My World My Views...........

Remembering…Missing…Dad…

2017-01-10T07:47:00.000-08:00

Please forgive a personal and less than jolly blog, but my dad has been on my mind recently. Year upon year now have slipped quietly past since I last held him… last told him I loved him…. said a final goodbye. They say that time heals all wounds, but I’m not so sure. Perhaps it does apply a soft lens and some sepia tones to ones memories.

There are certain times and life events during which the absence of loved ones is most acutely felt. Wedding, Festivals and the Birth of a child I’ve found rank high among these. So at this joyous time of New Year, please indulge me a very brief sad moment. It’s just that I do so wish my father could be with us… could see us all… hold us… kiss us.

Please don’t feel you must read all of this. I’m really writing it for myself and for my family &; my siblings who would never get to meet Grandpa. I’m not saying my father was a saint, he was as flawed and human as any man.He was also always always slightly bigger than life. Perhaps that’s the way dads always seem to their little boys. But I know his friends saw him that way, too.

I just wanted to say, “I love you dad.”

Oh, and if you are a dad, or know one… tell him to go hug his kids or his grand kids and tell them he loves them. Would you do that for me? Thanks.

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My Dad passed away. It feels like a lifetime. Then there are days it feels like it happened yesterday. Loss is like that. Some days you move through life unburdened by it. Other days it cuts you to the core and the memories are strong.

My father passed away from Cardiac Arrest in December of 2016. He was already a patient of Cancer had a very long battle with the disease. Looking back I think it’s almost better if it takes you swiftly. The pain it causes, and the heart ache, takes such a toll on the person and those around them. My heart breaks for anyone battling cancer. It also breaks for everyone who loves someone with cancer. It will touch your life, change your life and make you appreciate life in ways you never did before.

For me I had to decide early one whether I was going to become bitter or better for going through it with Dad. I chose better. I wanted to feel it, learn from it, and grow because of it. It’s not easy to open yourself up to the experience but if you can it will make you a stronger version of yourself. It was not easy, not by a long shot. My father was a difficult man, he was angry, often mean and very bitter. He was not easy to spend time with. We had a very combative relationship prior to him getting sick. But when he called me to ask for help I figured I could either let it go or let it control me. It was easy to decide to let it go. It is amazing what happens when you make the decision to let the past go. Not just say you’re going to but really do it. The world is a different place. We still had our moments and it was difficult years but I got through it and learned to love and appreciate my father more than I thought possible.

I am grateful I went on the journey with him. I learned so much about him. We had lots of time to fill, so we talked about life, childhood, love, everything under the sun. I found out things about him I did not know. Things I didn’t want to know some days. But I am thankful now I had that time to really get to know him and understand him. It is easy to see why he was the man he was after learning more about his childhood. He did the best he could with the tools he had and in those moments of understanding any shred of leftover bitterness over our childhood melted away. It was nothing compared to what he’d been through.

While our childhoods were difficult at times we also had tons of fun. My Dad always made sure we took a family vacation every year. I’m grateful for those memories. They are plentiful.

I remember him eating ice cream almost every single day on vacation.

I remember him teaching me how to walk.

I remember him teaching me how to ride a bicycle.

I remember him always trying to get me to laugh for the camera.

I remember him teaching us how to write.

I remember him getting so excited every time we would see his old movies.

I remember him talking his whole life about retiring and buying an big car and travelling everywhere, in particular a roadtrip to Kerala.

I remember him crying only a handful of times in his life. The worst was the day he told us my grandma had died. He picked us up from school with my uncle and told us in the car in the school parking lot. I remember being so stunned by his emotion because he always seemed so emotionless. After that I didn’t see him cry until he got sick. Even then he was strong and only broke down three times during that year.

I was honored to be with him when he did, it bonded us, made me realize my tough father was human.

RIP DAD ......................

Thanks for reading

Regards

Adi....

A LIFE AGAIN TO LIVE..............

2016-12-14T06:52:00.002-08:00

Hello

This is my first attempt on writing something in form of a story and that too a fiction, hope you like the same and continue to follow the blogs. All content below is purely a piece of fiction and doesn't resembles anyone living or dead.

While reading you may feel this is turning out to be a story of a Bollywood flick, but my humble request to you is read this as this has a message which need to be absorb in our life.

Thanks Again

Adi...

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"Life is precious when it gives lemons but becomes hell when it crush the 'fruits' bestowed upon you."

It is story of a young boy, which could have been a tale with grace of almighty, but turn out to be real through the hands of misfortune.Taking birth in a typical Indian middle class family was the first injustice done to 'Vitraag'. A family that has roots fixed in cruel customs believed that the new member has arrive on some astrologically insane 'Yog' or 'Kaal' and has knocked the door of social, economical and personal degradation. Worst addition to the situation was death of great grandfather within 7 days of 'baby's hello to the new world'. Nobody gave a damn or curse to the disease which the elderly was facing since close to a decade but they took it as a sign of beginning of the bad and ill things.

The other members of the family including uncles, aunts and the grannies broke the relation with the parents of 'Vitraag', so that they could be escaped from the curse associated with their son. The parents also turned negative towards their own heir when father was kicked out of the family business for the same reason. However, a bit of humanity kept them sane enough to keep the newly born baby alive. But, there was no other love and affection ever offered to him.

He began to grow up in absence of parental love, care and blessings. He was offered food only for the sake of the peace of parents so that he can stop crying and let them do their work in calm environment. Vitraag's father joined a private company as an accountant and his mother started taking home coaching to run the household. They hired a maid to look after Vitraag. It was not the sign of care but they wanted to stay away from him. They started enjoying their life leaving the little boy in the hands of Maid who use to mishandle him in their absence which means almost every time. He was slapped, pushed, pulled, snatched to keep quiet and the poor boy suffered so much that he got afraid of crying, He started to kept mum even when he is hungry, injured or burned because the kid has understood that more he will cry the more he will be tortured.

Once, at the age of 4 years, Vitraag happened to fall from the staircase and broke his nose but he didn't cry. His father who witnessed the whole episode said to his mother - he is surely an evil otherwise a normal kid could have cried his lungs out on receiving such severe injury. They did not took him to the hospital but applied some turmeric and asked him to leave from their sight.

By the age of 8, Vitraag understood that his parents hates him to the hell and would not care if he die any day. Vitraag use to keep sick because of improper care, lack of food and hyper-tension, but his parents hardly notice any of these signs. He used to weep in silence and curse his own luck but nothing got better. He use to go in a government school where his teachers believed that he is very bright student and will surely do something great in his life. He was very thin and slick, so the baddies in the school took control over him and use to manipulate him mentally as well as physically everyday. The life was no good for Vitraag in school as well. He had no friends, no body to talk with and nobody to notice his existence on planet earth.

By the age of 17, after completing the 10+2, he left the home unannounced after getting brutally hit by father for eating Ice-Cream kept in the refrigerator for his mom. He started to work in an IT company as a Trainee and kept his study going. On other side, his father was promoted to higher position in his company along with a 2BHK flat in posh location of the city plus stunning four-wheeler to commute. Instead of just getting happy over what they have achieved, they took it as a sign of good luck coming back after the escape of Vitraag from the house. They have now made the mind that they won't keep him back in case if he arrives someday.

Vitraag did all the tough work to shine his luck and fortune, and the same did the job as he completed the engineering from an IIT and got placed in an MNC located at Sussex county, UK. He was young, charming and energetic, so became popular at the work place, sooner. He continued his hard work there as well and hence, received acknowledgement and promotions thrice in the first year itself. Life was becoming better for Vitraag and cherry on the cake was his crush was also getting interested in him.

One fine day, her crush, on the first place, proposed him and he could not speak a word because in his life till then nobody has loved him. Tears rolled down his eyes, he sat on his knees and cried like tear-maniac while hugging his lady love tight.

He become the Raanjhna-Type lover to his beloved. He centralized his whole world into one person nobody other than her. He use to love her like anything. He got a tattoo of her name on his heart, his passwords use to be 'her' name, his apartment has 'her' pictures all around, his car number read 'her' birthdate and so as last four digits of his mobile number, he changed his birthday to the date when she proposed him, officially. To the loving surprise, he changed his middle name with her name. What on earth, his girlfriend could have imagined for, he did everything for her which never even have been in her 'love-fantasies'.

But as they say - nobody can understand a girl and nobody knows what she will do next. So, out of the blues - one day she insisted Vitraag to tell about his family and relatives as he use to skip that topic whenever asked. But that was a different day and Sanchita was in no-mood to switch the topic off until she hears everything from him. With heavy heart, he recited his soul-aching story to her. She was left stunned hearing all those creep things and hence, offered him a passionate hug so that he could calm his nerves down.

Sanchita chose to stay at his place that day and they silently slept hugging each other. For 4-5 days, she kept on thinking about his miserable past. She forgot all her worries, which were even not lesser - as recently she scored low in the term exam, her father was not keeping well and has some land issues to settle in India. All these things have happened in the recent past. She started taking care of Vitraag even better than before. But destiny has decided something strange for them in future. One day her father died after long illness, she emotionally broke but Vitraag stand by her side to offer her all support and care.

After two months, she visited her best-friend Neha who was calling her since long to neutralize her sadness. They talked for long about the demise of her father, and then started with sharing their love life. Sanchita told Neha about the past of Vitraag and she was equally shocked listening to the story. But her shock was of different manner. After completely listening to the story and keeping silence for 15 minutes, she held the hand of Sanchita and asked her if she could say 'The thing going in her Mind'. She said to Sanchita not to get angry and hyper after listening to what she has to say but to keep calm and think about it wisely.

Sanchita assured Neha that she would be a patient listener and will not get furious. Neha started - 'See Sanchita - I personally like Vitraag, he is a good guy but don't you think a real curse is associated with him. It was all well in your family and academics before you started dating him and post to that, everything turned to worse. See, even I do not believe in superstitious and all, but there are a few persons who do have something astrologically ill about them and he is one of those. You should break the bond with him, if you want to keep your life going well'.

Sanchita was not expecting this at all, she get hyper-furious and yelled in full angered tone - 'You have gone sick, Neha. You have crossed the limits of stupidity. He is the guy who loves me like hell and can do anything I demand for. Even, I do not have to speak and he well do everything that is there in my heart. How can you speak all non-sense about the guy who is best in entire universe. Let me tell you - I do not wish to see your face in my entire life again. For me, you are dead and you can burn in hell'.

Sanchita stood up and started walking to the exit door. Neha stopped her in the midway and said - 'I am not your enemy but best friend and a true well-wisher. You have always been my dearest friend and I cannot see your life ruining like this. I am ready to burn in hell but I cannot see you walking towards the door of misfortune. If you want, you can kill me for this but I cannot see my darling friend suffering like this. See- you have never fought with me in 18 years of our friendship, we did not fight even when we were kid - the most prone age to fight. You do not fought with me when I crushed your finger unknowingly in the door, you did not fight with me - when I shouted on your father for not sending you on trip with me, you didn't say a word - when I stick gum on your hairs and you had to cut your lovely long hairs till the neck size. And now see today - When I am talking about your good, you are fighting with me and not only fighting but you are ready to break all bonds with me. Isn't it the bad luck of Vitraag that is following you and now making two great friends to stay apart for the rest of life'?

The last caring words of Neha shook Sanchita to the core but still she left. After coming back to home - she kept on thinking about what Neha told her. She didn't talk to Vitraag that night while he keep on calling her till 03:00 in the morning. He got impatient and visited her home in the odd hours. After coming besides her home, he texted her that he is right in front of her house. She peeked-out through the pan of window - he was standing there and crying. She made her way to downstairs to meet him. The moment she got out of her house, Vitraag ran to her and hugged her like a baby do when he met her mom after a few long hours. Vitraag kept weeping and Sanchita consoled him down. He further asked what went wrong, why she was not answering his calls? She said - she is not well and hence wasn't able to talk. Vitraag showed all his concern and asked her to see a doctor at early morning hours. After talking to her for few more minutes, he said - Take Rest and I will see you tomorrow.

When she walked in, she heard some mysterious sound. When he followed the same, she found two intruders in her house and were there with the purpose of robbery. She thought - they might have entered while she was busy in talking with Vitraag. She shouted, her mom woke up hearing her cry and came out of her room. The intruders hit both of them on their head through the iron rod. Both fell down, unconscious. They robbed the house and left. The neighbors happened to see their house opened and reported the matter to police and also, admitted them to hospital. After getting treated for two days for their head injuries, they were released with some medical prescription. The police visited them and asked about what they have lost in the robbery. It was a huge cash amount and some precious jewelry that robbers took with them. They were in sheer shock of the incident. Meanwhile, Vitraag kept on offering them all help throughout the tough time.

But Now, Sanchita also started feeling that there is something wrong with Vitraag. She called neha to her home and asked her, if they can do anything to get Vitraag out of this misfortune. To which Neha replied - this is not the case of ghostly possession or black magic but it is in his stars, sun-sign and planets. We cannot do anything! Neha told her - You should do break-up with him. I know - you are in deep love with him, but you cannot lose everything else just to be with him. It is just a matter of a few months, then you will overcome the break-up and you will be all fine. It is good to suffer for a shorter time than to getting victimized all life long'.

Sanchita found some good logics in her words. She started planning for the breakup. Meanwhile, she kept talking to Vitraag normally so that he doesn't get to know about what she is next to do. She talked to her mother that if they can settle back to India, so that they can have close look at the property issue and can live their life peacefully there as father is no longer with them to offer them financial aide. Her mother also found her idea to be great as she will be in friendly and known environment there in India, which can ease her pain of losing her beloved husband. They started planning to settle in India. Sanchita applied for a few jobs in Mumbai and luckily, got one quickly.

When they were about to leave the next day, Vitraag came to visit her an eve before. He proposed her for the marriage and she accepted the same with heavy heart as she knew that the next day they would be separated forever. Vitraag was jumping high on his way back to home. He was feeling lucky and at calm as finally - he will have a family that he has yearned for years since his birth.

Next day, while they were waiting at airport to their flight to India in the noon. She texted a message to Vitraag - "I love you Vitraag and will love you forever but cannot be with you as you have some curse associated with you and it is causing trouble to me and my family. I cannot see my family suffering. Please, do not take me wrong but I am doing all this for a better future. You also settle down in your life with some other girl who deserves you more than me. I am thankful to you for showering the best form of love on me. I will always be grateful to you for making me feel the most special girl on the earth. Please, do not try to find me as the same will just kill your time as you won't be able to find ever! Please, do take care of yourself and try to wipe off my memories from your life as soon as possible. May God bless You!"

She sent the message to Vitraag and the same time, their flight was announced. She took it as a positive sign because as soon she bid bye to Vitraag from her life, she receive the first call to new life as their flight announcement. She boarded the plane with her mother and flew to India. Vitraag, when he read the message, he went numb and collapsed.

Fast Forward to Three Months

Sanchita joined the company and was living a happy life there in India. The land matter is also about to sort out with having them at winning side. She has got over the break-up and is looking for new hopes in the home country. On other hand, Vitraag was in high level of depression and was thrown out of the company for his pathetic performance just a week before, he tried to call and find Sanchita thousand times but all went in vain. He has lost the hope of having 'her' again. He was not eating or even moving since last four days. But today as the star appeared in the sky with full moon, he dragged himself to the balcony of his apartment - He looked up in the infinite sky and screamed, though it could be heard only up to a few feet but it will be termed as loudest one because he has applied all his force in yelling the words - 'God, I do not have any complaint with you. I am all thankful to you that you gave me a life but I hate the stars, the planets and the moon - why they have been so rude to me, why they have been so unlucky to me, why since birth - I have lived a life with curse, why I was not gifted with happy times? what I have done to these stars, sun-sign and the moon that I received the worst things from the day - I born? And dear almighty, if this is not the fault of the stars, the planets and the moon, then why these people on earth blame it all on them, if they are not capable of doing anything good - How come I am responsible for all the bad things that is happening in their lives? Why they think that I bring them misfortune when the fact is I have been unfortunate to be born in a world like this? Why such stupid superstitious story exist in this world?

He Continued - 'In this life, I have died thousand deaths, everybody - from my parents to my relatives and from the people around me to the love of my life have killed me several times in my life. God, I just have a hope left from you - please do love me till the end. I am coming!'. With these last words he jumped out of the window and committed suicide. For the world he has committed suicide and was dead now but in real - he rescued himself from the constant killings and murders. He was actually killed before he committed suicide. He left the world with the hope that he will get a life in heaven. The question is - will he get a life again?

He has decided his death-day on his actual birthday. He requested the bank to transfer his total deposits in two bank accounts on the very next day to his birthday. The money was transferred as per his wish to his father's account and Sanchita's account. They were surprised to receive amount from him. When further inquired - they got the news of his suicide and went there to know about how that happened?

His last rites were performed as per 'Hindu' culture as he wrote the same in his suicide note. The notable lines in his letter were, first - 'Please, burn my body in the night when the stars have appeared with moon in the sky. I know - this is abnormal as per Hindu culture but there had been nothing in my life that happened normally. I just want to show stars and the moon that though you have ruined my life, but I won't let you ruin my death. And the second thing he wrote was - 'If my family and Sanchita ever happen to read this letter, I want to tell them - I am sorry to bring all bad luck in your lives, I have kept some amount to get transferred in your bank accounts, please appreciate the same as token of compensation. Third thing - 'Please donate this flat to the one who was born in some astrologically insane time, so that he can live away & alone without troubling the life of others!

Sanchita and Vitraag's parents realized what incredible thing they have lost in their lives. They are living with his picture hanged on the drawing room's wall in their respective houses, and curse themselves for being so bad to the nicest soul. The 'curse' is still there in their lives, only the perspective has changed.

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There is nothing like a curse in this world, it is how you take things and how others in your group make you feel during time of depression. Stay close to the comfort of your loved ones during these times of your life.

Thanks Again

Stay Blessed...

Adi..........

REJECTION- A PART OF LIFE.............................

2016-12-06T23:13:00.001-08:00

“You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

– Martin Luther King, Jr.

"A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is at peace with himself. What a man can be, he must be.

This is the need we may call self-actualization… It refers to man's desire for fulfillment… to become everything that one is capable of becoming…”

- Dr. Abraham Maslow

It happens to the best of us. When we least expect it and sometimes for unfair reasons and no reasons at all. My whole life has been teaching me a lesson in rejection whether it be from my love life or my career who told me I would never be able to fit into the shoes as an HOD – they all had one thing in common.

I have found that rejection says more about the person or group you cannot be apart of than you, yourself as the human that you are.

That was a hard lesson to learn and a hard thing to accept but this past, quarter when I did my outlook started to change, but one thing never changed through those situations (ok, well a little but for the most part) … I stayed the same. Their rejection wasn’t because of my qualifications or because I wasn’t nice enough or even because of my career growth . Their rejection was because of something they deemed was more important whether it be another’ looks, some else’s personality or even jealousy (yikes, I know but stick with me).

I spent a long time when I was 13, my year of high school and this year trying to figure out what went wrong. Was I not good enough? I let my thoughts and anxiety spin and spin and live in a vicious circle which did nothing but confirm my biggest fear – no one actually wanted me.

Until one day I realized it walking to my car… This wasn’t about me. This had nothing to do with me at all. I constantly try to do the best I can – be nice, be friendly, be ambitious etc. etc. but just because my best wasn’t good enough for them doesn’t mean it can’t be good enough for me.

The point of this post is to sit here a few weeks after another sting and tell you something that I wish I could’ve saved a lot of tears, anxiety and sour patch kids over. If the next time you do the best you can – the best that you are proud of – and are rejected remember one thing: this says more about them than it does about you.

And with that I say I hope you all are having a wonderful week, month, year whatever it may be and that no matter what you are going through in life there is always a lesson to be learned.

CHEERS....

ADI.....

AN EXPERIENCE OF DEPRESSION.............

2016-11-17T22:33:00.002-08:00

It’s morning. I try to open my eyes as I lay in bed, but really I just want to leave them closed. Merely trying to peel open my eyelids feels like it takes a supreme amount of energy that I just can’t find anywhere in my body. So I’ll leave them closed. And my bed is so comfortable, I just want to sink deeper into the mattress and pull the covers over me. Sleep feels so good. I can get up later. Maybe I’ll call in sick today, I just need a day.

It’s afternoon now. If I don’t get out of bed soon, I’m going to lose the whole day. Ugh…why do I do this to myself? There are so many things I need to get done, and all I’m doing is laying in bed all day. Okay, I’m going to push myself out of bed.

Standing beside my bed, it’s calling me back in. Maybe just today I can use the day in bed? Oh wait, look at the TV over there. Maybe I should just go to the couch and catch up on TV. That sounds great…I can nuzzle up in the corner of the couch with a blanket and watch a couple of episodes before I do some productive stuff.

It’s 4pm now, I just don’t have the motivation. I’m still in my pajamas, and I’m so hooked on this show. I’ve barely eaten today because I didn’t even really think about it, except for that sandwich I had a few hours ago. I know in my mind I have so much to do, but my body doesn’t want to follow. It wants to stay right here in this spot.

And I don’t know why, but I just want to cry. I keep saying it’s just one day, but it feels like this all the time. I feel sad all the time, tired all the time, unmotivated all the time. People call me lazy and act like I just don’t care. But have you ever tried to get yourself going in the morning when your body and all of its energy feels like a lead brick sinking you down? Everything is moving downward — my body into the corner of this couch, my eyelids, my energy, every muscle. Try standing up and going to work when you feel like this.

I feel so alone. No one gets it unless they go through it, too. I’m sick of people acting like I have some sort of control over this. Do you think I would just choose to live my life in bed and in front of the TV? It’s a terrible, helpless feeling. I think about ending it sometimes, but honestly, I know that’s not the solution I want.

What I really want is to get up, get outside, and live my life. I want to have friends, I want to do good work, and I want to have someone really care about me. I feel like all of my friendships are me caring for them, but when I need it, no one is around. I feel like my family is sick of trying with me....................

Adi.....

SUCH A STRONG LOVE....................

2016-10-18T00:52:00.000-07:00

The natural course of relationship is downstream, unless you are intentional about paddling against the current. Even the best relationship will get stuck in too much distance or too much intensity and blame.

This article wont be about me or my LIFE, its about these TWO amazing human being whom I know and their relationship :)

This blog would talk about how my friends Mr D & Ms J feels about each other and if given a chance to express the same through Blog this would be the way they would do it .... {At-least I think this would be the way .... :P, Ms J would give me review if I was able to interpret there feelings or not :) as she would be the only one who would read this}

Ms J's Feelings :- ( Have tried to pen it down as if she is writing :P )

WONDERWOMAN & SUPER MAN

I always used to feel so incredibly strong. I knew I was fine on my own, that I could fix almost anything and even if there was something I couldn’t fix, I would always find a way. A solution. They call me wonderwoman, and I like it. I like being the one that helps everyone else, that solves their problems and shows them the good aspect in everything they’re currently going through.

And you, you are just like me. You’re superman. I always knew you helped all your friends through the hard times in their lives. I liked that about you. But the moment my heart skipped a beat was when you showed me your wounds and scars… I had never seen that expression on your face, that seriousness in your eyes.

I think that was the moment I realized you were more than just the funny dude I loved to hang around with.

I guess seeing your weaknesses and scars gave me the confidence to reveal my own ones to you…knowing you were just like me, I was no longer scared to be weak for once myself. And all the things that scared me before – the caressing, the way you have to let all your walls come down, the way you can no longer hide behind a mask when you fall in love – lost their ability to make me run away from people.

During the weeks we got closer I never wanted to run away as I usually did. I just wanted you around, I wanted to hold your big hands in mine and touch and remember each and every spot and scar on them. I wanted to get lost in your eyes and find every facette of smiles and frowns in them.

I don’t have to be superwoman around you. I can be the goofy, silly, crazy, weird, screwed and crippled and wounded me around you and you still think I’m the most gorgeous girl in the world. Even when I know I look horrible and when my hair is wet because we both forgot to take an umbrella when it was raining cats and dogs.

The evening your friends told me that I was something special to you – I can’t describe how that felt. I don’t find the right words to tell you how my heart stopped for more than just a moment and how my eyes got wet with tears of joy and how butterflies start flying in my tummy whenever I think of you, or hear your voice, or am around you.

The day we were at Mr A wedding and secretly held hands underneath the table cause we still weren’t official though everyone knew what was going on between us and how you gently stroke my hand was one of the greatest days I’ve ever had.

The time we went to the cinema at DRIVE-IN and had ice-cream at HAVMORE after and I didn’t have to play a role made me realize how well you actually know me.

I’ll never forget the day I realized that I’d fallen in love with you after we had been friends for almost 5 years…that it had taken me 5 years to finally allow those feelings to take control over me….

And what I love so much is that being in love with you doesn’t make me love crazy…it doesn’t make me go through the horrible ups and downs of the usual “love me, love me not”-game. There’s just that warm feeling, like a wave that goes through my body from head to toe when you’re near, and the confidence that I can rely on you no matter what happens.

By giving me the confidence to be weak around you,you have made me feel more superwoman-like than any guy before you, and never have I felt such a strong love as I do for you.

Thank you for being my superman.

With all the love I have to give.......

Mr D's Feeling

A CONFESSION OF TRUE LOVE

I’ve been with her for just over 5 year. I’m a runner by nature. As in, when things start to get serious, when they start to feel permanent, I get myself into a hang mode. This is one is pretty much perfect. Kind, considerate, beautiful, affectionate, generous, head over heels in love with me. So in love with me, that it scares me. How can she get so invested? She says she wants to build her life around me. The thought scares me. I am down to earth, practical, a career first kind of guy. I wanted to build my life around a place, a job, a career. Once all that was settled, I figured I would meet someone and fall in love and maybe even settle down. But love happened first. And now I am unsure. Unsure because the longer I am with her, the more in love with me she is, and all the while I am not sure if I will stay here. Maybe I’ll travel, maybe I’ll take a job across the continent or even the world. I am unsure if she fits into those plans or not. And because I’m afraid, because she is blameless, I have started picking little fights, being stand-offish, secretly hoping to send her over the edge and force her to break up with me, because I’m too cowardly to be the bad guy. But I can’t push her away like the others, she sees through it, and holds tight. It fills me with happiness and breaks my heart all at the same time.

So to the people that are like me, and run away when they get scared of the intensity of their feelings or the feelings of the one they’re with, what do I do? Did you regret running away? Or was it better for you in the long run, and less hurtful to the person you left?

To the people that got left behind, do you wish he or she had stayed? Or was leaving you the best thing they ever did for you in the end?

I just want to put it out there that it’s not that I feel I don’t deserve to be loved. I’m just not sure if this is the time or place to be in so deep. I am afraid how madly and selflessly she loves me. It’s like I’m her air or something. It’s frightening, but thrilling. But can you love too much?

Yours

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HOPE THIS MADE YOUR DAY :P..............

KEEP SMILING

STAY BLESSED :)

REGARDS,

ADI......

SEARCH FOR UNKNOWN & REALISATION OF A DREAM .......…

2016-10-14T07:19:00.000-07:00

Most beautiful thing about dreams is, turning them into a reality.
In many ways, Search for the Unknown is just that. A dream, and a never ending quest to turn into a reality.
To find where and whom I belong to, and then, just belong.
Journey to the Unknown is filled with realization of dreams and truths, coming face to face with worst of fears and peaks of emotions.
As I begin journey in the Search for the Unknown, this time I realize a long standing dream. A dream or a vision if you will, to do something, which had been lingering in my mind for past several years and only now, I will be making my first attempt at realizing it and beginning a process, which is sure to change the way I work and be known to the world.
This time I dont want to be that guy who made a ppt and which would be presented by somebody else to the board and he/she takes the credit.
To begin on a path, I have dreamt of, yet, only taken baby steps towards it, until now.
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As I look out the room window from my house, I see a dog, across the street. Coming out of his home and heading towards the street.
There is a young man sitting outside on steps, just beyond the outer gate, in his early thirties. He sees the dog coming outside and swings his leg towards him, pretending to be kicking him, in order to scare him off.
Dog stops dead his tracks, takes a few steps back and looks back towards the man who just tried to kick him.
He in turn tries to shoo the dog away. Dog takes a couple of steps back and then once again, looks at the man. He is again shooed, only this time, dog takes a few steps back and sits down in attention position. Looking towards the man and then towards the street.
While the fear has stopped the dog momentarily from achieving his goal of going outside, the dream and determination to make it outside, is still alive.
He takes his time and slowly inches towards his goal.
Other living in the household pass him by, some choosing to ignore him, others acknowledge him affectionately and one teen even tries to scare him.
Yet, he holds his ground.
A young kid comes running towards the house, he pats the dog and calls him, as he runs inside, cheerfully.
Dog turns around, and looks inside the house. He is tempted to follow the kid, after all, that kid seems to love him quite a bit. Yet he does not goes inside, he stays there wondering what to do next and finally, turns around and walks a little closer to the outside door, near the man on the steps.
Man on the steps is busy talking to someone on his mobile phone.
Dog sits less than a feet away from him, just outside the gate and looks towards the street.
Dream lives on, only this time; he is much closer to achieving it.
I close the window and settle down on the only chair in the room, and begin working on my own dream…
Everything happens for a good reason?
Everything happens for a reason, a good one at that. It is difficult to believe that when you’re going through hard time and pretty much everything you want to see go on in a positive mode and direction, is going in the reverse direction.

This is usually the time when you’re fighting to maintain status quo, not because it is wonderful, but because you’re trying to hold on to the last strand of hope, which too seems to be slipping away. Even though the status quo plays havoc with your life, yet you try and maintain it.

Then there comes a point when the status quo too gets abolished and you’re left in despair and then you hit rock bottom, one which you never knew existed. And just when you feel you have hit rock bottom, you hit another one, followed by another and then several more. Then the next time you hit rock bottom, you wonder whether it is actually a rock bottom or a rough edge on the side of the cliff, which has held you momentarily, before you slip off again.

Truth is, you never know.

And yet, you do know. Because rock bottom is when you realize, there is nothing left to do, but to pick yourself up and start climbing back up, leaving doubt, anxiety and repentance behind.

When you do that and you start climbing back up and momentarily look back and see what you have left behind, you see the wreckage of the status quo you were trying so hard to preserve and hold on to. That is the moment you realize, it could have never been maintained and it would have actually done far more damage had it been maintained than it did, when it was eventually let go.

You realize the mistakes you made, which lead to that status quo and you also realize the mistakes you were making while maintaining that status quo, for you were actually suffocating the very thing you were trying to preserve, by trying to hold on to it, when it was already all but submerged.

Only this time, you no longer enter the vicious guilt cycle, that made you hit those numerous rock bottoms.

Instead you realize the mistakes you made and learn from them and know in your heart, that you will not make them again. You also know for a fact that the thing you were trying so hard to hold on to, is yours, it has always been and always will be.

For it mattered enough for you to completely tear yourself inside and out, in order to learn from your mistakes and rise from the ashes to rebuild yourself in a stronger and yet sensitive manner, more attune to what needs to be done.

And one can never lose something, we care so deeply about. This is when the realization occurs; “Everything happens for a good reason.” Because now there is no status quo and no fear of falling or failing, only possibility of limitless success and a life, that is there for the taking…

Cheerss!!!!

Adi......

WHAT WERE WE AFRAID OF LOSING?.......

2016-10-04T00:15:00.000-07:00

What were we afraid of losing?
I know I was afraid of losing her.

I was afraid I would be hurt
Now I treat words like falling leaves, not a sharp knife.

When I have no words to counter the barrage from her
I leave the room.

Sometimes I stay and make faces at her
I let him fight with me.

Because that is love
Love slicing through silence like curtains pulled suddenly.

Too much sunlight makes us wince
Sometimes the view distracts us.

Why are you fighting with me, she says
You know why I am fighting with you, I say.

We fight because the silence stifles us
We fight to find out if we are still friends.

I fold some fights in the pages of time
Letting them mature over years.

By the time I bring them out between us
Some of them have become stories to tell.

Sometimes we start fighting as soon as we meet
As if we must accelerate everything.

There isn’t time for everything
So lets get straight to the point, lets fight to keep us together.

LIFE - A UNIQUE JOURNEY:- MY EXPERIENCE WITH A CANCER. :)

2016-09-28T04:14:00.003-07:00

I got married after nearly a 5-6 year of deliberation. I had been pushing that decision for quite some time until finally parents said those golden words .."Go Ahead and stay blessed"!!

But then this experience is not about the marriage but something more interesting that followed roughly within a year!!!

Disclaimer:- Please don’t blame anyone for what has happen in my life & off-course not marriage it is one of the best thing which can happen to anyone it gives you courage to fight the toughest situation in life

"Damn, If only I had bought that SIP from HDFC ERGO earlier in January .. " The scene from Snatch movie just flashed by .. "Now I'm properly doomed !!" It's amazing that while one part of the brain was not sure how to react to the diagnosis, the other part of the brain was searching for humour in this whole episode !! Thoughts were running wild and brain had already started prioritization. 30^TH Sep 2016 was going to end with a sleepless night.

Breaking the news to all was not going to be easy. But wifey had a fair idea of what was going on so I was sure the reaction would be a contained one. It was the parents whose reaction I was not very sure about. They didn't have the slightest clue of what was going on. Getting Sacked may sound very common to our generation, but sure enough parents would have a different reaction.

I spent the next 1 week going thru my finances listing down all assets & their value, investments, accounts, etc. most of which I already had in digitized format.. Next was prioritization of liquidation of assets along with dependencies / documentation required, just in case. I was ready for what was in store for me.

Confusion & More Confusion: The next visit to placement agencies of a very reputed chain (let's say "A") of to determine the plan of action left me more confused. This was more of a cancer patient visiting a onco specialist for treatment>>>endless discussion

Below discussion is between a guy getting sacked (cancer patient) & a placement consultant (doctor). Treatment is the paid buffet which these agencies sells you

"Start the treatment immediately and it will surely recur but the chances of treatment being successful and survival are better; wait for a few weeks and let it move up the stage and the chance of recurrence will be lower but the survival rate drops !!" Recurrence = Different Chemo regime next time which would result in more side effects. To my amusement, the Oncologist left the decision to me on when to start Chemotherapy !!! This is where pressure starts building up !! It was as if the Doctor was inducing fear in this whole process. Anyways, after some persuasion that the Doctor (aka consultant ) should decide on when to start treatment, he initially said WAIT for couple of months, but after a week confirmed that I need to get admitted immediately and there's no need of waiting. But that was contradicting to what he had said earlier, WAIT !!!

Subsequently, I visited another speciality hospital, known to be treating far more number of cancer patients in Ahmedabad. The Oncologist, Mr X , is an amazing doctor; 2 minutes into his consultation session, I had made up my mind I would get treated by him. Contrary to the earlier Oncologist, Mr Y advised me to wait for 2-3 months and see how it spreads

More Confusion!!! So now One renowned Oncologist says Start treatment immediately, while the other one says Wait for couple of months. Instead of tossing a coin to decide, I took the call of let’s do it yourself.

Though I don't want to write about the treatment (JOB HUNT), some interesting things about this treatment (JOB HUNT) that I noticed would share.

This experience has changed quite a few things, and taught me many lessons …

1) Family comes first, second and third … there is nothing more important than Family ..

2) Family is the only one that provides you it's unconditional support during tough times. During this whole episode, my wife and parents never showed any signs of pressure or anxiety. They changed quite a few things in their routine, but never complained about their own inconvenience. Wife did a lot of heavy lifting, managing home, and above all managing her Office too.

3) Friends are the 2nd most important people in your life. I was blessed with quite a few; from the ones who skipped work and stood with me trying to make sure that I get a face-time with consultants to the bunch of besties from School and Office who continued to keep the humor alive and providing psychological support, all of them are equally important.

4) Motivating others helps motivating self !! During my visits to office, I've been making an effort to interact with other patients (job sacked employees) and their families. Cancer has a deeper impact on one's mind before it has an impact on the body. Being an example of how well you can fight this disease and survive Chemotherapy actually helped a few patients..

5) Staying fit and exercising is important. I believed it and it helped !!

At 30, life was getting stagnated, nothing seemed to excite, and petty issues were making their presence felt !! And along came Cancer probably one of the best things that happened to me in the recent times, it shook me up from slumber. It was as if watching a suspense movie that put me on the edge of the chair !! And while they say that once you start this journey, the remission from the disease is often just a break in this journey and sometimes you have to continue it to the end, well, let's just WAIT and SEE !!

The Tale of 2 States ..............

2015-01-14T07:38:00.003-08:00

PART 1:- THE JOURNEY OF YOU N ME

There are a few moments in one's life that carry feelings of exhilaration that are not easily replicable. We all have experienced such feelings but cannot adequately describe it or even create conditions to replicate it. It's just a feeling of a high, a feeling of a perfect world.

Then you came into my life changed me completely. They say there's always someone in a relationship who loves more. Oh God I wish it wasn't me.

I Love You

I wanna tell you why I love you

I loved you since I met you for the first time, but I wouldn’t allow myself to truly feel it until today. I was always thinking ahead, making decisions soaked with fear… Today, because of you… what I learned from you; every choice I made was different and my life has completely changed… and I’ve learned that if you do that, then you’re living your life fully… it doesn’t matter if you have five minutes or fifty years. if not for today, if not for you I would never have known love at all… So thank you for being the person who taught me to love… and to be love.

Luv u lots

Kehte hain opposites attract jhoot hai, ham har jagah bas apne aap ko dhoondte hain aur kabhi woh mil jaye to usse sambhal ke rakh dena chaihye :)

Year 2014 was good our relationship matured and we probably took the difficult decision of our life :P let's get married ..

It was not that easy.

Vaishu ka Fav topic tha jab bhi Adi Mumbai ayega ya saath rahega it would start like , " Adi ghar pe dad aur mama kaafi pressure kar rahe he maine aur nai tal pavungi unhe please samjo ap " :)

Adi always felt what vaishu was dealing with and he had made up his mind that he needs to share this relationship news with his parents by year end and surprise vaishu...

A personal target date was made by me to tell my parents about my relationship and trust me it was one of the toughest task which I have undertaken till date . Mujhe laga dad mom ko batana itna mushkil nai hota , but I was wrong everyday whenever I had made up my mind to disclose it to the family I had stepped back.

Dec 21st Tour to Delhi :-

Adi needed to catch a early morning 6:05 AM flight to Delhi previous he thought subah subah ghar pe bomb fodh dega aur woh bhaag jayega Delhi. :P but he had made up his mind that he want to disclose this news of relationship with Vaishu sitting face to face with dad n mom.

Woke up early morning 3:00 am as a daily ritual wished Vaishu a gdmrng. The Cab reached my doorstep around 4:00 am and Adi left for Airport. Reached airport on time boarded the flight, post a 5 min delay a announcement comes Ding Donk " " Spice Jet maine ap sabhi yatriyo ka sawagat he hume khed k saath yeah batana padh raha he ki Delhi maine kohraam ki vajah se flight 30 min delay hogi " Adi immediately got hold of his headphone and started listening to some music. Post 30 mins another announcement Ding Donk " yatriyo kripya dhyaan de flight ko aur 1 ghante ka delay ki sambhavna he Delhi maine kohraam ki vajah se "

This delay was then increased to 3.5 hrs and Adi was sitting in the newly procured AIRBUS of Spice jet thinking about his future. He started checking all the pics which he had of vaishu and started thinking about all the beautiful trips which he had in her company and how their relationship has matured over the period of time. Probably these 3.5 hrs of loneliness had given that positive vibe to ADI to tell his parents he loves Vaishu.

Delhi tour was good it ended on 24th Dec and Adi returned to A'bad same night

Dec 25th "D" Day

Morning breakfast 9:00 am......

Idli and Chutney

Adi munching his Idli along with Mom & Dad.

Mom :- I was thinking as Anup is still not telling us about his marriage , we are planning to get you married by this year end

Dad :- Yup what do you say Adi

Adi :- ( Saala yeah kaha se aaya mere upar ) Mom dad thoda time chaihye

Mom :- Beta we are giving you time till this year end & then the regular emotional dialogue " Maine buddhi ho gai hu kitna kahayal rakh pavungi tum sabka"

Dad :- Tu soch k bata

Mom:- Hum log soch rahe the woh Sneha kaisi rahegi tere liye

Adi :- ( Speak up idiot ) Mom maine dhundh lunga kisiko bus need your blessings

Mom:- Yaani koi he batavo kaun he Muslim he kya bolo

Adi:- Mom Hindu he Punjabi he Mumbai rehti he

DAD MOM SHOCKED BUT STILL MANAGING TO SMILE :)

ok Adi Calm down now take care of the situation

Adi:- Mom Dad Vaishali naam he uska aachi ladki he ap log please ek baar mil lo

MOM DAD :- ok

Topic closed as of now :p

Adi was feeling relieved, that he has shown the courage to tell his parents that he had a love of his life :)

But this was the beginning for another 1-1 n half hour Adi was asked to do his own job in the mean time Mom Dad discussing on what Adi has disclosed them.

After two hours....

Adi was asked to come downstairs and have a discussion with Mom Dad.

MOM :- No issue I want to talk to her parents and meet her when is that possible

Adi "SHOCKED " MOM usse toh ghar batane doh

MOM :- OK Tell her to talk at her home and call us for a convenient time of meeting of both families

hmmmmm ..........( itna smooth kaise ho sakta he sab ) :I

31st December 2014 ADI-VAISHU NEWYEAR PARTY:-

We had planned this during our Goa trip only that this New Year we are going to spend it together irrespective how so ever busy we are with our so called work. Meet Vaishu early morning at the airport and we went together for the hotel. At the Hotel reception we were told that they would take 30 mins for check in formalities in the mean time we decided to have some breakfast. Post breakfast we were given the room 8th floor and the view was awesome :)

Tired Adi Vaishu jumped onto the bed n watched TV 30 mins of watching TV ADi thought of sharing "THE NEWS" to Vaishu

Adi:-Jaan ap Abad kab aa pavogi Mom ko apko dekhna he

Vaishu :- What ???

Adi:- Hmmmm , Maine ghar pe bola unhe apko milna he

Vaishu :- Ap Jhut Bol rahe ho mazak mat kaaro

Adi :- Are Baba sachiiii maine bola unhe milna he

Vaishu:- hmmmm

Adi:- Yeah Dekho msgs ( Showing Whats app msg exchanged between me, Madhu & Sandy )

( Thought saala logo ko bharosa dilane k liye bhi tech ki madat leni padhti he truly we have progressed :P )

Vaishu :- Shocked , Smiling , Crying , Mixed emotion dont know what her face was like
But I am sure that she was having that " There are something money can't buy kinda Smile" somewhere which I can feel or as a Biz-man say " Paisa Wasool " Type of smile

Life isn't that simple once you let your family know about your love of your life. The problem now in our life was as I have told at my home Vaishu hadn't I needed to wait till she breaks the news to her family. All these years she was pressurized by her family to get married, they even went to the extend to ask "Beta koi ho toh bata doh , hum na nai bolenge " Now came the acid test would they would stand with what they had said or me vaishu would do some flimy style melodrama of ghar se bhagna n all :P

It was sunday If I remember correctly Vaishu babe asual lazy bum woke up around 11:00am and decided to break her silence to her DAD. The best part of her dad was to tell vaishu always "beta kuch bhi ho koi saath na rahe I am always with you"

Vaishu Breaking the News with rest of her members was like a shock to them :) all these year when they asked her about her dream boy she didn't say a thing now when she spoke up every one is dumb founded.

Probably me and vaishu won't be able to understand this as of now, shayad hume waqt lagega isse samajne maine jab humare bache honge aur woh bhi issi tarah apne pyaar ki baat humse karenge toh kya pata shayad hum dono bhi aisa muh banaye bhete ho.

Now came the second phase of mission adi vaishu ki shaadi

We were quite clear in our approach that first we both would meet individually each others parents and relatives and later the family would meet.

Adi Meeting Vaishu's family
Was going to mumbai to attend my friends wedding in panvel I n Vaishu this should be the time to meet Vaishu's family ( her father & bade Mama )

Adi was getting nervous as the day was approaching some clear communication from vaishu were made "Adi please shave karke aana gunda banke nai n plz haste rehna apna serious look leke na ghumna "

Adi followed whatever Vaishu said moreover he made sure he buys some sweets for the family so that he can make some impression.

The D day :- Adi reaching Mumbai early morning 7:00 am check in to Hotel Abbott Vashi

9:00 am Message from Vaishu Gdmrng Babu u reached

9:15 am ha baby batavo kitne baje milna he and maine kitne baje niklu

These 15 mins made Adi uncomfortable he immediately ran to hotel banquets for breakfast.

9:30 am Vaishu: lets meet 11:00 am Chembure Mama's Office

9:31 am Adi:- ok , feeling tensed jaan

9:32 am Vaishu : Kuch nai hoga mwuahh

9:33 am Adi : Thanks byee

In my entire 27 years I was never particular about my dressing but on this day I tried 3 different formals and ended up choosing one. So the journey started Adi decided to take a cab to chembur Jama Sweets ( this is the only place which adi knows in chembur east ) thank god this was not like Vaishus "AMERSON" showroom landmark in Bandra :p

Reached chembur jama sweets 10:50 am

Called up Vaishu , Hi kaha ho maine aa gaya

Vaishu: OK please wait kaaro maine aati hu ( Felt like what Vaishu aaj bhi wait , hadh ho gai ab toh )

Standing on the crowded street of chembur nervously Adi tried diverting his mind and started looking passerby and cars. Suddenly he saw a flash Vaishu was walking down the street. Watching her Adi thought "She had perfect features, with her eye,nose,lips & ears the right size and in right places. That is all it takes to make people beautiful, normal body parts- yet why does nature mess it up so many times?"

Vaishu came to me smiling normally it normally happens Adi Vaishu hug each other tightly and then talk but today was not that day. She was looking beautiful in her salwar kameez. Vaishu told me Dad is waiting for us at Mama's shop and we started our walk. There are times when you feel in your inner-self "Moron don't screw this opportunity be calm and be positive " Adi was facing this now each step taken by him was making him more tensed.

We reached Mamaji's office, It's a typical Mumbai real estate office which you find were the shops are small were hardly 5 people can sit but most of the multi cores land deals take place. I entered with my shoes on (oops minus one point ) bending down to remove the shoe Vaishu's Mama "Beta koi baat nai mat nikalo aa jaavo aa jaavo "

Entering I noticed Vaishu's father sitting on a couch on the left in front of me was Bade Mama in sitting on a chair was Deepak ( Vaishu's cousin ).Vaishu jumped to the couch next to her father as if we all have met before. I nervously occupied the extreme right corner of the couch next to Vaishu making sure I am not touching her in anyway.

Ques 1 :- Mamaji: Aur beta kaise he ? aane maine dikat th nai hui apko ? apko saare raste kaise pata Mumbai k , aate rehte honge na bich bich maine milne ?

Ans 1 :- ADi: (Thinking Mamaji taana marte hue sawal kyun puch rahe he) Nai mamaji koi dikat nai hui , Mamji aisa hena Kharghar main padhai hui th Navi mumbai k raste pata he n Mumbai maine 2 saal kaam bhi kiya tha , aur beech beech main godrej k kaam se aana bhi hota tha

Ques 2 :- Mamaji :smiling for a while and thinking what to ask this moron "Beta apke ghar kaun kaun he and aage ap logo ne kya soch"

Adi: hmm Mamaji ghar pe dad mom and bade bhaiya hey he is settle abroad

Mamaji :- Ohhh bade bhaiya he unki shaadi nai hui kya

Adi :- Nai hui Mamaji n mere ghar pe pressure nai he aisa kuch

Mamaji :- (thinking quite a modern family )

I noticed one thing meeting your loved ones parents and facing questions is a challenge. This is one of those interview were you can't fail.

Some more interesting questions were asked by Mamaji & Vaishu's Dad like :-

Beta ap peete ho

Apka khudka ghar he ya rented

Aj ap ruk hi jaavo kuch party sharty karte he, kya peete ho ap

Mamaji asking for size of my house calling his real estate friends in ahmedabad and taking out the Net value

I would say overall this meet was required me and vaishu made sure that we are clear about our intentions just needed there blessings for our marriage.

This meeting lasted more than 1 n half hour over all what I personally felt was all were happy and they didn't find Adi to be rude ....

Next stop was lunch vaishu's treat we went to some mall and had KFC chicken and planned for an afternoon movie.

The day went off smoothly

Vaishu Meeting Adi's Parents

It was decided mom dad were planning a visit to kolhapur and in return they would halt at Mumbai and meet Vaishu & family.

Now it was Vaishu's time to get a nervous breakdown the catch to this meet was vaishu needed to meet mom dad alone at railway station and Adi won't be there:) Mom and Dad were also very excited about meeting Vaishu , Adi was supposed to board a morning train which would reach Mumbai in the afternoon. So technically Vaishu had whole 5 hours to spend with Dad Mom and that too without me :P

I won't be able to say much on this meeting but was in touch with Vaishu always she was like Adi kya pehnke milu , per chu lu unke ya nai maine unhe kya bolu Mummy ya aunty :P Probably vaishu was excited and nervous for her D day. She reached the platform well before time and the train was late. I was tensed how can mom dad indentify her in this Mumbai crowd at railway station. but to my utter shock dad told me later that he easily recognized her standing at the railway station with a big bag and smiling :)

Vaishu Travelling Potla or the bagpack which is with her all the time if she travels somewhere.That bag looks huge on my cute adorable Vaishu.What I felt after this visit was Vaishu has kept her calm and was in total control of the situation. Adi was travelling to mumbai all this time clueless of what had happened at last around 8:10 AM Adi decided to call Mom and asked , to his shock Mom's phone was not reachable. Now I had only one option to call Vaishu and ask what is happening, all these years in relationship I had never felt awkward calling Vaishu but today had thousand thoughts Mummy agar saath hui th unhe kaisa laagega Papa kya sochenge n all.

I called , Vaishu picked up the phone an said :-

V :- Helloo,

A :- hmm Vaishu Mom ka phone nai laag raha mile kya apko woh

V :- Mummy Pappa mere saath hi he humne Taxi li he , ap kaha puche (Note :- when a girl start using words like ap and gives more respect to you PLZ understand she is stressed out :P )

I messaged her luv u and didn't got any reply :). My sweetheart was right busy doing her job of an Adharsh Indian Bahu taking care of her in laws :P

I reached hotel around 2:00 PM and was shocked to see Vaishu sitting with MOM DAD and chit chatting . She was smiling, have told you many times that smile of her clubbed with her small chinese eyes is a deadly combination which compels me do whatever she wants.

We ordered some lunch and took rest . It was decided that we all would go for shopping by 5:00 pm.

It was 5:00 pm we all decided to move out of the hotel and go for some shopping; Mom was super excited about her visit to Mumbai. Mom and Vaishu were walking together. Mom had a list of things to do she wanted to buy a Sandal & Purse.

Irrespective of what age a women is that have one topic of there interest that is "SHOPPING".

Mom bought some decent sandals for herself, we finished our shopping & went to hotel. Vaishu needed to go to her Mami's place at Nerul for tommorrows preparation. Next day me and my parents were suppose to meet the Punjabi family at Mami's Place.Mom asked me to drop vaishu to nearby taxi stand, Vaishu needed to buy some Paneer for her Punewali Mami ( Punjabi's have huge family circle its confusing :P I would suggest they should give nos rather giving names to their relationship :) )

Me n Vaishu left the hotel room with nervousness still on face for tmrw, Vaishu was happy that all is going smooth. Me n Vaishu started our walk towards Vashi Market and discussed about tmrws meeting, this would be the first time that we both had walked this much without Vaishu saying "Maine Thak Gayi Ab" ( probably we were engrossed so much in the discussion of tmrws meeting that we weren't able to understand the distance we walked ) :P dusra yeah bhi ho sakta he hum log itne despo the akele time spend karne ko ki humne socha ki saala auto kaun bulaye saath chal lete he :P

Vaishu left for Nerul in an auto & I reached hotel. Probably we both were speechless on what would be tmrws reaction of both the family on meeting.

PART III:

Both Family Meeting

The toughest situation which Adi and Vaishu would face in their entire life time. We both were very clear about the Do's & Don'ts when we both meet seperately our families but this time it was a all together different ball game.

We needed to take care of both families egos, and make sure they happily agree to our marriage. The time decided was 10:30 am , but some how it delayed to 11:00 am Vaishu called me up , "Adi maine aur chotte mama aa rahe he apke hotel apko lene ab niche aa jaana jab maine call kaaru".

They reached in another 15 mins it was decided me and vaishu would hire an auto and reach Mamis place and mom dad n mama mami would leave in the car. Adi Vaishu were numb while all left in the car, I would say I was quite nervous also had an initial thought of running away. But as decided earlier we wanted our family members to be part of our marriage.We hired an auto and left for the place, its very rare Adi and Vaishu together and they dont speak a word, today was one of those days. Both had questions in their mind with lots of ifs and buts.

We reached a bit late and my family was already upstairs with Vaishu's family chit chatting. Nervously we reached home saw all smiling and talking to each other, we were relieved.

The discussion was normal and we saw no-one was feeling uncomfortable, I thought sala its gonna be a one big family after marriage :P

When mom handed over the earing to Vaishu's I saw tears in her eyes, she was happy to the core. I just wanted to hug her tightly at that point and say Vaishu I luv u.

The meeting was over and we left for our hotel, it was decided that in the evening Vaishu would meet us at hotel and then she would leave for home.Evening 6:00 pm Vaishu came to hotel and the discussion was about the meetings, all were happy in both the families.

It was decided in the meeting that a suitable date would be finalized and informed to Vaishu's family and moreover they would come down to Ahmedabad for a visit.

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Post this meetings the following things happened:-

1. You talk to each other less
2. You feel bad when the other doesn't talk to your family
3. You start discussions on marriage ka party, dress, gifts etc
4. Discussion on how would our room look like
5. Most important Honeymoon destination ???
6. Am I looking fat, that pimple is bothering me for days ......
7. Baby Shall I leave my job, mujhe yoga karna he , maine car driving seekhu kya ????

April 25th 2015 :-

Vaishu's Family members meet my family members and a date was decided 5th Sept 2015 me and Vaishu would be getting married.

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The date was set so now Adi & Vaishu had there own agendas to play with, I made my target date sheet of allocation of funds and new job search. To be honest I didnt want Vaishu to be with Mom & Dad as somewhere within I felt that she won't be able to adjust to situation here. So a job for me was very important and critical.

To be honest with you I feel more happy now feeling good that atlast Vaishu would be with me and our marriage would be in presence of all family members... The way we wanted....

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PART 2 :- COMMITMENT K SIDE EFFECTS:-

Now once everything is set starts the side effects wala part

You can't comment on any beautiful girl
You need to give reporting of every activity you are doing
You talk about honeymoon destination _ ( Even when you don't have money in your bank account )
You talk about the design of the banquet hall
You talk what are the do's & don't s for both family
You need to talk not with each other but your family members
You talk about family planning - trust me the toughest part is this :P
You do reverse calculation on how many days left for wedding

Wedding Shopping started :P

Vaishu ka Lehnga choli Delhi se

Adi ...............still thinking what to wear

Vaishu ka Make up se leke hairstyle fix

Adi..............still thinking what to wear

Vaishu ka ticketing & gifts also bought

Adi...........still thinking what to wear

Then comes a Friday -Sunday combo off in Adi's life a plan is made to visit Mumbai :P Shaadi se pehle wali flirting

Friday morning lands @ Mumbai with an empty bag for shopping

Friday ;Saturday & Sunday

All wedding shopping completed

Adi had a strict no to sherwani in wedding and was in a mood to buy a suit for him .... but whenever he came out of the trail room to do his catwalk in front of Vaishu she was least interested and made a pug like face saying sweetheart wear a sherwani you are not going for a job interview :P

So as a genuine asshole you fall for it and buy a sherwani :P

"SHAADI ARRANGE HO YA LOVE IN THE END EVERYTHING BOILS DOWN TO ONE THING TRUST"

Wedding date 5th Sept 2015 everything went on smoothly by 10th Sept 2015 Adi-Vaishu Both drained out of Bank Balance are now into a legal husband wife relationship. Trust me Post marriage your priorities changes its no more my business my concern its always OURS

Every Married person has his/her own ups n downs in life we also faced some, but if you stay together you can surely overcome it.

Vaishu has left her job now staying with me @ Ahmedabad , still I can see some amount of stress in her when it comes to family our home, job but the best part is she still smiles and give you an assurance or rather I should say makes me positive Sab Theek Ho Jayega :)

More to Come..........................................

Goa...........Sun n Sand ..............

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Ever since I have started working since the Jan of 2009, this is the first time I am getting a chance to do a trip with some of my friends. My best friend and some of his friends and some of his friends of friends are going to Goa . I & Vaishu would join them in Goa on 2nd Oct ( Yes a dry day , I sound stupid :P ) and going to stay with them for the rest of the week.

I feel excited about the trip. It might be a refreshing break from my usual work days routine. I am taking off of only one day but I will be getting a whole bunch of 5 days off. – Which is a Thursday + the weekends. I am trying to not think about it too much and I am going to try be in the moment and think about it when I am actually there. The past trips I have had to Goa were the greatest off-course because Vaishu was around :P

This trip was the best, one good part is that I am going to be spending my own money, so the drinks and partying can be on the house all we want. Vaishu was going to meet for the first time Sandy or Mr Sandeep :) my Bro who just recently converted himself into an NRI :) also Madhu Di his better half but double his size :P ( Just Kidding ). I remember Vaishu getting nervous as the days approached for the trip that what would Sandy & Madhu would think about her when they would meet for the 1st time as she already knew they are a integral part of my life. Vaishu's shopping spree continued here also confused on what type of kurta to buy for me and Sandy as well as what color purse would Madhu di like to have.:P

The day approached being a long weekend all idiots on this planet earth had planned there travel very well in advance, as-usual all domestic flight providers wanted to en-cash this opportunity and their prices were sky high. After all these years of staying in gujarat and working here we decided to lets travel the old fashioned way by breaking our travel at some prominent location and find any other mode of transport.

It was decided that I would take a train early morning 1st Oct from A'bad tand reach Mumbai by 6:30 same night a volvo sleeper bus was booked from Chembur-Mumbai which should drop us Goa by max 11:00 am on 2nd Oct :P

Now that was the plan :)

1st Oct 2014:

As-usual as Adi being an over-enthu guy he reached railway station way before the scheduled departure time of 9:00 am , when he reached the station to his shock he comes to know that the train is delayed by 35 mins and would arrive by 9:35 am. The 35 mins waiting was feeling like a never ending one. Atlast the train arrived and I boarded it for my timepass had brought my novel "THE BLACK FRIDAY" with me :). A novel on the true incidents of the Mumbai blast. Somehow I didnt felt like having anything from the train as was eager to reach goa and enjoy with friends.
The train journey was a smooth one although late reached Bandra terminal by 6:00pm and called Ms Vaishali Marwah :P and as rightly guessed by me she was busy with her work and came her usual dialogue " BABU 5 min aur lagega Sorry :)".

I thought the thrill in my life would start after reaching GOA but it started the minute I entered the parking lot of Bandra Terminal searching an Auto. Vaishu had given me a landmark for her new office as "AMARSONS" superstore which sell all Bullshit in Bandra though not known by any of the famous Mumbaicha Auto walas. somehow one smart auto guy knew Adi the idiot didn't knew any roads and landmark so he can take maximum out of the situation and asked me to hop in.

It was a 20 mins adventure I had in the Auto from all potholes ridden roads, narrow lanes to the main link road, were I somehow was able to see the Catwalk showroom near Vaishu's old office, so immediately called her up and told her were I was the reply I got was "Jaan ap galt raste ja raahe ho U turn maaro apko blackberry ka showroom milega waha se sirf thoda aage mera office " :) . So asked the auto guy to take U turn and the search for blackberry showroom started :P

Another 15 mins in the Mumbai traffic pissed me off all showrooms were passing by me but no BLACKBERRY and then Vola a Showroom I confirmed again and saw Yes it's Blackberry :) I have reached told the auto wala bhaiya zara side maine lena maine yahi utar javunga :) and called Vaishu " Baby Maine aa gaya blackberry k showroom ap kaha ho ; to which she replied ohh thek he maine aati hu bus 5 min ap wahi khade rehna " I was like was this a deja vu for me just some 20 mins back she told me in 5 mins she would be free now again a 5 min buffer time wow :P Vaishu follows two standard time No. 1 IST ( INDIAN STANDARD TIME ) & No. 2 VST
( VAISHU STANDARD TIME )...............

So there I was standing in front of a blackberry showroom jhakofy every mumbai girl who was either busy chatting with her BF or busy calling a auto wala after spending a hefty amount shopping. Got vaishu's call :-
Vaishu:- Baby ap kaha ho
Me :- Are yahi Blackbery k showroom k bahar samne ICICI Bank he
Vaishu :- Are baba ap kaunse blackberry k showroom k bahar ho aur kaunsa ICICI bank
Me :- ?? Yaha doh he kya blackberry showroom ; maine th woh bade mast 2 floor wale blackberry suits wale showroom k bahar hu
Vaishu :- What ????? Ap kaha ho ap blackberry mobile phone showroom k bahar nai ho ???
Me:- :) Smiling at my foolishness Jaan apne kab kaha blackberry ka mobile showroom
Vaishu:- Blackberry ka sirf phone hi th aata he ap bhi na
Me:- Ab bolo mujhe kya karna he auto lu kya
Vaishu :- Ap jaha bhi ho waha ruko maine ati hu

So here I was standing like an Idiot on the linking road streets with a trolley bag and camera waiting for Vaishu to come. Vaishu comes in another 15 mins and then the auto wala gives us a shock "bhaiya chembur nai ja pavunga urgent call aaya he " l thought his GF just called him up saying Papa ghar pe nai he aaja :P Vaishu asual came to her original mumbai tone " Kya bhaiya apko bolke auto liya tha na chembur ka aisa mat kaaro " :)
but as it is said Men would Men I took over the situation and told chal thek he tu maaze kar hume atleast waha uttar de jaha se auto ya taxi mile. It was 7:15 pm at this point.

We got a Taxi around 7:30 pm from Bandra and started our journey for chembur. The plan was to drop me at Yogi restaurant (place were all buses halt for pick up ) and Vaishu would go home in the Taxi freshen up collect her luggage an come back.

Our Bus timing was 9:30 pm we reached Yogi restaurant around 9:00 pm waiting for the bus and chembur was like kumbh ka mela we were not the only smart chaps around who had an idea to enjoy this long weekend. The bus operators were charging two even three folds the normal rate. Vaishu who is very particular about her food ( let me rephrase it this way PARTICULAR ABOUT THE FOOD WHICH IS EASILY AVAILABLE AND WITH LEAST EFFORT ) told me lets pack some biryani we would have it inside the bus and then sleep :) I went to the restaurant and packed a boneless chicken biryani. The Bus was rather on time only 10-15 mins late. We both boarded the bus and immediately had our biryani and slept.

2nd Oct 2014:

This journey was a tiresome experience I was travelling for the last 34 hrs and still not reached GOAAAA and being early riser woke up around 7:10 am when inquired with the driver he told me it would take another 4 hours to reach Panjim. Vaishu also woke up around 8:00 am and inquired about when we would reach Panjim.

13:20 we reached Panjim, the bus dropped us at the bus stop n we searched for a Taxi immediately a guy in his late 40's came and asked were we wanted to go I told him we wanted to go to swim sea resort Nr Miramar beach as we both were tired were not in any mood to bargain got immediately ready for his Rs400/- ride.

It was a 20 mins ride we reached the hotel and started the check in formality n started walking to the room, we guys have booked a separate room for the ladies so that we are in no way disturbed by them :P walking through the aisle of hotel walk way and saw Madhu :) Vaishu was also meeting all of them for the first time so I do think she was excited . Reached our room i.e. the Guys room say my bro Sandy well still in shape :P Jai Singh and VIshla Neha was in the room having some chickens and I do believe that Madhu was standing out because of the chicken and alcohol smell in the room :)

Vaishu was shy initially to see the mess but as days passed she started opening up. The plan was made for the day afternoon visit to candolim beach and fort aguada to do some photo session . But before the trip needed to be started everyone wanted to fill there stomach with beer and some food :) so it was order I thought it was difficult to get alcohol on a dry day, but it was piece of cake when you are in GOA.

We had our fill and left for FORT AGUADA when vaishu &;adi are together adi is always the driver :) we started out journey around 3:00 PM a hours drive from miramar and it was decided by the ladies they would have their fill of pics irrespective of what the guys think, Adi was ready with his camera to capture every moment of time spend in Goa.

Before going any further let me introduce you the team :-

1. Mr Sandeep Pillai:- Mr Smarty pants , my bro he is a genius focused about his career path & know what he is doing

2. Madhushruti Shrivastava ( Pillai ) :P :- Madhu Di she is in true means what vaishu calls me a GAPPU , full of energy and always smiling :)

3. Mr Vishal Nagpurkar :- Vishla- Mr Planner I can see me in him worried about all little things :P but I am more handsome :P

4. Ms Neha Nagpurkar :- Vishla's better half again a girl full of energy her energy explodes after 3 pegs and she can do wonders to a dull party after that :)

5. Jaisingh Shekawat :- Comes from a Royal family as Sandy says :P A simple chap who is damn lazy

Me n Vaishu :- Vaishu you know a sweetheart who has fullon energy if its a party and it immediately drains out if you say lets do some work :P. Me a dumbo who has turned old way before his age and takes tension in everything. Don't know how vaishu handles me :)

Coming to that day reached Fort Aguada around 4:00 PM and we can see that all the Morons of this planet were already there to enjoy. The fort is a beautiful place I do fell in love with this place every time I come so as decided the photo-session started and we ( sorry this time Adi was also not with the guys, so we here means me and the girls )

Some Clicks :-

The ladies were very supportive sach kaahu toh MAAZAA AA GAYA, I remember this second pic the lady in yellow was super duper hot :P and I asked the ladies to sit in front so that she can be captured in the same lens and they obliged :)

Vaishu is again my Fav model but as she knew this time there were more ladies to compete she made sure she was the best out of them :) Vaishu &aAdi together HUMTUM feels vaishu n adi relationship matures and there love for each other increases

The girls were totally into the photo shoot after first initial clicks thought they would be camera shy but I was wrong a girl and that too a bunch of beautiful girls can never be camera shy :)

Around 5:00 pm we started our journey for candolim beach siqerium beach was rejected by the group as many of them have already been there.Show the team our favorite restaurant FISHERMAN'S COVE our fav place to hangout in our last trip there was also a plan made to visit this place but it didn't happen.

Candolim is a nice beach quite calm we were there till sunset got some amazing sunset pic as night was approaching the plan was made to return back to hotel as no were outside we were getting beer or alcohol being a dry day. Reached hotel by 8:30 pm and after freshening up we started our party by 9:00 pm

Some 12 beers were ordered that day keeping in mind that Neha and Vaishu would also drink. Vaishu & Neha being a seafood fan Vishal ordered some super hot rawa masala and other fish dishes. So the party started :) me n vishal I remember were only repeating ya ya ya :P Madhu the NRI can only speak hinglish after some drinks down :P
Around 12 everyone was out and all decided to go out for a walk n we went downstairs Vaishu and Sandy immediately formed a group and started walking towards the road , I was sure my smarty bro was trying to take max info from my drunken babe vaishu don't even know what all did she said to him.

The next scene was :-

Sandy :- Sonu ( Adi ) idhar aa toh
Adi:- Ha bolna
Sandy :- Saale kitna hua be tum logo ko bata toh
Adi:- Abe ( Shying away ) yaad nai I am drunk
Sandy:- Accha Saale
Vaishu:- 5 Saal :P
Sandy :- N tune mujhe saale pichle saal bataya :) started twisting my hand
Vaishu grinning all the time and laughing when Adi is getting beaten :), though I was in no position to see it but was hearing her laughs :P

The night ended around 2:00 am we bid goodbight to every one it was actuallyyyy a gooooooddddd night :)

Don't know what dreams vaishu was having but I was feeling good and was dreaming of more vacation to come with all :P

3rd Oct 2014:

The day started early as we needed to check out early by 10:00 as the next destination was Colva Beach were we had booked the hotel. Had our zalim breakfast, I remember Vaishu getting moodless when I went with Madhu for breakfast probably again her possessiveness for me made her moodless. Always Love u babes sorry

Everyone had there breakfast and started with the check out formalities. I was the driver again the journey started post a visit to petrol pump :) . The roads were awesome after a hours drive we halted for a break had a backache. In the mean time my sweetu vaishu got time to puke. :) but that was good for her she made space for more beer:P

Reached our destination for the last two days in GOA "Longuinhos Beach Resort" Colva-South Goa. First impression a beautiful location though in the interiors but super cool place to be :P at the reception we were informed that the check in time is 1:00 pm so now we had almost 3 hours for timepass. dropped our luggage at the reception and immediately jumped to the pool :P

As everyone was already hungry we planned to order some food the hotel staff were kind enough to serve the same near the poolside. So a fish and some beers were ordered and we immediately jumped into the pool. :) A nice experience it was Vaishu tried her luck in swimming with the tube around but the fear of drowning always prevented her from swimming. :P We had our whale fish Madhu learning to swim from one place to another.

The rooms here were spacious and the food was delicious :) so the lunch along with more drinks were order to the room around 3:00pm while have the lunch me and vishla decided to contact the travel desk and know the places were we can roam around in the evening. We came to know there's a disco called Marguerite nearby. Immediately a plan was made disc in the eve along with the drinks :) Post lunch a short nap was taken. This nap but turned out to be a big one we slept till 7:00pm.

Our dear planner Vishla woke up and started banging all the doors and made the plan walk to the beach and then disco :P The guys were ready in 20 mins and watching TV don't know why girls take so much time dressing up. By 8:15 pm the ladies were all dressed up & they were looking awesome :)

All Set to burn the floor we started our walk from the beach side of our hotel hardly 5 min of walk we came across a group of fisherman pushing there boat to the ocean floor. I and sandy immediately jumped into the action to keep the morale high the fisherman constantly repeating some words like a war cry of a warrior in a battle field we were pushing the vessel to the ocean trust me its a tough task and voila we did it.

The walk again started we saw a shack nearby and decided as its only 8:30 pm it was decided to take some drinks and snack at the shack and then leave for the disco. The shack was good with cool English classic numbers played. Some beer and hard drinks were ordered and the party started.
I don't even remember how many drinks I had but felt good sitting beside Vaishu laughing talking all rubbish :) Vaishu and me together were having a gala time she also ordered some cocktail seeing which Madhu di also ordered one so how can our dear Neha be left behind she also ordered something so now we had 4 boys and 3 girls down the TALLI group :) ready to rock the dance floor :)

Had some drinks till 10:30 and then we walked in search of the Disco :P somehow reached the disco and wow its was as small as my hall back home in abad :p but who care we all were drunk so that means enjoy the party :P I don't exactly remember who's idea was it to order tequila but sure it came from the ladies department so the tequila was ordered and now we were having a mixture of all alcohol in our stomach and shaking our booty on the dance floor. :P (this is one of the best experience in this world were you don't know what you are doing and still enjoying smiling all the way )

We danced till 1:00am and decided to leave as we had planned for early trip to BAT ISLAND the other morning. I don't even remember what I was blabbering to Vaishu ( Hope she remembers ) :) I was not able to walk properly and was leaning on Vaishu while walking ( Bichari Vaishu ; I am feather weight 88kg of feathers together ) :) Sorry Jaan
Somehow we reached the hotel and the day ended :)

4th Oct 2014:

A unforgettable trip to "BAT ISLAND"

As planned reached hotel after our disco therapy around 2:00 am and dropped our self to bed. We were sure our Mr Planner Vishal would woke us up in time and we would leave for the island :). Fast forward 4 hours and we see Mr Vishal banging our doors to get ready :P on time 6 'o' clock we were planning to leave by 7:15 am.

All bwouys got freshen up (HOSTEL Style ) kauwa snaan :P and were waiting at the hotel corridors for the ladies. Each one of us was looking dull having a hangover :P the ladies entered the corridor and wowwwww they were looking beautiful .

God has given a ultimate gift to all girls on this planet that if they know they are going out how so ever tired or famished they are they get all the power in this galaxy to dressed up and look pretty.

We started our journey Adi the driver was accompanied by Vaishu in the front seat, now tell me one thing how can I concentrate on the road when you have beautiful Vaishu sitting next to you that too in her very short shorts:P showing her sliky smooth white legs :P.

Our trusted partner in the road trip Vishal's GPS phone was asked for help and we started our journey. 20 mins to drive and I started feeling hungry and took a detour to a nearby shop. Madhu & Sandy went for the breakfast shopping and returned with some hotdog,burger,sandwich & kurkure also with some bottle of water. Immediately I grab hold of a hotdog and started munching it and our drive continued.

Adi:- Sandy Yaar Hot Dog aacha he , Ismaine chicken tha kya niceee

Sandy:- ( Holding his burger in hand ) hmmmm pata nai

Madhu :- ( With a half eaten burger ) KYA CHICKEN :( SANDY TUMNE JAAN BUCHKAR YEAH DIYA NA MUJHE, GAADIIIII ROUKOOOOOOO

Sandy :- Are mujhe nai pata yaar maine kyun dunga jaan buch kar

Car parked aside

Madhu immediately jumps out of the car and tries to puke out the half eaten burger :p that was actually funny. Sandy jumps out of the car talks to Madhu and vola wonders they smile and enter the car :P

Don't know what Sandy would have said to Madhu but he is a bloody good in this stuff :P

Reached the spot bang on time the boat came we all boarded it with high spirits but as soon as the guy handling the boat told its a hour n half journey our spirit got dampened :). Boat started, initially it was a happy ride for first 30 mins but after some time the faces of the people were changing. As Vaishu was sitting beside me saw her expression change it changed like :) :) :) :I :I :I and in the end :( :( :(.

So now had all the people puking in the ocean leaving a trail of tere puke on the ocean bed :P I was sure that puke would act as an navigation system by any chance if I get lost :) I can order the Boatsman dude just follow the puke and tada we would reach our destination :)

So in some half n hour of our interesting Boat ride we reached some deserted place were our guide told lets do some snorklling here sir :P In my mind I was thinking " Saala swimming Pool maine doob jata hu Yaha try karne jaisa nai he " :P

So the boat was anchored and the only two brave dudes in our group who agreed to this task was Mr Sandy and Mr Jai Singh :P

After some 30 mins of tp at this place it was decided we are heading towards the island and it was anther shock waiting for us. The island was crowded, we immediately took hold of an corner and kept out things at one place we had our trusted lethargic Mr Jai singh to take care of everything :)

The water was awesome but too salty if you plan to drink some :P, Mr Sandy immediately with more tp that you can float here and relax and now we bunch of fools were trying it.After some initial hiccups we succeeded and we were floating and trust me the peace you get while doing it was worth experiencing.

After two hours of floating around we left the island more of tragedy happened with us that evening like the drinks were over :P ( No unlimited ) , The food was yucks :P and some how we reached the back. Now we were faced with another challenge to hire a Taxi and leave for Colva we got a Taxi for Rs2200/- and left for Colva . Being a long weekend the city of Goa was full of tourist and some how we reached Hotel by 8:00 pm. It was decided that by 9:00 pm we would all meet outside and have our dinner at the lawn.

The dinner I remember would be the best part of the entire trip :) All sitting together as a family talking chit chatting and enjoying there food and drink :) Gives u feeling of grown up

Kuch cheeze jo hamesha yaad rahegi is trip ki

Vaishu's Eyes :) Postcard shot hai tumhari aankhen ... perfect ... khwaab dikha deti hai logon ko ... joh bhi inhe dekhta hai apne aap ko dhoondta hai in mein :P

Me n Vaishu's Walk the talk after dinner on 4th Saala bahut pressure main aa gaya :) Saala itna pressure, itna pressure ... cooker jaise feel kar raha hoon main ... tarkaari pak rahi hai andar. Luv u lots babes and thanks for understaning

The hot babes Madhu Vaishu & Neha

Hot ho tum .... arre darr lagta hai mujhe ki kahin touch ho gayi toh jal na jaon main :)

As all trips in the past this trip also made our love stronger and also made us understand each other more

Love her a lot and she is my guardian angel mwuahhhh...

Luv

Adi............

HUM TUM .............ME N U .....................ADI N VAISHU ...........................

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This would be my first blog talking about us ... Yes that's me n u .... HUMTUM

It is rightly said opposite attract, ME N U are opposite but yet one :)

Actually don't know how many years have passed by our relationship but still everyday is a new day for us and we make sure that we irritate each other so that the other can show his/her love for him/her.

Vaishu is a beautiful girl with a huge heart that's why she bears all mistakes of Adi & is always with him be it be right or wrong. Adi being a born arrogant idiot had many time shouted on Vaishu but as gentle as an angel she was always able to control the situation. and make Adi understand.

Adi has changed a lot after Vaishu came to his life i know baby you would be grinning after reading this line but its the truth.

The below mention lines are here just because you asked me to write :)

What I like about her :-

She is beautiful as an angel

She is caring

She is fun-loving., though at times her fun do give me a heart attack ( Special Ref:- Vaishu Talli episode )

Her carelessness ( bcz it always give me topic to tanofy Vaishali Marwah :P )

Her smile and Chinese small eyes ( You can't lie looking into that eye )

Her madness while shopping ( She made me understand what is impulse buying )

I do hate her laziness but can't say much as she do stretch herself during weekdays :)

Vaishu is a sweetheart in-toto. We always try to spend maximum time talking to each other but it never happens, we neither complain about it probably our love is above all this.

I still remember the day me n Vaishu went to Goa for the first time together that's the first trip of us together, she was delighted smiling all the way. Though I was waiting for her at airport as she was late by one hour. Honey now I am getting used to this waiting after all this year :) Goa was amazing we made sure we spend maximum time together. Vaishu loves eating fish her favorite was the Goan fish curry which she liked a lot also the prawn rawa masala. ( How can I miss This ) :) Vaishu did bought a lot of artificial jewelry from Goa , which I doubt she has ever worn :P.

Goa made her witness the romantic side of Adi the candle episode made her go in trance :P

I remember forcing vaishu for freshening up and then immediately called the room service for a packet of match box they took 10 mins to deliver the same :P

Our next trip was to culturally rich and traditionally sticking to its roots Rajasthan ( UDAIPUR ). This was her first road trip with Adi . Adi tortured her with his song collection and even hymning the same at regular intervals. Udaipur was a beautiful road trip we went together to temple and saw some good scenic beauty. We also did our shopping from here we bought some good rajasthani sandals and chappals from here as a memorabilia.

Why I am writing all this here again though had blogged it , because these were the phases in our life were we came to understand each-other more and confirmed that's there is a connection between us promised to be with each-other in all ups & down of life. We have changed and our relationship have matured with the passage of time.

People sometimes change, says the wise sage

I would say, No people ALWAYS change, They never stop changing.Life is change. Everything is moving, everything is transforming. Everything is changing, all of the time. Life is more of a river than a stagnant, mosquito-infested puddle.

I'm not making light of it. I know that sometimes people change in a painful & inconvenient manner.It's hard, I know. Every day I'm relearning this one basic truth: my sweety has her own brain, her feelings, her own soul. We are linked now through the bond of commitment but she is still her and I am still me. She is a force, a cyclone, a wildfire. She is not a puppet dancing on string. She is a self- her own self- powerful & mysterious. Sometimes I can read her like a book but sometimes she wears an expression I've never seen.

I’m learning her, and I’ll never finish studying her book because she’s always adding new pages.

It's amazing how much each day is full of so many smiles & good thoughts. I think it's making the time go quickly.

You should know that even though we are so far away, you have such a presence in my life. You are in my mind non-stop, your greetings still remain in my mails, the tablet you gifted me makes me smile everytime I use it & you are so much a part of my life here. Having you as part of my day has changed my entire existence here. It's so recognizable ! Everything I do just feels different... & so many things remind me of you. I feel SO honored and grateful that I get to have this privilege of having you in my life. I can think about you and remember places we went or things we did together. I'm so grateful to have some of those memories already.

I Love You. I Miss You. I Want You.

Loved You Yesterday Love You Still, Always have, Always will..................

2014-09-17T07:21:00.001-07:00

I felt nice, I felt warm,
(Its good to do it sometimes you know),
But more importantly I was glad that YOU were there.
In that small cluster of things,
In that small bundle of my joys,
You were there,
Giving a warm glow from within.

I took it, I saw it all around,
And then I felt it from within.
You are the most beautiful thing that has ever happened to me,
Trust me, I say this from deep within.

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I spent many days and months just dreaming of having you as my partner. Now that I have you, I think I am living a dream that I never want to come out of. You make life seem like a celebration every day sweetheart. I love you.

If my life is a garden, you are the only rose in it.

Whoever said that nothing lasts forever, has definitely not seen my undying love for you. It is the only thing that will go on until time ends. I love you.

I feel like the luckiest guy in the whole world to have a beautiful, sexy and honest girl like you. I hope my luck never runs out and I can make you mine forever. I love you.

The best thing I've done in my life is love you
The best gift I've received in my life is your love
And the best thing that has ever happened to me is you
I love you

If a genie popped up and asked me for anything in the world, I would tell him that I already have everything I need in the world – You!

You are the missing piece in the puzzle and jigsaw of my life. Darling, you make my life complete in every way. I love you.

If you ever happen to see a shooting star, wish for all my wishes to come true. Because all I wish to do in life is to keep you happy.

I never knew life could be so beautiful until I met you. I love you.

If I die I want to become a star so that I can shine my love for you from the heavens above. I love you and only you, now and forever!

The shortest definition of happiness is YOU
The shortest definition of love is YOU
The shortest definition of togetherness is YOU
The shortest definition of my life is YOU
I love you

Every second spent with you seems like an eternity full of smiles, happiness and love. I can't even imagine how heavenly and blissful it would be to spend my whole life with you.

If I had nothing else to do, I'd take a sleeping bag, find my comfy spot inside your heart and camp there forever and ever!

I wish I could pluck the stars and gift you one every single day. And then, I could truly call you the sky princess! Stay beautiful, my girl. You're the best.

Our love is like a rose, blooming in spring. It keeps growing as time passes. It is everlasting like the sun. I cannot exist without you. I love you so much.

Love is like a beautiful garden. It brings zest and enthusiasm into our lives. It fills our lives with bliss. Life without love feels incomplete. I am so lucky to be in love. I love you my sweetheart. To me, you are no less than a dream come true. I love you so much.

You are no less than a blessing in disguise to me. I cherish every second I spend with you. I find myself loving you more everyday. You are the reason I am, I love you.

As each day passes, you just keep coming closer to my heart. May the trust and understanding that we share among us grow with each passing day. I love you.

I just cannot stop thinking about you. You make my world so beautiful. You are perfect, just the way you are.

You are the most amazing person I have ever met. You make the world a better place to live in. I feel so lucky to be loved by someone like you.

You are the most beautiful dream I'm living. You are everything I would ever want and ever need. I love you.

I will do whatever it takes to keep you happy. I promise to love you till eternity. I love you truly, madly, deeply...forever

If I had just one kiss to give, I'd save it for you. You mean a lot to me sweetie.

I wrote your name on the sand and the ocean washed it away. I've written your name on my heart and I know forever it will stay.

When I think of you, I smile. When I smile, I think of you. You are my happiness and my every happiness comes from you. I love you.

You are the girl with the sunshine smile. Your voice is like a ray of hope. You fill my life with all the rainbow colors. Girl, to me you are no less than an angel from heaven. I love you.

You are the girl of every guy's dreams. I am so lucky that you belong to me. I love you dear.

Hey sweetie, you are the special someone who was missing in my life. I'm so addicted to you. I love you.

Love is the most beautiful feeling in the world. I'm so glad I got to experience it because of you. I love you.

Hey baby doll, you mean the world to me. Your cute smile make me feel alive. I love you.

You are the cutest girl I have seen all my life. I'm in love with you.

You are the best girl I could have ever asked God for. I love you so much my dear.

You being my girl is the next best thing that has ever happened to me because, finding you from among millions is the best! Now that I have finally found you, I don't ever want to lose you again.

You are just not a pretty face, you have an even more beautiful heart. You are my princess and I will always love you.

Me, you and our love is all it takes to make the perfect world in which I want to live forever. I love you darling.

If you asked me to wait for you, I'd wait until death. Because death in hope is better than a death with a broken heart. Be mine forever sweetheart because I promise to love you forever.

Love has its ups and downs. But I'm never sad for more than a minute because the thought of having you in my life always brings a big smile on my face. I love you sweetheart.

Success, happiness, wealth and health mean nothing without having you around to share it. I just want to say I love you to the most important part of my life – You!

I don't need to look around or ask God for miracles, because you are the miracle in my life. I love you!

I know after reading all this you would be smiling and thinking about me probably a little senti then would message me :-

" LOVE YOU "....................

LUV U ALWAYS ...

ADI.

A weekend getaway to Udaipur...........Vroommmm

2014-09-14T07:38:00.000-07:00

Paradise for architecture lovers vibrant Rajasthan is an incredible destination popular for its formidable monuments, colorful culture, golden sand dunes and the desert! Magnificent monuments silently tell the tales of prosperity, gallantry and tragedies of the bygone era.

Udaipur is a nice, cozy size for a city and exploring it at my own pace was entirely possible. And the locals were friendly and ever ready for a chat — be it shopkeepers or rickshawalas or chaiwalas — and an opportunity to share nuggets of their city with me. I still remember my first visit it was a shopkeeper who pointed me to shop selling the best sweets I have ever eaten. Similarly, it was a rickshawala who took me to a small shop selling bandhani dupattas in unimaginable colours and shades.

Udaipur is a city that is used to tourists from all over and is therefore a very tourist-friendly city. It was a city that felt safe and woman-friendly as well. This was also the only city in Rajasthan where I was not asked “Which country I was from?” .Before going forward let me share some snaps of our amazing trip which we had :-

CITY PALACE

SAJANGARH

This was not my first visit to Udaipur ,but every time I visit I do get excited and do come to know about one new thing or a place in the city. This visit was special was accompanied by my sweetheart and also with my besty and his girlfriend, so you can say it was love in the air :)

Don't know why Iam writing this here but this one is for you babes , you always asked me what kind of girl I want the answer is it starts with the eyes. She's gotta have those kind of eyes that can look through the good in some one. 20% angel, 80% devil. Down to earth. Not afraid of anything.

IT'S YOU BABY .....................

As we skim past it various alleys and broad roads – well, it does boast a few wide roads, we are in awe of this romantic city with its breathtaking hilltop fortress and mind boggling palace structures, and more importantly, its polite and hospitable people. That the land gave birth to sons who were known for their courage and valour is amply evident from the numerous architectural works that speak volumes of the famed Sisodia Rajputs and their acts of bravery.

While on the Lake Palace and the city of Udaipur itself, let me digress a little to allow you to have a quick historical recap of the city. It is a part of the Aravalli Hills, and was founded in 1559 by Maharana Udai Singh. Nicknamed Jewel of Mewar, it was ruled by the India’s oldest dynasties, the Sisodia dynasty, back in 566 AD. The actual history of Udaipur it is believed began with the construction of Nouchouki Palace on the banks of a pond dug by a gypsy in the 15th century. Udai Singh is supposed to have extended this pond and created a mammoth manmade lake that he named Pichola after a small hamlet Picholi, located nearby.Legend has it that Maharana during one of his hunting expeditions chanced upon a sage who was meditating on the hills overlooking Lake Pichola. He blessed Maharana and asked him to build a palace at that very spot as it would be well protected. Thus was born Udaipur, in 1559 A.D, along the shores of Lake Pichola, a kaleidoscope of fairy tale palaces, lakes, temples and gardens. It is recorded that Udai Singh built the Dhuni Mata shrine at that very spot to commemorate this historic meeting.

Coming back to the present, we snake through several alleyways, amidst bustling shopping areas and come upon another of the city’s landmarks. That nature and architecture blend in a harmonious whole is amply seen as we enter the expansive Sahelion Ki Bari or “Garden of the Maids of Honour” with its plush mosaic pools and ornamental fountains. It is said that the garden was built for a queen of Udaipur whose dowry included forty eight maids!
Our visit to the City Palace, a masterpiece in marble and granite, is a revelation – a revelation of architectural beauty and bounty, keeping in step with its grounds that is veritably modernity blending into a historical era. Manek Chowk the palace grounds is ornately landscaped and dotted with shops and emporia, vending colorful souvenirs and other wares symbolic of this romantic city, referred to as the Venice of the East. We come upon a maze of corridors, inter-connected courtyards and rooms in the City Palace, a major section of this being now converted into a museum for public viewing. Needless to say the museum, a treasure trove of art, showcases the heritage of Mewar

No visit to a place is complete without bringing back a couple of memorabilia and Udaipur has plenty to offer by way of its ethnic, indigenous artefacts. In terms of cuisine, Udaipur, like the rest of Rajasthan caters to people of varied tastes, ranging from the authentic South and North Indian dishes to the Chinese, Continental and Western, besides its local Rajasthani fare. Its now become a ritual for me n her to buy some sandals on every visit to udaipur.

Thanks.......

The Pursuit of Happiness ........................

2014-03-23T08:27:00.000-07:00

I read somewhere that repeating certain words in your mind can actually make your day thought to try this by saying " LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL " every morning but all this is crap :)

Others may question your credentials, your papers, your degrees. Others may look for all kinds of ways to diminish your worth. But what is inside you no one can take from you or tarnish. This is your worth, who you really are, your degree that can go with you wherever you go, that you bring with you the moment you come into a room, that can't be manipulated or shaken. Without that sense of self, no amount of paper, no pedigree, and no credentials can make you legit. No matter what, you have to feel legit inside first.

You got a dream… You gotta protect it. People can’t do something themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want something, go get it

Your life cant be beautiful unless and until you find the TRUE ONE for yourself, I found that in you who supports me when I am down who is a pillar to me when I lean in life she is THE ONE ....

I tried reading stupid books to keep smiling but it didn't work ,
I tried doing stupid things in front of friend to smile but it didn't work,

Then you came n gave me a hug the warmth of your presence made me smile .
\My Pursuit for happiness is over have found you

YOU THE ONE FOR ME ..............

LUV

Adi......

My Bull 1993 20 years of thumping

2014-03-08T21:48:00.000-08:00

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It was love that was inexplicable,
I was there, and under the sun, stood you..
I couldn't move a muscle,
I just went blue..

Then I thought I could have you,
I could love and care,
In my mind, a thought I started to sew..

The dream was realised and you were mine,
The journey began and gone was my whine,
At times I cut lose,
Only to realise how precious was your shine..

But then I was woken up,
It was yet to sink in,
The dream was short lived,
Shorter than a hiccup..

I still remember you,
Shining under the sun,
I still remember those wheels that you spun,
All the corners and every turn,
Leaning with you was such fun,
I'll come back for you, someday I will,
We'll elope, we'll be on the run,
I'll miss you baby,
We Had A Good Run.

I know an ownership review here wont make any sense but who cares I love to write and share my blog is the place were I can do this till my heart fill.

I bought this bull of mine second hand , yes you read it write this is not a brand new bull out of showroom :P back in those days when I bought it, Bulls really didnt had a daily commute biking image rather in my place Gujarat the guys selling milk to household used to ride these. The power of Bull would help them easily carry a minimum of 50 ltrs milk :)

Why Enfield bullet?

Because it's all steel. no fibre, no plastic. The Bullet also has a lot of character, not to discount the other bikes on the road. They are good but a bullet is a bullet.

Also because its the only company which has managed to build a strong community of brand loyal customers.

I get to hear this a lot from non bullet owners, isn't it too heavy? And I smile and say " you have to ride it, not carry "

Why RE?For me it was a dream right from the schooling time to own a Royal Enfield. I always used to fancy owning one.When i started making money through my call centre job my first objective was to buy a RE.For me what matters most is the aura and feel i gets when i ride my bike.The beauty my eyes perceive each time when I see the timeless retro design especially those tear drop tank , head design , side covers,spoke wheels and pretty much everything . It makes the enthusiast in me reach motoring nirvana. I can experience pure mechanics in action when ever i ride this machine.I can hear the mechanical clatter,i can feel the crank rolling.i can feel the gear changes.All this mechanical moments is never hidden from the rider i can feel it all.Above all the ride at 60-80 km\hr is the most exhilarating thing. It feels like heaven a quality not many can replicate. Especially for those who have a sedate riding style.RE in a nutshell have lot of downsides like lack of quality, efficiency and some plus point's which can overshadow the downsides.Royal Enfield succeded in carrying over there legacy,hand build with love,engineered with purpose and designed with mechanical errors build in.

There is also one back side of owing a Bull my sweety always call it a " KHATARA " , may be she is jealous :P as I spend more time with my bike rather with her. Sorry :)

She used to get irritated with the sound of my BULL :P which is though Music to me :) Mostly I used to call her while riding :) Ya I know it is not safe n all but riding was the best break I used to get and as it is said " YOU NEED TO MAKE BEST OUT OF YOUR BREAK " :)

Intially for first 7 years of my Bulls life it was stock Black color I am sorry there are only limited pics of my old Black beauty. Later on I planned to change color and also some styling.

Hence started the PROJECT REINCARNATION OF MY BULL :)

If you ask was it a tedious process ? Yes it was :)

But after all this years of BULL ownership you get used to all this. Initially when I first owned bullet I used to get pissed off, It never started whenever I needed :P ( Ya I know I am stupid stop grinning ). Used to get oil stains on my trouser while riding it , Mom used to scold me a lot :P

But this what it is all part of being a Bull owner. Can't imagine all this thing going missing in my life.

It all started buy removing the engine as the crank support was loose and needed some lathe work was also planning for changing the electrical of my BULL as my BULL always needed a battery to start and if not used for some days then it was really a pain to start, my mechanic came up with an alternative to do a coil starting mechanism and vola wonders it happened below are the pictures of the reincarnation process.

The finished product :-

Some days of running planned for some more mods, was always fan for twin seats so here I was :)

Some more day passed I thought of doing some buffing on my Chrome so tried my luck with Brasso :P and here were the result, though the result was not as good as a chrome polisher but something is better than nothing

You need to be really hard when using brasso on engine parts , I used a scrotch brite scrubber to scrub brasso on engine :) it was more of an exercise rather than cleaning :)

Post this reincarnation have rode my BULL for 500 kms now and butter is the word :) hoping to keep the bull for rest of my life :) If my sweetheart would be reading she would be smiling :)

So there is more thumping in my life :) in coming years with my sweetheart on her so called "Khatara " with me :P

Bul-bule ke jaisa tehere hawa mein
Sardiyon ki dhoop sa mijaaz hai
Mausamo ka rang bhi odh le
Kal nahin tha par, aaj hai
Nabz tezz iski chalti rahe
Bewakoofiyon pe bhi naaz hai
Sab ne jaana phir bhi na khul saka
Yaar ye wahi raaz hai
Kyun, ishq mein, ishq lage aasaan
Kyun, kya pata, sach mein hua hai
Ya hone lagi, ishq ki khushfehmiyan

Luv.....

Adi...

Bro's Post :) Ownership review Fiesta 1.6 Team Bhp ( Fiesta 1.6, vrommmmmmmmmmmmmm )

2014-03-07T20:32:00.000-08:00

Though of sharing one of brothers post on Team Bhp regarding his ownership review of his Fiesta 1.6 so here we go :-

9th February 2010

One more day in the train from Thane to Kurla; One more day at Kurla station pushing and jostling with the Autowalas; one more day in the office doing stuff a brain dead robot could do at half charge and one more day walking to Kurla station from the office ‘cause the autowalas would rather go to the moon. Out of frustration decide to go book the Vista quadrajet with out a test ride after reading umpteen reviews on TeamBHP. Walk into a showroom with the booking amount ready and I see a Vista about to be delivered. A happy Family walks in and a scene right out of a Rajshri production’s film. I get sweets too; cause I volunteer to take snaps of all the family members arranged around a Vista in some shade of rust. It’s surreal; until the car is turned on and I find myself right next to the bonnet. The engine grunts and splutters and shakes and this put me off, the moment is lost and I walk away spewing venom.

Weekend and a drive in Ahmedbad. The little one with me firmly held in place by the seat belt gets into a discussion about the Audi A8 he has seen on National Geography and his mother cribs about why someone would pay so much for a car prompting her husband to compare it to her love of Platinum jewelry.
Amidst the good natured family bickering, somewhere it rings a bell and a decision is made.

“I am buying a car for the love of it and not for utility alone"

And a rudimentary short listing is done immediately.

It’s the Linea; the Safari or the Punto for me.

Linea, I have driven in the past and found it a little underpowered; and the Palio 1.6 my friend owns has left a bad after-taste as far as A.S.S. go. The Fiat is out. I have not driven the Safari and call for a test ride. The vehicle arrives promptly on time and it’s a red one with tints. Looks a million bucks and I immediately fall in love with the beast. Step into the driver’s seat and settle in but notice that the demo vehicle markings are missing and you don’t use a color like red for a test drive car. Question the guy with the car, who insists it’s a test vehicle. Some close, pointed questioning and it changes to a customer’s car for which permission has been taken. I give him a piece of my mind and refuse to drive it. Also call up the dealer and give the manager an ear full. Needless to say it spoils the evening. The Tata's are out. Maybe a knee jerk reaction; but no way.
Sleep on a sour note and wake up equally bad. Get in to a fight on the train and reach office really grumpy. Lunch time; economic times and the Ford Fiesta Limited Edition staring at me. Something snaps; Call up the dealers and get quotes. Second coffee of the day and the receptionist rings in a visitor from Shreeji Ford. I love the guy who came with the car and promptly go driving with him. The colour makes me drool and the engine response reminds me of the RD350 I have back home. Spend the rest of the day on TeamBHP reading up on the Fiesta and its perceived A.S.S. troubles, realise its a matter of perception and things are on the upswing. Gulped down every word teambhp has to say ‘cause my experience with Ford has been very limited. Posts by frankmehta, shajufx and a few others are memorized over the weekend.

New day, an evening commute and bickering over half an inch of space on the footboard later; the pact with the devil is sealed. If I have to be in the city of dreams and travel all that much. I might as well enjoy my commute.

All pros and cons considered and what has to be done, is done.

Booked; my limited edition Fiesta 1.6, Morello on the 6th April 2010; delivered on the 26th April 2010!!!!

May 29th 2010

30 days of ownership, 4460 kms and first service done.

A month of extensive driving in my beast.

A combination of awesome highway drives; Mumbai-Ahmedabad-Mumbai, Mumbai-Ratnagiri-Mumbai, umpteen Mumbai-Lonavla-Pune-Mumbai drives and the daily Mumbai Commute.

Running in period ?? Yeah right. It doesn’t want to be run in; me thinks. But was careful of not taking it above 3000 rpm till now.

Did Most of these drives alone. Me and the beast on the road. The only constant companion, a silly smile on my face.

It amazes me the way my beast behaves at speed. It hugs curves with the grace of a ballerina and goes vrrrroooom on the straights with just a twitch of my toes. A smooth, lean mean and seamless acceleration.

The top speed is no joke either. Easily cruised at 165 kmph on the Express way and it ended up a battle of nerves. My beast asking for more and me looking to meet its expectations.

In the end I gave up and came down to a reluctant but saner 100kmph.

City driving is fun too. No issues with handling ofcourse. But the most wonderful aspect for me is how I dnt have to use an accelerator in bumper to bumper traffic where I am most of the time; The Clutch and brakes are enough to rein the beast in. It gives me decent economy too.

11-12 per litre so far with 95% A.C. is something I can live with.

I don’t mind more though; considering the way prices are heading north.

Now for the much maligned cost of ownership.

Almost 5000 kms of rather enthusiastic driving later i have spent Rs. 700/- on the car. That too 'cause of a rather enterprising autowala who stole my wheel cap. i dnt know for what

Nothing falling off the car; no rattles; no rust; no leakages and no funny feelings.

My only complaint; if any is the first gear which me thinks is too short. I dont know if its just me or is it really so. But i would have loved a little more range on the thing; especially driving in the cities. Or maybe i would just get used to the quirks. I should; my 1987 bullet 350 has trained me well to respect a machines whims and fancies.

And Lest i forget; the beast cost me Rs. 6,50,000/-, bought the exended warranty for 9000 odd bucks so i am covered for 4 years.

No modifications; no additions; no accessories on the car so far.

Completely Stock.

I got the Ford original spoiler and remote lock free from the dealer after some haggling. So that donot qualify.

Money well spent; me thinks 'cause i intend to keep the beast for the next 5 years at the very least.

( Post Link :- http://www.team-bhp.com/forum/test-drives-initial-ownership-reports/82540-fiesta-1-6-vrrrrooooooommmmm.html )

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Life is not a bed of roses.................

2014-03-01T22:00:00.000-08:00

I haven't blogged in over some month, and it has been the weirdest thing - the first time in years that I took a little time off of blogging for reasons other than vacation . I took the week off of blogging simply because I have nothing to say, and because my heart just isn't in it right now. The funny thing is, though, I am happier than I've been in longer than I can remember. I wake up every morning in love with my home and my family and my sweet heart. A million thoughts are swimming around in my head 24/7, and none of them have to do with blogging, or even leave any room for thoughts about blogging. I truly am a one-thing-at-a-time kind of boy.

I haven't really read another blog in weeks, maybe months, and I'm OK with that.

I don't have the urge to share every aspect of every moment of my life anymore (slight exaggeration), and I'm OK with that.

I don't miss outfit posts or photography post at all, and the way planning for the next one always made me feel like my wardrobe isn't good enough or may be I am not justifying my buy of SLR Now it all just seems silly.

Bottom line, I think I've grown out of what my blog was before. I think it served it's purpose for a time, and I have no regrets. But now I need to really figure out what I want this blog to be going forward.

One thing I know for sure is that most readers can just tell when your heart isn't in it. I believe that everything you do in life will be received one thousand times better if you do it from a place of true joy and passion for that work. And I just haven't had that for blogging since somewhere in the fall, and I think I need to take a step back and re-evaluate. I don't think I'll ever decide to shut this blog down. I really, truly do enjoy blogging. Or at least I did, and I think I can get that back. I just need a break.

What made me write all this today after 3 months of break to be honest don't know but felt good blogging may be this is what I am ; after some break which I take I would surely come back as my blog would be always calling me :)

The only thing now positive in my life is my sweet heart as she understands me and is with me always

So close,..

never thought we'd be

but the feeling's right

stars around tonight

Just the two of us,
we've broken down the walls,
now i'm feeling, feeling

closer, close to you..:)

When I see your face
There's not a thing that I would change
'Cause you're amazing
Just the way you are
And when you smile
The whole world stops and stares for a while
'Cause, girl, you're amazing
Just the way you are...........

Luv...

Adi

A Letter to u ....

2013-12-04T03:58:00.000-08:00

Dear Babe,

I’ve been going through so much lately. I haven’t found a lot of reasons to smile, but I want to let you know that whenever I feel like crying and breaking down I think of you and I manage a smile. You make me happy and the thought of you reassures me that everything will be ok. You don’t know how many times I’ve held myself back from crying. As strong as I make myself look, I am weak inside. If there had to be anyone in this world that could always make me smile, it would be you. It would be you because of all the simple things you do in life that make me happy. It’s because your smile makes me smile and the thought of you makes me smile. I don’t know what my life would be life if I didn’t meet you. It would probably be plain and untouched by love. I’d probably end up liking some other person, who of course wouldn’t ever compare to what you mean to me. When I look into your eyes, I see love. I see everything, I see you. I can give you my heart and my love right now and forever. I hope nothing between us will ever change, but if anything had to change, it would be the love I have for you, because it would get stronger everyday.

Luv

For You.....

2013-12-04T03:56:00.000-08:00

Every bit of you is engrained in me.

A whiff of your scent triggers a memory,

The sound of your voice awaken my soul.

I could sit here and write about what I love about you and I still wouldn’t cover it all.

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It’s been awhile, but I’ve had much to write about

Love is a funny thing. I expect it to be easy. I expect it to be a world of roses and laughs and perfect moments that you find only in movies. I expect you to always say the right thing, and always know exactly how you feel, or exactly how to react to it. I expect you to calm me down when i’m yelling or to chase me when I walk away. I expect so much that I feel entirely, and utterly defeated when something doesn’t exactly match up with all my plans. But that’s the thing. Love isn’t a plan. It doesn’t have a certain beginning and it certainly has no end or visible finish line to those deeply in it. Love happens; it is so incredibly messy. People around me can’t comprehend why I do the things I do, or why I fight so hard for something that seems to cause me so much pain, because simply, they can’t see. They can’t see the invisible ring of insanity that surrounds me when i’m in love. It’s inconvenient and painful and devastating at times, but we can’t live without it. What you don’t learn is how hard love is. How much work it takes. How much of ourselves we have to put into it. How it isn’t worth it until we are complete and utter idiots about it. Love isn’t you calming me down when I yell. It’s you yelling, just as loud, just as hard, right back at me, right in my face to wake me up and to keep me grounded. It isn’t me bringing you roses everyday or cute things that make our relationship appear more presentable. It’s after a long fight, that drains the life and bones right out of us both, and yet me showing up the next morning anyway. It’s not you saying all the right things or knowing exactly how to handle me. So no, it’s not me caressing your hair and telling you everything is going to be alright. It’s me standing there, admitting i’m just as scared as you are. You have to remember that with love, you’re not the only one involved. You’ve unknowingly put your life, your heart into the palms of another persons hands and said, here. Do what you will. Mash it into mince meat. Or forget I ever handed it to you. As long as you have it. It makes us crazy. It makes reality invisible and it erases all the lines that we shouldn’t cross. Because love isn’t about fencing ourselves in; feeling safe, feeling sure about the future. It’s about scaring the shit out of every nerve in our body, but pushing forward anyway. Because all the fighting and all the tears and all the uncertainty is worth it. And it’s a hell of a lot better, than being 100% happy without someone to show us that there is a world of a difference between feeling ‘happy’ and feeling whole.

An Incredible Road Trip of a Lifetime to Udaipur, The Most Romantic City in the World

2013-08-01T23:25:00.000-07:00

“As unique as a seashell, as deep as the sea
As eternal as the waves, our love is meant to be!
Friends forever we’ll always be!
My greatest blessing she’ll always be;
An answered prayer he is to me!”

It has been over a years since we were into a relationship, And what better way to celebrate our anniversary, than do an incredible road trip to the most romantic city in the world, ‘The Venice of the East’, one of the most beautiful cities in the world, Udaipur!

Our road trip was truly incredible and a once in a lifetime experience! We covered an unbelievable 998 kilometers in the whole trip,! We clicked almost 4000 wonderful snaps! We saw some amazing scenery which cannot be explained in words!

Before I start my travelogue, let me share some of our memories, which we captured forever in our camera!

The journey starts…

Woke up on the 18th of July by 7:00 am and freshened up. Was in terrific spirits! The thought of going to one of the most beautiful cities in the world filled us with an extraordinary feeling of enthusiasm. I did my best to hide my glee, but couldn’t stop smiling!!!! Was absolutely thrilled!

Loaded up my luggage in my Ford and carefully kept my camera on the second row floor. I was sure that my dear will go crazy clicking, once we started our drive! So I wanted the camera to be within one-arm distance!

The Flight landed Ahmedabad airport bang on time 10:00am, immediately we gathered our luggage had a strong cup of coffee and started off with the journey. The road from airport to Chiloda circle is full of pot holes and water moreover it was an single lane. once we reached Chiloda and hitted the main road for himmatnagar the whole scenario changed the roads were getting smoother and wider. The beast inside my little FORD FIGO was roaring and we were easily touching 120 plus km.

I must say that the roads in Gujarat are bliss for vehicles, I have been to udaipur earlier also but always with family or business trips I wanted this trip to be a slow and sedate one without any planning and wanted to enjoy every moment I am spending in this city. We reached himmatnagar around 12:00 and was not feeling ok because of all the spicy curry I had a day before @ home. I had a cup of ENO and some medicine and immediately started my journey. For this trip had made some assorted collection of my Hindi songs which comprised of 2 CD's. Me and Vaishu were singing songs all way round. When we reached Khedbhrama almost the border of gujarat the whole view outside was changing and now our concentration was diverted in clicking pics. The view gets even more beautiful when you cross Rajasthan border vide Shyamalaji Post rains rajasthan was greener as ever, have never seen such greenery in my life and that too in Rajasthan.

Reached Udaipur BP around 2:30 and checked in our Hotel Vishnupriya around 3:00 pm, we took some rest and freshened up and planned for some site seeing in the days to come. Iam not going to discuss here about my visit and my schedule rather would be explaining some of best moment which were there during this trip.

Can epithets like City of Lakes, The White City, City of Palaces, City of Dawn do justice to Udaipur? In 1568, Maharana Udai Singh established the seat of government here, having shifted the capital of the kingdom of Mewar from beleaguered Chittor. Udaipur, where royal traditions are part of the lifestyle, is seductive in its beauty, elegance and grace. Udaipur will always conjure a myriad images that will compel one to remember. Was I there last week, or was it a dream I did not want to wake from?

The Aravali range, weathered and humbled by time, plundered and ravaged by mindless mining are among the oldest hills on planet Earth. Pichola Lake, shimmering in its fullness, reflects the fabled palaces, a tribute to Rajput history. The monsoon skies are a many-splendoured panorama of changing moods. There are many lakes in the area, both with and without name, famed and hidden. Jaisamand Lake, 50 kms from here, is Asia's second largest man-made lake, with an area of 36 sq kms. Fateh Sagar Lake, originally created in 1678 AD, was later extended. Almost dry in the 90s, for the past 6 years it has remained filled. On 4th Sept 2011, it overflowed to the delight of the local population, who gathered in large numbers to witness the event.

The City Palace Complex on the banks of Lake Pichola houses several palaces, including the museum that encapsulates Mewar's royal dynasty. It is the residence of the descendants of the Suryavanshi Rajput rulers of Mewar. Two of the palaces here, Fateh Prakash Palace and Shiv Niwas Palace have been converted into heritage hotels.

Like all tourists, I had once stood at the edge of Pichola Lake and gazed from afar at the Lake Palace, standing in all its pristine glory in the midst of the lake. The marble here is not cold, aloof, colourless, but a glistening pure translucent white. History here is alive. That is the very charm and romance of Rajasthan, that the past is ever-present

With its legacy of warm and elegant hospitality, All the Hotels we visited has hosted the same hospitality of this Royal City in its current ethos.

Nathdwara, just over 20 kms away, is famous for its temple of Lord Krishna which houses the idol of Shrinathji, a 14th century, child incarnation of Krishna, originally worshiped at Mathura, shifted in 1672, to protect it from Mughal emperor Aurangzeb.

The art and architecture of Mewar is just one more expression of the multi-faceted character and personality of the Rajputs. Their art is a celebration of their living traditions which have survived the ravages of time. Mewar's rulers were patrons of all that was best in Indian martial and fine arts, architecture, and learning.

Many names are written in gold, whose lives will continue to inspire. Maharana Pratap, the personification of Rajput values, took an oath to spend his life in tapasya, to re-conquer Chittorgarh from Akbar and regain the glory of Mewar. He underwent untold hardships, ruling from hidden caves and hiding in ravines, perpetually engaged in warfare. He is arguably the most honoured among the honorable Rajputs of Mewar for standing resolute in the face of bitter battles, in the darkest era of Rajput history, upholding the valour, dignity and cherished values of his clan. He died in 1597 held in the highest esteem, by friend and foe, alike.

I can see hundreds of years of the history of Rajasthan as though I have witnessed it: been bereft at the death of Maharana Pratap's horse, Chetak; grieved inconsolably at the bloodshed at Haldighati; been humbled by the tradition of honour and glory at Chittorgarh. I know the integrity and the valour of the Rajputs, I know their hardships, I know their lands, I know their customs, I know the generosity of their spirit. I can cry with them and rejoice with them. I doubt whether any other state can boast of women so courageous, while upholding traditions, so strong and fearless behind the traditional ghunghat. And nowhere are the men so emotional and expressive. And yet, the women are so feminine and graceful and the men so valiant and chivalrous. It is these very contradictions that remind us that Mewar is truly unique. The fact that paradoxes co-exist is itself a celebration of life.

NOSTAL-GOA

2013-05-05T07:36:00.001-07:00

The heading says it all. My trip to Goa was 50% nostalgia and 50% enjoyment. Chalo let me begin at the beginning lest you get confused ;).

By the way, if you are not interested in the details and just want to know the gist, then read the title and shoo away...

The Beginning [Wednesday 17^th April 2013.]

I should say that the trip dint exactly get off to a good start. Was traveling a day prior to Mumbai from were the flight was scheduled, reached early to airport and was all alone had bloody 4 hours to spend @ airport. I must say the Mumbai airport is actually a one of the most neat and decent airport in the country. Got this instinct again when I reached GOA airport.

Everything was ok the flight was on time till we landed up the GOA airport and for God sake only my luggage was not coming on the conveyor belt taking my precious 30mins of the holiday.Got another shock of my life when the driver who came for the pick up told me the hotel is another one and half hour :( .

Ah! GOA at last!!!!!!!
Wednesday 17^th April 2013. 3:30 PM

GoAAAAAA .......... Reached the hotel immediately wanted something to eat as well as went for a shower, It was GOAAAAA people so we ordered some FISHHHHHH and trust me that was yummyyyyyyyy. The plan for the day was to visit Candolim Beach which was near to the Hotel and witness sunset.

The view was awesome trust me the beach do ooze away all the tiredness in you and you go in a trans state away from all worries. Goa - Sun, Sand & Surf

Old Goa, majestic beyond words:- 18th April 2013

We planned to go for a full day tour in Old Goa. Panaji is a small but beautiful city. It has many buildings made in Portuguese style. The itinerary for the day included visiting some of the churches of Goa and a sunset cruise on the Mondovi river, the ticket for which we had already bought from our hotel in Candolim

So from North Goa we drove straight to Old Goa via Panaji where all the beautiful churches are located. The road from Panaji to old Goa is very beautiful as you drive along the Mondovi river to your left. We saw the Basillica of Bom Jesus, a spectacular church built by the Portugues in the 16th century. The basilica holds the mortal remains of St. Francis Xavier. We also visited Se cathedral, Church of St Catherine, museum and Church of St Francis of Assisi. It took us almost 4.5 hours to see the churches in detail. There were some more churches which we decided to see the next day.

The churches are open from 9:30 AM to 5 PM everyday for public viewing. The entry is free but for the museum you need to buy entry tickets worth Rs 10 per person. Photography is also allowed inside the churches but not inside the museums.

We also went to a live aquarium show in S Goa which gave me some decent clicks :-

We headed back to Panaji where our boat cruise was supposed to start. We already had the tickets for the sunset cruise which starts from 6 pm and is a one hour boat ride on the Mondovi river. There are many other cruise slots
available like sundown(7:15-8:15 pm), dinner cruise(8:45-10:45 pm). We booked tickets for the launch Santa Monica.

Since the cruise was scheduled to start at 6 pm so we were told to report to the ticket counter of Santa Monica at the jetty at 5:45 pm. The jetty office is just below the main Panaji flyover. Apart from santa Monica there were ticket counters of many other boat services like Paradise and all. We reported to the counter at 5:45PM. There is a paid parking near the jetty where cars/bikes can be parked.

The seating arrangement on Santa Monica is on first-come-first-serve basis. If you come early you can choose your seats but if you are late then you have to be happy with whatever seat is left. Consider yourself lucky if you can grab
a seat by the sides of the boat from where you can see the sunset. There were some boats with open roofs but unfortunately ours was not.

Once the boat starts the crowd will be greeted by a DJ. There will be performers who will dance traditional Goan dances. You are also solicited to join them. The experience of catching the sunset from the river is amazing. The boat will go along the scenic river banks and every moment of the boat ride is very enjoyable.

As the sun sets, the boats will get lit up and you will get to see similar other boats on the river all lit up brightly by colour bulbs and the light getting reflected in the waters. The several advertisement boards also
get lighted up giving the Mondovi waters a different feel. Food and other beverage are also available on the cruises but have to be brought.

See GOA from my eyes..........................

Goa is nothing like what u hear from ur friends or watch in movies. Every single Tom returning from goa will have a story to tell about how he got sloshed, how he partied, where he found “the grass,” blah blah blah… This is not goa.. This is what people make out of it. Goa is actually much much much more than that. It’s a place where u can actually communicate with nature. For instance, Fort Aguda once u climb up the hill and reach the fort, u would actually feel so peaceful. U would feel so connected to nature. For me, there was a constant piano playing in my heart the breeze walks in with a twist and when u close ur eyes, it ll embrace u like ur mother. So pure, so sanctifying!!!

Goa brings such amazing visuals in front of ur eyes. My favorite is north goa, where I ve been staying there. Vagatore, anjuna, arambol, mapusa, tiracol there are so many places in north goa where u would find the villages of kerala with a Baskin Robbins Some places are just like kerala, but u would find a lot more smiling faces. People are nice but not too nice that they would poke their nose into ur lives. Just the right amount.

Goa is flooded with couples in love. Everywhere u go, u would find them. I love seeing people who are in love. You don’t get to watch them in public in kerala or Ahmedabad. Our small towns and villages treat adolescent romance like a sin. When I was in school, all of us used to keep our crushes like big secrets. If ur teacher finds it out, u ll ve to bring ur parents to school. It’s like a black mark on ur character. so the most sacred feeling of this planet was often hidden like a dark emotion. But of course there were exceptions.Of course true romance and unconditional love are all big words, but making an attempt towards it is a human responsibility. More than responsibility, it’s a necessity. There is so much to learn from a woman for a man and vice versa. I don’t know why I am saying all this, may be it’s because of Goa.

All these moments of experiences would become memories from the past. But one thing is for sure. From now on, if I am traveling, I would carry a map; not the stories that my friends tell me. Because, to a large extent, my experiences are going to shape from what I am and what I do. Goa has managed to teach me this. Thank u goa. I am taking u with me!!!!

WHAT I FEEL VS WHAT I KNOW.

2012-12-07T02:50:00.000-08:00

i feel sad more than i feel happy.

i feel stuck more than i feel free.
i feel defeated more than i feel accomplished.
i think about it every single day.
And we see ourselves as whatever we believe the most important person in our life believes about us.
So of course it fucks with you if they walk away.
i feel stuck in the best and worst moments that i've known.
The million bucks and the silence that followed.

But what is true?
What do i know?

i have a lot to be thankful for.
Mom and Dad
They're healthy and they love each other and they love me.
Friends who want to know me and want me to know them.
i get to do a job that i believe in. Most people don't.
i have the opportunity to make a difference.
A lot of people would give anything for that.

i am healthy and i am young and there is air in my lungs and a shining sun outside and a sea as well and a story still going. And i'm allowed to be honest.

So do not despair.
For there is more than what we feel.
There are things missing in every single room.
But there is even more not missing.
So don't be blinded by the ghosts.
Don't let them glow brighter than your friends.
Don't let them glow brighter than your family.
Be present.
Fight to be present.
Don't live only in your head.
It's lonely and it's dangerous.
Put your phone down for a few hours every day.
Talk to people. Look someone in the eyes and be honest and invite them to do the same.
Read a good book and watch a great film and put a song on repeat and remember who you are. Keep dreaming all your dreams. And perhaps as well some new ones.
Go to counseling if you need to go to counseling.
Take your own advice.
Take care of yourself.
Take care of the people that you love.
Tell them that you love them.

There is much to be thankful for.

SOMETHING ............

2012-11-16T01:30:00.000-08:00

If you carry impatience in your heart then you are alive
If you carry dreams in your eyes then you are alive
Learn to live like the free waves of wind
Learn to flow like the sea does as waves
Receive every moment in life with open arms
Every moment is a new beginning seeing with your eyes
If you carry surprise in your eyes then you are alive
If you carry impatience in your heart then you are alive

The truth that almost come to my lips
Is clear from my eyes
Sometimes from you, sometimes from me
It asks for words
To give it structure and come to my lips
To dance in the embrace of my voice
But this truth
Is a feeling, just a feeling…

Like a fragrance it floats in air,
A mute fragrance,
That you know is there,
That I know is there,
And is not hidden from this world,
What kind of secret is this?

Me...........................

2012-10-28T03:35:00.001-07:00

The Secret..........

There is a matter that has almost come to my lips
This is evident in my eyes
Sometimes from you, sometimes from me
They ask for words
To take their shape and come to my lips
And to be embraced by my voice
But this matter
Is a feeling…only a feeling
Floating in air like fragrance
Fragrance becomes its voice
That you know of
That i know of
It’s not hidden from the world
Don’t know what kind of secret is this

Why Do You Cry?......................

Every time the cloud of pain loomed
A tear filled my eyes
When this lonely heart was scared
I told my heart ‘Why do you cry for such reason? This happens everywhere in this world’

These dark lonely times, time has distributed them to all.
Some sadness is part of everyone’s story,
Some sunshine is a part of everyone’s life
Your eyes are damp for no reason
Every second is a new season
Why do you waste your time over such matters
Why do you cry I asked my heart

I Exist.............

The moment flows by like molten sapphire
Deep Blue silences
No Earth below
No Sky above
The rustling branches and leaves
Saying that only you are here
Only me
My breath
My heartbeat
Such Depth like this
Such Loneliness like this
And me only me
I now believe I exist

LIFE IS HARD, LIFE IS DIFFICULT ....

2012-10-18T04:15:00.000-07:00

My message today is titled Life is hard” and it’s about how to live a great life despite the fact that life is difficult.

Everybody wants to be happy in life. We all want to live a perfect life. We want that great job or a successful business. We want to be married to Mr. Right or Mrs Perfect. We want to have great kids. We want to have friends that stick by us come rain or shine. We want to be able to have all the material things life has to offer and have all our problems just disappear.

Everybody wishes for good life. It may be at different levels. One person may define a good life one way and another may describe it another way. For one person a good life may be just having three meals a day and a roof over their head. For another it may be having a huge mansion and a couple of million dollars in the bank.

There are different levels and meanings to what a good life is. But whatever you definition of it, there is perhaps one thing that you may have in common with many other people. You might want that good life stress free. You would like to have it without having to work so hard or struggle so much for it. That is a normal human expectation. Nobody likes to struggle through life.

Unfortunately, that is also what may be stopping you from having that great life. The thought of all that work, all that planning, overcoming hurdles and resistance is enough to make a lot of people give up before they even start. It can all seem too overwhelming, and for many it all just doesn’t seem be worth it. It’s like being drained of energy just at the thought of running a marathon. Before you are even at the starting line the thought of all that running just scares you and tires you so much mentally you just decide not to go for it. It’s just too hard.

One of my favourite books is titled “The Road Less Travelled” by M. Scott Peck. The first sentence in the book is:

“Life is difficult.”

Now, if you pick up a book and the first thing it tells you is “life is difficult” you may just think “is this book going to get reassuring and encouraging after such a start?

But, as Peck goes on to explain, once you accept that life is hard, it no longer becomes an issue that it’s difficult. He says:

“Once we know that life is difficult- once we truly understand and accept it - then life is no longer difficult.”

In life you will have difficulties getting anything you want. It is very rare to get anything in life without some degree of effort. Only if you win the lottery will you have everything without effort, and even then you would have had to go out and buy the lottery ticket anyway so it’s not free at all.

Life is hard – your boss will not always be the nicest person in the world. Your job will have challenges that you did not foresee. Your workmates will sometimes be a pain. You won’t always get the salary and recognition that you want and deserve at work. Your clients may not be the nicest people in the world.

Life is hard – your kids won’t always be the ideal kids you want them to be. Your wife or husband may not be as perfect as you thought they were when you married them – in fact I can guarantee you they are not. Your home may not be the ideal place you would want it to be. You may not the perfect wife or husband that you once thought you were.

Life is hard – running a business is not as easy as you thought it would be. No one is lining up to bring money to your business, even though you are a really nice person and your business has great products to offer.

I could go on and on with these examples, but the bottom line is that “Life is hard.”

I don’t mean to say in all this that you don’t deserve a break. I am not saying that you are not justified in thinking that you deserve more than what you have gotten from life and the world to this point.

I am not saying that you are not justified in feeling the way that you feel. I know you have had it tough at times. I know that at times you feel that it’s all very confusing and just too hard. I mean you have worked very hard. You’ve done all that you possibly could in your life whether it is at work or at home. But things just don’t seem to have worked out as well as you had planned or hoped. It all just seems to have gone wrong and you don’t know or understand how or why.

But that’s okay. It’s normal. That’s what being human is all about. That’s what life is all about. Life is hard. Accept that.

Once you do, you will feel better about your circumstances. Then you won’t think of your situation as anything but what is common to every human being. Then you will think of your situation as a part of life. You will no longer beat yourself up about how bad things are or how you are not doing so well in one area or another. You will realise that you are only human. You make mistakes just like everybody else. You are not perfect just like everybody else.

But don’t stop there. Accepting that life is hard does not mean that you accept every circumstance and simply go with the flow.

You see, there are two sides to this story. There is another side to this coin. On the one side of the coin is where you have the words “life is hard” inscribed, but if you turn that coin over you will five very small but powerful words. They read:

“You can make it better”

That is one of the beautiful things about life. You can make your life better. You have total responsibility for what you do and how you respond to the fact that life is hard. As the now cliché saying goes:

“If life hands you lemons, make lemonade.”

Accepting that life is hard comes with accepting that you have the responsibility to make it better. Not only do you have the responsibility to make it better, you have the ability and the power to make it better.

You can make it better – become a better employee and someone worth giving more responsibilities at work. The promotions and the better pay are sure to follow one way or another.

You can make it better – learn how to raise better kids and have a happier home. Become the good husband or wife you would like your spouse to be.

You can make it better – learn how to turn that business around. Gain the extra skills you need to run a successful business.

You see, the only person you have any control over is yourself. You cannot change other people. Let’s take the example of marriage for moment. Notice that I did not say you should turn your husband or spouse into an ideal spouse. I said you should become the ideal husband or wife you want your spouse to be. Then, once you become such a person you may have several choices as to how to relate to your spouse.

Firstly, once you are as near perfect a spouse as anyone can be your husband or wife might see the difference and also decide to change for the better or they may just change naturally as a response to your new attitude. Secondly, if they don’t change, perhaps you will have reached a level of maturity where you are content and satisfied with who they are and their faults no longer bother you. Or thirdly, in some cases, such as in abusive relationships or in relationships that are a risk to your health, you may reach a level of self acceptance and courage where you are able to leave that abusive or unfaithful partner.

Whatever the case may be, this example illustrates one other important fact about teh fact that life is hard and taking responsibility. That is:

“You always have choices”

No matter what situation you are in, you have a choice. No matter how bad things are, you have a choice. No matter what you think you can or cannot do, you have a choice.

Now it may not be an easy choice, by any means. It may be a very difficult choice and the road you decide to take may be a tough one. It may push you way out of your comfort zone. It may mean that in the initial period your life may get even harder than it already is. But it is a choice nonetheless.

A lot of times you will actually find that the choices are not as hard as you thought they were. You may just have shut off your mind from seeing those choices and possibilities because you thought you had no choice. Once you become open to the idea that you are responsible for your life and that you have choices, you will find that you are no longer stuck just because life is hard.

At that point, life is still hard, but you have the final say. Your life becomes more meaningful and purposeful when you have some-one who hold's your hand at all times and would never let go be it be any situation..........