Then I got the text message that the youngest had forgotten his PE uniform. Semester just changed so it’s an easy forget. BUT I had to get up and do it right away. And so it began.

From there it was just one little thing after another. Thankfully I had one of my little blueberry muffins at 6am because I didn’t get to eat until 1:30pm! However, that did have to do with the fact that there was a cancellation after my daughters massage and I took it. See, I am totally open to the good things that happened today. I’m just not going to ignore the shit.

It’s the end of wrestling season and I know from last year this is when I’m about to lose it. That would be enough but then add having my bday this weekend ON sub-regionals and I’m just super over it. Next week hubby will be having a talk with the kids. Today I ran all over the place for them and not a single thank you. They need to show appreciation for people doing things for them but I can’t be the one to tell them or I’ll get an eye roll and lose it. I’m holding on by a thread as it is.

Just wait, there will be plenty more. This weekend is my bday and I’ll get to celebrate about 5 seconds of it. I’ve hated birthdays for decades and it has nothing to do with the age I turn. So yes, this is all part of my growing shitty day today. My bday was taken over 14 years ago by my oldest being born the day after (by choice, they wanted to induce ON my bday) and then now and for the next 4 years by wrestling.

Don’t get me wrong. I love it and I will love spending the day watching wrestling. I really mean that. But the lack of appreciation for what I did for the brats today is just setting me off. I know the day has to be better than I’m thinking. If not, I’ll get pictures of the carnage that ensues.

I’ve been doing great proofreading and tweaking as things go. It’s awesome to have some initial testers that will give me honest feedback.  It’s made it much easier to come up with workpages and lists for the clients to return to me.

However, my personal blogs haven’t seen the love.  The blogs that should be the easiest right? I mean this blog here has no structure at all. So why is it the 12th and I’m only getting my 3rd post up?

Over thinking!  That’s the only link that makes since. I do so much better when I just get on here and throw up.  Just puke up my thoughts randomly.  Great visual huh?

I’ve been fighting starting a new site even with my Selby Media finally getting a real launch and my coaching program launching at Internet Marketing Cleanup. Battling ideas is a constant thing. When I started online it went pretty quickly into the niche marketing craze. So I battle tossing up niche sites for a new idea when they could actually fit into and build up a current site. I mean, it’s all about SEO and I can write the posts for that.  Many times they fit in here quite well. But that’s just not how I was trained to do it, so I have to think hard and put blocks in place to make me not start new stuff like I used to.

But, that also means it keeps me away from here which isn’t helpful either. So I need to figure out the balance. I need to write up my ideas for that new site and then transfer how that will work to bring it here.  It will work easily.

Hoping to see much more of you in the next week.

One project that is a larger project is my master bath. It had/has carpet. We put a new toilet in and still haven’t finished the floor. It’s time to rip out the carpet and put tile in. Something I have no idea how to do, but honestly, I have the internet so I can learn anything right? I’m not starting with this project though cause that’s just jumping in over my head. I think I’ll start with our little laundry room that just needs paint, reorganizing and some shelving.

We’ve lived here for 13 years now which means quite a few things are in need of upgrading. We were never supposed to live here this long so there are quite a few things that were never personalized. It’s definitely time to look like we live here. We got new furniture a little over a year ago and I painted the main living area. However, I still haven’t gotten things put back on the walls and I’ve had some decor items to put up for years but I was always waiting to paint. Now I can get these things up on the wall.

When I go to the gym the show House Hunters always seems to be on. Either the US one or the International. lol  Kind of odd, but it definitely hasn’t started my little addiction. I got to the point I wasn’t listening to music anymore but had my headphones plugged into the elliptical so I could listen to the show. Hmm, so not very like me. I like my tunes when working out.

Now I know quite a few of the shows I’m watching are just crazy, but you never know where you’ll get ideas from. There are a lot of things you can pull from million dollar homes and put in your little kitchen. Then there are quite a few things I look at and think “what a waste”! Heated drawers for plates and coffee cups? Really? OIY, the thought of that electrical bill hurts my head.

My family is used to my shows taking up the entire DVR but now I have new shows in it.  Here are some of the one’s I’ve recently started recording.

House Hunters
Selling LA – I haven’t watched it yet, the commercials just looked good so we’ll see if this keeps getting recorded.
Selling Spelling Manor – Really enjoying this one. What an emotional roller coaster for Candy Spelling.
Love It or List It – This show is pretty brutal. I like watching it, but no one is very nice to each other and the husband and wife sure seem to end up fighting a lot.

So those are just some new one’s I’m recording. I know there are some others as hubby was laughing at me for going through pretty much all of Monday on the guide and hitting record.

I’m hoping that watching these shows is going to get me motivated to work on my project list.

Yeah, day late, dollar short, whutevah. I’m happy to be able to report that for the most part I actually took time off. Yes, it was only for the most part.  I just couldn’t help myself and set up a new coaching program that went live today for one of my testers and will go out in beta on January 16. If you want to be notified when the sign up starts you can check out Internet Marketing Cleanup.

So today is Monday and it’s time to start getting into the grind a little. Not fully, but I really have to ease myself back into a routine. Putting Christmas away will be high on the to do list for the day even though I really don’t like doing it. It seems like I just put everything out.

Now for resolutions. Do you make them?

I can’t remember the last time I did. Probably over 10 years ago because I always set biz goals instead of personal resolutions. However, this year I’m going to set one. I resolve to take better care of myself. No other stipulations, just to take better care of me and to put myself first. Sounds selfish doesn’t it? Believe me, it’s just the opposite.

Putting myself first will mean a lot of things. Eating a little better, working out a little bit more, drinking a little bit less, getting more massages and definitely getting together with girlfriends more.  Yep, even typing those things out it still looks selfish to many Moms I’m sure. But, a happy Mom is a happy family and I know this for fact. I’ve put myself first before and the house was all the better for it.  I was taking trips with my girlfriends and enjoying more hobbies. It’s time to get back to that.

I’m not putting any stipulations on how I have to take better care of myself. I’m just going to resolve to do something daily that’s better for me. I do think that it’s time for me to schedule one weekend away with the girls so I’ll set that as a goal.  I’m sure I can get some girls to do that. lol

This year are you setting any resolutions or goals for yourself?

Photo credit: buzzybee

It’s amazing to think that busymomma.com started in 2004 on a silly little blogger blog. I needed a place to vent and everyone was using blogger so I figured why not. A monster was born there but not perfected.

See around the net since 1999 I’ve always been busymomma. It was easy to come up with my personal blog domain name because that was always what I was signing as. lol It was and may be more my signature still, rather than my actual name. I think facebook has changed that some but my twitter account is still much larger and I’m Busy Momma Val there.

Whatever the case, Busy Momma is who I am more now than ever. I can look back and say that in 2004 I only thought I was busy. However, I was crazy busy and not enjoying it then. Now I am happily, crazy busy and loving it.

7 years? Seriously, 7 years? While I know I haven’t been fully active here in that time, it’s still 7 years. I only wish I could get the posts back that were lost in a technical issue that came up. But I’m thankful it was only a few months posts in my lesson learned about backing up.

What will the next year bring? Well truly I can’t pinpoint that. It’s the blessing and curse of this being my personal blog. I’m not working on SEO here and it’s definitely not focused. But then again, is that a focus? Possibly my unfocus is a focused effort to be something? Oh shit, someone stop my thinking.

Here’s how I wish I’d spent my blogiversary:

Sadly those jammies are buried in the wash (they are fleecy wonderfulness to this aging woman. The oldest had a wrestling tournament (she took 3rd). Hubby had to work and then son wanted to spend time with his good friend that is in town for a few days. Long story, but ugly divorce. My kids are lifelong friends with two kids and their mom was a nasty, cheating bitch. Sadly she took the kids with her to Minnesota to live with her and the now, new hubby. So much more to this story but thanks to social media my kids are still lifelong friends with them. We know immediately when they are back in town to visit & I don’t see my kids much over Christmas break because they want to be over there. It’s pretty heartwarming and we love their Dad.

Wow, that got off topic. I spent tonight watching a great chick flick because I just needed a good cry. Tis the season I guess.

Happy 7 year blogiversary to me. 2012 is going to be quite huge for Busy Momma so come along for the ride!

Instead of bitching about how busy I was today I want to post all the things I’m thankful for. I was just in such a good mood and so were people around me. Always a miracle around the holidays.

So without further adieu…

1. I’m glad my daughter still needs me to drive her around. Yes, I said it outloud for the whole world. It would be wonderful if she’d gotten her license on time and so much easier, but I don’t get much more time having her fully rely on me. So yes, I’m thankful for getting up at 5 and leaving at 5:30am to take her to morning practice.  I’m thankful I’m able to because so many can’t.
2. I’m thankful that between us and my parents we could afford to get her an incredible letterman’s jacket with no-holds-barred. It came today and even though I should have done work I ran to the town next door to pick it up and then took it to her at school. It’s just so easy to think back and how exciting it was. I knew everyone at practice would want to see it and she was dieing to show off her graphic she created for the back.
3. I’m thankful hubby got to see our son wrestle today. Even though he lost, it was an awesome fight and he almost pinned the guy. He just needs a few more finishing moves. But killer job for his 4th match ever.
4. I’m thankful for an awesome chiropractic office, Henschell Chiropractor. I’ve been going there for something around 10 years. I love everyone in the office, they are so helpful. Now that my lower back is much better we’re going to work on seeing if we can improve some of my chronic health issues. Then there is my amazing massage therapist Amanda. Even though she usually makes me cry, I’m thankful she can work magic on these horrible knots I get. If you stop in there tell them I sent you!  You can just say Val or even just my blog, they’ll know lmbo
5. I love the customer service I ran into everywhere I went. Not just great service, but happy people too. THANK YOU!
6. I’m thankful for coffee and sushi, no not together EWWW.  My fav teriyaki place just started serving sushi too. I’m in heaven.  It was amazing and they have some very different combos that I’m looking forward to trying. ALSO, they are now open on Sundays! That is typically the day I don’t want to cook at all after such a busy week of running around.
7. I’m beyond thankful for my husbands job that he loves, that gives us great insurance (pays for above chiro and massage) and pays the bills so I can be here for all my families needs.
8. I’m thankful that my sites are allowing me to keep being home and pay my bills, which leaves me open to do all of this running around as well.
9. I’m super thankful that after a long day of running around I have these fuzzy fleece jammies to melt into and a nice glass of cab from right here in Washington.

But today, I got into it with someone I regularly converse with on twitter and I never thought this would be posting from her fingers. But here is how it goes. I’m a dork and may have miss copy/pasted, but hit me up and I’ll fix it lol

Someone thinks cops are doing bad and it’s not me. Unlike most of America, I follow laws and the cops are there to protect my
husband while he responds to your emergency and my cops are always there when I call 911. WEIRD

This was first thing I read and I hear ya. I’m a liberal, but…

stef 11:32pm via TweetDeck
@busymommaval Last time I checked, this was America—with the right to peaceful protest. Pepper spray is for violence—not sitting protestors.

and then…

stef 11:35pm via TweetDeck
@busymommaval Gotcha. If anyone in our gov't listened to the people, it could go away. Cops will cause more spending due to their violence.

plus then…

stef 11:37pm via TweetDeck
@busymommaval —lawsuits aside, the amount they've spent on their "operations" (tear gas, rubber bullets, etc) & clean up from THAT. #sickly

All of these came from my post that I stand 5000% behind:

busymommaval: @stef BTW I'm Seattle liberal from birth, but occupytentcities have pissed me off wasting tax dollars cleaning up after them. MILLIONS

OK, cool I have been uninvited to the party, that’s normal. But from another liberal I am amazed. I guess I run with so many that are voting and working as AMERICANS and non-politicans that I can’t comprehend someone being all party all the time.

BTW this could totally have started it:

busymommaval 11:28pm via HootSuite
@stefsull hmm, I stick my foot in my mouth all the time, but when cops tell me I'm not following the law I listen...#totallyjustsayin

I’d like to state for the record that this is a woman I’ve had many discussions with previously, this isn’t something out of the blue. It is out of the
blue HOW ‘blue’ I’m being pushed as. Honey, I ain’t blue! lmao

After her posts I responded with:

busymommaval 11:43pm via HootSuite
@stef tru, but look at how many are unpeaceful before those get video taped. OH, NO ONE SHOWS THAT? SURPRISE! cops are not out to get em

and

busymommaval 11:44pm via HootSuite
@stef they haven't spent ANY money from their operations. THEY have been FORCED 2 spend from operations, could hire more with OT amounts

and yet again where I’m waiting a response but it was getting late by now.

busymommaval 11:47pm via HootSuite
@stef Should be protecting your neighborhood, instead R forced to attend 2 protests. I'd rather have them available to 911! #justsayin

I think you can see how I’m ticked because this is someone I’ve talked to so many times. She may be passionate all she wants, but I’m passionate about any man or woman going home from there job safely. Protesters don’t comprehend that. I guess I lost my liberal when I had to start worrying about the love of my life coming home from YOUR EMERGENCY. BITE ME

A wrestling Mom’s tale

It’s the day before Thanksgiving and all through the house,

Not a creature was pushing to be a tiny mouse.

Wrestling weigh ins causing a long food time gap,

The dilemma to enjoy dinner or just take a nap.

One child trying to gain, another working to lose,

Then me in the middle of the food dilemma blues.

I remember the reason we stopped visiting family on this day,

It’s too difficult to say no to the stuffing, taters and buffet.

A long line of wrestlers we do come from,

But they love to heckle from being under prior thumb.

To all the wrestling moms, I bid you adieu,

I’ll see you at state where you can kiss my butt too.

Yeah, I’m poetic like that. I started out all nice and ready to post this on my “mommy” blog. But then I couldn’t help myself. My personality came out so it immediately got copied to my “momma” blog. Yes, this is a Val Selby original so don’t steal it cause it’s obvious.

A zillion years ago I use to write poems all the time. My parents have a ton of them. See how stupid my brain works?

I believe I was still MIA around here during last wrestling season. This is when my daughter decided to wrestle as a sophomore and found a true sport passion. It’s incredible to watch, especially since I’m a wrestling junky to begin with. I don’t even have to know anyone on the mat and I’m yelling and screaming lol If she had to wait to find her sport, I’m so very thankful she picked one that rocks!

So you’ll be hearing more about wrestling. My son also decided to join in at the middle school this year. I’m pretty sure it was to show up his sister, but hey, competition is good. Plus, the conversations in the car after practice bring literal tears to my eyes. They try to one up each other about mat work, but they also explain and learn from each other. It’s just plain awesome.

We done did right somewhere. (sniff, sniff) Now go kill em. Oops, my redneck showed

My hubby slept horribly, therefor I slept even worse. Being a light sleeper sucks. By the time the alarm went off this morning I was pissy and cranky. Such an ugly way to wake up. But it helped that I was feeling good about getting up to make hubby a hot breakfast and his lunch before he left for work. That’s when…

…this pile of crap decided to projectile puke. I am a sympathy puker and the last thing I want to do while cooking is clean up puke. WTF universe!

Don’t let her fool you with her cuteness. She’s 11 years old and could have told me she needed to go out. She usually does. ARGHHH

So I’m cranky and the morning got off to a beautiful start. I’ve spent the day doing a lot of deep breathing so I wouldn’t take out any crankiness on someone undeserving. Sadly it seems that the oldest woke up on the same side of the bed so we were a matched pair in the car driving her down to my parents house lol

Now it’s 3:40 and somehow I’ve managed to waste the entire day! Seriously, I got up at 7, where in the world did the day go? It’s time to get ready to go to bunco and hopefully make fun of a bunch of drunks. I’m the DD since I’m on this damn strict diet and I’ve told the girls I’m driving they better get drunk and stupid so I can lmbo at them

I just had a coffee and I’ll be up late tonight because of that. I mean probably not sleep tonight because of it. I’m not supposed to have very much caffeine and this is way past my ok time. Which is cool, when I get home from girls night bunco I can finally get something accomplished.

How’s your 11-11-11? Cause mine can bite me!

These guys have so many songs hitting my playlist now. Great tunes for working out. I’m trying really hard not to just bombard videos here, but dang they are too funny not to share and they make you wanna move. This will be the last one for a few weeks I promise. I’ll go find some killer country songs to post and mix it up. lmfao