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tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207Thu, 26 Mar 2026 20:19:35 +0000holidays thanksgiving thinking coaching gratitude psychology mindfulness spirituality shopping weight depression relationships familypsychologyanxiety disorders anxiety treatment cognitive-behavioral panic attacks phobias agoraphobia cognitive therapyexercisefitnesshealthpsychotherapyromance loveyoga9/11Navy SEALsOsama bin Ladenanxiety disorders clinical psychologist marinback painbrain sciencebreakupsbuddhismcbtcoaching. spiritualitycommitmentcouplesdietingeating disordersfoodhealth psychologyhealthyholistic healinghusbandslifestylemarriagemarriage counselingmental healthmind-body therapymindfulnessmoney. happinessmoodneuroscienceosamaphysical therapypilatespilates exercisepsychology mindfulness spirituality shopping weight depression relationships familyptsd vets troopsquotesrelationshipsrelationships. loverunningstressstress coping recession life change transition loss financial stress economic stress psychological stress environmental stress stress responseterrorismtime life balance self-care baby boomers aging parents family life time-management work stress life role stress juggling working mom kids health time-managetime life balance self-care baby boomers aging parents family life time-management work stress life role stress juggling working mom kids health time-managementvalentineswarweight lossweight loss lose weight diet cognitive-behavioral obesity biinge eating disorder obesity treatment weight loss therapyweightlosswiveswriting journaling positive transformation trauma post-traumatic growthMarin Psychologist BlogI am a Licensed Psychologist in Marin County, CA, a former Professor, author, and expert blogger for Psychology Today. I see individuals and couples. This blog provides insights from the latest scientific research and years of clinical experience to help you be more fulfilled in life, health, and relationships.http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)Blogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-4549996123746818220Sun, 26 Feb 2017 23:38:00 +00002017-02-26T15:38:30.511-08:00Are Your Relationships Toxic to Your Health? We all need our friends and family! Social relationships are as important to human health and happiness as food and shelter. Yet relationships can also have damaging effects. It is possible that frequent contact with toxic family members, hanging out with unhealthy friends, or staying too long in an unhappy marriage may actually be damaging your health. Conversely, isolating http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2017/02/are-your-relationships-toxic-to-your.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-3528718301913377277Sat, 25 Feb 2017 04:41:00 +00002017-02-25T16:35:36.813-08:00Six Things You Should Know About Stress Stress is a term that is over-used and yet so relevant to our daily lives in the 21st century. Most of us are rushed off our feet, trying to juggle work, kids, finances, relationships, and perhaps, giving support to elderly parents. These days the rules of our society seem to keep changing and we have to keep updating our expectations and fight negative thinking to stay afloat. Even inhttp://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2017/02/six-things-you-should-know-about-stress.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-7241316066525766030Mon, 12 Sep 2016 20:25:00 +00002017-02-26T14:44:47.884-08:00buddhismcoaching. spiritualitymindfulnesspsychologyquotesstressTen Mindfulness Quotes to Inspire You Mindfulness is both the practice of meditation and an attitude to living that encompasses: living in the present moment,  being attentive to your own mental and physical states, adopting an attitude of compassion, ‘non-clinging” and acceptance of what is.  A growing body of research studies show the benefits of mindfulness for health, peace of mind, focus, and managing stress http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2016/09/ten-mindfulness-quotes-to-inspire-your.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-8575637308723002400Wed, 07 Sep 2016 22:58:00 +00002017-02-26T14:41:29.723-08:00commitmentcoupleshusbandsmarriage counselingpsychologyrelationships. lovewivesThe Science of Relationship Commitment Whether you are in the honeymoon phase of a new relationship or negotiating a challenging period in a long-term partnership, it's natural to wonder whether your partner is really committed to staying together.  Commitment is an important facet of a relationship because it allows you to share goals and dreams and to feel emotionally safer. It also helps you to stick it out when http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2016/09/the-science-of-relationship-commitment.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-5070943916186231719Wed, 27 Jan 2016 00:31:00 +00002017-02-26T14:37:59.997-08:00Seven Essential Tips to Stress Less 1. Don’t Get Too Far Ahead of Yourself   When you are stressed or anxious, your brain can get ahead of you, thinking about all the negative possibilities for life if things don’t turn out the way you want.  You may think about failing out of school, not getting into college, not getting a job, and so on. It’s really important to take a step back and ask yourself what specific http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2016/01/seven-essential-tips-to-stress-less.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-2840114848425886493Mon, 02 Nov 2015 16:43:00 +00002017-02-26T14:23:16.853-08:0050 Encouraging Things to Say to Yourself We all need a bit of encouragement and inspiration sometimes.  In my therapy practice, some of the most common problems I see are clients being hard on themselves, getting caught up in negative thought cycles, not speaking up for themselves, avoiding doing the healthy things, or being scared to feel.  It is important to learn to be a good coach and a good parent to yourself. &http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2015/11/50-encouraging-things-to-say-to-yoursel.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-8968751491951138873Wed, 29 Oct 2014 18:04:00 +00002017-02-26T14:19:21.521-08:00How Self-Compassion Can Make You Happier and Healthier This week, I was interviewed by psychotherapist Jacqueline Stone from Sydney, Australia for her Wise Stress Mastery blog.  The topic was self-compassion. We spoke about how a mindset shift to self-compassion can be a turning point in therapy. Why do we struggle so much to treat ourselves with the same kindness and forgiveness that we extend to everybody else?  A lack of http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2014/10/how-self-compassion-can-make-you.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-1680795615849439993Tue, 21 Oct 2014 00:01:00 +00002017-02-26T13:49:24.929-08:00Six Things Happy Couples Do Differently Maintaining a happy, loving relationship  is hard work, especially when you are also juggling a busy career or parenting.  It is easy for even well-matched couples to fall into negative cycles or neglect to prioritize your relationship.  Misunderstanding each other, fighting over the small stuff, or taking your relationship for granted are common negative patterns that can http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2014/10/six-things-happy-couples-do-differently.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-6235283271513210604Tue, 09 Sep 2014 22:53:00 +00002017-02-26T13:40:46.007-08:00How Negative Core Beliefs Ruin Relationships Based on our earliest experiences with our caregivers, we form fixed beliefs and expectations about how lovable and deserving we are, how safe or dangerous the world is, and how we expect to be treated.  Psychologist Jeffrey Young and his colleagues call these rules of living and views of the world  “SCHEMAS.”  While not all schemas are harmful, those that are overly rigid,http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2014/09/how-to-identify-and-heal-negative-core.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-8218144040388881713Wed, 14 May 2014 23:02:00 +00002017-02-25T17:35:59.349-08:00Four Ways To Create Loving Connection in Your Marriage When you walk down the aisle or move in with your partner, you may feel like you have finally found your "happily ever after."  In the earlier stages of love, surges of brain chemicals and hormones make you feel euphoric and increase your feelings of attachment and need for your loved one.  You are likely to idealize and see the best in your partner, perhaps minimizing http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2014/05/four-ways-to-create-loving-connection.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-4414908774681977550Thu, 06 Mar 2014 06:43:00 +00002017-02-25T17:30:34.070-08:00Six Coping Strategies for Life's Disappointments    <!--[if gte mso 9]> http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2012/09/does-happiness-lie-within.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2045622753039650207.post-609056944292077791Wed, 15 Aug 2012 01:55:00 +00002012-08-14T18:55:35.362-07:00Listen to Dr Melanie on Wellness for the Real World I had a great time chatting with Dr Veronica Anderson and her co-host Russell Cook on today's edition of their Wellness for the Real World show on BlogTalkRadio. The topic was DEALING WITH REGRET The five experts differed on whether they thought regret had any value. While some life coaches thought regret kept people stuck and was a negative force, a Social Psychology http://marinpsychologist.blogspot.com/2012/08/listen-to-dr-melanie-on-wellness-for.htmlnoreply@blogger.com (Anonymous)0