A moment to-share

Embracing Solitude

2016-05-29T22:18:00.001+08:00

In order to love freely and unconditionally, we first need to embrace solitude. If you need someone with you in order to feel good, you will have to manipulate that person to be with you. Such manipulation is quite common. If, for example, you smile at someone not because you are happy or because you bless them but because you want them to think of you favorably, you are manipulating. It's the same with any gift, such as kindness, together-time, and affection. In order for these gifts to be true gifts of love, we need to give them away with no expectation of getting something back. In other words, we need to be okay to end up in solitude.

Love doesn't start when you meet someone. Love starts in solitude. Many people, however, are silently afraid of facing themselves. They make themselves extremely busy with various chores so that they dont have to consciously face themselves. When you live this way, however, what you see in yourself is the person who is afraid of their own reflection. Then you judge this fearful figure as stupid and cowardly. In effect, you further reinforce your identification with the ego, and your fear grows. It's a vicious cycle, and the way out is by choosing to take time for yourself and remembering to love who you are.

Take plenty of time to be by yourself and to get to know yourself. Embracing solitude means more than simply being alone, just as intimacy is more than proximity. It's about loving and enjoying oneself. Review what you consider to be defective about yourself and discover how it can work for you. (It probably has already.) A characteristic is a characteristic, neither good nor bad. our strengths are the flip side of our weaknesses, and vice versa. We notice this truth when we accept ourselves as we are.

Do the things you like to do. Try new things as well. Get familiar with what pure enjoyment feels like. Get to know your fears and angers as well. Own all your feelings and be familiar with triggers them in you. Take good care of your body and mind. it's hard to enjoy anything while you are uptight.

Please note that this is not about analyzing oneself. Often, the ego walks right in and starts giving explanations and excuses for who you are. Like other things the ego says, the explanation only sounds interesting but is not true. Here is the difference: when you analyse yourself, you put yourself in a category. Then you think the label of that category describes you or you argue against it. When you get to know yourself as you are, you see the actual you, the you who cannot be categorized and labeled because you are unique and unprecedented. You see yourself fresh and vivid.

When you practice solitude, you will notice something quite wonderful: you never really alone. In you and through you, the Source energy is always flowing. You are always connected to everything and everyone with this invisible energy. The comfort and guidance you seek are already within, and you can feel them in solitude.

Alone time also reminds you of the life plan you made prior to birth and helps you to choose the path that is most appropriate for yourself. Taking time for yourself, therefore, is one of the most effective ways to use time.

Extracted from "Why we were born - by Akemi G."

Airport transit

2013-10-15T23:21:00.001+08:00

It is good to avoid traffic jam on the road to airport by taking KLIA transit from KL Sentral once reaching the station, airport transfer is there stand by waiting. Yet back from airport might not be a good idea because we may miss the passing train and worst case of all, we need to wait 30min.

The feedback model

2013-08-18T20:10:00.000+08:00

Dealing with other people's complements and criticisms.

Feedback is one of the most difficult and sensitive processes in groups. It is easy to hurt people with criticism, but false compliments are also unhelpful. Compliments often make us too complacent, while criticism damages our self-esteem and can lead us to make unwise choices.

The one-dimensional question "What did you find good, what did you find bad?" is therefore not necessarily helpful. In terms of what can be learned from feedback, it is better to ask yourself “What can I do with this criticism?” In other words, see what can stay as it is and what needs to change (but may have been good up till now).

It is not only about establishing what has not succeeded; it is also about deciding whether and how to react. Doing so will help you to categorize the feedback you receive in order to clearly establish a plan of action.

It is also important to ask yourself honestly: “which success or failure was in fact due to luck?” were you the winner of a match because the ball found its way into the net purely by chance? Do you really deserve this compliment?

“Pay attention to your thoughts, because they become words.
Pay attention to your words, because they become actions.
Pay attention to your actions, because they become habits.
Pay attention to your habits, because they become your character.
Pay attention to your character, because it is your fate.”

From the Talmud

Effective Programmer

2013-04-24T09:11:00.003+08:00

Understand Your Code

Life is full of wonderful mysteries, but your code is not the place for them. You don't have to know how your car works - if the engine starts making strange noises, you drop it off the mechanic. When it comes to your code, if you don't understand how it works, or doesn't work, no one will.

2012-12-07T00:59:00.001+08:00

និយមន័យៈ ភាពរឹងត្អឹងរបស់ស្រីមានះ ។

អត្ថាធិប្បាយ

កុំពត់ស្រឡៅ

ស្រឡៅ ជាដើមឈើធំខ្ពស់ដូចគគីរដែរ ប៉ុន្តែមិនមូលស្រលនទេ ព្រោះវាមានពួរកំពីកកំពក សណ្ដូកតាមដើម ។ គេតែងយកពួរនេះមកធ្វើដងចប កាំបិត ពូថៅ ។ល។ ព្រោះវាមានភាពរឹងល្អ ។ ប៉ុន្តែវាមានលក្ខណៈពិសេសមួយ គឺបើវាវៀច ឬកោងបែបណាហើយ គេមិនអាចពត់ ឬតម្រង់វាបានទេ ។ បើគេរោលភ្លើងពត់វា វាអាចទៅតាមដៃបាន ប៉ុន្តែដល់ពេលលែងដៃ វានឹងទៅរកកន្លែងដើមវិញដដែល ។

កុំប្រដៅស្រីមានះ

ជាទូទៅនៅក្នុងសង្គមខ្មែរយើង ស្ត្រី ភេទតែងមានចរិតទន់ភ្លន់ ចរិយាស្លូតបូត អាចសម្របសម្រួលទៅតាមបរិយាកាសបានស្រួល សូម្បីសម្លៀកបំពាក់ ប្រពៃណី ទំនៀមទម្លាប់ ជំនឿ សាសនាក៏អាចផ្លាស់ប្ដូរទៅតាមប្ដីបានដែរ ។

ប៉ុន្តែ ចំពោះស្រីមានះវិញ រមែងមានអស្មិរឹងត្អឹងដូចដែកថែប ។ បើមានប្ដីក៏ពុំរណប ឬចុះញ៉មដែរ គឺគេសុខចិត្តលែងលះគ្នាដ៏បានដែរ ដែលថាឲ្យឱនលំទោនចុះចាញ់អ្នកឯងប្រាកដជាអត់សោះតែម្ដង ។

ហេតុនេះហើយបានជាលោកពោលថា កុំពត់ស្រឡៅ កុំប្រដៅស្រីមានះ ៕

Simple Read Write File Class

2012-12-07T00:59:00.000+08:00

I found a little handy class that I've just designed for my work. Normally, without a appropriate read write management, file can be missed up by data which are updated
concurrently and simultaneously. File management involves in file lock and time out.
To lock the file, I use two modes of function

require_once 'exception/FileNotFoundException.class.php';
require_once 'exception/IOException.class.php';

class FileReadWrite {

public $fileName = "";
public $fileResource ;

public function __construct ($fileName){
if (!$fileName)
throw new IOException("File name cannot be empty!");
else
$this->openFile ($fileName);
}

public function openFile ($fileName){

if (file_exists($fileName))
$this->fileName = $fileName;
else
throw new FileNotFoundException("{$fileName} is not found!");
}
public function readFile (){

$this->openReadMode() ;

$startTime = microtime();
do {
$canRead = flock($this->fileResource, LOCK_SH);
if(!$canRead) usleep(round(rand(0, 100)*1000));
} while ((!$canRead)and((microtime()-$startTime) < 1000)); if ($canRead) { $contents = fread($this->fileResource, filesize($this->fileName));
flock($this->fileResource, LOCK_UN);
}

$this->realseFileResource();
return $contents;
}
public function appendFile ($content){
$this->openAppendMode();

$startTime = microtime();
do {
$canWrite = flock($this->fileResource, LOCK_EX);

if(!$canWrite) usleep(round(rand(0, 100)*1000));
} while ((!$canWrite)and((microtime()-$startTime) < 1000)); if ($canWrite) { if (!fwrite($this->fileResource, $content))
throw new IOException("{$this->fileName} cannot be appended!");
flock($this->fileResource, LOCK_UN);
}

$this->realseFileResource();

}
private function openReadMode (){
$this->fileResource = @fopen($this->fileName,'rb');
if (!is_resource ($this->fileResource))
throw new IOException("{$this->fileName} cannot be opened in r mode!");

}
private function openAppendMode (){

$this->fileResource = @fopen($this->fileName,'rb+');
if (!is_resource ($this->fileResource))
throw new IOException("{$this->fileName} cannot be opened in r+ mode!");

fseek($this->fileResource,-1,SEEK_END);
}
private function realseFileResource (){
fclose($this->fileName);
}
}

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2012-11-25T23:52:00.001+08:00

The essence I have learned: When you have practiced something for many times, and practiced it well enough, "nothing is impossible", and you will start creatin

g "magics" in your world! :)

She once said, "when you DO NOT GIVE UP what you want to do, follow your heart, and it will come true"...

Remember Your Creator While Young

2012-10-12T10:02:00.001+08:00

⁷Light is sweet,
and it pleases the eyes to see the sun.
⁸However many years anyone may live,
let them enjoy them all.
But let them remember the days of darkness,
for there will be many.
Everything to come is meaningless.

⁹You who are young, be happy while you are young,
and let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth.
Follow the ways of your heart
and whatever your eyes see,
but know that for all these things
God will bring you into judgment.
¹⁰So then, banish anxiety from your heart
and cast off the troubles of your body,
for youth and vigor are meaningless.

Wisdom

2012-10-05T15:29:00.001+08:00

7 A good name is better than fine perfume,
and the day of death better than the day of birth.
²It is better to go to a house of mourning
than to go to a house of feasting,
for death is the destiny of everyone;
the living should take this to heart.
³Frustration is better than laughter,
because a sad face is good for the heart.
⁴The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning,
but the heart of fools is in the house of pleasure.
⁵It is better to heed the rebuke of a wise person
than to listen to the song of fools.
⁶Like the crackling of thorns under the pot,
so is the laughter of fools.
This too is meaningless.

⁷Extortion turns a wise person into a fool,
and a bribe corrupts the heart.

⁸The end of a matter is better than its beginning,
and patience is better than pride.
⁹Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit,
for anger resides in the lap of fools.

¹⁰Do not say, "Why were the old days better than these?"
For it is not wise to ask such questions.

¹¹Wisdom, like an inheritance, is a good thing
and benefits those who see the sun.
¹²Wisdom is a shelter
as money is a shelter,
but the advantage of knowledge is this:
Wisdom preserves those who have it.

Nirwana Band - Sudah Cukup Sudah

2012-09-23T16:24:00.001+08:00

Speed of light.

2012-09-23T16:00:00.001+08:00

Light thinks it travels faster than anything but it is wrong. for no matter how fast light travels, it finds that darkness has always gotten there first, and it is waiting for it.

Today's Inspirational Quote:

2012-09-19T16:11:00.001+08:00



"Holding on to anger, resentment and hurt only gives you tense
muscles, a headache and a sore jaw from clenching your teeth.
Forgiveness gives you back the laughter and the lightness in
your life."

-- Joan Lunden

10 ways Android beats the iPhone 5

2012-09-16T20:00:00.001+08:00

Find it out!

What is your answer for this?

2012-09-12T18:08:00.001+08:00

Does that make sense?

2012-09-12T09:46:00.001+08:00

There are two things that make no sense,

De-Caffeine coffee
Non-alcoholic beer

ចំរៀងអត្ថាធិប្បាយ-Khmer Commentary Stong Songkea

2012-09-08T00:30:00.001+08:00

Food Collection of September 2012

2012-09-08T00:20:00.001+08:00

For food lovers, eating are truly gift from God. Recently we found a word-of-Saying for skinny guys to get fat faster by eating at every two hours.
After having been practicing quite a while, we inspired quite a number of people too.
We could make a skinny love food and looking for food on a regular period of times (let’s say 2 hours).
Here are some typical food we had made through out the month.

Not to say it’s the best but we at least try our best.

From Live Writer

2012-09-06T23:44:00.001+08:00

Hello?

Vietcon vs United State in HD

2012-09-02T00:45:00.001+08:00

In a life...

2012-09-01T22:37:00.003+08:00

Dropbox

2012-09-01T12:39:00.001+08:00

Take Dropbox with you, even on the go

Get it now for free!!!

Daily Stress Reduction

2012-08-31T13:39:00.002+08:00

Some tips for Daily Stress Reduction

1. Add something beautiful to your life on a daily basis (e.g., flowers).
2. Do some enjoyable activities whenever possible.
3. Walk, work, and eat at a relaxed pace.

4. Take a short break after meals to relax.
5. If possible, go outside at least once per day and notice the simple things such as the weather, scenery, etc.
6. During the day, whenever you remember, take notice of any tension in your body (jaw, neck, diaphragm, shoulders, etc.). Breath deeply and gently stretch and relax any tense areas.
7. If you notice your mind racing or worrying about the past or future, take a minute to breath deeply and gently focus on something in the moment such as your breath, scenery, birds, etc...
8. Take breaks during the workday to relax.
9. Wear comfortable and loose clothing when possible. Take off your shoes when you can.
10. Avoid holding in feelings day after day, but instead, find a safe place to feel, express and embrace them safely.

Please be gentle with yourself. Some people find themselves falling back into excessively stressful habits from time to time. That is perfectly normal. Simply notice that change in a non-judgemental way and move back to the stress reduction practices and tips that promote a healthy way of life.

[Source: Keo Chanbo]

Thunderbird Keyboard Shortcut

2012-08-30T17:09:00.003+08:00

Clicking has been made to keep our life simple. The painful part somtime is to drag our hand from keyboard just to click on something while we are happily typing. This case, keyboard shortcut makes life but much easier.

There you go, for those using Thunderbird software, this link might be useful for you.
Thunderbird - Keyboard Shortcut

Much has been said. Try it, yourself! :)

"Why We Shout In Anger"

2012-08-27T23:23:00.001+08:00

"Why We Shout In Anger"

A Hindu saint who was visiting river Ganges to take bath found a group of family members on the banks, shouting in anger at each other. He turned to his disciples smiled'n asked.

'Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said,'Because we lose our calm, we shout.'

'But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you? You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner.'asked the saint

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the other disciples.
Finally the saint explained, .

'When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot. To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other. The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.

What happens when two people fall in love? They don't shout at each other but talk softly, Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small...'

The saint continued,'When they love each other even more, what happens? They do not speak, only whisper'n they get even closer to each other in their love. Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other'n that's all. That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

He looked at his disciples and said.

'So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant, Do not say words that distance each other more, Or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.'

Snippets

2012-08-27T14:12:00.001+08:00

Snippets are useful if you have to type a huge amount of code. Once you memorize them you no longer will have to type certain constructs. Many developers do not type enough code to really need snippets.

And: Most of the time, a clear understanding of code is more important. Bad code is often worse than useless.

A moment to-share

Embracing Solitude

Airport transit

The feedback model

Effective Programmer

Understand Your Code

អត្ថាធិប្បាយ

កុំ​ពត់​ស្រឡៅ

កុំ​ប្រដៅ​ស្រី​មានះ

Simple Read Write File Class

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Remember Your Creator While Young

Wisdom

Nirwana Band - Sudah Cukup Sudah

Speed of light.

Today's Inspirational Quote:

10 ways Android beats the iPhone 5

What is your answer for this?

Does that make sense?

ចំរៀងអត្ថាធិប្បាយ-Khmer Commentary Stong Songkea

Food Collection of September 2012

From Live Writer

Vietcon vs United State in HD

In a life...

Dropbox

Take Dropbox with you, even on the go

Daily Stress Reduction

Thunderbird Keyboard Shortcut

"Why We Shout In Anger"

Snippets

កុំពត់ស្រឡៅ

កុំប្រដៅស្រីមានះ