Valerie R. Houghton, R.N., M.F.T., J.D.

Appeal Court Upholds Misconduct Ruling in Orange County Jailhouse Snitch Scandal

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Thu, 13 Jul 2017 16:35:00 +0000

"The judge found the sheriff's deputies testifying in Dekraai's case lied or withheld information about a secret database. The appeals court ruling strongly criticized the DA's office, saying there is substantial evidence to support the judge's decision to remove the District Attorney's office from the case. "The Orange County District Attorneys loyalty to the Orange County Sheriff's Department conflicted with its duty to the rule of law and its duty to fairly prosecute the case against Dekraai," a statement from the California Court of Appeal read. The appeals court notes the judge ordered authorities to hand over informant-related documents to the defense in 2013, however, a few months ago another 1,100 pages from a secret sheriff's department database suddenly surfaced after repeated court orders." #prosecutorialmisconduct #damisconduct

PSA ALERT: Healthy Relationships PSA, Child Abuse Council, Santa Clara County

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Wed, 17 May 2017 17:31:00 +0000

Hitting San Jose's Oakridge and Eastridge Mall theaters Memorial Day weekend!
Watch and forward our 60 second
Healthy Relationships
Public Service Announcement!https://www.healthyrelationshipscac.com

"Personality Disordered Parents and Alienated Children" by Bill Eddy, MSW, Esq.- GREAT!!

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Sat, 28 Jan 2017 22:17:00 +0000

MacArthur Fellow Ed Roberts is Featured on Google, Today! What a Great Man and Civil Rights Leader in the "Differently Abled" Community :))

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Mon, 23 Jan 2017 20:51:00 +0000

Intervention Services for Family Violence: New Program Set Up Which Demonstrates "Family First" Approach :))

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Mon, 23 Jan 2017 18:26:00 +0000

The Center for Out-of-Court Divorce: Legal and Financial Education Through Divorce & Beyond in Denver, Colorado

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Tue, 22 Nov 2016 22:49:00 +0000

Dr. Peter Fonagy Describes "Ego-Destructive Shame:" How Violence Erupts When People Cannot Distinguish Between the "Passing Thought" of a Perceived Threat From One Which They Experience as Completely Real

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Wed, 05 Oct 2016 16:09:00 +0000

Random Acts of Kindness Build Our Happiness! Check It Out! The Science of Happiness: "SoulPancake"

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Mon, 19 Sep 2016 16:28:00 +0000

"The Found and the Lost" - Terry Real- A Couple's Therapist Who Courageously Extends Himself Beyond the "Neutral Stance" "Relationship Life Therapy" (RLT)

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Sat, 06 Aug 2016 22:18:00 +0000

Terry Real is a wise and courageous couples' therapist who gives his clients the dignity and respect to extend himself beyond the traditional "neutral stance." He calls it "Relationship Life Therapy" (RLT).

This clinical approach represents what is still the "minority view." I have used variations of this approach for many years. I would also venture to say that far more "non-neutrality" is delivered in therapeutic settings than many of us know. I hear about this frequently from new people about some of their previous experiences; their interpretations, their projections, their "take away's." Sometimes, I read these for myself, in court documents and other adversarial missives (cringe).

The key distinction ("OK" versus "NOT OK") lies in answering this one question:

To what extent/whether or not has the therapist identified their position (regarding any particular topic or behavior) and specifically labeled it for what it is: neutral or not; straight up. This is best accomplished with also providing them with the rationale about why they are not adopting a "neutral stance" (e.g., a non-neutral stance is required in cases of both intimate partner and family violence).

There are an endless multitude of warm, respectful, funny and empathetic strategies we therapeutic types can use to use to tell our people the truth...

They deserve our respect and our courage. They need to be able to safely trust us and be correct in doing so.

Watch him and see....

Happy weekend :))

4.5 Theta Binaural Brain Waves for Healing, Meditation and Deep Relaxation- Thank you, Yellow Brick Cinema!

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Sun, 24 Jul 2016 18:24:00 +0000

Teaching Mindfulness to Children, to Teachers, to Lawyers, to Judges- My Playlist from June, 2015, "Mindfulness - Awareness"

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Sun, 26 Jun 2016 18:28:00 +0000

During this turbulent & heartbreaking month.. perhaps, we all need some Mindfulness-Learn-Speak?

This is a great introductory video to a series called "Go Strengths Online" which is designed to teach Mindfulness to children at home and at school. It is produced by a group called "gozenonline." Don't you wish you'd thought of that name?

I have left my "2015 Mindfulness- Awareness" Playlist "Public" on the "Valerie Houghton" YouTube channel. This playlist includes a TEDx Talk by Dr. Daniel Siegel, MD on Neural Integration, another one by Megan McElheran, PhD titled "Trauma, Change and Resilience" plus three inspirational video clips from "Remember the Titans" and public health video short film titled "The Best Medicine: Why Relationships Matter" by WatchRelate.

AND if you want to find any of these goodies on your own, please do! As always, take what you like and share what you like. During this turbulent month... we need to practice MINDFULNESS. As they say in Titans, "teach (us) to trust the soul of a man rather than his look... no matter what aspect of our lives, I hope we can live by these words.

Happy Sunday. Peace be with you.

Adverse Childhood Experiences: A Public Health Crisis- APSAC Publishes New 2016 Position Paper

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Mon, 16 May 2016 15:35:00 +0000

Celebrate the 33rd Anniversary of Mr. Edward Lawson's 1983 Civil Rights Victory in the US Supreme Court in Kolender v. Lawson "Stop & Identify" Law in San Diego

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Mon, 02 May 2016 14:53:00 +0000

U.S. Supreme Court KOLENDER v. LAWSON

461 U.S. 352 (1983)
KOLENDER, CHIEF OF POLICE OF SAN DIEGO, ET AL. v. LAWSON
APPEAL FROM THE US COURT OF APPEALS FOR THE NINTH CIRCUIT
No. 81-1320.
Argued November 8, 1982 ~ Decided May 2, 1983

"We conclude that the (California 647(e) "stop & identify") statute as it has been construed is unconstitutionally vague within the meaning of the Due Process Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment by failing to clarify what is contemplated [461 U.S. 352, 354] by the requirement that a suspect provide a "credible and reliable" identification."

"As such, the statute vests virtually complete discretion in the hands of the police to determine whether the suspect has satisfied the statute and must be permitted to go on his way in the absence of probable cause to arrest."

...... Justice Sandra Day O'Connor

Obviously, 33 years later, our united nation still has a long way to go.

It's our responsibility; each one of makes choices, whether or not we stand up, speak up and do the right thing... or not.

We make a choice; "Who am I today?"
Today is May 2nd, 2016. Thank you, Mr. Lawson.

How to Record Mirrored Devices Using Reflector 2: Great App for Making Fabulous Tutorials OR for Committing Misdeeds by Surreptitious Pranksters

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Fri, 12 Feb 2016 17:26:00 +0000

So, let's call them "MISDEEDS." Yeah, that works.
"Surreptitious Pranksters" could mean anyone from your stalker boyfriend (or girlfriend) to your former spouse or an obsessed stalker fan against whom you have a RESTRAINING ORDER!

It's just important to be aware, in this month, February, is TEEN DATING VIOLENCE (DV) AWARENESS MONTH! (www.Loveisrespect.org)

Many people are NOT AWARE of this issue.

If we can't SEE it, we can't PREVENT it.

Help our youth STOP IT WHILE WE CAN.

How to Prevent Your Child/Teen From Being Lured by An Online Predator- Power Empowerment 101!!

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Tue, 02 Feb 2016 19:21:00 +0000

Mapping Data and the Use of Trees as a Metaphor, by Manuel Lima in a TED Talk, 2015

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Sun, 22 Nov 2015 18:20:00 +0000

"We Are United" ("Nous Sommes Unis")- Students Who Are French Muslims Speak Out- #SaveParis

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Mon, 16 Nov 2015 17:36:00 +0000

1:40 Because of 120 deaths and millions of broken hearts...

1:45

By these cowardly acts of terrorists, convinced of the soundness of their choice...

1:56

They wanted France to be weak.

1:58

They made our French hearts strong.

2:01

One cry will be louder: it is the cry of fraternity.

2:05

A cry that says: one for all and all for one humanity.

2:10

We are and will forever be united.

2:26

"Whosoever takes one life, it is as though he has killed all of humanity." The Holy Qur'an. Sura 5. Verse 32

The Kindness Experiment: Three Different Scenarios & Watch What Happens!

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Sat, 29 Aug 2015 00:03:00 +0000

This might be the perfect kickoff to your weekend! After a long work week, slogging through the traffic and getting everyone situated back in school, this brief video is a welcome visual and spiritual "refreshment"as these three different scenarios play themselves out. Now, none of these were any surprise to me, since I am pleased to say I witness them quite often... I've got to tell you, the FUN part was the looks on the faces of the people who were the recipients of the songs... THAT was the twist that really caught me in the throat... so very sweet :)) Enjoy!

The Two Personality Traits For Lasting Relationships from "The Science of Lasting Relationships"

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Mon, 06 Jul 2015 15:20:00 +0000

So what are the two most important personality traits to look for when choosing a lasting relationship? Emotional stability (non- neurotic) and kindness towards others are the two most predictive traits needed for lasting contentment in our love relationship.
Currently, the rate of marriage in the USA is at an all time low, according to a Gallup Poll. Yes, that means it is lower than it was during the Great Depression, which started in 1929.

"Broken" is Short Intense PSA Film regarding Domestic Abuse, Entered in a National Film Competition- Wow!

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Sun, 28 Jun 2015 22:14:00 +0000

"Broken" is a finalist in a national film competition for this PSA regarding domestic abuse. Elfenworks, in partnership with Campus MovieFest (CMF), invites students to become social justice filmmakers and musicians by participating in the annual Campus MovieFest competition. It’s an opportunity to win up to $10,000, make a difference with your art, and have fun, all at once. Winning films are

SALIENT * EXCELLENT * COMPELLING

Moving On: Restorative Justice and the Use of the Law as an Instrument in Healing... Sound Crazy?

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Mon, 20 Apr 2015 17:29:00 +0000

Orientation to Family Court Mediation and Child Custody Recommending Cou...

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Sun, 05 Apr 2015 19:49:00 +0000

"HAPPY" Wednesday! with #IGOTSOLE on The University of Texas Campus!! Please Indulge Me While I Shout Out Some Campus LOVE to My TEXAS Alma Mater! HOOK 'EM!!

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Wed, 18 Mar 2015 15:04:00 +0000

Meerkat Video Founder Gives Interview on Day #13 of Twitter Streaming App

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Sun, 15 Mar 2015 02:12:00 +0000

Daniel Siegel, MD, Demonstrates Brain Development, Resilience and Exploring Relationships and Reflection in the Cultivation of Well-Being

noreply@blogger.com (Your Family Dynamics) — Thu, 12 Mar 2015 15:41:00 +0000