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Jealousy

2025-07-04T17:45:00.053+05:30

Jealousy is when one feels insecure, fearful or concerned because of a lack of possessions or safety. The negative thoughts that arise when one sees someone having a fancy car or a special significant other. The reason why this happens is because of comparison with another. When one is not satisfied with what they have, they get jealous of what another person has, be it a thing or a position.

How many people blatantly ask someone how much they are earning? Is it an appropriate question? The question is, why does someone want to know how much a person is earning? People ask such a personal question because they want to know whether they earn more or less than that person. If that person earns more than them, they get jealous.

How much jealousy is too much jealousy? If a person starts to curse someone because they are jealous of them, then that is definitely crossing the line. Such kind of people will never be happy as they will always think that they don't have enough or they are not successful. Instead of competing with others, isn't it better to compete with oneself?

Competition with others causes jealousy, but competition with oneself causes one to just aim for a better life tomorrow as compared to today. As long as one has realistic goals, one can achieve them and progress in life.

Some people tell others they are jealous of them, which is often perceived as a compliment. "I love your handbag''. "Oh, I'm so jealous of you!" Such people want to make someone feel special for having something that they are jealous of, be it a possession, a position or a title.

How does one deal with jealous people? Perhaps telling them that you know that they are jealous of you is good. They might get defensive, but for how long? Another way would be to appreciate them, that way they will like themselves and reduce being jealous. Also, tit for tat might work. If they get jealous of you or something you have, you pretend to be envious of them or something they have. Giving them a taste of their own medicine might work.

How do jealous people deal with jealousy? Jealous people need to be happy with what they have instead of comparing themselves with others. In this way, they won't feel jealous. It's impossible for someone to never get jealous of another. It's part of being human. It's only when it gets out of hand that the problem starts.

A lot of self love and self worth is needed in order to deal with feelings of inadequacy because of being jealous. Being in touch with one's insecurities and doing the work to get rid of them is required. Loving oneself enough is the key.

Death

2022-11-11T00:30:00.001+05:30

Your life will pass by,

In the blink of an eye.

Before you die,

You will sigh.

For all the things you did not try.

You will cry,

Then you will die.

After which you will fly.

To your makers in the sky.

Sea Gulls

2022-09-13T14:49:00.001+05:30

Walking through the throng of Sea Gulls,

My heart took flight.

I then realised

That you were right.

Walking on the pier

You said was wonderful.

I looked at the sea

And my heart was full.

The sunlight and surf,

This was my turf.

The starry night,

Was my right.

I wish I could be

Like the sea.

Endless and full of life

Maybe I am.

The Flower

2022-07-25T19:29:00.001+05:30

I saw this flower,

It was so beautiful.

I kept staring at it

And I felt happy.

I will love this flower always,

Because it is beautiful.

It smells like a flower of heaven,

It is the best flower.

Chocolate Cake

2022-06-16T12:00:00.001+05:30

I love chocolate cake.

That is what I love to bake.

Though it is a pleasure to make.

Time it will take.

Nothing is at stake.

All you have to do is eat the cake.

You can sit by the lake

And enjoy eating the cake.

Sue

2022-06-14T20:04:00.000+05:30

There was a girl named Sue.

Who loved the colour blue.

She was very true.

And her love she knew.

Food

2022-03-14T20:37:00.001+05:30

There it was on the table,

the beautiful dish.

I was waiting to eat it,

with all my heart.

I love food and

I know everybody does.

I am a Foodie.

Are you a Foodie too?

Vegetarian or Non-vegetarian,

Piscetarian or Eggetarian.

Fruitarian or Vegan.

There are different types of diet.

Eat to your heart's content,

Do not waste food.

Keep it in the refrigerator

and eat it later.

Nature's bountiful gifts,

from the farm to your plate.

Tasty, delicious, scrumptious,

nourishing your body.

Land

2022-02-07T05:01:00.001+05:30

There is land everywhere,

Land is easy to look after.

Land is free and

Land is beautiful.

The fire that destroys land is very very horrible.

Land perishes because of it.

Land is always beautiful in spring.

Beauty at its best is what it is.

This is the beauty of land,

It is always free and easy to look at land.

Fire may destroy it

But water always saves it.

Fire

2021-12-10T20:48:00.000+05:30

There was fire on the earth. It blazed throughout the night. It is beautiful to see fire. You should look at fire whenever you want to because it is very beautiful. It is red and orange and yellow. It blazes whenever you see it.

Look at this beautiful thing when your heart feels low. Wonder at it's mightiness. Look at it's glow. There is beauty in something so hot. Look at the way it shines in the dark.

Beautiful

2021-12-09T22:28:00.000+05:30

There was once a girl who was very beautiful. She was a beauty. She looked so fabulous. She ate and drank and lived a rich lifestyle. She was so torn between her love for her father and her love for her lover.

She was so unhappy with herself that she ate something very bad. She ate poison and was about to die but something happened. She vomited. She was happy because she vomited. She then decided something for herself. She decided to marry her lover.

She went to her lover's house and told him that she wanted to marry him. She asked his father to meet her parents. Her father would be happy with this plan that is what she assumed.

She went back to her house. Later in the evening she heard a knock on the door. She opened the door and she was happy. It is because her lover was there with his parents.

She asked her father to meet the people at the door. He came to the door and saw her lover. She was very happy. Immediately her lover spoke to her father about marriage. She asked them to come inside the house. They were seated in the living room.

She went about her work with her embroidery. After few seconds her work was done. She told her mother to arrange for food for the guests. Then she stared at her mother and said soon they will be family.

There was so much of happiness in the household. She was to be married to her lover the very next month. She was overjoyed.

Flower

2021-12-09T22:07:00.000+05:30

There is a flower,

A flower in heaven.

The flower is beautiful,

And it is beautiful always.

The flower is a rose,

And it is the most beautiful.

The fragrance is spectacular,

And it spreads everywhere.

The flower is beautiful for a reason,

The flower is rich in fragrance for a reason.

The rose is beautiful in winter as well,

And it is always bright.

Almighty He and She

2021-10-07T14:44:00.001+05:30

A ray of light,

Shining Bright.

Look at His might

Oh! What a sight!

She is great!

The Divine mate.

Look at the state,

Of the liquid gate.

He made land,

The grainy sand.

Oh! So grand!

The place to stand.

She made sea,

A place to see.

And ponder with glee,

About the sacred mystery.

Love From Afar

2021-07-31T11:46:00.001+05:30

Though you are far,

you seem so near.

The night as black as tar,

is my only fear.

You touch me with your words.

My heart leaps at the thought

of seeing with you the fjords,

even though we have fought.

Come pouring down on me,

like the rain.

You need to be with me

and take away my pain.

Light

2021-06-14T16:58:00.001+05:30

We are light,

We are life.

In every corner of this universe,

Shining bright.

Darkness is the absence of light,

Lonely and bare.

Light is attractive,

You will stare.

Nature

2021-03-28T20:27:00.000+05:30

Nature is not just greenery it is also blue. It is the water that covers so much of this planet we call Earth. The love that we have for nature reflects the way we treat it. If we litter our surroundings with garbage then we risk falling ill. We should always make sure that garbage, is given to the garbage collector for an eco-friendly disposal.

If we want to have a healthy life then we need to look after nature. Global warming and El Nino phenomenon will end, if we look at adopting cleaner sources of energy. Solar power, wind power and hydro power are green sources of energy.

It takes many years for plastic to decompose. It's important to use recyclable plastic instead of single use plastic.

The population of the earth is too much. The amount of natural resources is not enough to support the population. We need more afforestation and less deforestation. The pollution levels are very high. This problem will be resolved only if we decide to use public transport.

The water bodies are polluted. The oceans are full of plastic and microplastic. The marine life is suffering because of that. The coral reef is diminishing. We have to do everything we can to save our water bodies.

We have to heal our planet with love, care and concern. Save energy and choose clean energy. Till each one of us decides to be environment friendly, it will be very difficult to save our planet.

Pursuit

2020-07-25T19:59:00.001+05:30

Forever consumed by the elusive,

Evanescent dew drops sparkle.

Catching the eye of one and all,

Seducing one to chase.

That one emotion supreme,

Forgetting self and all.

Desparation and dissatisfaction the fuel,

Self-destructive and pointless the pursuit.

Summer

2020-07-08T10:44:00.000+05:30

The season when the temperature soars,

People eat mangoes.

They drink fruit juice,

Eat a variety of icecreams.

Summer holiday fun,

Relaxing on a beach.

People go to hill stations,

To escape the sweltering heat.

Autumn

2019-11-09T16:09:00.001+05:30

Red and brown leaves,

A cool breeze.

Lukewarm sunshine,

Bare trees.

Cups of warm coffee,

Bowls of warm soup.

Thin quilts,

Keeping warm.

Rain

2019-10-08T12:45:00.001+05:30

The dark clouds gather,
Darkening the sky.
The rumbling of thunder,
The flash of lightning.

The sky opens,
The rain falls.
The pitter patter of raindrops,
The music of rain.

Little children,
Dancing in the rain.
Sailing paper boats,
On big puddles.

Lovers sharing an umbrella,
While walking on the street.
Smiling at each other,
With love in their eyes.

The Moon

2019-07-01T10:50:00.001+05:30

Oh! That white disc of light,
Shining so bright.
Lighting the night sky,
Pleasing to the eye.

Surrounded by twinkling stars,
Beaming for many hours.
Waxing and waning,
A very beautiful sight.

Spring

2019-03-27T20:16:00.001+05:30

Spring is in the air,
Spring is everywhere.
The flowers and the leaves,
Graze my long sleeves.

There is a nip in the air,
The trees are not bare.
There are flowers swaying,
In the cool breeze.

Sunshine

2019-01-19T13:09:00.001+05:30

Peering through white puffy clouds,

The sun shines bright in the sky. Warming the earth,

Lighting it.

In spring the rays of the sun,
Chase away the cold.
Summer brings the heat,
In winter people bask in sunlight.

Children play, adults take a walk,
Their sunkissed skin warm.
Sunbeams glowing,
Bringing joy to everyone.

Rose

2018-09-08T09:55:00.001+05:30

The most beautiful flower,
The one with so much power.
The floret that will lower,
Your head as you glower.

The one that incites passion,
And also makes one feel compassion.
It puts a smile to your face ashen,
And makes you behave in a good fashion.

The Mouse

2017-07-16T19:38:00.000+05:30

In the month of April, something happened which I wasn’t prepared for. It all happened during the first week. I was sitting at my table working when I saw a small mouse scurry across the room. I froze and hoped that it somehow would find a way out of the house. I’m not afraid of mice, I think they’re cute. I don’t like rats. I resumed working and tried not to think about the mouse. The following evening, I saw the tiny rodent scamper near my table and I became still. I began to get scared because I didn’t want the mouse anywhere near my laptop. I know that it could not replace the mouse or go through my files or hack my email accounts but I didn't want it near my laptop.

I realised that I had an uninvited occasional visitor that could bite my clothes or worse bite me! The sneaky quick movements of the mouse made me wonder why mice are always in a hurry. Do they have a tight schedule? Do they have to attend meetings one after the other? They never seem to move slowly and calmly. All I could do was to scare the little mouse by clapping. It seemed to like the area under my bed.

After going to bed one night, I just lay on my bed and began to think, you know, those random thoughts that come to mind before you fall asleep. Suddenly I felt a movement under my right hand, underneath my flannel quilt, I immediately threw it on the floor and screamed. I turned on the light and anxiously began to check my bed and around it for any sign of the mouse. I decided to sleep with the light on, which I don't like to do, but in this situation, it was either take time to fall asleep or get bitten!

I spoke to my housemates about my experience and they told me to calm down. One of them asked ''What's the worst that could happen''? I didn't reply. She said, ''It could bite you, that's it!'' Well, that's exactly what I wanted to avoid! Who is fine with being bitten by a mouse? I asked them whether it would be fine to allow a stray cat or kitten to come into the house and let it do its natural part. They said they didn't want to risk having to look after the feline, if it happened to want to stay. Mainly the thought of having to deal with medical emergencies and eventual heartbreak if the furry furball passed away, is what made them decide against keeping a feline friend.

One evening while working I heard a shuffle in my laundry bag and saw the mouse walk up to go out of it. During its ascent, it stopped, looked at me for a few moments and then got out of the bag and ran towards the window. There was eye contact! This surprised me! This changed things. I no longer felt like I should kill it. I began to wonder whether I should buy a mouse trap or cheese for the little squeak. I then realised that it probably wanted to live as my housemate. Of course, it would live rent free. It's not like I would make it my live paperweight while I wrote in my diary. It would probably live in the cabinet and sleep on a tiny bed like Jerry. I began to think of names. I thought maybe Bob would be a nice name for it.

Then came the day that changed everything. As I was walking into my room after having lunch, I noticed something moving nervously under the plastic cover of my laptop. I became still and then clapped. I thought that the mouse ran away before that but I wasn't sure. I stood on the bed opposite to my table and began to throw random things at the plastic cover. A pen and a hanger were flung at the plastic cover. I wanted it to get scared and run but it seemed still underneath the plastic cover. That's when I realised that it was probably dead!

I assumed that it might have suffocated from being underneath the plastic cover for too long. This was shocking. I didn't want it to die. I felt like that little mouse taught me a lesson in Karma. My fear of being bitten wasn't over, so I thought that it was just playing dead in fear and it would come rushing out from underneath the plastic cover. I felt that it might come towards me. I would then have no other option but to jump up and hold the fan.

I spoke to my housemate about this situation and she asked me to just check whether it was dead or not. If it was, then she asked me to call the landlady. I didn't want to wait for long so after an hour, I went up to my landlady's house and told her about the mouse. She came down to inspect the area. She lifted up the plastic cover while I was standing at a distance. There was no mouse!! She told me that I had mistaken my mobile charger as the mouse. I was relieved and wondered what had become of the mouse. I expected it to later come scurrying out from underneath the table but it didn't. A few days passed and I realised that it had left. It probably must have felt unwanted so it decided to leave. I missed it a bit. I will never forget this experience.

Unrequited Love

2017-05-30T10:31:00.001+05:30

I'm tired of reading this line on Facebook: "Ek tarfa pyaar ki taakat hi kuch aur hi hoti hai. Aurron ke rishton ki tarah ye do logon mein nahi banti. Sirf mera haq hai ispe". Translation: "The power of one sided love is unique, it doesn't get distributed to two people, as it happens in the relationships of others, only my right is there on it". 'Ae Dil Hai Mushkil' translated as 'O Heart It Is Difficult' has probably been successful in encouraging unrequited love. Well, that isn't healthy. This is one of the many ways in which movies can mess with our minds, to make us do things that aren't prudent. Far from being tender and noble, unrequited love is really painful if the lover doesn't move on. How is that wise?

Pursuing someone so that they will love you is not going to make them actually love you, the way you want them to. Even if one doesn't pursue, the decision to never fully move on and allow oneself the possibility of loving again restrains us. Maybe when we remove the rose-tinted glasses with which we see our love, we will realise that they're pretty ordinary. Putting someone on a pedestal doesn't mean that they really belong there.

Allowing ourselves to be "tied" to someone in this way is not going to allow us to grow and learn because we're not allowing ourselves to experience something new. No doubt we all want to protect ourselves from hurt, but I feel it's because we underestimate our capacity to deal with it in a healthy way. We can't possibly shield ourselves fully from negativity, so it's best we learn how to not let it mess with our minds. Most of all if we love ourselves enough we won't feel "incomplete" if that special someone isn't our lover anymore. After all, we're responsible for our happiness, someone else isn't.

After falling in and out of love more than once and trying to figure out this big deal, we make out of being loved by someone, I've realised healthy self-love and healthy attachment is very important. The whole crazy, obsessive, borderline stalking type of behaviour is only going to hurt us and push us further down. I hope we all learn to make peace with our past and move on to healthier relationships.