si continuie studiile ca orice adolescent. Mai departe depinde de ea.

10 Tips For Web Success

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 6 Aug 2011 18:56:00 +0300

The webmaster's biggest job is to get their traffic up and keep customers/visitors coming back. Building the site is one thing, but simply building and posting a website does not guarantee traffic. In fact, a website could be beautiful and an example of all the latest technology and still not attract a single visitor if not promoted correctly. Here are 10 tips to guide you to success with your website.

1. The internet is a new medium.
At least compared to print, it is. A website is a waste if it simply re-hashes something which could easily be put into print. Don't have the site be just an online brochure. Put up features which take advantage of the internet as a medium of communication. Filter information for them. Provide search capability. Provide interactivity with features like forums, quizzes and tools. Web visitors like to interact.

2. Treat the Customer's Time as Valuable.
When a person visits your website, you have their attention for that point in time. You either need to use it or you will lose it - fast. Most visitors have short attention spans, what you need to design your site homepage so that it grabs their attention and provides what they are looking for right away. Its like walking into a restaurant. If you walk in and just stand there and nobody comes to greet you, you might wonder what is happening. But, if the hostess comes and greets you right away and walks you to a table, then you will be there for awhile and eat. The same analogy goes for websites. Don't overcomplicate your website homepage. Best results will be obtained if you make it very clear where to click to find what they need.

3. Design the site for customers, not the company.
Your site needs to satisfy the needs of customers, not the company. So, don't post content which is not really useful to the site's customer. And avoid over-flattering marketing hype about the company. It inflates the ego of the company more than it helps your customer.

4. Involve the Visitor.
Keep the visitor involved and make them feel like a valuable contributor. Actively ask for the feedback and suggestions. Ask for communication from your visitors and answer that communication swiftly. When getting that communication, capture their email address. This will allow you to communicate with them long after they have moved on and forgotten about you.

5. Keep it Current.
You need to have content on your website which is timely and relevant to the customer's life. Posting month-old news is not interesting. Posting dry product information which never changes is not interesting. Yes, you need to have product information and other information on your site that won't change much, but you can also post more timely content. You can, for example, post content about how your products can be used in certain situations in life. Provide tips and techniques - things which are immediately applicable and solve a problem.

6. Pay Attention to Form/Design.
Some sites simply over-do it on the eye-candy. Big graphics just for the sake of graphics often impress the site's designer more than the visitor. Do not use graphics that are large and purposeless. Remember, some visitors may still be accessing your website via dial-up. Your site needs to load up quickly for all users. A slow website will cause your users to leave quickly. Also, pay attention to graphic and design size. Many web designers operate on fairly large screen resolutions and sometimes forget that even though a graphic looks great to you, it will appear enormous to somebody on a smaller resolution. On the flip side, don't go too light on graphics. A site which is poorly designed and using the default font and no color is not very aesthetically pleasing. Any web visitor, whether they admit it or not, judges your company by your website unless they have something else to go on. A well-designed site communicates professionalism. A poor design makes the site seem like an afterthought.

7. Promote.
When a visitor communicates to you via email, it is best to use a web form. not only will this keep your email address from being picked up by spammers, it will also allow you to ask your customers for their email address and then store that address for later use. Employ the "push/pull" marketing strategy. A visitor coming to your website is the pull, but later you want to push content back to them in the form of a newsletter or other promotional material. Start a mailing list and use it. Invite visitors to sign up. Promotion makes or breaks a business, and as long as you respect the ethical considerations of your mailing list, you should use it.

8. Don't Operate in a Cocoon.
The internet is a medium which is shared by millions. When you set up your website, don't operate as if you are a self-contained island. Get out there and keep in tune with what is happening on other websites related to your own. Participate in forums. Post links to other websites and ask for a link in return. Form partnerships with other sites if it is appropriate. When it comes to communication, people like personal contacts. Hiding behind general email address like "sales" and "info" is OK as long as there is a way to also email you directly. A company site which allows email direct to the management is good. Just remember how much you hate calling a company and getting stuck in their phone system. Sometimes you just want to talk to somebody. Give your visitors that ability.

9. Have a Plan to Attract Repeat Traffic.
Use newsletters, out-going email, contests, forums, clubs, auctions - anything that will cause people to return to your website. When posting links to other websites, don't just send your visitors somewhere else. They may never return. Provide them an exit page. Give them a pop-up when they try to leave your site. Or at the very least make external links open in a new window.

10. Track Your Visitors
Pay attention to your site's statistics and react accordingly. What are people reading? How are they finding you? Do they just come and leave right from your homepage? How long as they are on your website? Do they return? This data is immensely valuable in fine-tuning your website based on customer needs and wants. Remember, the biggest mistake of any webmaster is designing the site for what THEY want. A successful website is designed for the target audience, not to impress the site's owner.

About the author:
David Risley is a web developer and founder of PC Media, Inc. (http://www.pcmedianet.com). Specializes in PHP/MySQL development, consulting and internet business management. He is also the founder of PC Mechanic (http://www.pcmech.com), a large website delivering do-it-yourself computer information to thousands of users every day.

How to Increase Your Computer Speed Fast

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Sat, 6 Aug 2011 18:53:00 +0300

I'm sure you've come across tons of articles and even suggestions from some of your friends on how to get your computer to work faster. Its really not that hard to increase your internet speed. I'm going to make it real simple for you and you don't need to be a computer geek to make this work. The first thing you need to remember is to never, and I mean absolutely never download programs especially free software without reading the fine print. Most free computer software will bombard your computer with spyware which will eventually bring your internet speed to a screeching halt! If your computer is already infected with spyware you can download the leading spyware remover called ad-aware which will scan your computer and remove spyware and tracking cookies from your computer.

Another way of making your computer and internet connection faster is by clicking on start, then run and typing in msconfig. Go to start tab and remove any program except your antivirus software and any other program which you must have start when windows starts. This tip will increase your computer start up time dramatically!

Step number 3, and I do this almost on a daily basis is to clean up your internet cache. Go to your control panel which you can access from your start button and click on internet options. Go to temporary internet files and clear your history. I would recommend that you also set internet history to a maximum of 2 days. Next step is to delete your temporary internet files including offline content. Last step is to delete cookies. Be careful though because deleting your cookies will also delete useful information from your computer. You can read a how to on cookies here www.howstuffworks.com/cookie.htm.

These steps are the basics you can take which will speed up your internet connection immediately. I would also recommend doing a virus check on your computer on a weekly basis. If you don't have antivirus software, get it! You'll be happy you did. Just one virus can wreak havoc on your computer! Make sure you test your internet speed whether its broadband or dial-up, before and after you take these simple steps so you can compare if these steps you've taken have worked. Taking these basic steps will make you a happy surfer and will restore your faith in the World wide web!

About the author:
Gio Mangano is the owner of which offers Instant quotes on T1 Line and business DSL. Gio Mangano also publishes a blog on computer tips and tricks and improving your internet speed at

Alienation

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 21:05:00 +0200

Alienation is a powerful feeling of isolation and loneliness, and stems from a variety of causes. Alienation may occur in response to certain events or situations in society or in one's personal life. Examples of events that may lead to an individual's feeling of alienation include the loss of a charismatic group leader, or the discovery that a person who served as a role model has serious shortcomings. Examples of personal events are a death in the family, a job change, divorce, or leaving home for the first time. Although most people may find that such occurrences trigger temporary feelings of disillusionment or loneliness, a small percentage will be unable to overcome these events, and will feel hopelessly adrift and alone.

Many sociologists have observed and commented upon an increase in this feeling of alienation among young people since the 1960s. They attribute this alienation to a variety of societal conditions: the rapid changes in society during this period, the increase in alcohol and drug abuse, violence in the media, or the lack of communal values in the culture at large. Some sociologists observe that individuals become alienated when they perceive government, employment, or educational institutions as cold and impersonal, unresponsive to those who need their services. Entire groups may experience alienation-for example, ethnic minorities or residents of inner city neighborhoods who feel the opportunities and advantages of mainstream society are beyond their reach.

Feeling separated from society is not the only way a person experiences alienation: sometimes the individual feels alienation as disharmony with his or her true self. This condition develops when a person accepts societal expectations (to take over a family business, for example) that are counter to the person's true goals, feelings, or desires (perhaps to be a teacher). He may appear to be successful in the role others expect him to assume, but his true wish is hidden, leaving him feeling deeply conflicted and alone.

In the workplace, jobs have become increasingly specialized since the 1700s and the Industrial Revolution. Workers may see little connection between the tasks they perform and the final product or service, and may thus feel intense loneliness while in the midst of a busy work environment. In the 1840s, American writer and philosopher Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862) observed that "the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation." Thoreau dealt with his own feelings of alienation by retreating to a solitary, simple life on the banks of Walden Pond in rural Massachusetts. He felt less isolated there-even though he lived in solitude-than when he lived in a town, surrounded by people. When living in town, his feelings of alienation confronted him daily, since his activities did not reflect his true feelings and desires.

Alienation is expressed differently by different people. Some become withdrawn and lethargic; others may react with hostility and violence; still others may become disoriented, rejecting traditional values and behavior by adopting an outlandish appearance and erratic behavior patterns. As society undergoes rapid changes, and traditional values and behavioral standards are challenged, some people find little they can believe in and so have difficulty constructing a reality in which they can find a place for themselves. It is for this reason that social and cultural beliefs play such an important role in bringing about or averting a feeling of alienation.

Psychologists help people cope with feelings of alienation by developing exercises or designing specific tasks to help the person become more engaged in society. For example, by identifying the alienated individual's true feelings, the psychologist may suggest a volunteer activity or a job change to bring the individual into contact with society in a way that has meaning for him or her.

Some have proposed treating the epidemic of alienation among America's young people by fostering social solutions rather than individual solutions. One such social solution is the idea of communitarianism, a movement begun early in the 1990s by Amitai Etzioni, a sociology professor from George Washington University in Washington, D.C. Etzioni became a popular speaker and writer in the mid-1990s with the publication of his book, The Spirit of Community. Etzioni advocates a return to community values to replace the rampant alienation of contemporary culture, education to reinforce shared societal morals focusing on family values, and strictly enforcing anti-crime measures. This movement has met serious criticism, however; civil libertarian groups are concerned about communitarian beliefs that certain rights can and should be restricted for the good of the community.

Bibliography for: "Alienation"

D'Antonio, Michael. "I or We." Mother Jones (May-June 1994): 20 .
Foster, Hal. "Cult of Despair." New York Times (30 December 1994): A3.
Guinness, Alma, ed. ABCs of the Human Mind. Pleasantville, NY: Reader's Digest Association, 1990.
Jackson, Richard. "Alone in the Crowd: Breaking the Isolation of Childhood." School Library Journal (November 1995): 24.
Upton, Julia. "A Generation of Refugees." The Catholic World (September-October 1995): 204 .

Abnormal psychology

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Thu, 18 Nov 2010 20:32:00 +0200

Abnormal behavior is defined as behavior that is considered to be maladaptive or deviant by the social culture in which it occurs. Though disagreement exists regarding which particular behaviors can be classified as abnormal, psychologists have defined several criteria for purposes of classification. One is that the behavior occurs infrequently and thus deviates from statistical norms. Another is that the behavior deviates from social norms of acceptable behavior. A third is that the behavior is maladaptive, that it has adverse affects on the individual or on the individual's social group. Lastly, abnormality may be defined based on the subjective feelings of misery, depression, or anxiety of an individual rather than any behavior he exhibits.

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 4th edition (DSM-IV), is a classification system of abnormal behaviors which aids psychologists and other mental health professionals in diagnosing and treating mental disorders. DSM-IV includes the major categories of abnormal behavior which are anxiety disorders, such as obsessive-compulsive disorders and phobias; affective disorders, which are disturbances of mood such as depression; schizophrenic disorders, which are characterized by major disturbances in personality and distortion of reality; and various personality disorders.

While psychologists use similar criteria to diagnose abnormal behavior, their perspectives in understanding and treating related disorders vary greatly. For instance, a psychologist with a psychoanalytic approach would explain depression as a reaction to loss, worsened by anger turned inward. A behavioral psychologist would assume a lack of positive reinforcement to be a significant cause in the disease. A cognitive theorist would focus on the negative thought patterns and attitudes of an individual in contributing to his depression. And a psychologist with a biological perspective would consider a chemical imbalance in the nervous system of a depressed individual to be responsible for his disorder. Many studies have shown that a number of these factors may come into play in the life of an individual suffering from a mental disorder characterized by abnormal behavior.

Bibliography for: "Abnormal psychology"

Oldham, John M. The New Personality Self-Portrait. New York: Bantam, 1995.
Personality Disorders and the Five-Factor Model of Personality. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association, 1994.

O carte...

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 19:12:00 +0300

Poate nu sunt multi dintre voi care sa fi auzit, in trecere, de autorul Daniel Goleman. Deschid acest articol pt una din cartile sale, 'Inteligenta emotionala' (exista pe piata si in traducerea limbii noaste materne) pe care o recomand, macar din curiozitate.
Sa purcedem prin cativa pasi a unei analize asupra acestei carti:
'Cartea lui Daniel Goleman a marcat o revolutie uluitoare in psihologie prin analiza importantei covarsitoare a emotiilor in dezvoltarea personalitatii umane.Studiul sau ne arata cum , atunci cand ne intelegem sentimentele, situatia in care ne aflam devine mai limpede.'
Intotdeauna incolteste intr-un 'sertar' al mintii impulsul de a analiza (cel putin in al meu:) )
Sunt de acord in primele randuri..iar acum urmeaza:

'Descoperim chiar un nou mod de a privi cauzele bolilor care ne macina familia si societatea.'
Aici nu mai sunt de acord,in totalitate. O sa iau in brate 'dreptul la libera exprimare' si o sa astern propria-mi opinie. Trebuia totusi mentionat tipul bolii/bolilor ce ne-ar putea afecta familia, pt ca ea primeaza in fond si la urma urmei. Aici e un minus,zic eu. Voi da cu presupusul prin faptul ca persoana in cauza,care a scris randul de mai sus (pus intre ghilimele) se referea strict la afectiuni ale creierului si nu al vreunui organ uman, iar asta trebuia sa fie subinteles de catre cititor.Depresia este o boala.Cine e vinovatul?Familia sau societatea? Voi raspundeti aici..

Sa facem cunoscut publicului larg termenul de INTELIGENTA EMOTIONALA (EQ) , pe langa cel binecunoscut ca fiind IQ (intelligence quotient=coeficientul de inteligenta). Traducerea e de prisos,nu?
Acum nu stiu daca fac bine, asternand cateva remarci pe aceasta tema,pe langa alte milioane din toata lumea. Ideea e ca autorul a deschis calea unei psihologii ce acorda un interes egal (IQ) si inteligentei emotionale (EQ), lucru pe care il aprob in mare masura.Gasesc ca isi are o importanta chiar mai mare in dezvoltarea fiecarui individ,pe parcursul vietii..pastrarea individualitatii pe parcursul vietii...la ce bun un IQ impresionant,peste medie, daca nu i se poate atribui si un EQ pe aceeasi masura, daca nu isi poate stapani singur acel echilibru interior, daca nu isi poate controla sentimentele,impulsurile(aici intra si autodisciplina) ...daca nu e in stare sa-si imbunatateasca inteligenta emotionala o persoana cu un IQ ridicat,sa zicem,....personal,compatimesc acel om.
Depinde de fiecare individ pana la urma si de prioritatile fiecaruia in viata ce i se asterne in fatza,de cum vrea sa o traiasca..caci,pana la urma,cu totii vom avea acelasi final,dar CUM va fi acest final?

Inteligenta emotionala

light.on08@gmail.com (Anonymous) — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 18:55:00 +0300

Cum iti explici ca unii oameni traiesc fericiti, inconjurati de persoane care ii iubesc, pe cand altii sunt singuri si tristi? Acum urmeaza si secretul.

Ce inseamna pentru tine sa ai succes?
Cate capete, atatea raspunsuri. Poate sa insemne sa faci un munte de bani. Sau sa ai o familie fericita. Sau sa fii o mare vedeta. Sa scrii carti pe care sa le citeasca toata lumea. Sa faci o calatorie in jurul lumii. Sa pui bazele unei organizatii umanitare. Fiecare om are propria lui definitie a succesului. Dar exista, in toata aceasta diversitate de raspunsuri, un punct comun: semnificatia succesului. Succesul inseamna sa-ti indeplinesti scopul. Bineinteles, pentru ca sa ai succes, trebuie mai intai sa-ti fie foarte clar scopul. Si aici, trebuie sa recunoastem ca majoritatea dintre noi actionam sub impulsul emotiilor, si abia cand lucrurile nu se termina cum am fi dorit, incepem sa ne intrebam – uneori nici atunci – ce scop am avut.

Ce este inteligenta emotionala?
Toata lumea stie ce inseamna sa fii inteligent. In cateva cuvinte, este capacitatea de a face conexiuni intre informatiile inmagazinate in memorie, de a le ordona eficient. Aceasta are de a face cu ratiunea, cu mintea clara si cu notele mari de la scoala. Dar cum iti explici faptul ca premiantul clasei nu a ajuns nici macar director, iar colegul care avea note medii, dar care era simpatic, are ditamai lantul de firme de succes? Ce a facut ca al doilea sa fie cel care a reusit din punct de vedere social? Un grad de inteligenta emotionala mai mare, as spune. Inteligenta emotionala este cea care te face sa stii cum sa-ti gestionezi emotiile si cum sa comunici eficient cu ceilalti, in asa fel incat sa-ti indeplinesti scopurile. Evident, este important si sa fii inteligent ca sa ai succes, asta te va ajuta sa-ti identifici aceste scopuri.