Relationship & Dating

Christian Courtship

2012-07-31T06:34:00.000-07:00

INTRODUCTION
Christian Courtship is a period before marriage where a christian brother and sister agree about many issues and see if they both share the same vision, hope and aspirations about marriage. It involves two people that have agreed to walk together, in the direction of marriage- Amos 3:3.

THE IMPORTANCE OF COURTSHIP
Courtship is very important and necessary for the intending couple to observe, if they want to enjoy their marriage. It is during the courtship that proper biblical foundation must be laid down in order to have a happy married life. It is a period to get to know each other intimately apart from carnal knowledge and illicit romance.
Before you venture into wedding plans, both of you must agree on a lot of things like what you both want for your marriage.Know each other's strength and weaknesses, likes and dislikes and parents. Both of you must realize what marriage means TILL DEATH DO US PART.
It is a time to plan for the wedding and the marriage. One vital issue that must be addressed during this period is to obtain the consent of both parents - Gen 24:54-59. It is a period to undertake marriage counselling lessons. After proposing to a lady and she has agreed to marry you, the next thing to do is to obey the biblical injunction to prove all things- 1 Thess 5:21. Secretly indulging in bodily, emotional and sexual pleasure at this stage with your marriage partner is a sin- Rom 12:1-2.It is a potential sign of marital failure.
LONG COURTSHIP NOT ADVISABLE
Long courtship, in the interest of two partners is not advisable. In some churches, long courtship of not less than two years is encouraged with the hope that with such time input, the couple will get to know each other properly This can, however, easily expose the partners to sexual temptation and thus break the divine constitution "touch not; taste not; handle not" Col 2:21.
Besides, human beings can pretend and hide true identities until after the real marriage. To save the intending couple, therefore, a minimum period of six months and maximum of one year is recommended or advisable.
CONCLUSION
Our heavenly father is the best friend anyone can have but also the worst enemy a man can have. Remember, He is the one that ordained the institution of marriage. It will be dangerous for anyone to attempt to establish a home without Him. Courtship is not a period to play pranks. Watch and be warned.

SHOULD EVERY CHRISTIAN MARRY?

2012-07-27T05:31:00.000-07:00

It is not compulsory for all Christians to marry. Jesus Christ the son of God did his assignment in singleness and since he had the mind of God, what did you say? The doctor well thought-out in all he did. He was meticulous all circular and did not plop his father to bring into disrepute. Paul furthermore did not marry. He was a man of God, an apostle and had the mind of Christ. The peer of the realm maxim him through his unit therefore can say I let somebody have escalation to fight the decent fight since he was influenced by the spirit of God and he remained paying attention. Because of his request to supply God, he gave himself entirely to his effect and service, reaping spiritual souls pro the peer of the realm exclusive of looking back. He was resolute to grasp the goal.

During Genesis 1:27-28 says “So God twisted man in his own image, in the image of God he twisted him; male and female he twisted them. God blessed them and assumed to them, “Be fruitful and escalation in sum fill the earth and calm down it:-----

Here God instituted wedding as a instruct to be fruitful and escalation in sum fill the earth and calm down it. Whether you marry or stay single is exactly in God’s jet. Provided all you solve is too fortunate and honour him as peer of the realm bigger than your life.

Practical solutions to sexual problems of young couples Series SEX AFTER DELIVERY

2011-10-07T14:11:00.000-07:00

In continuation on the series I have been running on practical solutions to sexual problems of young couples, I will discuss the next in the series which series six – SEX AFTER DELIVERY.

At this junction, God has answered the prayer that was said on the wedding day which was for fruitfulness for the union. Now the first fruit has come. This is coming with its own challenges that need knowledge, understanding and wisdom to handle them.

After the delivery of the baby, medical knowledge tells us not to have coitus (sex) till after six weeks. These weeks will help the woman physiologically to have her various organs receive strength for restoration. They are simply the weeks of healing and restoration.

Some men find it difficult to wait for six weeks. So they find solution to this challenge outside their home and outside their wife. It is a SIN. Such men are joining themselves with strange women, so they should not be surprised if they experience strange curses. Be warned! Proverbs 7:24-27.

In order to avoid this, spouses can continue to enjoy their sexual intercourse within these six weeks except for coitus in the first two to three weeks. Remember, sexual intercourse is not all about coitus. It is enjoying totality of the sexuality of your spouse.

You need to be conscious of the wellbeing of the woman. As a man, be sure you are not hurting her physically, psychologically and otherwise. On the other hand, many women use the arrival of the baby to cover up their lack of cooperation. Some of them are actually interested in sexual intercourse for the purpose of child bearing. Now that the baby has come, a prove of fruitfulness, such women no longer allows the husband to have access to them. This is totally WRONG! As a couple, the baby is a blessing from God, therefore we should allow the devil to use to scatter or mar the union. Be sincere to each other because insincerity can bring disunity in the home. Also do not build your home on ignorance, seek knowledge and live in the truth.

Many women shift attention and affections from their husband to the new born baby. This is deception on the highest order. It will interest to know that the baby will grow and leave you. You will be left alone with your abandoned husband. If you miss the time you need to learnt together with your spouse and grow together as couple you will later regret it. It is my advice that you should never share your spouse’s love and attention with your children for any reason. The children have their place, place them there!

Adeyeye Michael A

Love turns the world around

WISDOM DIARY ON A FRIEND

2011-07-20T08:23:00.001-07:00

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PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO SEXUAL PROBLEMS OF YOUNG COUPLES.SERIES 5

2011-06-10T03:33:00.000-07:00

SEX IN PREGNANCY

Marriage is a life long journey which goes with this statement “until death do us part”. Since it is a life long journey, it has phases. Each of these phases has its own challenges. These challenges, if not properly handled could pull a home down.

One of such blessings in disguise in the lives of young couples is pregnancy. Do not allow the devil to have a hold over your home because this issue can break a home. Many new couples know or expect pregnancy after wedding but are many of them not prepared for the challenges that come with it.

The number one challenge that comes in as a result of your sex during honey moon is what many new couples call malaria but I call it “malusband”. The woman has been fully fed by her husband so much that through God’s grace and favour she now feels the impact of the retained “dose” Gen 4:1. Your wife too has conceived and you both need wisdom to handle this phase. My advice to young couple that when you notice any weakness or high temperature in your wife do not rush to take any anti malaria treatment (signs of pregnancy). Please see your doctor or a more matured woman / man.

You need to know now that your wife is pregnant and with child. Everything about her has changed. These changes are not what anybody can fully explain. It differs from one person to another, so seek knowledge and apply wisdom.

Sex should not stop because of pregnancy but it needs different techniques at every stage of the pregnancy. It also needs the knowledge of the woman’s state of health. Some men are selfish, they lack self control. They have taken some foolish steps when their wives are pregnant and now live in regret because they have destroyed their homes and kept their wives under depression.

Likewise, some women have through their first pregnancy pushed their husband out. You need not go out and mess your life and your home. Be wise, seek counsel, seek knowledge and live a life of wisdom.

Some people believe that sexual intercourse during pregnancy will affect the baby in the womb. This is not true. Immediately conception takes place, the baby is secured. At this stage, sexual intercourse becomes sweeter because the woman can easily reach her orgasm due to a lot of secretion which lubricate her. So the pain, if any is reduced and the two can keep on enjoying each other till delivery. Sex is not a time for oppressing each other. It is an expression of love. So remember love is not selfish and it is not self seeking.

Now, during intercourse, the two should know that the woman will get tired very quickly. The man should help her and handle her with wisdom.

PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO SEXUAL PROBLEMS OF YOUNG COUPLES.

2011-06-05T16:18:00.000-07:00

SERIES 4

SEX DURING MENSTRUATION

Some women start their monthly menstrual period few days before or even on their wedding day. This could be understood. They are under pressure and depression because of the wedding preparation. Anxiety is known to induce menstruation so; it is not surprising that some women tied the nuptial knot with blood on. Does it mean that menstruation constitutes itself as a road block to sexual intercourse on the first night?

Our culture has a lot of taboo associated with blood and women in blood. It is believed that no man should go near his wife during her period. Reason been that she is unclean and any man that touches her cannot enter the place of worship without spiritual cleansing. Some believed that such union could lead to having imbecile child. It is also believed that such men will lose their spiritual powers that may make their enemies prevail over them. God has redeemed us for all kinds of purification problems through Christ Jesus. Therefore, menstruation is not a road block for sexual intercourse; the blood even serves as lubricant to make easy access in. Some women also testified to enjoying sex at such times. This is because intercourse can cause easy flow of the blood which in turn brings relief to their entire body system.

Women that found themselves in this situation are encouraged to give in to their husbands demand at such a point in time. Menstruation should not be a barrier to achieving the long awaited hope and expectation. It is not a road block but pathway to ease and comfort for a pleasant sexual satisfaction in your first night.

However, the following need be looked into with respect blood stain;-

1. The woman menstrual pain. During this period, women undergo pains and it differs from one woman to another. Some women have serious menstrual pain. You need to know if she can cope. Some, at such times, have serious stomach pain while some are completely down physically and psychologically. The psychological aspect is what you can help her overcome. But please, be careful to understand the physical aspect of the pain; do not injure your wife on your first night.

2. The man psychological and emotional feelings. How is the man able to cope in the presence of fresh blood? Is the man irritated? Can he withstand it? The ability of each man to cope differs. It means therefore that the extent to which you enjoy the sexual intercourse depends on the level of the ability of the man to cope in such a situation.

3. The blood stain. The two must be prepared for the blood stain all around their private parts and on the bed. This means that they should get a bedspread which does not retain stain or get a small cloth which they can put just at the bed area of the intercourse. The two should immediately clean up after sex.

Sexual intercourse during menstruation has more of emotional effect than physical, medical and spiritual effects. If the two can overcome whatever psychological / emotional feelings, they will definitely enjoy it.

Enjoy yourselves.

PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO SEXUAL PROBLEMS OF YOUNG COUPLES. SERIES 3

2011-06-04T03:11:00.000-07:00

SERIES 3

WISDOM FOR VIRGINS

Virginity is what the bible teaches for the unmarried. You are now matured and ready to disvirgined. You are in the right place with the right person.

Many good mothers create in their daughters’ fear of sexual intercourse. They do this with good intention. This was done to keep such daughter from pre – marital sex. Little did the parents know that their prescribed dose has its negative effect on these girls as they go into marriage. Such girls need an antidote from this implanted fear as they are preparing for their wedding.

The first step towards victory and enjoying your home and your sexual intercourse with your spouse is to cast away fear of pain and displeasure you have ignorantly psychologically associated with sex. Sex is a gift of God in marriage. It is time to enjoy this. Do not allow fear to spoil your day. The lord is honouring you, so why do you have to fear? Perfect love casts out fear. Now that you are in marriage bed, replace fear with perfect love for your spouse.

As you prepare for your marriage get some good books which you can read and be willing to ask questions from matured people around you. Be sure to implement your gathered information when you are married.

For virgin, sex can be painful at the beginning, therefore it is advisable that before sexual intercourse for the two of you to lubricate your organs and their surroundings. This means that as you pack your bibles and other devotional materials for your honey moon, you should get good lubricants preferably Vaseline or olive oil along with you. This lubrication should be a continuous process until the two are sure the pain is gone or manageable.

PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO SEXUAL PROBLEMS OF YOUNG COUPLES SERIES 2.

2011-05-29T14:23:00.001-07:00

SERIES 2

WISDOM FOR HONEY MOONERS

Are you enjoying your honey moon? This was the question asked by a father in law when he visited the newly wedded couple after a week in the apartment provided for them. The response was quick and straight forwards from the wife “we are not enjoying it”. The husband looked at his wife in the eye. She in turn looked at his father in law and repeated her words “we are not enjoying it”

The father in law understood it immediately and took her plea seriously. The son replied to the allegation is that “they are in prayers” the father was mad and encouraged the son to stop praying as for the time for prayers has gone. Your prayers had been answered. You need to work now. “Sex is a part of marriage, start it now. It is part of your spiritual duties.sex in marriage is a sin, it is completely righteous”, the old man instructed his son and left. The young man went back inside as an obedient son and took charge of the bed. The honey in the moon came alive and was real to the two of them in couple of hours.

The best expression of love is giving. John 3:16. This is the time to give the totality of your body, soul and spirit to your spouse. You can examine and play with your organs.

PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO SEXUAL PROBLEMS OF YOUNG COUPLES.

2011-05-29T14:19:00.001-07:00

PRACTICAL SOLUTIONS TO SEXUAL PROBLEMS OF YOUNG COUPLES.

INTRODUCTION

When it comes to building a Christian home, many people found it difficult to discuss about SEX. Some even see it as a taboo in this part of the world. And because sex is not well handled, many homes have been destroyed too early in their marriages.

It is obvious that many parents and ministers of God fail to give the necessary balanced counsel on the issue of sexuality to young folks, out of the fear of “encouraging them to go into immorality. They only told them is about sinful intimacy and its grave consequences, avoiding fornicating, adultery e.t.c. When the time comes for the young folks to start enjoying sex in their homes, they do not have the practical knowledge and discretion needed to handle this new phase of life.

Therefore, this topic will run in series to help young couples solve some initial sexual problems they might face as young couples and it will make a good read for older couples who want a new beginning in their relationships. Please go through each series for better understanding.

SERIES 1

THE FIRST NIGHT

(Proverb 5:18)

It is always believed that first impression matters much. The way you handle your first night matters so much. You have a blessed fountain, a fountain sanctified and given to you by the lord, God, your father. This fountain is given to your for enjoyment as you rejoice with your new “honey”. This first night is a blessed night of light, deliverance and joy that lasts till eternity.

Like in the beginning of any great endeavour, you need a great deal of wisdom. This is the first night of building your own home. Obedience is the only key that keeps your home on the rock for life and eternity. This night is a night of unveiling your nakedness and that of your spouse. You have been beholding the beauty/ handsomeness of each other undercover before now. Tonight, you want to behold each other as God created you naked.

The first night, you both will go to the beginning where nakedness brought joy and satisfaction to the men and his wife. This journey this night required patience and understanding which are rooted in deep love. It follows suit the following steps;-

Step 1:- husband, patiently unveil your wife of everything called cover. Remove “everything she is wearing. Some sisters at this point are embarrassed so , be patient with your wife. Some men rush into this, in order to enter into the sexual act, it is not good, do not rush, she is yours forever. Take time to examine every part you uncover and appreciate the lord for each.

Step2:- now verbalized your thought. You can say something like” i accept you as you are, you are a part of me and i will always love you. You are a gift to me, babe girl you are good”. What can you say about your wife in relation to you? Say them now with wisdom.

Step3:- the wife then in turn uncovers her husband. I mean remove everything called cover or traditional material for beauty or makeup if you are a virgin, you probably have not seen many various sizes of penis before, so , accept in love whatever you see and appreciate the lord for it.

Step4:- the wife should hold her husband and verbalizes her thoughts. You can say something like “oh! I accept you as mine. I’m a part of you, you are mine for life and i accept you as a gift from the lord”

Step5:- hold yourselves in love

Step6:- you can immediately seal up your union with sex. Your oneness starts from your acceptance, open heartedness and sexual intercourse, rejoice with the wife of your youth ....... let her breasts satisfy you at all times.

Moreover, by now the man must have successfully inserted his penis into your virginal. This means you “know” your spouse.

The man should take time to allow his penis to make some movement. This contact will produced sweet sensation for the two.

It is worthy to note here that both or either party can be tired after the stressful wedding ceremony, it is suggested that rest is important and the couple should have their rest”. The act should last for life because marriage is “till death do us part”.

Are You Afraid of Relationships?

2011-05-12T06:39:00.000-07:00

Are You Afraid of Relationships?

I bet you can think of at least one man who has intention to stay single and even shunned what could have been a great relationship with amazing woman just because he didn’t want a “serious relationship.”

But then, just a few weeks or months later, that man met another woman. And within just a few weeks with this new woman he was completely sprung and head over heels for her… and he was begging HER for a committed relationship.

Fascinating…

If you’re like most women, then you’ve seen several men you know do this “instant switch” thing where all of a sudden they want a serious relationship, even though all they could talk about before was being “on their own.”

Here’s the reality: Most men are never “ready” for a relationship… not until they feel the magical feelings and experiences with a woman that tell them “Hey, this is the woman for me.”

“For a man, the connection he feels with a woman early on can have nothing to do with whether or not he wants a relationship with her.”

Are You Afraid of Relationships?

2011-05-09T12:52:00.000-07:00

Fascinating…

Here’s the reality: Most men are never “ready” for a relationship… not until they feel the magical feelings and experiences with a woman that tell them “Hey, this is the woman for me.”

“For a man, the connection he feels with a woman early on can have nothing to do with whether or not he wants a relationship with her.”

Tips for stronger relationship

2011-05-09T11:58:00.000-07:00

Tips for stronger relationship

Relationships are important in life. Whether they are with family members or with friends and spouses, relationships need your time, effort, care and energy to go a long way. Some relations, which are made in the teen years, carry on for life, while others made some time later may fade away. Here are some tips, which can make your relationships grow stronger and healthier:

Communication: an important aspect of any healthy relationship is the communication between the two people. You need to talk and listen to each other to know the common interests that you have amongst you.

Sharing: a healthy relationship develops when you share ideas and feelings. The feeling of sharing develops when you communicate. You trust the other person to listen to you and be there for you when you need him/her. A healthy relationship blossoms when you support the other person and share your thoughts and interests.

Respect: respect is another important factor, which helps build a healthy relationship. Whether it is between husband and wife, parents and children or dating partners, mature relations can develop only when you respect the other partner and give him his space. You have to respect the boundaries set for each other and let the relations grow. There may be disagreements but you should make them a reason to make your relations grow stronger.

Trust: probably the most important aspect of any relationship is trust. You need to trust your partner in all circumstances. You have to instill the feeling of trust in your partner and show him/her importance in your life.

Spend time together: life has become so hectic that there is no spare time for your loved ones. You have to squeeze in some time to spend some time together. This makes the bonding stronger and you feel good. If both partners are working, they should meet at weekends to know what the other person is doing. This applies to parents as well, who should, occasionally check with their children and spend time together to let them know that you are there for them.

Laugh together: humor is the best stress buster. Therefore, you should try to spend time and laugh together. Share jokes, messages and secrets to add spice to your relationship. The ultimate thing in a relationship is time spending and communicating.

These tips show how relationships can be made stronger. As mentioned, disagreements are a part of any relationship but handling it maturely and walking out of it without arguing is the best way. In fact, arguments at time make relations stronger as you come to know each other. You need to pay attention to your partner's demands and rejections and this helps in making a relationship grow.

Adeyeye Michael kayode

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UNDERSTANDING THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND INFATUATION

2011-05-07T15:31:00.000-07:00

UNDERSTANDING THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LOVE AND INFATUATION

Love is an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person. It is a decision, a judgement and a promise while infatuation is wild, foolish, blind love, unreasonable love, erratic, and passion centred or based on only feeling, emotional strong desire for a person.

Infatuation is being mistaken for love most times; therefore i have carefully study the differences between them and these are the differences stated below;-

1. Love is selfless, infatuation is selfish and greedy

2. Love controls physical contact, infatuation exploits it

3. Love develops slowly, infatuation develops rapidly

4. Love encourages and contributes towards someone’s progress but infatuation does not due to lies

5. Love does not keep record of wrongs committed by other party but infatuation capitalizes on wrongs committed by others

6. Love relies more on compatibility, infatuation relies more on chemistry and physical appearance

7. Love is associated with understanding, attention and commitment, infatuation is associated with sexual attraction and exploitation

8. Love recognizes realities, infatuation ignores them

9. Love focuses on one person, infatuation focuses on several persons

10. Love is patient, kind and long suffering infatuation is arrogant, impatient and rude

11. Love survives the test of time, infatuation can’t wait

12. Love seeks the best in others but infatuation seeks the wrong things in others

13. Love is built on commitment but infatuation is build on feeling

14. Love gives room for growth and change, infatuation does not but rather expects perfection

15. Love protects, preserve, increase and multiply people but infatuation exposes you to sin, depression, rejection and destruction

16. True love does not intimidate or manipulate people into doing the wrong things but infatuation does

17. True love celebrates your achievement and rejoices in your success but infatuation gets intimidated and frustrated at your success.1^st Corin13:1-13.

The primary effects of infatuation are sexual abuse, premarital sex, adultery and rape which are sinful before God. Sin is working contrary to your creator – God.

It is outright rebellion against God’s law. Please ZIP UP and keep off infatuation.

For you to have a lovely relationship that can cumulate into marriage, build your relationship on true love.

The Art of Seduction

2011-05-04T06:13:00.000-07:00

The Art of Seduction

The immediate temptation of anyone who hears the word seduction is to quickly associate it with love – making; the art of seduction is by no means the only purpose to which seduction can be put.

Whether we are conscious of it or not, there is something in our nature as human beings that make us, naturally, seducers. Many people will hold the assertion in dispute; but a moment of careful thought is likely to make us see seduction in the right perspective. By my standard, the business person who dons his best attire on the occasion of a business appointment likely to turn his or her fortunes around for good is practicing seduction. The politician who uses banners, posters, audio – visual interviews, and rhythmical campaign slogans; the advertiser who uses hilarious radio jingles to advertise his products; the movie house that whets our appetite with bits and pieces of gripping scenes in its movies; the car manufacturer who designs his car to look sleek, solid and heavenly; the product manufacturer who wraps his products in colourful packages; and many more other people are all busily practicing The Art of Seduction.

By using methods that had been successfully employed by charmers like Don Juan, Giovanni Casanova, Marylyn Monroe, napoleon Bonaparte, Cleopatra, Bathsheba, Bill Clinton, Benjamin Disraeli, Rasputin, Madonna, and our Goodluck Jonathan the author shows us how we can wield influence that continues to keep us in demand for as long as we live.

Our Almighty Father, also use the seduction method through our lord Jesus Christ who bought us from the camp of the evil one by shedding HIS blood on the cross of Calvary. He gave us life in abundance and we now have access to God through our lord Jesus Christ. Through him, man now has access to God.

Should we use this art, this secret, for man or material? This question is best answered by the man or woman who decides to learn and use The Art of Seduction. I will suggest we apply this principle to our everyday life and in whatever capacity we find ourselves to touch a life effectively and positively for God.

As for me, I find this book interesting and a lifetime treasure that must not be out of sight. I have started to apply it to my life. Look for the book, read and start to apply it to your life.

Adeyeye Kayode

Book reviewer

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HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM PRE MARITAL SEX

2011-05-04T06:05:00.000-07:00

HOW TO ABSTAIN FROM PRE MARITAL SEX

What is premarital sex?

This can be defined as sex before marriage. It is about a thrill, a momentary pleasure without a loving relationship. It is not a solution to feeling unloved, unwanted, abandoned, rejected, depressed and loneliness. It only complicates issues of life.

Religious view about premarital sex

Marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled for God will judge both whoremongers (fornicator) and adulterer. Hebrew 13:4, 1^st Corinthians 6:18-20.

Effects of premarital sex

Death via abortion. When you engage in unwanted sex and it result into pregnancy. The last option to those persons is abortion and it brings about death.
Disgrace. Unwanted pregnancy brings disgrace to the girl involved in premarital sex.
Sex addict. Once you taste sex it will turns you to a sex holic in the society.
Stain and loneliness. Once you get yourself involved in premarital sex, people get to know you and they all will stay away from you. Loneliness will naturally kill you.
Rejection. No man will want to marry you because you are sex holic even the society will reject you.
God will be angry with you and you will not be his child any more.

How to abstain from premarital sex

Experience new birth or salvation in Jesus Christ. When you have an encounter with Christ, he will recreate and transform your life to live above sin.
Avoid seducing a man through your dressing therefore always dress modestly and decently.
Avoid having an encounter with pornographic films, romantic books or novels and magazine this is because what you see affects how you behave and you behave affects what you become
Do not succumb to peer group pressure
Avoid body fondling, kissing, pecking and necking when dating
Always flee from all appearances of evil
Do not engage in dating until you are physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially, mentally matured and ready
Always exercise self control over your emotions
Avoid wrong association or bad company for “ evil communication corrupts good manner”
Avoid staying alone with your intended spouse late to the night
Avoid sleeping with your intended spouse in the same room before marriage
Always subject your flesh under the spirit of God by dwelling on the word of god everyday
Ensure that true love is the foundation for your relationship and love guides, protects, cares and hates sin

Sex Is Important in Intimate Relationships

2011-04-19T07:30:00.000-07:00

Sex Is Important in Intimate Relationships

When people write about sexual health issues many are offended, or put it in the same boat like movie porn. I am always surprised by the reactions of some sexual nature, because as I see it, is important in relationships and sex is a big part of life in general. Most of us have sex in our relationship because it is a natural and proper relationship, and if one gender or the sex education debate is offended, so I'm ready to bet that you might have a problem in their sex life.

Why sex is important in relationships? Well, for one, make us a break from everyday life and the stress that comes with it. In the sexual act our thoughts are often focused on enjoyment and intimacy and pulled into a world of naked bodies and pleasures. Obviously this is a big difference in our lives, not sexual, and is good for stress reduction and reminds us that there is more life than the hustle and bustle of our daily tasks.

Sex allows your partner, and feels closer. Let yourself be vulnerable, physically and mentally to someone in a way that with someone else. This can only strengthen the trust between the two, because it requires trust to be vulnerable.

Sex is a special event that only the two share and to create a particular aspect of their relationship is not with someone else. It makes you feel accepted by their partner and participate with your partner.

While sex is not the most important part of the relationship when a healthy sex life is now a large part of the relationship if the sexual aspect of what went wrong.

Have you been suffering a dry spell in your sex life only find on the rest of your relationship, too? You begin to wonder why you do not have sex and what is wrong with you or your partner or your relationship.

If sex is not in a relationship that can lead to a healthy woman feel unattractive and undesirable to your partner. You can leave her feeling that if your partner is connected to him or even think about them and their needs.

A person can feel as if they satisfy your partner and bring her the pleasure she needs sex. It may make you not only insufficient to please them in the bedroom, but outside of the room.

Begin with feelings, as it is natural that, seep into other aspects of their relationship. They can be recovered by your partner and feel than before. You can begin to feel as if they do not meet their partners in other areas of your relationship. Negative emotions have a way to take and keep snowballs into something bigger and more negative.

So if his ears and can wag their fingers about the sexual discussion closes to think about their own sexual lives. Connect like-minded people can be on sex education in the chamber cause a narrowness of mind to sexual pleasure in the room. And as we discussed, which cause other problems in the relationship.

Sex is an important part of all intimate relationships. Do you have sexual problems later; unless they seek help outside the relationship with your sex life will never change. So do not close read your views about sex, because it's something that you can use that night in the room and make you and your partner closer.

Relationship & Dating: 3 Things You Should Do to Get Your Man Sexually Addicted to You

2011-04-19T07:03:00.000-07:00

Relationship & Dating: 3 Things You Should Do to Get Your Man Sexually Addicted to You

3 Things You Should Do to Get Your Man Sexually Addicted to You

2011-04-19T07:01:00.000-07:00

3 Things You Should Do to Get Your Man Sexually Addicted to You

I also like a man; I'm just another "victim" of these councils and ask them to stop listening to beautiful ladies this nonsense. But here is the good sense to me. I do not have 127 "funky" advices; I'll give you three real estate advices that really work. Men are not as complex as you thought magazines. It's actually quite easy for us to know if you require the United States, people who want to fall over backwards for you.

If you are crazy about you and feel like a sex addict when he (or even hear his voice on the phone) in order to do then read on. Here are my top three.

1. Make all your sexual fantasies... Men like you, ladies and fantasies. And many of them can be "sick" and Kinky. A woman who is completely devoted and in love with her husband is ready to do something for him in his bed. And when I say nothing - I mean everything with a capital "A"

If he knows that he is ready for him and 100% to satisfy all your wishes - I appreciate you more than you can imagine. Devotion and total submission, which were of course most men. Sure, you can yell, "We have rights!" and "no" send "anyone", etc., but you have to have concrete results or not? Do you want to do really like him sexually addicted or just "something? I bet this is the first.

I will tell the truth and what works: the sexual submission and devotion is what works. You have fun when your man gets pleasure. If you cannot change your attitude, your desire to be in bed.

It is certain that man has fantasies. Find out what they are and what everything in their power. Dar as care, so the more you give him sex is their most satisfying your satisfaction, you feel more appreciated and of course the best sex.

In this way you will be "unbeatable" in his bed, and every woman who could end up with later not a game for you. If he's with her, he will think of you. In fact, he does not want to leave.

2. Check out each day better and more sexual. Women, do not hide their sexuality are attractive. Really attractive. I'm not saying, you should run naked or flirt with every guy like you - I should say, you let go and be free. Stop worrying about what society thinks. In bed with the guy, let's go and all the crazy things you do not do so that he believes to be wrong that a sly # t.

understood to lick, bite, have sex in the house, out in the car, the elevator when possible. Work to be sexually open to him and spice up your sex life as possible. Take care of yourself and always "tight" physically. It's amazing what difference does it make if a woman exercises regularly and takes care of physically. Always smell good lotion, the body uses to make your body smooth and silky. All this adds to its appeal.

If the guy grabs you and feels soft skin and sexy, silky and incredibly, is in addition to their muscles are tense, you are flexible and easy to learn and take him home and "move" light in the bedroom almost effortlessly, crazy fun that you can give.

They are much more sexually attractive to him in this way. Men do not want the "dirty" and "evil" in his bed, it is a fact. While. You must be a woman on the street and a porn star between the leaves. Make sure that behave only with him and for him as he wakes up from this side of you.

It may seem superficial, but it's the cold hard truth is realidad.Esa. So either we use this fact to your advantage or do you complain that life is not fair. It is your choice.

3. Give the best oral sex of his life. You cannot imagine how many women there have no idea (or no interest); have oral sex when it comes to humans. On the other hand, men who want more than anything else in bed. If you give the best blowjob of your life can you be a rarity in his past sex life and future.

Give great oral can easily get a sexually addicted. Learn the art of oral sex and it is yours. Believe me, madam, it works like a charm. Make your goal is a better oral porn star of his whole life was observed. If your husband so that other women, I never could please give everything to keep him, and give you a lot of fun.

Been saved countless marriages and relationships when women have mastered the art of fellatio.

I'll give you advice if you give your man orally. You have to love his penis and be fascinated by it as if it was the most amazing thing you had ever seen in your life. Look at it as if it is the fountain of youth) should be women, those three things and just go to your husband had sexually addicted and have a rock hard erection every time he thinks of you. Men are not as complicated as it seems.

Relationship! check it out

2011-04-16T15:23:00.000-07:00

Relationships are really what makes the world, is not it? I
the offer, good, positive, healthy and meaningful relationships
the richest experiences we have here in this ancient land from us. His love
Spouse who shares everything with you, the best friend who is connected with
that few other people at work to help you love and
the best you can, what brings joy to life!
But ... Relationships can be the bane of our existence! What really brings
more pain in this life is a broken relationship, especially if they do not
break, but frankly ugly!

Therefore, it behoves us to do everything possible to compress to maintain our relationship
right along, right? If we do our best in our relationships
you can almost guarantee to make the most of our relationships!
Over the years I spent hundreds of hours working with people
Relationships: marriages, friendships, relationships and
social relations. The whole time I have seen wonderful things
terrible things. It is really good, the bad and the ugly!
But I could see three basic elements of success to
Relations. These are things that create, if they happen over time begin to
for the types of relationships that I really want. They are types
Relations which have always dreamed of.

The point of these three elements is the acronym ZIP
you can do three things - and start immediately - to improve
and all their relationships. They are:

Put a little encouragement in their relationships.
Cultivate more intimacy in their relationships.
Develop a goal in their relationships.

Look closely at each of these three:

Put a little encouragement in their relationships.
At Zest, which means fun? Relations were making fun! We would not
t have taken the opportunity to have fun when relations were not
, a little spice of their own!

Think about it: Is not it most often begins with healthy relationships
many funny moments. Whether in the restaurant or play ball or
spend much time playing a game or just a chat, have generally
Fun to be an important part of the relationship. Fun is the glue that bonds
Relationship.

But as life goes on, especially in a marriage, but in all relationships
In fact, the fun starts on the road. Increasingly, it is
do the work, which may be the job.

To restore the relationship with a small zipper put on it, we
Reintroduction of the idea of "shell".

And you? Have your enthusiasm? What can you do to relax?
Think is a specific relationship: What are the good things
Beginning of the relationship, which acted as the glue has
together? Now we are obliged to do it again and see if your relationship
begin to rise again! To do if possible, the development of new fun things
together, so that the two begin an adventure of fun together!

Cultivate more intimacy in their relationships.

First a few observations: First, I do not mean just on the privacy
currently, the understanding, namely, sexual intimacy. I mean, for all
Effects, deeper in their relationship on a plane. Second,
does not mean you have to do group hugs begin with colleagues or
Meetings of the disclosure in the fabric flows freely.

What I mean is that every relationship is a mutually satisfactory
Level of depth that makes sense. That's really what the research
is in our relations: the meaning.

Remember when you began your relationship with your spouse or
or friend. The whole time was spent opening that you are, where
may be they were, what they like and not. It was a deep sense of
Relationship satisfaction - that's why we left. I like this
they were and that you like to be known to them.

But then something happens. We have reached a certain level and research
cold water. We stopped to share his feelings, likes and dislikes. We stopped sharing
Joys, dreams and fears. Instead, we decided in a routine. The daily routine
takes over, and we know each other and just to be together. Now
do not get me wrong, if they do not appear to be deep.
Remember, I am defending in the preceding paragraphs have only
old funny sometimes. But there is a need for intimate hours
where we communicate more deeply with others.

This is particularly difficult for many kinds of men like me, but
not only possible but necessary and healthy! If we type
Relationship were to hold, we must open ourselves to have to
others we know and we can get to them.

Significant relationships are fulfilled when we loved and accepted, which
we are in our essence, and act not just in the right direction in our relationship
the other person to keep in it.

Think of the relationship we want to see improvements in
to spend some time in the weeks and month’s time talking and
reach a deeper level in their relationship. More specifically, the other
immersed in their world. You cannot be by force the person more
intimate and can certainly not say: "Let's get together and have an
intimate conversation, "because it would be too artificial. But you can
decide for yourself that leaves others in their world.
Might be the catalyst for them to do the same.

You can help protect privacy, but not much deeper and
You will feel the desire in his heart more, or you can start
Deepening the process of change and see their relationship for the better.

Develop a goal in their relationships.

The most important relationships that we are held together
a common goal and vision of what cannot reach the relationship
only for those involved but also for the good.

Let's face it, if people have a common goal, they feel like they
Part of a team and feel united in this respect. Although
Men can people stand to be disappointed if
have a purpose, such as the education of the children are much more
Excel. Purpose of creating links.

So what happens when we are actively involved in finding a common
Effects that we have a relationship or those that we
already have a relationship with, but we would like to explore?
Well, it's better and stronger.

Think more about your relationship. Are not
at least one end zone or goal?

What is a relationship that has cooled? Think again and see if maybe
I used to have a common goal, but was lost.

What about his desire to develop a relationship? Take the time to start
to cultivate a common purpose. Please contact that person and say
would create common goals, objectives
together. Since the development of this to strengthen you see your relationship
Ways you never imagined!

Let's recap: You want your relationships to a little under "Post?" Then a
little Z.I.P. them:

Put a little encouragement in their relationships.
Cultivate more intimacy in their relationships.
Develop a goal in their relationships.

Tips on Healthy Dating and relationship

2011-04-11T06:27:00.000-07:00

Tips on Healthy Dating and relationship

Relationships are important in life. If they are family members or friends and spouses, relations have time, attention; effort and energy go a long way. Some relationships that are made during adolescence and continue in life, while others have some time to disappear later. Here are some tips that your relationship will be stronger and healthier:

Communication: an important aspect of any healthy relationship is communication between two people. You need to talk and listen to each other to find common interests.

Share: a healthy relationship develops if you have ideas and feelings. The feeling of sharing takes place during communication. You trust to hear the other person and be there for you when you need it for them. A healthy relationship blossoms in support of the other person and share their thoughts and interests.

Respect: Respect is another important factor that contributes to building a healthy relationship. Whether between husband and wife, parents and children or couples encounters, mature relationship can only develop if given the respect for the other partner and his room. You have the limitations of other players and let the relationship grow. It can be differences of opinion, but you must be a reason, their relationship stronger.

Trust: the most important aspect of a relationship is trust. You have to trust your partner in all situations. You need a sense of confidence in conveying to partners and show its importance in his life.

Time to spend with each other has life so intense that there is free time for their families. You have to put some time to spend time together. This makes the Union stronger and feels good. If both parties have to work the weekend to see what others do? This also applies to parents who occasionally visit their children and have to spend time together, so they know you are there for them.

Together laugh: Humor is the best stress buster. Therefore, you should try to go out and laugh together. Shares jokes, secret messages and spice up your relationship. The last in a relationship is to spend time and communication.

These tips show how relationships can become stronger. As mentioned, the differences are part of a relationship, but their management with the maturity and left he without question is the best way. In fact, the case when a stronger relationship, as we learn. You must be careful to pay your partner with the requirements and refusals to help grow a relationship.

WISDOM DIARY ON A FRIEND

2011-04-10T13:03:00.000-07:00

WISDOM DIARY ON A FRIEND

A friend is someone committed to help his friends realize God’s purpose and potential for his life.

A true friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future and accepts you today just the way you are.

A true friend is someone who loves enough to speak into your life and tells you the truth that you need to hear.

A friend is someone who knows all your faults and still accepts you just as you are.

A true friend is someone who multiplies our joy and divides our grief.

A true friend is someone who is there for you when they would rather be someone else.

A friend is someone who brings out the best in you.

A friend is someone you count on in time of crisis.

A true friend involves declared loyalty and commitment.

A friend is someone that will stand for and by you in everything.

A true friend is one who walks in when others walk out. So, treat your friends as you do your best pictures and place them in their best light

Based on the above wisdom words, choose your friend wisely as association determines your destination “therefore locate yourself among productive and God fearing people.

Adeyeye Olamide is a writer and marriage counsellor.

COURTSHIP TIPS

2011-04-08T07:38:00.000-07:00

What is courtship? This is a period of mutual agreement and understanding reached between two opposite sex on marital issue and when they are eventually joined in holy wedlock.

While ‘tips’ can be defined as guiding rules or a piece of advice on how to handle an issue. Thus courtship tips are guiding rules on how to maintain a long – lasting and successful relationship that might eventually lead to marriage.

TIPS

· Don’t date someone who is not interested in your values, dreams, goals, success, happiness and fulfilment in life

· Don’t rush into dating relationship but take it slow; people that rush end up suffer from hurt, rejection and heartbrokenness. Thus take time “to look before you leap”

· Date someone with similar goals, values, dreams, belief and interest. It enhances your level of understanding and intimacy in relationship.

· Never get into a relationship with a person of no purpose, vision or goals in life.

· Always zip up your pants or trouser, wait for marriage before you have sex. Know that sex never leads to true love or marriage.

· Allow the basis of your dating relationship on platonic friendship not lovers for it’s much easier to get to know the real person as a friend than as a lover. However, friends can become good lovers with time.

· Avoid late visitation that might lead to sleeping in the same room together

· Never pack into a man’s house and be staying with him when you have not married (co- habitation) for in doing so, you will lose your respect, self worth and self esteem.

· Be honest and trustworthy to your spouse and be discipline towards other women and men

· Don’t date anyone based on infatuation or sympathy but rather let it be based on real lover.

· As men, always make out quality time for spouse, so that she can feel loved and appreciated.

· Never go into relationship with someone you cannot trust.

· As a lady, never date someone who does not want to come to your house in order not to be known by your parents or take you to his family house.

· Always pray and play together in open places not in enclosed ones.

· Don’t go out with someone of different ideology especially on spiritual issues

· Avoid body fondling, kissing, romance, petting, and necking for all these lead to sexual stimulation, which always create an appetite for sex

· Never a relationship with a mind of changing person’s beliefs, goals, or vision because you will be disappointed at the end of the day.

· Never lure your spouse into sex, if you love love her, you will wait for her, also girls should not be wearing seductive clothes, learn to dress modestly and decently.

· Don’t date a man that is not proud of you or tolerates you but rather go for someone that celebrates you.

· Always be first to end a date as a lady ,this shows how responsible and discipline you are

Healthy Relationships - Finding the True Meaning of Your Relationships

2011-03-20T14:06:00.000-07:00

Everybody's busy. Life is demanding. There isn't enough time in the day . . .

so it's easy to understand why people neglect their relationships and fail to give them the attention and love they need.

Why It's So Easy To Neglect Relationships

1. We're too busy to deal with them (until we need something from someone)

2. We tell ourselves we'll do it later -- we'll call, stop by or write . . . (but we may not get around to it)

3. We are up to our eyeballs in the confusing clutter of demands, obligations and responsibilities

4. We are workaholics (or addicted in other ways)

5. We are independent individuals who feel we need no help, other than the company of a few select persons or resources

6. We think we have better things to do

7. We may believe that no one deserves us

8. We think our relationships will always be there

9. We assign a low priority to our relationships because they are unexciting

10. We sometimes avoid relationships because they are complicated, demanding or conflicted

I'll stop here because I'm sure you get the picture.

A True Story

For the purposes of this article, I'll make this brief . . . a few years ago I suffered a near death experience (NDE). An experience unlike any other of my life.

They called my family in from all over, thinking I was not going to make it. So my family hopped on airplanes and flew to the hospital where I was a patient, hoping to get there in time . . . to see me one last time.

But somehow . . . I survived. Oh, everyone said I was going to die, and should have died, but I had the great fortune of living.

I spent the next two weeks in the hospital, much of that time in two intensive care units. When I regained consciousness and overcame paralysis, I saw my entire family standing around my hospital bed. I had not seen some members of my family for years. I had not always been that close to every one of them.

Yet, I was not only over-joyed at the mere sight of them, but I felt as though I was floating on air, lifted above my nearly lifeless body by their combined love.

Suddenly I felt complete and abiding love for each person in my family, regardless of past troubles, separations or disagreements. In those precious moments after my NDE, I saw the truth about relationships -- a truth I had never seen. I found that truth overwhelming and, in some ways, mind-boggling . . .

in a nutshell,

the truth about relationships is . . .

our relationships are a hundred times more important than we realize.

Now, I must admit, there was a time in my life when I would have laughed at that statement! No, I didn't need my relationships, I was strong and fiercely independent.

Now, after surviving two skirmishes with death, and after finding myself face-to-face with realities few ever live to tell about, I doubt that statement could be more true . . .

unless, of course, I were to amend it as follows:

Our relationships are a thousand times more important than we realize! Yes, I said a thousand, and I did not intend it as metaphorical.

What Does This Mean To You And What Can You Do Right Now?

You needn't wait for your own NDE to uncover the truth about relationships. After all, only about 5% of the population seems to have NDEs. But you can learn from the experiences of others.

Humbly, I ask you to:

-- Take an inventory of your relationships, and ask yourself if you have taken any for granted. If so, take immediate steps to put those relationships on the front burner.

-- Stop and reflect on the many ways your relationships have influenced and supported, nourished and protected you . . . and make a concerted effort to nourish the relationships in your life more.

-- Realize you can't possibly count all the people who have helped you throughout the years. How many can you help now?

-- Think about ways to honor the people in your life, and find ways to invest more time and energy in your relationships.

-- Make every effort to conduct healthy relationships that work for both persons involved -- relationships that will reward you many times over and bring you much love and happiness.

-- Prize your family relationships. They are one of a kind. And there is no replacement for them. Give what you can to them . . . now.

In so many ways, before my NDE, I believe I was reluctant and sometimes afraid to conduct great relationships. When the veil of fear was removed, and I felt a newfound courage to love others as never before, my relationships made terrific strides forward.

By giving a laser focus to my relationships, new avenues for happiness and joy have opened up in my life. And I believe the same will happen for you, if you stop to reflect on the awe-inspiring power of relationships.

A Surefire Prescription For Living

I'm not big on prescriptions and formulas, but . . .

I'm certain this one will work!

Just live your life in such a way that you never neglect a single relationship . . . and you will become enormously wealthy. And you will measure your wealth in priceless terms.

Conscious Mating: Is This the Right Relationship for Me?

2011-03-20T13:19:00.000-07:00

A successful relationship

Before making a commitment in a relationship, or "prior commitment" stage, offers the possibility of their future as confident as possible to choose.

You are a pioneer

You are the pioneer life. And if you read this, it is likely that further relations pioneer, free themselves from past patterns and conscious relationship. As a pioneer in terms of its target in full awareness of the long-term impact of their decisions and the date and the second with the conscious intention. They are determined to create the life and relationship you really want, and I think that can happen to true love and respect only when you find what you really want and not go for anything less.

Everyone starts their journey to a successful life and partnership in order to achieve tasks such as man. If the date and possibly someone to a relationship that is very exciting to see join, but at the same time, most know the question, "Is this the right relationship for me?" and what I call the "pre-commitment" a relationship. The journey from a successful to a conscious couple, as long as the bride and groom become what I call "link aware." Just as a consciousness must be clear who you are, what you want and how to get it, so be aware of a couple. As challenging as it is for the correct decisions in the long-term relationship when you're alone do, maybe too good decisions on long-term relationship, even if difficult to make a pre-commitment.

WHAT IS THE pre-commitment?

In the selection of couples in the world today, most at a certain level, they ask: "Is 'The One' Should I be using this person for the rest of my life?" They are an exclusive couple, but not yet committed.

It may be tempting to call these couples before marriage "believe as a collective term for all couples who have not the leap to a commitment made are made. However, we have the mentality of a couple before marriage that is very different from the mentality of Pre-commitment: "We get married, do" "Is this the right relationship for me?

The first shows the pre-commitment and began to approach, recognized the work with these couples, I develop to this stage, unless otherwise known as "before marriage", but not, as I call it. The label "pre-commitment" should be temporary, but stayed. I was surprised by the lack of recognition, information and resources for this phase of the relationship between general and expert research and literature. Even today, when this phenomenon is a common practice in our culture was largely unknown to the general public, I hope to change with articles like this.

TWO Pre-commitment

Pre-committed couples are generally divided into two categories:

Unconscious, usually after the "mini-marriage" model for the treatment of the relationship without really what requires the commitment. The separation of fact and attitude.

"If Is this the right relationship for me I am making a commitment?" CONSCIOUS-aware that they have not committed mostly commitment as a goal, ask an approximation of the actual and attitude.

Romantic love and pre-commitment

There are many misconceptions about love. Our culture glorifies the stage of the relationship of romantic love in literature, theatre, television and movies. The initial phase of infatuation in a relationship that is in the chemistry going and we experience euphoria. Powerful neurotransmitters, such as amphetamines, floods and change the chemistry of our brain.

During phase untenable romantic love is an important goal because it gives us an idea of our being better and more efficient. If the relationship proves to be a good choice for long-term bonds this time together and prepare for the inevitable storms of life in the face. Do not confuse this early stage romantic love is a real and lasting mistake that can be our undoing.

We want and expect to be happy, and romantic love is forever optimistic. We do not want to believe that when we experience this intense chemistry with someone who does not work. We avoid the pain of failure and perhaps trying trying to fit a round peg in a square hole, trying to turn us into a pretzel, "make" a working relationship.

In today's world, when choosing partners, to go blind in a couple of immediate acceptance. Most new couples' pre-commitment "that they are a couple from, but have not yet decided the future of their relationship. This period coincides with romantic love, and realizes that understanding media partners, the relationship that they recognize the need to know each other long enough to disappear in the love and the experience of reality, before irrevocable decisions in the long run.

KNOWN LINK - a radical position

Here is the real radical rupture relations. How to prevent hard as we try and fail to avoid the relationship anyway. For there are many unconscious forces at work in all phases of a relationship, although we recognize that it is not easy and the results can not control... These unconscious forces have the potential to undermine our efforts to keep the love, if we are not aware of.

Conscious of mating, rather than thinking unconsciously romantic fantasies of living happily ever after, we accept this truth. As relations are broken anyway, why not be as aware as possible in the process and increases our chances of success?

CHOOSE YOUR RELATIONSHIP CHALLENGES

Every relationship has problems. This is normal and does not mean that there is something that is wrong with their relationship. Some problems can be solved and can be addressed and resolved, others are open continuously. Before making a commitment in a relationship, or "prior commitment" stage, offers you the opportunity to decide their future, as objectively as possible.

You can use the pre-commitment to a relationship in order to identify the challenges and solve problems without a solution in this regard. You can then accept a conscious choice and decide to live with them or to sabotage the long-term viability of their relationship and walk at the same time I can down with much less pain and costs on the road. Pre-commitment in an exclusive relationship that has not yet committed. This gives you the opportunity to determine whether this relationship fits your needs and requirements for successful long-term relationship before making a commitment. Useful with the pre-conscious commitment to long-term options.

Prevention of pain

Even if you feel the pain of the break in the pre-commitment, it prevents you from feeling pain again in the future.

Make a conscious decision as possible before making a commitment, in our opinion, a gift of the prevention of pain you can afford. As difficult as it is, the decision to end a relationship, you will be the devastation that will surely experience will save the end of a mini-marriage or divorce, especially when it comes to making children.

If you're in a relationship that did not commit, nor are and ask, "Is this the right relationship for me?" I encourage you to have a choice in the long-term relationship in life and relationship you really want before they make a commitment to results. We must recognize the possibility that his current relationship is not "The One". Therefore, I suggest that you seek clarity about what they really want and need in a relationship and if your current relationship will live the life you love with the love of his life.

Signs Of A Healthy Relationship - 3 Signs of a Healthy Relationship That Signal a Healthy Love Life

2011-03-17T05:29:00.000-07:00

What are the signs of a healthy relationship and can reading about them guide you to create a healthy relationship? Let's find out....

Healthy Relationship Sign 1: Multiplying your blessings

It is a good practice to look for the signs of a healthy relationship. It is much better to look at your relationship from the perspective of what is good and what is working well, than to look at it searching for faults and flaws. That is just a fundamental piece of good personal psychology tantamount to always looking on the bright side of life. When you count your blessings, you activate that part of your mind called the Reticular Activating System and, as a result, you spot more and more good things in your life. You will find that this is a major sign of healthy relationships. People in healthy relationships look for the good in each other. They reinforce the positives by giving all their attention and appreciation towards what they like and enjoy about their partner, and accept and play down those things that they cannot change. This creates an on-going cycle of appreciation, enjoyment and love for one another.

Healthy Relationship Sign 2: Putting in time and effort

Another one of the major signs of a healthy relationship is that each partner has accepted the fact that love and romance do not just happen by themselves. They need to be worked at. And people in healthy relationships have a tacit understanding of that. Each partner puts in the time, effort and creativity necessary to create relationship magic. At a pragmatic level, this involves being kind, thoughtful and affectionate with your partner. It translates as hugs and kisses, compliments on appearance and achievements, little gifts and loving notes, acts of thoughtfulness and care. Basically, you do everything you can reasonably do to add joy to your partner's daily experience and to increase his or her feeling of happiness. This is the act-ion of Love, something you commit to doing every day.

Healthy Relationships Sign 3: Two powerful individuals

Another one of the main signs of a healthy relationship is that each member of the couple is a unique, strong and independent person. A useful metaphor for a healthy relationship is that the two people involved are like two powerful upstanding pillars. Together they can support the relationship aloft. But if one of the pillars is leaning over onto the other pillar, the relationship becomes unstable and falls. There are of course lots of times when you will need the support of your partner and will lean on them in those times. The signs of a healthy relationship though are found in 2 people who are strong and independent, who understand the give and take of relationships, and work hard to stay in relationship credit by regularly investing their time and energy into the relationship in ways that their partner appreciates and benefits from.

The way to relationship health

By looking for the signs of a healthy relationship, you open your mind to new ideas that can shape and improve your romantic love life. With all of life's challenges, it can be hard to stay on your toes and do all the things you wanted to do when you first started out to make your relationship terrific. With all our busy-ness, staying creative and coming up with ideas to enhance and make our relationships healthy can be challenging. That is why I found rel=nofollow 'The 50 Secrets to Blissful Relationships' such a godsend. It's packed full of ideas, advice and tips gleaned from couples who have built healthy, long-term love relationships that have survived the distance and grown from strength to strength. I think whatever you can get your hands on to shortcut the process of creating healthy relationships is worth its weight in gold . Emulating the success of others is a great strategy employed in all the best marriages and, yes, another sign of a healthy relationship.