My friends may have regretted letting me play their “reindeer games.”

Until relatively recently, that was pretty easy to do. Before every cell phone had a built in camera, before selfies and instagram (follow me!), you could really get away with avoiding photos. Only photography nerds (like me) used to carry around cameras, and it was mostly for capturing the raw beauty of a dead pigeon on Avenue A.

Sometimes the fact that everything gets photographed or video-ed really bugs me. (I can’t be the only one who’s been at a concert and wanted to say to the tall dude in front of me, “Hey, how about putting your camera down and just watching the show right now?”)

And yet, I also see it as an interesting opportunity to reclaim your self image. If you sort of go with it, you can actually use things like selfies as a tool to improve your body image.

How To Improve Your Body Image With Photos

Action Step #1: Take Some Really Bad Photos Of Yourself On Purpose — Whip out your phone or camera, and take a ton of pics of yourself. I’m talking in the hundreds. Take them from weird angles. Make funny faces. You can do this with a friend too. You may even want to do this a couple of times over the course of a week or a month. Do not skip this step!

What This Does: When you take “bad” photos of yourself, you get used to your own image. You start to realize that “good” or “bad” pics are all about angles, lighting, expression and not really about you. (Remember, even when models are shot for print ads, hundreds of images are taken, then one is chosen and airbrushed to death.) When you do this process, you get less upset when someone else takes a less than flattering photo of you. You’ll be less triggered when you catch yourself reflected in a storefront. You may even have fun with your image for the first time.

Action Step #2: Take Some Selfies And Post Them — Now, try to take some “good” photos. Think about your “bad” photo experiment and avoid taking pictures from those weird angles. Give yourself time to play around with lighting, angles, makeup, etc. And then, post those pics! If you don’t want them to be public, use privacy settings so that only certain friends can see them. You’ll probably get a lot more positive comments than you expect.

What This Does: This does two things. First, it allows you to control your public image. You get to put out the world images of yourself that make you feel good. Second, you get positive feedback from friends who will cheer you on and, at the very least, “like” your image.

Action Step #3: Join A Body-Positive, Photo-Sharing Community — There are so many great tumblrs of regular folks showing off fatshion, generally being body positive, outfits of the day (ootd’s), and just pics of themselves being fat and exciting. (And don’t forget about Fatshionable Apples!)

What This Does: Looking at tumblrs like this normalizes bodies that you don’t normally see in everyday media. It’s a wonderful counterbalance to the very thin images you see every day. And you get a wonderful sense of community by looking at and responding to posters’ images. You may find it empowering to submit your own images too.

Don’t Forget This Mindset Shift
Photos are about memories and experiences, not just how you look or what you weigh. When you look at your photos, don’t just scrutinize your face and body. Think about what you were doing, who you were with, what was going on in the moment.

When you’re more willing to join in pictures, not only do you get an opportunity to preserve a memory, but your friends and loved ones get that too. They want you in their pictures. You’re part of that memory. Let yourself jump in and say a big, cheesy, “Cheese!”

FYI: The Summer Of Body Love Starts TODAY! This is your last chance to get in on it from the beginning. Go here to check it out
→ http://everydayfeminism.com/summer-of-body-love/

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. To learn more about Golda and her work, click here.

Hate Your Body? Take *More* Pics! originally appeared on Body Love Wellness (http://www.bodylovewellness.com) on June 17, 2013.

Hi everyone!

I hope you’ll take a moment to check out and follow my new tumblr “Fatshionable Apples.”

I started this tumblr because (a) I love clothes, (b) sometimes finding clothes and figuring out what to wear is especially hard for us “apple shaped” types and (c) I noticed that whenever I posted pictures of myself in various outfits on my Body Love Wellness facebook page, people really seemed to like it.

But I definitely do not want this blog to be all about me or pictures of me. That’s why I want you to send in your pics and tell me about your favorite outfits.

I love fatshion for fatshion’s sake, but I also love creating a space where other apple shaped fat folks can get inspiration for fat visibility. It isn’t always easy to be fat and visible, and I want to make it a little easier. I want folks to see this tumblr and think, “If this person can wear this awesome outfit and do this or that, so can I!”

With love,

Golda

Introducing . . . Fatshionable Apples! originally appeared on Body Love Wellness (http://www.bodylovewellness.com) on June 10, 2013.

As you’ve probably heard by now, Professor Geoffrey Miller tweeted this a few days ago: “Dear obese PhD applicants: If you don’t have the willpower to stop eating carbs, you won’t have the willpower to do a dissertation. #truth.”

He quickly retracted this statement, but the damage was already done.

Prof. Miller is a University of New Mexico professor who is a visiting professor at NYU.

As an NYU alum two times over (B.A. history, with honors, summa cum laude 1999, JD 2002), I was really unhappy with NYU’s response. So I decided to write to the President of NYU, John Sexton, who actually taught a tiny group of freshman back in 1995 that included yours truly. Here’s what I wrote:

Special shoutout to Sondra Solovay, Esq., weight discrimination specialist and co-editor of The Fat Studies Reader (printed, ironically, by NYU Press), for her help with this letter.

I found UNM’s response to Prof. Miller’s tweet to be more heartening. I’m glad that they’re at least investigating his claim that this is all part of an experiment.

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. To learn more about Golda and her work, click here.

My Letter To President Sexton Of NYU Regarding Geoffrey Miller’s Antifat Tweet originally appeared on Body Love Wellness (http://www.bodylovewellness.com) on June 5, 2013.

A pretty accurate depiction of an internet troll

And it kind of did go viral. I just didn’t think it would happen the way it did.

Within a day or two of the talk going live on youtube, troll groups on bodybuilding forums and reddit set out to systematically shut it down. Within less than a week, they had written around 3,000 comments, voted down or marked as spam any supportive comments, and did everything in their power to get as many thumbs down on the video itself as possible.

Comments are now disabled, mainly because many of my supporters contacted the TEDx people and convinced them to turn off the comments. (A GAZILLION THANKS TO ALL OF YOU, BY THE WAY.)

It seemed like about 5% of the negative comments were of the, “DUH! Fat is bad!!!” variety and the other 95% were personal attacks on my appearance. I got called everything from a fat whale (yeah, whales are terrible, I guess?), a fat cunt (again, not a terrible thing), to Chris Christie (I’m not a fan of his politics, but his fatness doesn’t bother me in the least).

To be honest, there were definitely moments when the comments got to me. Seeing a comment about your hideousness get 50 likes doesn’t exactly shore up your ego.

At the same time, I feel like I’m pretty much the perfect person for this to happen to, because I really can take it. I’ve been practicing and teaching body acceptance for so long that mean comments on the internet don’t hurt me the way they would someone less body loving. I’m really serious about my deep spiritual practice of not giving a shit.

The thing that upset me most about this experience was all of the emails I got from folks who said “your experience with these trolls is the reason I don’t have a vlog/ web presence/ more visibility in my work.” And that really, really bummed me out. Because my not so secret mission in life is to empower plus sized women to do the things in life that they really want to do. I hated that the trolls of this world had gotten the better of them.

That’s the thing that scares me most. I don’t fear trolls; I fear their chilling effect.

Every time you stop yourself from doing something because you’re worried about what trolls will do, they win.

So here’s my take on trolls. I think there are ways to manage trolls, and I feel like the last two weeks have been a helpful crash course for me. I hope this will be empowering for you.

1. Trolls Are Assholes — Pardon my French on this, but trolls are assholes. Think about it — when you disagree with someone, do you call them names, make fun of their appearance, publicly wish for their death, and hide behind internet anonymity? Probably not. You might argue with them a bit, or you might move on with your life or both. Trolls are sad little dipshits emboldened by other sad little dipshits, masquerading as much tougher dipshits. That’s all. When you think of it that way, how can they have any impact on how you feel about yourself and live your life?
2. Make Fun Of Trolls Whenever You Feel Like It — I used to have a firm “ignore all trolls” policy. I still have that policy for fora outside of twitter. But on twitter, all bets are off. Twitter is the most fun place to make fun of trolls because you’ll notice that (a) they have no followers, (b) they are terrible at witty banter, and (c) your twitter friends can join in and have a good laugh.

Here are a few of my favorites:

@biceppeak You seem to think that I’m interested in what you think, and I’m using the word “think” very liberally.

— Golda Poretsky, HHC (@bodylovewellnes) May 31, 2013

I think there’s a video on that. RT @piccdk: @bodylovewellnes Can you please explain to me why is it okay to be fat?

— Golda Poretsky, HHC (@bodylovewellnes) May 28, 2013

Really? That’s all you’ve got? Work on it and get back to me. RT @mattobadia: @bodylovewellnes go lose weight fatty

— Golda Poretsky, HHC (@bodylovewellnes) May 28, 2013

3. Never Give Trolls What They Ask For — Don’t debate with trolls. Trolls will often demand that you debate with them, send them more info, comment on XYZ. You owe them nothing. If someone is pleasant and asks for something, that’s one thing. But if they’re insulting in any way, don’t give them an inch. Mark them as spam or block them and move on. Don’t reply unless it feels fun to do so.

If this helps you, great. And if you disagree with it, that’s fine too. Just please don’t let them stop you from doing your thing!

By the way, if you’re looking to have a more body loving summer, you’re going to love The Summer Of Body Love. Click below to check it out.

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. To learn more about Golda and her work, click here.

A Few Thoughts On The Youtube Trolls And Why It Really Is Okay To Be Fat And Visible originally appeared on Body Love Wellness (http://www.bodylovewellness.com) on June 3, 2013.

Hi, my dears!

As some of you may remember, Igigi dressed me for my TEDx talk on Why It’s Okay To Be Fat.

They actually sent me two dresses to try. Rather then send the other one back to them (I had kept the Bardot dress), I asked if I could give it away on my blog, and they said yes!

So, I’m giving away the super lovely Jaqueline 2-in-1 dress pictured here, which retails for $108, in a size 22/24:

To enter the giveaway, just:

1) Go to my TEDx video page and give it a thumbs up! (Comments are now disabled, so the trolls can’t attack anymore.)

2) Write a comment below about where you plan to wear the dress. Make sure to write your email address if you’re not using facebook comments.

That’s it!

Note again that the winner will receive a Jaqueline dress in the color jade in a size 22/24.

The winner will be chosen at random and announced next Wednesday, June 5th! I’ll be emailing the winner!

And the winner is, Caroline! Congrats! Be on the lookout for an email from me today.

Thanks to everyone for participating. I hope to do more giveaways soon.

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. To learn more about Golda and her work, click here.

Igigi Giveaway This Week! originally appeared on Body Love Wellness (http://www.bodylovewellness.com) on May 29, 2013.

Hey loves!

I’ll be back next week with our usual programming, but in the meantime, I’d love for you to check out my TEDx video on “Why It’s Okay To Be Fat.”

You can watch it right here:

Please be sure to give it a thumbs up!

And if you get a chance, I’d love it if you could go over to youtube and give it a positive comment. If you could share that video that would be great too! Every little bit helps.

It’s so important that it get likes and views right now while it’s new. That’ll help it go viral, which would be amazing. To my knowledge, this the first TED or TEDx video on Health At Every Size and/or fat acceptance, so we need to represent!

I think you’ll really love the video. Here are a few things I share in the video:

• What it was like going on my first diet at age 4.
• Why all dieting is yo-yo dieting.
• What it’s like to have what I call “scale-dependent self esteem.”
• The truth about how often diets fail.
• What the “obesity paradox” really means.
• Why Health At Every Size principles are so healing.
• And even more!

Thanks!

xo,
Golda

P.S. Come back tomorrow for a special giveaway . . . I’ll have more details in 24 hours.

P.P.S. Many thanks to all the folks who already liked it and shared it! You’re awesome!

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. To learn more about Golda and her work, click here.

Check Out My TEDx Talk On “Why It’s Okay To Be Fat” Right Here! originally appeared on Body Love Wellness (http://www.bodylovewellness.com) on May 20, 2013.

It was only about 6 or 7 years ago that I thought that I could accept my fat if I could just be “the good kind of fat.”

I thought that if I could have that really hourglass figure that plus size models often seem to have, then, and only then could I accept my fat.

Of course, that got me nowhere since it’s pretty impossible to change your shape without a bunch of cosmetic surgery, and “elective surgery” is not really in my vocabulary.

Curvy Privilege?

I hadn’t thought about wanting a different kind of fat body in a long time, but this concept came up with a client recently. She said that from my pictures, she thought I had that “good kind of fat” body and worried that I might not understand what it’s like not to have that. This client is actually quite a bit thinner than me, but she thought that I was “very curvy” and therefore wouldn’t understand what it’s like to have a less curvy* fat body.

I found this very interesting on a number of levels, and I found myself reassuring her that I, indeed, did not have a very curvy body (there’s about a one inch difference between my hips and my waist) and that even if our body types are not alike, that I can still understand and empathize with her, since that’s what I do for a living!

But beyond that, I got to thinking about how “the good kind of _________” shows up in various minority groups, where the “good kind of” whatever is always whatever looks the most like what is prized in the dominant culture. If you have the “right” skin color or hair color or nose shape you might just pass for the dominant culture and get whatever privilege may be attached to that.

And so I think the same thing happens with fat. If you’ve got “curves in all the right places” and you’re fat, you may get snippets of thin privilege that would be denied to a fat person of relatively the same size but with a different shape. Of course, I’m talking about female identified people when I’m talking about curvaceousness. Perhaps it works the opposite way with male identified folks, but I’m not sure.

I recognize that I get little snippets of thin privilege myself — because my hips are relatively narrow, I don’t have to worry about things like sitting in airline seats, and I don’t have to deal with people looking at me with dread that I might (OMG!!!) sit next to them (the subway, however, is a different story). But I’m fat enough that I can’t ever “pass” for thin-ish the way I did when I was a size 14/16.

Going Forward

Going forward, I think it’s important to acknowledge the ways that these “good kind of fat” conversations happen, and do our best to be aware of it. I don’t think it does anyone any good to make body acceptance about imposing the same beauty norms from the dominant culture onto fatter bodies. We need to explode those beauty norms as best we can, by acknowledging the amazing diversity of bodies.

Your kind of fat IS the good kind of fat.

*This is one of the reasons why I hate the word curvy as a euphemism for fat.

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. To learn more about Golda and her work, click here.

The “Good Kind” Of Fat originally appeared on Body Love Wellness (http://www.bodylovewellness.com) on May 13, 2013.

If there’s one thing I learned in my years as a dieter and a coach, it’s this: hating yourself doesn’t work on any level.

You can substitute “hating” for “fighting with,” “tormenting,” “being at war with” or whatever. No matter how you say it, it doesn’t work.

It doesn’t create change, it only creates more stress, more of the same.

We’re all taught to fight our imperfections. We’re supposed to fight our bodies — changing our shapes, our weight, our wrinkles etc. We’re supposed to fight our tendencies — too be loud, or rude, or to take the time we need for whatever. And even if you don’t subscribe to all of the societal “shoulds” that are thrown your way, you may feel a push to subscribe to some of them.

You may even hate your tendency to feel the pressure of all of these “shoulds!”

If you really want to change a habit, or a situation, or how you feel about yourself, the only route that will bring you any peace is to start with acceptance. From that place, you can actually make a reasoned decision about whether change is even necessary in the first place.

A Real Life Example

Let’s use a real life example so that you can see what I mean.

Let’s say you have a tendency to binge at night. Maybe you stick to a meal plan during the day, or you just feel like you’re able to eat more reasonable amounts during the day, and then at night you feel like you’re bingeing.

How would you handle it if were fighting with yourself about it? Perhaps you’d judge yourself, feel guilty for eating what you eat, feel like you need to hide what you’re eating from others.

Maybe you’d get really strict with yourself and force yourself to stop eating as much at night for a few nights or a week or two, and then you’d have a particularly stressful day and you find yourself overeating again. Then the guilt and the recriminations are back, and you feel awful. You hate yourself and your lack of willpower and feel stressed out for being out of control.

Introducing The “Kindly Researcher”

Now let’s consider another way to handle this situation.

I’d like to introduce you to your inner “kindly researcher.” Your kindly researcher sees your late night bingeing not as a reason to judge you, but as a wonderful source of information.

It accepts what is and just wants to know more.

You can access your kindly researcher at any time. Use it to ask yourself questions in a kindly way. It might ask you if you’re eating enough during the day, if you’re feelings feel more overwhelming at night, if you’re eating past your comfort point because you miss your ex, or feel creatively stymied, or you hate your boss.

As you engage with this concept, you can start to use the stuff you normally fight as a source of information. Not so you can fight it harder, but so that you can, as best you can, start to give yourself what you need.

It will also allow you to start accepting the parts of yourself that you may not be too thrilled with right now. (And if you feel like there’s no way you could accept yourself or your body, check out this recent post.)

Accepting Things About Yourself That You Don’t Like

You may be thinking that it’s dangerous to accept things about yourself that you don’t like.

On the contrary, I think it’s dangerous not to accept those things.

I can’t think of an instance where someone (a client, a friend, myself) hated something into changing. For years, I hated my tendency to get flustered when I had to do public speaking, even if it was just a meeting at my job. It was only when I became more self accepting that I began to feel more comfortable with speaking.

When you accept your perceived flaws, you can actually make some decisions about what you want to change, and whether those flaws are really flaws at all. Acceptance allows for a fluidity of energy, and appreciation of tiny steps of progress. Hating aspects of yourself just breeds frustration and more hate.

If nothing else, loving your perceived flaws is a worthy experiment. If you’re reading this post, you’ve probably been trying the other way for a long time. Where has it gotten you so far? I’d love for you to share about it in the comments sections below!

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight.  Registration is now open for her group program, The Big Beautiful Goddess Academy. Click here for details!

How To Create Change Through Acceptance originally appeared on Body Love Wellness (http://www.bodylovewellness.com) on May 6, 2013.

Me in my Igigi Bardot dress, looking slightly pensive. Image by Maija Tammi.

Well, I went with this one! It’s the Bardot dress, which Igigi actually gave me to dress me for the event.

Let me tell you, a gal could get used to this.

Just to give you a little review, the Igigi dress was so perfect! It fit wonderfully and was comfortable to wear all day. I love the three quarter sleeves, the v-neck that shows a little cleavage while still being covered up, and the empire waist. I got so many compliments on it at the event and afterward.

Click here to check out the awesomeness that is Igigi!

By the way, the video of my talk “Why It’s Okay To Be Fat” will be up in a few weeks and I’ll be sharing it then.

Check Out This Free HAES Video Series!

A few hundred of you have already checked out the videos, but I wanted to make sure you all know about it!

• Exactly what I did to heal my relationship with food and my body quickly and differently than you might expect.
• Top 3 big mistakes that keep you stuck and feeling like you need another diet to feel better.
• My very simple 6 step body love strategy that will help you even if you feel like a “tough case”.

Over the past 5 years, I’ve been using these techniques and strategies with my private and group coaching clients. These are the best strategies I know to create the big, beautiful life that you really deserve. I look forward to sharing with you exactly how to do it!

Just click here to sign up for free! (Or just enter your info below.) I think you’ll love it.

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. To learn more about Golda and her work, click here.

Some Igigi Fatshion + A HAES Video Series! originally appeared on Body Love Wellness (http://www.bodylovewellness.com) on April 29, 2013.

Alternately titled: “Please, Please, Stop Sharing That Video.”

Chances are someone has sent you this video and told you how inspiring it was.

To be honest, I didn’t find it inspiring at all. Instead, it just made me angry.

Here we go again, with Dove pretending to empower women to love their bodies, with THE BIG HONKING CAVEAT that you should love your body only when you’re more conventionally attractive than you realize.

In case you’re not watching the video, the premise of the video is that women are their own worst enemies, who focus on and emphasize their own worst physical qualities. A sketch artist draws their faces based on their descriptions, and then the sketch artist redraws their face based on the description of someone who just met them. Then the subjects see a side by side comparison of the sketch artist’s drawings of them.

That may sound inspiring (ish) but it doesn’t work for a number of reasons. Here are my top five (in no particular order). Feel free to share it when yet another person tells you how inspiring it is!

1. It Promotes The Idea That Fatness And Bigness Equal Ugliness

A lot of these women’s journeys are about learning that parts of their face aren’t as big as they thought. From big jaws to big foreheads to fat faces, much of their relief and excitement is centered around finding out that parts of their face aren’t that big. Because, you know, everything about you should be petite, including your face, because, that’s like prettier or whatever.

One of the first things we learn about the way another woman saw Florence, the thin, blond focus of the video, is that “she was thin, so you could see her cheekbones, and she had a nice, thin chin.” So ladies, if you’re watching this at home, people probably see you as thinner than you think!!! How great is that?!!!

Immediately following that storyline, we hear Kela, another blue-eyed blond who could potentially be as much as a size 10 (!) saying about the image based on her description of herself, “She looks closed off and fatter. Sadder too. The second one [where she looks thinner] looks more open, friendly, and happy.”

So the message is very clear — you’re not as big or as fat as you think. Or, rather, fat and big are still really bad, but you’re not that, so don’t worry.

2. People Of Color Appear But Their Stories Aren’t Told

As one blogger noted (in this great piece), people of color appear for only 10 seconds in footage that totals over 6 minutes. In the main, 3-minute commercial, we hear one African-American woman note that she has a “fat, rounder face” and we see another African-American woman talk about having freckles.

Then, their stories are just dropped, and we don’t see them have the “aha” moment of comparing their images to ones based on descriptions by other people. Their stories are basically presented as afterthoughts. They also just throw in an Asian woman who seems to be happy when looking at the sketches, but there is no info about her at all.

This is yet another way in which this ad reinforces damagingly narrow and exclusionary beauty norms.

3. It Tells Women To Base Their Self Image On How Others See Them

This video puts forth the idea that people around you are probably noticing what they find beautiful about you more than you are. That very well may be true. But, what if it isn’t? And, further more, who cares?

What if people see you as “less beautiful” than you are? And furthermore, what is beauty and why should you allow others to define it for you? What if most people in your life don’t think you’re beautiful? If you look to them for approval of how you look, you won’t get it. That approval has to come from within.

4. It Reinforces The Meme That Women Are Their Own Worst Enemies For No Apparent Reason

The beauty and diet industries spend billions of dollars every year to make women feel inadequate so that they’ll buy their products. And Dove isn’t immune from this — their parent company, Unilever, owns the company that packages the toxic sludge known as Slimfast.

It’s no wonder that a video about “real beauty” excludes anyone who might be even a little bit fat. Because you wouldn’t want to expand beauty norms to include someone who might buy Slimfast.

So when the participant Melinda says, “We spend a lot of time as women analyzing and trying to fix the things that aren’t quite right and we should spend more time appreciating the things that we do like,” I think it’s important to acknowledge that companies like Dove are constantly reinforcing the idea that we should fix the things that aren’t quite right.

After all, Dove is the company that brought you the “shamovation” called “Dove Go Sleeveless,” a deodorant designed to make your armpits less ugly. If you never realized that your armpits were ugly and required a beautifying deodorant, now you do, thanks to the good folks at Dove.

5. Continues To Uphold The Same, Tired Beauty Standards
We’ve touched on this already, but the underlying message of this video is the idea that we are all more beautiful than we think because we’re closer to conventional standards of beauty than we think.

In other words, it just reinforces the same old bullshit beauty standards.

The message is essentially, “You’re not as fat or big or freckly or wrinkly as you think!”

To me, that’s not inspiring or empowering. It’s just more of the same.

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. Check out Golda’s free web training on some of her most unorthodox (and powerful) body love methods here by clicking here!

Why Dove’s Latest “Real Beauty” Video Gets It All Wrong originally appeared on Body Love Wellness (http://www.bodylovewellness.com) on April 22, 2013.