My age? Im 41 so that you know how strong my convictions are.

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Answer by Avi
I highly commend you for making that decision to hold off having sex. Sex is something that should NEVER be rushed into idly or just for the heck of it. And you have to do what you feel is right, not what is popular or not in society.
I am 24…and a virgin…and not losing it anytime soon.
I commend you again for making the smart decision to hold off sex until marriage, and I wish you the very best of luck for the future.

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Answer by Fireball226
if he wont try then your hands are tied….it takes 2 to make a marriage…angyr for what?

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Answer by rooney
that’s so funny that they try to get away with labelling it an “emotional” affair, yea right, it was probably physical!

If you can’t get over it then leave.

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Answer by oh
weird I understan sex…but kissing????

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I ask this because my fiance and I want to get married. However he has about 15,000 US dollars worth of debt right now and no savings. I also have no savings because I was recently in college fulltime and just graduated. I have been unable to find work more than 1- 2 days a week (it varies week to week) due to the economy and my chosen career having no job openings right now. If I worked fulltime or even a few more days a week I wouldn’t be worried because I would save and I have no debt. But I am worried about getting married to a man with no savings and 15,000 in debt. And I don’t make enough money to save much or to be able to support myself or a family.

Any advice from married people about marriage and debt?
I watch the financial advisor suze orman show and she said to a person before that PREmarriage debt is that person’s debt and it does not become the spouses debt. Only debt incurred during marriage is the responsibility of both people. So I am not worried about his debt being mine.

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Answer by Rae’s Momma
Do NOT marry someone with debt. When you get married, that debt becomes your debt and if you get divorced it is still your debt.

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Answer by A Real Monster
Sexual addiction is VERY difficult to work through. Suggest he immediately start or get a divorce. Save some time and get a divorce

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Where is the catch?
if this is indeed possible, why do MRAs crib that they are being robbed by unfair divorce laws.

As i see when i gift my money to somebody it becomes his/her money…and i have no control on that money after the gift deed has happened….so how can law say that they are hidden assets.

Also does law make giving money to ones parents is a crime, if you are married?
if yes, does not that look like a very strange un-humane law? To me it looks absurd to treat money given to your parents as crime?
Thanks CitiCop…But what if he does not have the money.

Can court force his parents to pay for divorce proceedings?
Can the court force his parents to pay for divorce settlements?

Can the court force him to pay money after divorce settlement?
It is not about hiding the property…The man is ready to put all that he had transacted on the table and let the law/judge decide fairly.

Why do you think should law make gifting money to ones parents a crime to begin with. Any money given to parents in good faith should not be treated as crime. The law as i think is wrong and violates the fundamental right/choice offered to a individual by constitution. I think law has been twisted to please women in this case.
Quizzard : Do you have a law in place which forbids a wife from being extravagant. if not why should law coerce a man in such manner. I think that is being unfair. if a spouse has a problem with man gifting money to his parents, she should divorce immediately, not later than a month she decides she has a problem. That is her choice. Because she is lax in implementing her choice, does notmean the law should start forcing things on how men should live their lives.
jaymes: You are right..When i said bankruptcy i did not mean in the sense that i am saying that the man says he will not pay debt, but since the propeorty will get a passed on to woman, and that divorce settlements are supposed to cover earnings/expense incurred only during marriage and that the man now has nothing left out of marriage, it is but natural that future installments are paid by whosoever owns the house. If the house is granted to man, he should arrange for installements from wherever he can. Since the man has a job and he can continue to pay installments after divorce, if the court decides to he will continue to pay installments and neither the Fed nor the loaning bank has any issues. If the law for some reasons decides to give the house to woman, then it should be between woman and that loaning bank.
If it is anything otherwise, it looks like heads i win and tails you loose from a perspective of the woman.

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Answer by Citicop
The wife will go to court to get alimony.

The court will want financial documents to see how much the man really earns. They will not care if he gives money to his parents or not. They will order the support based on the amount of money he makes, not how much he decided to keep.

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Answer by Mawia
Good for you wanting to save your marriage.

A couple of things come to mind.

Ask your wife to stop watching soap operas and hanging out with divorced and divorce-pending friends.

You say you have 2 young children, help her with some of those chores that go with young children.

What does she REALLY, REALLY like? Crackers with melted cheese? Clean windows? Spotless vehicle? Pick one thing each week and do it or arrange to have it done for her.

Contact the organization below, they have help thousands of couples in your situation, they can help you too.

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As it stands, she has been wanting me to adopt him since his birth, so I can be his dad full time (I said supposedly earlier because she has not wanted to get a paternity test even after he and myself have both asked for one; she maintains that she knows the child is the other man’s). The biggest problems that I have with this are that she makes it seem like, and has told me directly that, if I do not adopt the child, then we have no business being together. To me, that makes it sound like the child is a condition for us to continue to be remarried.
Next, I have tried to tell her that I am still damaged from what happened and have trust issues still, but she insists that I have had over eight months to move past it and I can stop living in the past anytime that I choose to do so (on that note, anytime she brings up living in the past, I do remind her why we got to this point in our lives) and I do not feel like she has been very understanding, supportive or given me enough time to work out my issues. I will admit though, until the past couple of months, I had not been very emotionally supportive of her at all, especially after she had him, but I have done a lot to start turning that around and continue to do more to make up for it.
Third, if our first marriage was any indication, we have never really had a very stable marriage either time, and I am afraid that unless something changes (namely focusing on rebuilding ourselves and our relationship first and foremost), we will end up divorced again, but I will have an additional child who is not mine to take care of or have to go through the process of getting the other guy his rights back, all at my cost.

To answer any questions about why we even bothered getting back together: we still love each other and we also have a daughter together and she has another daughter from a previous marriage that sees me as her dad and I see her as my daughter. We also both want to stay together and for this to work out for us as much as we would the kids. So, I guess the main questions are:

1) Is it wrong of me to not want to adopt the child based off of the above information?
2) Is there any way that I could possibly preserve our marriage without going to the adoption until I feel we are stable enough and I am ready to do so?
3) Is this a situation that is impossible or near-impossible to resolve with us being together?
4) Has anyone ever dealt with this situation before?

I feel this is the best way to get several unbiased opinions on the subject and hope to get some good feedback!
I failed to mention this above, but since she has been back, she has ceased all behavior that would put her in this position again, like she promised me this time around. She won’t even go out with her friends unless I’m ok with it and she chose to stay in contact with me both times she went out (I never asked her to do this, she did so on her own) and when she asked if she could stay out later and I asked her if she would come home instead, she came home. Everything else I am worried about because it seems to be unresolved issues from last time as well as her wanting me to adopt the child. And the child and I have a decent relationship as well, but I just don’t want him to seem like a condition for our marriage’s survival.

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Answer by colostomy_punch
1) I wouldn’t be adopting this kid if I were you. The fact she won’t do a paternity test when you AND the supposed father want it done.. just tells me it’s probably mystery man number 3 and she’s trying to save face. You can get it done without her, I suggest you do.

2) She seems to have this as a condition and honestly it almost feels like she’s trying to trap you. If you don’t adopt this child, are you going to raise it any differently? think any differently? I don’t think so. I wouldn’t trust this woman as far as I could throw her just from what you’ve said here. If she wants to end it.. let her.

3) Do you really WANT to be with this woman? I mean, read over what you’ve put here.. can you really trust this woman?

4) No, I wouldn’t get back together with someone who screws around and has children then wants me to take care of said children.

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