The Single Belles

Five Fun Activities during Rainy Season

2012-06-30T02:15:00.000+08:00

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Rainy days are here again. A beach get away is not so fun with the monsoon rains and typhoons to hit our country. But it shouldn’t feel gloomy and blue. There are lots of fun activities in and out of your home to beat the rainy day blues away.

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1. Play board and card games. You’ll lose track of time enjoying these fun classic board games with family and friends.

2. Visit new museums. If you haven’t been to Manila Ocean Park, now is the time to try and explore the different attractions and activities there. You can also try The Mind Museum which is the newest attraction in Fort Bonifacio, Taguig.

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Check out their website for more info. http://www.themindmuseum.org, http://www.manilaoceanpark.com/

3. Read an interesting book. Another New York Times bestseller, Fifty Shades of Grey has been all over the social networks making waves. People are either raving against or for it. I suggest you read it for yourself and tell us what you think.

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4. Try out a new recipe. Hot soup on a rainy day is simply divine. Check this Kimchi Noodle Soup recipe http://www.food.com/recipe/grandmas-rainy-day-kimchi-noodle-soup-402890 if you want a bit of spicy kick in your soup.

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5. Go to an arcade or bowling alley. There’s nothing like a rush of excitement killing zombies or driving a race car in arcades. You can also invite your friends for a fun bowling competition. Head out to the nearest malls and enjoy.

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Look Natural! Master the Art of the No-Makeup Look

2012-05-04T17:54:00.004+08:00

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Gone are the times when dark eyeshadows and heavily lined eyes were the "in" thing. In fact, a great challenge among girls nowadays is how to look flawless and fabulous like they're wearing no makeup at all. With this growing trend that paves the way for the best "everyday versions" of ourselves, we're sharing with you three of our favorite no-makeup look tutorials by reliable Youtube beauty gurus.

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Look as if you didn't put much effort through these helpful tips:

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Video: Youtube (uploaded by Sephora)

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Which Avengers Super Hero is Your Ideal Guy?

2012-05-02T22:00:00.002+08:00

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If you can have any of the Avengers as your boyfriend, who would you choose? Take this quiz to know which Avenger super hero is your ideal guy.

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1. Physically, you are attracted to:

a. Pretty boy, boy next door looking

b. Ruggedly handsome men

c. More mature looking, preppy, metrosexual

d. Geeky, nerdy in a cute way but is physically buff

2. Personality wise, you look for:

a. Serious, calm, conservative, soft-hearted

b. Playful, adventurous, very protective

c. Funny, smart ass, sociable

d. Quiet, brainiac, sincere

3. What is the one thing that you can’t stand in men:

a. Sentimental, can’t easily move on

b. Mischievous

c. Boastful, self-obsessed

d. Moody, has a temper

4. What trait will make your heart melt in a man?

a. Doesn’t look at other woman, very loyal and faithful, loves one woman forever

b. Can sacrifice himself for his girl, very protective of his girl

c. Showers you with gifts and everything that money can buy

d. Will fight anyone who mistreats his girl

5. What tool or armor would you like your man to possess?

a. Shield

b. Hammer

c. Robot suit

d. No special armor just his own physical strength

If you answered mostly:

Mostly As: Captain America

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Mostly Bs: Thor

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Mostly Cs: Iron Man

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Mostly Ds: Hulk

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Dating 201: How to Lose a Guy on the First Date

2012-04-30T20:54:00.002+08:00

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There are hundreds of articles written about the dos and don’ts of dating, we'll probably be able to come up with a book. But there is really no magic formula when it comes to it. One strategy may work for Aida but maybe not for Lorna or Fe. But there are universal principles and proper etiquette in handling your dates, dear single belles! We'll let you in on some tips.
Have you experienced dating a great guy but he suddenly disappeared in your radar after the first date? You may not be aware but you might be doing something wrong. This article will give you a checklist of things you might be doing to scare the guy away. Or if you really want to avoid having a second date with the wrong guy, these tips can also be useful (haha!).

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Warning: Follow with caution

1. Arrive late. If he’s picking you up, make your date wait for at least an hour. Guys hate it when girls take so long to prepare for a date. Test his patience.

2. Wear heavy makeup and don a skimpy dress. Throw your good hygiene habits (like taking a bath or brushing your teeth) out the window. You will wow your date with heavy makeup and a revealing fashion sense anyway. While you're at it, skip waxing or shaving your pits or legs as well. Outside appearance doesn’t matter. It’s the inside that counts.

3. Act manly. Show him your manly skills like chewing your food with sounds, burping out loud or removing food stuck in your teeth using your pinky. Guys like girls who are keeping it real.

4. Keep on texting or answering calls during your date. Act as if you’re not interested in what he’s saying. Don’t ask questions and don’t listen. Do check out cute guys who pass by your table (while your date is talking!).

5. Talk about how bad your day went. Complain how the service or food sucks. Drown the mood with negativity. Keep whining about your boss from hell or how much you dread your job.

6. Talk about your ex – either how great or bad he is. You can also rave about your best guy friend or other guy friends for that matter. Tell your date how you think he'll love them and that you can’t wait for them to meet.

7. Dominate the conversation and make a monologue about yourself. Hog the conversation and tell him about all your accomplishments and dreams. You want to make a good first impression, right? No need to find common interests. You still have a long list of great things he should know about you.

8. Reveal your darkest secret or your most embarrassing experience on your first date. Tell him everything if you can. Honesty is the best policy.

9. Tell the guy you’re so busy with life you don’t have time for love or relationships. Don't forget to emphasize that he’s lucky you were able to squeeze him into your crazy schedule.

10. Confess that you like him. Say it during the first date and he’ll surely run as fast as he can - away from you. Unless of course he’s crazy like you.

If you follow these tips, we’re absolutely sure you will not get a second date from that guy! Do you have other suggestions you can add to the list? We’d love to hear from you.

Want to Look Younger? Tie Your Hair!

2012-04-25T03:24:00.003+08:00

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With this intense summer heat, it takes patience and super kikay powers to keep our hair down and look fabulous. Most of us are left with no choice but to chop off our locks or tie them up in a ponytail. Well before we whine, here's the great news! A Prevention beauty article shared New York-based senior stylist Nunzio Saviano's revelation that pulling hair back focuses attention on our cheekbones and gives our faces a lift! This season actually paves the way for a few years to be taken off our faces. :)

Check out how these local and international celebrities pull off their ponytails:

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(Top) Kathryn Bernardo, Solenn Heussaff, Kim Chiu, Anne Curtis, Sarah Geronimo, and Bea Alonzo
(Bottom) Heart Evangelista, Julia Montes, Maricar Reyes, Bianca Gonzalez, Toni Gonzaga, and Georgina Wilson
Images: Google and Facebook fan pages

(Top) Zooey Deschanel, Leighton Meester, Jennifer Lopez, Jennifer Aniston, Kim Kardashian, and Blake Lively
(Bottom) Jessica Alba, Anne Hathaway, Drew Barrymore, Nicole Kidman, and Katie Holmes
Images: Google and Facebook fan pages

For a detailed ponytail tutorial and other summer hairstyle ideas, check out our previous feature:

Top 5 Comfy Summer Hairstyles :)

Money Matters: How Financially Savvy Are You?

2012-04-19T21:45:00.000+08:00

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Money, money, money, why do we have to talk about money? We often hear money cannot buy happiness. There's a degree of truthfulness to it. But whether we admit it or not, having money (or lack of it) has a big effect on a person’s happiness. Having money is connected to our dreams and passions. We all want to build our dream house, spend vacations around the world, help the less fortunate people to name a few. But, how can we reach our dreams if we don’t have money? It's important especially for women to be financially knowledgeable these days. Single women should be smart about handling money because gone are the days when women will just rely on their future husbands to provide for the family. That should be the case unless your main goal in life is to marry what we commonly refer to as the 4M kind of guy – Matandang Mayamang Madaling Mamatay. :)

The question now is, how financially savvy are you? Normally, we acquire our spending and money habits from our parents or anyone we grew up with. The people around us highly influence us on how we handle our money. The issue is that they don’t really teach money matters in school. So whether your parents' financial habits are right or wrong, it is highly likely you'll adopt those which you have been exposed to. Due to lack of financial literacy, a lot of people have wrong spending habits or acquired misconceptions on money matters.

If you think you have financial issues or you don’t know if you’re spending or investing your money the right way, here are a few tips on gaining financial literacy.

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List where all your money go.

After every payday, you wonder where your money went. Sometimes it seems that your salary is not enough for all the expenses you have - rent, phone bill, groceries, electric bill, and of course, the occasional nights out, coffee breaks, and that cute pair of shoes you bought on impulse. Have an expenses journal. Break down all expenses and write everything down! It's important to know where all your cash went so you can identify a pattern and assess if you are spending wisely or not. If not then, proceed to the next tip.

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Modify your spending habits.

There are many ways on how to cut down expenses without the feeling of depriving yourself. For example, do you really need to buy that branded coffee everyday which costs P100+ per cup? Can't the regular 3-in-1 coffee mix in your office pantry suffice your need for a caffeine kick? When having nights out, opt for happy hours to get discounted rates. Read articles and features on online magazines instead of buying hard copies. Look for carpool buddies to save on gas. Bring home cooked lunch instead of eating out every day. Buy items on sites that offer discount vouchers (eg. cashcash, metrodeal). These may seem small but when you add all these little efforts, you'll realize you've saved a lot each month.

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Save 20% of your salary every month.

Set aside at least 20% of your income as your savings fund or invest it. It's important to save for the future. Open an “untouchable” savings bank account. Better yet, invest it in mutual funds, stocks or other money vehicles and watch your money grow. Time is money! It's better to start early on for your retirement. Below is a video teaching us the benefits of investing early on in life.

Live within your means.

Now you ask, with all the expenses how can you save 20% of your salary? The answer is simple: live within (or below!) your means. Spend only what is left after saving 20% of your income. Want is different from need. When you are tempted to buy that dress or new pair of shoes, assess if you really need it now or you just want it. It’s all about prioritizing. Try to evade shopping temptations but if you can’t avoid the malls, leave your credit card at home. Don’t withdraw your salary in full, get only the amount you need weekly.

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Write your money and savings goal and check it regularly.

How much money do you want to earn monthly? How much money do you want to have 5 years from now? 10 years from now? It helps to have a financial goal. Write it down and check what ways you are doing to reach that goal. It can also help if you can write a short-tem and long-term target. An example of a short-term goal is saving for a trip abroad. Write how much money will you need for that vacation and where can you get the extra money. A long-term goal can be having a retirement fund. Estimate how much money you think you will you need when you grow old and won’t be able to work anymore. Keep in mind the approximate value of money by that time.

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Look for financial mentors and support group.

Since handling your money is still not part of the local school curriculum, seek successful people and learn from them. Attend seminars on financial literacy and study the different money vehicles that can help you achieve your dreams. Always remember that knowledge is power.

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There is a financial literacy seminar by Aya Laraya, host of Pesos and Sense, that we highly recommend you attend on May 26, 2012. Learn how to grow your money and which type of investment is right for you. Check out the poster below for more details.

How to Keep an Attitude of Gratitude

2012-04-01T14:31:00.002+08:00

Have you said "Thank You" today?

With so many things happening around us today, distractions abound. We may find ourselves running from one task to another, often spreading ourselves too thinly and losing track of the essentials. If this continues, we won't be surprised to find ourselves sighing at the end of the day or engaging in another ranting session. That's exactly what we need to avoid.

Cliche as it may sound, everyday is a gift. The opportunity to spend another 24 hours alive is reason enough to celebrate. Law of Attraction experts remind us that the sooner we realize this and the more we incorporate the feeling of being thankful for each day, we'll notice that more good things happen. So, how exactly are we supposed to shift our ways? Here are our simple suggestions:

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Say "Thank You." Express yourself in words by saying "Thank you" to people who deserve your gratitude no matter how small their acts of love or kindness may be. Letting others know you appreciate them or what they have done to you will ignite a positive feeling and possibly start the ripples of gratitude.
Keep a gratitude journal. Maintaining a gratitude journal is like having a vitamin kit within reach. Whenever we are down or hitting low moments in life, the gratitude journal is what we can instantly run to. Seeing a list of the things that made us feel good or positive will provide us with the extra boost we need. All you have to do is jot down the things that you feel thankful for during the day (no matter how simple). You may add smileys and doodles to keep the feeling alive. Our journals will serve as our guide in appreciating the simplest things around us. When we give ourselves the task to fill up a space in the journal at the end of the day, we will be more conscious of things around us and watchful of every moment that brings us joy. Before we realize it, appreciation for the simplest things (e.g. driving without traffic or finding a P100-bill you completely forgot about neatly tucked in your pocket) will come out naturally.
Visualize your blessings. While it is often advised to start the day with mental pictures of our goals or the things we want to happen, we believe it is also crucial to end the day in a similar manner. This time, focus should be on the positive things that transpired. Right before going to sleep, keep happy thoughts and play back in your mind all the wonderful reasons to feel grateful. Visualize as if you are watching a film inside your head. This daily habit trains you in the process and aids in giving you a more relaxed sleep.
Utter a silent prayer. No matter what your faith is, it is most important to express your gratitude to the One who makes all the good things possible. A simple thank you uttered in silence will surely mean so much. This simple exercise will hopefully inspire you to pay it forward and be an instrument in doing things others will also be thankful for.

The Five People You Meet in Workplace

2012-03-30T18:14:00.000+08:00

The corporate jungle is an interesting place because there are several kinds of people (who might not necessarily jive) trying to work together to achieve a common goal. And you can’t choose people you’re going to work with. You are dealing with a mix of people, both the good and the bad. Consider yourself lucky if you have cool and kind co-workers. But it’s also expected to encounter the difficult ones. Based on observations, there are five people you meet in the workplace who make the corporate life more colorful (or not).

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The Hell Boss aka Slave Driver. At the top of the list is The Hell Boss. Who has not encountered him yet? - calling in the middle of the night, asking you to come to work on weekends, giving impossible deadlines, hogs credit all to himself, or worse shouts and throws a tantrum when things don’t go his way. I often wonder if he is aware or he simply forgets the work ethics. The pressure on them is so great that’s why they probably put pressure on their subordinates as well.

How to Deal: You have to stretch your patience when dealing with this kind of boss. Talk and explain your side calmly. Avoid any clash because he is, after all, your superior. If it’s about impossible deadlines or you are overloaded with work, you have to let your boss know. Keeping an open communication line is key. But of course there is always a limitation to everything. When he shouts or swears and maligns you in any way that degrades your core being, then it’s time to call it quits. You deserve a far better treatment in a different company. You can also report his actions to the HR so that he can be reprimanded for his behavior.

The Gossiper aka Rumor Mongrel. The Gossipers thrive on exciting and juicy news about their co-workers' lives. Their day is not complete without huddling in the pantry or in some office space to gossip. If you are new to a company, just look for the gossipers and they’ll surely tell you everything you want to know about the company and its people. Or if you want everybody to know a detail about you, just tell the gossiper and by the end of the day everybody knows you just broke up with your boyfriend.

How to Deal: You better be wary of what you say when around a gossiper. You must know what to share and what to keep private. Avoid this clique if you can, you’ll never know what they talk about you behind your back. If you’ve become a victim of their gossiping, just keep your silence especially if the chismis is not true. Just say “no, it’s not true” but you don’t need to explain to them.

The Whiner aka Complainer. There is not a single day that The Whiner is not complaining on something. Be it a small issue – the food in the cafeteria is bland or the ATM line is too long, or big issues at work – doing overtime work, complaining about the boss, getting a small pay, having demanding clients etc. Some of their issues might be legitimate but the list of things they complain about never runs out and it’s getting on your nerves. They always have something bad to say about something. These people are very draining and rob you off positive energies you need to get you going at work. Worse, their negativity rubs off on you and you can also be affected. Productivity might suffer because of this person.

How to Deal: Don’t join the complaint fest as it can lead to nowhere but sulking. Focus your energy on positive things at work. If you can’t avoid this person, change the subject whenever he starts to whine. You can also be honest and tell him in a polite way that his negativity is affecting others if not his own productivity. Try to be a positive influence on that person.

The Envious aka Green Eyed Monster. These people are hard to identify because jealousy comes in different forms. If you’re a “bibo” kid at work and you are often praised or recognized by the boss, the green eyed monsters are lurking behind thinking of ways to attack. They may justify that you are probably promoted because of being the boss’ pet or that they deserve it more than you but their work is not recognized. Aside from competing about work, they also compete with you through material possessions. The green-eyed monsters compensate their need for recognition through buying material stuff that are considered status symbols. They have to have the latest phone, gadgets, clothes etc. that you might also have.

How to Deal: You don’t have to do anything with these people. Just brush off whatever hirit they may have because you are not in a competition anyway, and you know in your heart that you are working your ass off and deserving of whatever recognition or rewards you are earning.

The Bully aka Queen Bitch. The Bullies are easy to identify. They are normally a bunch of rowdy people hanging out together in the office. You cannot just join in their crowd without having an official “invitation” from them. They are oftentimes pushy, demanding (as if they are the boss), likes making fun of people and they often victimize new hires or meek people in the office.

How to Deal: Don’t be intimidated by a bully! Stand up and fight back (no physical violence of course)! Talk to them in a diplomatic way regarding their unacceptable manners. Remember, they only bully people who allow themselves to be bullied.

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The Powdered Milk Face Cleanser

2012-03-28T16:52:00.001+08:00

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This summer, there is a greater need for us to put a premium on taking care of our skin. The heat alone is enough to remind us of common skincare tips -- hydrate (at least 2 liters of water each day!) and load up on sunscreen. As the old folks say, we reap what we sow. So we better work hard on saving our skin from harmful sun damage.

As we scoured all over for beauty tips this season, we remembered a beauty secret that worked well for us from years back. We realized that our tools for getting a healthy summer glow are right there in the kitchen!:) Check out our homemade beauty recipe for a milk face wash:

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POWDERED MILK FACE CLEANSER

Getting the vitamins and minerals contained in milk
is not limited to drinking it. Applying it on the skin provides
nourishment and moisture while at the same, its lactic acids
promote healthy exfoliation to bring out the skin's natural glow.
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This beauty secret dates back to the time of Cleopatra when she was said to have had luxurious milk baths that supposedly made her skin soft and supple. Of course, that doesn't sound practical these days. We'd rather gulp down that pack of fresh milk than fill up the bath tub with it. Good thing, we don't need that much to make our homemade face wash. Here are the simple ingredients you'll need:

1-2 tablespoon/s full cream powdered milk* (skimmed powdered milk for acne-prone skin)
1/2 cup tap water

Steps:

Wash your face with a regular facial wash or soap to get rid of dirt.
Gently pat your skin dry with a face towel.
Mix your powdered milk with tap water. You may adjust the amount of water to achieve your desired consistency. You may opt to have a thick or runny mixture.
Moisten your skin again with lukewarm water then slather on the milk mixture. You may use a cotton pad for easier application.
Allow the skin to absorb the milk for around 3-5 minutes. Expect the mixture to tighten a bit as it dries up.
Rinse off with cold water.

*Carnation powdered milk is highly recommended fellow users.

Swimsuit Guide for Every Body Type

2012-03-26T22:38:00.001+08:00

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Can you feel the summer heat, dear Single Belles? It’s time to pack our bags and head to the beach or pool to cool off. But wait, do you have the perfect swimwear already? Before buying your swimsuits, it is important to know your body type first. Your choice of swimsuits should enhance your assets and conceal your flaws. Check out our swimsuit guide for every body type to avoid swimsuit disasters.

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Apple Shape

An apple shape body is top heavy with smaller waist down. Women with apple body type have large chest or breast, broad shoulders, or generally the upper body has a larger frame compared to the bottom.

Swimsuit guide: Avoid wearing low cut tops. It is best to wear swimsuits with high neck or thick straps. Any swimsuit with support particularly at the chest will help. Swimsuits with a built-in underwire bra and skirted bottoms can be very flattering and balancing, and wide or square necked suits can narrow the shoulders. Tankinis are perfect for apple type bodies.

Pear Shape

A pear shape body is smaller on top and larger on the bottom. Women with pear body type have large hips and thighs and smaller upper body. Weight gain tends to show up around the thighs and hips.

Swimsuit guide: Try swimsuits with a skirt or boy shorts that flatter the figure. Colors should be a dark solid on the bottom and printed or lighter color for the top to focus the attention to upper body. Or try something with an embellished bustline to draw the eye up toward your face and shoulders.

Round Shape

A round shape body has an overall rounded body shape with a wide waist. Most of the weight is around the tummy, with large breasts. Women with round body type have narrow shoulders and hips, don’t have a well defined waistline or center of the body is largest.

Swimsuit guide: Try one piece swimsuits that have small prints and patterns which can camouflage a big tummy. You can also wear a swimsuit dress or sarong to hide problem areas.

Hour Glass Shape

Hour glass shape is the much sought after body, with a curvy body type. Women with hour glass body type have similarly wide hips and shoulders but a smaller waist, a full rear and thigh, and slim and shapely lower legs. Shopping for clothes is not a hassle because the tops’ size always matches the bottoms’.

Swimsuit guide: The best swimsuits for women with the hourglass body type tend to have halter tops, V-necks, allover prints and side details, which highlight the curves and give good accent to the waist and legs. But you’re one lucky girl! You can pretty much wear any style you want with your body type. So don’t be afraid to experiment and try various swimsuits that perfectly fit your style.

Slim or Athletic Shape

Slim or Athletic figure has a small frame in general, with little or no curves. Slim/Athletic women have small bone structures, with lower than average body fat percentage. They may be skinny, wear tall or petite sizes or have a small bust size.

Swimsuit guide: Two piece swimsuits are perfect to show off your body and will also make the body look curvier. To enhance bust size, wear push up or triangle bikini tops. Choose solid colors and avoid designs that are too detailed to make your boobs and butt pop out. Create curves by trying halter top swimsuits, twists, wraps, and skirts to add shape for a very flattering and feminine look.

Whatever body shape you have, it really takes some guts to proudly wear a swimsuit. But if you’re not too confident and still a bit shy to flaunt your assets, you can try wearing cover-ups such as shorts, skirts, summer dresses and sarongs.

Photos and References: www.glamour.com, www.yourswimsuitguide.com, www.swimsuitforall.com, www.umekobeautyfashion.com, ohthatsyou.com/blog

SB's Top 5 Comfy Summer Hairstyles

2012-03-24T17:24:00.000+08:00

No matter how much we love this beach season, there's no denying that too much heat can take us to sticky (literally!) situations. This fact calls for a lot of adjustments we need to make - changing the clothes we wear, the food we eat, and the way we style our hair. Yes, our hairstyles significantly affect our comfort in the midst of humidity. Arm yourself with a comb and join us as we beat the summer heat with our top 5 comfy (and easy-to-do!) summer hairstyles:

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5) BOB CUT

If you're adventurous enough, go ahead and chop off your locks
with a bob cut for a cooler and fresher feel.
Images: newshorthairstyles.info, theberry.com, gallery.becomegorgeous.com, strayhair.com

4) FRENCH BRAID

Keep your look neat yet girly with
this timeless hairstyle.
Image: long-haircuts.com

Video: Youtube (Howcast)

3) CORNROWS

Try this cool and perfect-for-the-beach look
even when you're at home. Using the French braid technique,
make rows of tight and tiny braids.
Image: yupedia.com

Video: Youtube (HairGirl247)

2) KOREAN BUN

Join in the craze and look hip and trendy
with this bun popularized by Korean pop culture.
Image: qqkee.com

Video: Youtube (cerinebabyyish)

1) PONYTAIL

You can never go wrong with this classic hairstyle.
Pulling your hair away from the face gives you
a polished look and fresher feel.
Image: bellasugar.com

Video: Youtube (thymaihair)

Diet = Happiness? :)

2012-03-22T04:57:00.003+08:00

The Happiness Diet
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We have yet to find a person who associates going on a diet with being happy. But new research reveals that changing what we eat can help regulate our mood and improve our brain health. It is also claimed to aid in weight loss (woohoo!). As Prevention* shared, this method is called the Happiness Diet!

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The Happiness Diet recommends eating food directly linked to brain function. Food is categorized into three (3) areas: foods for thought (e.g. eggs, grass-fed beef, anchovies); foods for mood (e.g. arugula, coffee, walnuts); and foods for energy (e.g. salmon, tomatoes, garlic). Foods for thought aids in improving brain functions, foods for mood helps regulate emotions, and foods for energy provides power and helps control anxiety.

Here are the basic guidelines in achieving mental well-being from the Happiness Diet:

1) Cut down on processed food intake.
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We need to avoid processed food as they usually have high sugar content. Too much sugar consumption is found to affect key brain areas involved in regulating our mood.

2) Have more fruits, vegetables, and whole grains.
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Minerals, vitamins, and phytonutrients called the Essential Elements of Happiness in the Happiness Diet are found in plant foods. These contribute to the optimal functioning of the brain.

3) Choose grass-fed meat over grain-fed ones.
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Whenever possible, it would be beneficial to consume grass-fed meat over grain-fed ones. Grass-fed meat contains more omega-3 fatty acids that promote formation of new brain functions.

4) Aim for variety.
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Having a wide variety of food to eat broadens the range of brain-boosting nutrients we get from our diet. This gives us a higher chance of improving our brain activities and emotional health.

For detailed information, check out our references - Prevention magazine January 2012 issue or its source The Happiness Diet book.

*January 2012, pp. 53-59

Secret Summer Destinations in the Philippines

2012-03-20T23:32:00.003+08:00

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Summer is officially here! Where are you headed to, dear Single Belles? Most of the tourists' top-of-mind destinations would probably be the more famous vacation spots in the Philippines such as Boracay, Palawan, Bohol, Cebu and Davao. Local and foreign tourists alike flock to these destinations yearly. But much has already been said and written about these places. It’s about time we give the spotlight to uncharted places in the country and explore what these less known places have to offer.

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Luzon

Palaui Island, Cagayan

If you’re up for some trekking and sea adventure, then a visit to Palaui Island is the perfect vacation for you. Palaui Island is a protected landscape and seascape area located at Sta. Ana, Cagayan. The entire 7.415km of Palaui Island is being managed by Cagayan Economic Zone Authority (CEZA) and is a priority site for tourism development. It boasts of the “Six for Two” package where in tourists are treated to a two-day adventure around the Island. Visitors who sign up for this program are taught how to snorkel on the reef and seagrass meadows, go through a hike along a primary forest, be part of a beach clean-up and learn about the issue on reef trash, plant mangroves, hike up the Century-old light house, learn about its history, and walk along the tidal pool areas. There are also hidden waterfalls in the island and nearby white sand beaches in the neighboring ones. There are so many activities to choose from but you can also just watch the sunset and be a beach bum if you're looking for some peace and quiet. It’s really up to you. It's important to note that there's no guesthouse, hotel or resort in the island. You can ask around Punta Verde for a room to stay in the night. But if you’re adventurous enough, you can bring your own camping equipment, food and water, and camp at the beach near the Cape Engaῆo Lighthouse

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How to get there

From Tuguegarao airport, ride bus or Van to Sta. Ana, Cagayan. If riding a bus, from Manila take bus to Sta. Ana, Cagayan. From Sta. Ana, ride tricycle to San Vicente Port. You have 2 options from here:

Ride boat to Punta Verde where the trail jump-off point is located. Sign up for the “six for two” package or hire a guide for the 2-3 hour trekking to Cape Engano Lighthouse on your own
Ride boat directly to Cape Engano Lighthouse (more expensive)only when the sea is calm

Baler, Aurora

Baler, the capital of Aurora, is one of our country’s famous surfing spots. But there is more to see and explore in Baler aside from its beaches.

Ditumabo Falls

The majestic waterfall is approximately 140 feet high and the surrounding mountainous area is covered with tall hardwoods, green shrubbery and vines. Traversing to the waterfall is a 45-minute (2 km) hiking and trekking through the river over rough terrain, few steep mountain trails, river trail utilizing man-made stairs, wooden bridges, and sometimes old cut logs which serve as natural bridges.

Balite Park and Millenium Tree

The park contains a 600-year-old balete tree that was designated as the official "Millennium Tree" of The Philippines. It's the largest tree of its kind in Asia, and it would take 60 grown men, holding one another at arm's length, to encircle its gigantic trunk. Due to its age, the tree's thick roots have grown above ground, such that caves have formed under various sections of the trunk.

Dicasalarin Cove

Dicasalarin Cove is privately owned by Sen. Edgardo Angara but is open to guests staying in Bahia de Baler. Visitor cabins and huts can be found in the area, as well as a mini complex called Ifugao Village composed of Ifugao-inspired guesthouses. This white sand beach lies along the foothills of the Sierra Madre and is continually pounded by the crashing waves of the Pacific Ocean. The cove is bordered on both sides by rock formations that add to its rough, unspoiled charm.

Sabang Beach

Local and international surfers flock to Sabang Beach for its majestic waves during the months of October-February which are perfect for surfing competitions. From March through June, the waves are relatively calm providing a good beachfront for swimmers and an excellent challenge for expert windsurfers. Located on this long stretch of gray sand beach are several resorts and accommodations which surfers and swimmers can choose from.

Casapsapan Beach

Casapsapan Beach in Brgy. Ildefonso, Casiguran, Aurora offers a magnificent view of the brilliant sunrise where one can watch the sun rising slowly from the eastern horizon almost as big as winnower. The place boasts of inherent beauty such as its white sand beaches, sparkling waters and five hectares of virgin mangrove.

Visayas

Dumaguete

Dumaguete, the capital of Negros Oriental province, is known as the Center for Learning in the Visayas region because of its world renowned Siliman University. Aside from its friendly and gentle people, Dumaguete also boasts of many tourist attractions - white sand beaches, exotic dive spots, aqua adventuring spots perfect for watching dolphins and whales, peaceful lakes, falls, and a vibrant night life in the city proper. Their yummy sansrival is also a must-try for visitors.

Silliman University

The Silliman Hall is the oldest known building in the campus. It was erected in 1903 when the need for additional classrooms arose. Today, it serves as a museum and a venue for university dinner conferences and the like.

Dumaguete Belfry Tower

The bell tower of St. Catherine of Alexandria Cathedral was constructed in 1811 which served as a watchtower for forthcoming aggressors. It was restored in 1985 and since then has become a very popular landmark.

Dumaguete or Rizal Boulevard

One can never get bored in city while strolling along the beachfront pathway lined with different restaurants and establishments in Rizal Boulevard which makes it a popular place in Dumaguete specially at night.

Bais Dolphin Watching and Majuyod Sandbar

Bais is a small city around 45 kilometers north of Dumaguete. An approximated 45-minute drive going north will bring you to Capiñahan Wharf, the jump-off point for the motor boat ride to Tañon strait. Tañon strait is the home of a number of dolphin species including the famous spinner dolphins and occasionally some whale species (melon-headed whales).

The trip may end at the Manjuyod Sandbar, a crescent strip of white sand that appears when the tide is low.

Lake Balinsasayao and Lake Danao – Twin Lakes

In the mountains of southern Negros Island, 12 km west of the town of Sibulan, Negros Oriental peacefully lie the captivating Lake Balinsasayao and its twin lake, Lake Danao. The Twin Lakes of Balinsasayao is also the habitat of many birds and animals, some of which are also rare. Activities include swimming, fishing, boating, trekking and kayaking.

Casaroro Falls

Casaroro Falls is lodged deep into the rock crevices of the rugged Valencia mountains. With an astounding height of 100 feet, the water plunges into a deep cold basin before it flows down to a stream. The waterfall is considerably narrow, instead of the usual wide cascade, but this is precisely what makes Casaroro unique.

Apo Island

A few minutes boat ride away from Dumagute is the famous Apo Island which is frequently visited by divers for its coral reef formations and marine wildlife. It is considered as one of the best diving sites in the world and has been protected as a fish sanctuary since 1982.

Samar

When we hear the province of Samar, the first thing that comes to mind is the famous San Juanico Bridge that connects to its neighboring province Leyte. But aside the famous bridge, Samar is also rich in unexplored wonders of nature. From mountain and caves to pristine beaches and waterfalls, a trip to Samar will surely surprise you.

Sohoton National Park

Sohoton National Park is the home of different caves namely the Panhulugan Cave 1 and 2, Sohoton Cave, Bugasan and Kapigtan Caves. The park is situated in Basey, Samar (2-hour ride from Tacloban City) that houses different geological features such as the caves mentioned, limestone boulders, rockholes and underground rivers (Yes, similar to the famous Palawan Underground River).

Malajog or Lo-ok Beach

Located in the Tinambacan District of Calbayog, the beach offers cold blue waters which differentiate it from other beaches. It is considered the most beautiful beach in Samar which is often visited by VIPs, foreign dignitaries and celebrities.

Falls and Caves

Samar is also home to many amazing falls and caves. Spelunkers will enjoy exploring the magnificent caves and wade in the cool and clean waterfalls.

Bangon Falls

From Brgy. San Jaoquin, Tinambacan district, where Lulugayan Falls is located; it will take an additional 20-minute ride to reach Brgy. Tinaplacan and another 30-minute walk to the vicinity of the falls. Following the stream by ascending to the upper level, one will be amazed to see a circular pond of about 30 meters in diameter, wide enough for swimming and deep enough for diving.

Pan-as Falls

Pan-as Falls is located at Brgy. Pilar, Oquendo district and is surrounded by the mighty stands of rare timbers and wildlife that abound in the area. An hour drive from the Calbayog City proper and a 30-minute hike from the village can easily visit the place. Seen from afar, it's like a long constructed boat by the mountainside and at a close up, a series of long drop of crystal water to another.

Mawacat Slide

Mawacat Slide is an hour ride from the Calbayog City proper to Brgy. Mawacat, Oquendo district and a 20-minute walk thereafter along a foot trail, shaded by lined tall trees. It is a natural spoon-like formation, which inclined more or less by about 45 degrees and stretching a length of about 50 meters. Water flows along this giant cistern and from the top, one can slide through the mossy lane to the cool inviting pool below.

Lulugayan Falls

Lulugayan Falls is a series of towering altars of rugged stones. Flowing between its depression is the cool water which old folks say cleansed the hair of a legendary lady. The site is an hour ride from the Calbayog City proper to Brgy. San Jaoquin, Tinambacan district and a 10-minute hike onward.

Guinogoan Cave

Its cathedral door-sized entrance leads one to wade fresh, cool water into a natural tunnel stretching through, uneven ceiling with some portions touching one’s head, giving an adventurer an eerie trip through the dark cave which can be explored by carrying lighted torches.

Langun-Gobinggub Cave

Spelunkers will surely enjoy exploring the Langun-Gobingob caves of Calbiga, Samar, said to be the 2nd largest Karst cave in the world.

Mindanao

Lake Sebu

Dubbed as the "Summer Capital of Southern Philippines", Lake Sebu is an inland sea tucked in South Cotabato. This hidden destination is home to a number of tribes including the T'boli. A number of lakeside resorts in the area offer both an atmosphere of fun and relaxation. You can enjoy the scenic views of nature like breathtaking waterfalls or dine in at one of the restaurants known for sumptuous tilapia recipes (Punta Isla's floating restaurant is a must-try!). If you're in for some adrenaline rush, zip-lining sites are available. Local and foreign visitors alike have been drawn to the thrilling adventure.

Lake Sebu is a 2-hour drive from General Santos City. Thanks to TV exposure like Trip na Trip's and Sports Unlimited's features, it is slowly gaining its much-deserved attention.

Tinago Falls, Iligan City

Iligan, dubbed as the City of Majestic Waterfalls, is home of the famous Maria Cristina Falls. But there is a hidden treasure that is now becoming famous as well which is the Tinago Falls. It is literally hidden in a deep ravine, the falls flowing beautifully into a basin-like pool, clean, and deep and icy cold. It has an elevation of approximately 420 feet. It is 13.8 kilometers away from the city proper. Access to the falls is through the Iligan Tinago Mountain Resort, managed by the City Tourism Office with an entrance fee of P10.00.

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Summer Must-Try: The Body Clock Reset Diet

2012-03-18T05:18:00.000+08:00

Some people drop up to 8 pounds in just 3 days!
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Summer is here. It's that time of the year again those who worked hard to get fit and lean can finally strut their stuff under the sun. Others (ahem!), unfortunately, are now cramming their way to get rid of the flab. Sounds familiar?:) Well, with all the slimming products available, there sure is a growing market for what we'd like to call "fitness procrastinators." These are the ones who won't feel the need to deal with the weight problem until a scheduled beach trip is near. Whether we admit it or not, it's the sad truth. That's our main purpose for sharing with you a discovery we had from a recent issue of Prevention magazine*. This might be of help to those sulking in regret now for putting off hitting the gym (and those who succumbed to the power of chips and M&M's).

The magazine feature showed us a glimpse of The Body Clock Reset Diet adapted from The Belly Melt Diet book. Join us as we try this one out. We have the summary of the hour-by-hour slim-down schedule and 3-day meal plan described to help us take control of hunger pangs, cravings, and get fit at the same time.

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Based on research, it is said that paying attention to our body's natural eat/sleep schedule aids in weight loss success. It is claimed that nine readers who followed the plan lost a total of 106 pounds in 5 weeks. And with the 3-day diet plan, weight loss of up to 8 pounds may be achieved in just 72 hours!

Summary of the Slim-down Schedule

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6:00 to 8:00 AM:

Exercise (20 minutes of cardio within a half hour of rising and before eating breakfast). According to research, exercising before breakfast may help burn fat better.

6:55 to 8:55 AM: Drink two 8-ounce glasses of water before every meal.

7:00 to 9:00 AM:

Eat a combination of complex carbohydrates and protein (e.g. eggs and whole grain toast) within an hour of waking.

10:00 to 11:00 AM:

Have a small snack of combined carbohydrates and protein (e.g. blueberries and Greek-style yogurt)

12:00 to 1:00 PM:

Consume your meal of complex carbohydrates and protein (e.g. chicken-vegetable soup or black bean chili).

2:00 to 3:00 PM:

Take a nap even just for 15 to 20 minutes.

3:30 PM:

Drink coffee. Drinking coffee after 4 pm can keep you from falling asleep at night.

4:00 to 8:00 PM:

Perform your strength training. During this period, muscles are usually warm and ready for peak performance.

5:00 to 7:00 PM:

Add a serving of healthy fats to your meal. If you're a wine drinker, this is the perfect time to drink. Drinking later can delay dream sleep which may wake you frequently during the night.

9:00 to 10:00 PM:

Enjoy a carb-based bedtime snack (e.g. low-fat frozen yogurt). Nighttime carbs produce feel-good chemicals that trigger the body to make melatonin, the sleep hormone.

9:00 to 10:30 PM:

Do something relaxing (e.g. read or take a bath) and stay away from digital devices including TV. Digital devices emit a spectrum of light that may disrupt sleep.

9:30 to 11:00 PM:

Sleep. Having a regular schedule helps in falling asleep faster over time.

The BODY CLOCK RESET Menu

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1,200-calorie, 3-day meal plan:

BREAKFAST: 1* protein, 1 grain, 1/2 vegetable, 1/2 fat

SNACK: 1 dairy, 1/2 fruit

LUNCH: 1 protein, 2 vegetables, 1/2 fat

SNACK: 1 dairy, 1/2 fat

DINNER: 2 proteins, 2 grains, 1 vegetable

SNACK: 1 grain, 1/2 dairy

DAILY SODIUM TARGET: 2,300 mg

*Numbers indicate servings:

1 serving of protein = 1 ounce lean meat, 1 egg, or 2 egg whites

1 serving of fruit or vegetables = 1 cup

1 serving of whole grains = 1/2 cup brown rice or 1 slice bread

1 serving of dairy = 1 cup fat-free milk or 1 1/2 ounces cheese

1 serving of fat = 1 teaspoon oil or 1 tablespoon salad dressing

From day 4 until week 5

Consume 1,500 calories per day -- add 1 to 2 servings each of whole grains, fruits and vegetables, dairy, protein, and fat.

The BODY CLOCK RESET Workout Plan

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Sample Weekly Schedule:

It is recommended to engage in five 20-minute cardio sessions and three strength training sessions each week. Sample daily schedules may be swapped to adjust to one's schedule.

DAY 1

AM - Cardio Intervals
PM - Strength Circuit

DAY 2

AM - Cardio Intervals

DAY 3

PM - Strength Circuit

DAY 4

AM - Cardio Intervals

DAY 5

AM - Cardio Intervals
PM - Strength Circuit

DAY 6

AM - Cardio Intervals

DAY 7

AM - Rest

For more information, check out Prevention magazine February 2012 issue or The Belly Melt Diet book.
*February 2012, pp. 105-113

Patty Laurel's Love Letters ♥

2012-03-15T14:31:00.001+08:00

Patty Laurel
Patty's photo courtesy of Mango Red

We've seen her growth from a UAAP courtside reporter to a media practitioner, preschool teacher, college professor, and lifestyle blogger. Thanks to her personal blog, Patty Laurel generously shares her life experiences (from random food trips to major travels!) with us online for years now. She has undoubtedly found her niche in the digital world. Through her blogging, we get to witness not only the evolution of her online space but also the wonderful transitions in her life - one of which is her recent engagement to boyfriend Patrick Filart.

Just like many of us, we know Patty also had to go through tough and painful times when it comes to matters of the heart. It's just amazing how everything turned out so well in the end. Her journey to finding love should serve as an inspiration to every Single Belle.

With her permission, we'd like to share with you parts of Patty's heartwarming posts this year. One is her "Love Letter to the Big Guy" and another is her "Love Letter for Singles."

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The engaged couple - Patty Laurel and Patrick Filart
Images from Patty's blog http://dapattylaurel.blogspot.com

Friends, blog readers, and Twitter followers joined in the celebration as Patty welcomed 2012 with a major milestone in life. She said YES to a marriage proposal on the first day of the year!:) Days after, she shared a love letter of gratitude to the Lord.

Here are some inspiring excerpts from her touching (and funny) Love Letter to the BIG GUY:

Originally posted on January 2, 2012

"So this is how it feels to be engaged. It's an eternal fuzzy feeling in your chest. It's like I'm back in the third grade, nervous and excited, raising my hand frantically because I think I know the answer to my teacher's trick question :) May halong kabag-kaba-kilig!!! ♥ ♥ ♥ So in luuuurve! Thank you for saving the BEST for me. Patrick is a true testimony of humility, strength and faith and I learn so much from him each day. And more than anything, he loves me for me, he loves me for the person I am today and the person he knows I will blossom into in the future. And I absolutely adore every thing about him! Oh and thank you Lord, that even my shallow desire to marry someone physically attractive was answered. You know me so well! Alam mong mababaw ako minsan at kailangan gwapo yung mapapangasawa ko..even that you were generous enough to add to an already long list of good traits! Please bless us dear Lord with healthy offspring, all CUTE and MABANGO. Pag mabaho at gusgusin, cancel nalang po yung order namin. Hahaha, just kidding. We are excited to start a family, in whatever shape, size or form..."

"Many see you as this BIG FELLA way up in the clouds, all high and mighty, always too busy running the universe. Although all these may be true and there really is no denying your sovereign power, I know you now more intimately. You are a father who wants to give only the best to his children and a friend who listens intently. You feel what I feel, you know my deepest darkest secrets. You are my hiding place, my peace, my happiness. Thank you for blessing me with more than I could ever deserve!!!"

Patty ended her post by sharing the lyrics of the song "Bless the Broken Road by Rascal Flatts. Here's the official music video :)

"Every long lost dream led me to where you are

Others who broke my heart they were like Northern stars

Pointing me on my way into your loving arms

This much I know is true

That God blessed the broken road

That led me straight to you"

Video: Youtube (uploaded by rascalflattsofficial)

Engagement photos courtesy of Mango Red

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A month after her engagement, Patty took time out to share a lovely Valentine letter to inspire all of us Single Belles. She reminds us how faith plays a significant role in allowing love to happen in our lives:

A Love Letter for Singles :)

Originally posted on February 15, 2012

"I was a bit SHY (shy matalino, shy maganda, shy mayaman! wenk wenk wenk) at first to write a post on LOVE for BALENTAYMS, it just seems so painfully redundant to do so. And honestly, I think I need to hold back on the cheesiness that has corrupted this blog in the past few weeks. So if you are sick of all my mushy posts, please do me a favor and click the X button on your screen. Save yourselves, pleaaaase!!! Hehehe :) But after reading all your honest, heartfelt letters.. I simply had to write a post for all my wonderful readers who took the time to open up to me. So I opened a bag of chocolates to fuel the romance in me! Naks! I'm just as clueless as you guys, but I'll try my best! So today, I've decided to dedicate this post to all the single ladies (and boys, too!). Valentines is always the day for couples to broadcast their lovey-doveyness (and yes, kasama kami dun! SORRY) and sadly, being SINGLE is not equally celebrated on this day. In my opinion, LOVE IS FOR ALL..whether you're single, taken, or in a complicated relationship..you should be able to celebrate LOVE!

Just like most of you, there was a time when I was happily single and not too excited to mingle. Well-intentioned friends were setting me up with all their eligible bachelor buds, guys were sending me gifts and asking me out. Politely I declined all of their requests. Not because I was a Valentine scrooge or because I thought too highly of myself, it was just not the right time for me. Syempre sa simula, it was so flattering for me. It was like getting an "EXCELLENT" stamp from your teacher when all your other classmates had to settle for the "SATISFACTORY" stamp! For any single girl, this would be a dream scenario. To suddenly feel so in-demand and wanted..it's such a big ego boost and completely understandable why some girls bask in the glory and attention. From the outside, it looked like such a enviable position to be in..but truthfully, it wasn't really a happy place. So, I chose to wait and not to date. It was a decision of self-preservation, to keep myself worthy of the person I would finally choose one day. It didn't feel right to be in a relationship "just because" and so I didn't want to waste my time or any other person's time as well. Most of the guys who asked me out were quality dudes, real fine gentlemen and I thought I would be doing them a disservice by dating them knowing that it would be headed nowhere. I wanted time to be with me, myself and I.. and most of all, I needed time to be with God.

Being single, my dear friends, is a true gift. It is an opportunity to align your needs and desires, it's a time to define your self-worth, to understand what kind of person you are and the person you want to become, and it is also the perfect time to prep yourself for that person God has set aside for you! If in your singleness, you find fulfillment, security, and peace..then that's a blessing. But if you find yourself filled with angst, hatred, and riddled with envy towards others..then obviously, being this kind of single is a curse. The same formula goes for those who are in relationships too. It's always better to choose the first path.

I remember sitting in a restaurant and listening to Bob Dylan's To Make You Feel My Love one rainy evening. Instead of feeling sad that I had no one to sing that song to, I actually felt excited!!! My heart leaped knowing that there will be a man professing all these things to me one day! Someone will love me fiercely and bravely too. I claimed it, I asked for that from God. I didn't care how long it would take..I knew a love like that was worth the wait. This song also reminded me of the kind of love God wants for you and me.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails."

1 Corinthians 13:4–8

This was the love that intrigued me! This was the kind of love that made me believe in the good that could come my way. After the feelings of hurt, betrayal, and abandonment from my past..I craved for all these promises in the Bible! I didn't have to look for a boyfriend, I knew that this kind of love was already all around me..I saw it in PEOPLE each and every day. I saw it in my parents, my best friends, my little students, my coworkers, our household help! I was loved and I had an opportunity to give this kind of love back! One thing I appreciated most about my friends and family is that they never made me feel inadequate in my singleness. Instead of pushing me to settle down like any other girl my age, they supported my "waiting" and encouraged me to never settle for "pwede na". Because of this, I never felt pressured to get hitched just because it was never really forced upon me. I was in such a loving and accepting environment. Swerte talaga ako.

In my blessed singleness, when I was happy and fulfilled on my own, this was the time I re-met my husband-to-be. The time that I was no longer looking for love, love somehow found me. We knew of each other since I was in the first grade. We went to the same small school, had the same circle of friends, hung out at the same canteen..but never ever got the chance to really become chummy-chummy. Just thinking of the many times we passed each other across the hallway, the thousands of flag ceremonies we stood about a meter apart, all those field trips to Nayong Pilipino, CCP, and Luneta on the same school bus..just two regular kids completely oblivious to the beautiful life we would be sharing together in the future. It's almost as if God was playing with us, keeping us so close together for all those years, causing us to live parallel to each other even if we chose separate paths in life. The last time I saw Patrick was when I was a chubby 12 year old and he was a tiny, awkward 13 year old. In my mom's own words "Ayyy..Patrick was the cutest and whitest boy! He was the most mabango kid in the whole ICA!" HAHAHA! After 15 years, we RE-MET each other at a friend's birthday. I remember seeing him again for the first time and telling myself "How come I didn't get the memo?!?! Since when did Patrick Filart become such a hottie?!?!" I was 50-50. HAPPY that I met a really wonderful guy and BUMMED that I met a really wonderful guy. I wanted to kick myself in the butt, "There goes your brilliant no dating plan, Ms Smarty Pants!". But I just knew in my heart he was different because after a string of justifiable and convincing NO, NO, NOs to others..saying YES to Patrick seemed like the easiest thing to do! My heart was ready for him. It didn't feel like a gamble, it felt like a wise investment. Our first date was on Valentine's Day of 2011. Not only did I get re-acquainted with an old friend, I also got re-acquainted with God through Patrick. My love for Christ was rekindled thanks to Patrick's influence and encouragement, and that to me is his greatest gift.

So to all my single friends, believe in the kind of love that God has destined for you. It doesn't have to happen now or tomorrow..it will happen when you are ready for it. If your heart has been broken into a million pieces, God won't just piece it back together..HE will actually reward you with a brand new heart! A fresh start to love again! :) So this early on, I urge you to pray for the person you will choose to give that new heart to. If you feel numb, jaded, and tired of love..then pray for God to give you that burning desire back. I apologize for ra-ra-ra-ring you all to LOVE, I sound like a loved-up crazy cheerleader! Hahaha! But just as my parents and friends prayed unceasingly for my happiness, never grew tired of giving me words of encouragement, and always managed to make me feel special and loved..I would like to do the same for all of you. I may not know you all personally, but I do wish each of you the joy of finding God's love :)" ■

From the bottom of our hearts, Patty, THANK YOU SO MUCH! ♥

The Single's Guide: Dreaded Questions Part 2

2012-03-13T15:45:00.000+08:00

The Love Life Edition

For most singles in their late 20s or early 30s, it's so common to hear these questions: “Kailan ka ba mag-aasawa? Hindi ka pa ba mag-aasawa? You’re not getting younger ah, when are you getting married? Kailan ka ba magsasama ng boyfriend/girlfriend sa bahay? Wala ka bang ipapakilala sa amin? Kailan ka ba magkaka-boyfriend/girlfriend? Bakit ka walang boyfriend/girlfriend?” Choose whatever suits you as we’re sure there are different versions of the dreaded question. Phrased in numerous ways, the same question really drives at a similar point. It simply puts you on the spot for the lack of someone special in your life. We know you’re also possibly fed up with the awkwardness it brings. If you think you've had enough, join us as we "prep up" with some possible answers. There's no better way to face your tactless Tita and the rest of the nosy gang but with a set of ready-made remarks.

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Next to weight issues, we’re not sure why our love life (or the lack thereof), is the favorite topic of friends and relatives in parties or reunions year on year. Who knows, some may just simply be interested in our status while others may be genuinely concerned that our biological clocks are ticking. Whatever their reasons are, some obviously don't realize how inappropriate and sometimes insensitive asking about one's love life can be. Just when you think being asked if you’re currently in a relationship is awkward enough, wait till you get a "Why?!" when you say you're not. And yes, it doesn’t help when they begin assuming you’re "choosy", "someone with extremely high standards" or a “high maintenance girl.”

We still don't understand why others need to rub the reality we’re in and make us feel like being single makes us less of a person. Given that, we need to stand up for ourselves (haha, minus any form of violence, of course). Here, check out our initial list of suggested answers for the infamous questions.

“Parating na din po yung para sa akin, pero kahit wala pa siya masaya naman po ako" (Enumerate the items on the list of why being single rocks! - Single Belle Rocks)
Put on a sweet smile and simply say “Don’t worry, I’ll let everyone know when it happens.”
Pick a random day and say, "(insert date)"
Say you’re busy enjoying life - "When I find a man who makes me happier than I am right now. Until then, I'm not settling. I've got important things to do."
Short and simple - “If it’ll come, it’ll come.”
Or dodge the topic by saying “I have no time, I’m traveling the world tomorrow."
Point out what a serious commitment marriage is. “Marriage is a very important decision. While I would like to be married, I want to make the right decision so I won’t regret later on.”
Say “I’m not sure” then turn the question to them. It’ll work especially for people who love talking about themselves. They’ll surely forget they even asked you that question.

As an option, you could also twist the conversation with a light-hearted joke:

“Bakit, sasagutin mo ba gastos sa kasal ko?”
“Bakit ka ba nagmamadali?”
“Pag nabuntis na ako.” (follow it up with a laugh so they’d know you’re joking) Warning: This is not meant for ultra-conservative aunts
“Bukas na lang, gabi na eh.”
“I’ll let you know when I know”
“After your daughter/son does.”
“Pinaghahandaan pa po niya ako.”
“Next question please.”

It’s all a matter of attitude, Single Belles! The next time you get asked, aim for a light moment and pop one of the answers above. What's really important is to not let it affect you. Instead of wasting time drowning yourself in negativity, go ahead and enjoy your life. You're single, remember? You have the luxury of time that others don't. Now, who's got the last laugh? ;)

SB asks:
Do you have other suggested answers to these questions?

Drop us a comment and share your thoughts. The wittier, the better! :)

Bianca Gonzalez: Learnings from a Supergirl

2012-03-11T14:13:00.002+08:00

Image: Bianca Gonzalez's Official Facebook fan page (Pinoy Big Brother Unlimited photo)

TV and print personality Bianca Gonzalez solidified her celebrity status when she joined the Pinoy Big Brother Celebrity Edition in 2005. The reality series stint contributed a lot to her being a household name today. Since then, we were able to witness the developments in terms of her relationships, career, and life in general. We find it inspiring to have seen her build confidence in the hosting field and grow as an individual through various endeavors. And when it comes to love, we recognize her wisdom and maturity. We can recall there was a phase in her life she was always interviewed about her thoughts on love and moving on. Now that she's in a happy relationship, we're convinced she's a perfect life peg for all the single girls out there.

Read on as we bring you the top 5 life learnings we got from Bianca and her personal thoughts on singlehood and relationships.:)

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As we shared in a previous article, there are so many reasons girls shouldn't feel sad about being single. It's a great time to make things better in all aspects of our lives. It may not seem like it but singlehood provides us with the chance to feel complete with or without romantic love.

If you're wondering what we can do to strike that balance, let's check out the top 5 things we learned from Bianca. Her energy and attitude in life should serve as an inspiration to every Single Belle. :)

Images: Bianca Gonzalez's Official Facebook fan page (KTexts)

Treat yourself well. One should realize that the way you treat yourself becomes the basis of how others will treat you. Once in a while, just go ahead and have your much-needed me-time. Learn how to be comfortable with silence and doing things alone. You should also never forget that while you practice discipline in terms of taking care of yourself, it wouldn't hurt to also indulge from time to time.

Images: Bianca Gonzalez's Official Facebook fan page (KTexts)

Pursue your passions (even just as hobbies!). Bianca has often shared her belief in the saying, "Pursue your passion as your profession and you will never have to work a single day in your life." Not everyone may be fortunate to earn a living by doing what they love but that reality shouldn't be a hindrance to do what we really want to do even just on the side. Just like Bianca who fondly calls herself a supergirl wannabe with all the things she does, anyone has the potential to be good in multitasking and time management. If you really want something, you'll make time for it. Whether that's baking, blogging, makeup artistry, or photography, utilize your free time to pursue it. You'll never know the joy and sense of fulfillment you may actually gain unless you take action.

Images: Bianca Gonzalez's Official Facebook fan page (KTexts) & Lockerz.com (uploaded by @rajolaurel)

Explore the world. Look at it like the world is your playground. Being single grants you the luxury of having more time to see different places, meet interesting people, and learn and experience new things. Exposure to a new place or culture leaves you with a richer perspective each time. Maximize this opportunity, SB!:)

Images: Bianca Gonzalez's Official Facebook fan page (KTexts)

Be socially aware and active. We have said so much about pampering yourself and addressing your needs. But we all know the world isn't just about you and your journey to a better life. The best way to pay it forward with your blessings in life (no matter how small they may seem to be) is to reach out to others. Finding time to contribute to a worthy cause shouldn't be about making yourself feel better and less guilty. It is your chance to make a difference by touching and possibly changing lives.

Images: Bianca Gonzalez's Official Facebook fan page (KTexts) & Twitter (@iamsuperbianca)

Find time for family and friends. The moment you get into a relationship, you're also committing to giving a large amount of your time for your special someone. This would mean less time for family and friends. So while you're still single, grab the opportunity to spend quality time with the people who matter most. ■

Bianca Speaks. Here are some bits of wisdom from the Supergirl herself!♥

SB: Through the years, what's the most significant lesson/discovery you've had about being in a relationship?

Bianca: You really must never forget to love yourself more. Hold on to your core values, don't let love be a distraction, instead it must be an inspiration, and do what makes you happy. When you are whole and happy, you will be able to take care of your partner and your relationship better.

SB: How do you think single girls can best prepare themselves for dating or getting into a relationship?

Bianca: Be whole first. Don't get into a relationship to fill a void. Be happy with yourself.

SB: Any inspiring message or valuable tips for single girls?

Bianca: You are unique and you deserve love. You deserve a man who will love you the way you need to be loved. Love your family and friends and the man will follow. Nothing is more attractive than a happy, secure, confident woman. :)

Why Are You Still Single?

2012-03-09T06:06:00.002+08:00

Image: All the Good Ones AREN'T Taken book cover, goodreads.com

Being single shouldn't be a burden. Spreading this belief remains to be one of the driving forces in maintaining this blog. However, we are very much aware that society equates happiness and success not only to a stable career but also to a steady relationship with a special someone.

We have probably lost count of how many times we've been asked about our relationship status. Because of the pressure, what gives more discomfort than revealing we're unattached is answering the follow-up question, "Why?" Many of us often just give off an embarrassed smile and blindly accept accusations of being picky and idealistic (watch out for an upcoming article to tackle this issue!). But seriously, aside from constant ranting sessions with friends about how hard it is to find "The One," have we really thought the situation through? Have we sat down and reflected on what the possible reasons could be that we're still single (that is if you're seeking to be in a relationship)?

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A random find at a local bookstore helped shed some light on this. The title All the Good Ones AREN'T Taken (Change the Way You Date and Find Lasting Love) was quick to catch our attention (not to mention the book had a chocolate truffle on its cover!) and give some semblance of hope. What kept us reading through it was the author's interesting classifications of unhappy singles.

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It takes thorough reading of the psychological analyses and specific examples of the author to best identify which type of behavior you're engaging in that influences your being single. However, we'd like to share with you her eight classifications based on behavioral patterns. Before you head out and purchase the book packed with practical tips on how to address issues or repetitive barriers, check out if you can relate to one of these personalities. Identification alone may actually spark ideas on possible ways to address the issues on your own.

Listed down below are the eight classifications based on Amazon's concise descriptions. We've also included a few questions that may help you in identifying which personality you can relate to.

Are you...

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the OLD FAITHFUL? (always longing for the one she can't have and unable to move forward)

Do you seek the unattainable ones and often feel fixated to this attachment that you don't feel open to new relationships?

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the WHIRLWIND DATER? (constantly dates but never finds a fulfilling, permanent relationship)

Is your dating and social life active yet your connections with people seem to lack depth?

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the STANDSTILL? (rarely dates and has a difficult time relating to men on an intimate level)

Are you overly shy or too old-fashioned to interact with men? Are you uneasy or conscious being around them?

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the FORBIDDEN FRUIT HUNTER? (gets involved with emotionally unavailable men who may be married or already have a girlfriend)

Do you find yourself attracted to men who are already taken? Do you find it exciting to sneak into a secret relationship with an unattainable guy?

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the COMPASSIONATE RESCUER? (always dates the guy who has problems, putting her energy into “fixer-upper” boyfriends)

Do you find yourself hoping a guy would change for you? or that you'll be good enough to actually influence a guy and have him turn his problems around?

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the WANDERER? (just one man is not enough to fill the void, so she always has a lover or potential boyfriend on the side)

Do you find it difficult to be a one-man woman? Do you feel that different needs or wants can only be fulfilled by multiple partners?

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the UPTOWN GIRL? (only attracted to men with money, prestige, and looks)

Realistically, are your standards based on the superficial stuff? Are you easily impressed when showered with expensive gifts? Do you find yourself drawn toward trophy boyfriend material?

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the RUNAWAY BRIDE? (good at relationships until asked to commit – then finds a way to end the relationship, pronto)

Are you a commitment phobe? Is it suffocating for you to just commit to a single person?

Take your pick and get rid of excuses. No matter which category you fall under, it's not very hard to figure out the basic steps that need to be done. The listing above just paves the way for us to get to know ourselves better. It's a simple way of making us realize that there must be something we're doing (either consciously or unconcsciously) that greatly affects our dating or relationship status. Aside from knowledge of our personality types, the key to changing our fate largely depends on:

1) acceptance of truth

2) openness to change and

3) willingness to reverse recurring wrong behavior.

The Single's Guide: Dreaded Questions Part 1

2012-03-06T23:20:00.005+08:00

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Hello Single Belles! I’m sure all of us have encountered at one point or another people who ask about the touchy subjects -- weight, age, and love life. Tired of dealing with such awkward situations? We’ve come up with suggestions on how to answer annoying questions and hopefully put an end to the tactlessness. For now, allow us to deal with one of the major concerns – the weight issue. (Love life questions deserve their own spotlight.)

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The Weight Edition

In parties or reunions, people always seem to notice if you’ve gained or lost weight. And some of them just cannot keep their observations to themselves. Instead of asking how we are or noticing our newly dyed hair, we get bombarded by, “Tumataba ka yata?,” “Bakit ang taba mo ngayon?,” or “Ang taba mo, ano bang ginawa mo?” All it takes is two seconds for them to ruin our day. No amount of sugarcoating (if they even consider that) lessens the discomfort the questions bring. Seriously, what’s the need for us to confirm what they already see? Don’t they consider our feelings when blurting out these questions? (Well, we guess not! And don’t even tell us they’re just THAT curious)

Well, on one hand, we think the answer to the dreaded questions will largely depend on who you’re talking to. If he or she is an older relative or anybody superior to you, we suggest answering in a respectful manner and refraining from sarcastic remarks. The best answer to that question is an acceptance of current state while making an action plan -“Oo nga po, don’t worry I’m doing something about it. I’ll be hitting the gym soon.” That would probably put an end to the issue unlike if you contradict what they said. At the same time, that’s another way of uplifting your self-esteem knowing you can do something about it. But words are not enough. You really have to do something about it. Be sure to commit to gym time and just think of the next reunion. Visualize how you’ll wow everyone with a slimmer you!

On the other hand, things are a little different if the question was thrown at you by an annoying cousin, friend, or colleague. Turn things around by tapping your sense of humor and ease your way out of the awkward (not to mention humiliating) situation. Here are some witty responses we have in mind:

Ah oo, sasali kasi ako sa Biggest Loser. Ilang pounds na lang kulang. Ikaw, gusto mo 'ko samahan?
Hindi mo ba alam yan ang uso ngayon?
Alam mo, ikaw din!:) (high five!)
Ano ka ba, baby fats lang yan.
Pakialam mo?:)
Si Adele ang peg ko!
Talaga? Hindi lang ikaw nagsabi nyan!
Naka-sale kasi yung mga XL na damit sa ____ (fill in your favorite brand). Sayang naman, hinahabol ko para kasya.
Ah ganyan talaga pag nakakaluwag-luwag ngayon sa buhay.:)
Nakakain na kasi ako ng tatlong beses sa isang araw!
Daanin na lang natin sa mukha!:)
Curvy is the new sexy!
Sssshhh. Huwag ka ngang maingay. Baka mahalata pa ng iba.
Wow, nahiya naman ako, ang payat mo eh!:)
Don't speak bad words! :)

SB asks:

Can you think of other possible remarks?

Please send us your suggestions! We’d love to hear from you!:)

Please leave a comment below for your answer.

Hazel Chua: What She Gained from Losing!

2012-03-05T02:14:00.002+08:00

Images: Hazel Chua's Facebook fan page & Good Housekeeping Jan-Feb 2012 (Summit Media)

The Biggest Loser Pinoy Edition was certainly a primetime hit in 2011. In the span of a few months, a bunch of weight loss challengers instantly became household names. Apart from their astounding physical changes, what really struck us in the program were their amazing transformations in life. One particular journey had a huge impact on us throughout the season - that of Hazel Chua's. Her story mirrored the struggles of ordinary single girls, overweight or not.

Read on to discover her journey and get a few fitness and life tips.

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Images: Hazel Chua's & Haffy's (Hazel Chua & Raffy Tan) Facebook fan pages

Hazel Chua was a 22-year old registered nurse when she entered the Biggest Loser camp last year. Even with a starting weight of 206 pounds, she already stood out with a pretty face. However, during that time, the timid contestant from Naga City seemed clueless about her charm. She lacked confidence and was quite unaware that some of the boys secretly raved about her. One of them couldn't believe she was "SSB" (Single Since Birth) while another referred to her as one of the most beautiful girls he has ever met in his life.

Hazel was proof that real beauty shines through. And shedding off pounds and coming out of her shell only enhanced it. Similarly, she was a living testament of finding true love when you're least expecting. At the beginning, she expressed hope in improving the state of her lovelife once the weight game is over but love found its way sooner. In the course of her BL journey, Hazel met Raffy Tan. The fellow contestant (also one who appreciated her beauty early on!) and constant source of motivation during the program eventually became her boyfriend. Theirs is an inspiring love story of two people who brought out and continue to bring out the best in each other. They are a reminder that it is possible to find someone who will embrace your flaws and celebrate you for who you are.

Images: Hazel Chua's Facebook fan page & official Twitter account

Just like any battle, Hazel had her share of ups and downs in the reality show. She was booted out of the game more than halfway through but managed to get back and finish it off as part of the Fab 5. Truly amazing, we must say. With a 33% total weight loss percentage in the end, Hazel showed that as long as you keep your sight on the goal and grab a second or third chance when you get it, you will get to where you want to be. Additionally, going out of her comfort zone and stretching herself to the limits were major factors that contributed to her victory.

Images: Hazel Chua's Facebook fan page and Hazel's & Raffy's official Twitter accounts

As a former single belle (well, technically, she still is!), Hazel serves as an inspiration to many who could identify with her story, both as a girl who simply dreamed of finding love and a woman determined to be the best version of herself.

By finally taking a shot at losing weight, Hazel earned herself an improved life. She gained her chance at love, new relationships, and exciting adventures. Most importantly, she learned the lesson each of us should take to heart - loving yourself is the key to loving others and being loved in return. ■

Here's the full transcript of Hazel's inspiring speech at The BLPE Presentation Ball. It was an emotion-filled event during the latter part of the season where Hazel's family first saw her huge weight loss.

Images: Hazel Chua's Facebook fan page & ABS-CBN screenshot

"Good evening, everyone. Before the Biggest Loser came into my life, I considered myself having the "ugly duckling" syndrome. Most of the time i just wanted to be invisible, I was tired of hearing or seeing people making fun of me. Nandun na'ko sa punto ng buhay ko na tanggap ko na na forever na ako magiging mataba. Pero, dumating 'yung Biggest Loser and little by little, I gained my confidence. Now, I can face a crowd without covering or hiding behind something. And siguro, pinakaimportanteng natutunan ko sa camp, natutunan kong mahalin yung sarili ko. At dahil dun, natuto akong magmahal at mahalin. Hindi magiging posible ang lahat ng ito kung hindi dahil sa programang ito. Thank you very, very much for changing my life."

Ready to Mingle. Below is a short interview Hazel graciously granted us for all of you, Single Belles!♥

Images: Hazel Chua's Facebook fan page & Good Housekeeping Jan-Feb 2012 (Summit Media)

SB: How has your life changed since the physical and emotional transformation?

Hazel: Being on the show was like a rollercoaster ride. We've gone through emotional and physical pain but it was all worth it and wouldn't change a thing. I became happier and gained my self-confidence. I am able now to face the world with a positive outlook.:)

(Leftmost) Actor Xian Lim was Hazel's partner in a 2010 wedding entourage
Images: Hazel Chua's & Ryan Tan's official Twitter accounts

SB: How do you maintain your slim figure?

Hazel: I still go to the gym everyday and work out for at least an hour. I still watch what I eat and apply the things we learned inside the camp.:)

Hazel and Raffy's fans coined the term HaFFY and the two adopted the name for their joint business venture: the HEALTHY HAFFY MAKI
Images: Ryan Tan's official Twitter account & Haffy's Facebook fan page

SB: With all the changes and new experiences, what else do you aim to do or wish to achieve?

Hazel: Though I'm happier now, I still want to achieve a healthier and sexier me.:) I want to prove to everyone that though our camp life is over, we won't return to our old selves. We want to show everyone that we won't waste the second chance in life that was given to us.:)

Images: Hazel Chua's Facebook fan pages and Hazel Chua's official Twitter account

SB: Any motivational tips for girls struggling with weight and confidence issues?

Hazel: Girls, losing weight won't be easy. But really, the only formula to a healthier and happier you is proper diet and exercise. Mix it with discipline and focus and you'll be getting that body and confidence very soon. Try to run at least 3 times a week with a distance of 3km, no walking.:) Eat more veggies and fish. So girls, you can do it. Just believe in yourself.:) be haFFY and have fun while doing it.:) If you want more tips on weight loss, just tweet me with your questions and I'll be very much willing to answer.:) @chazechua :)

Images: Hazel Chua's Facebook fan pages and Hazel Chua's official Twitter account

Hazel Chua's official Twitter account

Image: Raffy Tan's Facebook fan page

SB: From being SSB, what was your biggest discovery or learning on being in a relationship?

Hazel: I discovered that it's not always like what we see on fairytales. It's not gonna be perfect but when you do find that special person, those bumps on the road won't matter as long as you're together and making an effort for the relationship to be perfect.:)

Images: Hazel Chua's & Haffy's Facebook fan pages

SB: What do you think Single Belles can do to prepare themselves for dating or getting into a relationship?

Hazel: You know what's weird, for the longest time, I was the one giving love advice to my friends. I thought that when that special person comes, I'd be ready for him but I wasn't. I found myself clueless. For me, you really don't have to prepare yourself. If that person loves you, he'll accept and love even your weirdness.:) Be yourself and everything will come out naturally.;)

Images: Raffy Tan's official Twitter account

Image: Raffy Tan's Facebook fan page

SB: Any message or advice for Single Belles out there?

Hazel: Girls, don't rush. Great things happen to those who wait.:) If your Mr. Right hasn't found you yet, don't worry. I believe that God is preparing the best love story for you.:)

Being Alone May Boost Your Social Life

2012-03-02T08:56:00.001+08:00

Being Alone ≠ Loneliness

Images: Flickr Creative Commons - bench (DieselDemon) and cup (pj_vanf); socialprecision.com

Being alone is not synonymous to loneliness. As a matter of fact, it can actually contribute to being a happy and well-functioning individual. Studies show that spending some time away from family and friends leads to a better appreciation of time spent with them.

Read on to find out the reason behind and what you can do about it.

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Adam Waytz, PhD, of the Harvard psychology department explained that our highly connected world leaves people "socially stuffed." This prevents one's ability to genuinely empathize with others. Those who step back and temporarily detach themselves to be alone tend to become more open and empathetic to others.

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"Periods of solitude refresh our appetite for togetherness the same way being hungry before a meal can make it seem more delicious."

Based on Prevention magazine (November 2011)

SB Tips for Solitude:

Unplug and disconnect. With all the social media available these days, you are always within reach. If your phone's busy, don't be surprised if you get a tweet, a Facebook message, or a push email on your Blackberry. Technology causes unnecessary stress these days. Grant yourself some space by disconnecting from all these distractions even just for a day or two.

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Meditate. Just like our bodies, our minds also need cleansing and rejuvenation. One good way to de-clutter the mind is through the art of meditation. Meditation is simply the act of getting us focus on what is happening by heightening our senses. This saves us from running around like headless chickens because of crazy schedules. Activities such as yoga and mindful tea drinking provide the benefits of meditation.

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Travel alone. It sure is fun to explore a new city with friends or family but going to a place alone may allow you to have a better appreciation of your surroundings. Replace your supposed conversations with mind reflections. It's your chance to unleash your adventurous spirit and do what you want right when you want it. You have the final say on how to go about with your schedule, having the luxury of of allotting more time on your preferred activities.

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Go on a retreat. One of the powerful ways of refreshing the soul is recharging the spirit. No matter what religious sect you belong to, there are different ways of reconnecting with your spiritual side. Find some place peaceful and take time to reflect on your life or simply commune with nature. Sometimes, taking a look back at your past actions allows you to make better decisions and necessary changes for the future.

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Date yourself. Spend some quality time with yourself as you would with people you love dearly. Go get a relaxing massage, go to your favorite coffee shop with a good book, or simply watch a movie by yourself. Take this chance to satisfy both your needs and wants.

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So there, SB, options abound when it comes to finding solitude. All you really need to do is set some time for it and prepare those who are close to you. Their understanding of your me-time's significance just might make things easier and allow you to maximize the experience. Just reassure yourself that you're doing this for a purpose - you're staying away for a while so you can get close to them better. :)

Taking the LEAP: Would You Propose to a Guy?

2012-02-29T13:47:00.000+08:00

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Will you marry me? This is probably the most anticipated question by girls who feel ready for a lifelong commitment. No matter how prepared (and excited!) they may be, many of these girls just opt to stick around and wait for the guy to take things to the next level. After all, that's what society expects them to do since it is customary for the man to pop the question.

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But what if tradition breaks its own rules and turns the table? Would you grab the chance? Read on and share your thoughts on an interesting tradition that only takes place every four years. ;)

2012 is a leap year and the 29th of this month, called Leap Day, is considered special. Aside from the fact that it only happens every four years, February 29 is exceptional because leap year tradition says girls can propose marriage to guys on this day! To add to that, men are expected to say YES to the proposal. Should they refuse, they need to pay a fine in any form the girl wants. (Isn't that a win-win situation?) As online writer James Paterson explained in his article The Leap Year Traditions, the fine can be anything from a simple kiss to a very expensive piece of jewelry. It's interesting to note that in some European countries in the past, a man who refused was obliged to buy the girl 12 pairs of gloves. The gloves were intended to save the girl from the embarrassment of not wearing an engagement ring. Laws were said to have been established for this tradition during the middle ages.

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Our research says this tradition dates back to the 5th century in Ireland when St. Bridget complained about women having to wait for men to propose. This prompted St. Patrick to declare leap day as a day that will allow women to propose to men. The move was believed to be an attempt to give balance to gender inequality in the same way that leap day balances the calendar.

A cuter and more modern version of this proposal history is the so-called Sadie Hawkins Day which also falls on February 29. This is said to have originated from Al Capp's Li'L Abner comic strip. The female character Sadie Hawkins lived in a fictional town called Dogpatch where her father was a mayor. When Sadie had a hard time getting a date, her father declared a "Sadie Hawkins" day. On this day, unmarried women in the town can literally run after and propose to unmarried men through a footrace.

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Here, check out how a girl takes the leap on Leap Day! ♥

Video: Youtube (uploaded by user one72ring)

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SB asks:
Given a chance, would you propose to a guy?
If yes, how would you do it?
We'd love to know your thoughts. Please leave a comment below for your answer. We'll compile the best ones for a future post. You may use a pseudonym or remain anonymous. :)

Single Belles Rock!

2012-02-26T16:20:00.000+08:00

In life, there are two perspectives - you either see the glass half-empty or half-full. And we choose the latter in how we see being single. Sure, we’re all dreaming of that day when we’re finally getting attached to the one we love but waiting doesn’t have to be a burden. In fact, we should be enjoying life at this point!

Here are our top 5 reasons why single belles rock:

1. You own your time.
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You are the boss of your own schedule. There’s no need for anyone’s approval on how you are going to spend your day, week or vacation. You don’t owe anyone updates on your whereabouts. Spontaneous nights out, last-minute weekend getaways with friends, or plain pamper-yourself moments are all up to you!

2. You are independent.
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It simply means you can take charge of your own life and don’t need to rely on someone to make your dreams happen. You’re free to make major decisions and pursue your passions. You’re learning how to be totally responsible for yourself and the choices you make.

3. You have more time for family and friends.
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Spending time with people who bring out the best in you is important. Good friends and family are like that. They are precious because they laugh and cry with you. They simply love you for who you are! Being single gives you that priceless chance to be there for the people who truly love and care for you.

4. You have less expense.
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This may seem funny but we know girls who discovered they have more moolah when they are single (unless of course you’re a shopaholic!). In reality, being unattached means you don’t have to spend much on dates and gifts. This is especially true for girls whose language of love is showering their men with material stuff.

5. You are free to meet more people.
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The door is wide open if you’re looking for a possible relationship. Being single and available puts no limit on meeting new people and dating potential partners.

See, these are just 5 out of a number of reasons why singlehood rocks. So Single Belles, enjoy this phase in your life while it lasts! You’ll never know when you’ll get attached and it just might be sooner than you think!

SINGLE BELLES, SINGLE BELLES!

2012-02-26T14:38:00.001+08:00

Hello there, Single Belle!

We’re K, C, and P. Welcome to our little online space which we wish to share with you. Our not-so-secret sisterhood is open to everyone! Whether you’re single by choice or you’re left with no choice (just kidding!), we’re here for you.

In this social media culture where everyone’s dating, getting engaged, and getting married right before our very eyes, some may feel an inner panic. Don’t worry, there’s a whole bunch of other girls who feel the exact same pressure. And instead of wallowing in a society-imposed pity party, we should relish the fact that this is the best chance for ME time. All we have to think of for now is ourselves – what we want and what will make us truly happy! So together, let’s embrace the freedom and work on having exciting adventures every single day.

Always remember: You may be single but you don’t have to be alone. :-)

We got your back, SB! Tight Hug!:)