Blessed Beyond Measure

Honoring My Husband with My Bangs

2012-03-04T23:26:00.000-08:00

A couple weeks ago I cut my hair. Since I can't decide if I want to grow it out or not, I kept the length and style the same and just had my ends trimmed. Nothing too drastic...unless to count my bangs!!

Now I know for some people their hair is a source of individuality and experimentation; their playground to try different styles, cuts colors and more. Others know a good thing and stick with it...for years! I guess I'm a little of both. It's been long, short, naturally curly, chemically straighten and highlighted but that's about it; nothing too crazy...unless you count my bangs.

Let me tell you a little story about my bangs. My husband and I had just started dating in the fall of 1999 when he left with his family for vacation. I offered to watch their home and help take care of his ailing grandma. While sharing stories and photos with her, we came across one of me with bangs that had been taken a few years prior. She loved my hair and told me how much Tony would too. (Now this is where I should have smiled, nodded and kept my looks just the way they were. Oh, but hindsight is always 20/20!) Instead, I made a bee-line to the salon and had those bangs revived! Unfortunately, neither I nor my stylist had the common sense to cut them in a current style. I left the salon looking like I had just stepped out the pages of a senior year book circa 1988! Imagine my new boyfriend's surprise as he walked off the airplane and was greeted by his girlfriend...bangs and all!!! He didn't even speak to me. At dinner all he did was stare at them, try to push them down and continue to ask why I would take his grandma's advise on hairstyles! Thankfully, he saw past my bangs and married me anyways (the following year, after they grew out)!

The bangs I wanted.
Actress Catherine Zeta Jones.

This time, I was thrilled when I left the salon! They were nothing like "the great bang explosion of 1999", so I really didn't think he would mind. As I walked into the house, he didn't say much, but I knew in my heart he didn't like them. Over the next couple of days, he suggested that I try styling them straight across my forehead. I tried it - once - didn't like it and went back to sweeping them off to the side. Then while working on my Bible study, "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace, I was reminded that I am to be submissive to my husband, in ALL things. If I am to strive to be the wife that God has called me to be, then I need to submit to my husband in the big and small, even the seemingly trivial like bangs; because,

when it comes down to it, it's not about bangs - it's about having a heart of obedience to (1) God and (2) the wishes of my husband whom God has placed as the head over me and our family.

For twelve years, I have made sure to keep my locks bang-free. When I left for the salon, I knew how my husband felt about cutting bangs into my hair, yet I did it anyways. It wasn't intended as an act of defiance, but rather as a way to hide some adult acne scares. Regardless of the reason, it was against his wishes.

The next morning, as I got ready for the day, I purposely styled those bangs I just had to have the way my husband wanted. Honestly, I hated them!!! They drove me crazy all day!!! They were in my eyes; they tickled my forehead; and I couldn't stand the way they looked! I keep thinking, "Why am I taking hair advise from a bald man! Really God? I have to listen to him on this one too!?!? But it's my hair! I know better! Can't I just keep doing it my way?" Although my heart wasn't in it, I did them the same way again the next day. By evening, they had started to grow on me. Maybe he wasn't so off on this one after all! :-)

Before

After

Guess what...today I really like them! It's something different and I'm enjoying the change. Most importantly though, I know that I have been obedient to God by honoring my husband, even with my bangs.

Photo credits:
salonontheave.blogspot.com - Catherine Zeta Jones

http://beauty.about.com/od/hairstylephotogalleries/ss/photosbangs.htm - Liz McClarnon

http://fashionkings.net/what-are-some-nice-haircuts-with-bangs.html - Jessica Alba
http://sbtb2001.tripod.com/saved.html - Tiffany Amber Thiessen
http://www.lhj.com/style/hair/most-popular-hairstyles/celebrity-bangs/ - Halle Berry
http://theglamourouslife.com/articles/pin-up-girl-hairstyles-3-bettie-page-short-bangs.html - Bettie Page

Great I AM - New Life Worship

2012-03-01T21:21:00.000-08:00

Last Sunday, our worship team introduced a new song, Great I Am. I loved it so much I continued playing it all afternoon!! (So of course, I had to share it with all of you! ;-)

Lately, God has been using songs full of bold, powerful statements to speak to my heart. Last week's feature, Courageous, calls men (and women) to rise up and live a life of boldness and courage as we take our families, morals and values back! Great I Am reminds me of the AWESOME power and majesty that is the God we serve. My favorite line is,

The mountains shake before you, the demons run and flee,
at the mention of your name, King of Majesty;
There is no pow'r in hell or any who can stand

before the power and the Presence of the

Great I AM

Can I get an AMEN!!!! I could listen to just that part of the song over and over and over! So as you listen, I pray that this song speaks to you, stirs your heart and calls you draw even nearer to HIM today!

What song is God using to minister to you? We want to know!! Click the link below and leave us a comment on our Facebook Page. I look forward to hearing how God is moving in YOUR life!!

Welcome Little Mommy Big Appetite!!

2012-03-01T02:00:00.000-08:00

Blessed Beyond Measure is so excited to announce our newest contributor, Little Mommy Big Appetite!!! Kim's love of cooking for her family shines through each recipe she shares, from breakfast to dinner and everything in between!

Caramel Banana Bread Muffins with a Spiced Crumb Topping

"Preparing meals for my family is my way of providing for them."

Honey Soy Chicken with Mango Rice

Kim's heart for cooking is a direct reflection of her heart for her family. She loves knowing where ingredients come from and how they are prepared. She has made a large majority of their daughter's baby food and finds joy in giving her family the best ingredients she can while still maintaining a budget.

Each Sunday, she she will share her menu for the week, along with links to her recipes. She always has something new to share! Stop over and say 'hi'; get to know her site and learn more about her heart for cooking.

Just click on the button to head over for a little visit full of "big appetites and tasty dreams"! Oh, and don't forget to "like" her on Facebook too.

"The Good Wife's Guide" {A Book Review & Giveaway}

2012-02-27T02:30:00.000-08:00

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Darlene Schacht is a perfect example of the Proverbs 31 woman who is "rare, her price is far above rubies (vs 10)." Her passion for God's Word, traditional values, and Biblical womanhood permeates every word she writes. Her heart is for women to embrace their roles as wives, mothers and sisters in Christ. Now she has provided us all with an excellent resource to help us on this adventure.

The Good Wife's Guide is jammed packed with a mix of tips, advice and Biblical wisdom. Here are just a few of my favorite nuggets:
1. "You have the ability to get your surroundings under control, to manage your home well and find time to relax. (pg 38)" Wow!! Isn't this what every busy woman (single, married, with children or without) wants to know how to do! She had my attention!! I had to keep reading!

2. "Saying 'no' today isn't about closing a door; it's leaving a room empty enough for God's will to fill it with something better. (pg 44)" Saying "no" can be so hard. We want to be able to juggle it all - work, home, ministry, friends, hobbies. As it says in Ecclesiastics 3:1, "to everything there is a season". I love the perspective she gives here! Saying 'no' today isn't a negative thing. We need to be aware of our limitations and priorities. When we realize that by saying "no" we are allowing God the room He need to fill our lives with His will and purpose for us...well, saying the little word isn't quite so hard.

3. "Everything that I present to my family is a reflection of my heart. I can either show them that I value them by giving myself with joy, or I can do it begrudgingly because it's something that has to be done. (69)" Feeling convicted? Me too! I love being a SAHM. However, I know that there are times when my attitude and actions don't convey that to my family. If I want them to know the treasure they truly are to me, then it's MY responsibility to do everything (the fun and the mundane) with a heart of joy.

4. "Give away or throw away 25 things. (pg 111)" Are you running out of room? Does your car stay outside because there isn't room in the garage for it? Maybe it's time to scale down. Darlene gives guidelines for knowing what to throw away, give away and keep. Our 9 year old son used these tips to clean up his room! Within 20 minutes, he had over 30 items sorted!!

These are just four amazing pieces out of this incredible book! There are also housekeeping schedules, organizational tips, cleaning recipes and so much more!!!

Whether you've been married just a few months or for several years, The Good Wife's Guide is a must have resource!! It's the perfect bridal shower gift for the upcoming wedding season!

Darlene has been kind enough to provide a copy for me to giveaway. Use the form below to enter. I will announce the winner on Friday, March 2nd, 2012.

Darlene Schacht is a New-York Times Best Selling author, co-author of Reshaping It All with Candace Cameron Bure (DJ from Full House), author of Time-Warp Wife blog and contributing author at RooMag, Keepin' It Real and The Better Mom.

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Hooray for Hollywood?

2012-02-26T13:27:00.004-08:00

Tonight is the Academy Awards, the biggest night in Hollywood; the one night that actors, actresses, producers, directors, composers, and countless other cinema professionals wait for all year. Tonight, fashions will be critiqued, careers will be made, hearts will be disappointed; trophies will be given, speeches will be read, red carpet will be walked...

After reading Courtney's post, My Reflections of the Academy Awards from her blog, Women Living Well, I was inspired to buy my own red carpet as a reminder that:

~ As I walk to my red carpet, I am thankful to have a husband and children to lovingly serve.
~ As I stand on my red carpet (with or without hair done or makeup on) I am beautiful in the eyes of my husband, the only earthly man's opinion I care about, and in the eyes of my Lord who created me in HIS image.
~ As I wash dishes at my red carpet, I am grateful for clean, running water that I daily take for granted.
~ As prepare countless meals and snacks at my red carpet, I am reminded that God provides all our needs.
~ As I clean my red carpet, I am reminded how God sent his Son, Jesus, to cleanse me of all my sins.

I may never walk the red carpet of Hollywood, wear a designer gown or give an acceptance speech; but, each day I walk up to my red carpet with confidence because of who I am in Christ, satisfaction in the contentment that is found in joyfully serving my family and thanksgiving for the many blessings God has so graciously given to me. It's more than can ever be found in a small, golden statue.

I love the way Courtney says it,

"There is no greater honor than the red carpet walk I do every morning in my kitchen. Join me, as you step up to your kitchen sink – in welcoming a joy that the world cannot understand."

Courageous - Casting Crowns

2012-02-23T21:14:00.000-08:00

Thanks to everyone who commented and shared their current favorite song! I love listening to each of your songs (even if I already know them ☺). Family and marriage has been heavy on many hearts recently, including my own. Last week's feature, Lead Me, spoke to the desire by us as wives and children to be lead by our husbands. This week's feature comes from Kim. Courageous by Casting Crowns is a cry for men to step up as the warriors of our families. Although it doesn't specifically speak to women, I believe we are called to (1) pray and (2) "seek justice, love mercy and walk humbly with you God."

"The only way we'll ever stand, is on our knees with lifted hands!"

Don't forget... We want to hear from YOU!!! Leave a comment with a song that God's using in your life. Next week, YOU could be our featured song!!

What's Holding You Back?

2012-02-20T08:51:00.000-08:00

This morning as I was scrolling through the posts of so many wonderful blogs-blogs full of encouragement, tips, recipes and challenges-I was drawn to comment on a question posed,

"What is your dream?"

For most of my life, my dream was to be a SAHM (stay-at-home-mom) and in 2006 God opened the door and my dream became my reality! I am grateful everyday for the privilege to be able to stay home with our children - caring for them, training them, helping them, loving them, laughing with them - being the mommy God has called me to be for them. To be honest, I really do LOVE being a mom so much that I hadn't given much thought to what my new dreams might be. Then just last night I was reminded of one...to write a book.

Truth be told, there is a little birdie (aka The Holy Spirit), that has been nudging me in this area for several months. Every so often I can hear His still small voice say, "Remember that idea I gave you? When are you going to write about it?" I know full well that it's not speaking to a blog post, but to a book idea, three in fact.

So this morning, as I commented on that post, I heard the voice again, only this time it wasn't a reminder...it was a question.

"If I have called you to write and I have reminded you of that calling, then what is holding you back?"

What is holding me back from writing more?

Time-How will I find the time to write more than I do?
Fear-What if no one likes it?
Balance-How will I balance my family, ministry and writing?

Sometimes I wonder how many times The Holy Spirit will speak to me on a subject before He chooses to close a door or opportunity; or before He chooses someone else to accomplish what He intended for me to do. I don't want to find out!!! I don't want Him to find someone else to fill in the gap I was suppose to fill. I don't want ANYTHING to hold me back from fulfilling what He has called me to do! I know that if He has called me to it, then none of the things that are holding me back should stand in my way. He will give me wisdom to create a schedule where I have time to write and balance my family, ministry and writing responsibilities. His Word says, "Fear not, for I am with you." (Isaiah 41:10). If He has called me to it, then He will walk with me on this journey.

It is the desire of my heart to follow God's will for my life, whatever that may be-even sitting down to write a book, or two or three! :)

What is God calling you to do? Where has He been gently nudging you to move, serve, grow, or follow? What's holding YOU back?

Lead Me - Sanctus Real

2012-02-16T21:08:00.000-08:00

It's makes my heart smile as I read your comments and see how God is using the gift of music to bless and encourage your souls!! This week's featured song comes from Esther at Laugh With Us Blog. This is what it means to her, in her own words...

I love “Lead Me” by Sanctus Real. I am so thankful to be able to be home raising my kids. I wouldn’t trade it to chase any other dream. It is, however, difficult at times to be home and feel sort of left behind or forgotten as I watch my husband pursue his dreams.

For me, this song speaks to the deep desire of a family who longs to have their husband and daddy be the leader, spiritually, physically and emotionally, that God has called him to be. May it be a blessing to you as you listen.

Don't forget... We want to hear from YOU!!! Leave a comment with a song that God's using in your life. Next week, YOU could be our featured song!!

3 COMMENTS:

Kim said...: What a great song for a married couple and their family!

This past week I have had a similar song on my heart: Courageous, by Casting Crowns. It such a rallying cry from the heart for husbands to be courageous in their relationships, to love and to lead. I actually put it in a recent post on Prayer, which was offered as yet another resource for couples in the midst of stormy marriages.; FEBRUARY 17, 2012 7:23 AM
Torrie said...: I LOVE Courageous, Kim!! It's my husband's ring tone when he calls me. Have you seen the film? So moving and challenging to both moms and dads. I love the line, "The only way we'll ever stand is on our knees with lifted hands." WOW!!; FEBRUARY 17, 2012 7:53 AM
Dayna Camp said...: How fun to have a song of the week! I enjoyed listening to Lead Me! We home schooled for many years and it was such a blessing to know I didn't have to work but just raise and teach my children. A song that has been very meaningful to me lately has been In Christ Alone sung by Owl City. I put it in my blog at www.gracenotesinspiration.com; FEBRUARY 18, 2012 5:29 AM

♥Dressing for Him ♥

2012-02-13T03:00:00.000-08:00

The other day, my girl friend and I had an impromptu shopping trip. It was only a couple of hours, but for this SAHM (stay-at-home-mom), it was a welcome change to my usual routine. We ended up at a favorite little shop full of the cutest spring fashions. I just LOVE this store. It's one of those places that every time I visit, I find ~~something~~ many things that are just my style. And this day was no exception.

Maurice.com

After falling in love with various shirts, dresses and jeans, I found it - a beautiful, red and black satin, off-the-shoulder tunic. It's nothing I would normally pick and everything I'd love to try. I held it up to show my friend who immediately encouraged me to try it on.

"Where would I ever where something like this?" I asked (more as a statement than a question)
"Date night."
"Date night! I think this is a little overdressed for Outback." (We do have date night on a regular basis, but it's rarely a fancy occasion.)
"You're not dressing for Outback. You're dressing for him."

Her words stopped me in my tracks. She was exactly right!! Although I put some extra effort into my "date night" appearance, it had never crossed my mind to step it up for no other reason than my husband.

"You're not dressing for Outback. You're dressing for him!"

I did try this beautiful tunic on and am still in love with it. However, it didn't fit very well and so I didn't buy it. But my girl friend's words have stuck with me. Now whether I'm shopping or just getting ready at home, I will choose to put some "WOW!" into my choices because as she said...I'm dressing for him!

Your Great Name - Natalie Grant

2012-02-09T21:06:00.000-08:00

Thanks everyone for your comments. I love hearing about how God is using music or a specific song in your life. And I LOVE listening to all these new songs!!! This week's song comes from Linda at Creekside Ministries. I love the powerful message of the words as it reminds us exactly who our Father is, how worthy He is and how much power there is in His Great Name - JESUS!! Enjoy and be blessed!!

Don't forget...We want to hear from you!! Let us know what song God has been using to speak to your heart. We may pick you to be our feature song next week!!

9 COMMENTS:

laughwithusblog said...: I love “Lead Me” by Sanctus Real. I am so thankful to be able to be home raising my kids. I wouldn’t trade it to chase any other dream. It is, however, difficult at times to be home and feel sort of left behind or forgotten as I watch my husband pursue his dreams.; FEBRUARY 9, 2012 8:55 PM
Thumb Updown said...: I love Natalie's songs. I just started turning KLOVE on for my kids to listen to during the day, its nice to have some positive happy music on during the day to help us stay in tuned to the Spirit and listen to our Savior.; FEBRUARY 9, 2012 9:05 PM
Torrie said...: Our radio station has been playing that a lot lately. I really like that one too. I know that can be a challenge for us at times. Thanks for sharing.; FEBRUARY 9, 2012 9:07 PM
Torrie said...: Thumb Updown, I totally agree!! I try to have SOS (our Christian radio station) on 99% of the time too. Definitely think it makes a difference. :); FEBRUARY 9, 2012 9:09 PM
Karen Dawkins said...: Here's my musical post: http://karendawkins.blogspot.com/2012/02/roaring-like-lion.html

God's Not Dead by the Newsboys. Or is it "by Newsboys"? You get the idea :); FEBRUARY 10, 2012 9:42 AM
Karen Dawkins said...: laughwithusblog,
I understand how you feel. Stepping away from practicing law and teaching college students to raise our kids was hard sometimes, especially when they were your kids' ages. (young!)

Today, I got a text from the oldest one: "I just revealed our entire relationship to my AP lit class."

Me: "How?"

Him: "We were talking about how women give and give and give (in AP Lit as the read "The Giving Tree." The tree = women). Then the people they give to leave and that is hard for them to give so much and then let go. It was a strangely emotional moment. Everyone thinks you are awesome though."

Him again: "Know, rather. Not thinks."

There is nothing more rewarding I could do than to prepare my children to embrace adulthood with faith and confidence.

You reap what you sow, laughwithusblog, and you are sowing incredibly into the next generation. (I know you know that... sometimes it's nice to hear from someone outside your four walls. XO); FEBRUARY 10, 2012 9:47 AM
Shari Lynne @ www.faithfilledfoodformoms.com said...: I love this song! I LOVE to worship!! it's my thing! Love your website Torrie!!

Blessings!; FEBRUARY 10, 2012 10:25 AM
Torrie said...: Thanks for you Newsboy link Karen. Gonna give it a listen. Love your sweet words to Laughwithusblog. You hit the nail on the head! Although we all know we are where we are called to be, it's so nice to hear it from someone else sometimes. XOXO; FEBRUARY 10, 2012 8:26 PM
Linda Stoll said...: Greetings from Creekside Ministries! Thanks for featuring YOUR GREAT NAME! So many more powerful tunes that have captured my heart and impacted my readers are here -

http://creeksideministries.blogspot.com/search/label/tunesand impactare here -; FEBRUARY 12, 2012 3:14 PM

Gift Tags {A Simple How-To}

2012-02-08T03:00:00.000-08:00

I'm am the farthest thing from a crafty girl. I always say that my aspirations completely outweigh my skill level! LOL! Well, with the help of a VERY crafty girlfriend, I made a set of gift tags for our our goody bags for the first day of our ladies Bible study. We are studying "The Excellent Wife" by Martha Peace, so we made survival kits for each of the women in our group. I have to say, they turned out pretty cute (if I do say so myself) ;-)

Here's what you'll need:
- pencil
- 2 pages of scrapbook paper that compliment each other
- siccors
- ruler
- stamp pad
- tape runner
- label

First, make your "stencil" for the tags. I used an old cereal box and just measured out how big I wanted the base and the inside (which a made 1/8" smaller in order to see the layered effect). When you have the size you want, you're ready to trace. I did all the tracing on the opposite side of the paper so the lines won't show.

Carefully, cut the tags out.

Next, rub the edges of each tag along the stamp pad. This will give the tags a distressed appearance.

Use the tape runner to attache the smaller tag to the center of the larger one, achieving a layer look.

Center your tag label. Attach with the tape runner. Punch a hole in the top and tie the ribbon. And there you have it! Your gift tag is ready to attach to your gift or goody bag.

Gentleness Challenge - Week 4

2012-02-03T03:00:00.000-08:00

It's week four of the Gentleness Challenge. How are you doing? Have you found the encouragement, wisdom and tools helpful? Have you seen a change in your own behavior and reactions? What about your kids? Are they more obedient or less whiny?

Picture by Tom Curtis

Well, the challenge has been a tide of ebbs and flows at our home. The first two weeks went fairly well. I began speaking more encouragement over our kids, pointing out their gifts and talents, inspiring them to use them daily for God's glory and helping them see areas where this would be possible. We started memorizing a weekly Bible verse and finding ways to implement the verse as our day went along. The kids were adapting well to the positive changes and I was becoming a happier, more gentle mommy. Then life got busy again!

I had a couple added responsibilities for a few days, my time shorter and so became my temper. I found that the stress I was under trying manage it all was causing our positive changes to take a nose-dive. The kids fell back into their bad habits and so did their momma. I have tried so hard not to raise my voice. I don't want to be the angry yelling mom anymore. Then I read week 4 of The Gentleness Challenge from Women Living Well.

This week, Courtney shares some wisdom she has learned from Michelle Dugger, mother of 19 children! There were two main points:

When you feel angry, lower your voice to a whisper instead of raising it to yell.

Praise your children 10x mores than you correct them.

Ouch! Did that sting anyone else, or just me!! Unfortunately, raising my voice has become my go-to bad habit. It's my way of enforcing control and demanding respect. However, it's not working so well. Through this challenge, I've learned to speak in a more gentle tone, but a whisper? Michelle takes this advise from Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath but a harsh word stirs up anger.” How true is that! The more I yell, the worse the situation becomes. So I tried the "whisper method". IT WORKS!! I was in control, calm and quiet which brought their tone/tantrum to a more controlled state. I'm definitely keeping this one in mommy's little bag of tricks! :-)

Do you find yourself saying, "Don't do this! "Don't do that!" all day long. Guess what, you're tired of saying it and your children are tired of hearing it! The Duggers try not to use "don't" when speaking to their children. Instead, they try to refocus the child's attention to the expected behavior and compliment what they are doing well. For example, instead of saying "Don't hit your sister!" I have tried saying, "You were so kind to your classmate today. Let's try to be as kind to your sister." Courtney goes on to say that you can take the compliments even further by adding a Christ-like trait to them. (i.e. Thank you for your obedience in finishing your chores on time.)

As always, I have included the video link below in case you haven't seen this week's chat. You will want to watch. Angela & Courtney always have some extra words of wisdom they have gleaned from Sally Clarkson's book, The Ministry of Motherhood.

This Little Light of Mine

2012-01-30T23:51:00.000-08:00

"Hey Mom, I think I did one of the best things I've ever done today at school."

"That's great! What did you do?"

"My teacher was really mad at one of the kids in my class today for not turning his work in, keeping his grade card in his desk and not taking letters home to his parents. He was sitting at his desk crying. I went over to him and told him that it was ok. I told him we all do bad sometimes and that I've gotten bad grades too, but that you can get them back up again. Then I told him not to be embarrassed because he was crying. I told him I've cried in class too. Then I asked if anyone else had ever cried in class. Almost all the kids in our table group raised their hands. By then, he stopped crying and started to feel better. I think that really made God happy today!"

With a lump in my throat, "Yes, Sweetheart, I'm sure it made God very happy!"

Some parents measure the success of their children in trophies, awards and honors. Until recently, I was one of those parents. However, for the Christian parent, the success of a child should be that they grow to love God with all their heart, soul and strength (Luke 10:27). This is what I long for in my children, what I deeply desire, what I pray for as they head off to school, as I'm running errands, as we pray together as night. With these prayers, I see growth! I see a 9-year old, 4th grader willing to stand in the gap to encourage a classmate. I see a boy not only memorizing our weekly Bible verse at home, but finding practical ways to implement them during his day. Last week we memorized Matthew 5:16.

"In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven." Matthew 5:16

Oh, how I love to watch his light shine!!

10 Days of Proverbs 31 - Day 10

2012-01-28T09:47:00.000-08:00

It's hard to believe this series is coming to a close. Thank you for joining me on this journey. It has been an honor to share with you, what the Lord has revealed through His Word. To be honest, this is the first time I have dug deep into Proverbs 31. The chapter has always intimidated me, making me feel guilty for not measuring up to what I perceived as unattainable standards. I'm so thankful that God nudged me into this study. He shined His light into the darkness and revealed the truth about this amazing woman!!

The Proverbs 31 woman is pretty remarkable isn't she? It's no wonder that she is called "rare". However, I don't believe she is rare because woman can't measure up to the example she sets; but rather, most women won't discipline themselves to strive for her level of excellence. It is my prayer that through this study, your eyes have been opened to the truth. Becoming like the Proverbs 31 woman is completely attainable. The question is, "Are you willing to put forth the time, effort and dedication necessary to become a woman who "is hard to find; her price is far above rubies. (vs 10)"

When our son looks at his weekly homework on Monday afternoon, it appears overwhelming. He is frustrated and discouraged as he looks at the task before him, wondering how he will ever get it finished on time. Yet, when we look at it together, break it down into manageable segments, spend time each day on the task, the homework gets done on time with little stress. Proverbs 31 is very similar. Looking at verses 10-31 as a whole is, without a doubt, completely overwhelming. It is easy to become guilt-ridden, discouraged and give up.

FYI - This is exactly where the enemy want to keep you! Don't give him the satisfaction of allowing him to keep you from reaching your full potential in Christ!

Like our son's homework, if we learn to take one characteristic, one attribute at a time, one task at a time the transformation is much more tangible.

Each day during this series I posed a challenge to you. Choose just one task from that day, try to implement it into your daily routine. How did you do? Many of you commented that this was just the boost you needed to get you started. Did you start? Did you put your desires into action? I hope so!! If you didn't, don't give up! Today is a new day. Begin today, this moment. Pray that God would be your help and your guide as you make the necessary changes in your own life to become more like the woman He created. He deeply desires to see you reach your fullness in Him, and so do I!!! I believe in a God who changes lives and I believe He can and will change your's if you let Him. Won't you please let Him?

Becoming like the Proverbs 31 woman is completely attainable. The question is, "Are you willing to put forth the time, effort and dedication necessary to become a woman who "is hard to find; her price is far above rubies. (vs 10)"

I'm honored to welcome so many new readers to BBM through this series. If you would like prayer, please feel free to contact me. You can leave a message here in the comments, on our Facebook page , or for more privacy, at sorgemom2@yahoo.com. BBM is a safe place for you! You are valued and you are loved!

Be Blessed & Be a Blessing!

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Contributing to Family Income/2 better than 1
The Fear of the Lord/Satisfied by Love
Using Time Wisely/Blessed Beyond Measure
Taking Care of Needy/Shadow Wonder
Using Money Wisely/For Such a Time as This
Beauty is Fleeting/Monique Zackery
Keeping an Eye on Home/Just a Glimpse
She Can Laugh at the Days Ahead/Faith Filled Food For Mom
Clothed in Strength and Dignity/One Thing I've Learned
Taking Care of Others/2Savvy Gals
Being Creative/A Patchwork Mommy
Bringing Variety to Family/Karen Dawkins
Extending Your Hand to the Poor/Woman's Fellowship House
Organization/Teaching What is Good

10 Days of Proverbs 31 - Day 9

2012-01-27T07:00:00.000-08:00

"She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come." Proverbs 31:25

Wow! The woman of Proverbs 31 is pretty amazing, isn’t she! She serves her family, others and still has time for herself, both physically and spiritually. Is there anything this woman can’t do? YES!! Today we are going to see one thing the Proverbs 31 woman doesn’t spend her time doing…worrying!

Are you a worry wart? Or are you confident, fully trusting God for all your needs? For the first several years of our marriage, I was a worrier. I wasted so much time, energy and effort fretting about everything from our bills to our jobs, to our future, to our children (whom hadn’t even been born!). Anytime an issue arose, I automatically saw the worst-case scenario. My husband, on the other hand, is the complete opposite. (Yes, opposites do attract!) For every question or doubt I expressed, he had a statement of faith. It wasn’t just a statement; but a full confidence in knowing God’s promises and trusting in them alone. His example and constant reminders help strengthen my own walk.

The Proverbs 31 woman is a lot like my husband. Proverbs 31:25 says, “she laughs at the days ahead.” We saw yesterday, that she spends time in the Word and in prayer. Because of the time she spends with her God, she is well aware of His promises. She doesn't spend her days stressed out or worried about what her future holds. She is filled with joy by the One who holds her future! How do you view the future? Are you so full of confidence in God’s promises that you can look to your future with joy and laughter? Or do you spend precious time consumed with things that are out of your control?

Spending time memorizing scripture and knowing God’s promises is a great way to move from a life of worry to a life of joy. Here are a few of my favorite verses:

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and a future.”
Matthew 6:25-27 "25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[a]?"
Romans 8:31 "What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?"
Philippians 4:6-7 "Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
Deuteronomy 31:8-9 "The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”

Christian author,Max Lucado,wrote "No one can worry and pray at the same time." Elisabeth Elliot, widow of missionary Jim Elliot, says, "Worry is the antithesis of trust. You simply cannot do both. They are mutually exclusive." So how will you choose to spend your time, wringing your hands in worry or lifting them in praise?

Challenge: Commit one of the above verses to memory. The next time those unsettling thoughts creep into your mind, say it out loud! Become confident in the One who holds your future!

Until Tomorrow Friends...

Be Blessed & Be a Blessing!

Don't forget to visit these contributors of 13 Blogs, 13 Topics, 1 Great God!

Contributing to Family Income/2 better than 1
The Fear of the Lord/Satisfied by Love
Using Time Wisely/Blessed Beyond Measure
Taking Care of Needy/Shadow Wonder
Using Money Wisely/For Such a Time as This
Beauty is Fleeting/Monique Zackery
Keeping an Eye on Home/Just a Glimpse
She Can Laugh at the Days Ahead/Faith Filled Food For Mom
Clothed in Strength and Dignity/One Thing I've Learned
Taking Care of Others/2Savvy Gals
Being Creative/A Patchwork Mommy
Bringing Variety to Family/Karen Dawkins
Extending Your Hand to the Poor/Woman's Fellowship House
Organization/Teaching What is Good

10 Days of Proverbs 31 - Day 8

2012-01-26T07:30:00.000-08:00

"She makes coverings for her bed;

she is clothed in fine linen and purple." Proverbs 31:22

The woman of Proverbs 31 spends time on her family, time helping others and today we'll see she still has time for herself. How is this even possible?? "I don't do half of what this woman does and I'm lucky to get a shower everyday!" If this is the thought that just ran through your mind, you're not alone! Me too!! I'll be honest, there are days when I pray that no one sees me as I drop the kids off at school-no makeup, hair in a ponytail (not the cute kind) and still in my pjs. I guess it's one thing if you start the morning this way, it's another when you pick the kids in the same outfit! This is definitely not how the Proverbs 31 woman would begin her day.

Verse 22 says that, "she is clothed in fine linen and purple." She spends time on herself and takes pride in the way she looks. (No pjs during carpool for this momma!) Her clothes are always well put together; her makeup pretty and natural; her hair nicely styled. She doesn't do this as a form of vanity, but out of respect for her husband. Verse 23 tells us that "her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land." Her husband holds a position of leadership among the city members and therefore his wife spend the time necessary to attractive.

"But my husband isn't a government or city official, so why do I need to spend time on myself?" From what we've seen of the Proverbs 31 woman she holds her family in the highest regards. In my humble opinion, I don't think it would matter what her husband's profession, she would spend the time to look attractive simply out of respect for him. Think back when you were dating. Remember spending hours getting ready, looking just so, only to sit at home and watch t.v. or go out for coffee! It wasn't the activity you were preparing for, but rather the person. I'll be honest, I have been convicted in this area. After 12 years in a loving, secure marriage, I've become comfortable, too comfortable. I remember when I wouldn't dream of leaving the house without being totally put together. Now it's rare if my hair is down, makeup on and clothes resembling an outfit replace my daily jeans and t-shirts. I love my husband and greatly respect him. I need to take the time and effort to look nice for him.

Secondly, she spends time on herself, spiritually. Verse 30 says, "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." She understands that outer beauty is short lived. Her soul is what people find beautiful. This kind of maturity doesn't come without spending time with God. Spending time in His Word daily is crucial. You will never know what God wants of you or for if you don't learn to listen to His voice. She also spends time in prayer. Do you pray, I mean really pray, over your family? Do you spend time praying for your husband, asking him what his prayer needs are and committing them to God? Do you do the same for your children? Do you spend time with God, seeking His will for you and your family? I say this from experience, prayer can and will change your life! God deeply desires for us to commune with Him. He is our Abba Father, Daddy. The desires and dreams, cares and concerns you carry in your heart matter to Him.

Do you need to spend some time on yourself? I know I do!! It doesn't have to be hours, like during those dating days. Most of us don't have hours to spare. Let's start with 15-30 minutes. That's not too much time to ask to being to put some effort into how we represent our families.

Challenge: Purpose to dress nicely tomorrow. Put a little thought into your outfit. It doesn't have to be fancy. Trade in the "mom" jeans for your "cute" jeans and a nice sweater. Open your Bible and meditate on His Word for 5 minutes. Not sure where to begin? Start with today's verse, Proverbs 31:22. Finally, pray. Talk to God. You can do this throughout your day, anywhere, anytime! Share your heart with Him!

Until Tomorrow Friends...

Be Blessed & Be a Blessing!

Don't forget to visit these contributors of 13 Blogs, 13 Topics, 1 Great God!

Contributing to Family Income/2 better than 1
The Fear of the Lord/Satisfied by Love
Using Time Wisely/Blessed Beyond Measure
Taking Care of Needy/Shadow Wonder
Using Money Wisely/For Such a Time as This
Beauty is Fleeting/Monique Zackery
Keeping an Eye on Home/Just a Glimpse
She Can Laugh at the Days Ahead/Faith Filled Food For Mom
Clothed in Strength and Dignity/One Thing I've Learned
Taking Care of Others/2Savvy Gals
Being Creative/A Patchwork Mommy
Bringing Variety to Family/Karen Dawkins
Extending Your Hand to the Poor/Woman's Fellowship House
Organization/Teaching What is Good

10 Days of Proverbs 31 - Day 7

2012-01-25T13:02:00.000-08:00

"She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy." Proverbs 31:20

So far we've seen the Proverbs 31 woman spends her time practically at home by attending to the needs of her family (vs 27). Today we examine how she invests time into the lives of others.

We see in verse 20 that she opens her arms and extends her hands. What a picture of compassion for others! She doesn't just see the needs, she actively gets involved in filling that need! She isn't consumed with her life, her household, her responsibilities...her little world. She is fully alert to the needs of others. Oh, how easy it is to have the best of intentions, but never really getting around to helping those less fortunate.

What does this look like? How does she have the time to serve her family and others too? How can I serve others?

See the need. Don't be so caught up in your own world that opportunities to help pass you by. I don't normally give money to homeless in parking lots or on the corner. However, last week a man approached me at the gas station. He was deaf and had a lanyard around his neck explaining his situation. I distinctly felt the Holy Spirit move me to help him. I searched the car for a couple dollars. Then I was reminded of a $5.00 I had in the glove box for a rainy day. Well, my day wasn't rainy, but his didn't seem very bright. I prayed that God would use it to bless the man. I left, my heart full of blessings for taking the time to listen to that still, small voice.
Volunteer your time. Look for local outreach programs where you can get involved. Area food banks, shelters, pregnancy crisis centers, non-profit charities all need volunteers to help our communities. What a great way to not only serve others, but be a light in the life of someone else! If you don't know of any opportunities in your area, contact your church office. Many times they have been contacted by these agencies looking for assistance.
Do for one what you'd like to do for everyone. By this I mean, take one person and serve their needs. Sometimes the need is so great we are overwhelmed and discouraged, wondering how we can ever make a difference. You may not be able to make a difference in the lives of many, so just start with one! Find a senior who is lonely and spend time chatting together, reading together or helping them with errands or housework. Adopt a family in need and help them with dinner or groceries. Befriend a child in your neighborhood. Reach out a helping hand to just one.

“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.' Matthew 25:40

While her household responsibilities are a part of her daily schedule, the time she spends helping the needy can be more relaxed. It may be once a week, once a month or once in awhile. It's also a great opportunity for you to spend time as a family; serving together, spending time together, investing in the lives of others together. What better example for our children than to join with us in being the hands and feet of Jesus!

What better example for our children than to join with us in being the hands and feet of Jesus!

Challenge: Ask God to show you who and how He wants you to serve. You will find yourself just as blessed, if not more so, than those you serve!

Until Tomorrow Friends...

Be Blessed & Be a Blessing!

Don't forget to visit these contributors of 13 Blogs, 13 Topics, 1 Great God!

Contributing to Family Income/2 better than 1
The Fear of the Lord/Satisfied by Love
Using Time Wisely/Blessed Beyond Measure
Taking Care of Needy/Shadow Wonder
Using Money Wisely/For Such a Time as This
Beauty is Fleeting/Monique Zackery
Keeping an Eye on Home/Just a Glimpse
She Can Laugh at the Days Ahead/Faith Filled Food For Mom
Clothed in Strength and Dignity/One Thing I've Learned
Taking Care of Others/2Savvy Gals
Being Creative/A Patchwork Mommy
Bringing Variety to Family/Karen Dawkins
Extending Your Hand to the Poor/Woman's Fellowship House
Organization/Teaching What is Good

10 Days of Proverbs 31 - Day 6

2012-01-24T13:26:00.000-08:00

"She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes." Proverbs 31:24

Do you have a talent? Is there something you do especially well? Maybe it's something that your friends and family recognize and praise, like your cooking or baking. Maybe it's something you've never considered as a talent like being able to teach or encourage. God has made each one of us with special gifts and abilities. He desires that we recognize our talents, work diligently at them, and use them to serve others and glorify Him.

"We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your[a] faith; 7 if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; 8 if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead,[b] do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully." Romans 12:6-8

The Proverbs 31 woman is wise with her time. That alone is a talent! We've seen in the past few days how easily it is to waste time and how much work it is to be diligent with our time. After what we have already seen of this extraordinary woman, it may be surprising that she has any time left!

Verse 24 says that she "makes linen garments and sells them and supplies the merchants with sashes." On top of her responsibilities at home, she also is a business woman! Her talent was making fine garments: "She selects wool and flax (vs 13)", "She grasps the spindle with her fingers (vs 19)," "She makes coverings for her bed (vs 22)". She was a seamstress. She made garments for her family and then made extra to sell in town. She used her time to help her family out financially. In these very difficult economic times, our family's finances may need our help more than ever. If your family is struggling to make ends meet each month, maybe there is a way you can contribute if you aren't already. I live in Las Vegas. Our city has been one of the hardest hit by the nation's economic crisis. Let me tell you about three of my girlfriends, all SAHMs, all with children still at home, all needing to contribute to their homes financially.

"Angie & Kim" - Both of these woman love God and their families. They serve Him at home and in their churches. They both love children and are amazing mothers! They have turned that love into an opportunity to help out financially. Each provide in-home daycare. They are still able to be SAHMs and use their time and talents to help meet their family's financial needs.
"Holly" - She too loves her husband and children dearly. She leads woman Bible studies and is an outstanding example of God's grace, forgiveness and love. Did I mention, she makes the most amazing cakes!!! Recently, she started doing this on the side for birthdays, baby showers and other events. She is taking her time, using her talent and contributing to her family's resources.

Now it's your turn. What is your talent? How can you use your time and talent to benefit your family financially? Is now the right season in your life to explore this area? To everything there is a season. Now may not be the right time for you to pursue your talent in this fashion. For someone else, this may be the perfect time to step out in faith and see where God is taking this talent or dream of yours. Give it to Him. He knows your needs and desires. He will provide all your needs!

Challenge: Search your heart. Pray and ask God to reveal your talents to you. Seek His will and timing in using them to help your family financially.

Until Tomorrow Friends...

Be Blessed & Be a Blessing!

Don't forget to visit these contributors of 13 Blogs, 13 Topics, 1 Great God!

Contributing to Family Income/2 better than 1
The Fear of the Lord/Satisfied by Love
Using Time Wisely/Blessed Beyond Measure
Taking Care of Needy/Shadow Wonder
Using Money Wisely/For Such a Time as This
Beauty is Fleeting/Monique Zackery
Keeping an Eye on Home/Just a Glimpse
She Can Laugh at the Days Ahead/Faith Filled Food For Mom
Clothed in Strength and Dignity/One Thing I've Learned
Taking Care of Others/2Savvy Gals
Being Creative/A Patchwork Mommy
Bringing Variety to Family/Karen Dawkins
Extending Your Hand to the Poor/Woman's Fellowship House
Organization/Teaching What is Good

10 Days of Proverbs 31 - Day 5

2012-01-23T09:55:00.000-08:00

"She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar." Proverbs 31:14

Today we are going to examine how the Proverbs 31 woman shops. Yes, the Bible even gives us an example of how we are to go shopping! In verse 14, we see that she is compared to a merchant ship. Imagine living as she did - no local grocery stores, no massive warehouse-style bulk buying, no refrigerator to preserve food. Like a merchant ship that would bring food and goods from far away lands, everyday she traveled to the busy market trading her goods for food for her family. Makes me thankful for modern conveniences like a car, Costco and our fridge!

Since we do have so many resources to make our lives faster and easier, how can we still be like a merchant ship today? Is it even necessary? Yes, it is still necessary because the Bible say she is like the merchant ships, not that she was. It is in the present tense, meaning it still applies to us today.

How do you go grocery shopping? Do you run to the closest store because it's convenient? Or do you take the time to drive further away for better prices or products? Do you go the extra mile to spend your family's finances wisely? Let's see some practical ways that we can use our time wisely as we shop for our families.

Review local grocery ads and circulars each week. This is so important! Each week grocery stores run sales (and most of them will have similar items on sale). Be informed! Know the regular price of items, so that you can compare the sale prices.
Make a meal plan for the week. Once you've gone through your ads for the week, make a menu. Base it off of the main ingredients (meats, produce, in-season items) are on sale. This will keep your cost down. Having a weekly menu in place will also save you time each evening because you will already know what to make for dinner (and you will already have all the necessary ingredients on hand). This may seem to take a lot of time at the beginning. Stick with it! It will get easier and faster as you build your recipe/menu library.
Visit your local farmer's markets. During nice weather, many communities have a weekly farmer's market. Take the time to visit them. They have fresh fruits, veggies, herbs, breads and even pasta. You get some yummy, in-season treats while supporting your local agriculture community.
Make a grocery list and stick to it! Once you have your menu in place, make a list of the ingredients you need for the week. You may find one store has better prices on non-perishable items, while another may have quality produce or you need to buy in bulk for a larger family. Don't be afraid to shop at a variety of stores. I shop at 3 each week. Yes, it's time consuming. However, I have found that I'm able to save more money this way.
Be organized!! I can't stress this enough in regards to time management! Plan a shopping day. Know what items need to be purchased at which stores and plan your route accordingly. Pick up the non-perishable items first. You don't want to buy meat and dairy first, just to make a trip home before the ice cream melts ;-). If you use coupons, separate them into envelopes for each store. This will save you time at the store searching for that one coupon you remember seeing but can't find. Being organized takes time upfront, but saves you time, stress and frustration in the long run.

Wow! Who knew that God was so concerned about the way we go shopping! I know it seems like a lot of time and work just to go to the grocery. It is! But don't be overwhelmed! Take advantage of the sites listed on Day 4. They are a great resource for meal plans, recipes, grocery lists printables, and organization tips.

Challenge: Today pick one area above to try. We all have to go grocery shopping at sometime this week. Take some time to either make a menu for the week, or study the weekly circulars, or stick to your list (no impulse buying). Implimenting just one of these ideas at a time will make the change more doable.

Until Tomorrow Friends...

Be Blessed & Be a Blessing!

Don't forget to visit these contributors of 13 Blogs, 13 Topics, 1 Great God!

Contributing to Family Income/2 better than 1
The Fear of the Lord/Satisfied by Love
Using Time Wisely/Blessed Beyond Measure
Taking Care of Needy/Shadow Wonder
Using Money Wisely/For Such a Time as This
Beauty is Fleeting/Monique Zackery
Keeping an Eye on Home/Just a Glimpse
She Can Laugh at the Days Ahead/Faith Filled Food For Mom
Clothed in Strength and Dignity/One Thing I've Learned
Taking Care of Others/2Savvy Gals
Being Creative/A Patchwork Mommy
Bringing Variety to Family/Karen Dawkins
Extending Your Hand to the Poor/Woman's Fellowship House
Organization/Teaching What is Good

10 Days of Proverbs 31 - Day 4

2012-01-21T10:33:00.000-08:00

"13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. 17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks." Proverbs 31:13 & 17

So far we have seen the Proverbs 31 woman wakes early and her mornings are full preparing for the day. In the evening, she continues to attend to the needs of her family. So you can guess that the rest of her day is spent much the same way.

Verses 13 and 17 says she does her work with "eager hands" (vs 13) and that she sets about her work vigorously" (vs 17). Ouch! Did that hurt you as much as it did me? She is eager to do her housework?!? Eager can be defined as, "having or showing keen interest, intense desire." When was the last time you cleaned your house with "keen interest or intense desire"? What does that even mean?

In regards to her time management, it means she has learned how to accomplish her household duties. This may sound silly to some. However, I, for one, had no clue how to keep a home when my husband and I were first married. I still say that if it had been up to me, we would have been starving and naked after the first few months. I was fine at taking care of myself during college. But now I had another person who was depending on me for food, clean clothes, a tidy home and numerous other responsibilities. Thank God he blessed me with a very patient husband who spent the early years of our marriage filling in all the gaps I was unequipped to fulfill. So how did I learn to be a homemaker? How did the Proverbs 31 woman know what to do?

From the beginning of time until the mid 20th century, girls learned the art of homemaking from the best teacher, their mother. They would spend countless hours together learning skills such as: how to care for a sick baby, prepare meals, sew clothes and tend the home. Girls were knowledgeable and prepared when they left their father and mother to begin a new life with their husband. However, with the rise of the feminist movement, this quality time has lost it's level of importance in our society. Mothers are too busy, too tired, too stressed and too unskilled themselves to be able to properly teach their daughters the art of keeping a home.

Were you like me, a new bride who had no idea what it meant to keep a home? Let me tell you, there is hope!! After almost 12 years of marriage (and one very patient husband), I can say that my housekeeping knowledge and skills have vastly improved! It has taken time on my part to learn how to properly keep a home. Here is a list of some resources you can turn too for help:

Your mother - She may have more knowledge and skills tucked away then you realize.
Books - "The Good Wife's Guide" by Darlene Schacht is full of helpful tips to "achieving a well-managed home backed by scripture and gleaned from experience. As well she provides readers with detailed cleaning and organizing schedules for practical application." ~Amazon.com Book description.
Blogs - I love the blogging community! It is chalked full of helpful tips. A couple of my favorite sites are: Women Living Well, The Time-Warp Wife, and Growing Home. You can find house cleaning schedules, recipes, homemaking tips and blog directories full of more resources!
Other women / a Titus 2 mentor - Look at your girlfriends. Do some seem to be more domesticated than you? Ask them for help! Have them come over and help get your house organized. Pick their brains and experience for tips and tricks.
Television - I LOVE Food Network! I gained so many valuable skills watching Rachel Ray, Paula Deen, Ina Garten (Barefoot Contessa), and Sandra Lee. Not to mention, they are a wealth of new recipes to try.

Challenge: Evaluate your housekeeping skills. Are they in need of some assistance? Check out some of the resources above and try to implement one new tip, trick, or skill.

Until Tomorrow Friends...

Be Blessed & Be a Blessing!

Don't forget to visit these contributors of 13 Blogs, 13 Topics, 1 Great God!

Contributing to Family Income/2 better than 1
The Fear of the Lord/Satisfied by Love
Using Time Wisely/Blessed Beyond Measure
Taking Care of Needy/Shadow Wonder
Using Money Wisely/For Such a Time as This
Beauty is Fleeting/Monique Zackery
Keeping an Eye on Home/Just a Glimpse
She Can Laugh at the Days Ahead/Faith Filled Food For Mom
Clothed in Strength and Dignity/One Thing I've Learned
Taking Care of Others/2Savvy Gals
Being Creative/A Patchwork Mommy
Bringing Variety to Family/Karen Dawkins
Extending Your Hand to the Poor/Woman's Fellowship House
Organization/Teaching What is Good

10 Day of Proverbs 31 - Day 3

2012-01-20T08:38:00.000-08:00

"and her lamp does not go out at night." Proverbs 31:18b

Yesterday we saw that the Proverbs 31 woman is an early riser. Today we are going to see that she doesn't have a specific end to her day. When I worked outside the home, I had a set schedule. I worked Monday thru Friday from 8 am to 5 pm. Everyday I knew I could leave at 5:00. However, as all of us moms know, there is no specific "quitting time" for us. The woman of Proverbs 31 had a similar schedule.

Verse 18 says, "her lamp does not go out at night." At first I though it meant that she not only got up before the sun, but that she stayed up very late as well. "Does this woman ever sleep?" I wondered. I don't know about you, but if this momma doesn't get at least 6 hours of beauty rest her temperament is anything but beautiful! You can breathe a sigh of relief. This is not what this verse means. After doing some research, I gained a better understanding of this verse. Think back to a time before electricity. When the sun set, it became dark. There were no lights to turn on, only fire from candles and the moon to provide light. So when it says that "her lamp does not go out," it means that she works into the evening.

Many of us can relate to this type of work. Think of all the things you still need to accomplish during the evening hours: dinner, homework, bath time, laundry just to name a few. If you work outside the home, your list of evening responsibilities is even longer. If the woman of Proverbs of 31 lived today (and by the way, she does....it's YOU!), she would not spend her evening in front of the t.v. watching hours of the world's view of reality. She wouldn't waste time on activities that didn't support her family, her friends, her ministry or her Lord. She would spend her evenings as she spends the rest of her day, busy serving others.

It all ties back to the main theme: she is not idle. Just as her mornings are full "attending to the affairs of her family," (vs 27) so are her nights. BUT This does not mean that you need to work yourself into exhaustion trying to get everything done in one day. That is why it's important to be organized. Make a plan in the morning for your day and stick to it.

Challenge: Tonight, pay close attention to how you spend your time. Are you attending to the affairs of your family? Or do you find yourself wasting more time than you should? Pray that God would reveal areas in your life where you can be wiser with your time.

Until Tomorrow Friends...

Be Blessed & Be a Blessing!

Don't forget to visit these contributors of 13 Blogs, 13 Topics, 1 Great God!

Contributing to Family Income/2 better than 1
The Fear of the Lord/Satisfied by Love
Using Time Wisely/Blessed Beyond Measure
Taking Care of Needy/Shadow Wonder
Using Money Wisely/For Such a Time as This
Beauty is Fleeting/Monique Zackery
Keeping an Eye on Home/Just a Glimpse
She Can Laugh at the Days Ahead/Faith Filled Food For Mom
Clothed in Strength and Dignity/One Thing I've Learned
Taking Care of Others/2Savvy Gals
Being Creative/A Patchwork Mommy
Bringing Variety to Family/Karen Dawkins
Extending Your Hand to the Poor/Woman's Fellowship House
Organization/Teaching What is Good

Dirty Dishes - Scotty McCreery

2012-01-19T20:59:00.000-08:00

This week's song comes from one of our readers. Fawn, from The Happy Wives Club, shared her favorite song, Dirty Dishes by Scotty McCreey. Although we are avid country music fans, I hadn't heard this song, but on listen and I was hooked! As a mom, it's a great reminder of what is really important. Enjoy!!

Want to be featured next week? Leave a comment with a song that is currently blessing your heart. We just might pick YOU! :-)

5 COMMENTS:

Audry Cece said...: This is such a cute song! I've never heard it before so thanks for sharing!!

A song that has been blessing me lately is "When We're Together" by Mark Harris. It's from the movie Courageous and it's just such a sweet sweet song. It makes me think of my family.

My 2-year old daughter has been doing ballet all over the house to it for the last couple of days:)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ss-1EDv3fgs; FEBRUARY 2, 2012 8:19 AM
Torrie said...: Audry, Thanks for sharing. I haven't heard this one yet. Can't wait to check it out. I love finding new inspirational songs! My husband and I just started a couples Bible study on Courageous. LOVE the theme song by Casting Crowns. Made it my husband's ring tone. :); FEBRUARY 2, 2012 4:05 PM
Debbie Riley @ life is simply bliss said...: Thank you Torrie. I really enjoyed listening to that song! I had never heard it before.

I have a song that I listen to when I am relaxing at home, or even cleaning up around the house.Its called " Start all over again" by Dana Glover. I love the words, they are very uplifting.

http://youtu.be/QiL_HWy8puA; FEBRUARY 4, 2012 8:50 PM
Torrie said...: Debbie, Thanks for sharing your song. I will head over and give a listen. Love songs that encourage...excited to check it out! :); FEBRUARY 4, 2012 10:11 PM
Linda Stoll said...: YOUR GREAT NAME is hitting home right now ...
http://creeksideministries.blogspot.com/2011/09/road-built-on-sinking-sand.html; FEBRUARY 5, 2012 3:04 PM

10 Days of Proverbs 31 - Day 2

2012-01-19T08:39:00.000-08:00

"She gets up while it is still dark; she provides food for her family and portions for her servant girls" Proverbs 31:15

Are you an early bird or a night owl? Well, I'm neither really. I like to sleep in (which at our house is around 7:30am) and I'm normally in bed by 10:30pm. (FYI-here came conviction #1...lol) We see from vs. 15 that the Proverbs 31 woman "rises while it's still dark." Depending on the season, that can be very early! Why does she do this? What purpose is there in rising so early compared to pushing that snooze button just a couple more times?

1. "She provides food for her family" She gets up early to start preparing the day's meals. When was the last time you woke up early and cooked breakfast for your husband and children during the week? "Are you crazy! With lunches to pack, kids to get off to school, a husband to get off to work and myself to throw together. When is there time to cook breakfast?!" you may ask. For the Proverbs 31 woman, she sees the needs of her family and fulfills them. She sees the importance of a good breakfast and starting her family off on the right foot each day. This is also a great time to visit your freezer. Plan what you are cooking for dinner ahead of time. Then in the morning, just pull the meat out of the freezer. When you're read to make dinner, it's thawed and ready to use.

2. "She provides portions for her servant girls." Servant girls...no worries there. I don't have any servants so I guess I can skip over that part. Wrong! YOU are the servant girl!! In Bible times, it would have been the job of the wife to organize the tasks of the day and delegate them to her servants. You may not have servants, but you still have a day to keep organized and tasks that need to be delegated. Do you find yourself frustrated as you rush out the door, feeling like your mind will explode if you have to remember to do one more thing? Me too ;-). So use this time in the morning to make a list of the tasks for the day. Prioritize them. Then, if possible, delegate some of them (i.e. chores to the kids).

How much more could you get accomplished during that quiet time in the morning while your family is still asleep? We all love those mornings when everything runs like clock-work and we don't feel rushed, don't we?

Challenge: Tonight set your alarm for an hour earlier. Purpose to wake up on time and follow this model. I can assure you; your husband and children will be pleasantly surprised to have a hot breakfast and a stress-free mom waiting for them in the morning!

Until Tomorrow Friends...
Be Blessed & Be a Blessing!

Don't forget to visit these contributors of 13 Blogs, 13 Topics, 1 Great God!

Contributing to Family Income/2 better than 1
The Fear of the Lord/Satisfied by Love
Using Time Wisely/Blessed Beyond Measure
Taking Care of Needy/Shadow Wonder
Using Money Wisely/For Such a Time as This
Beauty is Fleeting/Monique Zackery
Keeping an Eye on Home/Just a Glimpse
She Can Laugh at the Days Ahead/Faith Filled Food For Mom
Clothed in Strength and Dignity/One Thing I've Learned
Taking Care of Others/2Savvy Gals
Being Creative/A Patchwork Mommy
Bringing Variety to Family/Karen Dawkins
Extending Your Hand to the Poor/Woman's Fellowship House
Organization/Teaching What is Good

10 Days of Proverbs 31 - Day 1

2012-01-18T09:07:00.000-08:00

I am so excited to kick off our series of the Proverbs 31 woman! A lot of women have prayed over this series and know that God has amazing things planned in YOUR life! How do we know this is for you? Because God has directed you here. Whether you follow BBM regularly, found us through another blog link or various other methods you are here for a reason - and I am so thrilled you are!!

God has been speaking to my own heart a lot lately concerning our marriages. As a wife, taking a closer look at the woman described in Proverbs 31 is a great way for us to examine areas of our own lives that need a little work. In turn, as we become stronger women of God, we will begin to look at our marriages in a different light. If you are not married, that's ok. This is for you too. The Proverbs 31 woman is a rare treasure that we can all strive to become. If you're like me, you may have found the woman in verses 10-31 to be an unrealistic, unattainable vision of perfection. After reading and studying her in greater detail, I've discovered although rare (vs 10) she is attainable.

Over the next 10 days I will be sharing how she uses her time wisely. Let me just tell you, God did some (ok, a LOT) of convicting in my own heart in this area. So what are we waiting for? Let's dive in!

"She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness." Proverbs 31:27

One of the most notable characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman is that she is busy. Verse 27 says, "she does not eat the bread of idleness." All of her time has a purpose. "Then I am well on my way to being a Proverbs 31 woman because my days are so packed I can't possibly commit to one more thing." If this is the thought that just ran through your mind, wait! With what do you fill your days? Are they filled "attending to the affairs of your household"? Or do you find yourself going to bed each night wondering where the day has gone, feeling as though little was accomplished? If you relate more with the later, don't feel bad. Most of us do!

Take a moment to evaluate how you spend your time. How much time do you spend watching tv, surfing the web, chatting online, texting, sleeping in, leisurely shopping and spending time with your girlfriends? None of these things are wrong, in moderation. However, when they take time away from your responsibilities at home, there is a problem!

Feeling overwhelmed and discouraged already? DON'T!! I've been praying for you! Over the next 9 days we will see how you and I can become wiser in our time management. We will see how this rare treasure (vs 10) spends her time and how it relates to us today. God is doing great and mighty things in our lives! Come back tomorrow as we see how she spends her mornings. Until tomorrow...

Be Blessed and Be a Blessing!

Don't forget to check out these other contributors to the 10 Days of Proverbs 31

Contributing to Family Income/2 better than 1
The Fear of the Lord/Satisfied by Love
Using Time Wisely/Blessed Beyond Measure
Taking Care of Needy/Shadow Wonder
Using Money Wisely/For Such a Time as This
Beauty is Fleeting/Monique Zackery
Keeping an Eye on Home/Just a Glimpse
She Can Laugh at the Days Ahead/Faith Filled Food For Mom
Clothed in Strength and Dignity/One Thing I've Learned
Taking Care of Others/2Savvy Gals
Being Creative/A Patchwork Mommy
Bringing Variety to Family/Karen Dawkins
Extending Your Hand to the Poor/Woman's Fellowship House
Organization/Teaching What is Good

Gentleness Challenge -Week 3

2012-01-16T18:28:00.000-08:00

"I'm so tried of yelling."
"Why don't they just do as I asked!?"
" I feel like I'm angry all the time."
(sigh)...
I'm sure you've never said anything like this before, right? (wink, wink). It's week three of The Gentleness Challenge and Courtney dives into anger management. She lists four main reasons that us mommies get angry:

Our Expectations Are Too High
Exhaustion
Disorganization
Bitterness in Your Marriage

I'm not going to spend a lot of time on each step this week. She explains everything so well. I encourage you to read it in detail here. Let me just say this, she hit the nail on the head again with this post!! If you want to have a spirit of gentleness, you must also learn to control your anger.

As always, I have also posted this week's video at the end of this post. In the video, Courtney repeats a concept she shared in week 1 - It's not our job to be our child's Holy Spirit. Although it's a little longer than the previous videos, it's well worth your time!

God is continuing to do great things through The Gentleness Challenge. I know it's been tough. I want to encourage you today, stick with it! Pray!! God is faithful to complete the work He has begun!