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When gratitude is in the air....!!!

2019-01-15T22:11:00.000-08:00

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Well, It is about time!! With all that life has offered to us and blessed us in abundance with, it is really about time for us to bring our palms together and be grateful for everything surrounding us.

Let's face it. This is life. What it gives and takes is beyond our hands. But for those who have been enriching our lives with magic and for those who have forsaken us irreverently, taking a moment to bash the unreasonable urge to retaliate and to embrace the unconditional love from the beautiful minds can help us go a long way.

I guess it is all about feeding us with the right attitude, and making an uncoerced decision to reconcile with the favourable and the unfavourable phases of life that makes us better as one of the existential beings.

It might sound too cheesy, but my honest realization of life and perseverance in rooting to the right attitude made me feel this way.

Well, I guess life can't get any cheesier.
I know I am not the only one who feels this way. And that thought gives me the comfort to be my inherent self. I can tell you, without a doubt, that there isn't a single person in this world who hasn't faced challenges. It may weigh depending on the severity of the scenario we might have had to put ourselves through. And how much of it we have let to get to us. There are a million, who are victims to self- sabotaging for the sake of their loved ones too. Sometimes, there is difficulty to have an unbiased opinion on the burden of troubles people have had to face.
Like the litany goes, its not all relative as for each, their problems are way more outweighing their neighbour's.

I don't know, but it might be the hang over from the spirit of holy month that just passed. Or it might just be my hidden desires and my side of troubled feelings that is making me pour out all at once. At least, in the place that I reside currently, it is officially the end of the holiday season and it has definitely marked the end of the many holy fragrance it has left behind. Mine, for sure was a very wonderful one. It was kind of like a mixture of happiness, togetherness, Godliness and a wholesome of spirituality all bottled up causing this effervescence in my mind. Honestly, it helped me channelize my inner self into being someone carrying a more peaceful and meaningful life. Fingers crossed !

Speaking of the end of the holy timeline, well, for now, and always waiting eagerly to explore the blossoms coming with the next season, I would also like to add a little 'info' on what entails to be a very important event or practice in life. Forgiveness !
Highlighting once more the cheesy part that goes with it, I guess it a very inevitable sequence in our lives where it comes in handy. We might have had the most challenging past year, or years, but just think for a second how much we have gained in terms of experiences, lessons, and a whole new level of understanding all together. Even though it comes with a huge deal of emotional baggage, compared to the unfortunate civilians of Syria, or the differently- abled toddlers, or the slum dwellers, we are way too blessed and fortunate. I guess, betrayal, heartbreaks, feud, all comes with the package. But, finding it in our heart to forgive, no matter how traumatized we might have been, would certainly help us get over the whole resentful feeling.

I can tell you right away that, i do feel a tremendous amount of relief. I certainly concur nothing stays the same forever, but learning to embrace the changes and moving forth goes a long way. Honestly, i have been having a bit of a downfall with a lot of emotions all over the place. But, with time i guess, all I had to agree was not to be regretful about anything because what are we really without those experiences and memories ???

Anyway, let's put those aside, set our minds right. And practice a new resolved exercise of perseverance. At the end of the day it is all about a quality life rather than a quantity one. Be grateful.

LOVE BREAKS NO WALLS, BUT BONES !!

2018-05-13T18:12:00.000-07:00

'Love' is but another word for relief. Time stops, hearts beat and our whole life falls down to that one moment of intense righteousness...we feel alive.. and it brings an undisturbed satisfaction.
What can i say ....Some times, it is the only way to put it out there. I don't know a better way to connote love.

On the contrary, i am surprised as to how this very word could imply extreme pain. It could be the world's most torturing word that brings a wild dissatisfaction, a feeling of overpowering sadness.
A contronym , i would name it.
Totally crazy right ???

Honestly, that is probably why we say there is reason to fear love. It could take you high enough to let you touch the stars and then suddenly drop you down to the depth of nothingness....DARKNESS !!!
It is definitely capable of swinging you to the extremes.
I would certainly say, you could either trust it enough to embrace... or tear apart with no shame because you know it can be that 'evil sister' sometimes.

Steering the wheels a little bit, let me clear this to shake off any misunderstanding. When i said 'Love'....i certainly meant a relationship, lame or otherwise. A relationship, in layman's terms.
I agree, love is never confined to a narrow spectrum. It is omnipresent and relates to every single feeling that emerges from our conscious or subconscious self.
And that, this little self- awareness to steer clear of any wrong expression of the kind of love i am referring to is indeed necessary.

I am not a defender of the world's most amazing feeling. But, i guess, i could defend the pain it punishes you with. It is a struggle and let's not forget to face the odds.

So, frankly, is LOVE a Boon or a Bane......Wow...sounds more like a litany.
But, let's face the reality... it is quite debatable.
How real is the feeling...and if it does meet all the criteria to be labelled 'real- enough' , what makes it portray it's dark side.
Why aren't things always merry?? Why is there a downside, if it is that real?? Or are we being punked ??
I could guarantee, sitting right here, that not a single being of this world could give a straight answer to this.

What is so fascinating about being in love ? Is it always momentary ? Or starts with a gig and ends in a dig ? Does Love have rules ??? Confused ????
Oh yeah... Now i did forget to mention this most 'believable' part ....Love is in fact a real confusion.
It is hard to push yourself, but bring that straight- face... when you have to hear how uncertain it is.

Honestly, i would not believe it is just me... But, it makes me blurt out the words...'Has Love lost all it's meaning'.
Does not seem to be any less than a heavy baggage. But, at least now you have a choice to lift it over your shoulder or not.

LOVE BREAKS MY BONES, AND I LAUGH

- Charles Bukowski

YELLOW PAGES !!!

2018-02-09T15:47:00.000-08:00

How fascinating is the human creation and it's creative minds with the capability of bringing about improvements to make life as easy as it could possibly be. It is quite an advancement when we are able to enjoy every bit of the magic this world has to offer and how the yellow pages comes to our rescue not letting us down, not even for a moment without the synthetic creation of human mankind, which is much in need. The men behind building or probably repairing, to make our day not come to a standstill are to be grateful for.

I would say, it is also probably our dependency on the unnatural sources that has grown to such an extend, which is making us dependent on the yellow pages rescuers.

Could you imagine a life without light, without our tap waters, without transports ? It would end up being a really dark one. A life without fun, energy and happiness... a totally dry one.

Lately, people are short of these rescuers and so has eventually ended up creating the so-called "Dark Minds". I could certainly relate it that way.
Human minds are always in need of a constant push that keeps them from falling into darkness.
As children, we do not seek out for them, we are energetic, full of life , being too innocent to see only the positive side of things.

As time flies and we get older, responsibilities on our shoulders piles up as much. The freedom to be under the wings and feel safe are all gone. There is this unstoppable marathon towards NO GOAL. There, we put back our emotions, our time, our usefulness, our constant desires to freedom and keep running. But, there comes a sudden realization, one day, that this run for nothing has exhausted our minds to such an extent that it needs a proper repair.

Anything that we use at home, or be it machines for instance, helps us make our lives more easier, they are a helping hand when it comes to covering up our daily chores. It keeps running and running to the point of exhaustion that it stops being of any help one day. It keeps our lives on hold, our work is held back.
The same applies for our minds as well, we burden it so much so that it ends up not working at all.

So, stop considering yourself a machine and save yourself a mind worth gratitude.
This is where, we need to reach out to those yellow pages.......Our rescuers...before our minds turn completely blank.
I would not say with certainty of which page to choose from. We all have a tremendous number of options....That one trust worthy friend, our parents, a counselor, a teacher, or it could be anybody who cares for you deeply.
Ultimately, what we need is a perfectly working you.

THAT HORRID NIGHT !!!

2017-11-02T17:32:00.001-07:00

That scary night, when i turned almost pale, and threw my blanket off in spite of that unusual chill in my room, literally drenched in sweat. The reason behind the very moment was subtle and i would say a quite weird one.

But i promise this is not the first time. It is probably a thought i am born with. Something like a cursed thought. It is a horridly frightening gift. I would not say it is usual when people could remember almost every moment of their childhood. There are very few who could surprisingly do that as per several researchers and their skeptical hypothesis. I do not know if it would be right to call such beings as The fortunate ones. Though it is a nearly true thesis, it is happening for me. I am among those unfortunately fortunate ones.

It would leave a strange frown when i use the the word 'Unfortunate' , But yeah!! That is the right word. Who would love to recall those worst moments you have had as a child. And those fearsome nightmares that kept you awake. And also those weird thoughts that bomb your mind and you settle in for an even more weird conclusion.

One of those weird thoughts that popped up in my mind very frequently was about 'MYSELF' . When i say Myself , i mean every one of you. Every other person. It used to freak me out. That sudden arousal of a thought where there is a stand-still and a total confusion of our very existence , of our birth, about the present, about the purpose of our lives, about the uninvited death. It would just create this strange wave in my brain and i don't know what it is, some sort of a serotonin rush and it leaves me numb, and drenched in sweat.

I hope i am not the only one.

As a matter of fact, my childhood always bedded these questions and a lot of out-of the-world thoughts made me toss and turn ultimately with sleepless nights.

Being strangely true, could you ever think of that scenario ?

Could you imagine this world that you see around, the gadget that you are looking at now, the house that you are staying in now, the flowers that you see outside, the roads that are laid well that you can eye now, the infinite sky that you can see ------ALL ARE TEMPORARY.

No, let me put it in the right words. Trying to be more real --------YOU ARE TEMPORARY

You are in fact temporary in the world around you. We all stay up, talk, laugh, study, do all the fun stuff, and one fine day, it is all gone. You are no more a part of this world. You do not exist in a body. You are not alive and no more able to enjoy the lights, laughter, smell, the earth around you. How weird could that get. So how do you analyse this life ?

I have this uncertain urge to call it fascinating at times, of how happening we are. But at the dark end, i would try and hold myself back to bring down this strange thinking. Because i know it for certain that it would keep affecting me giving thought to that darkness that is yet to come.

We always appreciate the journey of our life, we talk about our future so curiously and with full of life. But the end is literally dark and it is scary to give a thought to it in a deeper sense.

With time i had certainly taught myself to lean away from things that gets me reminded of this and burn down these thoughts that i never welcomed. But, 'That Night' was quite a scary one.

It would seem so lame to have been possessed with the thought again after a long time, but, only by watching a movie which was considered to have a genre of comedy.

Recently, i happened to watch this particular movie. This movie series have created a lot of positive vibe among people since its first movie release as it is under the genre, comedy. I have been loving them since years and has always helped me get a fresh mind once i watch it, in case i am all sunk down. But, this time, it ruined my sleep. It was all about spirits, ghost hunting stuffs and had a few humor element to it. Never has any horror movie scared me yet. But ironically, this particular 'comedy' movie, laid down this climax and an even worse finale, where they became a little too out of the curve and ended up giving a message about the spirits and an after life following death.

It totally freaked me out. And that did trigger my mind into the circle of reality. It really got me into a sleepless night once again.

We all say about the journey of life, about birth, death, our past and future. But nobody really cares to appreciate the present day. The purpose of our existence has always been an unanswered question. And probably the existing answers that certain groups have been come up with might be unbelievable to others. Putting that apart, let's understand life and appreciate it. Let's embrace the goodness of our lives and get focussed on TODAY.

Nothing is in our hands, honestly speaking. But we could certainly tame our minds and catch up those moments of laughter and appreciate this life of togetherness, forgiving each other and considering life to be a meaningful gift. Who knows..there could be some surprise at the end !!!

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A HAUNTED MIND !!

2017-10-13T12:00:00.000-07:00

It was quite coincidental that today happened to be 'FRIDAY, THE 13TH' ,a long term belief of being an unlucky day and moreover a day fixed to a haunting myth. My post too is titled ' THE HAUNTED MIND', which was a name decided about a week back. But it obviously would be clear by the end of this article that they were just seeming coincidental.

SO LET'S GET IT STARTED !!

.........I am totally towed to an old saying " AN IDLE MIND IS DEVIL'S WORKSHOP ", that brings quite a nostalgic reverie to my good old class room and the recitation of this proverb like it being chanted quite repeatedly for us to brain it enough. With all due respect to the saying, i feel an idle mind could also be quite haunting at times.

Haunted would not necessarily mean demonized or possessed. In fact not even far off !!

We always say, human beings are strong emotionally, matured, has great brain capacity, possesses a much tolerating nature and tons of abilities. We are also blamed for not using even 10 % of our brain capacity. We totally excel in all the technological aspects and are also capable enough to put this world to a next level. In a nutshell, we keep thinking, doing, and thinking even more and practicalizing all that is possible and also beyond the possibilities.

Ironically, running so fast has led us to unveil new discoveries and produce our new inventions.

After all this....what have 'we' ,as a person really gained ?

We are basically dodging off from our own selves, from home, and pushing away all the relationships that mend us. Our homes are our laboratories right now. We have made machines our friends and chemicals our food.

For all the hard works, we are obviously awarded... With a 'life time achievement award of "LONELINESS"'

And the greatest treasure of all time : DEPRESSION

The most efficient human beings are now preys of depression. The most deadliest of all the psychological conditions.

Do you know every 9 out of 10 people suffer from the condition ??

This is how we have treated ourselves. Every other great scientists, doctors, celebrities , lawyers have become slaves to this.

A person who has undergone depression would certainly know that, it is no different from being " A HAUNTED MIND "

Being acquainted to the wrong things, we have carried away ourselves to a path of complete darkness and loneliness.

A year back, as a medical practitioner, i was lucky enough to study Neuropsychiatry and psychology and the disorders related to the same, under a very well known psychiatrist. As part of my work, i also got to deal with a lot of patients with multiple conditions. And i must say, it was quite a shock to me when i realized how depression has affected such a huge population. It has totally engulfed our insights.

Depression is a vast subject and it would be time consuming if i start talking about it. Well, briefing it in layman's terms, being categorized to different stages ranging from mild to severe form, yet each stage is horrifying enough and would speed up to a severe form in no time, if not properly counselled or treated. Above all, it is the inner psychological strength within one's self and having the heart to understand the proper cause of this and finding a solution is the best choice.

I would not disagree to the efficacy of a human being. But, we must also realize that our minds are delicate and needs proper nourishment and care just like our body. The speed with which we are rushing to NO WHERE, is causing our minds to undergo too much stress and all that strain is leading our brains to get disordered with the wrong messages.

We should understand !! The very nature of humans is to love and be loved. It is very much beyond just loading in a lot of contents , getting our brains all wired up and throwing up all that waste to form a very mechanical world. We are not about formulations and equations. We are much beyond that.

Our purpose is to feel, see and sense the beauty around. We are gifted with people around, whom we call our family and relatives. Valuing them, sharing the warmth, spending some time with each other and having a moment of laughter is all that it takes to really charge up our selves.

We are not meant to be under our blankets, scared and hiding away from realities. We must start facing it. Problems and troubles are inevitable and would keep coming to our lives one after the other. So it is hopeless to keep thinking about it and worrying or actually even trying to find a solution for one because even if we have finally succeeded in solving one, the next would be just behind. Let's accept that problems would come and go, but don't let it persuade you or affect you in any manner. Just breathe it out !! Learn to find light in the darkness.

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BEYOND THE UNSEEN

2017-09-22T10:51:00.000-07:00

Glued to the very belief of this being a world of possibilities as always, yet struck by the narrow spectrum notions portrayed by the natural human behaviour ,we have laid back the very belief to a subtle note. Yes !! I am talking about the world beyond human imagination and view.

We all talk about the two extreme and related poles : THE POSITIVE AND THE NEGATIVE.

It is a known fact that a positive does not exist without a negative and vice versa. When we confront a situation which is nailed to a level beyond our physical strength or abilities we often resort to "THE THINK POSITIVE" method and then keep hoping that it would all turn out well. Ironically, in the same situation we also resort to 'Not thinking negatively'. Evidently, we are sure there is sustenance of both these energies in nature.

Contrary to today's belief, probably we could get good clues from our grandparents with regard to the same. I could relate so much to it. When i was a child, summer breaks were very much looked forward to, for i could go back to my hometown and visit my grands. I used to wander around a lot at their places to catch up with some interesting stories they would narrate to me and my brother. It used to be mostly about the most unbelievable experiences that they had as a child and even those confronted by their ancestors long back. They were about some real-life supernatural existence and presence of some dark shadows and ghostly powers that they had eyed. It was fun giving ears to them and as a child i would take it light- heartedly to something not more than just a fairy tale. Being called a superstitious belief or some random stories which were just too lame to be true, i would still just stand up to back it anyhow.

As i grew, it was quite fascinating for me to recall those honest stories they told me. I was totally awestruck with the fact that the world i am living in is not just about the normal routine life i have got used to living, or about the problems i face at times, or about the little arguments we have or about getting anxious about how our future is set. It is so much beyond that.

Do you believe this universe consists of so much truth hidden behind, that our senses and imagination falls short to conquer them?
As much as i believe the sun, moon and stars which are beyond my reach, and the air i cannot see and set my imaginations running as though they are hung from the sky above, i also believe in "THE BEYOND", that i have never seen.

When we usually talk about something paranormal, or presence of an unnatural energy we start relating it to a religious aspect. But it is really not that way. In each of our lives, there would have definitely been a situation where we have felt that presence. It has happened with me and so many others who i know. It is upon us to categorize them as being a negative or a positive one. But, fortunately we know exactly what to list it under because we know they feel different. And it is therefore not a surprise when i say i believe in these energies.

The science we rely on so much, in itself has been in a chaos trying to count the total number of planets there really is, the existence of life in mars, the world end, the presence of aliens and so on, which has been global concerns. Science struggles to answer the bermuda triangle mystery, has sort to theories for black hole, gravity and has an interesting come out for the existence of shooting stars. All are clubbed to a space called theory or probably just hypothesis. But, i would say, this is exactly why science has been branched to different areas to scrutinize better and end up with a related answer. I have always believed in science and all the areas under it. Nothing that exists right in front of us could be untrue, for sure. Moreover, taking it to an even higher level, nothing that science suspects and is unanswerable about, could be untrue.

The universe is vast, may be that may not even be the right name for it. It is blessed with so much in and out that, we must open out from our little boxes and accept THE UNSEEN, for it does exist.

"EVERYTHING YOU SEE HAS ITS ROOT IN THE UNSEEN WORLD"

- RUMI

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A FROZEN DREAM

2017-08-30T21:14:00.000-07:00

An extremely overwhelming desire to sense the chill from a frozen ball, to view the near molten state with an ooze of its natural waters, the pearly white texture which seemingly provides a cool sense to your eyes, was a real deep dug-in desire of mine since childhood - THAT SNOWFALL. I am in love with winters and even more with the snow.

Getting a glimpse of that snowfall was my long cherished dream. Sliding off the hill, decades behind, it was almost a not happening event in life when your dream becomes a reality. But now, having flown in time, it's not far from an arm distance to reach out to your dream land. This being true, for me, hopping on to a different destination on the other side of the world is still a near to not happening wish, at least till few months back. Probably i am programmed that way. Fortunately the dream set me to ride straight across the waters to let experience the nature's gifted foam.

Picking out shots from television shows, and certain movies, where there is showcasing of a land filled in with snow, brings in me such a sense that is beyond words. My love for the same has helped me end up in a real snow land. It was a wish shuttling for me until last year when i confronted the snow fall that made me go head over heels. That enlightened vision was promised to me by the European hills.

Last year, was a life changer for me when i got to witness the Transcarpathian mountain ranges, from a far off distance. I toed down at the place when it was autumn. It promised the beginning of a very serene, yet, calmingly beautiful shedding season. It was a tremendously astonishing view. It brought in me a realization of how well 'yellows' could treat us. That was a crazy time for me when in a short while i was lucky enough to be acquainted by the cool breeze with that dash of chill in it which signaled the beginning of a cozy winter. Long years of wait for the most gorgeous day of my life was a real big deal for me. And now that wait was coming to an end.
You know like you say, your wishes counts to become a reality one day, but also the surrounding universe would stand around hugging you to help make it happen.

"AND WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING, ALL THE UNIVERSE CONSPIRES IN HELPING YOU TO ACHIEVE IT"
--- The Alchemist, PAULO COELHO

That was the time i knew how beautiful a belief it was. I totally swung through that phase.
It was too early and a sequence of changes were happening there, which unbelievably never had the country ever experienced since the past one decade. It put me in a real awestruck state as to why this was happening. Well, like i said that is what the magic is all about. The cool winters soon swept gracefully into a more chilled one and very soon sprung out the day i was looking forward to.

The night did not hint me of such a loving dawn, when i opened my eyes and reached out to my balcony door to get a little wake-up refreshment, i was pulled out by the marvelous view showcased by the floor embedded snow. That view of beads of snow showering down to my face and arms and then settling down to the ground was so refreshing that i felt the time had ceased to move and all the hours and seconds of my life was brought down to this very moment. And finally, i could sense the snow and touch it, to know it was just so perfect.
It never felt so perfect ever before !!!
That moment was just frozen for me. I still recall how fascinated it was, and how i jumped from an initial calm state of accepting what i was struck with, to a state of realization of this being a reality that took me to an utmost hyperactive state, just to let me sense the beauty of this moment to every bit of it.

What i dreamt of was just to see a little fall, but it felt like a blessing to be surrounded by snow, until the trees around me were completely embraced by it, the floor were totally invisible, immersed under that thick layer of snow such that the whole vicinity seemed literally like a snowball. The mountains looked reverently splendid, the snow coated ranges reflected the most breathtaking view ever.

Having a dream is something and seeing it come alive right in front of our eyes is a totally different feeling. That feeling of having accomplished everything in life, like you have conquered the best of the best. I am slave to reverie. Probably, that has made me run like an unstoppable freak. Yes, but i am proud being this way. My frozen dream had got me glued to my unshakable habit of dreaming.

I AM TOTALLY IN LOVE WITH SNOW !!!!

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A CONTROVERSIAL SKIN COLOUR

2017-08-29T11:44:00.000-07:00

'Be comfortable in your own skin'; is just another understatement when considering the notion that people try hard to loan an exact opposite skin colour to theirs. It's quite fascinating to give a thought to its complete controversial nature. The truth is: We are not really comfortable in our skin, because it is often an affair served to the judgemental department hidden in the society to make aware about how our skin colour really matters and let us know by ourselves what the real colour of our skin is. So, it is a job left to the world to decide.

Wherever you reside, if you are a being of earth, this ONE aspect is where there is utmost unity in. There are literally, two distinct groups: The Black and The White. The in-between's does not matter, yet safely categorized by our friend judges, proudly shouldering the responsibility genuinely, into any of these groups.

Here, not to forget the most evil deed of following a discriminatory field of RACISM, which has been on the run since an intangible time span, and has been a global issue on the discussion list. We know the constant pressure a person is having to face owning a darker skin complexion. Being victims to partiality, in their day to day lives, it has paved way for them to react to it and hold protests to gain back their rights. It really astonishes me as to how a simple skin colour could actually shake the world this way. How does it matter really? People are versatile when it comes to skin colour, they are born either dark or fair, and that is how it should be. Then, how on earth does that become a problem?

It is totally beyond my understanding.

Now, let me tell you another interesting situation. Having faced this a lot of times, at every other occasions, it seems to me as a "not so big" matter lately. Could you imagine a situation where you end up being a fair skinned victim? Yes, that does really exist.

Since the time i remember, i have been totally wrecked with the occasional pop-up of comments from people around, regarding my complexion. And even before that, having heard from my folks, being just a handful, people used to shoot out these random comments. Unfortunately though, having a fair skin isn't a reason to be proud of. It is definitely a constant pressure.

It goes this way. If you are the one with a fair tone, you get noticed by people around. The moment you are noticed, their prejudiced mind would be unable to digest the whole effect of the brightness that, they bring up those minds to work, to start a production of reasonable explanations to counter the whole scenario that they happened to witness. Now that, you are accepted to be one with a fair skin, you will not be in the 'good-looking category' because fair people are not pretty, they are just fair. WHAT? Why is fairness being judged upon so unwisely ?

On the other hand, you are framed and titled to be the one being called pretty, just because of possessing a lighter skin colour. Or you are even tagged to be the one with a cosmetoholic behaviour pattern, as all that natural colour is not really natural, but a camouflage created by the magic of make-up. But, this makes me feel proud to see how their sense of rationalism works.

The fairest deal comes when there is a dash of comparison that cannot be left behind. This is such a common reaction from people when they get the opportunity to compare between the two colour groups. The skin color of a person decides the personality of the same. Really? No, but that is how the world views it. If you are dark, obviously without the fault of your's, you are the down-to-earth, poor, obedient, calmed down, and the one who knows it all without being taught. Well, the fair ones, again without a fault of theirs, are classified as the adamant, selfish, beauty conscious, evil minded one who knows nothing at all other than to look attractive. Yeah, that is really a fair deal.

Colour has really got the earth rolling to a level that, it is all about 'THE COLOR'. It rightly decides everything about you.

People are always tied up to uncertainty and consistent dissatisfaction.When a darker one seeks out to a chemical counsellor termed the permanent skin bleach, a fair one does not stay behind. Reaching out to dim down the flash with some tanning is what they resort to. Giving a thought to how controversial this whole thing could get, i end up realizing my chin's up and i wear those frown. I could not be judgemental enough when having to confront the situation. Be it fair or dark, white or black, just accept the truth that, what ever you possess which is beyond your capability, is a gift from God and not acquired with your efforts. Behind our skin we are just the same, possessing the same bones, muscles and blood.

I would repeat in a complexion diverted tone: "BE COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN". Colour fades out with time, but personality remains. Keep it alive.

Always remember ; "WE ALL BLEED THE SAME COLOUR"

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COMPASS : THE ULTIMATE DESTINY MERGER

2017-08-25T12:34:00.000-07:00

Life would have been less of a roller-coaster ride, had there been a compass which was right on track and signaled us the right path we need to take.

An unfortunate, yet , sparingly reasonable fact, drives you through circumstances and drops you down to that fork in life, where your path in front seems heavily fogged. There you begin to scream and cry till your body gets insensitive to pain and the numbness just creeps over. For each, it's a unique experience.

Our future is so unpredictable that we always remain in the ecstasy of a curiosity stricken state. WHAT'S NEXT? is a question which is always centered to each and every situation in our lives. It is even more when it's a matter of having to deal with hardships and then you want the phase to just pass by in a jiffy. That craving as to know if you'd succeed in your desires is so taunting. Always having a very out-of the- world or something similar to a supernatural visualization of possessing a gadget like a time machine is always an inner desire for us. What if we could just go ahead in time to know exactly how our future is going to be like. How wonderful would that be? yeah??

And what if it was even more easier when it is something so handy like a compass, and we do not have to physically live in through it, but it just sets a right path for us to our destiny and cautions us about the side roads we must avoid. How cool would that be?

I have been there. Well, we have a bunch of friends out there who quite interestingly guide us to get a rough idea of how our future is going to be and where our destiny is marked. We have named them palmists, palm readers, astrologers and so on, according to our liking. I believe in every fields of science. If this was not true it would never exist in this world. They might showcase unbelievable measures to predict our future in ways which are out of our thinking, yet, it has come true for a majority. During my young age, it was a usual practice at our households to carry out these rituals and follow these customs. A family astrologer would read out and decode our horoscopes to reveal an outline of our very future. Some people or families who are even more traditional in approach, are completely tied up with this aspect , that for anything and everything in their lives, it becomes mandatory for them to seek the help of an astrologer. Apart from this approach, i used to sort to several palmists to decode my palm lines. I used to find it quite reliable and very much towards the interesting pole. The funny part being, it came true for me many a times. A fascinating idea of destiny prediction. Think !!! How much do we struggle to get our future right on track.

Yet, on the other hand, when we succumb to these methods, we forget the underlying statement that : "OUR CHOICES MAKE OUR DESTINY". Like William Shakespeare once revealed ; " It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves"

Let's consider the journey on the go. When we are ready to leave our future credibility in somebody else's favour and we are ready to believe them whole-heartedly without a doubt, why not trust in yourself instead. There is probably a machine out there to reveal our destiny somewhere on earth, because there are certain facts which are unseen and we must accept it just as it is. When we believe in the presence of air around us, when we believe in a higher power, when we believe in gravity, when we believe there is a sun, a moon and stars in co-partnership with an earth, we can also believe this. We must believe that everything under the sky is true.

But, as a matter of fact, taking it round the clock, its good to always think in a little positive sense. Living our lives with some amount of curiosity is the best way. Life does not shape well all the time, but our choices would help shape life and guide us to a path that our decisions and some intuition leads us to. If our future was completely clear to us, what is the purpose of living. No fun at all.
Let us take it this way. If we had no hard times, if we had no bad experiences, if we had no not happening relationships, no back stabbing friends and without a betraying colleague, how would we know what to trust and what not to? We would still be living with our list of principles. Hardships helps us learn from them, it feeds in, that memory in our brains that cautions us post-experience each time there is a pit fall ahead.

View the journey of our lives, to be like a compass. A compass only guides us to the relevant directions, but we must decide where to stand to get it right, and which map to follow to get to our destiny. We all are destined to reach a goal at any point of time. That is how the drama was created. We have a dozen roads right in front, take the path you want, try taking a little risk, go zig-zag, run through bends and pins, yet, it would all merge to a destination meant for you. Take the rest as EXPERIENCES of your life.

'ONE OFTEN MEETS HIS DESTINY ON THE ROAD HE TAKES TO AVOID IT'

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A SALUTE TO THE FEMALE FOETICIDER

2017-08-22T10:56:00.002-07:00

Wrenching your nostalgic mind to a far off remote village shed, you suddenly envision that young girl, a daughter and a sister to someone,taming a cow, feeding and milking it, dusting off the dung and hay dusts from her clothes, running back to her hay barn to sit down and prepare the day's meal for her family, and at a glimpse she's seen with an almost worn out, woven old pair of outfit, busy dusting off the not so clean floor laid with stones and broken down pieces of bricks. Yet, in a few moments, breaking the silence and putting a sudden smile to her face, wiping off that little sweat from her forehead and those tiny trickles off her nose, she welcomes her folks with a heart full of intangible love and pride.

HOW COULD ANY ONE IN THIS WORLD, EVER MEASURE A WOMAN'S LOVE?

YET,A virtual but a heartbreaking wish of mine : A salute to the female foeticider.

Being born as a female is a means to take pride in. We always stand against the one most perpetuated concern of all, FEMALE FOETICIDE. The gross deed of all times. I too am a hater.

But, credibility fails once the harsh side faces us with a sudden grim. As the litany goes " IT'S JUST A PHASE", is so true to existence when tagged on to the entire life of a female. Leaving behind an old norm of this evil task, lets take the changed era in mind. The present day families are more open at the idea of nursing and nurturing a female child. The day she's born, is the most celebrated day of all,to mask over the previous superstitious belief. She's named the ' darling princess', ' the most beautiful' among her folks, she is educated at school. Everything till the moment is fit and fine.

Now that her journey, as of now, has wrapped her folks with pride, she needs to take the next leap.

The sustainability in the career she chooses is her next target point. She has a burning desire to reach out to her ambition, she is mentally prepared to embrace her career and dodge into her own slippers, keeping the pillars of constant support , her parents,as her backbone straight and tall. Smiling out at her very success, yet, keeping her desires slipped under the bed, her folks showcase her next milestone in career development. But this time (as always), it is their choice. They bundle up a carriage of their own desires, dreams and ambitions, regardless of her interest to it, and weighs it over her weak shoulders. Being delicate at heart, and emotionally wired to them, she shoulders the responsibility for years and here too she's a lead. She is a success, yet a failure in life.

A female at 20's , is as equal to her male counterpart.She is infact, a step above the rule, being foreseen in thinking, mature in approach, yet pushed behind the walls of her room to hide away from the evil eyes of anti-social elements walking around us as rapists, stalkers, and burglars. Her freedom merges into her small room, with her hopes, wishes and dreams tied to her window panes. Once her windows are let open, her desires are freed and set to fly. But, now her life is roofed by darkness, when her flooring is on fire.

The next hurdle comes into her life when the "Time to get settled " comes, Now,this becomes a real challenge. At a particular age, shes fostered to take up a so-called huge responsibility in her life. Here,their princess becomes a burden to her family. The meaning of 'being settled' becomes so subtle. The very reason of a female's life comes down to this day of being wed. Her growth gets imprisoned and barriered in a way that her strengths fall short to break it apart. Even when their broad-mindedness lets her envisage her perfect partner, it is conditioned to a tagline of religious compatibility. Evoking all the demands and respecting its righteousness, she finally spots her better half. At a positive side, if all the conditions have been met , then the ride is on the go. The funniest part being, her credentials were spot-on if it were for a religious summon. The notion that "once perfect , then, perfect forever", brings them down to a belief that, at a later stage, when she finds herself unhappy with her partner , contrary to being the folks she sorted to for support, she needs to bow down to her partners feet and just ADJUST FOREVER. The safe zone is even better when , her folks trust upon themselves more and finds a marriageable partner for their princess to be hooked on to. Now that, she needs to move away from the family, like an unchangeable duty, she needs to be just hung on to SOME ONE, regardless of her happiness in it (this time too).

A FEMALE : SHE IS A PREY FOR LIFE, SHE IS A TARGET FOR LIFE AND SHE IS A PRISONER FOR LIFE.

However, we try raising our voices, try fighting for our rights, have succeeded at being at par with our male counterparts, we are still "JUST A FEMALE", in the eyes of the world. This very label still remains pinned to her even after decades.

This struck me so hard one night, and with a heavy heart i agreed to the tribe who probably took to a female foeticide, foreseeing the struggles a woman is likely to undergo through out her life. They were life-savers.

SHE is a sister and a shoulder to cry on, a daughter and a reason of pride, a wife and a backbone for support, a mother and possessor of those angelic wings that promises eternal protection.

The day SHE can laugh aloud, love with all her heart, live without regrets, fly towards her dreams, gets free from bondage, is the day she would start dreaming of a life to live.

"The voice of woman has been silenced in the state, the church,

and the home, but man cannot fulfill his destiny alone,

he cannot redeem his race unaided"

--Elizabeth Cady Stanton

MUSIC, OVER A CUP OF COFFEE - THE RELAXATION MANEUVER

2017-08-20T14:41:00.000-07:00

JUST SIT BACK AND RELAX WITH A COFFEE !! 🍵 .. Pretty mesmerized over a steaming cup of coffee, drowned by the aroma of its perfectly blend components, looking out the window, leaning back to lend ears to a symphonically melodious music playing by your side is a realistically sophisticated, yet a seldom happening moment in our very busy day.

YET, THIS SEEMS TO BE QUITE RELAXING !!!! Who hasn't hoped for that moment?

When time has offered to keep us occupied at every fraction of today, we too must promise to offer our time - a moment of relaxation.
In today's world, people have reckoned their lives to be at a steady pacing phase consistently, with a target at the end of the line which seems to me as quite an irrelevant one. Why i call it "Irrelevant" is because, we always forget one underlying litany "HEALTH IS WEALTH". Today's investment is tomorrow's wealth, as the cliche goes, running at high speed to get your investments on the go for your dream boutique, a franchise, a stand-alone business has certainly bulldozed over our brains. In a hurry to gather the most wealth a person possibly could, we tire our not-so-machinery body, to work continuously non-stop through out the day and eventually a year.

The current day has absolutely gifted us back for our deeds, with little lifestyle conditions like Diabetes, hypercholesterolemia, high blood pressure, insomnia and the most amazing present of all time - A HEART ATTACK. What more could we rather expect ? Most people even succumb to habits to get across with the over-weighing load thrown over at them. Cigarette smoking, alcoholism , using certain drugs, being a slave to sleeping pills, are the frustration-relievers people reach up to these days. The impact that these crossroads have created does not fall short when related to the ultimate wreck that it has resulted in, mentally. In the recent years, finding individuals with a very over-rated mental ill-health - DEPRESSION. It is not a usually thought of, mentally disabled condition, instead, a mentally disturbed state not due to any underlying organic pathology. It is a certain state that every 3 out of 10 people are suffering from ,related to undue pressures.

Having said this, on the other side of the river, the haunting scenario at workplace does push us to slip down and take up such a lifestyle. But on the run, we must realize that wealth only goes to those who have a clear mind. A struggling mind keeps struggling forever. A patient and calm one would be capable of collecting more information, thinking better, having a concrete target and hence a well thoughtful plan to end up with. Only a clear mind welcomes health. Never to forget, Health is the cornerstone to our most awaited treasure- wealth, which unmistakably does offer a better livelihood.

Overcoming this over the hump situation, regarding yourself to be of prime importance and having concern for YOU is important. Fasten around you a relaxation maneuver:

Making a lone time for yourselves, relaxing back with a good music, having a few moments of friendly chat with family, buddies and neighbours,
Reading a very appealing text or watching an inspiring video helps a long way,
TIME, TIME, TIME. Always shows the courtesy in spending some time for yourself, at least an hour each day.
Sympathize and work for you. Give credits to your hobbies: paint, dance, sing ,do some gardening
Go outdoors, refresh yourself with some delicate breeze, play your favourite sport, or even attempt to play one,
At lone times, dance to your favourite song, sing aloud, scream and laugh aloud.
Do ONE good thing each day, Never forget to put on a smile, never compromise on staying positive, help the needy.
Last but not the least, indulge yourself in yoga and prayer of Thanks giving.

Your health is your asset. The very reason for your present day struggle is for a better and promising tomorrow. Bear in mind, this secure tomorrow needs YOU in it, to experience it, cherish it and be proud of. Make music and that aromatic coffee that refreshes your mind, your most trust worthy friends and respect your own self.

This reminds me of Beethoven and our good old farmers who has gifted us the two most beautiful essence of hope - My all time favourite : Music , over a cup of coffee leading the list.

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GET UNLEASHED !! BAG YOUR FREEDOM !! A WALK TO FREEDOM

2017-08-20T06:38:00.000-07:00

As hard as i wish freedom could have been shopped out of an outlet and enjoyed to every bit of its tranquility, my thought just flows down to the other side of its birth. The seemingly impeccable carved frontiers with that laid back blue-green, consistently appealing nature of Mother Earth with closely studded provinces always promises us with a generous amount of great history outweighing the real essence of our existence on this land. Generations after generation, our historical geeks dutifully passes down this information through various scriptures about how we marched out from the leash tied down on our ancestors by the neighboring countries. And which we observe rightfully every year cherishing the independence our ancestors unveiled to us.

Giving credit and a huge respect to our great grands for allowing us to enjoy yet another day of complete freedom and having named it INDEPENDENCE DAY , which has definitely paved the way to a brand new today, Irrespective of the country we belong to, this day becomes the most loved and the one looked forward to every year. Yet, we have forgotten a certain aspect of the very same.

The motive of our ancestors in gifting us such a day ,was to free us from the bondage. This is the very idea of the term INDEPENDENCE, which just means being freed from dependency. We have pushed back the idea of complete freedom to be merged down solely to this day. But, it's far more than that. Freedom should not be restricted to a certain country. It should be widened to a certain spectrum that involves us too. When we say a nation is free ,it is not just the land being pulled away from being conquered by another country, it also means, most importantly, the freedom of its inhabitants, WE humans.

It has become such a topic of discussion world-wide. We all are deprived of freedom in a way or the other. At every stage of our lives we hunt for the very same. When at home, a child strives to get its freedom to play, to have their favourite sweets, a daughter pleads for freedom to choose her career and life partner , a mother wishes for freedom from her home chores and a father hopes for freedom from responsibility. Do you think the rich are spared? There too,a paparazzi never spares a celebrity. A politician too is chained under media and asphyxiated under pressures of expectations and dreams of freedom as an individual. Every other person needs it!!

In a country like India , with a very conservative way of approach of life, among a majority of families, inspite of a sway from a couple a centuries, we are still stuck where we were 50 yrs back. It's still a pain watching women strike for their rights and freedom , when their lives are just theirs. The social pressures being faced by them is so much so that they have forgotten that the very essence of being born in this land is to live their own lives and not follow a way of living that the community weighs over them. Children fight for freedom for education. It has become a common scenario where children below 18 yrs of age are seen working their heads out, when it is their age to feed in information and get at the peak of education. Our country, being a developing country, trying to get productive in every possible field, yet, never tries to give it a shot in a CHANGING APPROACH AT THINKING. We still follow the old ideas of a restricted pattern of lifestyle.

BRING YOUR THOUGHTS TO LIFE:

Taking a nation as a whole, it is very hard to bring a change in this very pattern unless every other patriot thinks different and out-of the-box. When a country aims at development, the mindset of the inhabitants should be taught to be beyond a certain narrow spectrum to bury the good old ideas of an undifferentiated being.

We always talk about how hard our freedom fighters fought, how long they kept a positive attitute, and the kind of effort they put to get what we enjoy currently. Why is MAHATMA GANDHI, whom we lovingly call GANDHIJI or BAPUJI remembered till date and centered around as the one big LEGEND even now ? Is it not because he won us freedom, but, in a very unique way. Even though thousands of our fellow Indians made their way into fighting for freedom, Gandhiji stood out-of the-box in his thinking and actions. It always astonishes us to believe how brave our freedom fighters were. What would have been the situation if he happened to follow the old ideologies and succumbed to a very conservative way of thinking just like all others ? Have you ever given a thought on it.

In this context, we understand that attaining freedom is important, to be unique in life, to achieve what we aim for, to succeed at every stage of life. We know for sure that none of the freedom fighters had an easy way out, but their consistently constant effort to fight for freedom was unshakable.

We alone should run at a certain pace patiently and keeping hopes high to set our goals at digging out the freedom we are borne to enjoy. Putting in a little effort with out letting our expectations to sink is a way to go for it. This is a world of possibilities, and believing that every thing is possible with a consistent effort is the right way to succeed.

In the present day, when every one is craving for freedom, it's no doubt that we should work out for ourselves and fight alone to bag our own freedom for life.

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CIRCADIAN RHYTHM FOR A ROUTINED SURVIVAL

2017-08-18T10:33:00.000-07:00

Centuries flown by, yet left behind some good old trail of a circadian system for livelihood. The French, Americans, and soviets have crashed down the monotonicity of a regular survival pattern and have found ways to develop a huge upturn in their approach to life. Though surprisingly our Asian neighbours have drastically made a leap in this area as well, we the change-haters would never switch our alarm setting to another hour because our oneness and unified democracy is always the right one to rely on.

A few years back,i happened to hear from a friend and with the hope of recalling some sweet memories and a few bitter ones as well ,we set to hangout for sometime. Engrossed into the conversation totally, she told me about her aunt. Quite interestingly, i gave ears to the story which was not just a story but a taunting reality.

Her aunt who was around her 40's back then, she was a brilliant student at school, and a fine artist, she also wrote well, and a well-known singer. She never laid behind at anything that was a baby of talent. She was a very popular student at school and held a good head among her peers as well. While she was at her heights and like any girl of her age would, she dreamt long about her ambitions and set her goal high, nothing less than being a government servant and extending her services to the entire country. Her caretakers belonged to a lower middle-class family and naturally she too.

They dwelled in a small but comfortable house. As part of their duty as her parents , just like any others, they educated her but never noticed her talents and eyed away from her ambitions. The only focus was to conduct their duties responsibly so that it comes to a calm end. Her professors expected high of her and repeatedly spoke about her excellence at every activity at school and her brilliance in academics. But, her parents never thought out-of-the-box.

As she turned 16,like in every other neighbourhood she was flooded with marriage proposals and that is when it struck her parents that the society started notifying them about her growing age. They decided to get her hitched as they were growing old and they felt its high time she get settled and start her own family. Within few days she came to know that her marriage got fixed and they were all ready to wave her good-byes from home forever. She was not informed about her marriage being fixed or that her education was being ceased. It was hard for her to believe that she is leaving her education half-way, without a degree at school even and that her dreams have to be forgotten and drowned.later that month, she got married. She gave birth to 2 children and completed her family. She remained home as a home-maker and never was allowed to or given an opportunity to use her talents for the good. She was a girl everyone remembered as the one with an angelic smile. She always carried that postivity in her smile and in her actions.

But, years later her parents made a visit at her place just to see her face looking worn out so much more than her age. She showed a fake smile and was busy serving them the dishes she prepared. She had nothing to talk about other than about washing clothes, doing the dishes and preparing food for her spouse and children through out the day. About how her routine started at 6am and came to an end at 12am in a usual manner with the hopelessness of just another routine day.Her parents were totally sunk in guilt and regret for becoming the reason for her meaningless life which was so monotonous

The moment my friend finished off with the REAL story i was bewildered by the fact that our community still remains the same that it was centuries ago. This was just one of those little tales , and there were many more she had opened out to me that had occurred in her family among all her near relatives till date. I could not say a word. I was in a real despair to know i too were a part of this so called community.

What occurred to me was, we are born in a world of possibilities ,but unfortunately into a slice of this world ,into something that looks like a mouse-trap. Once we are trapped then we cannot hope to hop out, we cannot breath or run around like we want. We are denied of the freedom we should experience. As an infant or a toddler we are pulled back into the space of limitation and not let to explore. Parents call it fear of loss or a fear that the infant would get hurt. Have you noticed a baby keenly? At 16 months of age, a baby is always found wandering around away from their mother and loved ones. You know why? Because that is the age at which a baby starts exploring. It starts noticing new things, feeling and holding objects to know what it feels like, pops objects into their mouth by delicately pinching it up, they want to move around and discover. I have had the opportunity to study child development at high school, and how it goes makes me wonder the extreme beauty of a being. As a medical practitioner , i have had the opportunity to witness and assist a couple of deliveries. As i watch, that proud moment have brought tears of extreme happiness in me. Yet, the reality of facing a hard time out there once it's out of that door which is just about a foot away brings that long pause before i completely settle to smile for the most wonderful moment i was blessed with right now.

Our limitations start at the very moment we take birth. And eventually freed into a second trap. And this time we are getting to move as a lab rat on wheels. We keep running over wheels every day in a monotonous pattern. We get experimented on, kicked, pushed, harmed, abused, yet we keep running non-stop for NOTHING. After so much exhaustion , we finally stop,&look back to see an empty but dark space of no meaning, no hope, no identity, and we have left no trails , no footprint to follow and no messages to our generations to come rather than dutifully passing down this life of hopelessness and monotonicity and welcoming them to the world of lab-rats just to be another one.

The circadian rhythm for a routined survival ,thus, continues this way.

"THE LESS THE ROUTINE, THE MORE LIFE"

-Amos Bronson Alcott

RELIGION +/- LOVE = PERFECT MARRIAGE - "HOLY MISCONCEPTION" (PART 2)

2017-08-17T05:09:00.001-07:00

After my first post on the topic, I am all buckled up for my next one.

When it comes to 'LOVE', the word creates quite a lot of frowny faces. But yeah, we all end up defining it or just phrasing it up using words to get something which brings a positive vibe to it. So, which means Love is a positive feeling. I would define it as that continuous flow of positive energy between souls and with a higher power which ends up bringing a sense of complete satisfaction and accomplishment in one's own personality and behaviour and would mold us into a fine, respectable and happier one.

It quite astonishes me to the idea of linking a concept of something so volatile as religion to something so vibrant as Love and then creating a totally versatile misconception of a PERFECT marriage. I don't understand how that even works. In some areas, its even worse when religion comes above all, that love is just pushed away leaving it to be so invaluable. Some get too lucky enough to have ended up in a successful alliance. Truly, it seems like a fog to me when asked to combine the two for a lifelong commitment.

Like i mentioned in my previous post , religion is not positive until it continues to blind people. A world of positivity only follows the rule : "LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE". If it's a combination of opposite energies it would break apart in no time. Mixing up two totally different aspects would end not in a perfect but a broken marriage.

The key to understanding that nothing below the roof of sky is perfect. It's all about creating that near-perfection in relationships through laying a simple yet a comfortable path for us to walk along with happiness and joy. In the recent times, religion has taken over the world so much so quick that our community builds up a foundation over it and tries to raise up a so-called healthy relationship which would definitely grow unhealthy with time and we would just have to stay staring at them doing nothing. If you shoot a question to choose between a love or arranged alliance for marriage to some random spectators, you would surely confront mixed responses. Yet, one thing commons out among them is it should contain the essence of love. Yes!! Because we all agree unified to this one point. We know love is the cornerstone for a successful marriage.

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Religion only teaches one to focus on their particular idea of GOD and worship just like everybody else in the community does. It doesn't teach us to Love when they are busy arguing, conquering, killing and playing war-war. Relationship must end up in a beautiful marriage not when religion and castes match, instead when it starts with love , respect, mutual encouragement, understanding, being able to feel within their own comfort zone and when there is a complete willingness and confidence to maintain this throughout life.

Lets shake off this misconception of a perfect marriage intertwined with a religious matching. And lets encourage a matching of hearts and love that leads to a near-perfect ,yet, a happy married life.

WHAT IS YOUR IDENTITY?

2017-08-16T21:13:00.000-07:00

Being identified as one's self is like a dream come true. As harsh and horrifying as it may seem in today's scenario, people are struggling hard to bring it up to the world the very existence of themselves as something more than just being a creature with skin, bones and blood.

There stands a husband struggling to build up an identity for his career development, when a daughter struggles to get identified in the community and her little world for her capabilities, a friend trying to get identified among her peers,yet there stands a mother trying to build up the same in front of her children and near family, and a son for his dates. Unbelievably at a global level, even various states and countries are struggling to own an identity for self.

It might seem naturally coming out of someone around us but yet it is just an other illusion. As truly as it seems to have occurred naturally it sways us to the other side of the truth- Nothing comes without a little pain and hard work. Just like it is not naturally coming your way ,it is the exact same for just another. The difference is that they have accepted it the right way whereas you are yet to breeze through it.
This is a world of possibilities. Bearing in mind something so real "NOTHING IS EVER IMPOSSIBLE TO US ". If we are capable of taking birth in this world, then we are capable of everything. Just remembering something so nourishing " NEVER LOWER YOUR DREAMS TO YOUR ABILITIES, INSTEAD RAISE UP YOUR ABILITIES TO CHASE YOUR DREAMS", and you are bound to achieve it right away. But nothing could stand in the way once you know and be clear of one thing all through your life " POSSESS A GOAL AND WORK TOWARDS IT NO MATTER WHAT ".

List out two important questions in your journal : 1. Where do you stand now? 2. Where do you want to be? That distance it creates is all that you need to surpass to reach your goal. Above all, speaking of the very importance of " Believing in yourself" and "loving yourself" has a major role to play here. YOU ARE A CAPABLE BEING. When you are confident and a believer of self, you know your way. Your direction is right in front of you, you know what you need to be doing next and then by a step -by- step approach you will be nearing your destiny. Here, socialization has a great role. To makeup your own self just like how important it becomes to be unique from everybody else , having a little support from your community becomes important. Socializing and creating a positive image of yourself to the outside world helps a lot in the long run. On the other hand, encouraging people around and serving as a help to them with your abilities allows vast exposure and a unique stand for self. Being accepted as one among the community yet being one with great self-esteem and self-actualization is key to this approach.

Identity does not come with just giving a thought to it. It comes with you accepting your self, believing the capabilities in you and bringing it to life. All the legends we adore and worship have created an identity of their own following these principles. We often try hard towards making an identity of our own surfing through various websites and reading journals or autobiography of the heroes. But if you give a deeper thought to it , the basic principle each of them follows is just the same. Believing in self and knowing nothing is impossible to us. Slowly you would balloon up to be proud and grow striking an identity of self in this land.
Having said this, in the approach towards tracking your own identity being succumbed to the constant frustrations of not being able to achieve what you dreamt of , there are two possibilities in front of you ; either, get to the lazy world and sit back and relax with popcorns and your favourite television show, or wake up to the ring and stand upright holding your identity stamp and have a life flowing with wonders.

SPICING UP FASHION ON THE GO ( Female edition)

2017-08-16T14:48:00.000-07:00

Luckily, fashion is still upright, on the go. Fading are fame, rules, troubles, seasons, relations and words, yet, FASHION NEVER FADES . The most exciting part is, it just keeps flipping from fads to trends to all the crazy-go outfits and accessory mix matching.

Gazing at fashion shows on television, to being an observer at streets to eye-catch that most gorgeous and apt outfit is all that it needs to become a wardrobe holder. Yet, it's a long way to achieving that dream of getting even close to becoming a fashion outfitter. Probably, getting out of that small spectrum to a mindful world outside would help one to grab ideas and puzzle them up to a spicy outfit fashionista of your dreams.

Firstly, bringing up your confidence and self-identity is the key. Knowing your tastes and occasions for wardrobe matching. Studying the trends, mixing clothing and colors to the right texture is a great step. Above all, knowing whats right for each season, the make-up essentials and accessory matching to complete the very look of it makes it a finished product.

Lets get ready for a summer day,

Bear it in mind, its hot, sweaty and a freckle borne time out there.
Wear a very sheer make-up after a good face wash, including a mildly hydrating moisturizer that does not tint your skin, make sunscreen your best friend, SPF 50 and stay away from any foundation products. Use a BB cream and set it with a powder. Summer is all about getting bright, fun and bringing out that chic look. This calls for enhancing your beautiful features, line your eye with a gel liner and apply your brown mascara. For your lips is that beauty enhancer, use a bright orange, or red lipstick to finish off your look.
Your hair is a key part to confuse those eyes staring at you. Create large but natural looking curls on your hair and pull up your hair from the crown area into a neon bow and let the rest flowing free over your shoulders.
Slip in a loose over-sized off-white or a peach colored knee-length tank top.
You need an enhancer where people would look off to and their attention hooks on to. So here ,you can trick their eyes with a knitted beige belt over your waist or a fancy ornament to make it even fancier and attractive.
You can't step out without that below ankle sneakers. With this outfit a neon one does match, but you can also step in to a beige one which would match your belt. Sneakers can just be a second option only to a gorgeous and just perfect strap flats with a little golden detail on it.
Here, the best part is being free of any accessories except a bright neon or orange bracelet with fancy hangings and a rich yet peppy bright peach or pink clutch or hang bag with a long golden chain strap and a pair of bright shades.
Never forget to apply your sunscreen body lotion every one hour.

This is how it goes. It is a western approach of getting dressed. Just an example. There is more to go. It varies from neck-line patterns to stripe patterns, to prints, to color. Enhancers are an approach to bringing attention. A hair detail, a necklace or neck band, a bracelet, a good facial feature potrayed the right way, a waist belt, a handbag ,or even a footwear can be used as enhancers to deviate eyes and to show that part of yours you are most confident about in revealing.

Everybody has their own ideas and skills in combining garments, colours and all that goes with a perfect look. YES!!!

Fashion is all around the world- from tribes, to the rich business man. Its unique nature and essence brings its productivity to light. Lets embrace that uniqueness and respect the trends to be just another trend-setter.

RELIGION +/- LOVE = PERFECT MARRIAGE - "HOLY MISCONCEPTION" (PART 1)

2017-08-16T12:06:00.002-07:00

LIFE IS MEANT TO BE SIMPLE AND FUN, yet, strangulated by rules, laws, concepts and social norms!!! YES, then how better could it get!!
How does that make life fun? I kind of ponder over it each and every second of why this happens.

Was the concept of religion, love and marriage in-built since existence? If yes, i could be silent. But, if not......Then its high time we stand on our feet and get going to bring an end to these misconceptions.

The whole circle of life, since the time life began on earth we learned about different concepts. Our ancestral tree has totally confused us. APES???😲😲😲 OUR ANCESTORS?? ..like we have evolved from apes?

Oh okay....and then all of a sudden our holy scripts have really tricked us with another shocking concept ....WE WERE BORN AS HUMANS ONE FINE DAY....The very existence of two humans have paved way to today's huge lot. That is but a little believable yet crazy. OKAY, but yeah! We have an option to choose among them to settle down to our own belief of righteousness. Lets leave it to our common sense and conscience.

But here comes a different concept. And this time its far intense and fiercely scarier than the first one. This new concept has shaken the whole lot. RELIGION!!! WOW.. Where did that come from now? What does it mean? How does it help us? Oh, i get it. Like it helps us worship and pray to GOD for strength, prosperity and for thanks giving....WHAT!!! WAIT!!!...Did i miss something? Oh there it is.. "GOD". Here is where i went wrong. GOD is what we missed here because where do we have the time to give a thought of God when we are busy ruining the purity of that power who is keeping us going.Right?

First of all, Who is GOD? I meant, do you know what that means?
G - GENERATOR
O - OBSERVER
D - DESTROYER
When we talk about religion, we forget about how the concept of our ancestry has come. Because we know two things:Either, God created apes and we were evolved from them,
Or, God created humans and we are the successors. Here, there is apparently a common factor- GOD. Okay. So now you are trying to say religion does exist. So, it means,there were several number of them and each created their form of human to begin life on earth. And that would mean, more than two humans were created initially and then each being were born from a couple created by a particular God ,because then it is quite believable that each human were meant to follow their own religion. Oh my!!!! This is really breaking my head..Its so confusing!!!!!!!Right??
Then why are we stuck in this world of confusion?

Since time immemorial the concept of religion has been eating earth. We all know one thing for sure, the concept of God is true and that we consider it a supreme power. Centuries back messengers had dropped in information to this world through their actions and miracles, but, not to bring us apart instead to make us aware of the presence of this supreme being and to unite us. But there, instead of braining in the positive side we shifted our minds to the misconceptions of religion of multiple types and categorized people into each of them and even worse into castes and sub-castes and what not and dutifully to our children and grands. How well the circle of life has been going. Right?

Now that it has grown to a level that it cannot be pulled back and cut off from roots we could at least give a choice of belief. Like we can choose our own concepts of ancestral chain, we should be able to choose among religions or being out of this concept. When one is born, they are put into a circle of believers of a particular caste just because he/she has been born to that family. We are too ignorant to run away from it and keep following it just like all others and follow the exact same rituals and customs however strange they may seem like. But once we are grown and matured and given the stand of education, that is when we know what is right and what suits us the best. Right to choose to follow a caste among all castes which seems true to them or even being out of one should be left solely to an individual to decide. And here, respecting each other as individuals and beyond the concept of religion is vital.

"If there is a God, atheism must seem to Him as
less of an insult than religion"

-Edmond de Goncourt

I am not an atheist. But, blinding someone is not a religion . Belief and faith should help us grow not push us down.