Destress and Smoke Less

HAVE FAITH IN YOUR DREAMS!

2012-01-24T07:18:00.001-08:00

Hello there!

It is a great year already, I can feel it in my bones, and in my soul.

So far, I am doing really good on my New Year Resolutions. How bout you?

My resolutions are...

To be healthier and to serve more people in more ways. That's it!

Although, there is a huge list of things I have to do, and want to do, that goes under each of those goals. My goals are very specific, and so I have a lot of work to do.

One thing I know for sure is, I may have a set back or I may mess up a little but you know what? That is totally okay in my head. That sounds funny. Anyway, what I mean is, I will not give up if I have a set back or if I mess up a little, or a lot.

My mantras for my goals are, "I can do this! I have faith that I can do these things. I will not give up."

I am so focused, it is magnificent, in my head. ;0)

Do you have your goals? How are you doing? Do you have faith that you can accomplish your goals? Do you have the mindset that you WILL NOT give up?

In Hebrews 11:1, it says, "Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen."

Now is the time, more than ever, to have faith in yourself, and your goals. Now is the time, more than ever, to hope for the things that you want that have not yet come to pass. Now is the time, more than ever, especially if you want a better you and a better year, to be focused more than ever.

You can do it my friend.

You can do this!

Have faith!

Never give up!

Say it with me now, "I can do this! I have faith I can do these things! I will not give up!"

Have a great week. Have fun and be playful too ;0)

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOUR DIFFICULT TIMES

2011-12-31T06:43:00.001-08:00

BREAKING POINT

Hey there. How are you? Am having a great week, how bout you? Hope so ;0)

Have you ever felt like you were at a breaking point? If you have, you know what it is, and you will know exactly what I am talking about.

A breaking point is an emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual place where you feel like you are going to break. It is a place that you are so overwhelmed that you feel like you cannot take it anymore. I have seen this place, I have seen it in my own life, and in many other lives. Do you know what I am talking about?

When we are at a breaking point, this place, will 'make us' or 'break us'. This is a place that I have been with hundreds of individuals. They say that they can't take anymore, and they feel like they are going to break.

The breaking point is usually when you are overwhelmed and everything is in your face. You think like, oh shizzz, what am I going to do? You feel like, AAAHHH! I can't take it anymore. And then you have to make a decision on what to do.

Usually, when we are at this point we are thinking of all the things that are wrong, and then we think about the worst possible outcome that can happen for us. This is major fear, and this is major worry that can cause anxiety.

This can be a very critical point in our life. This can be a moment, or 6 months, of crisis.

Through the years, I have worked with many individuals who were at this point. A couple of the people I have worked with are teenagers, who are in a situation at home that is causing severe anxiety, and/or depression. Some others, I have worked with, are having severe financial difficulties, who have lost everything, and I mean everything tangible. Additionally, I have worked with people who are emotionally spent due to loneliness, despair, or frustration.

So, if you are at a breaking point, what can you do?

I am so very excited that you asked ;0)

When you are at a breaking point, the first thing you have to do is ask yourself what the heck it is? What is going on for you right now? I guarantee it is fear of what might happen and the thought that you will not know how to, or if you can, handle it. What are you afraid of? Ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?"

At this point, the best thing to do is pour your heart out to God. Talk to Him, and tell him what you are afraid of, and what your biggest fears are. Why do you want to do this? You want to do this because you are Heavenly Father's child, and He loves you. You are so very special to Him, and you will feel comfort from this because He wants you to turn to Him so that He can give you comfort.

After you do this, you will feel comfort.

With all my heart, I believe that when we have troubles, I mean really big troubles, it is an opportunity to get closer to God. Part of the reason He gives us trials is so we can learn to lean on Him more frequently.

In Romans 12:12 it says, " Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;"

Rejoicing in hope means to be happy for your ambitions, aspirations, and dreams. Patient in tribulation means willing to endure the thing, or things, that is causing your pain and unhappiness. Continuing instant in prayer means to persist and carry on immediately and urgently in your conversations with God.

Basically, focus on your dreams, be willing to endure the trial that you have been given, and persist, right now, in your conversations with God.

When we are at a breaking point, I truly believe we do the opposite. We focus on what we don't want, we are impatient, and we want to quit and give up.

My friend, dream big, focus on what you want, be willing to endure your trials, and be constantly in the conversation with God.

You can do this. You got the power. You are so very special and you must remind yourself of this in the moment of a breaking point, and the entire time you have the struggle that you are going through.

Get your journal, write down all the things you dream of in your life, and write down all of the evidence, your successes and accomplishments, that remind you that you can have them.

And know this... You can handle anything you are going through, you can handle anything that comes your way, and you will manage this because you always have overcome your trials in the past.

You are so very capable, you are so very smart, you are so very strong, and you are so very divine. The thing is, if you are at a breaking point, you may have just forgot all of your divinity. You are a child of God, and that makes you divine.

You can be, do, and have anything your heart desires, believe in this, and believe in yourself. Have faith my friend! God has faith in you! I have faith in you as well!

If you need help, take the destress yourself class and it will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want, and show you how you can get it.

That's all I got.

Have fun this weekend. Be playful!

Big Hugs... AND MERRY CHRISTMAS BABY!!!

Elizabeth

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2011-12-30T19:12:00.001-08:00

MY JOURNEY

Hey there. How the heck are you? I am very well, thank you very much.

I wanted to show you my journal. That is a picture of it right there ->

Pretty cool aye?

I just wanted you to know how serious I am about setting and obtaining goals. It's not just about goals though, it is about being happy, and making things better and better, no matter what you are going through.

Last Tuesday, I wrote about Never Ending Goal Setting, because I believe, with all my heart and soul, that the only way to diligently progress and produce in this life is by constantly setting and obtaining goals, and by an enduring determination to evaluate our development so that we can continue to improve.

People are always complaining and speaking about how hard life is when in actuality, it really isn't that bad or hard. I hear woman talk about how horrible a commercial is or how devastating someone's behavior is but it is all an illusion. You know what is devastating? Loosing your legs, and not being able to walk, or loosing a lung so that you are unable to function actively, not a commercial or someone's behavior.

What I think about these individuals who complain and cry woe is me, all the time, is that they are not learning or moving forward. When you learn and move forward, you discover that life is not really hard (well sometimes it is ;)), and there isn't anything that you can't handle because you have become stronger and stronger from your challenges.

Trust me on this one ;)

One of the biggest things that has helped me move forward and discover that I can handle anything is my writing. My writing began in my journals, then I did a lot in college, and now I blog. My writing is not the best but, you should have read it before I went to college. I was raised by a Mother who's second language is English, and it really shows in my journals. It really shows on my blog, as well, but it is a lot better than it was.

Tangent! LOL

What I am trying to say is, I have come a long way because of my writing, especially in my journals. I have set and obtained some serious goals, and I have overcome some serious challenges. What is so cool is, I can look back at where I was in life, my anxiety, my depression, my alcoholism, or my PTSD, I know how far I have come, and know that I can handle anything. It is because of this constant goal setting and evaluating of myself that has gotten me where I am now.

No! I am not a millionaire, yet! But I am stronger spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The only reason I say that is because most people attribute moneys to success when I look at the ability to be happy and still move forward in life, under any circumstance, as being successful. In order to be happy and still move forward, under any circumstance, one must be strong spiritually, mentally, and emotionally. The way you get there is learning more from your challenges, having faith in yourself, and having a very strong spiritual relationship with God.

There have been many times in my life when I have been angry, anxious, depressed, and overwhelmed. Those were my challenges, and I have learned from them primarily through the documentation of my thoughts, feelings, actions, attitudes, and goals.

When I was a young single Mother, I use to have severe anxiety over money. As I look back, and read my journal entries, I can remember the thoughts and feelings, and I can know, without a doubt, that if I made it through that, I can make it through anything. This, my friend, is an unbelievable gift that I have taught to hundreds, if not thousands, of people.

In my last post, I wrote that I too would get my journal and start my never ending goal setting process, and I have. I wrote my goals for 2012, right after I wrote that post.

So, get your journal, take responsibility for your life, get ready to destress yourself for 2012, get back to the basics, start to overcome some amazing challenges, and do it with faith, RIGHT NOW!

Let's do this together. If you journal, I promise you, you will see some amazing things happen in your life and it won't be just setting and obtaining goals, it is much bigger than that.

You can do this!

You got the power!

You can be, do, and have anything your heart desires in 2012!

Don't you wanna? I know you do!

Good luck my friend. Speak soon...

Don't forget! Have fun! Be playful!

If you need help through this process of never ending goal setting, the destress yourself class will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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GOT GOALS?

2011-12-30T06:57:00.001-08:00

NEVER ENDING GOAL SETTING

Hello!

NEVER ENDING GOAL SETTING!

Did you know that if you don't have goals you are in the constant state of going nowhere?

Did you know that if you are in the constant state of going nowhere, you can cause yourself some stress?

As spiritual, and human, beings, we must move forward to feel good about ourselves. If we do not feel good about ourselves, our self-confidence and self-esteem is very low. If we feel low, we have a void, and we tend to fill that void with very stressful habits like eating, smoking, drinking, inappropriate relationships, or drama.

Do you get up everyday, get ready for work or school, go to work/school, get home, watch TV, eat dinner, watch more TV, go to bed, and do it all over again? If you do, you are in the constant state of going nowhere.

Life is a learning experience and one of the things we can learn is never ending goal setting.

Whether we have small or large goals we will move forward in life. When we move forward in life we feel good about ourselves.

When we don't have any goals we stay in the constant state of going nowhere and we feel displeased with ourselves. When we feel unfulfilled we feel unhappy. Unhappiness can stress us out. We have a choice, we can stay in the constant state of going nowhere or we can choose never ending goal setting.

Some goals that you may consider are financial, relationship, health, or career. They can be big or small.

If you would like to make more money you can make that a goal.

If you would like to get along better with your spouse or family members you could make that a goal.

If you would like to feel better physically you could make that a goal.

If you are unhappy in your career you could make a goal out of looking for another job.

The best way to set a goal is to think about what you want. Ask yourself, "What do I really want?"

The answer may be to weigh less, or be happier, or to overcome anger, or make more money, or find an eternal companion, or to increase self-awareness, or to serve, or to find passion or purpose. These are simple wants and yet still goals.

Once you have an idea of what you want you can take steps to obtaining your goal(s).

First, think about the best for yourself. Dream and imagine what a perfect life would look like.

Second, write your goals down.

Third, prioritize your goals.

Fourth, write down all the things 'to do' to obtain the goal(s).

Fifth, start 'to do!'

Sixth, believe you will obtain them.

Seventh, and final, never give up!

You can do this!

Staying stagnant in our lives can cause stress because our lives may lack excitement or pleasure. Take time to explore what you really want out of life and move on it. If you move forward only one step at a time you will be that much closer to your goal, by that one step.

Setting goals and obtaining them creates excitement and enthusiasm for life. If we are excited and enthusiastic about life we feel successful and that is what destressing yourself is all about, moving from stress to success.

So, get your journal my friend, and start the never ending goal setting process. I'm gonna! Right now! You can too!

You got the power! You can do this!

If you need help through this process, the destress yourself class will take you through a step by step series of actions to help you explore, discover, and obtain what you want.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOURSELF WITH PRAYER

2011-12-29T18:54:00.001-08:00

PRAYER ;)

Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. ~Isaiah 41:10

Hello my friend. How was your week? Mine was magnifico, as usual ;)

I have a friend who says that I am in denial about my stress. Isn't that cute? He thinks that because there are certain aspects in my life that are not perfect, that I pretend to be happy. I do not pretend to be happy. I am happy about 95% of the time and maybe, sometimes, 99% of the time, and I will tell you why.

No matter what is going on in my life, I am happy because I know without a doubt that my Heavenly Father loves me, that I am very precious to Him, and that He is watching out for me every minute, of every hour, and every hour of every day.

The first thing I do every morning is I pray unto Him. The last thing I do, every night, is I pray unto Him. When I feel sad, He is the first person I have a conversation with. When I am sad, when I feel anxious, and when ever I feel like I don't want to feel, I pour my heart out to Him.

Every time I pour my heart out to Heavenly Father, I feel comfort almost immediately.

If you are having a hard time I would like to persuade you to pour your heart out unto Him. You are a child of God, and He loves you, you are so very special to Him. You are a gift from the Divine.

As I was trying to decide what to blog about for our New Year Resolutions, I thought that I should discuss the most important things that pertain to permanent stress relief, in other words, how to destress yourself.

To me, one of the most important things that we can do is cry unto Heavenly Father when we are stressed, not only will you build a very close relationship with Him, you will find and develop this way of destressing immediately.

Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. ~ Jeremiah 29:12

What I am trying to do is persuade you to journal and evaluate your frequency of prayer and your relationship with God. Contemplate this because if you would like to improve upon it, you can make it a New Year Resolution.

If you do, you will certainly destress yourself.

Have a wonderful weekend. Have fun and don't forget to be playful, I really mean that.

Big Hugs...

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOUR LIFE, RIGHT NOW

2011-12-29T06:49:00.001-08:00

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY!

Good Mornin...

My friend's daughter asked me if I love Christmas or if I didn't love Christmas. Cute huh? I told her that I love Christmas. She said, me too. Then she asked me what I loved about Christmas, and I said everything except the gifts. HA HA HA!

I really do love everything except the gifts. If it were up to me I would just hang out with family and friends, and no gifts. Could you imagine if Christmas was about Christ? Just kidding, I know it is. But what if we didn't give gifts and we just enjoyed good food and good company? How destressed we would be!

Any who, recently I talked about getting ready for 2012 and New Year Resolutions.

Did you read about it? Did you get your journal? Did you start your journey with your journal by reading and writing about back to the basics post? If you did, YOU ARE AWESOME!

If you did, YOU ARE TAKING RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FUTURE. So cool!

But, if you didn't, then I would like to persuade you to take responsibility for your future.

Recently, I have been helping more teens than I ever have. A couple of years ago, I started to work with college age students, lots of 18 and 19 year olds. Last month, I worked with more teenagers (under 18), than I have in my whole career of teaching permanent stress relief.

They have spoken of molestation, abuse, parental divorce, illness, and misery at home. The number one issue I have dealt with is beliefs of ugliness and why am I not good enough. The latter is not so typical as the former never the less, it is all very stressful, wouldn't you agree?

When I talk to the youth about lack of self-confidence due to feeling ugly, or feeling not good enough I tell them stuff like, you are the boss of you, you are the only thinker of your thoughts, and so you gotta be the boss of your thoughts and you gotta think better thoughts. I tell them to stop thinking that they are not good enough and I teach them affirmations, and how to use them. An affirmation like, I am good enough!

We search for evidence that they are good enough, and we search for evidence that their beliefs are unreasonable. For example, I tell them to notice everyone around them for a day, or even a week, and notice how unique everyone is. Some people are fatter, some people are skinnier, some people are uglier, and some people are prettier.

This is amazing because the majority of them get it. The majority of them get that they can take responsibility for their thoughts, and that God has made everyone as unique as their thumb print therefore, we can appreciate our uniqueness and focus on our assets and strengths.

Isn't that amazing?

What does this all have to do with destressing yourself?

Destressing yourself is all about awareness, and awareness has a lot to do with knowing that you can take responsibility for your thoughts, knowing that you can take responsibility for your life, knowing that you can take responsibility for your future.

It amazed me how many teens got this. It even seemed, to me, that teens were getting more than adults do.

What I am trying to say is, you can learn to destress yourself by taking responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions, as a result you will take responsibility for your life and for your future.

So, get that journal, and start your journey to destress yourself in 2012.

That's all I got!

Speak soon...

Have fun this week...

Be playful!

Elizabeth

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DESTRESS YOURSELF 2012

2011-12-28T19:00:00.001-08:00

YOU WANNA GET READY TO DESTRESS FOR 2012???

Hello my friend! How's your week? I really wanna know how your week is going! Is it going well? Is it not going so well? Let a gril know how your doing ;)

Are you ready for and do you wanna alleviate your stress in 2012?

Do you have stress at work?

Do you have stress at home?

Do you have anger, anxiety, depression, or loneliness?

Whatever it is, let's prep for destressing ourselves for 2012. Are you with me? Let's do it!

LOL! I sound like a dang cheerleader.

Okay, so we know that the New Year is almost here and every year I encourage everyone to destress by setting goals. That's right, New Year Resolutions.

If you say that you don't make New Year Resolutions, let me try to change your mind. PLEASE!!!

New Year Resolutions are the greatest way to turn your life around because you are setting goals and you can start a new. You can start fresh!

Most people do not live by goals, which is a crime, in my mind. If you are not setting and obtaining goals, you are in the constant state of going nowhere, and that, my friend, is stressful.

We are spiritual and human beings who need to progress to feel good about ourselves. When we set and obtain goals we lift our self-confidence and self-esteem. When we have great confidence, we don't carry doubt, fear, or worry.

Trust me! I know that this is so. I know that this is so because most people who are stressed have horrible habits of thinking thoughts full of doubt, fear, and worry and the best way to get away from this way of thinking is to set a goal.

You wanna do it? You wanna prep yourself to destress in 2012? If you are with me...

This is your first assignment for prepping yourself to destress in 2012...

Get a journal. It doesn't have to be anything fancy, it could be a blank pad of paper. The reason you need a journal is because I am going to give you exercises to explore your way of living that may be causing you stress so that you, and I (because we are going to do this together), can make some serious goals slash New Year Resolutions to destress in 2012.

Just a side note. If you do not journal, you are doing yourself and your future relatives a disservice. I have been journaling since I was in elementary school. There are so many benefits to journaling. The number one benefit, in my eyes, is you can see how far you have come over the years and how much you have grown as an individual. Another benefit is, when you go through hard times, if you journal, when you look back at those times, you can see how strong you were and how well you handled yourself. This is so important because when we succeed through hard times it strengthens us to know that we truly can handle anything.

Okay, enough of that.

Start your journey, with your journal, by reading and evaluating the basics I wrote about in my last post.

So get a journal, read and evaluate the basics from my last post, and write about what you have discovered in your new journal. That's it!

Speak soon...

Have fun and be playful, in the mean time.

Hugs...

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOUR KID

2011-12-21T04:11:00.001-08:00

Hey there. How's things? It's been over two weeks since my last post and I miss you ;) I was away from the puter because my Daddy had surgery and I was hangin' with him and Mommy ;) They live about 100 miles from me.

Any who, as I spend time with them my mind goes back to growing up and of course, I think about all the stress that was there, only because I am lil Miss Destress Yourself. Their behavior is still the same but I receive it differently now, and so, NO STRESS.

When I initially went to college, my goal was to be a child Psychologist but that dream was killed by my crazy idea that when a kid is messed up, it's ALWAYS the parent's fault. I still kind of believe it.

Why do I believe that if the kid is messed up, it's the parent's fault? Well, as parents, we are suppose to be smarter than our kids but we do this stupid thing that is totally insane. We try to change unwanted behavior with the same method when it doesn't work. Please allow me to esplain... When a kid is getting bad grades, we punish by grounding him or her, and then the grounding doesn't work, the child still get's bad grades over and over again. And then we use the same method, grounding, over and over again. Don't you think that is insane?

"Hey you are not doing what I think you should so I will take privileges from you." What is wrong with this? The result is that the child thinks, "I am not good enough, so I get things taken away." And every time we do this, the child increases their belief that they are not good enough, hence the low self-confidence in our society.

Disagree? Good, comment below ;)

For some crazy reason, parent's tend to focus on what kids don't do right, all the time. "Hey, don't do that." "Hey, you should do it this way."

I know a man who loves, loves, loves my son as his own (not my significant other, just a friend of my son) and he wishes that my son were his son and/or that his son was like my son. The only thing I see here is that this man looks at all the things his son does wrong and what he doesn't do right. That is what he is focusing on.

Does he have some deep seeded belief that he ought to focus on what's wrong with his son or what his son is not doing right (right, meaning what's right according to him)? YES! It is pretty common in our society.

If, this man, were to focus only on the things his son does right, and love him, the way he loves my son, he would have the son that he thinks he should have, like my son.

I know, I know, I am rambling. But the point is, your son, or daughter, does not have to be like someone else, WE, as parents need to just love them, no matter what, and focus on all the things they do right, all the time, everyday.

ALL DAY LONG FOCUS ON WHAT YOUR KID DOES RIGHT!!!

Try this, for one day, and do not see anything they do wrong. Matter of fact, just ignore, and giggle inside over, all the things YOU THINK, they do wrong. And then just see all the things they do right. See everything they do as right. Can you do it? For just one day?

If you can do it, everyday, you will destress your kid, and yourself. Trust me, I know!!! Better yet! Don't trust me, and try it for yourself.

If we do this as parents, everyday, our kids would be perfect! The only imperfection they have is in our mind anyway.

NEWS FLASH!!! EVERYONE IS IMPERFECT! Enjoy that imperfection and just know that it is all a part of life. Life is imperfect until you see it as perfect.

That's all I got ;)

Have a magnificent week!

And don't forget to have fun!!!

Be playful!!!

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOUR DEEPEST MOMENTS OF DESPAIR, PART II

2011-12-19T04:09:00.001-08:00

Hello there. The other day I gotta not so nice email, well I shouldn't say not so nice, I should say an email from someone who disagreed with me about my last post. Someone who was really defending their despair and that is okay because that is what people do.

CLICK THE PIC ;) LEARN TO MEDITATE

It is totally normal to defend your despair and totally normal to grieve and feel horrible but, when you want to feel better, and when you want to lighten the load on yourself you can tell another story, that is all I am saying.

No thoughts are neutral. Your thoughts either help you or hurt you.

So, if you are saying things like, "I can't, I won't, I couldn't, I shouldn't, I could never, or I wouldn't." Then, you may be hurting yourself. Actually, scratch the 'may be' because you are hurting yourself.

If you are saying things like, "I can, I will, I believe, I have hope, I can handle it, or this is a lesson learned." Then, you are helping yourself.

When people are angry, anxious, or depressed, they often think that they were not having thoughts that make them angry, anxious, or depressed because that is how unaware of our thoughts we really are.

I know this is true because after I speak to someone, and we explore the mood of the mind, while anger, anxiety, or depression is being experienced we discover what is really going on in their life. The conclusion always points to thoughts creating feelings.

An example of this is anxiety attacks. When someone has an anxiety attack, and I am speaking to them, calming them down, they often believe that they are not having an anxiety attack. They will say, "But I am not anxious about anything." After a little exploration, we always discover their doubt, fear, and worry.

The reason I talk about meditation and quieting the mind is because we can relax and be more in tune with our thoughts. When we quiet our mind, we can really be aware of what we are thinking.

When we right down what we want, like I talked about last post, we can remind ourselves what we should be thinking, or focusing on rather.

So, your story, is it hurting you or helping you? That is the question.

The email I got talked about the horrible things this person is experiencing and I know that there is help in the story that we tell.

You know?!? We all have horrible things that happen to us and it all depends how we handle what is given to us. I have heard the famous story of, "Oh, you don't know what I have been through, and others haven't been through as much as I have." Well, maybe, maybe not. Or, maybe people just tell a different story of what they have been through.

This is not a competition, it is creativity on how to change your thoughts, or your story, so that you can change your despair to comfort.

Many people tell the story of, "There is a purpose for everything," and I don't really know about that but I do know, "There is a lesson in EVERYTHING we experience."

Any who, I got another email telling me that writing something down on a card, an idea from my last post, won't help, and I say, try it and then tell me if it doesn't help. Try it for at least 30 days and if you are brave enough 90 days, or even a year.

That's all the rambling of my mouth that I got ;)

Love you guys ;)

Have the best day ever, and don't forget...

Have fun!!!

Be playful ;)

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS YOUR DEEPEST MOMENTS OF DESPAIR

2011-12-12T06:42:00.001-08:00

Hey there!!!

This weekend was incredible! How did you do? Did you enjoy it? I really hope that you did, and I really hope, with all my heart, that you are enjoying your weekends, your weeks, and every moment that you are living.

It is beyond my belief, sometimes, the deepest darkest moments of despair that we go through as humans.

In my earlier years, as an EMT, I witnessed Mothers, Fathers, Sisters, Brothers, Sons, Daughters, Friends, Lovers, Spouses, and Significant others screaming in desperation over traumatic deaths or destruction for their loved ones.

As I speak with people in crisis and help defuse despair, I see and hear Paramedics, Firefighters, Police Officers, Captains, Sergeants, Dispatchers, Military Personnel, and EMT's struggle with moving from catastrophe to calm.

When we are in crisis, or in a place that is critical, there is a story that we tell. The story may be, "This is the worst thing that ever happened to me." Or, "There is no way I can handle this." Or we ask questions like, "Why me?" Or, "How am I going to handle this?"

This is a very normal way of looking at the things we go through that are not so easy to handle.

There is another story though. The nother story is this...

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The nother story is bringing ourselves to look at the bigger picture and minimizing our current situation.

To some people this will sound very cruel because they are very good at defending their despair and the horrible thing that has happened to them.

The bigger picture is that we are here, on this earth, for a purpose. We are all here for some grander purpose, and all though I don't really know exactly what it is I do know that we all must go through hard times. We must go through desperation and despair so that we can learn from what we go through.

is some sort of school that we are in so that we can get better and better as we get older. Better and better at our stress, better and better at overcoming our trials, and better and better at enjoying life.

Loosing a Father, Mother, Son, or Daughter is not new. It has been happening for years and years, since the beginning of time. Loosing our job or home is not new nor has it only happened to you because it happens to millions. Some people don't even have homes.

The story here is, this is life. Life is as easy as you think it is or as hard as you think it is.

You can think that you can handle it or you can think that you can't.

What story are you telling???

Are you defending your despair? Are you wallowing in your misery and just wondering why life is so cruel to you?

Are you creating faith in yourself, encouraging yourself, and looking for a better way? Are you telling the story that this is some phase in your life that you are going through, or have to go through, and that you will be fine because you have been through more difficult things than this?

What story are you telling yourself?

Please forgive me if I seem insensitive, that is not my intention, my goal is to provoke you to tell a better story. If, and when, we tell ourselves a better story, we can move from depression to happiness, from anxiety to calm, from worry to confidence, or from despair to peacefulness.

How do we tell ourselves a better story?

Write down what you want. Get a little card, maybe a 3X5 card, and just list the things you want.

Do you want to feel love? Then write, I AM LOVE.

Do you want to feel success? Then write, I AM SUCCESS.

Do you want to feel happiness? Then write, I AM HAPPINESS.

Do you want to feel calm? The write, I AM CALM.

If you do this, you are creating reminders of what you want.

This sounds so simple and maybe too easy but try it and I promise you can change your story immediately.

The goal is to find out what you want and move towards it! And believe it or not, we have to know what we want first, then we have to remind ourselves to think it, and then we can begin our new story.

Please, begin to destress yourself by taking this first step at creating and telling the story that you want.

YOU GOT THE POWER!

That's all I got...

Check out my post, DEEPEST MOMENTS OF DESPAIR PART II ;)

Have the best week ever, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

BIG HUGS!!!

Elizabeth

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YOU ARE LOVABLE!

2011-12-07T04:06:00.001-08:00

Hello my friend.

How's things? How's life?

Did you ponder? Did you ponder that YOU ARE LOVE?

I did, all day yesterday. It's hard to believe that we are love but it's true.

When I was pondering that I AM LOVE, I was looking for evidence and I decided that... I AM LOVABLE!

How in the heck did I come up with that conclusion? LOL!!! Well, I know how to love, unconditionally, and I feel love, most of the time ;) And people really love me. I mean, really love me ;)

Do you believe that YOU ARE LOVABLE???

I DO!!!

Think about that one for a day or two ;)

How do I know you are lovable??? Because you are love!

I know, I know, I am rambling about love again. The thing is our thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry that run on and on automatically, morning, noon, and night is what causes our stress. These thoughts cause anger, anxiety, depression, and fatigue. Oh and meaness!

Ewwwwwwwwww, people are mean when they are stressed, even the nicest of people.

So, back to the rambling about love. What I am trying to do is provoke some pondering. Pondering about yourself and pondering about love.

You my friend are love, you come from love, and you give love to the one's you love and therefore, you are lovable!

If we were to ponder on our BEING LOVE or BEING LOVABLE, some how we would decrease and eventually eliminate our stressful thoughts that are causing our unhappiness and discomfort in life.

One of the greatest things that we can do is take responsibility for our thoughts. People actually believe that we do not have control of our own thoughts and that's only because it has not been a habit for them.

People I work with, whether in person or via email, are the most loving people I know and sometimes they can be the meanest people as well. That is not a statement to be unkind, they know they can be mean and that is part of the reason they work with me ;)

The point is, people have the capability to be love all the time. Decrease the stress, and the meaness, and increase the love.

So, spend a day, or two, pondering and contemplating your lovableness and watch the evidence appear and watch you just increase the love and decrease the stress, better known as destressing yourself.

Be brave my friend ;) Spend your time thinking of better things in life :) It's so easy, it's just thoughts ;)

YOU ARE HERE BECAUSE YOU WANT TO INCREASE YOUR HAPPINESS, ENERGY, AND VITALITY! YOU GOT THE POWER! I HAVE FAITH IN YOU!

Let me know how it goes.

Have a great weekend!

And don't forget...

Have fun and be playful.

BUG HUGS!!!

Elizabeth

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YOU ARE LOVE!!!

2011-11-30T18:47:00.001-08:00

Do you believe it???

Do you believe you are love???

I believe it!!!

Think about it, when you were born, you were this cuddly little baby full of love, from God, and then, our parents, teachers, and society, showed us how to be 'not love'.

What I mean is, when we were born, we were all love, all of the time. What we are now is love when we believe we are and not love when we believe we are not.

Love is the highest energy level anyone could ever have. For example, when you fall in love, do you not feel energy and happiness?

I love love! And I feel love all of the time, well most of the time. I feel love as frequently as possible because I know how good it makes me feel, and I believe that I am love.

What if you were to believe that you were love and that you could feel love any time you wanted to?

Wouldn't you feel really good all the time? Wouldn't you have lots of energy?

My son is 25 years old and I recently renamed him Agape. Agape is a Greek word for LOVE but not just LOVE, but the highest LOVE, the LOVE from GOD. This might sound crazy to you but it is fun and I love it. I don't call him by his old name, the name he was given at birth, funny huh? It's funny and it's playful, and it's full of love.

The reason I did this is because he, my son, loves unconditionally. He does not put conditions on how and when he loves me. He just loves me all of the time.

Do you put conditions on how and when you love someone?

Do you put conditions on how and when you love YOU?

YOU ARE LOVE!!! Ponder that for a day or two, really!

I know, I know, I am rambling about love but I think you should do it. I think you should ponder, for a day or two, how you are love and how you can be love.

Have an open mind, and just try it. If you are stressed, you can spend a day or two pondering how you are love and I promise you that you will destress yourself.

Let me know how it goes, email me. I love hearing from you.

That's all the rambling I have today ;)

I LOVE YOU!!!

Have a great day and don't forget...

Have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

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ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING WHEN DETRESSING YOURSELF!

2011-11-29T04:35:00.001-08:00

Hello my peoples ;)

Hope your week is starting off perfectly. Mine is, we got some snow over the weekend and if you know me, you know, I LOVE THE SNOW :)

The last couple of weeks I have gotten several emails about quieting the mind. Sheee Hooo!!! Lots of resistance there ;) It's okay though, actually it's perfect. No one should attempt to or learn to quiet their mind until they are ready. It's all in the attitude.

Attitude is the construct of our likes and dislikes.

Attitude is the perspective one has towards a person, place, or thing.

Those are just definitions that I Googled, he he he...

The way I define attitude is your thoughts, feelings, and actions towards anything. Any thing you think, feel, or do is not neutral, it is positive or negative.

What I am trying to say is, if you think you can meditate, you can. If you feel good about meditation, you will meditate. If you just meditate, it will get easier.

The reason I am saying all of this is because stress is doubt, fear, and worry and if you meditate you can calm your thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry. At first, when you quiet your mind, you will really notice your unhealthy thoughts.

Many of my clients tell me, after they learn to meditate and quiet their mind, that they didn't realize how negative their thought process is. When you discover this, you can turn it around.

Did you know that we have at least 60,000 thoughts a day?

People really believe that they know what they are thinking. If we knew what we were thinking, we would make ourselves think thoughts like, "I can be, do, have anything my heart desires," and believe it! And then pursue what we want to be, do, and have.

When you meditate, and quiet your mind, you can notice those limiting beliefs like, "I am not pretty enough, skinny enough, smart enough, or energetic enough to do this or that."

When you destress yourself, you discover your stressful habits, which are usually your thought processes, and then you eliminate them by replacing them with healthier and more powerful thoughts.

So I am trying to create some persuasion for meditation here. Quiet your mind, calm yourself and your body, discover your unhealthy thoughts, question those thoughts, and turn them around.

Attitude is everything when you wanna destress yourself.

You gotta believe you can meditate and see the benefits of meditation. You gotta feel good about meditation, and you will do it. You gotta just do it, and it will get easier.

YOU GOT THE POWER!!! JOO CAN DO IT!!!

That's all I got...

Have a super duper alli ooper week, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

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HOW TO DESTRESS ;)

2011-08-18T19:20:00.001-07:00

Hello...

One of the most popular search phrases for my web site is 'how to destress' and so, I thought I would write just a little bit about how to destress ;)

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Got several questions for you ;)

Do you believe in God?

I mean, really, deep down in your heart, believe in God?

Do you believe that He is there for you and answers your prayers?

Do you have faith? Faith that He is in control and will take care of you?

Man oh man, I wish I was a Scriptorian because I know there are plenty of scriptures that tell us to believe, that He will answer our prayers, to have faith, that He is in control, and He will take care of you.

When I was a young, single mother, I use to struggle, I mean really struggle with money. When my son was around 8 years old, I had barely any money to survive, and I happen to be struggling with a lil PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

I was literally having anxiety attacks and crying with depression, all the time. My stress level was so high my blood sugar was dropping as low as 35 (80 to 120 is normal).

It was a long, long time ago but a very desperate time for me.

The reason I am telling you this is because, in the most desperate of times we need to know how to destress.

What got me through all of that, and much much more, is my faith in God and that He would, and will, always take care of me.

What I use to do, and still do sometimes, is every night I would get down on my knees, put my forehead on my folded arms on my bed, and I would imagine that I had my arms and forehead on His lap, like He was right there, listening, and supporting me. It may sound crazy, but it totally worked.

One thing I know about my faith in God is that it is REAL!!! It is not the superficial FAITH, HOPE, AND CHARITY, only when I am at church, or when I can serve conveniently. It is REAL!!!

My greatest teacher is God, and my next greatest teacher is stress. Believe you/me, I have had some serious stress in my life and I know that I live a destressed life because of it, no matter what is happening. Sure, I get stressed, but it is a fraction of what it has ever been because I learned how to deal with it through my faith and relationship with God.

So, how so you destress yourself? If you REALLY, TRULY believe, then turn to Him! Try the prayer with your arms and head on His lap. He is listening, He answers your prayers, He is close, He loves you, and He is there for you.

If you are really having a hard time and you REALLY BELIEVE, then try this. Spend one day with Him, sitting, walking, and talking to Him like He is by your side. Just use your imagination, this once, and you will see what happens to your faith in Him, in life, and in yourself.

But please, please, please don't believe me, try it for yourself.

That's all I got...

Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO QUIET YOUR MIND?

2011-07-13T04:30:00.001-07:00

Got a good email yesterday asking me...

Why would you want to quiet your mind?

What a great question!

It has been about 12 years since I first started to meditate. I have no idea what made me start to meditate, it was probably some book I was reading but I do remember hearing people say they meditated and I was super duper curious about it.

I remember the beginning so well. When I first started to quiet my mind, it was very difficult. It took a good month for me to be able to just sit and be still in my mind. When I first started, it took like 10 to 15 minutes to get my thoughts to stop and when you are meditating for 20 or 30 minutes, that is a long time.

To answer the question, this is what I got...

When you learn to quiet your mind, you really notice your thoughts in your head. What I mean is, you practice meditating and then when you are not meditating you become so aware of your mind you hear your thoughts. You hear the thoughts that are going on and on without you even knowing it because you are busy with other activities.

When you hear your thoughts more clearly, you start to become astonished at the mood of your mind. Maybe your mood is to constantly defend yourself, which can mean low self-esteem. Maybe your mood is to criticize others, which could mean you are critical of yourself. Maybe your mood is to worry about the future, which is a culprit of anxiety. Maybe your mood is to focus on what you don't have or how lousy your life is, which is depression.

When you hear these thoughts more clearly, you can, and will discover your stressful thought patterns.

WAIT! There is something else too. When you begin to quiet your mind, you become more focused, more patient, and able to enjoy life more.

When your mind is still, it becomes a habit and when you are thinking about the things you need to do, you become more focused on your to do tasks. Not the to do tasks you have written down but the tasks in your head.

When your mind is still, it becomes a habit and when you are standing in line, or waiting for something, because your mind is quiet, you are more patient.

When your mind is still, it becomes a habit and when you are just sitting there you can notice, JUST NOTICE, the beauty around you, the beauty in your surroundings, the beauty in your life, and the beauty in the person you are with. Kind of like smelling the roses.

WAIT THERE'S MORE!

Ever since I started to meditate, things I wished for, or dreamed about began to show up. Be careful for what you wish for comes to mind. I don't know what makes this happen but it does. It's like magic, I swear.

Money for a trip I wanted to take showed up when I didn't have the money. The car of my dreams showed up at an affordable price when it was usually much more expensive. I wanted to live in a small town and within a year I ended up where I am now. I no longer wanted to work for a corporation because I wanted to focus on my business and then I was laid-off with a 7 month severance package.

And, finally, I have always wanted to be close to Heavenly Father and I have been getting closer and closer every year and I know that my soul is truly expanding, and evolving, and developing, and progressing. I know that this is so because I am reacting totally different than I use to in a much kinder, more patient, and loving way.

Much more has happened and continues to happen and I think, no I know, it is because I quiet my mind, and it really really creates happiness, energy, focus, organization, productivity, and vitality.

Now, those are just some reasons, my friend, why you want to quiet your mind.

But please, please, please, do not believe me, try it for yourself.

That's all I got.

Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

DO YOU QUIET YOUR MIND?

2011-07-04T06:00:00.001-07:00

Hello there, Happy Monday!!!

How are you doing today, this lovely Monday?

I hope you are doing GRRREAT! Life is GRRREAT! Isn't it?

Got a question! Do you quiet your mind?

What I am asking is do you meditate or do you practice deep relaxation?

What does it mean to quiet your mind? It means to stop the obsessive thinking of thoughts of worry about the future or regrets about the past. It means to stop thinking and take your focused mind out of your thoughts and into this moment.

Why would you quiet your mind? The reason I quiet my mind is so that I can be still and know God. I have always known that God is in the stillness of my thoughts. That is a Big statement and it is really hard to explain. It is something that you would know and understand if you quieted your mind.

Let me try to explain, just a little better. When you worry about your bills, or your weight, or your relationships, or your future, that is not God speaking to you. God is not worry, God is in your faith. "Be still and know that I am God." "Have faith." Are the things that I am trying to explain.

When you are obsessing about your relationship with your significant other, or your crazy boss, or the person at work that is mean to you, or the person at school who had the nerve to say certain things to you, or about your kids and their behavior, that is not God speaking to you.

When you are quiet, in the stillness, you can and will hear that still small voice that God speaks from.

When I meditate, better known as quieting my mind, I know that is where God is, in my mind, I mean. I am not saying that is the only place God is because He is everywhere. What I am saying is you can see, hear, smell, and just notice the beauty in things, and in yourself, when you quiet your mind often.

That beauty is where you can see God. The beauty of His creations.

If you have doubt, fear, worry, or you have obsessive thoughts that you think over and over again, hour after hour, day, after day, you will benefit from quieting your mind. These obsessive thoughts that you are having stem from a stressful habit of a racing mind or an obsessive thought pattern.

If you quiet your mind you can replace that stressful habit of obsessive thinking with a successful practice.

It's all about destressing yourself! Quiet your mind, make it a practice, and then wallah! You will replace your stressful habit.

Easy? Maybe, maybe not. It's all in your beliefs. I have seen people change slowly, over time, and I have seen people change in an hour.

Try my audio, Deep Relaxation. Listen to it every evening, before you go to bed, and then just notice your ability to relax. Notice your ability to relax any time and any where. Make it a conscious change and you will see the beauty in the moment without your over active mind.

But please, don't believe me. Try it for yourself.

That's all I got friend!

Have a great week and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

BIG HUGS...

Elizabeth

SPEAKING THE WORDS OF DESTRESSING YOURSELF!!!

2011-06-30T07:00:00.001-07:00

Hello my friend ;)

How's life? Great I hope ;)

So, I am at this cafe I frequent and I am talking to the gal that works the register and I ask her, "How's life?"

She says she is stressed. Can you believe that? LOL!!!

She goes on and on about how she is overwhelmed, she is taking 17 units in school, and she has to pay bills.

It takes every ounce of my energy to NOT speak the words of destressing yourself and I didn't :(

Why don't I? Well, I use to all the time, to everybody, because I want to tell everyone that stress is just a thought but most people don't wanna listen. That is totally fine!

There are so many people who are anxious, angry, depressed, fatigued, moody, and unhappy and no matter what I say they want to defend their unnecessary emotion.

Oh sure, sometimes I tell people what I do and tell'em if they want help, for free, to check out my blog. I give them a business card and often they become my clients but I can't save those who do not want help.

What I want to say is...

Your stress, my friend, is just a thought. You are probably thinking of all the bad things that will happen to you because you believe you are so overwhelmed and those thoughts create fear and anxiety.

I want to ask...

Have you ever went through a really tough time or had an experience that had you thinking that this is the worst thing that has ever happened to me?

What happened? Did you survive? Of course you did because you are still here and you are still standing.

What if you were to think, no matter what happens, I can handle it?

What would be the best thing that could happen to you, right now?

What if you were to think thoughts of faith, in yourself, and thoughts that the best thing that you think can happen will?

Do you believe in God?

Do you, deep down in your heart believe in God and that He will do what He says He will, in the bible?

Do you believe His words when He says 'have faith'?

What I want to say is...

Have faith my friend.

Have faith in God and that He will take care of you.

Have faith in yourself and that you can handle it.

Take your thoughts of doubt and turn them into faith.

No matter what happens, you will be fine.

Quiet your mind and think and feel this truth.

There is a lot more of that where that came from ;) TRUST ME

I hope you have a great weekend and feel the truth of faith in God and yourself.

If you truly believe 'WITH GOD ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE' you must contemplate and feel this truth so that it will fill your entire being.

When you do, you will feel your way into destressing yourself.

Speak soon...

Don't forget! Please have fun and be playful!

Big ole hugs to ya...

Elizabeth

I WORK FOR FREE!!!

2011-06-09T21:02:00.001-07:00

Hello my friend. How's your week? Good? Great? or Perfect? Mine is perrrrfect!!!

Okay, okay, okay, okay...

So, recently, within the last month, I have received a few emails (well maybe more than a few) indicating that my blog posts are sales posts and I just wanted to say a thing or two about that.

With kindness and politeness in my reaction I would just like to say that I WORK FOR FREE! Heh heh.

Yes, I have been posting things that you can buy and I only post them because I know that they will help people destress yourself. When someone buys, I do obtain a minimal fee, because I am an affiliate, and when I sell my products, the web site that hosts them gets an affiliate fee. What I am saying is that I do make money off these resources but I wouldn't share them unless I know, with all my heart, that they will help.

I KNOW WITH ALL MY HEART THAT THEY HELP!!!

Okay, okay, okay, okay...back to the I WORK FOR FREE!

Many people email me, from all over the WORLD, and even call me, with their stressful situations and I love love love to respond to these emails and phone calls, and provide FREE stress relief.

So, if you have a question about your situation, I would gladly help you for FREE.

Disclaimer: I also work for a fee, when people elect to continue working with me ;)

In addition, whenever I see stress in someone's life, I convert it into a post knowing that it will help someone, FOR FREE!!!

The most important thing to me, my passion, and what permeates my entire being (including my soul) is helping people discover happiness.

To help people change their entire being from despair to excitement, about their life, is the most rewarding thing I know of.

To help people go from crisis to confidence and conviction that life will be more than fine, is the most important thing for me to see while I am alive.

Why do I do it?

Because I have seen some serious anger, anxiety, and depression. Because I have seen people get so upset and act like life is about to end. Because, I know, without a doubt, that anyone can live without anger, anxiety, depression, or unhappiness.

How do I know?

I know because I see people, every day, turn their life around. I know because I have experienced a lot of stress in my life, and stress is my greatest teacher.

When I was 10, I witnessed something very violent, and carried it with me for years in the way of emotional symptoms.

When I was 21, I gave birth to my son, and was a single parent.

Through my twenties and thirties, I raised my son (quite successfully if I do say so myself because he has permanent stress relief behavior, he is very fun, and he is happy) by myself.

In addition, I went to school for my bachelors and masters.

When I was in my twenties and thirties, I worked as an Emergency Medical Technician on an ambulance running 911 calls responding to very gruesome situations.

When I was in my thirties, and now my forties (I am forty six), I have been doing, and do, Critical Incident Stress Management, which is responding to meet with people who have experienced and/or witnessed something extraordinary like traumatic death, dying, and/or very very gruesome imagery.

If that doesn't say possible stress all over it, I don't know what does.

Stress is my greatest teacher and I want to help others find solace and peace so that they may enjoy their lives.

I WANT TO SHOUT FROM THE ROOF TOPS!!! PERMANENT STRESS RELIEF IS POSSIBLE NO MATTER WHAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCING!!!

I WANT TO SHOUT FROM THE ROOF TOPS!!! DESTRESS YOURSELF SO THAT YOU CAN SEE WHAT LIFE HAS IN STORE FOR YOU!!! HAPPINESS!!! ENERGY!!! VITALITY!!!

AAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!

LOL!!!

Sorry, I love this shizzz, I get so carried away!

Anywho...

Here is another resource for you FOR FREE!!!

Go to this web site, watch the videos, FOR FREE, and learn to question your beliefs and just watch your life turn around.

Or you can buy my product, lol...

But please, please, please don't believe me, find out for yourself.

The woman in this website, Byron Katie, is the author of the next book in the BIBLIOTHERAPY SERIES.

Have a great day!

Don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Elizabeth

A GREAT DESTRESS YOURSELF EXERCISE

2011-06-04T17:44:00.001-07:00

Good Mornin!!!

Are you ready for your weekend? Are you a little stressed? I got an email the other day asking for a good destress exercise from work or the office.

The ultimate exercise to destress yourself is to learn how to meditate which means to quiet your mind. Once you learn to quiet your mind, you can listen to your thoughts, and when you listen to your thoughts, you can learn what kind of conversation is in your head that is causing your stress. As soon as you listen and learn the stressful conversation, you can release your worry.

This is very simple, but not an easy process without dedication. An easier process is to learn DEEP RELAXATION. When you learn and practice DEEP RELAXATION, with just a deep breath, you can learn to relax anytime and anywhere. This means at work, in the office, at home, or at school.

Think about it! If you need to destress yourself you have some stress which is very similar to anxiety. What would be the opposite of stress, or anxiety? It would be to relax.

When you learn DEEP RELAXATION you know what it is to relax your mind and body.

Learning deep relaxation is brilliant because it teaches you to relax and you can bring yourself to the relaxation point even in the middle of a crisis.

Nearly every day I speak to someone in the Emergency Field who is dealing with some form of reaction to a Critical Incident. These individuals witness death, dying, and destruction very frequently. The average person does not see the things they do in a life time.

One of the greatest things Emergency Workers do for themselves is learn to practice meditation and deep relaxation. These practices bring them out of serious stressful situations that their minds impress upon them.

If you want to learn a good destress exercise, try deep relaxation.

But please, don't believe me, try it yourself and just watch the process of destressing yourself, any time and anywhere. Give yourself a chance, check out my DEEP RELAXATION audio, you will experience the destress exercise you will need.

Have the best week!!!

And don't forget to have fun and be playful!

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

LEARNING TO DESTRESS!!!

2011-05-09T16:38:00.001-07:00

Hey! Hi! Happy Monday! I love Mondays! Actually, I love every days!

I am so happy you are here. You are here because you are learning to destress yourself, or just because you like me ;)

So, did you notice if you are or when you are in a hurry? Did you notice if it is a habit of yours? Did you slow down? Dang, I was totally in a hurry the next day after I wrote the post, CAN YOU PLEASE SLOW DOWN? I was thinking to myself, if my blog readers could see me now they would definitely remind me of my own words. I did catch myself and I did slow down, he he he.

Sooo, let's talk!

What in the heck does it mean to destress yourself?

Many of you have heard me explain this before, over and over again, and here we go again, lol.

When you destress yourself you evolve your mind, your thoughts, your behavior, your attitude, and your actions so that you live with confidence, faith, and security.

Confidence in yourself, life, and others.

Faith that all things are working for you and that your life is perfect as it is.

Security knowing that anything you go through, no matter what, you can handle it.

If we listed the opposite of all these points it would look like this

Doubt in yourself, life, and others.

Fear that all things are working against you and that your life is the worst.

Worry that whatever you go through, no matter what, you cannot handle it.

All of this creates stress. This thought process is what stress is.

You have a choice really! You can think thoughts of stress or you can destress yourself.

The thing is, this stressful way of thinking has been ingrained in you for however long you have been living.

Learn how to destress yourself by choosing the way of confidence, faith, and security. You don't have to have doubt, fear, or worry. They are just thoughts you know?

Learning to destress yourself is so important because it will create happiness, energy, and vitality for you.

Learning to destress yourself is so important because it will eliminate unhealthy emotional, mental, and physical conditions.

Try my audio, How To Destress Yourself, so that you can live with happiness, energy, and vitality.

But PLEASE, don't believe me, find out for yourself.

Have a great weekend and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

CAN YOU PLEASE SLOW DOWN???

2011-03-19T09:15:00.001-07:00

Hey hey! How are you? I am absolutely fantabulous.

Just wanted to talk a little about the stressful habit of always being in a hurry. When I am in the city (because I live in the boonies) I notice that quite a few people are in a hurry and they act like someone is gonna die if they don't get a move on. YIKES!

Being in a hurry is very very dangerous because horrible things happen when we are in a rush (or drunk... I don't know where that came from, lol) and so we can prevent a lot of mishaps by slowing down a little bit.

I remember a few years back we were going to have a bar-b-q and my friend got a call from the hospital that his Dad was in an accident. It was a bit scary, so I was trying to hurry and I dropped a big bag of ice on my toe and broke my toe. I looked up into the sky and said, "thank you Lord." I did this because at age 39, I knew, and know, that when something like that happens the Lord is telling me to slow down.

Please please please, don't wait for something to happen to you because you are in a hurry when you can create tons of prevention just by slowing down.

Just notice if you have a state of being in a hurry. Maybe in the morning you are always in a hurry, or when you have to pick your kids up, or on the way to work. Just notice it, and if it is so, slow your bootay down.

I know that it is not necessary to be in a hurry, it is just a habit really, especially for city folks. It's called impatience.

Can you please slow down? Just wondering...

Have a great day and don't forget...

Have fun and be playful.

HUGS

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

A NEW EARTH

2011-03-08T04:00:00.001-08:00

NEW BOOK FOR THE BIBLIOTHERAPY! A NEW EARTH

The Power Of Now was a strong influence on my thought process so I thought I would read A NEW EARTH. I have read this one before but I thought that it would be a good read after reading THE POWER OF NOW by the same author Eckhart Tolle.

I just started to read it. The last time I read it, when Oprah was doing a special on it, I marked the book all up with my pink high lighter. This time around I am finding that I am interested in different points the book is making. This is very interesting to me because it indicates that I have made a shift, a cognitive shift, since I read it last.

Let me know what you think!!!

Have a super duper day!

Elizabeth

DESTRESS YOUR ANGER ;)

2011-02-24T05:00:00.001-08:00

Hello there! How are you this beautiful Monday? Dang! I feel so lucky to live in Cali. We have beautiful blue skies and the temp is a lovely 62 deez greez. A lil cool for us Californians.

Okay, enough of the bragging, huh?

Today, I wanna talk about destressing your anger.

Anger is a very stressful habit. Yuppers, it's a habit. I would even go as far as to say that it is an addiction, a very contagious addiction. What I mean by addiction is that it is something that is a negative influence and you cannot quit it. What I mean by contagious addiction is that an angry environment, like a work place, can create and increase other peoples anger. For example, a fire house, or an emergency room, or just being in an ambulance with an angry person. Also, a corporate or office environment can generate anger in individuals.

There are a whole lotta people out there who are very angry. Sometimes they don't even know they are angry. Other times they think anger is okay. But the worst of them all is they think anger is necessary.

ANGER IS UNNECESSARY! AND GOING OFF IS NOT OKAY!

Just in case you didn't know, it is not okay to go off on someone when you loose your temper. Actually, it's not okay to go off on anyone. It's quite ridiculous actually. Have you ever seen someone loose it over something as if their life was threatened? That is an illusion of anger.

Not only is anger unnecessary, it is bad for you.

Any negative emotion creates unhealthy shifts in your body and releases bad hormones. That is why people get sick.

BUT! Anger just doesn't hurt you, it hurts the people around you and guess what? If you are an angry one, people probably don't want to be around you.

So, what do you do if you are an angry one? How do you destress yourself from anger?

I have no idea! Just kidding.

Counting to ten is a good one, just kidding.

But seriously!

Like any addiction, you have to know that it is a problem, know that you can quit it, and then replace it with a successful practice.

Sounds pretty simple, but not easy.

Once upon a time, a long long time ago, I worked on an ambulance with a very very angry person. He was so angry that it radiated to me and I started to get angry. This is way before I started researching and writing about stress relief.

Thank goodness I didn't work with this guy for long. Any who, looking back I recognized that I was angry, a lot, and for no reason. After I started to notice this, I remember when I would get angry, I would ask myself, "why am I so angry?" Right in the middle of the anger and then I would talk myself out of the anger. I would say, "you are getting angry for no reason, Elizabeth." After doing that for a while, every time I got angry, the anger went away. Sure, I still got angry, sometimes, but not the kind that was ridiculous, lol.

If you have an anger problem know two things, know that it is not okay and know that you can eliminate it.

Say to yourself, "Anger is not okay and I don't get angry." I know, it sounds silly, but it will work.

It's just a reminder, to remind you, that it's not okay and you don't get angry anymore.

There's more!

When you are angry, see if you can just observe the anger, right when you are in the middle of it. Just observe it, be the observer, and don't judge it or label it or beat yourself up for it.

Then you can do what I did and talk yourself out of it, or you can do something even funnier. You can start to sing a song, a funny song, like a rap or something. This will work, I promise, it will make you laugh and you will eliminate the stressful habit of anger and replace it with the successful practice of laughter.

You gotta love it! You gotta love the playfulness in that, don't you?

Well, have a great week and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Love ya...

Elizabeth

EMAIL RESPONSES TO, "HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?"

2011-02-15T17:11:00.001-08:00

Holey Moley Guacamole Avocado Sauce.

I have received a ton of emails in response to the last post, "HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?"

I have received emails regarding job loss, unable to get a job, loosing a home, loosing a loved one, having a hard time with the boss, depression, anxiety, chronic fatigue, anger towards a spouse, anger towards an ex-spouse, problems with a child, having a hard time with weight control, and...even...sexual frustration.

As I read these emails, I was going to answer them each individually but, the main theme was that these individuals disagreed with me. They either disagreed with me on that they cannot control their thoughts, they do not have a choice in their thinking, they do not think their stress comes from their thoughts, or that they don't need to change their thoughts.

So, basically, I have been disagreed with on each one of the points I made last post.

What it all boils down to is this, if you do not or cannot believe or wrap your mind around the concept that you are the boss of you, that you are the only thinker of your thoughts, or that you have a choice to choose the way you think, then you will have to live in the state that you are living until you do.

I don't know what else to say. The thing is, the reason I am not a therapist, or a counselor anymore is because I cannot help people who do not want to be helped, which is the majority of people who are in therapy.

I am not knocking therapy, it has helped so many people. What I am saying is, that I help people who want help. I help people who are willing to open their mind and let new ideas in.

This is education, not therapy, and so if you want to learn more about stress, you can learn it here.

Stress is NOT caused by your situation or the people you are upset with. Stress is caused by your thought process about what is happening to you.

Yes, stress is a part of life and I don't know anyone who lives stress free, not even me lol, but you can reduce any stress you have by changing habitual stressful reactions, which begins with your thought process.

It is not my intention to be unkind, I am trying to be a loving confronter. If you know me now, you know that I have nothing but love for you or anyone I meet. I love you! I love people! I have nothing but love in my heart.

Please, if you want help, it has to start with you. With you choosing to open your mind to a new way of thinking. Listen to your destress yourself specialist, and I say that with a wink and a smile. I have helped and help thousands of people, all over the world, and I know I can help you.

Give yourself a chance, check out my audio on HOW TO DESTRESS YOURSELF, it will change your life.

Have a great day and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth

ps thanks for the emails, I LOVE IT!!!

HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?

2011-02-11T03:38:00.001-08:00

Hey there! How you doin? Hope you are having a great week so far.

You know, the number one question that is asked of me is, "HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?"

What a fully loaded question. The answer?!?

The number one way to destress yourself, no matter what you are going through, is to change your way of thinking. Better yet, change your way of knowing.

First, you have to know that you are the only thinker of your thoughts and therefore, you, and only you, are in charge of your thoughts.

Second, you have to know that you have a choice, you can think thoughts of faith, or you can think thoughts of doubt, fear, and worry.

Third, you have to know you can rid yourself of addictive, stressful, behavior.

Fourth, you have to know you can replace addictive, stressful behavior with successful practices.

This is so simple to see and know but it is not necessarily easy.

Did you know that many people allow their minds to float on auto pilot, with doubt, fear, and worry about the future and anger, frustration, and guilt about the past?

What if you chose to learn to be here, right here, right now. Like in the book, The Power of Now, it teaches you how to be fully present, to enjoy your present moment and not live in the past or future. What problem do you have right now? This very moment? You don't really, do you? Maybe you have problems you think about and anticipate in the future, but you don't really have anything but this moment, what you are doing now, or the person you are with.

You are the thinker of your thoughts. Choose to enjoy this very moment.

Did you know people worry about the worst thing that could happen rather than anticipating the best thing that could happen? That is the addictive, stressful behavior I am talking about. What is an addiction? My definition of an addiction is something that you cannot stop that is affecting you negatively. Like, drama in a relationship, getting offended easily and all the time, not liking others "just because", worrying about the future, blaming others for your failures, letting your thoughts and emotions run on auto pilot, focusing on what is wrong with your life, focusing on what you don't have, and being way too serious. Need I go on?

Sound familiar?

And stressful behavior is the thoughts and behavior we inflict upon ourselves that cause stress. Stress is not getting in a car crash, it is caused by what we think about after we crash. Stress is not loosing your job or home, it is caused by what we think and do about it during and after we loose it.

So, "HOW DO I DESTRESS MYSELF?"

KNOW THAT YOU, AND ONLY YOU, ARE IN CHARGE OF AND CAN CHOOSE YOUR THOUGHTS.

KNOW THAT YOU HAVE A CHOICE, YOU CAN CHOOSE FAITH IN OTHERS AND YOURSELF OVER DOUBT, FEAR, AND WORRY.

KNOW THAT YOU CAN RECOGNIZE AND RID YOURSELF OF ADDICTIVE AND STRESSFUL BEHAVIOR.

AND FINALLY, KNOW THAT YOU CAN REPLACE THAT ADDICTIVE AND STRESSFUL BEHAVIOR WITH SUCCESSFUL PRACTICES WHICH IS JUST THE OPPOSITE OF THAT BEHAVIOR.

YOU CAN DO IT!!! YOU GOT THE POWER!!! YOU CAN BE, DO, HAVE ANYTHING YOU SET YOUR HEART ON!

Sounds so simple, doesn't it? But it is not necessarily easy.

If you need help to destress yourself try my audio, you will be glad you did. It will change your life, I promise you.

Have a great week, and don't forget to have fun and be playful.

Speak soon...

Elizabeth