ChicagoEFT https://chicagoeft.com/ Emotionally Focused Therapy Thu, 04 Jun 2026 10:24:05 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://chicagoeft.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/11/cropped-CCEFT-logo-RGB-01_512x512-32x32.jpg ChicagoEFT https://chicagoeft.com/ 32 32 “Intensives & Emotionally Focused Therapy” with guest Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen and host Shane Birkel on The Couples Therapist Couch podcast https://chicagoeft.com/intensives-emotionally-focused-therapy-with-guest-dr-rebecca-jorgensen-and-host-shane-birkel-on-the-couples-therapist-couch-podcast/ Thu, 04 Jun 2026 10:24:05 +0000 https://chicagoeft.com/?p=100004208 Podcast episode with EFT therapist Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen and host Shane Birkel. Rebecca describes why couple therapy intensives are helpful and gives tips on how couple therapists can structure their intensives and support each partner throughout the process. https://podcasts.apple.com/dm/podcast/285-intensives-emotionally-focused-therapy-eft-with-dr/id1281853816?i=1000758329351

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]]> Podcast episode with EFT therapist Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen and host Shane Birkel. Rebecca describes why couple therapy intensives are helpful and gives tips on how couple therapists can structure their intensives and support each partner throughout the process.

https://podcasts.apple.com/dm/podcast/285-intensives-emotionally-focused-therapy-eft-with-dr/id1281853816?i=1000758329351

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]]> “The Proper Sorry” with George Faller https://chicagoeft.com/the-proper-sorry-with-george-faller/ Wed, 27 May 2026 23:08:33 +0000 https://chicagoeft.com/?p=100004198 Short one-minute video clip with George Faller giving some helpful language and guidance about how to apologize after you’ve hurt someone. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DXc9ML2DJCz/  

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]]> Short one-minute video clip with George Faller giving some helpful language and guidance about how to apologize after you’ve hurt someone.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DXc9ML2DJCz/

 

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]]> “Love, Attachment, and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), with Dr. Cindy Goodness Zane” (Episode 8 of Mind Tricks Radio) https://chicagoeft.com/love-attachment-and-emotionally-focused-therapy-eft-with-dr-cindy-goodness-zane-episode-8-of-mind-tricks-radio/ Thu, 21 May 2026 22:09:33 +0000 https://chicagoeft.com/?p=100004184 EFT trainer Dr. Cindy Goodness Zane, who will be facilitating at Chicago EFT’s upcoming Externship in June 2026, is interviewed about EFT with individuals, couples, and families. She explains the underpinnings of attachment theory and how therapists work with emotion and attachment.

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]]> EFT trainer Dr. Cindy Goodness Zane, who will be facilitating at Chicago EFT’s upcoming Externship in June 2026, is interviewed about EFT with individuals, couples, and families. She explains the underpinnings of attachment theory and how therapists work with emotion and attachment.

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]]> “When Guilt and Shame are Good Signs in EFT Therapy” (EFT Cafe with Kathryn Rheem and Jennifer Olden) https://chicagoeft.com/when-guilt-and-shame-are-good-signs-in-eft-therapy-eft-cafe-with-kathryn-rheem-and-jennifer-olden/ Thu, 14 May 2026 17:13:43 +0000 https://chicagoeft.com/?p=100004165 Kathryn and Jennifer discuss how to work with couples’ intense guilt and shame, particularly in affair/betrayal recovery work, in this short clip. These feelings are very often triggered when there’s been a betrayal or attachment injury in a relationship, and Kathryn and Jennifer give guidance on how therapists can talk about guilt and shame from […]

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]]> Kathryn and Jennifer discuss how to work with couples’ intense guilt and shame, particularly in affair/betrayal recovery work, in this short clip. These feelings are very often triggered when there’s been a betrayal or attachment injury in a relationship, and Kathryn and Jennifer give guidance on how therapists can talk about guilt and shame from an attachment perspective as they arise in session and validate the good and important places they come from within each partner.

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]]> Mapping the Positive Cycle in EFT with Dr. Sandra Taylor (We Heart Therapy podcast) https://chicagoeft.com/mapping-the-positive-cycle-in-eft-with-dr-sandra-taylor-we-heart-therapy-podcast/ Wed, 06 May 2026 20:42:42 +0000 https://chicagoeft.com/?p=100004151 We Heart Therapy podcast guest Dr. Sandra Taylor and host Dr. Anabelle Bugatti give clinicians guidance on how to map out clients’ positive cycle. So often in EFT, we talk about couples’ negative cycles, but Sandra and Anabelle explore how we can also track a couple’s positive cycle as they progress, create safety and connection, […]

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]]> We Heart Therapy podcast guest Dr. Sandra Taylor and host Dr. Anabelle Bugatti give clinicians guidance on how to map out clients’ positive cycle. So often in EFT, we talk about couples’ negative cycles, but Sandra and Anabelle explore how we can also track a couple’s positive cycle as they progress, create safety and connection, and deepen their emotional sharing together.

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]]> The Sacred Mess of Becoming: Finding Beauty in Impermanence with Brandon Liu, LMFT on Deconstructing Therapy podcast https://chicagoeft.com/the-sacred-mess-of-becoming-finding-beauty-in-impermanence-with-brandon-liu-lmft-on-deconstructing-therapy-podcast/ Thu, 30 Apr 2026 21:44:58 +0000 https://chicagoeft.com/?p=100004135 ChicagoEFT’s own Brandon Liu, LMFT is interviewed by Deconstructing Therapy podcast host Alefyah Taqui. How exciting to hear from one of our community members! Brandon and Alefyah share a rich conversation about how to bring our own humanity and authenticity into our work, and explore how cultural backgrounds and experiences shape the way we express […]

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]]> ChicagoEFT’s own Brandon Liu, LMFT is interviewed by Deconstructing Therapy podcast host Alefyah Taqui. How exciting to hear from one of our community members! Brandon and Alefyah share a rich conversation about how to bring our own humanity and authenticity into our work, and explore how cultural backgrounds and experiences shape the way we express and share vulnerability. They talk about the magic and beauty of setting aside our need as therapist to be a perfect “expert,” and how we can embrace the unknown and hold close to us the bittersweet impermanence of life (“Mono no Aware” in Japanese philosophy).

https://www.deconstructingtherapy.com/podcast-episodes/episode/4ec778de/s2e6-the-sacred-mess-of-becoming-finding-beauty-in-impermanence-with-brandon-liu-lmft

 

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]]> Being Present Can Be Hard: Attention Regulation and its Impact on Relationships https://chicagoeft.com/being-present-can-be-hard-attention-regulation-and-its-impact-on-relationships/ Thu, 23 Apr 2026 02:33:42 +0000 https://chicagoeft.com/?p=100004117 This blog post by Kerrin Van Der Kruk, EFT therapist, addresses how attention and the lack thereof can impact relationships from an attachment perspective. She highlights in particular how ADHD-impacted couples are effected by partners’ experiences of hyper- and hypo-arousal, and how couples can work through attentional ruptures together. Being Present Can Be Hard: Attention […]

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]]> This blog post by Kerrin Van Der Kruk, EFT therapist, addresses how attention and the lack thereof can impact relationships from an attachment perspective. She highlights in particular how ADHD-impacted couples are effected by partners’ experiences of hyper- and hypo-arousal, and how couples can work through attentional ruptures together.

Being Present Can Be Hard: Attention Regulation and its Impact on Relationships

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]]> Deconstructing Therapy podcast Season 2 Episode 5: “Safety Is Not a Feeling: Power, Privilege, and Listening Deeply” with guest Jay M. Seiff-Haron, PsyD https://chicagoeft.com/deconstructing-therapy-podcast-season-2-episode-5-safety-is-not-a-feeling-power-privilege-and-listening-deeply-with-guest-jay-m-seiff-haron-psyd/ Fri, 17 Apr 2026 02:03:51 +0000 https://chicagoeft.com/?p=100004105 In this Deconstructing Therapy podcast episode, podcast host Alefyah Taqui has an honest conversation with EFT therapist Jay Seiff-Haron, PsyD, about letting our clients challenge our worldview, especially when it comes to power, privilege, and safety. Jay and Alefyah define safety as a reality shaped by external experiences such as history, power structures, material realities, […]

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]]> In this Deconstructing Therapy podcast episode, podcast host Alefyah Taqui has an honest conversation with EFT therapist Jay Seiff-Haron, PsyD, about letting our clients challenge our worldview, especially when it comes to power, privilege, and safety. Jay and Alefyah define safety as a reality shaped by external experiences such as history, power structures, material realities, real threats to safety, politics, laws, and violence rather than an internal feeling (as Western individualistic therapy sometimes defines it). They also explore the danger of dismissing clients’ real danger and experiences of marginalization and oppression by labeling it as anxiety, distortion, resistance or unfounded perception.

https://www.deconstructingtherapy.com/podcast-episodes/episode/4ea8b628/s2e5-safety-is-not-a-feeling-power-privilege-and-listening-deeply-with-jay-m-seiff-haron-psy

 

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]]> What are attachment wounds and how do they heal? https://chicagoeft.com/what-are-attachment-wounds-and-how-do-they-heal/ Wed, 08 Apr 2026 23:13:48 +0000 https://chicagoeft.com/?p=100004087 Psychoeducational Instagram post by Julie Menanno (@thesecurerelationship) defining attachment wounds and how couples work through them. This could be a helpful resource to share with clients who are dealing with an attachment wound and would like simplified information about what they are, and how couples successfully heal from them. https://www.instagram.com/p/DVHlbOrgDZr/?igsh=d2w2bjVydTdpZjMw  

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]]> Psychoeducational Instagram post by Julie Menanno (@thesecurerelationship) defining attachment wounds and how couples work through them. This could be a helpful resource to share with clients who are dealing with an attachment wound and would like simplified information about what they are, and how couples successfully heal from them.

https://www.instagram.com/p/DVHlbOrgDZr/?igsh=d2w2bjVydTdpZjMw

 

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]]> Understanding Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Strategies – Melissa Divaris Thompson (Instagram handle @embracingjoypsychotherapy) https://chicagoeft.com/understanding-anxious-and-avoidant-attachment-strategies-melissa-divaris-thompson-instagram-handle-embracingjoypsychotherapy/ Wed, 01 Apr 2026 03:20:30 +0000 https://chicagoeft.com/?p=100004067 Check out these two videos by Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT, who speaks from the point of view of people who tend to use anxious and avoidant attachment strategies. In the video linked below, Melissa articulates the attachment dilemma of anxious pursuing partners, highlighting some of their action tendencies and the “why” underneath them. This could […]

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]]> Check out these two videos by Melissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT, who speaks from the point of view of people who tend to use anxious and avoidant attachment strategies.

In the video linked below, Melissa articulates the attachment dilemma of anxious pursuing partners, highlighting some of their action tendencies and the “why” underneath them. This could be a helpful video to share with clients who would like to understand their/their partner’s pursuit in their cycle.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSOF3k0jNzS/?igsh=cnR6eDhxeTBsbWJp

In the next video (linked below), Melissa articulates the attachment dilemma of an avoidant partner, highlighting some of the origins of their avoidant tendencies, how their attachment strategy shows up in the negative cycle with their partner, and how they can stay connected with their partner when they’re wanting to move away. Similar to her post about anxious partners, this post could be a helpful one to share with clients wanting to understand their/their partner’s avoidant attachment strategies.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DSf8ggSAR9l/?igsh=aXhoNTRkM2M2d3l2

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