Going Solo

Post Pandemic Musings

2023-01-30T19:50:00.001-08:00

Post pandemic for me is still a time of uncertainty. This is because my employment is still on a parttime basis. The company I work with is not yet fully operational as we are dependent on tourists.

I still go out with mask on. Healthwise, mask on works for me as I became asthmatic since 2021. The mask kept me safe from cigarette smoke and air pollution.

Public transportation is now normal. And traffic is back in our city. My kids are now back to face to face classes.

I just hope all will be well this post pandemic.

CONTAINER GARDENING AT HOME

2020-06-10T19:48:00.002-07:00

The quarantine days or months if I may say, allowed us to stay much of our time at home. There are many things that we can do while staying at home. For one, my kids and I painted our kitchen walls and I improved my container gardening.

I am using all sorts of things that I can use as container to plant seeds and cuttings. I used old school bag, ice cream tubs, damaged pails and washtubs among others. I am a believer of reusing and recycling.

The alugbati is easy to grow from cuttings. My tomatoes just kept on growing and flowering but no fruit coming out, chilis are still growing, garlic bulbs are sprouting, Chinese chives are sturdy and has been with me for many years already, spring onions from kitchen scraps are growing well and already been harvested many times. My batwan, a native souring fruit in the Visayas, is doing well. I also have some unidentified vines, not sure if it is squash, melon or pipino.

To fertilize my plants, I water them with rice wash or water used to clean fish. I also do composting using kitchen scraps and leaves coming from my garden. Eggshells are crushed and distributed on plants for calcium. Banana peels soaked in water are also a good fertilizing mixture.

I am a believer of recycling and I made it a practice to use whatever is available in my house that I can use for my urban garden. Having vegetables around your home will save you from spending money on food that you can grow. So, enjoy gardening and plant more veggies. Safe to eat and free from chemicals.

Ciao

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NEW NORMAL IN THE PHILLIPINES!

2020-06-02T05:11:00.009-07:00

What is the new normal in the Philippines? Here’s what I observed during these quarantine days either ECQ or GCQ or MGCQ –

1. Everyone must wear a facemask. It is mandatory as per DILG Memorandum Circular No. 2020-071. I suggest you keep an extra mask in your bag like I did coz earlier I forgot to wear a mask and realized it only when I am already on my way going to somewhere. Luckily, I had the common sense to put an extra mask in my bag days ago. Saved by the bell!

2. All malls, offices, banks, stores, restaurants provide alcohol for our hands whether thru a security guard or self-service.

3. Social distancing is also encouraged and practiced. Jeepneys are required to install a plastic barrier in between passengers and its passenger capacity is only at 50%. Inside the bus, a seat that is good for 3 is required to sit 2 and the seats good for 2, only 1 person can sit. In the malls, banks and passenger terminals, people are asked to line up with a one meter distance from each other. Hence, you have to be early so you can finish all your errands. Some banks limit their client capacity at 100 person per day. Some banks closes at 12noon. And lastly, plastic barriers are everywhere. Can't complain though.

4. ATM card is a must. During the ECQ when no public transportation is available, it was a challenge to us since our location is far from the main economic hub and far from banks. I appreciated it really well that Palawan Money Express accommodates ATM withdrawals with only P15 as service charge like any other ATM’s that does not belong to your bank. Really convenient. Also the use of debit and credit cards limit our exposure to the virus as we don't know the origins of cash during purchases.

5. Internet is also one of the necessary services that we need. Communications, working at home, finding a job online, starting an online business are not the only ones that we can avail from the net. Soon, our kids will have online classes as schools are also gearing up for the opening of classes with kids staying at home for a a quarter or so until a vaccine is found.

6. The need to homeschool our kids will be on the rise. Those who can afford with time and money, enrolling their children in a homeschool program will be the trend. There are already existing homeschool programs in the country.

7. PAYMAYA or GCASH account is very convenient. Why? SSS Wage Subsidies sent their payouts to PAYMAYA. Need a load for your prepaid sim? No need to find a loader, you can load your mobile phone through Paymaya or GCash at a discounted price. We also paid our electric and internet bills through them. No need to fall in line and no need to worry about transportation and social distancing.

8. Money couriers, I appreciate them. You don't need to go far to meet somebody to hand in cash or receive cash. Just send them through Palawan Express, Cebuana Lhuillier, MLhuiller, RD Cash Padala, LBC Pera Padala among others. Really convenient!

9. Food and goods delivery. Now, this is the top highest grossing service created ever. Those who are in the delivery service are angels. It is really convenient when you are stuck at home and can't go out because of the many limitations brought about by the pandemic.

10. Vegetable garden. Many homes are now into vegetable gardening. There is a rise in the thought that we need to grow our own food so we don't need to go out to buy food and be exposed to the virus. Plus the prices of vegetables slightly increased because there is no delivery coming from different sources. Some lost their jobs but still need to feed a family. Vegetable gardening can greatly help to lessen hunger or food poverty.

We can only dream of our past normal lives. What we have now with the new normal, we have to accept, adapt and adjust.

Lastly, infected or not, let us continue to be thankful to our Creator that we are still here on earth, still alive and still enjoying time spent with our family and friends. Forced leave, lost job, no work no pay, need to find a new job are just temporary. Soon we will have a new beginning. Caio!

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I'm back!

2020-05-13T22:48:00.002-07:00

Wow! It's been almost 6 years since my last post in this blog. Allow me to say, it's been one hell of a roller coaster ride in the past years. And, here I am, amidst the Covid-19 scare that kept us at home for the last 2 months. It's been my wish to stay home and take care of the kids instead of taking care of other people's business. Well, I got my wish but yeah! Sadly, there is no salary!

Staying at home means cooking, cleaning, gardening, sleeping, eating, watching movies and kdrama series, lying in bed the whole afternoon, etc. I also get to go out sometimes to buy food supplies during my allowed days - TTHS as per number coding system of our city. Odd number of the last digit for our Quarantine Pass gets to go out on MWF. Mine is Even number so I can go out during TTHS.

My family has been following the government's mandate to stay home and to only go out if necessary. Covid-19 is an unseen enemy and we will never know where and when we can get infected. As of today, May 14, 2020, no vaccine or medicine has been found to cure those who are infected.

Almost all of us had been affected by this crisis. Luckily, my eldest daughter is working from home and still earns a salary. In my case, since April 2020, I am already on a no work, no pay status. We are expecting to go back to work on July. However, with the current global pandemic, I don't think we can go back to work right away. Our clients are 100% foreigners and I don't think they will be confident enough to travel to other countries in the next 6 months so goodluck to me!

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MAGNA CARTA FOR FILIPINO WOMEN

2013-09-19T00:27:00.003-07:00

I recently discovered through a colleague of mine that there is a Magna Carta for Filipino women. Republic Act 9710 protects and recognize women in the workplace and promote women's rights.

Here are the salient features of the law taken from the website of the Philippine Commission on Women http://pcw.gov.ph/law/republic-act-9710:

Increasing the number of women in third level positions in government to achieve a fifty-fifty (50-50) gender balance within the next five years while the composition of women in all levels of development planning and program implementation will be at least 40 percent;
Leave benefits of two (2) months with full pay based on gross monthly compensation for women employees who undergo surgery caused by gynecological disorders, provided that they have rendered continuous aggregate employment service of at least six (6) months for the last twelve (12) months;
Non-discrimination in employment in the field of military, police and other similar services that include according the same promotional privileges and opportunities as their men counterpart, including pay increases, additional benefits, and awards, based on competency and quality of performance.
Provision for equal access and elimination of discrimination in education, scholarships, and training. Thus, "expulsion, non-readmission, prohibiting enrollment, and other related discrimination of women students and faculty due to pregnancy out of marriage shall be outlawed.
Non-discriminatory and non-derogatory portrayal of women in media and film to raise the consciousness of the general public in recognizing the dignity of women and the role and contribution of women in family, community, and the society through the strategic use of mass media;
Equal status given to men and women on the titling of the land and issuance of stewardship contracts and patents.

Solo parents like me and women at that, rejoice in this law because we'll never really know what and when sickness comes to us. Having a protection of a special leave benefit in case of a surgical procedure due to a gynecological disorder is a tremendous help for a person whose a lone breadwinner of the family. Hospitalization nowadays cost a lot and we need all the financial assistance that we can get.

God bless everyone!

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Solo Parent's Welfare Act or R.A. 8972

2013-06-27T21:39:00.003-07:00

I recently came across an article from the National Census Office about the Solo Parent's Welfare Act or R.A. 8972.

This law aims to develop a comprehensive package of social development and welfare services for solo parents and their children to be carried out by the Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD).

Here's the site: http://www.census.gov.ph/content/q-solo-parents-welfare-act-and-parental-leave

To summarize - Any solo parent whose income in the place of domicile falls below the poverty threshold as set by the National Economic and Development Authority (NEDA) and subject to the assessment of the DSWD worker in the area shall be eligible for assistance. A Solo Parent can directly inquire from the following agencies to avail of their services:

1. Health Services (DOH)

2. Educational Services (CHED, TESDA)

3. Housing (NHA)

4. Parental Leave (Employer, DOLE, CSC) Solo parent whose income is above the poverty threshold shall enjoy only such limited benefits as flexible work schedule, parental leave and others to be determined by the DSWD.

In my case, since my salary is above the poverty threshold of P5,458.00 per month, my solo parent privilege consists of flexible work schedule, free from work discrimination and parental leave of 7 days a year only.

Here's another site that you may want to check out:

http://www.lawphil.net/statutes/repacts/ra2000/ra_8972_2000.html

I'm glad that the Philippine government is doing something with regards to our sector in the society.

Aja solo parents!

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TURNING 42

2013-06-24T04:02:00.002-07:00

This year is my 42nd. And this year proves to be really challenging for my sake. Firstly, my 2 kids were turned over by their father to me. For some reasons, he gave them up and transferred the responsibility of their welfare to me of which he proudly hold for the last two years and five months that we've separated. He even had the nerve to tell me that " now you know how difficult it is to raise the kids up on your own." Not thinking that when we were together, how difficult it was for me to raise up three kids and at the same time deal with an irresponsible and alcoholic partner. Good thing though is that my kids are finally with me and even if its financially difficult for me being a solo parent, having them in one roof is reward enough.

Secondly, I had to deal with a small space of a house. Good thing though there are kind and generous souls who helped me in my hour of need. I was able to extend our kitchen without knowing that a few weeks after it will be very useful. We're full house now because my mother is staying with us temporarily.

Thirdly, my mother got sick and she needs to stay in my house for awhile until her strength comes back. A bit difficult when my siblings are not there because I have my house and kids to think of at the same time. My weekends are full. My weekdays starts at 4am and ends at the 10pm when I'm supposed to be in bed at 8 so I can wake up at 4. Everyday is a grind really. Good thing though when my siblings are there and taking care of our mom because that leaves me to do other things in the house. My kids, well, sometimes they help, sometimes they don't. Moreso, when I give them something to do, I will hear a lot of "you're supposed to do this, you're supposed to do that" and other blah blah blahs.

Fourthly, I incur a lot of lates and absences at work because of concerns with regards to my mom. I appreciate the fact that my superior understands my situation at the moment.

Lastly, I am still having difficulty straightening my finances. It's hard to maintain a budget moreso a savings. And I incur additional borrowings through my salary to help pay off mom's hospital bill.

Stress headache, numbness on my right cheek, body aches and pains. Pressure on bill payments and time.Turning forty two is not really that bad but the challenges I face daily, if my faith in God is not strong enough, can turn me into a pulp.

As I told my friends, I am not afraid of what's happening with my life/family right now because "these too shall pass" and God is leading and guiding my way to victory.

Solo parents are awesome people!

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Bacolaodiat 2013

2013-02-12T02:14:00.001-08:00

For eight years now, Bacolod City where I live has been celebrating the Chinese New Year with a bang! It is becoming a tradition for both Chinese descent Filipinos and Filipinos to celebrate the turn of the lunar year. I myself loved the festivities with all the colorful street decors, gimmicks, promos, fireworks and entertainments as provided by the organizers. Lacson Street in Bacolod City is again closed for three (3) consecutive nights just for the festivities.

This year is the Year of the Snake. My second daughter Ceci was born on the year of the snake. And, so I took this opportunity to have her pictures taken with the different snake lanterns that were being displayed at the Capitol Lagoon Park.

This one is huge!

This one is my favorite...made of capiz shells,
the lights inside the snake lantern made it look like its burning.

Light is too low ^^

this snake is curled up in a temple

this gold snake has gold coins around it

uhm....teacher snake?

this one has a mechanical head that's moving left and right...cool!

this snake is made of wood bits and covered with christmas lights ^^

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1960's PARTY

2013-01-24T00:33:00.002-08:00

Although this is late, I'd like to share with you the events I attended last December 2012. December is such a busy month to most of us and I am always looking forward to the Christmas parties and festivities. For last year's EGC (English for Global Communications) Christmas Party, our theme was the 1960's.....rock n'roll, the Supremes, Elvis Presley, Jackie Kennedy, bell-bottom pants, tie-dye, batik, pageboy flip, among others.

This is how we look during the party!

mini dress and Audrey Hepburn style

The rock n'roll girls

pretty pretty girls

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HEALTHY PANDESAL

2013-01-23T23:36:00.001-08:00

I am always on the look-out for healthy and affordable food. And I found this healthy pandesal in one of my weekend trip in my hometown Hinigaran. Carol Jean a souvenir shop located along Rizal Street and just in front of Madeleine Academy sells these pandesal infused with malunggay leaves and carrot bits. Believe it or not, these "pandesals" costs P1 each. Healthy and affordable indeed.

Pandesal with malunggay

Carol Jean's other variation of pandesal

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Outreach Activity with Classmates

2012-12-28T03:15:00.001-08:00

In celebration of our 25th Silver Year Anniversary as graduates of La Consolacion School Hinigaran and now known as Madeleine Academy, my classmates and I conducted a christmas outreach and medical activity for the children of Bulubito-on Beach in Hinigaran, Negros Occidental. Eighty (80) kids were given a gift pack and slippers each during the gift giving activity and sixteen (16) were circumsized. Snacks was served and lots of goodies were given away during the games and raffle event.

old clothes, books, toys and rice were gathered for the children

packing day

the kids dancing the Oppa Gangnam Style dance

My nurse classmates doing what they do best...so proud of them!

My classmates and I with the baranggay staff...tired but happy!

Thank you classmates for sending us cash donations and used items. My heartfelt gratitude to those who came and served. Love you LCS Batch 1988!

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Ceci & PJ's Christmas Party

2012-12-28T02:47:00.001-08:00

Every year my kids' school hold their primary and intermediate christmas party outside of the school. At the same time, an educational trip is included such as a visit to the orphanage or a museum. This year, a visit to the Red Cross was made and they're off to Campuestohan Highland Resort for their party.

Ceci and her classmates showing off their gifts received
from their manita or manito (special person)

PJ, friends and classmates

Bonding with classmates and friends

Clowning with Santa

Campuestohan Highland Resort is a new mountain resort found in the highlands of Talisay City. This is my second time to visit the place and the development still continues. However, the mountain ranges and scenic views never ceases to take my breath away. Campuestohan is such a beautiful place.

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Christmas Wedding

2012-12-27T06:12:00.001-08:00

December has always been full of invitations and events for most of us and weddings are one of them. Recently, my daughters and I attended the wedding of a dear friend and officemate, Lenie. My daughter Michelle was one of the bridesmaids and as always, she's one of the prettiest ^^ .....

with the newly-wed couple, Mr. & Mrs. Roque Ben and Lenie Camarines Ayubo

Took this shot at the lobby of East View Hotel while waiting for our transport.

My take on the wedding entertainment.
Memory gap! I should have stayed in my seat! Gosh!

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5 STEPS TO MAKE CARAMELIZED SUGAR FOR UPSIDE DOWN PINEAPPLE CAKE

2012-09-28T00:35:00.001-07:00

STEP 1 - Pour sugar on a baking tin and cook directly on top of a gas stove

STEP 2 - Melt sugar using low heat if you're a first timer

STEP 3 - Add butter so as not to harden the sugar

STEP 4 - Stir continuously until sugar and butter is melted
into a not so liquid consistency

STEP 5 - Add desired toppings

This is the Butter Cake Mixture use in the Upside Down Pineapple Cake

Pour batter mixture on top of the caramelized sugar and bake

The final product. Yummy!

I got this technique from my cooking class teacher,

Mrs. Monina Jodit of Bacolod City National High School.

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COOKING LESSON

2012-09-15T05:10:00.001-07:00

I recently enrolled in a General Cookery class with a friend of mine in our city. The class is being held every Saturday at the Bacolod City National High School and is conducted by Mrs. Monina P. Judit. Every year the BCNHS offers various special classes such as General Cookery, Cosmetology, Dressmaking, Driving and Automotive. The whole course costs P250 and will take us around 15 Saturdays, more or less. Quite cheap and we have to contribute every Saturday for the food ingredients for P50 or more.

So far, I learned how to make the chiffon cake, white cloud (gelatin), morcon, mango cake, butter icing and tuna fettuccine. I am not an expert in the kitchen so attending Mrs. Judit's class is an eye-opener for me. Especially for the baking session since I own an oven and a mixer but I haven't make use of them fully. I did try to bake a cake and some muffins based on a recipe book but I lack the technique, so I find the cooking class really helpful. For one, I don't know what a soft peak and a hard peak for beating eggs is until now.

Me, sifting the flour mixture

Our group's finish product - Chiffon Cake

Morcon

Our group's Baked Tuna Fettuccine

Our finished Mango Cake ready for chilling
and with my daughter Ceci

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HOBBY EXPO 2012

2012-09-10T17:35:00.001-07:00

SUPER FRIENDS

MY FAVORITE STAR WARS COLLECTIBLES

THE HOBBY EXPO SIGN AT ROBINSON'S PLACE

PREDATORS' COLLECTION ITEMS

BARBIE DOLLS IN DIFFERENT FILIPINIANA COSTUMES

PJ & MANANG YAN-YAN IN FRONT OF THE SUPER FRIENDS

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TWILIGHT

2012-09-10T15:45:00.002-07:00

I've been reading the Twilight series lately. I’m done with Twilight and New Moon, and now I’m starting with Eclipse. It helps that I’ve seen the first two movie flicks. It is easy to picture out the characters, Forks, the Swan and Cullen’s house.

It’s been awhile since I’ve read my last novel and the Twilight Series (thanks to my daughter Michelle, she was able to get hold of all four books of Stephenie Meyer) proves to be an entertainment during Sunday afternoons when it gets boring.

I admire Stephenie Meyer’s imagination and I wonder where she got her inspiration to write these books. Vampires and werewolves, well, one can do research about them but to weave it into a love story with a human. How is it possible? Bella’s character certainly is a product of psychological studies on human behavior.

Ms. Meyer succeeded in making the novels suspenseful but less of a horror. That’s what I like about her books since I don’t like horror stories. I don’t even have nightmares about vampires and werewolves. The movies even have the same effect. Not horrific and very much entertaining.

I like Alice Cullen’s character, she’s so into Bella and ever supportive to her brother Edward. Training oneself not to be affected by the smell of human blood, become a vegetarian of sort in the vampire world and be able to merge with humans on a daily basis, Carlisle Cullen is one most admirable vampire there is.

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La Salle Bacolod Fun Run, Walk, Bike 2012

2012-08-17T02:40:00.001-07:00

I recently joined the opening salvo of my college alma mater, the University of St. La Salle Bacolod, in celebration of her 60th anniversary. We made to choose on walking, running or biking on separate locations that ended at the football field of the university.

I chose run since I've been doing walking for quite sometime now and I'd like to test my endurance on running. Well, I ended up doing the half run, half walk thing. We started at the New Government Center of Bacolod City and had to navigate the sea of participants that joined in. It was fun, especially when you're running with people you know from the university.

with Arlene and Joemarie of the USLS Alumni Association

running buddies

the throng of runners mostly students from USLS

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MAY 2012

2012-08-14T00:14:00.002-07:00

The month of May 2012 proved to be a month of outings for me and my kids. Our company celebrated summer at the Northland Resort in Manapla, then, I was fortunate to be invited by my friend Grace to join their company outing at the mountains of Patag in Silay City, and the promised Manila trip for my daughter Michelle courtesy of her father. Such is the life of a solo parent ^^

My children with their cousins and Mama Mel during our company outing

Ceci & PJ celebrating their 11th and 9th birthday ^^

My beautiful friend Grace during our Patag outing

Lucky me, joining the weekend outing of the
Sagay Central Bacolod staff and their families.

Happy to have met Bro. Bo Sanchez personally with my daughter Michelle.
Its SOP that he signs books/autographs and pose for souvenir
pictures after the feast at the PICC every Sunday.

View of Rizal Park and Luneta on the 22nd floor of the
Manila Pavilion. Awesome!

For each new morning with its light,

For rest and shelter of the night,

For health and food, for love and friends,

For everything Thy goodness sends.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Tree Planting at Don Salvador Benedicto

2012-07-25T19:42:00.001-07:00

I was fortunate to have been invited by a friend of mine to go on a tree planting activity in the mountains of Don Salvador Benedicto. I have nothing to do over the weekend so I immediately said yes and happily joined the group of teachers from Fr. Gratian Murray Integrated School of Brgy. Granada. We left Bacolod City in the early morning with teachers from other government schools of the city.

I planted three (3) saplings of mahogany tree and I am so delighted to have done my share of preserving nature in the mountains of Negros.

CHOOSING MY SAPLINGS

CAN YOU SEE THE TREE I PLANTED?

THE HILL WHERE WE PLANTED OUR TREES
I WONDER IF THE 1,000 SAPLINGS PROVIDED FOR
THIS ACTIVITY WERE ALL PLANTED...HMMMMM

MY FRIEND MARILYN CHOOSING HER TREE

AFTER THE TREE PLANTING ACTIVITY, PICTURE TAKING AT THE
PINE TREE FARM WHERE WE ATE OUR LUNCH WITH MARILYN AND LYZA

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MY "HAPPY EVEN AFTER" LIST

2012-05-09T02:17:00.000-07:00

After the expected and long awaited separation from ex, here is my "Happy Even After" list:

I am able to regain my dignity as a person
I regained my self-confidence
Realized a full emotional support from family and friends
Gained new and real friends during the healing process
Able to enjoy short vacations with kids without a KJ or an alcoholic person around
Not bothered with "are you going home or not?", "don't bother to go home" and all the other emotional blackmails used when insecurities and alcohol mixed
Spontaneity fully realized
Learned to take care of myself
On the process of rediscovering myself
Getting comfortable and being used to doing things alone
Able to go on dates with myself
Appreciating the company of girlfriends during girl's night out and ladies only events
Able to proved that a solo parent can manage to maintain a household on a single income albeit with some sacrifices but nonetheless able to survive financial difficulties
Able to proved that faith in God does make a difference in ones uncertainty
Angels does exist in the form of generous, thoughtful and caring souls
Possibilities present itself continuously
Opportunities to improve one's situation are aplenty
Passions are realized little by little
Expanding horizons
Able to sympathize and connect with individuals who have the same concerns as mine
Able to help others through sharing one's experience
Being an inspiration to someone without knowing it
Now, looking forward to another chapter of my life with a renewed spirit and confidence

What's your "Happy Even After" list?

MY COPY OF THE "HAPPY EVEN AFTER: A SOLO MOM'S JOURNAL"

2012-05-04T01:43:00.001-07:00

I recently acquired a book entitled "Happy Even After: A Solo Mom's Journal" made specifically yes, for solo moms like me. The journal has inspiring short stories and tips from famous solo moms in the Philippines and one of them is somebody whom I admired most, award-winning children’s book author Jean Lee Patindol.

I found the journal very helpful and inspiring. Reading how solo moms managed theirs and children's lives alone. I learned that there's a Solo Parent Act passed by Congress. And, I am able to reflect on how to have a "happy even after" life for me too.

I already started jotting down my random thoughts on the blank pages of the journal and I am looking forward to more readings such as this. Who knows? Maybe soon I will share my own Happy Even After Story.

To Miss Jean, thank you for my free copy. Truly I'm blessed.

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20 Things I Am Grateful of in the First Quarter of 2012

2012-04-17T03:38:00.004-07:00

A lot of things had happened in my family and personal life for the first three months of 2012. I am grateful to God for granting me answers to prayers, blessings, unexpected happy events and much more than I expected. So here it goes... Thank you Lord for --

1. The school family day - much to my joy, the 2 younger kids stayed with me over the weekend during this school activity.

2. The bonding time with the mothers of my kids' classmates. I don't always have the luxury of time to be with them - mothers who chose to be homemakers instead of career women.

3. The realization that my son is already on the verge of manhood when I caught him having a chat with an older girl student who happens to have a crush on him ^^

4. The continued safety of my family when all I can read in the daily newspapers were hold-ups, accidents, rape, killings.

5. The financial help that comes from out of nowhere. I was able to hurdle the end of school year expenses and utility bills.

6. The food on our table.

8. My daughter Michelle's high school graduation. I guess its one down and two more to go.

9. The continued tuition support for Michelle's college tuition from my employer. Thank you Lord!

10. The bonding moments with my cousins and friends ^^

11. My Daddy's checking up on me.

12. Yan-Yan's getting 3rd place in the Our Lady of Lourdes Parish Search for Hara 2012 without not much expense on our part, and the support of neighbors, friends and family during this event.

13. The peaceful death of my brother in law.

14. The graceful demeanor of my sister in her sorrow.

15. The gift of family presence when death and health problem comes.

16. The tree planting activity with my friend Marilyn in the town of Don Salvador Benedicto.

17. The bonding moments with my friend Marilyn and co-teachers at the town of Don Salvador Benedicto such as eating lunch under the pine trees.

18. The gift of time, renewal and healing.

19. The gift of love and friendship.

20. The presence of someone whom I lost, somehow had been there all the while, taking the time to renew ties, processing emotional hurts, possible ending of an unfinished chapter and a start of a new one.

Thessalonians 5:16-18

Rejoice evermore. Pray without ceasing. In everything give thanks:

for this is the will of God.

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SOMETIMES

2012-04-09T01:23:00.001-07:00

Sometimes its hard to be accommodating.
Sometimes its hard to be always on top of every situation.

Sometimes its nice to just give up.
Sometimes its better to fight.

Sometimes its easy to be selfish.
Sometimes its nice to be giving.

Sometimes its better to be alone.
Sometimes its nice to have somebody at your side.

Sometimes its hard to be strong.
Sometimes its nice to let somebody take over.

Sometimes you don't want more pain.
Sometimes its better to be wounded.

Sometimes its easy to let go, sometimes its hard.

Sometimes when all is said and done,
Sometimes what matters most is the love that you gave.
Sometimes fleeting, sometimes forever.
Sometimes free, sometimes earned.

A New Chapter In My Daughter's Life

2012-03-31T01:32:00.000-07:00

I am delighted to share with you the high school graduation of my daughter Michelle. With all the circumstances that surround her well-being, I can't help but feel glad that finally she's done with high school and soon will be finding her place in this world.

I also cannot help it but feel proud of her because she's a fighter too like her mom. Going to the same university as mine and taking a course same as mine, she's indeed my daughter.

To you Yan, life maybe cruel at times, it may not be what you want it to be, it may bring you joy, it may cause you to fall down, it may lead you to success, it may be hard, it may be easy but you must remember wherever your life's adventure brings you, your family will always be your comfort and strength. We may not be complete but when two or three of us are together....that's HOME.

I love you my daughter. I may not always be at your side but remember that you have my character and strength. I have survived and so will you.

Mama