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India is calling its youth to tell something important...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Mon, 26 Jan 2015 15:48:00 +0000

Many things are happening in our country; rape, scandals, poverty, corruption and terrorism. But do we take any stand against those things or do we just criticize and forget them? Meanwhile our country is looking at us and trying to tell us something that's what we are going to convey through this poem.

Poem & Vocal by Pradip Savaliya
Guitar by Shailesh Bhalala
Motion graphics by acekiller.in

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Tribute to victims of "Peshawar Attack"

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Wed, 07 Jan 2015 17:52:00 +0000

I was very shocked when i saw in news that terrorists killed innocent children and that was the end of the humanity. How one can kill children!! Didn't they have childhood? Didn't they know children are never part of any war? How children could have hurt them? I know that many of these kind of questions were in your minds too but that was the heart-burning event on our earth. We, Indians, wish that those beautiful kids' souls rest in peace.

Poem & Vocal by Pradip Savaliya

Guitar by Shailesh Bhalala

Motion graphics by acekiller.in

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Pondering...(conceptual photoshoot by me)

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Mon, 01 Dec 2014 17:38:00 +0000

Since many days i was thinking a lot. My most of the time was being spent in thinking and doing nothing. In fact, i was thinking about how everything is changed and why something we need the most does not come easily in our way? Many questions and thoughts come out of that process and that whole process of pondering inspired me to do a photoshoot which shows the depth of any thought. My friend, Ravi Gorasiya (person in photographs), lent me his camera and we did a photoshoot at Dumas, Surat. Then editing took few days and now all photographs are here. I hope you will like them.

Concept: Pradip Savaliya

Photography: Pradip & Ravi

Editing: Pradip Savaliya

When love is more than a dream...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sun, 02 Feb 2014 15:21:00 +0000

I have heard many unrequited love stories. What I majorly noticed in those stories was a lover’s intensity in an initial stage. A lover is ready to do anything to get beloved. I am sure you all have seen this kind of person around you. Those moments or days of that lover’s life are really amazing because he/she has something which draws him/her towards beloved even thousands of people stops him/her.

When I say that love is more than a dream means a love that takes away all sleeps and doesn't keep you calm at any moment of the whole day. I would say that it is mostly seen while “love at first sight” & “sudden crisis in love”. Very few people reach to that intensity which has no limits and control. Those who are actually living their love-life, their love is not more than a dream because they got what they dreamed of and love becomes more than a dream when you dreamed of it and you couldn't get it though you still live with that love. And that love is so incredible that whenever you feel down it inspires you, whenever you feel confused it guides you and whenever you feel alone it surrounds you. Not sad, gloomy, depressed, frustrated and despondent people have this love which is more than a dream. They can never get this love or feel this love. To get love which is more than a dream, one has to move on. Moved on is not about forgetting all your past but to cherish your old memories with all respect. And there is second context when love is more than a dream and that is love at first sight. When love is not confessed yet, one or both are always excited to come in front of us. This is the most beautiful and extremely loveable moment of lover’s life. There is always little tension about getting positive or negative response from another side. And if this kind of love stays forever without being confessed then it becomes a love which is more than a dream because that lover lives with his/her love forever. He/she keeps the love in a corner of his/her heart forever.

I remember one line once I read somewhere which is the most suitable one here. "I wish love was like volleyball, you yell 'mine' and everyone backs off." Lastly I will sum up all my feelings and views in one thought, “When love makes its place forever in your heart, it becomes more than a dream.”

Midday meal or Midway meal !!??

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sun, 28 Apr 2013 16:26:00 +0000

We need to ask this question because the Indian government has allotted lots of funds to education sector but big amount of those funds is always on the way to reach needy people. Midway meal means a meal which is not reached to its destination, a poor child. Well prepared & planned idea is not being executed well. Few corrupt politicians, middlemen and irresponsible headmasters are making midday meal a midway meal.

Last time, Indian government allotted Rs.10,380 crores for MDM (Mid Day Meal) scheme and now, the government has allotted Rs.11,937 crores for the MDM scheme in 2012-2013. The fund for MDM scheme is raised by 90% from central government & 10% from NER states and in other states fund is raised by 75% from central government & 25% from state government. Our Indian government precisely plans figures in allocation of funds but the real fact is that those funds are not being used effectively. 12 crore children are up to upper primary level in 12.65 lakh government schools across India. It means around 12 crore children are taking advantages of MDM scheme. Now, the question arises that will HRD ministry use additional funds for secondary school level? Because unavailability of midday meal in secondary level discourages the students and school drop out ratio may rise. As a part of educational systems, responsible people must be aware with all the details of MDM scheme then only school committees or principals can achieve benefits out of this scheme. The government has launched website of this scheme, www.mdm.nic.in . With the purpose of awareness and solving problems, CM of Bihar, Mr. Nitish Kumar launched IVRS (Interactive Voice Response System) and website (dopahar.org) hence people can come to know about all schemes they are eligible for and they can also easily sort out their local problems related to the midday meal scheme. This scheme also encourages all mothers of children to visit the school while midday meal is being cooked & served hence they can be sure that MDM scheme is running effectively. If something seems fishy while cooking or delivering a meal or in whole scheme then they can immediately take action against unethical acts. This initiative by MDM scheme is known as “Mothers Watch”. This community participation idea as a “Mothers Watch” doesn’t work practically because it is hard for those mothers, who are working for daily wages, to take a leave from laboring and come to watch their children.

I learned in my school time that to share and then eat is what the culture says, to eat alone is the nature of any individual and to eat others’ part is perversion. Midday Meal Scheme tells us to share food and then to eat together exactly like our culture says. That’s why this scheme is very beneficial and helpful practically and traditionally. But few reports published in newspapers show that this culture is absent in a few villages of Karnataka, Orissa, Madhya Pradesh, Rajasthan, Gujarat. These villages have problems of caste discrimination, gender discrimination and untouchability while implementing MDM scheme. Students from upper class do not share a midday meal with other students. Students from the minority community and scheduled caste are being made to sit separately for a midday meal and this is happening just because teachers allowed so. In few villages, upper caste children do not eat food prepared and made by lower caste cooks. In urban areas of Jaisalmer, upper caste students refuse to eat food with Dalit students, it shows that even small children also have the worst mentality to keep themselves away from the lower caste students. Undoubtedly, that kind of mentality has to be inculcated by their parents. Gender discrimination has also been seen in villages. Girls are made to serve the midday meals to boys. As all of this is not enough, there is an untouchability. It’s like if caste discrimination is not there then there is an untouchability. Dalit children are being served from a distance and children of upper caste bring their own plates for a midday meal to avoid mix-up.

Now I share few incidents of those people who eat others’ food, we call it “Perversion”. In UP, CBI investigated that until 2010, food grain worth Rs.35,000 crore was sold in an open market with the connivance of government officials, politicians and middlemen. That foodgrain was meant to be given poor people through welfare schemes, one of them is “Midday Meal Scheme”. Recently in Baroda, students were beaten up by female school teachers because they raised their voice against delay in getting midday meals. The Midday Meal Scheme will run effectively if teachers also support it. There are many villages where students have not been given midday meals for many months because school committee or teachers or district officers sell out those ready meals in outside. It is really shame for our country that nurturers keep children away from nurturing them. Before 4 months in Ramgarh, many schools of this district were deprived of midday meals because the stock of rice was used up completely. And this problem decreased the attendance of students in schools. Our country’s rice production reached to a record high of 104.32 million tonnes in 2011-12 crop year though shortage of rice occurred in many villages of Ramgarh district. This unconventional shortage of rice makes us to doubt that civil workers or politicians or middlemen are selling out stock of rice which meant to be provided for MDM scheme. Sometimes I think these schemes for betterment are opportunities for scams because these schemes generate many scams. Recently in Bangalore, the worst incident came into the picture. Approximately 200 children were on the roadside for midday meals. Is it Midday meal or meal around wheel? Though it isn’t busy one road but even a few vehicles pass by then hygienic meals become unhygienic meals. Headmaster of that school thinks that if they serve meals in school then they will have to waste time in cleaning up those classrooms. But it is better to waste one hour in cleaning up than to eat at a roadside because children’s health and safety are priorities of MDM scheme. Before a month in Punjab, students of 15,000 schools were waiting for midday meals and Punjab government was yet to release Rs.45 crore for MDM scheme. Teachers continued the scheme by paying from their pockets but then they also stopped because they couldn’t see any hope. Students were excited that they would get midday meals because schools were reopened after vacations but it couldn’t happen.

Many times teachers take the initiative to run this incredible scheme but they also have to stop their help due to no support from state or central government. There are places where teachers are very enthusiastic to run this scheme effectively. In Jaipur, few government schools do not have cooks that’s why considering the importance of the scheme, teachers prepare food and when the meal is served then they wash utensils also. A teacher who performs more than what her duty says and that makes her the great teacher. In Bangalore, primary school teachers perform many roles in one school. They sweep the room before doing administration work then clean classrooms and courtyard after midday meals and they teach those students also. They must be teachers cum guards cum peons cum ayahs. We must salute these women who make this scheme effective without getting enough support from state or central government. Many NGOs are helping government to run MDM scheme successfully in all urban and rural areas of India. One of those NGO is “Akshaya Patra Foundation”, a world’s largest NGO, is also helping many government schools for this scheme. The midday meal scheme can never be implemented successfully if headmasters or teachers or other civil workers do not initiate to stop unethical tasks and until they don’t determine themselves to remove those corrupted people who are associated with this extraordinary scheme. In India, at many places, it has become compulsory that the civil worker has to be pointed out by someone otherwise he doesn’t perform his assigned duty. There are people who are running this scheme by taking money out of their pockets and others stopping scheme by filling money in their pockets. This imbalanced relationship between state government and school management committees hinder the success of the MDM scheme in India. This matter is so serious which can be understood by GHI report. It says that India scores 23.7 in GHI report which means improving child nutrition is of utmost urgency in most Indian states. The HUNGaMA report states that 42% children in India are underweight and PM calls it National Shame. The WB report says that MDM scheme is not coming out with desired results because the government has more attention to increase coverage than to improve the quality of service delivery rather than changing family based feeding & caring behavior.

All such reports always makes our country feel shame and how many times will we feel so? There has to be limit of feeling shame. A dream and idea of our country, Midday meal, is still on the way to reach completely into villages that’s why we have to say that Meal is at midway but soon, it will reach its destination. Let’s do not just hope but make a movement, let’s determine strongly and bring that midway meal for children.

Sources:

- Articles of Times of India

- www.mdm.nic.in

Turn your humiliation into revolution...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Tue, 04 Dec 2012 15:48:00 +0000

Have you ever been teased on your disabilities? Have ever people made a fun of yourself just because they think they are a lot better than you? I am sure most of you have been suffering from this. I am driven to write on this subject because I felt that for a long time common people of India is having the same condition. Is this a helpless, hopeless and leaderless country?!

A very lucrative career option in India is politics where one can be a millionaire too early. The essay on becoming leader of a nation what I studied in school time, now could be written in a completely other way. For a few years, we have seen many scams which have eroded our country’s economy & development. Not only ruling party has scams but also other parties’ politicians have scams, few of them have been revealed and the rest will be too. Politicians are humiliating common people by misusing governmental treasure and by misleading their power. Britishers ruled India for 200 years and that’s why we (common people) now have a habit of slavery. We don’t want to oppose any wrongdoing and that is the reason why undeserved, ineligible and unwanted people are in top authorities. And those worst authorities neither bring good change nor let come inside a good leader. At that pathetic condition, it becomes necessary to revolutionize it. And revolution doesn’t come easily, not by teaching people what is revolution, not even by showing the destruction but revolution comes when you yourself realize that you been humiliated by a system. Gandhiji in South Africa in 1893, faced discrimination and was thrown off a train. Gandhiji realized that he was humiliated by a Britisher and he decided to throw the whole British rule out of India. The habit of saying “let it be” to insult and discrimination can’t help you to enjoy your freedom. Realization of being humiliated drives you to stand for your rights. For examples, Anna Hazare and Arvind Kezriwal are from common people who realized this humiliation and hence they are fighting for their rights. Nobody else will fight for your right but you have to do it for yourself, for your family and for your nation.

People poke your soft spot. We don’t react strongly to their wrong deeds that’s why it is our soft spot and those corrupted people are poking our soft spot. So, be a strong enough to stand for your rights and build this nation what our patriots dreamed it. I try to inspire you by writing, I am performing my part, are you ?

Teenagers are closer to their friends than their parents...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sun, 02 Sep 2012 17:20:00 +0000

One of my college friend suggested me to write about teenagers because as a school teacher, my friend has noticed that teenagers are very close to their friends and they show an audacity to their parents. No matter how much parents are serious about them but teenagers will do what they find good for them. Why do they like to be independent so much? Why are they more influenced by their friends than parents?

This issue is very serious because it frames teenagers’ thinking in a way that they feel hesitation with their parents and this how parents become inessential in their life. We can surely find out the reason behind teenagers’ this kind of behavior if we precisely notice the way parents have let their children walk in their own ways. If parents have this kind of teenagers in their home, they should ask a few questions to themselves. Do they pray together (with family) daily? Do they have lunch/dinner together? Do they spend quality time with family? Parents will get answer “No” to these questions. And that’s why those teenagers spend that time with their friends and their friends become alternative companions instead of parents. Distance with someone creates a space for other. This how friends come into life and they take each position of sibling and relatives in teenagers’ life. As teenagers are not that much attached to their parents that’s why they share their all problems and sorrows with their friends and subsequently solutions and suggestions come from their friends instead of parents because they were excluded. This emotional sharing and caring activities keep teenagers even closer to their friends and far from the parents. I have seen that teenagers who have friendism (issue-we discussing), don’t like to listen their parents and they try to sort out their problems on their own ways. Friends are very important part of their life. All friends can’t stay with us forever. They get apart as life takes everyone in different places and what stays with you is your family. So, when friends are not with them, those teenagers become alone completely. At that time, they can’t immediately get attached to family. They become famililess people. But we can stop this happening around us. If friendism does exist in someone then you should acknowledge him to balance his life. Life is always about to balance everything.

Each family should start to involve their children in daily praying and dinner then all family members should spend time in chit-chat with each other. Family and friends should not be prioritized but should be balanced equally.

My daddy's shoes...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sat, 16 Jun 2012 16:02:00 +0000

A father will always be an ideal personality which one boy wishes to be. A credit of your today’s betterment always goes to that person, a father. Title of the article may seem like I am going to talk about my daddy’s shoes because he used to hit me by his shoes but obviously it is not like that. Reason is when I looked at my daddy’s shoes in my childhood, I wondered when my feet would fit in this shoe because I wanted to be like him.

Family is always at the prior level in his life. He sacrifices his dreams to fulfill our dreams. You will see the best quality in him and you will love him. Whether you are a boy or a girl you are always inspired to be like your father. When I was a kid, I used to wear my daddy’s shoes like pretending to be as big as my father. I found these shoes very lose then I wondered and asked myself when will I be like my father. In childhood, it has been about to wear just big shoes but gradually it was understanding to absorb those best qualities of my daddy. I remember a day when my dad came to drop me on the first day of school. I was very scared but my dad encouraged me to attend a school. I know your dad also have encouraged you in your very first attempt of anything. A thought comes out when you look at your daddy’s shoes is that your daddy is bigger (in the sense of better) than you. The difference you see in size of yours and your daddy’s shoes shows that the difference in responsibility of the family. As a size of your shoes grow, your maturity and responsibility must grow. One day you will have the same size of shoes what your daddy wears and that day is you were born to get all responsibility of the family. There are exceptions of people who teach wrong things to their children but they are not called as a father. They are evils. Father has its qualities which come with a word “father” itself. A wish to be like father always inspires us to achieve great qualities which make us responsible person. When you look at your dad, you see brave, caring, motivational, helping and wonderful person. I would not be wrong if I say that all words related to quality have comprised to define “Father”.

A relationship between a father and his son is as between the sun and its sunshine. Where the sun goes its sunshine follows. The Son will always be influenced by his father and that’s why he tries his daddy’s shoes in his childhood which explains a great bonding.

Yesterday, I remembered you...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Thu, 10 May 2012 16:08:00 +0000

“Memories don’t die, they kill us slowly-slowly.” It was yesterday when I thought of you, I took care of you and I loved you; these statement suits you if you had a mutual break-up or you got dumped by someone but today you have moved on. To come out of the whirl of memories, you need to make it past and look ahead what is yet to come.

If one is broken up with someone then he/she will think that it was great phase of life, it was so pretty to get gifts with lots of love, it was so endearing to have someone special and it was fun & excitement to meet and fight with the beloved. But one common thing in all statement is “It was”. Past tense. Whatever one had, it was. But what about now? And the problem with these kind of people is not that they are seated at the riverbank and throwing stones into the river but they upload gloomy pictures on Facebook and occupy themselves in grievous condition. It must be understood that few people are for a while in our life, they leave us and go away where they are destined. Their presence in our life was god’s purpose and may be part of the god’s jigsaw puzzle to complete our life. So, if people leaves us alone, forgive them quickly and try to laugh at our past that is the best way we learn to live with our past. No matter what was their reason behind leaving us alone but the most important thing should be taken care in our life is “Our Spark (spirit)”. Do not let it down. One thing is very much sure that life goes on, no matter what happens. The Sun rises every morning but it has not stopped it due to past solar eclipses. Your past can drag you back sooner or later if you are fully immersed in it but let it flow as water flows in the river. Don’t try to build dams on memories of your past. Once you let it flow, it will automatically get a break then after you keep moving ahead.

Now, you can stop letting memories kill you slowly-slowly by accepting your past positively. My purpose of writing this kind of article was to make you aware that you can no longer be a bird which is imprisoned in a cage of memories. Stop nagging your past, open your wings because new sky is waiting to welcome you.

“Yesterday, I remembered you but today I am moved on.”

Flowers on fire...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 16:08:00 +0000

“The best days of my life are school days”, we used to hear this statement from many people even our parents agree with this. Childhood is our foundation and what we learn in childhood, leads our lives. Motivated, encouraged and spirited up childhood results out as a great career. But today, when I read each page of the newspaper I found a bunch of news on students’ suicide cases. At that time, I worried and I think where the hell those motivations and encouragement have been vanished which I used to get from my school teachers.

I am inspired to write on this subject because I am consistently seeing news of students’ suicides every morning. An adult who is at an age where he/she can enjoy and cheer his/her life but they commit suicide. How hard that stress would be which drives them to kill themselves! After results are out, students become depressed who get less marks. Now, this less mark is not only the driving force for committing suicide. Students with less marks or failed results don’t get compassion and more than that they are not being encouraged to give it another try. And even more, when they get failed they set sad profile picture on Facebook which appears front of them every moment and generate negative notions. Besides academic cases, if any person fails in love he sets bloody, lonely and gloomy pictures as profile picture on Facebook. That person immerge himself in gloomy thoughts, SMS and songs which erode and gradually kill him at last. Today children have been thrown into the well of competition as frogs who have to come out before someone else. Few of them are being submerged in the well only while trying to come out. Family pressure, fake admirations and jealous on FB are the main driving forces to commit suicide. Manipulation of bad time has become more which drive them to commit suicide. Kids and adults imagine their fear more than what exactly it is that’s why they dwell in devastated and destroyed mentality.

These adults are flowers and they are on fire. We should help these flowers to blossom every time by encouraging and motivating them. According to me, Not only less marks & failed result are responsible factors behind cases of suicide but also comparison between each other & FB influence students’ suicidal thoughts. Doctors should be active on FB to catch these kind of depressed students then only students’ suicide cases can be decreased.

A student would say this before committing suicide, “I am not your bike that you can accelerate as per your wish.”

Failure is always an orphan...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sat, 17 Mar 2012 17:15:00 +0000

Since my childhood I have been listening and reading one quote that is failure is the key to success. Unfortunately, people are afraid to accept it because they don’t accept their failures and this how failure becomes alone, nameless and ORPHAN. Failures break those people emotionally but they pretend to be stronger. And that pretence doesn’t last long.

John F. Kennedy has said that Victory has a thousand fathers, but defeat is an orphan. Victory and success are always welcome by everyone but nobody recognizes their failures, nobody accepts the responsibility of particular failure. Success is like a honey and people-wants to be father of it-are flies who want to taste that honey. Flies die in thick & sticky honey while tasting it. People usually get failed while dreaming of success. Dreaming of success is not wrong until it reaches to greediness but people feel insecurity that’s why they emphasize more on success than on failure. Obviously, one should concentrate to get success only but not in that much extent that one completely neglects a failure as an unnecessary thing. They don’t dare to fail which actually teach them necessary things. For some people success is a skilled child who has potential and can easily be famous in the world that’s why people wants to be father of it to feel proud of it and failure seems handicap child who can’t do anything easily that’s why it remains an orphan. I talked that how failure is being left alone. But many times, failure stay alone itself because failure depresses one and hence he/she wants to make him/herself alone for a while. It may be devastated condition in someone’s life but there is a lesson. This how, failure comes into existence as an orphan where it is alone by its own choice. Our purpose of any task, work and project is to get succeed that’s why we automatically favor success and failure is negative result of any task, work and project that’s why we reject it. A negative result can be analyzed and next attempt can be achieved successfully but till people realize it, failure will be an orphan.

You can adopt this orphan by accepting your failures. Don’t let failure be orphan because failure has lesson and key of success inside of itself. Will you make your failure an orphan ??

Staircase of my college...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sun, 04 Mar 2012 06:53:00 +0000

A moment while I was coming downstairs in college, I suddenly started thinking about a staircase. Because many times I and my friends had spent serious and hilarious moments there. We discussed about our career and took some important decisions on that staircase. I want to show you various perspectives of the staircase by few moments we all spend there.

Passing time on the staircase is not always futile act unless you let it be so. Collegians are usually found seated on the staircase and discussing on current issues i.g. Sport & movie news, sometime political matter and some unavoidable things (hotties). While sitting and talking with friends on the staircase, I have noticed that many serious and important topics are being discussed. Students share their opinions about professors’ teaching style, administration of college and many more among their friends on the staircase. The most corrupt sector is education system and students know about it. They discuss about this corruption in education system on the staircase because they get admissions through this corrupt system. If professors and management of college will come to know about these discussions then they will improve themselves. The voice of this staircase should be reached to the door of management of college. There are few students who prepare their projects, presentations and assignments on the staircase with their friends. They help each others in completing all these stuffs. They also share their tiffins with each others. This how, unity grows among them. Students prepare strategies on the staircase to propose someone and to get passing marks. Collegians do preparation on the staircase for annual function and other events. A time on the staircase brings few qualities in student i.g. leadership, Supportive, Expressive and Knowledgeable. This everything keeps them together and makes them good friends. After the few years of passing out from the college, that staircase of your college becomes the staircase of memories. The best moments of college life are always being spent on its staircase.

Each thought, Opinion and Judgement we share on the staircase can bring significant changes. Actually students’ hands are bound with the fear and insecurity of their career while raising their heads front of unethical and wrong activities. But once you are successful person in your life then at least you can remove hurdles which you encountered in your college life. Staircase of college is staircase of success. Do you remember the staircase of your college??

Love life is too messed up...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 16:09:00 +0000

It is funny that my thoughts were getting messed up while preparing this article. More than one patch-up & break-up have made youngsters’ love life messed up. Sometimes love life has been messed up unintentionally when partners ditched you all the time and sometimes it has been done carelessly when you ditched all your partners. Love life is not just a part of your life but a cart of your life which takes you where you deserve and a chart of your life which measures behavior & character you have.

Love life is messed up not because somebody ditched you but a wrong attitude towards relationships i.e. “let’s give It try”. Youngsters are very easy-going with relationships at a young age. They think about relationships that let’s give it try, if it will work out then it will last longer and if it doesn’t work out then we will move on. They become depressed for a while when they break up with their partners but at that moment their friends suggest them to move on and try again with different person instead wasting time in shedding tears. After the first break up they are driven to think positive and therefore they follow a proverb, “try and try you will success”. Now this proverb has been taken so wrongly that many youngsters fall in love very easily and if it doesn’t work out then they again fall in love with another person just because they obey that proverb. A relationship is not a thing which can be built by giving few trials to different persons. Today, people have a mindset of using “trial and error” method in their life. They try a relation and if they find any error then they try to resolve it in their next relation. Using “trial and error” method for living a life has involved them in many relationships which make them confused in finding their better half. Love life is not a last over of cricket match where you need one run in 6 balls but it is a last ball of the last over and you need to hit 6 to win. Just a trial to any relationship doesn’t make a strong love life. It will be trial only. But to make perfect love life, you need a right devotion for a right person. And trials are not the way of choosing the right person for your love life.

Now, obviously you will ask me the way of choosing the right person for love life. Certainly, there is no way of choosing the right person for love life. Love is a moment and it just happens…

Thieves check each others' pockets to find the thief...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sat, 31 Dec 2011 12:03:00 +0000

This article emphasizes on all singles who are ready to mingle. Here, I have shown youngsters as thieves who are at the stage of life to find a life partner. And they all are finding other thieves as life partners. To check each others' pockets means to look at each others' past.

Many friends of mine see girls for marriage and ask questions. We all know what they mainly try to figure out through questions. Everybody tries to check others that whether those were in a relationship or not. In this era, very less people are there who don’t have a love story and this stage of everyone's life has made others think of each others' past. It isn't wrong if you try to check spouse's past but it's totally inappropriate if you reject him/her just because he/she was in a relationship. It should be understood that he/she had relation just like you had with other but now thing should be clear before marriage that you both should be committed to each other from now onwards. You are not supposed to reject anyone just because he/she had past. Those who were in a relationship and checking spouses’ past is like demanding clean things on their dirty hands. It cannot be possible. It has become a core behavior of youngsters that they want a partner who should not be having any past relationship even if they had. In today’s fast life, relationships are becoming less perishable because those were rooted immaturely. Youngsters are getting settled in their life after being in two or more than two relationships; this has become today’s scenario. They generally fail to find the right life partner in their first relationship. And this kind of culture is set up so firmly in youngsters’ lives that now it is the hardest thing to abolish. But it can be directed in a right manner that’s what I am trying to do here.

If you had crush on someone or you were in a relationship then you must accept someone else with his/her past. Don’t be thieves who check everyone’s pockets to find the thief. Positively, it becomes similarity between both partners that they both were in a relationship with different persons but have experience of being in a relationship.

Experienced lover says to his/her partner, “No matter what was your past, we’ll live together to create history…”

Show banana and get the monkeys...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sun, 18 Dec 2011 13:49:00 +0000

Title seems I would write on monkeys but certainly I am going to talk on people who have monkeys’ few characteristics e.g. snatcher, greediness and hastiness. Those people are students. I came across this subject while I was hanging out after bunking the classes of my college and I asked myself, “why am I outside? What is not inside of class which can attract me?” Therefore, Teachers should show banana (lure) to get all monkeys (students).

If a student is out of class while lectures are going on then what should be reason behind it? It could be that student is not interested or teaching style is not interesting. Suppose student is not interested then what should be reason behind it? Again teaching style could be reason. I don’t blame teachers but something is wrong in teaching style or education system. And that wrong thing is that students are not being made curious toward study. It is in teachers’ hand to generate curiosity toward education among students hence they get attracted to study and sit in classrooms. I remember few teachers of my school & college life, there are just awesome. They actually know how to make students attend their each lecture because they use this funda “Show banana and get the monkeys”. And this funda is very simple, “Teachers create some interesting atmosphere in classrooms which attract students and make them feel the worth of being inside of class instead being outside of it”. If quality of education is getting decreased then there cannot be only one reason (students’ laziness) but the way education is being delivered can be wrong and that has to be taken seriously & consciously by all teachers. Remember one thing always, “Anything, which is been talked or taught with curiosity, becomes memorable for lifetime”.

“Show banana” means generate curiosity and “get the monkeys” means attract the students. In this era, to build strong relation between students and teachers this funda should be implemented.

We must generate curiosity

to make educational university…

Really, it was mutual break-up !!??

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 10:55:00 +0000

Things are not as we are seeing around us. Now a days, patch-ups and break-ups are happening just in blink of an eye. Yesterday, you might have seen your friend with somebody and today he/she may have break-up with her/him. You might have listened your friends saying that it was mutual break-up. Out of those mutual break-ups, how many of those could be true mutual break-ups? Who knows…

You may fall in love and after few days adversities compel your lover to quit this relationship and your lover puts a proposal front of you to quit this relationship here only. You are left with Zero choice because you cannot live your life ahead with that person once he/she has decided to quit this relationship. For sake of his/her happiness, you may add “YES” with his/her “YES” to quit this relation but actually you are dying inside and it isn’t true mutual break-up. In many mutual break-ups, one person is left with broken heart and else one is putting step hopefully into new phase of life. It is bitter truth of most of mutual break-ups that one will have emptiness and else one will have happiness. One should not reveal his/her pain front of the world which he/she has got through break-up(mutual what they say) but later on he/she must step hopefully into the new phase of life to make their break-up truly mutual break-up.

There are many people around you who are shedding tears behind their smiles just because they are saying that they had mutual break-up but actually it was not. Don’t keep hard feelings and don’t feel empty but if it was not true mutual break-up then live hopefully by stepping into new life and make it true mutual break-up from harsh break-up.

Now I would like to ask a question to all of you, “was it really mutual break-up in your life??!!”

Age of edge...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 10:53:00 +0000

One day, Ravi Patel, my friend & business partner in Royale Vivaah, was telling me that I should write one article on 21st/22nd age because it is very essential part of career & life. And I titled that subject as “Age of edge” because this is the age when youngsters have to make significant decisions.

No matter there is a boy or a girl, he/she will face a situation where he/she will have to decide a way he/she wants to go. In case of boy, he will have to decide whether he wants to study further after graduation or wants to do job or wants to join his father’s business. All boys are not born with silver spoon in their mouth hence some boys will have to start with “Zero” and that is the deciding time of those boys. At this age, few boys are in love and they are about to stand on their own feet that’s why girl’s father don’t accept struggling boy and they get break up. In case of girl, she will face same kind of problems which boys face but one more important thing is girls have to be conscious in choosing their better half and should be more conscious in giving everything to somebody. In short, boys and girls are surrounded by lots of decisions which they have to make and which also decide their future.

21 or 22 is age of spark. We actually are unaware of our potentials at this age and who are aware of their abilities they can easily tackle all hurdles while starting from “Zero”. If I exemplify this situation it would be like, “You can turn creeper easily as you wish but you have to do it before It takes turn itself”. Wrong turn can take you at wrong life. Those who are still not get matured; will be cut down at the age of edge.

Few things should not be predetermined in life...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 16:48:00 +0000

I came across this subject while I was coming back from Goa. I was sat near window and peeping outside on mountains & greenery then suddenly my mind started thinking of future of my life. And whenever we think of future, we usually expect a lot from our future in terms of predetermining few things. Predetermined decisions increase expectations and expectations always end in frustration.

Predetermined decisions mean we may decide to have love-marriage only, we may decide characteristics of our better half and job we wish to have in future, and we may decide the life style we wish to have in future. In short, whatever we decide earlier in our life becomes our expectations. Life is very very unpredictable. We mostly do mistake in expecting moments or things in our life which are flexible. We decide to get many things in life but as life is unpredictable and what we decided is flexible that’s why we fail to get those things. We can set our personal goals but things and situation depend on others cannot be predetermined. Because what you expect from others that might not be achieved by them and you get frustrated because things couldn’t happen up to your expectations. Joy and lovable moments just happens and we should let them happen. We should not bind them in our predetermined decision (expectation). Don’t make inflexible decisions for flexible situations. People try to predict unpredictable life and when they predict life they actually build wall of expectations.

Live life as it is, don’t try to predict and don’t predetermine few things which are flexible…

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noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Thu, 15 Dec 2011 16:44:00 +0000

Since my childhood, I am observing that students learn so many things which are not being taught them through books but they precisely learn those things from environment i.e. thieving, rape, corruption, murder, drinking & drug addiction and many more. Not a single book, being taught in schools & colleges, does carry the knowledge of how to get addicted to those bad habits though these bad habits are being practiced by students immediately.

In school, students are being taught to be polite, honest, trustworthy, loyal, knowledgeable and competitive but majority of students are not up to the real purpose of school in their later life (after adult age). I have seen and read in newspapers about many school/college students, stealing things from their classmates, bribing their teachers or peon for exam papers, killing their classmates in/for ragging matter, rapping girls and tasting drugs. Most of past students are now corrupted people, violent killers, clever thieves and all of them were never been taught how to do all these malicious activities. Here, I am not giving reasons why they adopt bad things immediately but I want to light up the subject which is, “students who learn many things which are not given in books”. This article is not to spread negativity among you but it is very important to bring facts front of you. Environment is very affective factor to students which should be taking care of by ministry of education. Day by day, it is getting hard to control environment around students because they are increasing proximity with other regions, cultures and bad habituated people through internet. One should create a positive environment around him/her to keep him/herself away from bad habits.

Keeping proximity with good friend

will bring bad men’s end…

(all readers are requested to suggest title for this article...)

Two hardest timings : when to confess love & when to hide love...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Wed, 14 Dec 2011 14:25:00 +0000

Many times I heard my friends asking and discussing about should they propose now or should they hide love? I too believe that these two timings are the hardest situations for any lover. Few people fall in love at first site, few gradually fall in love and few are in love but not realized yet; all these kind of lovers face a situation where they tangle between two questions - when to confess love & when to hide love.

I need to relate my previous article with this one because most affective factor to this dilemma is “fear of being wrong”. When person starts liking someone, he/she asks question himself only, should I confess love or hide it for now? Fear of being wrong in the sense that lover feels that he/she will get rejected. There could be many other reasons e.g. person fears to propose him/her friend, person loves someone who loves someone else, person may hesitate to propose loved one whom he/she is stranger. I cannot suggest you when you should confess your love or when you should hide your love but I can surely suggest you that don’t confess your love or you hide your love at wrong time. Majorly people do same mistake in love which is, they confess their love when they should hide it and they hide their love when they should confess it. Many lovers get apart due to confessing love or hiding love at wrong time. There is always an opportunity when one must confess his/her love and grab that chance to be with whom he/she wants to be, And there is always a situation where one must hide his/her love and walk away from loved one’ league to see him/her happy. When lovers get apart, they mostly blame on their time or luck or circumstances but actually real fact is different and professor of my graduation college Mrs. Swati Mehta ma’m once told me that real fact which is, “The greatest part of our mistake depends on our dispositions not our circumstances.”

You can precisely understand when you should confess love and when you should hide love once you fall in love.

Let’s fall in love & get the answer…

FB as a new caste...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Tue, 13 Dec 2011 12:09:00 +0000

Each caste has its own rituals and code of conducts. No matter which caste you belong but you will have to have few characteristics of that particular caste. Each caste has positive as well as negative side. But here, I won’t talk on positive or negative side of fb as we all are aware of it but I’ll throw a light on few things which differentiate you as FBian.

Ohhh….facebook!!! This is a new rendezvous for everybody. Everyone is rushing their selves to be on facebook. And whoever is on fb, has unique & common characteristics which differentiate them from non-fb users. Take any caste and analyze it, you will find that people belongs to that caste has to perform some rituals, has to follow some code of conducts and has unique life style from others. People, using fb, are having same characteristics as they have in their caste. FBians rush to update their status e.g. a school boy has not completed his reading and he updates that reading is almost done. I mean FBians are so keen to update their life on fb before they are sure of their current condition. It shows that FBians have uniformity while using facebook and that creates one common group of people which can be entitled as a caste.

Main three characteristics of followers of this caste are Keenness to share & expose, greed of fame and eager to make appearances. You will find these main three characteristics in all addicted FBians. Facebook is temple for FBians where they all meet & interact with each other. Having FB account has become a necessity because other people want you to be in touch through FB only. And this how, FB caste is getting spread very fast.

How do you feel being part of a new caste ??

A letter to my heart...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 12:15:00 +0000

In life, when you are alone, you talk (letter) to yourself (your heart). You describe your problems, likings & frustration to your heart. And your heart starts behaving according to your instructions; it fears if you scare it, it cheers if you amuse it. So, what’s in letter (talk) to your heart does matter a lot. Today’s my article is fully based on advices that what should be in your letter.

You are motivator of your heart. A gloomy, fearful & confused heart needs a motivator. Heart is very quick decision maker. The moment you show a picture of your life, heart behaves immediately what is being shown. Sometime you need to be liar to keep your heart positive. As this fundaa of life has been shown in “3 idiots” in which Ranchhoddas baba says, “heart is very coward, we have to make it fool to keep it away from worries”. Once you start talking on positive outcomes, your heart takes you there only. As proverb says, “You reap what you sow”. You can generate either love or hate in your heart by lettering to heart.

Your heart is made to love what you see in nature. Don’t send complaint letter to your heart, just try to love all moments which embrace you and make you feel that you are alive. When your heart is filled by pleasurable, cheerful and inspiring thoughts; nobody can make you sad.

You should not creep in bad experiences of your past. Your heart desires to experience new incidents & surprises. Write in a letter what you want in your life and talk on those topics with your heart.

So, when are you starting lettering to your heart ???

Our children, Money & Love...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sun, 11 Dec 2011 04:53:00 +0000

“If you ignore them, they will ignore you.”

As children become shoulders of aged parents, Money & love become too. That’s why I name them as our children. If you ignore your any single child (money or love) then you may have insecure future. You can’t have good life if you don’t try to maintain both of them simultaneously. When you treat your children (Money & Love) well, you can make happy family.

Absence of money or love makes your life worthless to live because there are many things which we can get through love or money. If you don’t have love in your life, you will go through “loneliness, trauma, hatred and rejection. And again you will have same condition if you don’t have money. Money increases length of life and love increases quality of life. You demand more length of life when you have love and you demand more quality of life when you have money.

Money gives material things and that prosperity helps to maintain your confidence. Love gives inner peace and that inner peace helps to maintain concentration in your job or business. Now let’s talk on “understanding” which has been found by many people as a solution when situation comes to choose between money and love. Yes, it can be solution but for short period of time till you start balancing money and love in your life. If you fail to balance both of them then not even “understanding” works. And even if “understanding” is being worked in that kind of situation then it may be “compromise” of someone. Now “compromise” can again be solution for long period of time but it depends on person’s choices.

You can’t see clearly by single eye, can’t hear clearly by single ear, can’t breathe properly by single nostril, and the same way you can’t live happily by ignoring your any one child. You’ve got to accept both of them (money & love). So, the matter is, don’t make choice between money and love but make choice of money & love. Try to think from any perspectives or aspects, whether practically or emotionally or rationally or spiritually; Money & love both are needed in life.

I love my children, do you ???

I am Girl not Gala...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 17:05:00 +0000

Well, it is very hard to cover whole story of a girl in one article but though you all will understand what I am emphasizing through this article. As flower blossoms it looks so pretty as new girl child but the difference between new flower and new girl child is girl has to come into the world with permission and flower without permission. Her grandmother & other family members were against but though her mother gave her birth. At that time she was centre of discussion.

Then she grew up little more. Family was discussing whether they should send her school or keep at home hence she could help her mother in house-works. Even this time also, she was centre of family’s discussion.

Then after, she was young girl. While going to college, many boys, standing at gate of college or society or street shop, were staring at her body parts, passing abuse comments. She actually complained but nothing worked out. “Slut walk” in Delhi is recent & best example of girls’ angriness towards few boys’ lust. Again she was centre of discussion.

Now her marriage has fixed. She fell in love in college time but she was been forced to forget that boy to marry her parent’s choice who was from similar class & caste. The boy who was been left, he started thinking, without understanding her, that that girl cheated on him. Unfortunately, she was again the centre of discussion in family and in that boy’s friend’s circle.

Girl is in her in-law house. She adjusted herself with new family & people. Similar caste & class didn’t give her similar love what she had from her father & lover. She was always been outraged by her sister-in-law & mother-in-law. Finally she committed suicide after unbearable violence. In-law house members showed different story to save themselves from being imprisoned. That false story was, “parent-in-law said to media that woman was having relationship with other man and she couldn’t marry him that’s why she committed suicide.” Now she was again the centre of story front of the world by media.

She is also centre of my article.

According to that girl, “I was always been part of their entertainment. It was never been about care but they were afraid of their status & image in society. Nobody thought about my dreams. That’s why I am frustrated and now I have to admit that I am girl not gala…”

All incidents, shown above, may not be part of your life but that doesn’t mean that it is not existed. In last, I want to say something positive to bring improvement in society. The whole sequence of making compromises starts with first compromise. It becomes too hard to break that sequence once you are deep into the whirlpool of compromises. You can come out of it when you recognize a person who is extending his/her hand to get you out of it.

Seek solution...

noreply@blogger.com (Pradip Savaliya) — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 16:52:00 +0000

Last week I met one person who is friend of my friend. He lost his father during his childhood and his uncle had possessed all property after dead of that guy’s father. That young guy didn’t waste all time in crying but he sought the solution of his problem and it was “to stand on own feet”. His story inspired me to write on “seek solution”. People usually cry in problems and there are thoughts which arise in one’s mind when he/she encounters any problem are, “what will happen now?”, “everything is finished”, “I can’t face this” and so on. But one should change his/her perception to bring positive thoughts e.g. “there must be way to get rid of it”, “it can be solved”, “still it is in our hand” and so on.

I am used to see people are crying on their problems. For example, All Indians were discussing on corruption since I remember the movie “baap ek numbri beta das numbri”. But nobody was actually trying to solve this big problem. Since many years many schools-colleges are arranging elocution competitions, debates and group discussions on “corruption in india”. People were just talking on problems but then one person came up with the solution, he is Anna Hazare. I just want to say that people are used to talk on problems instead finding solutions.

I ask you all one question and you will understand the importance of taking action rather just talking on problem. If snake bites you, will you try to revenge on it or will you immediately try to cure that pain?

There is difference between “to talk problem seriously and to take problem seriously”.