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Am i the only one that thinks older moms are just jealous?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:56:33 EST

like seriously their always bashing young moms on here and summing up a teen moms parenting on their age they say how they fill so bad for our babies..when they know that theres older moms that are doing shitty jobs too..if you ask me i think their just talking shit because their crows feet have gotten deeper and they cant play with their kids as long as they used to because theyll get a cramp! lmao haha AGE DOES NOT DETERMINE WHAT KIND OF MOTHER YOU WILL BE!

why is it when you apply for a job they want to know if you receive foodstamps?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:22:05 EST

i mean, are people receiving foodstamps more or less likely to get the job? I've just always been curious.

This has to be the coolest wedding EVER!!! Dig it, or Dump it?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:07:13 EST

Talk about a good time, I love it!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-94JhLEiN0

Do you take your child/ren to a pediatrician or a family doctor?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:22:50 EST

We prefer seeing a family doctor..not for convenience or anything, it's just a preference for Our Son.

Will you go shopping on Black Friday?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:47:22 EST

Is this the day to get the best deals?

Would you buy your son a kitchen set?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:46:29 EST

In the "raising boys" forum, this was posted...I hated for everyone to know who I was cuz I say no way are my boys having one (even if we had the space- which we don't) I don't want my sons playing with girl toys...anyone else?

In all honesty , do you secretly have a favorite child?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:14:22 EST

It seems to me that every parent has a favorite. My husband and I have both experienced this growing up, and being middle children. Now as a mother myself , I can't imagine being this way. I wonder if the favoritism develops as children get older, according to each child's behavior.

Looking for a taste of good old common sense?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:08:57 EST

here it is..now I know these have been stated here before but some good common sense is always worth repeating..

Is he the best you ever had??

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:08:37 EST

Is your boyfriend/husband the best you ever had?? or is there still that one guy that rocked your world better??? Just for fun!

what is a good stress relief?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:10:41 EST

i am in a trying time in my life and i can feel the stress piling up. i feel alot of agression. i need to find an outlet. what do you ladies to to de stress?

What age would you let your child shower by itself?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 23:05:02 EST

A child almost drowned today in Tulsa, Oklahoma because the mother was in the kitchen doing dishes while the child was showering. Let me just add that the child was 19 months old. Am I crazy or is that just way to young????

my 1 year old has a fever of 102. should i go to the er?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:59:03 EST

i just gave him some motrin and im wondering when i should take him to the er. i was going to wait at least an hour to let the medicine work but if it hasnt gone down should i take him?

Did your DH help pick out your wedding dress?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 21:20:40 EST

I was just watching Say Yes to the Dress and I am amazed, especially at one bride, who fell in love with a dress but her fiancee didn't like something about it so she didn't get it. She called him to come to the store to look at it to get his approval. She said she couldn't decide without him. This I think is a little more than just helping but I was wondering how many brides had their DH involved in the dress picking.
My DH had no clue what my dressed looked like until I walked down the aisle. I did ask his opinion on the bridesmaid dresses though.

If ya had to stand on a street holding a sign what would it say?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:05:34 EST

Mind would say i need a vacation donations make me happy! lol

In need a baby girl names. Any suggestions?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 18:34:00 EST

ok we thought it was a boy turns out baby is a girl.. thanks to a wonderful ultra sound. She wasnt shy at all. we had abigale picked out. now i dont like it at all after seeing her on the ultra sound screen. lol
So i can think of any names i like.. Here are some i know arent gonna work.
My dd is Emily Jo so those are both out.
Also the names Anna, Cindy, Amber, Michelle, and Kaitlyn are all out.. those are the girls in our family (neices)

so please give me some suggestions on what to name this kid. i have looked online and cant find anything i like.. so maybe if ya'll through some names at me i will find one i love..

For those working mommies--do you like working, or do you wish you could stay home?? What is your greatest challenge/benefit from working?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:08:06 EST

I just started working as a cashier last week after staying home since my son was born 10 months ago. It is challenging in that I am very tired all the time, I have to pay through the nose for daycare cuz I don't qualify for state assistance, and I miss my baby. Also the house is always a mess and I have a mound of laundry to do on my day off. I wish I could stay home but even with me working we are struggling to pay the bills. On the plus side though, I get some adult conversation, I get some quiet time away from the baby to make me miss him more, and I get a paycheck. How old are your children? How long have you been working? What is your greatest challenge? Would you stay home if you could??

Does your husband do this?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:56:03 EST

I went to get a little Christmas shopping done today and barely put a dent in it, but it's a start anyway. Well, I just bought some generic man gifts and woman gifts for some the people we have to buy for. I come home and my husband decides he wants some of gifts for himself and opens one of the boxes up. He gave me some cash out of his spending money for it, but I'm just like geesh How much more of this do I get to look foward to? LoL. Does youre husband do that?

Treatment resistant depression and being a mom?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 17:25:24 EST

I have had issues with depression since I was 14. I've been on pretty much every medication that exists, seen 9 different psychiatrists, and in therapy and none of it ever helped me. All that has ever helped me was time. Now I am 8 months out and I see no end in sight to the depression that has been worsened by motherhood. I can't be a depressed mom like this: It is like I tell myself to just do one more day, give one more smile, and you'll feel better tomorrow, but that never happens. I need to go the natural route or get ECT, so far I've been feeling a little better with adequate rest, nutrition, exercise, and try to get enough sunlight.. but I'm still in a pretty deep hole. There are no naturopaths near me. Does anyone on here have any experience with natural herbs or supplements that they can recommend to me? Or information for me? I am still breastfeeding, by the way. I'd just get ECT but my doc is not board yet..

How can I rekindle my sexual attraction to my man?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:57:38 EST

I have been in a relationship for three years now. Things are generally fine but our sex life is no fun. Between his inability to make me climax and his lack of endurance during the act sex totally sucks. I am finally getting over my hangups and trying to teach him how to get me off and he is learning. The problem is I don't have one iota of sexual attraction left for him. I also have little respect for him as a man. He is very feminine and has none of the more manly traits that light my fire. It's like it doesn't matter how good he gets in bed, it isn't going to matter unless I am attracted to him. I have to pretend it is someone else to get aroused and then as soon as I open my eyes or he talks it is gone. Even worse seeing him has the opposite effect. How do I make myself be attracted to him again?

Do you get your pets something for Christmas?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:13:09 EST

We put up our Christmas tree last night.. (Yes yes, I know! It's early) and our two small dogs both have stockings. Well of course there is nothing in them, but they hang with my husband and I and our sons stocking. Well my MIL came over and freaked out because they are just "dogs" .. I explained that they have been with us for years and we love them and she just left all pissy! Haha. But our dogs have a stocking that we put treats in, and the night before Christmas, we wrap up a toy or a sweather and always put a little treat in it or some rolled up ham so that they smell it and basically open their own present! It's the cutest thing!

Is cat food bad for dogs?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 16:18:38 EST

Just wondering if anyone knows if cat food is bad for dogs. Anything make a difference if it is wet?

Getting pregnant after depo provera??

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:33:16 EST

I have had 7 children. I ALWAYS suffer from HG. I recently stopped getting the depo injections. I have never had problems conceiving, i am now worried after reading all these horror stories about it taking women up to 6 years to have another child. Id like to know if any of you got pregnant soon after depo.
Thanks

~Amber~

Has your child broken a bone? Which one? How did they break it?

Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:33:07 EST

The question about scrapes and bruises made me curious about broken bones. So has your child broken a bone? Which bone was broken? What were they doing to break it?