AskHeatherG

The Cheating Scale: Ain't Nobody Got Time For That

2013-03-26T22:02:00.000-04:00

So I was reading a site that talked about this "cheating scale." Psssssshhh... What in the world is a cheating scale? Basically, the site is a designated "safe space" for women to talk to a man about their relationship issues, but I ask you again... what is a "cheating scale?" According to the blog I read, it is the degree to which cheating is acceptable or tolerable I would say.

That makes me ask... is some cheating better than other cheating? I'm so confused.

You see in my book, faithful is faithful and infidelity is infidelity. I cannot outline the perimeters of another relationship, but what I will say is when you set those boundaries... THAT'S IT! Ain't no cheating scale (please excuse my ebonics)! Sheesh, people come up with the most ridiculous crap which serves only them when it is convenient for them. Don't you despise that?

All I have to say to that is know what you are getting into when you date, propose, engage, or marry someone. Again, I cannot say what is appropriate, acceptable, or tolerable
in your relationship, because while I may not care if my man watches porn, for example, you just might. However, once you agree to those terms of the relationship (you, meaning both of you), don't let this fool slide by saying, "well, I only let her please me, I didn't touch her."

Ain't nobody got time for that!

52 Thank Yous: Dear Mama

2013-03-18T17:58:00.000-04:00

Dear Mama:

Despite the fact that I sometimes hide my emotions, mommy you are life itself. For that, I thank you.

Thank you for all that you have done for me. Without you, there would be no me. Thinking back over the last 20 something years, I can recall countless times that you have given great support regarding the things I have striven to do. There have been quite a bit of changes in my life from relocating between Virginia, New York, Georgia and DC, and random (but genius, lol) ideas I come up with, or my ever changing professions; but through it all, I don't recall you judging or attempting to "slap some sense in me." After all, you knew I was going to follow my heart because you know your child. You supported me in the best way you knew how, by encouraging me. Not everyone can say that about their parents.

So now I am moving into the phase of my life where I am truly coming into my own. I now understand the responsibilities of a "grown ass woman," again, thanks to my mother. You have equipped me with the tools needed to make it in this big ol' world and my goodness, I use them everyday. Thanks for raising a smart young lady (if I might say so myself). I could go on and on, but what's the point, we already know how this will end... "there's no way I can pay you back, but my plan is to show you that I understand. You are appreciated!"

Thank You Mommy!

Love Always,
AskHeatherG

52 Thank Yous: Dear Readers

2013-03-13T20:25:00.002-04:00

Dear Readers,

I want to start off by sending my first Thank You to you because without you I would have no way of expressing my thoughts so openly. Thanks to you, my readers, I not only get to share my thoughts and feelings, I also get to be creative, vivid and outright honest without judgment... and for that, I thank you!

I once read about a man who sent 365 Thank Yous to the most significant people who crossed his path. Although some of the recipients of the Thank You letters seemed to have no part in this man's life, in some small way they did, which in turn helped him grow in even the smallest way. For that he felt grateful. I have learned when someone plays an important role in your being, you should return the favor with even the slightest token. He chose letters... and so do I. While 365 letters are a bit aggressive for me, I do feel a sense of urgency to verbalize my sheer and utter gratitude for the richness people have and will bring into my life. I hope that these words will mean as much to you as they do to me and if I can help even one person feel appreciated, that's enough.

With that, I leave you this... never underestimate the power of a heart felt letter. While I thank you for reading what I have to say, I urge you to take a little time to jot down a couple lines to the people that mean everything to you. Remember, "words last forever!"

Sincerely,
AskHeatherG

What's Your Life Purpose

2013-03-11T14:27:00.001-04:00

Hey you... yes you! Do you know your life purpose? Do you know the reason you were created and the gifts and talents you are supposed to give to the world?

If you are like me, the answer is no, or not exactly. There are so many things I am good at, yet, after a certain amount of time dedicated to them, I find myself bored of it and ready to move to the next exciting adventure. For so long I thought that this was a horrible way to be. I would wish and pray that the answer to my life's purpose would come to me so that I could find that one thing to focus on. That way, I'd be "normal," you know... just like everyone else. Well, over the course of a couple weeks now, I am realizing that I am not at all normal by western standards anyway, and that trying to put myself in a box will only slowly stifle my creativity. So now I am at the point where I have to find and hone a profession or hobby that will allow me to fully express the very essence of me. I am wondering if there is such a way to funnel all of your dreams, thoughts and creativity through one focus.

I know I am not alone in this journey as I see all the Facebook and Instagram quotes on a daily basis talking about "dreaded Mondays" and the people, like me, that are merely living in glorified misery for the sake of being "responsible." I advocate being a person to stand up and handle your business, but I do not advocate living hopelessly only to go home, watch reality tv and tell everyone how if you had a reality tv show it would be so good because your life is so "cray." One way or the other, if you are not happy, find your passion or purpose instead of watching others live theirs. We have to stop watching other people's lives through gossip sites, instagram, and NOT so reality tv.

I must admit, I am still uncovering the ways to do that (because right now I have little idea), but everyday I am getting closer. If I can help anyone of you find your way, I intend to do so... continue to check back over the weeks as I explain some techniques that are helping me unveil the things life has in store for me. Hopefully my story will help you write yours.

Detox-ic (Essence of Vitality)

2013-02-25T11:24:00.002-05:00

From time to time, we could all use a simple detox. A detox is designed to help rid the body of toxins and pollutants. I am a huge believer of cleansing... inside and out; for it not only clears physical space, it un-fogs mental space as well. For the last 14 days I have been cleansing internally and I feel energized, vibrant and more awake... not to mention my skin glows (added bonus for us ladies).

The detox I am currently using is called Essence of Vitality. Although there are many ways to detox including herbal tonics, juice fasting or changing your diet for a set period of time, I decided to try the Essence of Vitality. I came across EOV after reading a post on Facebook which led me to Chef Ahki's page and ultimately to her website which entailed the benefits of the EOV detox. I wanted to give it a 'go' since I have had such success with other methods of detoxing in the past and I am glad I did. I am so happy with my results so far! The EOV has completely curbed my desire to indulge in unhealthy eating habits. Before I started, I would drink coffee daily. I literally stopped by Wawa's every morning to grab a cup of Joe, and head to the office. If nothing else, I was going to get my steaming hot 16oz. cup of coffee, which I know some of you can relate to because coffee is addictive... right?! I have also noticed a more flat tummy, drastic boost in energy, glowing skin and focused mind. I must say that although the tonic (Essence of Vitality) tastes bizarre, the benefits far outweighs the unforgettable taste.

Aside from the perks of this particular detox, in general, cleansing your system will help you feel more refreshed and surprisingly help you to make more healthful dietary choices in your day to day life. Think of detoxing as a cycle. Once you clear the fog and fuel your tank with premium octane, you are now set to drive the distance, get stuff done and be overall more focused. Your visions become clear and how to obtain them seems obvious. I know some of you can hardly believe a little detox can do all of that, but it can. The things that go into our body are vitally important to our well being. Most of us do not consider the lotions we put on or the perfumes we spray onto our skin, or the pre-packaged foods that have sat on the shelf for 7 months, but we still eat and ingest. These things are not the best choices we can make, so how can we help ourselves "do better." Detox.

5 Lessons I Learned in 2012

2013-02-06T16:24:00.000-05:00

Take a chance on something you believe in. For those who do not know, I started an online retail fashion site called Bait Apparel. For many years I struggled with the idea of venturing into something that would spark my creative juices. After beginning new endeavors, I found myself quitting after a few months of bliss turned to misery. However, one of the very things that excited me the most, but also scared me the most was fashion. When I see pretty little things, I carbon copy them with my eyes and replicate my “better” version, which is the premise behind Bait; “trending on fashion.” In other words, I take a trend and make it classic. Timeless clothing is a good investment, but we all want to be on trend, so I decided to mix fashion with trends. I say all of that to say, the chance I took was on myself… I believe in me and my ability to translate my brand into one that people, like you, will need and want.

Treat your body right. “When you look good, you feel good.” When you treat your body right, you have more energy; you are more active, which in turn allows you to be more productive. Eating right and exercising are essential to a better state of mind and better state of health. I would be lying if I told you I’d never eat a McDonald’s french fry again, but veggies and cold pressed juices are my homies. I want to live long enough to see my grandbabies grow up, you know.

Dress like it’s your birthday. Who said it had to be May 28^th for me to throw on a freak’em dress? Clothing yourself in garments that ‘speak to you’ can change your strut. Me, I love comfortable clothing, but I need a level of sexy appeal there. Tights and dresses are my personal favorites, and when I put them on I feel superior. As I said before, “when you look good, you feel good”… so start with a great outfit.

Do you. Guess what people, I hate to be the one that bursts your cloud filled bubble, but most people do not care about your well being beyond Facebook and Instagram, so do you! People are cruel and harsh and will not like you because your Twitter account has more “friends” than theirs. Seriously… at the end of the day, you have to be strong enough to realize some people will never stop hating you because you are YOU. They will talk about you if you’re doing good and they will damn sure talk about you if you’re doing bad, so don’t worry about what they have to say. Do what makes you happy and you will soon begin to surround yourself with people that actually matter to you.

Spend more time with your family. Never underestimate the power of a strong family bond. I learned the hard way, but I am finally getting myself back to a place of feeling complete with my relatives. At the end of 2012, I made a move closer to my fam and over the months we have been working on spending more time together. Family is so vital because at the end of the day all you have is each other. Cherish them.

New Year, New Look, New You!

2013-01-07T11:05:00.001-05:00

Here we go with the start of a new year. Some of you are working hard to maintain those resolutions, while others struggle to even begin them. I remember reading that people's desires lie with body image and appearance, meaning you want to look good. Nike sneakers and yoga mats are in tote for the first month of the new 365 day cycle. Yet, somehow by February, gyms are abandon and resolutions are forgotten. Wait, what happened?

I will tell you what happened, nothing! But not to worry ladies, there are still many ways to maintain your image. I'm not suggesting that anything can take the place of exercise and it should be something you strive to do if only for a few minutes a day, but what I am suggesting is that there are alternative ways that can enhance your overall look and appearance. What is it you ask? Simple, it's your wardrobe!

Yes that's right, wardrobe can make or break your first impressions and they definitely play a role on your personal confidence, so let's start there. Let's get you to a place that makes sense esthetically and financially, because let's be honest... the gym can be a little costly, especially for someone who is unmotivated.

Here are some tips on how to make an outfit pop:

A pop of color is ALWAYS a go. Add a pair of electric blue shoes to your all black outfit or trade out your everyday bag for a statement piece like a clutch.
Have fun with your looks. Who said a suit had to be boring? I think it is awesome when I see a woman (or man) rocking a logo tee under their stuffy black or grey suit. It adds character and personality, but still looks professional and chic. Pair it with pretty studded earrings and a gaudy ring.
A cocktail dress doesn't have to be a formal thing. Throw a pair of combat boots and add a leather jacket and sunglasses, look here. Take your look from night to day. What a way to capitalize on your clothes.
Rock the comfy-cute look. Just because you are wearing a sweatshirt, doesn't mean you have to look like a slob. Wouldn't it be fun to add a pair of diamond teardrop earrings or how about cool sneakers?

For more outfit ideas, check BaitApparel.bigcartel.com and remember to always play around with your looks. What works for me, may not work for you so make sure you get it right. Clothing can make such a huge difference in your confidence. Who knows, maybe your new found confidence will motivate you to use that gym membership after all.

When In Doubt, Lie

2012-04-04T12:06:00.005-04:00

Sounds bad to tell someone to lie right??? Hmmm... I'm not so sure. Let me explain.

Today I woke up with this story on my mind. I heard about this married woman who worked in the health care industry. Recently she had a male intern assigned to shadow her at the hospital where she did her daily routines. However, the woman realized she was compromising her marriage being that she was attracted to the handsome young intern and could tell he shared the same attraction. Being responsible, she had the intern moved to another wing of the hospital and resumed her work, alone.

Here's the part that bothers me; when she told her husband about the ordeal, her husband lost his mind. Sure, I can understand the fact that he was upset about her having such a strong attraction to another man, but it is unreasonable to think that our mates will NEVER find another person attractive. So, in this case, should she have omitted these details? I'm thinking so. Why should she have to endure the backlash of doing the right thing? I know a lot of you are probably saying that "you should always tell the truth," but let's be honest, should you... really... always?

If you notice, I said "omitted" above. Let's be clear... usually omissions are lies. Now I am not denying that they are useful sometimes (lol) and I am also not saying that an omission may merely be a slip of your mind, but... if you blatantly omit details in hopes of hiding or masking the truth, that, my dear, is a lie. In the scenario above, I respect her truth, but if it were me, I'd be apprehensive about ever telling my hubby the truth about situations like this. No one wants slack for doing the right thing.

Moral of the story, don't be so quick to jump down your partners throat when they tell you the truth about their life, issues and obstacles. Think it out. And if you are the one divulging the information, think twice before you do so. When in doubt... lie! *shrugs shoulders*

Talk Your Sh!t Out

2012-04-01T17:26:00.005-04:00

When it comes to relationships, there is one key component that keeps it ticking... that component:

Communciation.

Just as the saying goes, "communication is key!" No matter how much we try to avoid it (and heaven knows I try to avoid it sometimes), it is true, but how do you communicate effectively?

Before verbal communication occurs, we should understand that communication is more than words! Body language says volumes. Pay attention to your partners actions, and avoid bad feelings before they even start by responding to the look in her eyes, or his back being turned to you in bed. They're trying to tell you something!
Stop with all the screaming for goodness sakes and talk your disagreements out. You have to learn an effective way to talk about things that you and your partner do not agree on, otherwise, you have no foundation worth building on.
Learn to be flexible. This is probably one of the hardest parts in communicating effectively because it means that sometimes we have to abandon our own truths to walk in someone else's truths. In other words, try to see things from both sides.

Easier said than done right? Yea, I am not going to lie... I have had issues with communicating myself, but that's why I can speak on it, because I have experienced it and am forever working to make it better. That's all anyone can ask right? So what I am asking you is to do the same, whether it is for your current relationship, or future marriage (because let's be honest, some of ya'lls current partners are not going to be the one you marry... did I say that out loud)!

Communication is an art. Most people do not get it right on the first try and they have to practice at it. But as I said before, in order for you to take a plunge into the next phase of your "situation" you MUST master it. Anything less means you cheat yourself and no one likes a cheater!

Talk Your Sh!t Out!

Boobs in the Workplace

2012-03-27T10:45:00.000-04:00

Howdy Workforce!!!

As I strolled into my first event of the day I glanced at myself through the crystal clear glass window pane only to see my busty reflection staring back at me. "Thank goodness for cardigans," I thought as I buttoned my blue sweater and double wrapped my scarf. I am not ashamed of my boobs, but it got me thinking, "how much "boobage" is too much for the workplace?"

I am certainly not the last say in dress codes, but is it appropriate to put your "puppies" on display when brokering deals and rubbing elbows with other execs? Some would consider it an advantage, "why wouldn't you use them to your avail." While others may consider them a distraction. I must say that I am a little self conscience about people first sizing me up on my assets alone (no pun intended). It's like your beauty far exceeds your brain, and that bothers me because I have worked hard to start my company and maintain a favorable reputation, but is it silly of me not to use what I was given? After all, sex sells right?

Think about it, we manicure our nails and damn near iron our panties to get a job in the first place, why not use a little extra incentive. Obviously, this is odd coming from someone who just confessed she was self conscience, but when I take the time to think about it, I can see why women showcase their lovely lady lumps. I must admit... I think boobs win! However, it doesn't mean that we have to show them spilling out of our Ann Taylor pant suits, be tasteful. Simply think of your boobs as a metaphor... always have them on display, but always keep them classy. I know many women who are both gorgeous and intelligent... guess what, they choose to allow their beauty/ boobies to get them through the door. At the end of the day, they will get you the job, BUT it is ONLY your beautiful classy mind that will keep you there!

Play the game, but do it right!

Va-Jay-Jay Friday: Magic Shave on Your...

2012-03-23T12:03:00.006-04:00

Hi Ladies,

Summer is fast approaching so you know what that means... bikini season!!! Yes, my favorite time of year. However, it is quite costly to keep up our Brazilian waxing, so I wanted to share with you a little secret I use. In a word, MAGIC!

For years I have been trying to figure out a way to prolong my wax. Every time I walk out of a wax appointment, I have spent no less than $60 to $70 (ugh). I love my wax so much that I didn't complain, but since waxing (especially in the summer) is such a necessity, I found myself with a new monthly expense. Who wants that? So what did I do... I found a good, cheap (only $2.99), and effective product that does not replace our Brazilians, but it does prolong it. It's called Magic Shave!

This stuff has been around for years. The manufacturer, Softsheen Carson, has been developing products since before most of us were born. The formula is much like Nair or Veet, but MUCH gentler. Personally, I cannot use Nair because it breaks me out (talk about a hot ass mess, umph). However, Magic Shave doesn't and I believe it is because it was formulated to be used on a man's face. If it is gentle enough for a face, I figured my bikini line could take it... and I was correct!

I recommend using the powdered formula which you can see in the picture. You will mix it with water and spread on your bikini line. I am not recommending you go too far past that point (if you do use Vaseline to protect your pink parts), but again this is to prolong the wax you got by cleaning up and strays that maybe peaking outside our bikini bottoms (if you know what I mean). I really do think this product is worth a try, but please, please, please follow the directions. A burnt hoo-ha ain't pretty! LOL

Lady Gaga Inspired Me

2012-03-22T11:15:00.000-04:00

Watching Oprah's Next Chapter with Lady Gaga and I must say... Lady Gaga has inspired me! I have always taken a liking to Gaga, but I am not sure why this interview with Oprah struck such a nerve.

When Gaga was asked about her personality, she referred to herself as "a lot of people" and I totally understand her, even more, I relate to her. I feel the same way about myself; strong, calm, controversial, angry, giving, loving, freakish, and maybe even lousy at times. At one point I began to think, "is it just me" that had thoughts like this? It was refreshing to hear a megastar seem so relate-able. Since I was a little girl, my mother always told me I had four personalities. She'd say "Girl, you're a Gemini if ever I've seen one!" That was her way of saying that I was flip-floppy... Heather one minute, but Ms. G the next! In her eyes, I was the type of person that you'd never know what you were going to get. It seemed so wrong back then, like something was "off" with me, but as I matured, I realized it was interesting. Sometimes I feel like a first lady and other times I feel like a ladykiller, up for anything... but guess what, nothing's wrong with that!

"Sometimes I feel worthless." Stefani (Lady Gaga) said this with such conviction. Do you ever feel like that? I mean sure, we all want to show our independence and strength, but isn't vulnerability a part of being and finding wholeness? Without the pits, how do you find the peaks? So yes, Lady Gaga Inspired Me!!! She confirmed my flip-flop, never know what you are going to get, hi-low personality. She inspired me to be me, 100 percent, all the time!

Who's your inspiration?

Is Dating an Adopted Sibling Incest?

2012-03-19T12:20:00.007-04:00

So by now we have all heard about the scandal surrounding Bobbi Kristina and her adopted brother, Nick Gordon. Are they or aren't they together? Rumors are saying the two are, in fact, engaged. However, others are attesting to the fact that the ring Bobbi has been spotted in belonged to her late mother, Whitney Houston.

Some are criticizing the pair, saying that it is nothing less than incest. But others seem to care less, saying that the two are not attached genetically, so Bobbi and Nick being together is not an issue. Apparently Whitney Houston took Nick in only a few years ago. The two, Bobbi and Nick, were not raised together, but does that make it ok? So I ask.... would it be wrong to date your adopted sibling?

Me personally, I think it is a little weird, but then again... who cares? What do you think?

Before You Dump Him, Take a Look At The List!

2012-03-16T11:32:00.002-04:00

Relationships are such rollercoasters. Sometimes they are good, great, or even out of this world. But at other times, they are... well not so pretty. Look at Kim Kardashian and Reggie Bush (splitsville), or Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony (divorce... again), well.... you get the idea. Contributing factors like carelessness, 'not thinking,' or rushing into things are usually the culprits of these highs and lows, but what happens when you reach your boiling point? I suppose the answer to this question could go many ways, but what I want to know is, is there a formula... a formula that could weigh the limitations of a relationship with all things considered (the time you've known one another, the amount of hours invested, the degree of care, love and concern on both parties behalf, etc) Shhh... I wish.

We already know that's wishful thinking, but there is something else. Think back to Tyler Perry's movie, "Why Did I Get Married." In that movie, Janet Jackson coached her girlfriends about "the list." "The list"was simply a piece of paper, divided into two halves. One side consisted of the pros of the relationship while the other listed the cons. As simple as it sounds, it is effective. It is an elementary way of taking a glance at cause and effect. No love formula is truly fool proof, but if you are having doubts about your relationship, why not take a direct look at the issues in a controlled way, without being hasty. Instead, evaluate what's important. Maybe the cons on the list will not be as dire as you thought they were and perhaps the pros are so much more substantial than the cons. Wouldn't you feel silly if you threw a relationship away over dirty dishes?

The lesson here is, never react on emotion, but be constructive with those feelings... write them down, take a look, and make a decision. Sometimes that's the very thing that will hinder a good relationship from growing.

Vogue Italia Goes Au Naturale

2012-03-13T11:37:00.002-04:00

Hey Natural Hair Enthusiast,

I thought this was pretty cool being as though AHG just interviewed Ereiol Gamble about the natural hair craze. Looks like Vogue Italia has gotten the memo as well. The new campaign looks fierce I must say, but does this mean that the fashion industry is embracing natural hair?

It certainly couldn't hurt. They are trendsetters and I am ecstatic they took the time to notice, acknowledge, and ditch the weaves for the au naturale look. According to Vogue Italia, black models with natural hair is at the forefront of high fashion catwalks. Love it!

What do you think?

Will He Like My Naked Body?

2012-03-11T14:26:00.001-04:00

The thought of getting undressed, lying beside him, touching and caressing his chest, and kissing his full lips, sounds so good to a woman on the verge of getting "busy" until... wait... "I gotta get naked??" Most women have had these insecurities at some point, be it about stretch marks or big nips (lol). I think a million and one questions cross our mind in the mist of getting down and dirty even when we have nothing to worry about.

"Will he like my bra?"

"Does my thighs look fat?"

"I wonder if my cellulite is showing?"

The fact of the matter is, there isn't much that a man notices in "the moment." What he sees is a beautiful, bare skinned woman in front of him. Most guys can probably hardly believe it, let alone pay attention to the tattoo you should not have got when you were 17 . This isn't to say that the anxieties you feel are invalid; but more to reassure you that while you may have somethings to physically work on, don't allow your insecurities to destroy this intimate time.

We women need to feel comfortable in our environment and in our skin, so ladies, you should know that a man is in awe of you and your body. Don't worry about the small flaws, confidence is key. If you are confident in your skin, you will shine. Why do you think some of the most unattractive women end up with amazingly handsome men? Besides, men have issues too. Do not think that they are 100% confident in themselves. They too, have concerns. Nevertheless, those worries diminish at the sight of... you guessed it... YOU!

How To Sugar Scrub for Luscious Lips

2012-03-10T12:14:00.000-05:00

Crusty Lips is ewwww!! Here's a simple, but effective cure to chapped, winter lips. No one wants to smooch the girl with flaky kissers!

Get a load of organic oil onto your finger (I prefer coconut oil because of it's consistency, but if all you have is say, olive oil, that will do too!)
Dip that finger into sugar, the same granulated sugar you use to sweeten your coffee in the morning.
Take that mixture and gently massage your lips to buff away any scaly texture. Wipe lips clean.

Viola. You're Done!

This simple process is wonderful because it conditions lips via the oil, while softly exfoliating dry and patchy skin. Besides, it is completely edible and tasty too!

Muah!

"I'm Not Going To Hide My Relationship" - Tracee Ellis Ross

2012-03-09T13:00:00.006-05:00

Am I the only one a little obsessed with Tracee Ellis Ross? I mean, she makes such a bold statement with those gorgeous big eyes and huge curly hair. She recently shot the cover for Uptown Magazine and spoke on her relationship with Akon's brother, Bu Thiam. Ellis says:

"I am not going to hide my relationship, but I am not talking about it.

When you do that, you invite other people and their opinions and issues in.

You can't discover the person on your own."

Hallelujah! I totally agree.

I love that Ellis-Ross was so candid, open and honest as to why she doesn't speak on her man. I must say, I don't blame her. Perhaps this is the problem with relationships today, we let too many people in. I say we learn a lesson from Tracee and learn to keep our lips sealed, enjoy our own relationship, and let people speculate.

Thanks Trac!

Taylor Swift and Kanye West Reunited?

2012-03-08T18:14:00.007-05:00

Yes, yes, yes... Taylor Swift and Kanye West has reunited... well.. sort of. Taylor was photo'd rocking pieces from Kanye West's new clothing line as she shot for Australia's Harper's Bazaar. I must say, I am impressed.

I wasn't too sure about the Giuseppe's Kanye designed (kind of looked like rolled down socks to me), but I absolutely love the clothing line thus far. Kim Kardashian was spotted wearing her friends creation during Paris Fashion Week.

As we know, 2009 wasn't such a good year for Kanye West after he ruined Taylor's acceptance of her Best Female Video award during the MTV Awards. However, it seems as thought the 2 have buried the hatchet and Kanye has even went as far as to say he has wrote a song for Ms. Swift.

How special!

Statement Jewelry: Get the Look Under $30

2012-03-07T13:05:00.017-05:00

Ladies, we love our jewelry. It is such an amazing way to accessorize a look. It can take you from basic, to "va va voom" in 2 seconds flat. Here are some pieces to incorporate in your wardrobe and they are affordable too!

$10 Radiant Necklace from Forever 21

$9 Chandelier Earrings from Forever 21

$8 Golden Cuff from Forever 21

$25 Stunning Jade Earrings from UberChic Closet

$18 Nugget Ring from UberChic Closet

$29 Cuff from Asos

$14 Two Finger Ring from Asos

$12 Diamond Crusted Ring from Hot Topic

Karrine Steffans Publicly Curses Husband on Twitter

2012-03-07T10:23:00.009-05:00

If you don't know who Karrine Steffans is by now, you must now be into pop culture whatsoever. Karrine, aka Superhead, has taken to Twitter to curse who seems to be her unknown husband. Here's what she had to say:

“You really deserve someone more basic…I’m tired of pretending your mediocracy is okay with me….I’m tired of pretending I don’t miss G650′s….I’m tired of pretending I don’t deserve a fucking BOSS! I’m tired of you driving my car….I’m tired of pretending like you shouldn’t be intimidated by the other men in my life. Cuz you should….I’m tired of pretending your dick isn’t the smallest dick I’ve ever seen in my life. Cuz it is….I’m tired of pretending your favorite rapper didn’t just beat it up on Friday….Summer is on the way, nigga. You already know what’s up”

Is she talking about her ex, Lil Wayne?? hmm? Then, as if this wasn't enough, Karrine goes in again:

"I hate your whole face….I’m tired of acting like the sex is good….I hate when you roll all the way over onto my side of the bed to hold me. I’m over here for a reason….You should really be with that one chick who bagged our groceries this weekend. That’s more your speed.”

Wow, she's a mess if ever I've seen one. Like I said in my Halle Berry post, make sure you know who you are laying down with. Karrine jumped into a marriage to perhaps feel loved, but clearly she doesn't want an ordinary life. She likes the idea of it more than the reality of it. BE careful what you wish for!

P.S. Am I the only one who thought she was still with Darius McCrary (child actor from Family Matters)???? LOL She moves quick!

Stop KONY 2012 (VIDEO)

2012-03-07T09:21:00.004-05:00

In case you haven't heard, there is a man by the name of Joseph Kony that we need to make famous, here's why:

Halle Berry Can't Keep a Man

2012-03-06T23:04:00.008-05:00

Much of the world has seen the many changes that Halle Berry has gone through with men. Her daughter's father, model Gabriel Aubry, is no different. Although Halle has seemed to have found a new love interest, it has not taken away from the fact that yet another relationship has gone up in flames, and I mean big time. It seems that her baby's daddy (that'd be Gabe) is threatening to write a tell-all about his relationship with Halle Berry if Ms. Berry doesn't give him what he wants... translation, money! Of course Halle doesn't want that to happen so I suppose we'll have to see how this unfolds.

But this circumstance should teach us a bigger lesson. Does anyone know what that is? Be sure you know who you are lying down with.. you could have a baby with them. Think about that the next time Miss Priss is whispering sweet nothings in your ear. That's just what they are, "nothings." Now we know Gabe is in a more ideal situation, suing Halle and all, but what about when you wake up with a baby mama that is nothing more than a one night stand, or worse, a low-life loser? And ladies, what about the guy you thought would give you the world, but instead turned out to be a ladies man without a pot to piss in and a window to throw it out (as my mother would say)!

All I am saying is, think! It could cost you your life, or at least 18 years of it!

I'm Squishing My Best Friend

2012-03-05T18:17:00.001-05:00

Watching television is nothing less than a task these days, but a show that has caught every one's eye is Jersey Shore. I am sure if you watch you have heard the term "squish" used by Snooki, The Situation, J Woww, and all the other Jersey Shore personalities. "Squishing" in Lehman's terms means having sex. I thought it was funny to see how the cast could so easily coin a term and have a nation of people speaking Jersey slang. And let's not even mention the infamous fist pump. These kids have talent... or not, but whatever it is, it's working for them. However, it has little to do with what I am truly writing about, which is "squishing" your best friend. What happens when you have sex with your BFF?

On the show, Snooki and Vinny crossed the line and slept with one another. That turned out to be a mini disaster. For Snooks and Vin, they had to come to grips with one another for the sake of filming, but in real life how do you keep your friendship separate from your love life? Aren't they one in the same at the point you decide to get a taste of your "friendship," or in other words, screw? I believe you have now fallen into the all famous "friends with benefits" category, but in the long run, who really benefits? It is a rare case that two friends turned lovers will actually become more than "fu*k buddies," unless this is discussed beforehand. From what I have seen, one person catches feelings while the other friend carries on with business as usual and that causes friction. The risk of losing a close friend because of temptations; is it really worth it? While I am sure the excitement is pure bliss in the beginning , you are comfortable with one another if nothing else, is the advantages more valuable than the stakes?

I'd like to know what other friends turned lovers have to say about "squishing" their best friend.

Good idea or disaster?

Sex and the City Prequel

2012-03-04T11:00:00.001-05:00

OMG, you heard me right! A Sex and the City PREQUEL! Talk about being excited!!! Could you be any happier? I know if you are reading this, like me, you cannot wait to see Carrie Bradshaw back on television even if it is in the form of a 16 year old Anna Sophia (the girl that the CW is rumored to cast as Carrie). I have a feeling Blake Lively will be in the running as well, but we'll see.

The TV show will be titled "The Carrie Diaries." It will follow Carrie in her early years and give us a little insight into how she became so damn witty, spunky, and fashion forward. Although I am certain the "sex" will not be as steamy as the scenes we couldn't wait to see on HBO, I am still happy to have Carrie back to give us a piece of her mind. No one can dissect Charlotte's insecurities quite like her.

On most days I actually think of myself as a heavily tanned Carrie Bradshaw.. LOL. That's what my friends tell me anyway. Perhaps it is my passion to write like CB, or maybe it is my curly/ wavy hair that reminds us of the beachy blonde strands that adorned Sarah Jessica Parker's head. Whatever it is, Carrie had my heart and I hope Miss Sophia can grab my attention as SJP did. Don't you?

Man, I am going to miss Big though!