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ANGRY BLACK WOMAN ,REALLY!!!!!!

2012-01-11T16:18:00.001-06:00

I was watching my regular news this morning and they were talking about first lady Michelle Obama responding to a book written about her and her husband. She was explaining why she was not a angry black woman. I have read various blogs and comments on facebook about this very subject. Now why are black women being singled out ?We are just expressing ourselves. I googled Angry Black Woman and there are 11,400,000 articles and comments on this subject. Also you can find on YouTube 4,330 videos So I thought to myself, are we angry and if so why? When some of us speak our minds ,we do with a lot of passion and some people feel it comes across as angry. I do not feel that Black women or any woman should be scrutinized every times she has an opinion. There seems to be a war on Black women and I am just trying to understand where all the Hate is coming from.

2011-12-27T18:37:00.002-06:00

William Bell - Everyday will be like a holiday (lyrics included)

2011-12-08T15:16:00.000-06:00

MANIZING

2011-11-17T05:37:00.003-06:00

Manizer is the female version of womanizer. She uses men and throw them out like yesterdays trash. Do you know a manizer? I know a few and they claim they do this because of the abuse they have suffered from men over the years. I am not saying that this is a growing problem but there are some women out there who feel the same as men when it comes to getting what they want . So is it wrong for a woman to be this way and why is she labeled a whore? When a man is a womanizer , he considered just being a man. I personally think womanizing and manizing is wrong, using people for sex and other wrong reasons is not a path I recommend. I do not think being this way helps your image, you may feel good for little while but when reality sets in what have you really accomplished. What do you think?

SPEED DATING ,SHOULD YOU TRY IT

2011-09-30T22:15:00.000-05:00

WAS PAT ROBERTSON RIGHT?

2011-09-16T13:30:00.002-05:00

I want you to check out the video below, and tell me if you think Pat Robertson was right when he made these comments. I would think a minister would have told the person to honor their marriage vows, but instead we got divorce as the solution. If your spouse becomes terminally ill or in this case gets Alzheimer's, I do not think you should divorce them. Pat's comments suggest the person is already dead because they can't remember you, but I can't imagine divorcing someone because of a illness or disease. What is the role of a minister when advising members of the church? And should you do what your minister say. And how would Jesus handle this situation? I think some ministers think they are God and what they say is what you should do. I disagree with Pat Robertson and feel his advise was wrong,What do you think?

Pat Robertson: Divorce Wife With Alzheimer's

2011-09-16T12:53:00.000-05:00

WHY DO PEOPLE LIE?

2010-12-15T18:03:00.002-06:00

Why do people lie? Do they lie because it is easier than telling the truth. Do they do it because they believe they are smarter than the person they are lying to. Do they do it because they have such large ego's and being truthful would diminish their image. Do they lie because they feel you can't handle the truth. Do they lie to not show you who they really are. Well I can go on for days giving you reasons that I feel people lie but the truth is liars can't be trusted. And if liars want to be trusted "-STOP LYING" you might actually discover how wonderful it is to not have to keep covering for each lie that you tell.

DOES SIZE MATTER?

2010-10-16T12:29:00.000-05:00

Does size matter? No I am not talking about a man's penis, I talking about your body size.Can you date a over weight person? I am very guilty of this very thing, I do not consider myself a shallow person but do find it hard to date a over weight man. I am a petite woman ,prefer men that keep themselves in good shape.Now the way someone looks should not be the only reason you are attractive to them but it is the first thing you see. I would love to have the total package but I am sure I am not the total package. We all have things that are attractive about us and there are things that are not so attractive. I think if we would start to look at character, intelligence,honesty,respectful and common decency we might have a better chance of finding that perfect person. I think we have set our standards to high and thats why so many relationships fail. We are looking for the guy or girl we see on TV. We have to realize those people do not exist. A over weight person shouldn't be automatically ruled out because of size,maybe give that person a chance and you might be surprised after getting to know this person. I really think that we as a society are so quick to judge people and just maybe we should take a long hard look at ourselves before we think SIZE DOES MATTER.

Finding Mr. Right or Settling fo Mr. Right Now

2010-09-06T17:35:00.002-05:00

Finding Mr. Right is very hard these days, because so many of us will not take the time to see what makes a person tick. We doom the relationship from the start because the person doesn't look like what we want him to , or he 's a social misfit, or not enough money and education. So do we keep looking or do we settle for Mr. Right Now? I have miserable married friends and miserable single friends, and the one thing I see in these relationships is the Communication is weak. Women and Men communicate differently. We women will listen to every word a guy will say and analyze it then tell him how we feel. Guys will not listen and cannot tell you what the conversation is about and cannot understand why his mate is still mad. And if he does listen he will not try to analyze the problem or he will pretend to understand so that he can go straight to sex. Now I am not bashing men, I have had some good guys in my life and have been in Love a couple of times. When I was in love, it was the most wonderful feeling that you can share with another human being. I do hope to marry again some day but for now it is hard to find Mr. Right, I can say there are a lot of good men out there and maybe I should wait for for Mr. Right to find me. Ladies there is no shortage of men- we just settle, so we miss out on the real Men. Stop looking at other women husbands and boyfriends. Always try to find a guy who treats you good( and you know what your good is)Stop Settling. Maybe there is no such thing as a Mr Right. We base a good man on what society thinks is a good man, maybe if we look deep inside ourselves we will find the answer. We know how we want to be treated so let's get out there and look for those qualities in the men we meet.

SINGLE PARENTS-WHEN IS IT OKAY TO LET THE BOYFRIEND SPEND THE NIGHT

2010-05-10T22:32:00.005-05:00

This issue is one that you should be careful about because when you have children you cannot bring everyone around your children. I know longer have children at home but when I GOT MY DIVORCE I would never bring a guy to the house unless our relationship developed into something serious. I think if you are just having casual sex with this person, he should never be seen at your house. Always go to his place or get a room. I feel it is a matter of respect for yourself and your children. Your children should not wake up to a different dude every week. That is not the message we should be sending to our daughters and sons. I truly believe if you develope a relationship with this person then you can start to bring him around the kids. DO NOT BRING EVERY TOM , DICK, AND HARRY around your children- just for the simple fact that it doesn't look good for you as a woman. I say the best time is when the two of you have decided that you guys want to see each other on a regular basis. WHAT SAY YOU?

OPEN RELATIONSHIPS

2010-04-16T18:57:00.002-05:00

Okay so we have some couples out there who are engaging in this new phenomenon" open relationships".Let's explore this, now who is really benefiting from this? I will say most of the men are because they have found a way to get their partner to go along with this ridiculous notion. So when you are in a open relationship you can see other people as long as your partner knows about it. Now I cannot understand how this would make me happy, and why would I want my man to have sex with someone else. Why am I with him if I want to see him with other people. Maybe someone can explain the benefits of living like this. And what about the risk of std's and all the emotional crap that you have to deal with. How would you explain this relationship to your friends and family. When Monique went public and said she and her husband had a open relationship, I was just disappointed. I know its her life but black couples are heavily scrutinized and I just was not ready for that one. I believe in marriage and just see this as another way for people to get their freak on. So the point of being in this type of relationship is for couples to satisfy their needs by bringing in another person to fulfill a need that the spouse or partner cannot.

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOU DON'T LOVE HIM ANYMORE

2010-03-09T17:31:00.003-06:00

I have a confession," I have fallen out of love with my boyfriend of 5 years". I do not know when it happened but it has. I find myself not wanting to see him . I find myself thinking less about him. I know longer think about making love to him. I have this strong urge to do things without him and feel very happy when he doesn't call. I wonder is it because we have just grown apart or is it because I have involved myself in other things and no longer have this need to be with him. How will I tell him? I have been faking it( my love for him) I know the time has come for me to woman -up and tell him but I keep hearing "I love you baby" so what shall I do? I did not fall out of love because I wanted marriage but because I found myself and now I am no longer the person he met 5years ago. So what , DO YOU DO WHEN YOU NO-LONGER LOVE HIM ANYMORE?

HEALTH CARE SUMMIT

2010-02-25T18:58:00.006-06:00

The summit today was absolute waste of time.I watched in horror as the democrats and the republicans snapped and stuck to their same agenda's. I was really hoping for the gridlock to be over, that was wishful thinking. The republican seemed mad as hell. My hope was they would be able to work together and actually get something done.

I guess it was to much to ask for the people that represent us to actually get something done .I REALLY think it was a sad day for the American people.

THE NUMBER ONE GROUP TO BASH- BLACK WOMEN- WHY!!!!!!!!!

2010-02-23T15:30:00.002-06:00

There seem to be a lot of bashing going on these days and the number one target is Black Women. Why have we become such a negative issue now. There have been so many blogs about us , and most are negative. The on going issue about why we are single just drives me insane. I have listened to radio shows that have just blasted us for being single. The thing that bothers me the most is that we believe the STATS that come out about us. If WE ONLY MAKEUP 12% of the population ( black people) then there is a possibility that the number will be high for black women. I hate that black men are falling into this trap along with other groups of men that have started BASHING black women. The John Mayer comment, was another example of us getting Bashed. I hope that we as a people come to our senses and not allow any group to define who we are. I for one will not let the bashing go un-noticed , because we are not as bad as we are being portrayed, as a matter of FACT we are a 100 % better than what you read out there.

HETERO-FLEXIBLE, SAY WHAT????

2010-02-10T13:16:00.006-06:00

I ran across this word while listening to a radio show, and found it to be quiet interesting. Now what does this word mean? I tried to look it up to see if it was an actual word but it is another made up word started by somebody.So from what I have heard, this word means that you are a flexible heterosexual who engages in promiscuous behavior. Also you are known to be bi-sexual or bi-curious. How many people will embrace this word and will consider themselves to be this way. Bi-curious is another word which means you are curious about being bi-sexual, I mean who comes up with this stuff. Nonetheless I find HETERO-FLEXIBLE to be a word that can mean you are flexible when it comes to heterosexual relationships and not so much that you are bi-sexual. Anyway I found this to be an interesting word. What do you think?

KNOWING WHEN TO MOVE ON

2010-02-03T12:17:00.012-06:00

We get in relationships wanting the best to happen, and sometimes it does not work out. The reasons vary from person to person. In the beginning you are all excited about being with that person. You cannot wait to see them, you are always happy when you see them. Your behavior is very positive towards that person. Once you get know the person the real test begins. So now you are seeing everything about this person and some of the negatives start to surface. Then you start questioning yourself- is this someone I really want to put more time and energy in. Now if this person is worth you trying to compromise and sort out your differences then by all means do it. There are no guarantees when you get involved with a person, but you do need to be willing to work thru your differences.
Sometimes when you have exhausted all your energy on trying to make it work, the time comes when you just have to end it. It is always hard but you will eventually get over that person. The trick is learning from it and not carry over the baggage to next relationship. Overall relationships can be fun and painful but knowing when to move -on is the key to keeping your sanity.

WHEN SHOULD WE STOP HAVING SEX?

2010-01-30T15:39:00.003-06:00

I was discussing this issue with a girlfriend, and we were wondering when should you stop having sex? I look at my mom who is 83 years old and I cannot imagine her still being sexually active, also I cannot picture anyone over the age 60 still having sex. Now I know a lot of people think as long as you are healthy you can still have it but I just cannot see myself at 65 trying to still do it. I know they have the blue pill for the men and will soon have something similar for the women. I just look at how your body looks at sixty and cannot see how I could be attracted to some old guy with everything hanging in the wrong place. Maybe when I reach that age maybe I will think differently, but for now I cannot see it. What do you think?

CAN YOU MEET QUALITY PEOPLE ONLINE?

2010-01-17T05:18:00.004-06:00

I thought I would tackle this question, Can you meet quality people online? Well the answer is I do not really know. I personally run across a lot of interesting people online and it is hard to know what they looking for. I mean people flirt with me all the time , but for me it means nothing . I find that when you are on line you can be whoever you want to be, so its very hard to know if you are truly getting a real person.
The online dating sites are not that great . They claim to match you up with people that are compatible with you, but I would love to see the stats on how many people actually got into a relationship from hooking up with someone they met on that site. I have known a few people who have met on line and have gotten married. I do not know how that happened but people do it and it doesn't seem to matter if they have not known this person long enough. We spend a lot time trying to get know people, when actually knowing doesn't guarantee a good relationship. So I can see why people try online dating, it is easier and simple.
And if you have a busy lifestyle online dating might be the thing for you, just find the web-site of choice- flip thru the pictures, read their bio, AND click and there is your perfect mate. Well maybe it 's not that simple, but for me meeting people the old-fashion way is still good, being able to look that person in the eye is always a good thing.

THE NEGRO DIALECT

2010-01-14T11:58:00.004-06:00

I was very sad to hear that people in this country still have this stigma about African Americans as for as our speech is concerned. Harry Ried may have said this off the record, but the fact that he thinks most black people speak with a Negro dialect is dam right shocking. I do think that what he said about Obama being a light skinned black is more acceptable is true, because most white people find light skinned blacks more acceptable than dark skinned. And Rush Limbaugh proved it yesterday with his remarks about the Haitians. What is Negro Dialect, is he referring to ghetto English- better known as Ebonics or is he talking about the slang that is often spoke by black rappers. I just find it amazing that white people still are amazed when black folk have some intelligence.
When my children were younger we decided to move to the suburbs in the Dallas area. This city we move to was very nice had great schools, my children did very well in this school district. The teachers were shocked that my kids were A students, one teacher told me she was shocked that kids read as well as they did. I had to really let her know that not all black people are dumb. This is why I stress the importance of getting an education to my children and other black kids. We cannot let our children go out into the world without the proper education because we will always be judged by the color of our skin and not the content of our character.

WHAT WILL YOU DO DIFFERENTLY IN 2010?

2009-12-31T12:00:00.004-06:00

This a good question , we often make these resolutions claiming to really change. I have not made a resolution in about four years. I stop because my will power was just pathetic. I couldn't get through the month of January before the things that I said I was going to change would be broken. So this year I am actually going to make some changes in my life. And I feel I have grown a lot in four years so I believe I can actually follow through this time. The first one is to be more of a giver than a receiver- learn to help others. The next one is keeping a positive outlook on life, by surrounding myself with positive people.3. Taking care of myself, eating healthy, will cut down on the cheese cake.4. No more toxic relationships, just going to CHILL a little. 5. Will finish my book this spring. So these are some of the challenges I have set for myself and I will pray for guidance to help me achieve these challenges. So what will you do differently in 2010?

CHEATING-WHAT IS IT REALLY ABOUT?

2009-12-26T10:42:00.004-06:00

We keep hearing all the these stories about cheating, what is really going on? Do men cheat because they are not satisfied with their partner or do they cheat because of a sex addiction, or the convenience of it. Have women dropped the ball by not asking enough questions when getting involved with a guy. I say it is a combination of all the above. I am going to try to speak from the woman's point of view. I have been cheated on a couple of times, once when married and the second time when I was in involved in a long term relationship. When I was married, my husband got involved with his secretary and when i found out I was very hurt and I asked why he did it, he responded by saying it was because it easy for him and he wanted see if he could . And the second time was a guy I got involved with after my divorce, his reason was he needed variety in his life and just being with one woman bored him. I just wished he had told me that before I invested 4 years of my life. The point I want to make is why can't people just be Honest about what it is they want from the start. I would have more respect for a man if he told me- that he was not interested in being i a relationship. I know some of you will say that crosses over into that friends with benefit territory. But I am not saying that, I would just like for guys to be Honest. And we women have to stop pushing up on men that are already attached. I am talking about you women that know guys are married or living with somebody and still get involved. Some times cheating is not about your partner or sex addictions , it is about that person and their self worth(they have issues with themselves). I do not know if we will ever solve this problem in our society but it has been around forever and will continue to exist as long as there are participants.

WHAT DO THE LONELY DO AT CHRISTMAS?

2009-12-15T20:03:00.006-06:00

The main thing you should do is not feel sorry for your self. There are a million things to do. First of all you can celebrate the true meaning of Christmas by attending your nearest church. Just hearing Christmas songs should at least cheer you up. Then you can go to movies, yes by yourself. I often go to the movies by myself. If you have family go over to a relative, most family will welcome you just because it's Christmas. You can stay at home and watch movies and maybe invite a friend over to watch with you. The point I am trying to make is, do not sat at home and have a pity party. Get out or stay at home but no pity because that fact that you are alive is a good thing, so try to enjoy and thank GOD for letting you see another CHRISTMAS.

WHAT'S IN A NAME

2009-12-10T14:46:00.003-06:00

I know this a touchy subject for some us but being in management I run across a lot of interesting names. We tend to come up with SOME crazy names. When I was growing up , you gave your kids names with meanings or you named your child after someone in the family. Now when I am going thru applications to hire people its hard for me to pronounce some of these names- example(Jimmiqeusha) I called this applicant to interview her and we talked and she asked me if it was hard for me to pronounce her name and I SAID NO," but out of curiosity where did you get that name? She answered my dad is name Jimmy and my mom name is kesha so they decided on JIMMI-QUESHA.- so why did they spell it like that. Now some names from other countries are hard to pronounce also, but I talking about the names black folk give their children. Sometimes I think we just make up these names and we do not care whether or not it has any meaning. What is the craziest name you ever heard

WHY ARE WE STILL USING THE N-WORD

2009-11-30T22:02:00.002-06:00

We are still being bombarded with our people using the n-word. I do not understand why we keep using this word to promote our music, our comedy, our books and just about anything if we can get paid off of it. People died just so we would not be called the n-word but lot of us still think it is okay. I hear people say all the time oh its okay for me to say it but you white folks can't say it., Stop This Self Hatred- Stop using the N-WORD.