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Pickles in India

2016-05-20T01:32:00.001-07:00

Indian Pickles are generally pickled with oil, vinegar, lemon juice or water which are the most common ingredients. It remains one of the oldest and most popular serving along the main course for generations. Although some families have their own unique recipes to pickles, there are few types of pickles in India:

Amla Pickle:

Amla or Indian gooseberries, as they are called, they are prepared by pressurizing gooseberries inside a cooker.Then mustard seeds are tempered in oil and gooseberries and then other ingredients are added. Amlas are nutritiously rich in Vitamin C, A , calcium and phosphorus.

Carrot Pickle:

Carrot pickle is another popular pickle created by slicing Carrots into cubes and adding pepper salt along with ginger which gives it a tangy taste.It is most popular in Andhra and is a typical meal along with rice and dal.

Green Chilli Pickle:

Green Chilli Pickle is mainly produced in Rajasthan and used as condiment along dishes. Green chilli’s are cut length wise and fried with garlic and ginger. Green Chilli pickle tastes best along with snacks which make them even more tastier.

Mango Pickle:

Mango pickle remains undoubtedly the most popular pickle in India. It is sliced raw and grated. Then mixed with salt and turmeric and let it sit for couple of days. Mango pickle remains my most favorite of all pickles.

Lemon Pickle:

Lemons are cut into half and mixed along with salt and sugar syrup. Then it is allowed to marinate for a week or so. Lemon pickle taste tangier as they are marinated more over a period of time.

Tomato Pickle:

This is also a popular pickle in India. The pickle is prepared by cooking ripe tomatoes and adding spices along with the mustard powder.

Mixed Assorted Pickles:

They are referred to as mixed Pickles which consists of all the vegetables/fruits mentioned above.

Pickles have a long shell life. They can be transported and easily served along with any Chapati or rice. They remain as one of the popular food during travel, picnics or camping.

If you are going to buy pickles it is advised that you buy it online since, it’s completely authentic and you can get a variety of pickles to choose form. You can buy Pickles online at this website.

What a mother says to her heart-broken son !

2014-01-17T08:11:00.000-08:00

“I know I shouldn’t still interfere with your life. I will still not.. today.” A 50 year old mother still speaks with the same pain that she can recollect when he bled himself in an accident in his childhood.

He had a cold look on his face not wanting to speak with his mother. He refused to pay attention towards her. All he wanted was the “space” thing which his mother was ignorant of.

“I can never forget the time when one day you suddenly seemed so happy.” Mother continued. “I could actually guess what happened . Your incessant talking on phone. Checking for the message every time. Suddenly the phone which was our phone became your phone. You locked it away and remained cautious of any one going close to it. I knew it was a yes from her. Who was she? Never knew.”

“Then on your birthday you brought your friends. All seven of them, who had a great bash that day. But, you looked confused. You constantly searched for someone and I could see from her eyes as she assured you her presence. She was the one I knew. Long beautiful hair. Dove shaped eyes and a perfect peacock colored kurta perfectly dressed over her tenous body.”

“That night you slept at two am, constantly running into the balcony for phone coverage. All I knew yes! You were in love. Two years your face glowed like a sun. I always wanted you to have your ‘space’. Hehe”

“After all what is permanent? I could see all those signs of happiness which once engraved your face melting away slowly. I decided to leave those problems to you since you might get embarrassed discussing it with me. I was once tempted to ask you after I heard you sobbing under the blanket.”

“Then one day everything stopped. I learnt, she left you. The history repeated as always. ‘A girl leaves a boy heartbroken’. I never knew why? It didn’t matter to me. All that mattered to me was that your health deteriorated as you lost your appetite. You stopped exercising. Stomach ulcers frequently caught you up. You breathed less and got exhausted easily.”

“At times you laughed so much. At times you stayed aloof in the corner near the window. In the dark while we had dinner, you wrapped it up as a ritual.”

“The phone stopped ringing and the frequent message tone which once irritated me, were nowhere to be heard. I knew it was a disaster! That something had definitely changed.”

“You didn’t cry that day. Something was definitely on your mind I knew. That warm afternoon I asked you to sleep. As you lied on the bed thinking , I went fast asleep.”

“A terror woke me up as if I was still in the dream. Someone banged the door so hard and frequent, my ears turned deaf and eyes so awake as if they never slept. I searched for you with fear but you were nowhere. I really got scared.”

“It was Rita aunty. Someone had jumped from the terrace she said. Why it had to be my son?”

The mother sobbed like a child. And she cried until her eyes burnt red.

“That girl you died for! She has got another boyfriend. It isn’t her mistake though. Life will move on for her. For me? It will get stuck for ages to come. It is always every mother’s will to die of old age in the arms of her child. And when those arms are no longer there, I will die every moment until finally I will breathe my last without any resistance.”

They all lifted his body for cremation as she hugged and kissed his cheek for the last time. Memories of her son holding her hand for the first time, when she was joyful when he put his first schoolbag on his shoulder.

Her nerves weakened as mother wanted to see this all as a bad dream. Her mind went dizzy. She fainted…

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Why your child isn't still a genius!

2014-01-11T21:28:00.002-08:00

Where have all those children gone, who were once termed very bright for their small age. We were surprised at their capability of reciting Hanuman chalisa till the end. We predicted if their grasping power and intelligence grew at the same rate their IQs and aptness will rocket through the roof of heaven.

What I found after ten years that the same children who were now in their teen age had already resorted to alcohol and smoking. They were frustrated with their life and those once termed geniuses failed even to get 35 in their academics.

If you are proud of your cute niece who is mastermind , it is definitely a good news. But, the bad news is that simply being a genius in the childhood doesn’t conclude their success in the future. I am always surprised by this kind of pattern that happens in everyday society. I am sure you must have seen the same.

So does their intellect evaporate or it is a medical science which says ‘A lot of brain cells are destroyed as you transit to adulthood’? Their brain cells definitely don’t die. Growing from the infant stage it interacts with lots of things in the environment. The brain records each and every activity it encounters. As soon as it finds something pleasurable, it is motivated to do more of it . May it be sketching, science related experiments or socio-economic related topics.

Interests may vary which will also depend upon the environment being able to convince whether it is interesting or not.

There are thousands of cases where a boy started taking interest in mathematics just because his professor was successful in changing his attitude towards it. It is definitely possible.

Is it ok to conclude that children should be left to live the life the way they want? Probably not, because even if it happens so a certain kind of insecurity dreads in the corner of your heart as a parent. If a child finds stealing pleasurable should it be left as it is by parents thinking it is just his choice?

After brain storming and going through all the researches done all over the years, the only thing is could say is forcing , resistance, scolding and punishing are all the cruel forms of guiding a child .These things definitely feel good in short term . But, if you measure its effect in long term,a danger definitely hovers the future. And that’s why you will mostly find the drunkards, rebels, violent ones, Casanovas in the families holding conventional traditions with a rod in their hand.

A mental capacity is molded through all the experiences it undergoes throughout life. Not just what once it possessed in it's childhood determines it.

A child definitely to be guided . He should be shown a way and made aware about the consequences if he chooses that path. But, to forcefully make him walk over it just because you feel it is right one(from your experiences) debars the opportunities for a child’s own exploration.

Allowing him to make mistakes seems appropriate. To let him wander before he finds a route is perhaps the viable thing. Of course it is all scary.That is how a life grows and expecting a child to grow without failing, violates the basic principle that ‘ To rise you have to fall’.

May be as we are not here forever, next time he is alone, you won’t be there when the child faces a disaster. It would be better to think in long term and make him strong now itself on it’s own heels, instead later regret, after a storm in his life has already shattered him to pieces.

The curious case of Lulu

2013-12-31T21:09:00.001-08:00

A trainee psychologist was visiting a mental hospital. A resident doctor accompanied him for the rounds.

In the first block he saw a patient moving this chair back and forth as he mumbled “Lulu, Lulu , Lulu , Lulu..”

“What brought this person here?” Asked the trainee psychologist .

“It is a very sad story” explained the resident doctor “There was this girl named Lulu whom he loved but, she dumped him”

“Oh that’s very sad” the trainee concluded. “Love is an emotion if failed, can cause the highest degree of insanity!”

Moving on to the another room he saw another inmate banging his head on the wall every time he mourned “Lulu, Lulu , Lulu , Lulu..”

The trainee was astounded “Lulu surely must have been really beautiful that her separation indeed victimized so many” he commented “Such a pity”

The doctor answered “No, you are wrong, he is the one who married Lulu!”

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I have seen people losing their teen life and getting addicted for a temporary escape from this burdening feeling of separation. It is not the end of the world. If for some reason you are rejected, it opens up new possibilities in your life.

People usually dump their ambitions for the sake of rejection from their lover. They overlook that the others who care are standing behind you, are expecting you to look back, ready with their arms open. They are parents, your friends ( or may be another person who is still loving you!! )

5 Engineering Myths Busted!

2013-11-30T07:56:00.001-08:00

Don’t think me as a guru or mentor. I am just your senior friend trying to help you out. I am sure this will save your life !

Myth #1: If you are an exam ranker you will be recruited first; then your fellows !

Your friends start acting weird just before exams. The corridors choke with jealousy. The silence within your group is not often of the exam pressure but the feeling that you might surpass them if they help you. You also don’t want others to benefit from the notes you yourself created.

If you are all steaming around like this, stop now and help each other to pass the basic criteria which is mostly 60% and at the most 65% in big companies . You won’t be tested by your rank but your aptitude, your soft skills and how you sell yourself. Read books and surf for developing these skills. You will definitely thank me later for you will impact 1000 times more even with basic technical knowledge than that of the bookworm sitting in front of your bench.

Myth # 2: Every engineer graduate gets minimum Rs.35, 000 pay scale and keeps increasing forever.

Well, not everyone is lucky in campus recruitments. Sorry to sound hopeless. Most of the fresher engineer graduates I have asked work in the pay scale of Rs.6000 to 12000. You may feel I am exaggerating the fact. Company saves a lot of their expenditure by employing experienced one rather than a fresher who only knows the theory which they have studied overnight.

At times they also prefer private certified technicians who are a lot cheaper than a fresher.

You can still increase your chances hugely by doing internships, industrial visits and doing practical courses from professional institutes. This is the only way I know. That cramming theory and attending lecture hardly helps.

Myth # 3: Post graduation is compulsory!

If you don’t want to do it, why do it? Practical education is the highest form of education. You will be immediately in demand if your resume is packed with the practical experiences (that’s a promise). Companies are so selfish that they just want to know what you will be of use to them. So prepare that way. They don’t care about your life.

Some students just can’t afford PG fees. It doesn’t mean they have will have lesser pay. I told you what you need in the first and second point itself. I am not against post-graduation but don’t make it like gulping down a lump of dry grass just because everyone is .

Myth # 4: You can’t change your carrier during or after engineering.

If you feel you don’t have a passion for engineering then you can take a leave. I know it is easy to say difficult to follow but, when you get a drop, sit at home and finally anticipate your results for next sem! It turns more dreadful.

A friend of mine frustrated by this education dropped out and opted for another course where she is a topper. She knew her heart wasn’t in it.

You relatives will say. “Woah! That is the only thing you going to do all your life!” It’s not true. I have friends who have turned professional photographers, professors, business men and actors. Well, they are all engineers and they are all earning handsomely. We might not like the notion of continuing the same.

Myth # 5 : After Engineering do MBA or MS and you will have a beautiful life ahead.

I don’t know who said it. We all fear failure out of our beliefs.We think, what we are thinking is not the secure way. But , the fact is as you get out of engineering every one including aunts,friends and parents will bombard with suggestions they feel are correct but as a matter of fact, keep believing yourself… your theory !! And that is going to save you. Not your degree.

Education it seems has turned into a business and that is the fact I always hated. We have lost the most integral part of our self. Belief ! If you believe something chase until you attain it. Every one has different definition for success!You should have your own. If you don't then even a Phd degree cant save you.

There are lots of things to say, you will come across frustration before success in every part of your life. But, the only thing that will matter is whether it is your passion? Or just because everyone did it!

Stop PLEASING start LIVING !

2013-11-22T05:51:00.000-08:00

I have come to a realization that I can only write blogs if I feel strong enough about it. And this is one such topic I shall brood.

If you ever ask what is the biggest mistake of our life? It’s “pleasing others”. From long time in order that a person can fit himself into the society and gain acceptance he pleases others even if it goes against his will.

Mother told Harshada that she should be pursuing medical studies so that she can make her proud in front of all the relatives, when her only interest she felt was in mass communications. But, as a matter of fact her habit of saying “Yes” to everything came into picture. Only so that the relatives could be happy she drove himself against her passion and pursued medical side. What was to happen? She suffocated like her head was forced into a bucket of water.

She managed to make her happy at the cost of herself. But, she never knew one day she will writhe in pain just as a fish suffocating on a terrestrial land. She finally drove herself to suicide.

The art of pleasing is often a curse. It benefits them at the cost of your destruction. You sell your self esteem for free and become nothing less than a bathroom rug.

My friend Manish came to me for a girl’s advice. He loved that girl so much, that he did everything that she said to him. He tried to please her in every way so that he could hear that magical “Yes!” from her. He laughed at her every foolish joke. She asked for mobile recharges, excused him of not having money so he could pay bill during pizza dinners. She even went to length of asking him to write her hefty assignments. The funny part was when there would be no work she would ignore him. Manish was badly disturbed and was under heavy dose of emotional drive. I asked him to stop moving behind her a like a dog.

Miracle happened.With his increased ignorance came her attention. It questioned herself whether she no longer looked pretty and returned back craving for Manish’s attention. But, he continued his ignorance and finally she felt for him. She proposed him. But as a matter of fact he rejected her. He knew she wasn’t the one.

There are countless examples some of which you can derive from your own life!

Often you say no to society and people around you . And you earn yourself hefty profits, win true friends, lead an example and live a life of freedom. And these people include Einstein, Columbus,Mahatma Gandhi & business tycoons like Rockfeller .

In surge of pleasing others people marry the wrong person, choose different carriers, strike a bad business deal and sloth like a cattle all their life?

Why? When just one “No” can do things. Accepted it doesn’t look better at that moment. But, we are the animals of instant gratification.

We want quick money, quick success , quick learning and quick acceptance.

But this is not living at all !!! As a matter of fact have having self belief always works. No one on this earth has born with the correct way of doing things. It’s simply their way of doing things. And when you say yes to these suggestions , your future potential begins to rot.

So stop being a Mr./Mrs. Nice and live the way u believe for you don't want to be following a horde of goats slowly proceeding inside the slaughter house.

“You have only one life to love. Live as if one is 

enough..”
- Unknown 

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Fasting unto death with Android

2013-11-15T07:55:00.002-08:00

"Soon silence will have passed into legend. Man has turned his back on silence. Day after day he invents machines and devices that increase noise and distract humanity from the essence of life, contemplation, meditation" -Jean Arp

Facebook , Android phones and PC games have clogged my brain. My knees hurt and I get pissed off by face to face conversations. My relationships are in a turmoil .My belly is no longer flat and has begun to show curves. My eyes? Oh! they are showing red nerves.

I don’t want to miss out a single notification .I get easily disappointed when that faceook notification is a game request. I just can’t wait to check my watsapp every minute. My wrists pain when I play motion games even while I cross the road and then curse the car driver who almost hit me for not being alert. It feels my surrounding is an illusion and I tend to live in more of virtual reality which is infact for me a reality.

Thumbs weren’t designed for fast movements yet I managed to override nature .I have lost all the common sense and the ability to think for myself. And google for foolish questions like " How to toast a girl?"

I am……… ALONE.

So I have decided to give it up all. Life seems as if it can’t manage without all these electronic crap. I decided to do e-fasting and I have got my life back.

E-Fasting means you abandon all the electronics for one day every month so that you regain your balance with your own conscience.

I am now able to think more clearly, understand my goals and 200 % more efficient at any work.

My relationships are back on track since; nothing can replace face to face conversation.

I get more time for myself and find life fulfilling.

I read books and no longer look into my electronic crap every minute.

I can now 'THINK!!' instead of disabling my brain with google.

Everyone should try e-fasting for one day or more if you want to experience the benefits for yourself.

Do these two steps-

1. Turn off your android phone and switch the sim to a normal phone made only for calling and sms .

2. Deactivate your Facebook account.

All these for a minimum 50 hours.And lo! Win back your life. Everything will slowly dawn upon your mind.

There is no day better than today. So resolve to put off your phones from tomorrow.
Like this page here and share your experiences on this page. Many people have tried this and gained a meaning to their life.You will too.

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How to become an Indian beggar in five easy steps.

2013-10-27T07:33:00.000-07:00

I am so happy you clicked on the link . You are awesome.Now continue.

Step 1: Foul smell attack!!

Scientists have discovered that a man can live without food for 3 weeks and without water for two days. But he can survive without bathing forever, until your nose hair burns off and your body scent incapacitates your brain. You will save nearly 30 hours of your month and your income will increase exponentially. Don’t forget to throw your shampoo bottle down the drainage.

Step 2: Time for your daddy’s t-shirt and that fat aunty’s kurta.

Everyone has one. Borrow them and tear them down to the least of pieces. Girls should dirty their kurta and probably soak their hair in mud. Boys! Make sure you don’t overdo the tearing else the pieces of rag may fall down and your income might rise suddenly. Phate kapde nikla bhikari.

Step 3: Start singing but not like celine dion.

You have to be a ‘garibonka pankaj udhas’ or ‘garibonki phalguni pathak’ . If you sing melodiously, Indians won’t assume you are a beggar. The best thing you can do is start taking vocal classes from ajmer ka mahabhikari located at masjid who teaches songs like ‘pardesi’ and bhojpuri. If you sing rock metal or songs like ‘Kyunki saas bhi kabhi bahu thi’ the public might push you out of train.

Step 4: Wear a costume or become a handicap (fake)

Turn yourself into one of the 33 million Gods and watch your passive income increase sitting at one place. Indians may ignore you but tourists find it amusing. They might hand you a dollar ! 1 dollar= Rs.63 and increasing!! Become a lungda or tungda or andha. It doesn’t matter.

Step 5: Join the beggars mitra mandal.

Not funny but they exist. How much ever we beg there are people who are more experienced then us. Travel all over the suburb and ask them for some tips and tricks. Follow them on meinbhikari.com ( Jus jokin!) . If they get happy by your quick grasping they might gift you their katora. ‘Jaa beta duniya jeet le’

Some tips and warnings:

1. Don’t sit on the railway platform without a platform ticket. E-special tip for beginners.TC se panga nahi.

2. A beggar only begs, never steals. So don’t ruin your dignity and adhere to the strict norms of WBO. ( World beggar organization)

Anyone who follows these steps has a promising career. Some day you will look back and see how things have changed. Tears will tremble down your eyes. You have certainly made yourself proud!(Just jokin again. Wait! Isn't this entire post a joke?)

GIRLS ! please dont do this when it happens!

2013-10-06T06:32:00.000-07:00

I am not writing this post for the sake of entertainment but, with some turbulence in my heart. All of this because I witnessed something really terrible.

It was the first morning of Navratri. I happened to normally stand on platform no.4 as a part of work routine. Daily routines really bore you because you find nothing new .You just keep on doing it mechanically day after day. I was in the same mood.

But, mind it ! this time it was very different. My heart started pumping faster and mind became more alert. I had mixed emotions and a bit of disappointment. All of time seemed so fast.

A short girl in a normal tshirt and blue jeans happened to be my mood changer. She was on the same platform as me. Like me she was too waiting but, for the train before me.As the trains arrived one by one, it threw along a huge crowd of service going people. The platform went crowded again.

As train arrived she realized that it was the wrong compartment, so she rushed towards her destined one. As she made her way through the alighting crowd that ushered in, she stopped abruptly, turned around to look back at some guy, gave him a stare and resumed her run towards the door where her boyfriend was standing.

I was certain something didn’t happen right. When she showed her boyfriend that he had pinched her stomach. I was taken aback as this boyfriend didn’t act. She pointed out the molester in the crowd who did it and cursed him! I couldn’t see him as I turned to look for him . As I looked back at her, the train had started and she looked at me with helpless eyes all saying that she is going to have a sleepless night.

What was the problem? There were policemen, a lot of educated suburban crowd and her boyfriend. But, why did she fail? Because she didn’t have the courage to act, thinking that she will be late for work which became her excuse.

No! Girls need to speak up immediately when they face such atrocities. Cursing won’t do any good. Nor complaining to your boyfriend if he is lame. There are also people wanting to help. What is the use of capable judicial system when victims choose to keep mum? The fact is when they don’t react; molesters act. They grant the molester courage to hunt for more. I was deeply moved by the incident.

Nature has certainly made girls physically weaker, but not mentally. And I certainly don’t need to exemplify this. Blow the whistle even if you feel that your closest guy is misbehaving with you physically. The society has certainly advanced in terms of technology but, the moral nature…. still primitive.

Forth seat in local trains:boon or curse?

2013-09-29T06:32:00.003-07:00

Once there were three happy people traveling in Mumbai local train. They were happy as they were sitting comfortably not knowing that a person is going to change their mood soon. A person at mumbra with heavy luggage approaches trying to make space with all of them and soon throws them into discomfort and fury.

“Bhaiya ji jara shift honge?” I stared at him with angry features. ‘Why the hell does he not want to seat us comfortably?’ . We were three on the bench. The middle one being a fat guy I was struggling to seat even on the corner seat. “Why can’t he just stand there?” I furiously exclaimed .

I pushed the middle guy who was sleeping with his head drooping from side to side. He didn't awake. After a bit of struggle I managed to give him a piece of seat smaller than the width of my forearm.

He rested his half butt as we three resisted moving out of our comfort zone. We thought he might soon give up from the forth seat as we opposed with team work. But , he was adamant as he gripped on to the handle bar as firmly as an old banyan tree holding to its roots amidst storm.

We soon gave up and his half bum finally won. After we reached Dadar he alighted from the seat. It felt as if his half bum got paralyzed as he picked himself up with his other half.

4^th seat was a curse for him and for us too. Didn’t he ever read the quote ‘Live and let live?’

But I changed my mind the same evening when it was my chance perhaps. At 6 when I boarded dadar, it was like a war won. But I didn't get a seat. My legs were paining hot because of the torturous squats I underwent in the morning at gym. I struggled to find some seat to transfer the center of gravity from my thighs to my bum.

The probability of getting a seat at dadar is 0.0000001 or even less. But,I didn’t stop to look for an opportunity. Finally a forth seat shined in front of my eyes. It appeared to me like a oasis in a desert.

I was hesitant at first . But, later grabbed it . Although it was just a small space, I understood the importance of the forth seat. I thought forth seat was never comfortable. But see! I felt like cold water running through my throat after a marathon run in the April month of Rajasthan.

I realized why that guy in the morning was so eager to persist. Forth seat is a boon or curse depends upon who is the person.

'When you are in the possession of limited resources you definitely hesitate to share it with the needy. You may not know the importance of sharing thinking a small part won’t do any good. But, when you are helpless , the importance of sharing definitely concretes in your mind. You realize that even smallest part makes up for a million times your joy at present, to the needy person.'

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९९' साल च्या आठवणी आणि श्रीखंडाच्या गोळ्या.

2013-09-19T23:16:00.000-07:00

मी पहिल्या मजल्यावर राहतो बरं का ? ९९’ सालाच्या गोष्टी करतोय . माझीच नव्हे तर तुमचीही खात्रीने हीच गोष्ट असणार. घरातून निघताना काहीतरी विसरणे नेहमीचेच असत. मग त्यामध्ये घड्याळ , रुमाल आणि टोपी इत्यादी. कोण एवढे परत चालत वर जाणार . मग ‘आई’ म्हणून बिल्डिंग खालून जोरात हाक मारायची . मग आई ते खिडकीतून फेकायची.

चक्क आई ला नावाने हाक न मारता फक्त आई म्हणून बोलवत असे तेही घसा फोडून. एवढ्या बिल्डिंग चिटकून चिटकून होत्या तरी माझ्या आवाजाची सिग्नेचर आई बरोबर टिपत असे आणि ती येऊन आपल्याला उत्तर देत असे. हि कथा शाळेत जाणाऱ्या चील्लारांपासून ते ऑफिस चे धोंडे . सकाळ पासून ते संध्याकाळी लहान मुलं खेळेपर्यंत असे आवाज ऐकू येत.

प्रेम युगाची हि काही वेगळीच रौनक होती. आपल्या प्रियकाराची अचानक ऐकू आलेली हाक आणि मग आईला हलचल मनाने विचारणे “ समीर आलाय , मी पटकन खाली जाऊन येऊ का ?” आई काय म्हणेल याची उत्सुकता . आणि मग आई ‘हो’ म्हणाली कि बाल्कनीत आपले हसणं आवरून तो परत हाक देणारच तितक्यात योगायोगानं आपले हसरं मुख दाखवणं आणि मग एकमेकांकडे बघून .....

( मी त्यावेळी खूप लहान होतो . माझावर शंका घेऊ नको . मी ह्यातले काहीच अनुभवले नाही . बरं का? मित्राने हे सर्व सांगितले )

ह्या गोष्टी कधी गेल्या कळला का? हाक कोणी देतच नाहीत. फोन वर सर्व आटपतात . त्या वेळी पण मोबाइल होते . पण ३ रु प्रति मिंट कोणाला परवडणार .

शिवाय आजकाल खालून हाक मारून ,

“ आदित्य , खाली येताना अजून एक bat आण !”

“ आई , श्रीखंडाच्या गोळ्या खायचा आहेत . १ रु टाक ना! ”

“ ममता , कशी आहेस? खाली येतेस ना ?”

हे आजकाल नाही ऐकू येत . मला कळतंय हे कमी महत्वाचे आहे. एवढा नाही फरक पडत. तरी हे लेख वाचून तुम्ही ९९’ साली परत गेलात एवढे मात्र खरे आहे . काहीसा फरक नक्की जाणवतोय.

पुढच्या वेळी कोणाला तरी फोन करण्याऐवजी हाक मारून नक्की पहा. नेहमीच यंत्रण लोकांना जोडण्यास प्रभावी नसते. तुमचा त्या लहानपणीच्या आणि तरुणीच्या दिवसात नक्की यात्रा करून याल.

इतर तुम्हाला नक्की आवडतील असे लेख :

आठवणीतला एक धडा !

आई -एक कविता

बेवड्याची आत्मकविता

Education system a scam?

2013-09-07T08:05:00.001-07:00

Once upon a time there was a foreigner who was touring Mumbai. At the signal, a slum boy approached him selling his product. As usual, already irritated by so many, he was going to ignore him. But, he was totally stunned, when the slum boy spoke in many languages including English and German. He couldn't help but lower his windscreen and observe his marketing skills with awe, far better than even the cooperate marketers he had seen. He was captivated by his professional body language which even the personality development seminars hardly teach.

I insist you to watch this short video if you don’t believe it.

Click here

That brings me to the question whether education system is just a scam? Do they destroy the very basic form of learning?

It’s easy to raise doubts, a bit difficult to answer and very very hard to act on the solution. For now let’s try the second option.

I don’t need to expand on this I feel. There are many eminent personalities who have made it to the brightest mind in the world category without schooling. But, if schooling was a waste of time they surely wouldn’t have put their children through school. Even today as we graduate we don’t remember much about what we learnt a couple of years ago. Even if we remember I am still unable to understand the applications of imaginary mathematics in whole of my life.

May be my ignorance, that I didn't realized its usefulness. But, what we need is a more practical knowledge where learning theory and application doesn’t differ at all.

Education system may not be a scam. Beliefs may be. From long years children are pressurized to pursue a course which has ‘scope’ . I never understood this!

And when these kind of children don’t get into such system they don’t fall prey to the template society has created. Instead they become someone great. But does it mean when such combination prevail they turn super brilliant?

No, because they have certain principles and freedom to follow their own path even without education. If such values are fed into the minds of children from the start may be we can utilize their maximum potential.

Education system is not a scam but, it is incomplete. Mere education won’t do any good. But, when these values will be inculcated so shall these children rise to become the brightest minds. That they will benefit the society and in turn will inculcate the same among their children.

How to find perfect subtitle for movie in less than 45 secs

2013-09-01T08:30:00.000-07:00

If you are like me who hates spending hours in finding a perfect subtitle for movie than this is the fastest way I have found out to search a perfect subtitle for your movie.

Step 1:

Suppose you download a movie with help of torrent/rapid library you will always have the uploader’s/ ripper’s name most of the times. Here’s a screenshot of the movie ‘The prestige’ without srt.

Step 2:

Right click > rename ( Don’t change the original name )> Copy the name

Step3 :

After you copy the original name unedited from the file go to your browser address bar and paste the name as it is, but now with ‘subtitles’ written in front of it and google.

Step 4:

You will get a lot of download links with the same name. Make sure you download those srt files with same name. I have clicked the second link that looks similar and downloaded it.

VOILA ! You have managed to done it so fast. Hardly will it happen that you will not land up with the perfect subtitles. And for that you shouldn’t rename your movie file ever.

Hope that helped. Do Comment below if you find it useful.

Independent India Independent?

2013-08-15T00:32:00.002-07:00

Sushrut Bhalerao is the guest writer today . He loves hypnosis and travels in his free time. He can be reached at sushrut.sb1104@gmail.com

Today, 15^th August we are celebrating 67^th year of our Independence .On the fateful night of 14^th August 1947 we got Independence from the British rule. We became independent and all ready to leap into Global scenario as a new and Evolving nation. Our freedom fighters did a great work to make our country independent, Subhashchandra Bose, Swatantryavir Vinayak Damodar Sawarkar, Mahatma Gandhi,Pt. Jawaharlal Nehru, Vallabhbhai Patel , Bhagat Singh many more to name such that. We all must be pay gratitude to them, thankful to them.

But where are we going now?? The biggest question.

We are facing so much of problems .When we started we were very hopeful about our future. And still we are. But what happened in last 67 years? There is not much change in conditions of normal human being here, the ‘AAM AADMI’. Petrol and vegetable prices are going high. Inflation rate is so much up. Sensex on the decline. GDP is quite low. Water and electricity problems so much to tell.

Politics and corruption have become a part of everyday life. It is troubling every common individual very much .Environmental issues are also there. We are not giving importance to our soldiers too .They are doing so much for us .Common man is still facing problem in 3 main aspects of life which are Food, Cloths, Living and place. This condition is not good.

In Global scenario also we are not doing well. Pakistan breaking Ceasefire every other day, China crossing the Line of Actual Control (LAC) many times to enter into our territory. Our jawans are getting killed by Militants, terrorist on the border .Bomb blasts, attacks by Terrorist have become a regular thing.

While one of our politician says “Bade bade shehro me aisi choti choti bate hoti rehti he”.There was a time when the value of 1 rupee = 1 $ but now, our economical downfall has started. Why??why all this is happening to us? Why we are still developing country after 67 years of Independence. Why we are unable to achieve progress like China ,US and Japan?

The reason is ‘WE’ .Yes my friends, we are the main reason behind our condition at this point. Action is missing , action for our own country. We all are well settled in our life so much so that we don’t have time for our country. We keep doing things for our self and ignore our country’s condition. We should serve our country, Our ‘Mother India’. We must act to make our country progressive. Its not enough just to change your profile picture on Networking site or wishing on the day. We should take pledge to work for our country. The emotions should be there for throughout the year not for a single day.

This situation can surely be changed if we desire to do so. If we all come together and work for betterment of our country then its surely possible to go on Progressive path and become a ‘Developed Nation’ from ‘Developing Nation’. Yes, we can do that. And we should do for our country.

We just say “This should not happen”, “This is wrong” . We don’t take next step. Our politicians just keep talking, giving false promises to us, making us fool every time. Its happening for last 67 years and will sure keep happening in future also if we don’t take any action.

Come together, be united and work for betterment of country. Enter into active politics, social work. At least help in spreading awareness to the common masses. If we don’t wake up now, the condition is going to be worse. Help society to grow up and come forward to work for the country !

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5 types of people you will meet after graduation

2013-08-13T09:46:00.000-07:00

There are five types of people you will meet after your graduation. When you disclose your result they will all respond in different manner. After meeting so many people after graduation , I have figured out some common traits in people.

1. Free Advice givers

If you ever ask me what is the single reason you will want to take someone’s life for? It will be after they give free advice. Wait! I may be sounding very egoistic but, I don’t hate advices, I hate advices from the people who lack experience about anything. They will talk about how to swim in water when they haven’t even dipped their toes in the pool.

And in India you will never have scarcity of these people. They will sit on the resting chair scratching their pot belly and will advise you to do this thing and that thing.

“Beta, now do MBA and then your career will fly with colors!” And then innocent youngsters start thinking about a car ,a house at Lokhandwala and a beautiful wife . But, they never know what will be in existence after two years or what passions they wanna pursue.

May be they have advices based upon experiences too , but because they failed needn’t necessary impose that we will fail. Everyone has their own passions and each one has different way of living. May be their intentions are also good , but they need to note it that the youngster will lose it’s true potential if he doesn’t experiment on his path . It worked for him doesn’t mean it will work out for the other too.

2.Party hunters

They have nothing to do with advice. They have least interest even in asking exam score. Upon hearing that we have graduated they jump like a popcorn and don’t settle until a bottle of champagne runs down their throat. They are party hunters. Waiting for this moment they will chase you till the end. Afterwards make sure you don’t reveal them you got a job .Else paying tax will be much inexpensive. And if they get the news from somewhere you better keep your wallet ready.

3.Politicians

I named it so because after they eat your sweet they boast of having contacts with influential people. Then they say that we shouldn’t be tensed about the job and promise that they will quickly land us into one.

Don’t keep your entire hope from such people. They just blow hot air most of the times. Ideally you will only have to struggle to find a job for yourself and read the classifieds until your eyes prick with pain.

4.Whatnext category?

They just keep asking what you are going to do next?. I suggest find some specific answer and copy paste to all of them. Not all just ask. Some do really care about you but, some ask for the sake because they can’t think of anything else to ask !

5.Well wishers.

This has been the most comforting category I have found out. They don’t promise you anything. They don’t advice anything. They just wish you best luck for future journey. They support in whatever we choose to do ahead. They never argue upon our quest for they know that life is not meant to be worked out like a machine with a manual. It has no specific path. We all find our own way, our own answers ! They also know the value of freedom. They know that you don’t have to be like others to be successful.

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Beautiful baby , beautiful world

2013-07-27T07:49:00.002-07:00

An old man carrying his granddaughter baby on the road holds her tightly but not too tight; just to make sure his weak muscles don’t make a mistake. The baby rests her small chin on her grandpa’s shoulder with woolen scarf around her head to protect her from cold. Her dark black eyes resembling a jewel, is in her own world with no purpose. You are just behind this old man adoring the comely pink cheeks she carrying. And as you are finding a way from your heart to look into her eyes, she stops her wondering and stares back at you. You feel the connection.

As your happy hormones surge, you smile. She then sparks a beautiful smile and your heart leaps in joy. You can see yourself in her. The things didn’t stop there. The rest of evening went as pleasant as it could.

While you connect the internet successfully we have long lost the art of connecting with people from the heart. And that art needn’t be learnt because that is what we are already built with.

We just need to be aware of it again. The reality isn’t perceived; it is created and then perceived. That we all are one single entity. Don’t disconnect others by considering them as a separate being. It is instead your part who you are talking to. That is what everyone says tapping into conscience. When you start living as one entity you begin to experience new levels of life, a different dimension you will know that enmity and hatred doesn’t exist.

A small experiment to do-

Just approach your friend or
anyone, but with a mindset that he/she is a reflection of you, a part of you
and not a separate being. Try talking with this feeling to them.

You may try this thing with your
pet too. Feel as if he is one with you.

And if you try to hug a tree with this connection you will find the
tree hugging you back!

I shall be waiting for your
comments below to know what you experienced.  

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Confessions of a fresh engineer

2013-07-20T07:28:00.001-07:00

Finally became an engineer today. But if you ask me to write a program I learnt in my first year, I give you a strong guarantee that I will disappoint you.

My grandmother dreamt of all her grandsons becoming an engineer because she used to see engineers of her time striding in khaki clothes, eyes covered with gold specs and little boys in underwear running behind their ambassador car whenever they passed along the lane. A bungalow, a car and servants were the assets they possessed.

But little did my innocent grandmother know that time changes and folds off everything. The dream passed down and reached us. We were expected to be engineers and we did, under the emotional approach that we can’t let down our parents.

The programs, electronic mesh diagrams and the mathematical concepts pushed my brain limits to hell. The day had finally dawned after so many years. Time is a relative concept and you don’t have to learn it. We just feel it when four years seem like four minutes.

The hell is over, but little do I know that another hell shall be waiting if I don’t take the control of my life. Some have the concepts that money and passion don’t go together. May be I have remained ignorant that money follows happiness and happiness follows passion.

The life will flow me as if it is my destiny. It will take me to a job and then in for a marriage and then climbing the corporate ladder and then fighting for more and more limited money, then finally regretting after retirement that I didn’t do things I wished.

That life was all of a playground and I sat quietly in the corner of it dreadfully and that when the park is about to close I regret I lost whole of a day when I could have played around. Just by the fear that the slide will hurt me or that I would fall down from the see saw , not knowing how much fun it would be.

I became an engineer, the thing my grandma wished, my parents wished but what I wished? It is something different. The joy of grabbing what you not want is different from joy of grabbing what you want.

But, I would have known nothing about me if I hadn’t done engineering. Thanks to this gruesome profession to teach me what was important in life, to know what is light I had to go in the dark. To know that if I go where everyone goes I shall remain a mere goat slowly moving into a slaughter house and that concept of a preordained life is a mere myth .

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Funny thing about inspirational books

2013-07-13T08:05:00.000-07:00

Reading inspirational books is great; implementing them is totally a different thing

( difficult I mean). Not all can do that. In last article I had posted top 5 inspirational books if you weren’t able to read it you may go to it by this link.

Top 5 inspirational Books

But for how long were you able to sustain those lessons which once totally melt your heart? May be a week or a month from the day you completed that book!

Don’t worry I had to go through same feeling. I remember reading it in some book

“There is enough time to sleep after you die. Grab each and every moment now while you are alive”

To my surprise I felt enlightened. I woke up at five everyday and slept at twelve at night. Of course I utilized the extra 3 to 5 hours, I got in enjoying ‘moments’, as books had explained. But for how long?

Almost after one month I forgot every inch of that book and slept like mad for hours.

Even when the books said “Pleasing people is slavery”, they went back to jobs pleasing their bosses.

Well, these writers have to really do some explanation here. I thought rereading those books might instill that inspiration again. But, it was never the same feeling and I got bored going through it.

Finally I went for similar book and a new language was able to set up that inspiration again. Until finally it became a habit for me and I was able to do it, may be not everything but something.

I know I am not the only who goes through this. All I know that these books may teach you to rise but, but they can only teach! Without burning desire to shoot up from within change is impossible.

And may be when they say

“On your death bed, you don’t want to regret that you didn’t follow your heart and did jobs society framed everyone to !”

May be tears will flood from your eyes. You will feel a surge of emotions and with every breath you vow that you are determined to change things. Next morning you are back

“ This is not for me”

May be these writers should provide a complementary guide along with it

“How to read a book and not be lazy to apply it”.

Top 5 must-read inspirational books

2013-07-11T02:15:00.002-07:00

I was a very shy from my childhood days. It continued until my tenth exams. Low confidence and self esteem, very traditionalistic, God fearing and a guy who could be easily bullied by his juniors are some of the attributes with which you could have easily described me in those days. Things changed when my brother Mahesh pushed me to read “The alchemist” by Paulo Coelho.

I built a positive reinforcement in myself and then things have changed a lot . I wish to pass on the best inspirational books I could suggest to you. Although there may be still more to come in my life ahead. If you have your books to suggest I request you to mention them in the comment box below so that even i could go through it.

#1 : The Secret by Rhonda Bryne

This book stresses upon the concept of LAW OF ATTRACTION. It has helped readers turn positive and cling on to the hope in times of darkness. The basic principle “Whatever you focus on, expands”. Though the principles aren’t new they have just illustrated it in a simpler way than the earlier published books on same principle.

#2 : The monk who sold his Ferrari by Robin sharma

This book turned out to be a turning point for me. This bestseller is ought to make you feel better and released. It’s a fable between the author and millionaire Julian Mantle who gave up his comforts in order to learn happiness.

#: 3 : The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

A story of a shepherd boy Santiago who is in search of a treasure learns a lot on his way to it. Those who get bored by pure philosophy should read this book. The story doesn’t bore and it keeps you on the hook. It was the first book I ever read in my life.

#4 : The magic of thinking Big by David. J .Schwartz

An inspiring book that will teach you to live beyond your boundaries and comfort zones . He makes it a point that life is an awesome adventure given we break the chains of comfort and fear. I will guarantee you that this book will definitely put you on heels immediately.

#5: Be rich and happy by Robert Kiyoski

Robert is man who destructs the notion that “Money is the root of all evil”. That becoming rich is not crime. He stresses on the fact that making mistakes is the only way to learn and our education system punishes those who make it. It’s simple but definitely must-read.

*The post is an Author's opinion though every book will have different effect on reader and their rankings may vary.

The Android Girl

2013-07-02T22:16:00.002-07:00

My cousin sister was still using a crap phone which had aged 5 yrs gracefully. Her small fingers managed to find space on the undersized buttons of nokia phone. Her typing speed, was still very fast as her small eyes managed to peek through the characters on the small screen.

Today she had made up her mind that she was going to purchase a new phone and as having no experience of what android phones are, she approached me .

“Bro, I have to purchase a new android phone. Which one should I go for? Since you are an expert in this…..” she asked helplessly.

I didn’t know if I was an expert in this. But her words puffed my chest as she entrusted me a task to do. The warrior inside me woke up as I spent hours researching for a phone for her budget. I looked for the best configuration offered and the best services provided. I managed to short list a few and after a week I came up with a phone. It was a quad core with HD display and a big ram with hours of battery. I also made sure that they provided good warranty with nearby authorized service centers.

The real funny thing starts here. I was happy as hell as I was finally able to satisfy her quest for phone in this chaos world of marketing and technology. As we reached the vendor shop, she was reluctant on buying the same phone I had researched for her with my every inch. Just because she saw a purple phone which had sent her into a spree. Because it was her favorite color! . That phone had exactly half of the specifications and twice the cost, my choice of phone possessed. Even as I tried to explain her the advantages of the phone I had chosen, she couldn’t take off her eyes from the purple phone.

I finally stopped pushing her choice because after all it was her decision. Her estrogen drive refused to lower down and she finally purchased the purple one. She was all emotionally charged. I was a bit hurt, to be honest but that didn’t long. After all, my sister was happy and so was I.

It was later that I read somewhere that boys choose power and girls choose appearance. It was an inbuilt feature GOD had manufactured us with .We had just to understand the differences and their point of view while making the choices for the opposite sex.

Questions.. Questions..Questions.. ( A guest post )

2013-06-23T07:54:00.002-07:00

Shruthi Iyer is the guest blogger today . Its her article . She is studying pharma and loves to sing . She can be reached at shruthi2612@yahoo.co.in

It was the night before our management exam. Malavika (my friend) and I were lying on the couch surrounded by a sea of notes, when we started talking. Yeah, yeah we should have been studying, judge all you want people, but at 1a.m. in the morning all those concepts of marketing and finance just seem to fuse into one big blob of nonsense. Anyway, we were discussing about the recent brutal rape of the five year old girl in Delhi and we stumbled upon a few interesting thoughts. Now now, all those people who dismissed this article as yet another preachy write up ten seconds ago, refer back to the title please; it says ‘questions’, and unless ‘questions’ means preaching in Hebrew, you can still read this article with an open mind.

In a moment of pure brilliance Malavika said that night, “A part of our population is becoming like cancer; spreading through the veins of our country reaching out to us, killing us.” The sheer genius of this analogy is in its objectivity, because when it comes to cancer there are just three objectives that we need to address; where is the cancer, how to detect it and how to cure it…

So where is the cancer? Where is this breeding ground of rapists, sadists and pedophiles in India? As Mumbaikars, we want to believe it is in Delhi, Haryana or some other northern state far far away from our little bubble of safety, but then again we happily choose to ignore those creepy stares in our local trains, the inappropriate touching in our buses or those lewd comments when you are with a guy friend at marine drive. As a Tamilian I want to believe that it cannot be someone from my community, but if that were true all the Indian women would have permanently emigrated to Tamil Nadu long back. So where has the cancer not spread yet? Where exactly can I venture out at night without watching my back? Where is it safe for me?

One can wonder that why this world is not a peaceful, happy place, why there is this need of violence and power? Well that one’s easy to answer; it’s the nature’s rule, there’s got to be a predator and a prey because the fight for survival is perhaps the perfect balance mechanism. However, even a deer knows that it is the lion she has to run from, that within her herd she is safe. A cat knows that while her kitten could be hunted by a tomcat, it would never be raped for mating.

What do we know about our predator? When somebody says rapist, the image that pops in our heads is that of a filthy, sweaty unshaven sex deprived illiterate vermin who lurks in the dark corners of our cities with his other sleaze ball friends. But rapists come in all shapes and sizes you know; that same sexy smile which dazzled you on the hot guy’s face book DP might haunt his child victims for years to come, that class nerd you thought to be naïve and sweet might shock you with a date rape drug. While these are perhaps exaggerations, you do see my point right?

So media, psychologist forums and talk shows, save your psychobabble and give me something concrete. Give me a name… a sketch… a profile, at least one attribute to distinguish my predator from the rest. I don’t want be afraid of every guy I meet, I don’t want to treat every cell as cancerous!

Lastly, the cure. The cure for this cancer; the point that has been under much discussion for the past months. People have been demanding death rows and life imprisonment for rapists to induce fear in other potential miscreants. But guys tell me honestly has confiscation of our fellow classmate’s mobile ever prevented us from using our own in classrooms? Why do you think this logic doesn’t apply to larger crimes? Yes, it does! Imprisonment is certainly a punishment to the perpetrator directly, a way of obtaining justice for the victim and perhaps avenging the victim’s anguish retrospectively. But believing the fact that it will be a lesson to all the other potential criminals of the world is being a little too optimistic. It is like believing in the innate sense of goodness and conscience of people and frankly, if that existed, then we wouldn’t need this discussion in the first place. So is there really a way to restore our country’s mental health? Or are we all destined to rot and die?

Chickens and the veggies

2013-06-15T23:08:00.000-07:00

Sundays are beautiful all because of one thing – “NON VEG”. Me and my mom strolled through the busy narrow streets of fish market moving our eyes searching for a fresh fish. But, the heavy rains caused this scarcity and fishes had become scarce here around. The storms in the seas don’t permit fishermen to go deep into the oceans and thereby “NO FISHES TODAY “ Drowned me into disappointment.

But, we were determined to have non veg for lunch. We rushed to the chicken shop and my smile grew back. Thank God chickens don’t live in water! It was a huge queue over head to the butcher’s shop and we had to wait a couple of minutes or so.

I couldn’t see it but I could hear the screams as they slaughtered the chickens one by one in hurry to satisfy the customers just like me. I had ample amount of time standing in the open rains. My heart melted to see the live chickens inside the cages looking at us knowing that they all have the same fate.

When I looked at the vegetable vendor I felt good. But, what about the rotting plants being thrown aside with their useful part uprooted from them and remaining thrown in for sale. I saw them as they were thrown to die a brutal death as each one of their leaf painfully rotted off. I could hear their screams in my mind as they were in numbers of hundred! Their roots crying for soil and water as they soaked in whatever rains had to offer.

Everything feels good until you have your own definition of brutality. Its only when you see blood and amputation of a moving living thing. What about understanding pain which is beyond our perception. Isn’t it called an inhuman thing as many vegetarians stamp upon the non vegetarians?

I had to stop thinking about it. And accept the truth that we can’t live until we kill and eat a life. Just that it isn’t limited to animals.

The matter of small things

2013-05-20T06:52:00.000-07:00

Many a times we do tend to overlook certain things.

A bigger fight usually doesn’t start big. Its starts with a bud until it blossoms into a full fledged poisonous flower scratching off that clean image of your relationship.

A morning fight starts just out of sheer frustration from not finding your notebook to not finding your socks to the heat all soaking you in sweat; and the final result is – You end up with a battle with your loved ones. And believe me many of the bigger fights come out of rage, frustration or may be you just need to vent your anger out. You will surely feel better for a second but believe me, it comes back and snaps you harder. The topics change.

When we realize it later it was not at all necessary, we try to mend it.

We don’t know that we are just chopping off the branches of the tree we had grown a few minutes ago.

While it has established it’s roots so strongly it becomes difficult for you to solve the fight. And that’s why they say “Prevention is better than cure”.

So ask yourself before you vent out your frustration “Is that really necessary?” You may keep quite. When you have settled with your short tempered head ,you may react calmly looking things in long term rather than short term.

99% of the problems in our life start from the small issues.

And the innocent big ones are always blamed. If only we could make our life better…

Ghost and the truth

2013-04-21T05:17:00.003-07:00

Once I had a tough fight with the villagers who were too stubborn to accept that ghosts are mere imagination. It was after a revolution that happened in my mind after a speech on ‘importance of rational thinking’ that I had just listened to; before my summer vacations had started that I was too adamant to accept defeat in any way. I had a great time battling their arguments. It was time for Hari , who had a mine of ghost experiences to share with me.

It was 11 pm.

“ You don’t know ! “ spoke hari , who seemed to look in his forties “I just saw a ‘Jakhin’ . And believe me she does exist!”.I wondered who she was?. And my expressions prepared him for the scary description he was just about to give about her.

“If you are wondering who is ‘jakhin’ , she is a beautiful female ghost if you look her from behind,you will see her wearing an elegant sari draped over her curvaceous body. Above that, she has free flowing long hair, which seems to make her beautiful. But, if you look her face to face she has eyes as big as potatoes, her eye brows thick and her hands long!”

“I am serious!! “ He was unwilling to back up “But she can hide her ugliness within apsara beauty and reveals it at night only, if you talk to try to go close towards her !”

But how can we identify her?” asked another villager.

My rational brain was now inclining towards believing in ghosts, as my mind went more engrossed towards the story.

“Her legs are twisted !!” the silence of the night proved to be a background music for his story. “And if you try to run , she will run behind you laughing and crying loudly with the twisted legs revealing her ugliness.!!”

“So?” asked another villager who had his cloak held tightly towards his body.

“ The best way is not to go near her !” her continued “When you see her just continue your walk without disturbing her , and you will be safe, otherwise her face itself will kill you !”

I was stunned by his story and everybody had taken a pause unconsciously to imagine the story.

An old man who had lost his teeth laughed loudly enough to shake the silence and pierce a throb through our hearts.

When asked what happen, he replied with a beautiful answer which left us all mum.

“ Arey baba ! I don’t know which wise man invented this story, but all I can say this was for the safety of women in villages who used to travel at night should feel secure. That’s all I know!”

With shawl all draped all around his head, he shivered in the dark coldness but, his voice revealed confidence.Everyone stopped as the argument ended abruptly with this old man's touching answer.

I however wonder how are you going to scare away the humans who themselves have turned into ghosts today. Where woman feel insecure in every walks of life , where a human is itself a solution to human itself and where only moral education can eradicate this evil !

The opposites

2013-03-25T07:52:00.001-07:00

I had a friend whom I seem to meet almost regularly during travel to college. I would alight Karjat and he would travel to Lonavla. With this same thing happening over almost a year, we had grown into close friends. At first we used to talk about the weather and how most of the pune crowd is egoistic during travel, who wouldn’t lend their seat to us despite their spine aching from rubbing their butt against the seats. What I felt good about him was that he was always smiling and seemed to carry off his burden of hectic schedule with humor.

Slowly we had deeper topics to discuss about and we almost forgot about the seats we had to catch and how sunny it was outside. We started discussing about our friends and personal life. He had turned into a best friend.

One day my face didn’t seem to budge and I wasn’t talking much. The day before today, I had failed my exams and had lost a competition which was backed by partiality. In the morning I had a fight with mom and had almost lost the train by a minute. The heat was unbearable and streams of sweat overflowed my eyebrow . My spectacles had turned foggy and the train was crowded. Above all the hectic schedule had brought me down. I found no reason to smile.

He couldn’t help but notice it. Despite being aware that I could fireback him anytime in the middle of my frustration he took the chance to ask for my uncomforting expressions. I resisted him at first but, with his words flowing out it helped me soothe out completely. What he explained me I would like to share with you..

“That was necessary for you my friend ; to be sad, so that you could know what it is like to be happy. It was necessary for you to fight with your mom so that later you could experience more love from her, it was necessary for you to fail to know what is the feeling you get when you pass, It was necessary for the sun to shine hotter so that you could realize what is winter. If it weren't hectic would you know what a holiday is like?If they hadn’t been there how you could experience those joys? I am sure they are coming your way now!”

That statement taught me a lot – the importance of opposites. Love and anger ; hot and cold ; sad and happy etc. They all teach you the feeling of gratefulness that you aren’t unlucky enough yet. That you still have your limbs intact, that how important it was for you to fail so that you could put back together to pass and that you can rise, only when you fall!

Just as RAM would never had achieved the title of GOD without RAVAN ! The importance of opposites ! I had just realized !!