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What will you be buying (if anything) on black friday?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 03:02:36 EST

I'm going out shopping and buying almost all of our Christmas gifts that day, I'm so excited!

Can i do this while breastfeeding?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:19:19 EST

I have a question...I HATE the dentist with a passion but my wisdom teeth are killing me to the point where i can barely sleep at night. And i was wondering, can I get knocked out while Im breastfeeding or will that effect my milk? I really i hope i can cause I cant take much more, i kno i gave birth and i dealt with that but this is killing me!! ha!

How much is the best interval betwin first and second child?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:21:03 EST

I am 37 and I have a 6 years old son. I'm worried about second child . I dont know if it is better to have two child or not.

Can I make a pumpkin pie with a graham cracker crust?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 23:13:20 EST

I dont like regular crust much and if so how? Can a graham cracker crus be baked?

What would you consider the ideal staff room?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 08:39:52 EST

So, this was promted by a ? What is in your staff room?
My idea staff room would be a room with a sink, refrigerator, individual cup coffee/tea/hot cocoa maker, table and chairs, sofas, reading and eating lighting in a matching decor and psychologically pleasing color. I think every worker could benefit from a neck and shoulder massage and a catnap. So, private room for a catnap and a standy masseuse. 45 mintue lunch break and a fifteen minute break in the afternoon or morning, whichever is longest. Health snacks to boost energy and stave off hunger. The perfect staff room. The better the employees are cared for, the better they can care about their customers and their work!

Do you faithfully wear nailpolish?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 07:14:52 EST

On my fingers, no. I would love to but it never seems to last longer than a day. I work with my hands and it always starts to chip off within hours. On my toes, yes. Every week or so I put on a new color. Been doing it for 20 years.

Do Libertarians tend to be conservative or liberal?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 20:49:32 EST

It seems that the majority of the conservative ladies here are Libertarian. Is it possible to be Libertarian and liberal?

Will my breast get smaller if i lose weight?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:06:08 EST

Im 5'3 and weight 200 pounds, 25 yrs of age, yes i know im overweight, but ive recently decided to take charge and lose my weight. before i had my son i was 134 pounds and used a 36C bra size now 3 yrs later i use a 40DDD..Im determined to lose this weight and get back down to a good healthy weight but, im really scared that my breast wont go back to a 36C or even a single D...i also use an IUD called MIRENA and sometimes i feel as if that made me gain weight too..but my OBGYN swears that it has absolutly nothing to do with my weight gain....
So if anybody has gone through this please, please give me feedback
Thank you!

Can a single mother raise a little boy succesfully?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:30:45 EST

I have a 3 yr old wonderful little boy, but ive recently decided to leave his father and boyfriend of 6 yrs ...Im 25 and ive had enough of this relationship..he is a great father but not a good boyfriend...never has been, hes cheated and just an endless list of bad stuff..i know this went on for too long but i was stupid and sadly my life revolved around his, i lost myself...well not anymore im moving out next week and i find myself scared that this will affect my son..i know everybody tells me it wont affect my son..but i feel as it will..hes very close to him...calls out for him every morning, wants to play cars with him, wants to have dinner next to him, wants to sleep next to him...so im worried of how this will affect him...were ending in good terms so he will see him still but i feel it will have a long term effect..like now then when hes like 10 and when hes 17...i feel like a bad mother....any feedback!
Thanks!

Can you tell me how you would handle this Thanksgiving?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 08:10:15 EST

We are going to my mil's for dinner. My bil and sil and their families will be there. It's always tense because the bil has very little to do with his family to the point that we do not know their children well and visa versa. The youngest don't even know who we are. His wife is friendly when others are aroung but does not talk to me otherwise. For get togethers she traditionally sits somewhere and doesn't move, or get up to say hi. It's nine years of this and the last event, I decided to just have a nice time, not worry about where or what she was doing. Now, my bil doesn't say hello either. One of these siblings is always in the dog house and my MIL is the culprit IMO. She has a divide and conquer like behavior. I can't fix it or change it...I've tried. What do you recommend? I want to be comfortable in my own skin.

Anyone else having a freshly slaughtered turkey/doing it yourself?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 07:07:57 EST

Our hosts are doing it~ I've never had it so fresh!

Are there some other families that like to "do their own," too?

Would you take this as rude??

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 02:20:14 EST

I feel kinda bad for thinking about throwing something at an old lady, but...I was at Wally World earlier in the makeup/skin care aisle. This nice looking older lady was in a motorized cart, and a lady was with her. They were discussing whether or not Equate was good or not. I said, "yeah, some stuff is just the same," cuz I use some Equate brand skin care. She said, "Oh, I'll trust you, cuz you have such a pretty complexion." I have gotten that compliment before. I'm 29 and I take care of my skin. Always have. I use sunscreen, and I stay out of the sun. No tanning beds, anything like that. I said thank you then she said, "I guess you've been too scared to get those moles removed, though." I just said yeah and hurried away. I am very self conscious about moles on my face. I have "beauty marks" by my mouth that don't bother me, but I have a big mole by my hair line that I hate. WTF lady...make me feel like sh*t.

do you know where ?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 23:36:31 EST

do you know where I may find the book:Mary Boleyn:The True Story of HenryVIII's Mistress cheap?

What can I make with this?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:20:39 EST

Okay I KNOW there has to be some kind of recipe that I can do with these ingredients anyone have any ideas?
1 jar peanut butter
1 bag jet puffed marshmellows
3 pack of king size hershey bars

what to pack in my hospital bag?????

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:52:25 EST

well its about that time :)... but im not sure of what all i need to pack for myself and the baby....it happened so fast with my first i dont really remember if i even packed a bag for me... please and ideas!!!

What are you making for Thanksgiving?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:27:29 EST

We are having a late dinner, lots of family have to work. We won't be needing the usual grazing trays and snacks so we are doing just the dinner.

Turkey
Gravy
Stuffing
Mashed Potatoes
Green Beans(not casserole)
Asparegus
Sweet Potatoes
Cranberry Sauce
Black Olives
Deviled Eggs
Watergate Salad
Other Desserts?

What is everyone else making? What is a 'must have' or it just wouldn't be Thanksgiving?

What baby naming trend to you hate the most?

Fri, 20 Nov 2009 17:32:34 EST

I'm SOOOOOOOO sick of all the names ending in -aidan, -ayden, -aiden, -aidyn (of any other spelling with the same pronunciation!) Aidan, Jayden, Hayden, Zaiden, Caiden, Brayden, etc.

I also hate double and triple middle names, unless they are two family names that you REALLY want to use, but there is still NO excuse for triple middle names! You kid doesn't need 5 names!

The last thing that annoys me is "unique" spellings for boring common names. I think the only way you could make the name Jennifer worse is to spell it Ginaphyr or something ridiculous like that. You've already cursed you kid with a boring popular name now you're going to make them have to spell it all the time? Sorry but it doesn't make it more unique, when you call little Emma or Aidan at the play ground 5 kids will still come running!

Are you b*tchy when its your time of the month?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 01:26:26 EST

Do things easily aggrivate you when its your time of the month? Do you find yourself being b*tchy? Do you argue with your s/o or hubby and know its your fault, you just don't admit it?

Where are your favorite places to shop online?

Sun, 22 Nov 2009 05:47:31 EST

Mine are: Barnes and Noble, Sportsmans Guide, Overstock.com, American Eagle, Harry and David's

Interested to see what other sites people like and always looking for new ones.

Weird question of the day! How do you teach a kid to use scissors??

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 23:33:07 EST

My son scares me to death every time I try to teach him how to use scissors. I guess I just don't know how to explain it to him! He starts kindergarden next fall and they said he has to know how by then so I need pointers! Where can you buy those scissors that have no blade that are just plastic only? I have looked everywhere and can't find any. Did they stop making them or something? All I kind find is what they call safety scissors but that just means it is a curved instead of pointy tip which can still cut off fingers! Eeek help!

Does anyone cosleep without one of those box things?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 17:44:44 EST

My ds has been sleeping in my bed for part of the night because I fall asleep after nursing him and just leave him there. He sleeps better that way too, but if I was to get one of those boxes to make it "safe" he wouldn't sleep as well since he wouldn't be up against me.

So if you cosleep without one of those what precautions do you take to keep them safe? I don't roll in my sleep, but I'm worried about the pillows and blankets, which I obviously need to sleep with.

Why the big debate about adding to the defcit?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 18:02:05 EST

Incoming White House communications director Dan Pfeiffer just posted a blog item comparing health reform legislation to the Medicare prescription drug benefit passed under Republicans. For instance, he writes, the drug benefit increased the deficit by $395 billion while the reform cuts the deficit by $130 billion:

“Opponents of health insurance reform have spent hours on the Senate floor today attacking the Senate's efforts to provide stability and security for those with insurance, affordable coverage for those without, and lower costs for families, small businesses and the government. To provide a little perspective on these attacks, let’s compare today's legislation with the 2003 Medicare Part D effort, which many of these same critics supported.” –Chris Frates

recently called nurse cuz my son is coughing, shortness of breath and he threw up but has no fever. she suggested i go to walk in however it closes soon and i live far. should i go anyway?

Sat, 21 Nov 2009 23:13:50 EST

my 9 year old has been complaining of chest pain, shortness of breath all day. he has a persistant cough also. but i didn't panic until i saw that he had threw up on tha floor in his room. so i called tha emergency after hours nurse and after answering a few questions she recommended that i take him in to the Panorama City Kaiser, emergency walk in. which is far from where i live. and even now as i ask this question tha chances of it being open when i get there are slim. however should i be concerned about it being swine flu even if his color is normal and he doesn't have a fever?