Celoteh - Sachdar

Kita Bahagia Karena Berguna

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 14:05:00 +0000

Satu hal yang menarik dalam hidup ini adalah, bahwa hidup tak pernah membuat kita kandas. Jika hidup memberi kita kesulitan, hidup juga memberi kita kemampuan untuk mengatasinya. Kemampuan kita berbeda-beda, tergantung bagaimana kita termotivasi untuk menggunakannya. Seseorang yang mempunyai kondisi fisik yang tidak sehat misalnya, tetap bisa menjalani kehidupan yang berguna dan bahagia

Kadang, kita mungkin takut, penyakit akan melumpuhkan kita, membuat kita tak berdaya. Ternyata kita bisa membuat rasa takut ini menjadi tidak beralasan. Contohnya seperti yang menimpa seorang petani miskin dari Wisconsin, Milo C. jones. Ketika kondisi fisknya sangat sehat, ia bekerja sangat keras, tapi keluarganya tetap saja miskin. Sampai akhirnya ia jatuh sakit, hampir seluruh badannya lumpuh. Lalu terpaksa berada di tempat tidur sepanjang waktu. Keluarganya berpikir, semangatnya pasti akan runtuh dan hidupnya tidak bahagia karena menjadi orang cacat yang tak berdaya.

Yang terjadi justru sebaliknya. Tiba-tiba saja Jones merasa tubuhnya memang lumpuh, tapi pikirannya masih baik. Jika dia tidak bisa menggunakan tubuhnya, dia bisa menggunakan pikirannya untuk berpikir dan berencana. Saat itu juga dia memutuskan akan menggunakan pikirannya. Kendati lumpuh, dia ingin hidupnya berguna untuk keluarganya. Ia bukan hanya tak ingin menjadi beban bagi keluarganya, tapi malah ingin menghidupi keluarganya. Dia memutuskan tak akan membiarkan masalah kecacatan ini menghentikan langkahnya.

Jones lalu mulai menyusun rencana dan sesudah itu memanggil seluruh keluarganya. ”saya tak bisa lagi bekerja dengan tangan” katanya,”karena itu, saya memutuskan untuk bekerja dengan pikiran. Kalian semua bisa, jika mau, menjadi tangan, kaki dan tubuh saya. Tanam setiap are dari ladang kita dengan jagung itu. Potong babi itu ketika masih muda dan olah jadi sosis. Lalu kemas dan jual dengan diberi merek. Kita akan menjualnya diseluruh toko retail di seluruh negara. Dan jualan kita akan laku keras.”

Ternyata dagangannya memang laku keras. Moli C. Jones justru menjadi milyuner di saat fisiknya masih lumpuh. Kelumpuhan ini tidak membuatnya putus asa atau merana, tapi justru membuat dia optimistik, penuh harapan dan bahagia. Dia bahagia karena dia berguna.

Kita beruntung karena tidak semua hidup harus menghadapi kesulitan yang begitu besar. Tapi setiap orang punya masalah. Dan setiap orang bereaksi dengan cara yang berbeda. Kita bisa memilih dan menentukan reaksi kita. Kita bisa memotivasi diri kita sendiri. Sumber motivasi itu bisa macam-macam. Apakah kisah sukses yang sekarang kita baca, atau slogan dari orang-orang besar, atau yang sejenisnya.

Apapun yang bisa dipahami dan diyakini, akan bisa diraih

Jika seseorang itu benar, maka dunianya akan benar. Jika kita tidak bahagia dengan dunia kita dan ingin mengubahnya, tempat pertama yang harus mulai kita ubah adalah diri kita sendiri. Jika kita benar, maka dunia kita akan benar.

We're Happy As Useful

One of the interesting things in this life is, that life never make us aground. If life gives us difficulties, life also gives us the ability to cope. Our ability to vary, depending on how we are motivated to use it. Someone who has a physical condition that is not healthy for example, can still live a useful and happy

Sometimes, we may fear, the disease will paralyze us, making us helpless. It turned out that we can make this fear unfounded. Examples like that happened to a poor farmer from Wisconsin, Milo C. jones. When fisknya very healthy condition, he worked very hard, but the family remained poor. Until finally he fell ill, almost all of his body paralyzed. Then forced to be in bed all the time. Her family thought, his spirits would have collapsed and his life was not happy because the people with disabilities are helpless.

Exactly the opposite. Suddenly, Jones felt his body was paralyzed, but his mind was still good. If he can not use his body, he can use his mind to think and plan. At that time he also decided to use his mind. Although paralyzed, he wanted his life useful to his family. He not only did not want to be a burden to his family, but instead wants to support his family. He decided not to let this disability issue stopped.

Jones then began to make plans and then call the whole family. "I could no longer work with his hands" he said, "because that, I decided to work with the mind. You all can, if desired, into the hands, feet and my body. Are planted each of our fields with corn. Cut the pork was when I was young, and if so sausage. Then packing and selling a given brand. We will sell it at retail stores throughout the country. And we will conduct sales hard. "

Apparently it sells merchandise. Moli C. Jones became millionaires in the physical is still paralyzed. This paralysis is not him to despair or misery, but instead makes him optimistic, hopeful and happy. She was happy because he was useful.

We are lucky because not all have to face the difficulties of life so much. But every person has a problem. And each person reacts differently. We can pick and choose our reactions. We can motivate ourselves. Source of motivation could be all kinds. Does the current success stories we read, or slogan of great men, or the like.

Anything that can be understood and believed, would be achieved

If a person is true, then the world will be right. If we are not happy with our world and want to change it, the first place we must start to change is ourselves. If we are correct, then our world will be right.

Memahami/Mengendalikan Ego & Menghargai Perbedaan

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 15:53:00 +0000

Seperti gurat-gurat sidik jari yang berbeda satu sama lain, demikian juga halnya dengan sifat-sifat, sikap dasar, karakter, bakat dan potensi yang ada pada setiap orang. Sikap dasar, karakter dan pola pikir yang menjadi acuan utama dalam bertindak (yang disebut Mind-set) ini memberi kita semacam perintah-perintah di luar kesadaran: “Beginilah semestinya kita bertindak!”.

Tanpa sadar, seringkali kita melihat dengan kaca mata negatif perbedaan di antara kita dengan orang lain lalu kita bergumam di dalam hati: “Kok dia begitu? Mestinya begini dong!”. Dengan kaca mata negatif juga ego kita jadi terpancing ketika kita melihat kelebihan pada diri orang lain. Bagian Kanak-kanak pada diri kita merengek meminta dukungan dan pembenaran terhadap anggapan baku kita: “Punyaku lebih baik, aku lebih hebat dari dia”.

Begitulah “pikiran monyet” atau ego, tanpa kita sadari telah bersikap gelisah serta bertindak salah tingkah, dalam upaya melindungi harga diri sebagai “sosok pribadi yang bermartabat”. Dan tanpa sadar kita terobsesi mengubah orang lain, agar mereka punya cara pandang yang sama dengan kita.

Sekarang kita bisa melihat bahwa sejauh ini kita telah dicemari oleh “jiwa yang tidak sehat” atau ego yang tak terkendali karena tidak pernah diperiksa. Sekarang kita bisa melihat bahwa selama ini kita telah diganduli oleh “pikiran monyet” yang selalu meminta perhatian dan menuntut pembenaran.

Bila kita bisa melihatnya dengan jelas, tentu kita bisa memisahkannya dari diri kita. Dengan memandang dari jarak tertentu serta mengamati perbedaan antara diri kita yang sesungguhnya dengan “pikiran monyet’ yang selama ini kita gendong, sekarang kita bisa mempunyai kesadaran baru bahwa mulai sekarang kita bisa menjadi insan yang berbeda, yang tidak lagi terbelenggu oleh ego.

Kita tidak harus menghancurkan ego kita sendiri karena ia memang menjadi bagian yang tak terpisahkan dari diri kita. Kalau ia kita hancurkan maka kitapun akan ikut hancur bersamanya, melalui rasa bersalah dan rasa benci kepada diri kita sendiri. Yang perlu kita lakukan adalah berupaya menyadarinya serta menjinakkannya agar ia tidak lagi menjadi “monyet yang liar”. Kita dapat mengubahnya menjadi monyet yang baik dan jinak, sekaligus menjadi sahabat baik kita. Kepada monyet sahabat baik ini, kita bisa melakukan dialog dengan teknik suspending assumption, yang artinya “pikiran monyet” kita pisahkan, biarkan ia tergantung bebas di hadapan kita, lalu periksa dan amati secara berulang-ulang, mengapa ia seperti itu? Mungkin kita sampai pada kesimpulan bahwa ego tersebut tidak pernah atau tidak cukup mendapat nutrisi. Mungkin kita dibesarkan dalam suasana yang kering akan pengakuan, penerimaan atau pujian. Berbagai prestasi telah kita raih, berbagai potensi telah kita kembangkan namun semua kejadian itu seolah-olah menjadi sesuatu yang sudah seharusnya terjadi, tanpa pengakuan atau pengukuhan. Maka jadilah monyet-monyet kita sebagai mahluk yang selalu lapar dan haus karena sesungguhnya iapun berhak mendapat pengakuan dan pengukuhan terhadap apa yang sudah ia hasilkan.

Apakah kita akan menunggu orang-orang di sekeliling kita memberi nutrisi kepada monyet sahabat kita? Mengapa kita harus menunggu? Mengapa tidak bertindak secara pro-aktif bahwa kita sendirilah yang harus memberi nutrisi kepada mereka? Sekaranglah waktunya untuk bertindak, tanpa harus menunggu orang lain. Mari kita cari berbagai potensi yang kita miliki. Mari kita cari berbagai kelebihan yang kita miliki sebagai pribadi yang memang unik dan berbeda. Mari kita jinakkan monyet yang gelisah: “Sini nyet, duduk manislah di dekatku. Mari kita periksa, apa saja potensi yang kita miliki. Mari kita periksa berbagai prestasi yang telah kita raih. Ya ampun, alangkah banyaknya hal-hal yang harus kita syukuri. Iya nggak nyet? Nah mari kita bersulang untuk semua itu, untuk kesejahteraan batin kita!”

Kalau Tuhan saja telah menciptakan hal-hal yang berbeda sebagai polaritas yang selalu hadir dalam alam dan kehidupan seperti laki-laki dan perempuan, siang dan malam, gunung dan lembah, dan lain sebagainya, mengapa pula kita berpretensi untuk memaksa sesuatu agar semuanya seragam atau tidak berbeda? Termasuk memaksakan kehendak agar orang-orang di sekeling kita punya pola pikir yang sama dengan kita. Dapatkah kita berpikir bahwa sebuah orkestra hanya terdiri dari biola saja, tanpa alat instrumen yang lain? Bukankah keindahan sebuah simfoni orkestra disebabkan oleh keberagaman instrumen yang digunakan, dalam harmoni kapan jenis instrumen tertentu harus bertindak semetara yang lain diam menunggu? Sebagai mahluk sosial kita tidak mungkin hidup tanpa menjadi pemain salah satu instrumen dalam orkestra kehidupan, baik dalam kehidupan professional, kehidupan keluarga maupun kehidupan bermasyarakat. Pertanyaan kita sekarang adalah, simfoni macam mana yang ingin kita mainkan?

Perawan Senja

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 04:45:00 +0000

When nature welcoming dusk, seen an air of being lifted her face, meaning that in implicit once when she means the sky charm. Bless her admiration culminated lines of life, the moment her thoughts Interpreted how small she was than the Lord. At that time he was tired, he was resting fruit she thought, as she did himself, but naturally does not mean lonely.

Loneliness is over does not make him nervous, it just reinforced inner, in fact she was not entirely his own, because she spent his time to activities, the activities who accompanied him. she was always doing something that could make him free, free from the sense of loneliness, free from the confines of the frame itself. She always tried to do something that might mean for her and those around her.

She is a selfish, very selfish, but selfish in defending his principles, the principle to keep himself from all ruthlessness and contempt of the world, she himself by faith umbrella, she protects himself from the love of pulp, which is only defeating him.

Anything of value found on her was still intact and well maintained, neatly wrapped, like a rose that is protected by thorns. She maintained that all of the closing of all senses. She closed his eyes from the visual that invites passion, she covered her ears from the depravity of human passions, She closed her heart of everything that invite lust. That is a value that is in her, She was the pearl in the sea floor into jewelry yearning seekers of the world,

It is not feasible if she compared with the market women, who sell themselves to the property or plentiful of throne, was himself not comparable with the crown sell out (pengobral) of soul. She is the figure of a love that only love of his life to a true partner.

How much woman is like, how much woman that seemed to charm, but they are invisible, they are only visible if we use the spectacles of faith, and not all "adam" can use the goggles.

Did she become a minority in the natural world? If so, how difficult it is to find a real human being like herself. But, do not worry, Hi... the "adam"! We must believe, if we try to be the best, God will give us the best too.

Perawan Senja

Ketika alam menyambut senja, terlihat seorang hawa sedang menengadahkan wajahnya, terbesit makna yang dalam sekali kala ia mengartikan pesona langit. Dirinya memuncak kagum mensyukuri garis-garis kehidupan, lamunannya yang sesaat mensyiratkan betapa kecil dirinya dihadapan Tuhan-nya. Saat itu ia memang sedang lelah, ia sedang mengistirahatkan buah pikirnya, saat itu ia memang sendiri, tapi sendirinya bukan berarti sepi.

Kesendirian yang menghampirinya tidak membuatnya gelisah, justru hal itu semakin menguatkan batinnya, sebenarnya ia tidak sepenuhnya sendiri, karena ia habiskan waktunya untuk beraktivitas, aktivitaslah yang menemaninya. ia selalu berbuat sesuatu yang bisa membuat hatinya bebas, bebas dari rasa kesepian, bebas dari kungkungan yang membingkai dirinya. Ia selalu berusaha melakukan sesuatu yang bisa berarti untuknya dan orang sekitarnya.

Ia adalah seorang yang egois, bahkan sangat egois, tapi egois dalam mempertahankan prinsipnya, prinsip untuk menjaga dirinya dari segala keangkaramungkaran dan kenistaan dunia, ia memayungi dirinya dengan iman, ia melindungi dirinya dari cinta picisan, yang hanya mempecundangi dirinya.

Sesuatu yang berharga yang terdapat pada dirinya masih utuh dan terjaga dengan baik, terbungkus dengan rapi, bak mawar yang terlindungi oleh durinya. Ia mempertahankan itu semua dengan menutup semua inderanya. Ia menutup matanya dari visual yang mengundang syahwat, ia menutup telinganya dari kebejatan nafsu manusia, ia menutup hatinya dari segala sesuatu yang mengundang birahi. Itu merupakan nilai lebih yang ada pada dirinya, dialah mutiara di dasar laut yang menjadi dambaan para pencari perhiasan dunia,

Sungguh tidak layak jika dirinya dibandingkan dengan wanita pasaran, yang mengobral diri mereka dengan gelimang harta atau tahta, sungguh dirinya tidak sebanding dengan para pengobral mahkota jiwa. Ia adalah sosok seorang kasih yang hanya memberikan cinta sejatinya kepada pasangan sejati.

Berapa banyak hawa yang sepertinya, berapa banyak hawa yang memiliki pesona sepertinya, mereka ada tapi tak nampak, mereka hanya terlihat jika kita menggunakan kacamata iman, dan tidak semua adam bisa memanfaatkan kacamata itu.

Benarkah dirinya menjadi minoritas di alam dunia ini? Bila seperti itu, alangkah sulitnya mencari insan sejati seperti dirinya. Tapi, tidak usah khawatir, wahai kaum adam! Kita harus yakin, jika kita berusaha menjadi yang terbaik, Tuhan akan memberikan kita yang terbaik juga.

Grow up the Health of Soul

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 19:17:00 +0000

Each of us had a chance to live only once. One time at some point, we will leave this mortal world. When he passed away, our bodies lay for a moment at the funeral home. People will come mourn, or otherwise not come to mourn, but they never knew we would comment about the contributions that we have given as long as we are still alive.

Donations can be positive, could also be negative, it all depends from, and once it's up to us each. Now let us examine and reflect for a moment, what about those comments when our bodies lay in the funeral home prior to burial. Let us also consider what kind of life we want to live, which might be remembered by future generations in the future.
Rather than focusing on a new awareness of living in a different way, which is more in accordance with our conscience urge the deepest, maybe some of us are now bound by guilt, why do not we always think about our existence and think about the choices we take in this life. Guilt can sometimes make some of us feel cramped, but felt cramped or otherwise into the field is really a choice in our own hands. As with the two prisoners who are both languishing in the jail.

At night, from behind bars is a joy to enjoy the stars in the clear sky, while others grieve at muddy gutter. Do we feel roomy and happy or suffer shortness, all that exists in the mind. They are wise tell us that it is human nature that it can do no wrong. Yeah I guess, we are not only being creation. So, as long as we are not God - and forever we are just creations - then we'll never escape the possibility of making mistakes. Then why should feel crowded? Let us not forget while you take a lesson from the mistakes that we've done to get better from time to time.

Yes, indeed within us there are souls who are always healthy should be maintained to stay healthy. Perhaps we have forgotten or perhaps he had been distorted by a variety of persuasive voices centered on purely material. Things around the material itself is not something taboo because it can broaden our reach in to contribute. The more affluent people actually have a greater opportunity to contribute.

Which can be a problem is if that material wealth is used to protect themselves from feeling insecure because we do not believe that people can still receive our existence even though we are not rich people. Also can be a problem if we unconsciously use the wealth of material to quiet the restless monkey mind and always wanted to voice the songs: "Mine is better, and I see this more affluent '.

Healthy soul will grow in balance, between the material life, social, emotional and spiritual. We are able to become rich materially from what we make but we only can be rich in spirit than what we give to the people around us. The wise men give us a clue that to produce something, start by giving. Perhaps the term take and give it's time to be replaced with the give and get that, its connotation is to start by giving.

Maybe between us were skeptical: "For myself sayapun still less, why did I have to give it to someone else?". You are not wrong but we should change the ways of thinking and trying to find, whether we can give and if we always give it to others such property will only increase a lot? The answer, include: appreciation and respect, a sincere smile, the knowledge we have, and so forth. So he began learning to develop more smiles, more genuine smile. We can start with a mutual smile to the organs in the body like heart, lungs, liver, kidney and others. We can also begin to smile reciprocally with the trees along the road we've been through. We also can smile reciprocally to the butterfly fun joking with fragrant flowers. And finally We also have a smile of infinite amount we can give to whomever we encounter.

Menumbuhkan Jiwa yang Sehat

Masing-masing dari kita punya kesempatan hidup hanya sekali. Suatu saat entah kapan, kita akan meninggalkan dunia yang fana ini. Ketika berpulang, jasad kita dibaringkan sejenak di rumah duka. Orang-orang akan datang melayat, atau sebaliknya tidak datang melayat namun mereka yang pernah mengenal kita akan berkomentar tentang sumbangan yang telah kita berikan selama kita masih hidup. Sumbangan tersebut bisa positif, bisa juga negatif, semuanya tergantung dari, dan sekaligus terserah kepada diri kita masing-masing. Sekarang mari kita periksa dan renungkan sejenak, apa kira-kira komentar orang-orang ketika jasad kita berbaring di rumah duka sebelum dikebumikan. Mari kita renungkan juga kehidupan macam mana yang ingin kita jalani, yang bisa jadi akan dikenang oleh generasi penerus di masa yang akan datang.
Alih-alih berfokus pada kesadaran baru untuk menjalani hidup dengan cara berbeda, yang lebih sesuai dengan dorongan nurani kita yang paling dalam, mungkin sebagian dari kita kini terbelenggu oleh rasa bersalah, kenapa tidak dari dulu kita berpikir tentang keberadaan kita serta berpikir tentang pilihan-pilihan yang kita ambil dalam menjalani hidup ini.

Rasa bersalah terkadang membuat sebagian dari kita merasa sesak, namun merasa sesak atau sebaliknya menjadi lapang sesungguhnya merupakan pilihan yang ada di tangan kita sendiri. Seperti halnya dengan dua orang tahanan yang sama-sama mendekam di dalam penjara. Di malam hari, dari balik jeruji besi yang seorang bersuka cita menikmati bintang-bintang di langit yang cerah, sementara yang lainnya bersedih menatap comberan berlumpur. Apakah kita merasa lapang dan bahagia atau sesak menderita, semua itu ada di dalam pikiran. Mereka yang arif memberi tahu kita bahwa sudah menjadi kodratnya bahwa manusia itu dapat berbuat salah. Iya juga ya, kita ini kan hanya mahluk ciptaanNya. Jadi, sepanjang kita bukan Tuhan – dan selamanya kita memang hanya ciptaanNya – maka kita tidak akan pernah luput dari kemungkinan berbuat salah. Lalu kenapa harus merasa sesak? Mari kita lupakan sembari mengambil pelajaran dari berbagai kesalahan yang pernah kita perbuat untuk menjadi lebih baik dari waktu ke waktu.

Ya, sesungguhnya di dalam diri kita terdapat jiwa-jiwa yang sehat yang selalu harus dipelihara agar tetap sehat. Mungkin kita telah melupakannya atau mungkin juga ia telah terdistorsi oleh berbagai bujuk rayu suara-suara yang berpusat pada kebendaan semata-mata. Hal-hal di seputar kebendaan itu sendiri bukanlah sesuatu yang tabu karena ia dapat memperluas jangkauan kita dalam berkontribusi. Orang yang lebih kaya sesungguhnya punya peluang yang lebih besar untuk berkontribusi.

Yang dapat menjadi masalah adalah jika kekayaan material tersebut digunakan untuk melindungi diri dari rasa tidak aman karena kita tidak yakin bahwa orang-orang masih dapat menerima keberadaan kita walaupun kita bukan orang yang kaya. Juga dapat menjadi masalah bila tanpa sadar kita menggunakan kekayaan material untuk menenangkan pikiran monyet yang gelisah dan selalu ingin menyuarakan lagu-lagu: “Punyaku lebih baik, dan lihat aku ini lebih kaya”.
Jiwa yang sehat akan tumbuh dalam keseimbangan, antara kehidupan material, sosial, emosional dan spiritual. Kita memang dapat menjadi kaya secara material dari apa yang kita hasilkan namun kita hanya dapat menjadi kaya secara batin dari apa yang telah kita berikan kepada orang-orang di sekeliling kita. Orang-orang bijak memberi kita petunjuk bahwa untuk menghasilkan sesuatu, mulailah dengan memberi. Barangkali istilah take and give sudah saatnya untuk diganti dengan give and get karena, konotasinya ada pada memulai dengan memberi.

Mungkin di antara kita bersikap skeptis: “Untuk diri sayapun masih kurang, mengapa pula saya harus memberikannya kepada orang lain?”. Anda tidak salah namun ada baiknya kalau kita mengubah cara berpikir dan mencoba mencari, apakah yang dapat kita berikan dan kalau kita selalu memberikannya kepada orang lain harta tersebut justru akan bertambah banyak? Jawabannya antara lain adalah: penghargaan dan rasa hormat, senyum yang tulus, pengetahuan yang kita miliki, dan lain sebagainya. Maka mulailah belajar mengembangkan lebih banyak senyum, senyum yang lebih tulus. Kita bisa mulai dengan tersenyum secara timbal balik kepada organ-organ di dalam tubuh seperti jantung, paru-paru, hati, ginjal dan lain sebagainya. Kita juga dapat mulai tersenyum secara timbal balik dengan pepohonan di sepanjang jalan yang kita lalui. Kita juga dapat tersenyum secara timbal balik kepada kupu-kupu yang bercanda-ria dengan bunga yang mekar mewangi. Dan akhirnya kitapun punya senyum dalam jumlah tanpa batas yang dapat kita berikan kepada siapa saja yang kita jumpai.

Treat others, as we want to be treated

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 16:57:00 +0000

If we work or provide services for more than the reward that we receive are willing and happy with everything, we will develop a good positive attitude, which is the basis or foundation of an interesting personality.

If we have an attractive personality, we can make almost all people behave like we want. Treat others, as we want to be treated. Apply the golden rule in everyday life. If people do not directly respond, keep doing and doing. If still not successful, we may think, if we still want to be with people like that.

Perlakukan orang lain, seperti kita ingin diperlakukan

Jika kita bekerja atau memberikan servis lebih dari imbalan yang kita terima secara rela dan dengan segala senang hati, kita akan mengembangkan sikap positif yang menyenangkan, yang merupakan dasar atau landasan dari kepribadian yang menarik.

Jika kita mempunyai kepribadian yang menarik, kita bisa membuat hampir semua orang berperilaku seperti yang kita inginkan. Perlakukan orang lain, seperti kita ingin diperlakukan. Terapkan kaidah kencana ini dalam kehidupan sehari-hari. Jika orang tidak langsung merespon, terus lakukan dan lakukan. Jika tetap tidak berhasil, kemungkinan kita memikirkan, apakah kita masih ingin bersama dengan orang-orang seperti itu.

When My soul Fragile

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:55:00 +0000

Week ago I like not enjoying my days, my physical move but I'm fragile, all I do like my heart was not satisfactory, so I had a tough dilemma, my thoughts are not focused on what I do, I like looking for something that can not be I found, when it dominated my bad side my activities, so what I do is a routine that has no potential, I'm just wasting my time, and it was a regret for me.

As fragile souls, we will find ourselves to be like other people, easily swayed, like a crash leaves the night wind, which will move in the direction of the wind. There is no strong foothold that keeps me going, sometimes I try to hold on to something, but really I was asleep by the time something was overtaken

I try to control myself, when I try to direct me to a good thing, I can not concentrate at all, all of which I see as meaningless, writing what I read, such as shrinking so that makes my eyes tired, and lazy to read it, my sleep is no longer as comfortable as before , my thoughts fly some place what, I saw only a black room and frightening.

I wanted to clean up this soul, and out of the circle that makes me Stag. It was very difficult, everything was heavy, my efforts as a weight I lift, but I still have to do, I'm not a weak young man who simply enjoy the fun away like the hedonism, I'm not a loser, I have to pull the white yarn in touch with my God, I hope with yarn that I could more closely with Him and through any difficulties that had been separated by God

Saat Jiwaku Rapuh

Seminggu yang lalu aku seperti tidak menikmati hari-hariku, fisikku bergerak tapi hatiku rapuh, semua yang kulakukan seperti tidak memuaskan hatiku, sungguh aku mengalami dilema yang berat, pikiranku melayang tidak fokus terhadap apa yang aku kerjakan, aku seperti sedang mencari sesuatu yang tidak dapat aku temukan, saat itu sisi buruk diriku mendominasi aktivitasku, sehingga yang aku lakukan adalah rutinitas yang tidak berpotensi, aku hanya membuang-buang waktuku, dan hal itu menjadi penyesalan buatku.

Saat jiwa rapuh, kita akan merasakan bahwa diri kita menjadi seperti orang lain, mudah terombang-ambing, seperti dedaunan yang terhempas angin malam, yang akan bergerak sesuai arah tiupan angin. Tidak ada pijakan kuat yang membuatku bertahan, sesekali aku berusaha berpegangan terhadap sesuatu, tapi sungguh aku terlena oleh sesuatu yang saat itu sedang menguasaiku

Aku coba kendalikan diriku, saat aku coba mengarahkan diriku kepada hal baik, aku tidak dapat konsentrasi sama sekali, semua yang aku lihat seperti tidak bermakna, tulisan yang kubaca, seperti mengecil sehingga membuat mataku cepat lelah, dan malas membacanya, tidurku tidak lagi senyaman sebelumnya, pikiranku terbang entah ketempat apa, yang kulihat hanya ruangan yang serba hitam dan menakutkan.

Ingin sekali aku membersihkan jiwa ini, dan keluar dari lingkaran yang membuat diriku stag. Sukar sekali rasanya, semuanya serba berat, usahaku bagai beban berat yang aku angkat, tapi tetap harus aku lakukan, aku bukanlah pemuda lemah yang hanya menikmati kesenangan diri seperti kaum hedonisme, aku bukan pecundang, aku harus menarik benang putih yang menghubungkanku dengan rabbku, semoga dengan benang itu aku bisa kian dekat denganNya dan melewati setiap kesulitan yang selama ini memisahkanku denganNya.

Simple is beautiful

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 16:51:00 +0000

To feel the joy,
does not have to have a lot of

A small hole with a puddle of water in the soil and rock by fist,
can be used as a tool to create a foggy blur scenery

Inside the flower
universe is

In a leaf,
can be found immortality

Beautiful world we want,
not far from the reach of

The moon and the wind
has a stillness and peace
the same value of the leaves gaps
or even from behind a bamboo hut.

People who can enjoy the happiness of life
also be able to understand the meaning of life

Simple,
does not mean not having anything
does not mean being in a low degree
not mean to appear as it is
not because of the low quality of

But,
Just a simple choice,
Options to enjoy life is very, very short
Of course, in a way that is not excessive

Sederhana itu Indah

Untuk merasakan kebahagiaan,
tidak harus dengan memiliki banyak

Lubang kecil dengan genangan air di tanah dan batu sebesar kepalan,
bisa dijadikan alat untuk menciptakan pemandangan kabur berkabut

Di dalam sekuntum bunga
terdapat alam semesta

Dalam sehelai daun,
bisa ditemukan keabadian

Dunia indah yang kita inginkan,
tidak jauh dari jangkauan

Bulan dan angin
mempunyai keheningan dan kedamaian
yang bernilai sama dari celah-celah dedaunan
atau pun dari balik gubuk bamboo.

Orang yang bisa menikmati kebahagiaan hidup
juga akan bisa memahami makna kehidupan

Sederhana itu,
bukan berarti tidak memiliki apa-apa
tidak berarti berada pada derajat yang rendah
bukan berarti tampil apa adanya
bukan karena rendahnya kualitas

Tapi,
Sederhana hanyalah sebuah pilihan,
Pilihan untuk menikmati kehidupan yang amat sangat singkat ini
Tentunya dengan cara yang tidak berlebihan

The story that didn't successed

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 16:49:00 +0000

Many ways and words to convey the intention and purpose, do not need a lot of material, does not take long rags. Enough with the sincere intention and an honest heart. But sometimes appears a puzzle that makes the perpetrator a story asking tany, a is often even left a message that is not transmitted, so that hope vanished, although perhaps it is not desired. Regret, disappointment usually helped decorate the story, but all have risks and a twist. Perhaps that's also the best for all. If there are latent desire, wisely conveyed without much note.

It's fitting that the story was made to phase and complete with all the risks. Commitment is also a critical point as the main achievement of the mean value .. Scenarios can be etched into the story line with our expectations, be happy if the same script made, but if otherwise then we should accept and review written back to the scenario.

The story should not be less than a scourge worse for us, because in it there is a meaningful lesson. An optimist will not recede to work to make another story, perhaps with the same story, but with the background and the different conditions in which there will be another channel as an alternative solution has not terhadadap previous success stories. Or maybe it will bring up a new dilemma that makes the story not to return.

The story is not the goal, but the only way that makes the actors explore the story of many lessons, of course, everything in the context of growing and strengthening the heart soul.

Kisah tak sampai

Banyak cara dan kata tuk sampaikan niat dan tujuan, tak perlu materi yang banyak, tidak butuh gombal yang panjang. Cukup dengan niat yang tulus dan hati yang jujur. Tapi terkadang muncul teka-teki yang membuat si pelaku kisah bertanya-tany,a bahkan seringkali pesan yang tertinggal tidak tersampaikan, sehingga pupus harapan walaupun mungkin sebenarnya bukan itu yang diinginkan. Penyesalan, kecewa biasanya turut menghiasi kisah itu, tapi semua sudah resiko dan menjadi suratan. Mungkin juga itu yang terbaik untuk semuanya. Jika ada hasrat terpendam, sampaikan dengan bijak tanpa banyak catatan.

Sudah sepatutnya kisah itu terbuat ber-phase dan lengkap dengan segala resikonya. Komitmen juga menjadi point penting sebagai value utama pencapaian maksudnya.. Skenario kisah bisa terukir seiring dengan harapan kita, berbahagialah jika naskahnya sama dengan yang dibuatNya, tapi jika sebaliknya maka kita patut menerima dan me-review kembali skenario yang tertulis.

Kisah tak sampai tidak seharusnya menjadi momok buruk untuk kita, karena di dalamnya terdapat pelajaran yang bermakna. Seorang optimis tidak akan surut untuk berkarya membuat kisah yang lainnya, mungkin sama dengan cerita yang sama, tapi dengan latar dan kondisi yang berbeda yang di dalamnya akan ada alur lain sebagai alternatif solusi terhadadap belum berhasilnya kisah terdahulu. Atau mungkin justru akan memunculkan dilema baru yang membuat kisah tak sampai kembali.

Kisah itu bukan tujuan, tapi hanyalah perjalanan yang membuat si pelaku kisah menggali banyak pelajaran, tentunya semuanya dalam rangka pendewasaan jiwa dan penguatan hati.

Smile from the Heart

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:17:00 +0000

The smile is not just a self expression, but also the expression of one's emotions when we smile, lots of motor nerve sel2 work, so that stimulate oxygen flow to the brain, the more often we smile, the more oxygen is collected, when our brains have a lot of oxygen, he will work more optimally, a troubled heart will feel happy, and will bring fresh ideas for thinkers. There's even a study that says a smile can make us young.

For couples, the smile is not just a sign of affection, but also a sign of affection to her husband's wife, and husband to wife, and could become a powerful stance to maintain the ship home, when the wife and husband made a mistake with a subtle rebuke coupled smile, what a beautiful mood.

When the smile on the day of adversity, disaster struck, a disaster, a smile not only as a sign of endurance, but also as a sign of one's faith. He believes what happened at that time the examination given by the Creator is to prove his faith.

A smile is the easiest charity, easy to do and do not incur a cost, Smile sincere with all of your heart and spul, it should say "a smile from the heart, can fall into the heart" hehehe .... please you are define yourselves. A smile can also deepen friendships, to perpetuate the relationship, and the initial attitude to make friends.

So, let's begin our day with a smile, when we stress the problems faced, Smile, at least to ease the heart's heat. When we are too late to congestion, Smile, it can freshen up our feelings. When we feel pressured to rush in the workplace, college, or school, Smile, it could lighten your load. When our emotions because of the angry boss, reviled friend, Smile, it could be emotional relief medication, tranquilizers soul, and solace. When we Stag when writing, Smile, stimulates your brain, god willing, you will be more creative again.

The image of a sinner's remorse

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 16:12:00 +0000

Until now I do not know who I am, I live for anyone, who would fit my desire to flow, but I can not get enough of it, just wanted pleasure of my heart, the pleasure that only follow vain my soul, in fact I'm tired, I feel like a slave to me itself, other times I put the mask myself just to be judged well by others, I myself know this hypocrite, a lot of lies going, and I often deceived. I'm sick, I want to run from this, but I'm not a coward, I also do not want to say loser, I'm just not honest with myself, I finally ran to top of edge, I nearly fell, but it seems My Creator still love me, I realized that, I shouted as loud as my ability, until my voice to break. Wrinkled when it once myself, My journey was not perfect, my body limp tired, I can not think anything, I suddenly collapsed and lost consciousness.

In the darkness I was confused where he was, I was so scared, I saw only a speck of white light in front of me, and from the same direction came the sound 'follow me ... ', As I was hypnotized by the light source is approaching, and the voice went on, more and more distant, and disappeared. I feel lonely, I continued to walk toward the light, the farther I go the smaller that point, the pessimists started to overcome me, restless, nervous start covering my mind, if my hopes like that point, if a thin hope. With the accompaniment of sobs my Creator, I pray, I beg Him a chance, I asked for time to fix my fallen, my tears was prostrate of land, even hands and feet feel the warmth of my tears. Not long before I realized, I woke up in the light of a very. Me realize I was in my bedroom, I like getting a new energy, my legs felt like running, and my mind feels clear, what happened to me, I just thought of my sins past, and already my duty redeem my mistake. Apparently I have been treated by my family, one week I had fallen asleep, there are still cares about me, family that has failed me once I find it still loves me, my tears flowed, I'm just thankful to my Creator, I have been given the opportunity by Him, and I must take advantage this opportunity to improve my life that have been destroyed by myself.

My Regret

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 16:33:00 +0000

Where I was, ..

In a shapeless rubble
In the recorded fantasy without limits

Stupidity that comes with the loss of common sense
Or maybe because not desire didn'achieved

Beginning today until now, it happened
Flavor the regret no measurable

My heart subjection therefore
My soul fragile without any support

Who are my helpers ..?
Should I rely on outside of me,
Should I Firmness of myself

Yeah, ... just me who can

It was time to make a choice
It's time to make decisions

Ya Allah ...
Give me convenience
To correct this untruth

The Beautiful Enchantment of Nature Village

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Fri, 31 Jul 2009 17:32:00 +0000

When we enjoy the nature,
our hearts will be bound up with it, together,
and restore our souls to the place of origin.

When we looked at, there will be the spirit of life
with positive energy is huge.

When we feel,
will no warmth affection
who will fill the vacuum of empty souls.

When we animate the natural atmosphere,
we will forget mundane,
that had been cut off we are without mercy.

When we are close to nature,
our hearts will feel closer to the Creator,
The Creator who is everything.

That afternoon, after a day of struggling with the guests who attended the marriage my cousin, I was refresh myself by looking at the scenery around the place. The sprawling rice fields, greening the earth's surface with grain was ripe. In the suburbs, was a causeway connecting fields between the road north to the south of the village. In the west, were two small saung, farmers resort to remove sweat and exhausted, after a half-day work.

Without realizing it, my view of nature as carried away that afternoon. Now, my eyes focused forward, visible pengrango mountain scenery very beautiful, strong and stand up straight on the face of this earth. I remember when do adventuring to the mountain September last year, although not up until the top, but I'm quite happy to climb the hill foot.

I'm really stunned by the beauty of nature is, how very wonderful carvings on each side of the mountain. Implication, the implication of white clouds floating around, add the perfection of divine creation is not a single human being can match. The sky is a bluish, a background that is in sync with the natural color of the mountain. Mount Pengrango natural charm, it makes me fall asleep, driving up the moment my heart was hungry with natural atmosphere.

Freshness of the water flowing through the shower of yellow bamboo with a diameter large enough that it wants to make himself long enjoyed. The cold can relax their muscles tense nerves, and refreshing mood is frantic.

When i'm doing wudlu [ritual ablution before prayer"islam"], wishing it to wash my face again and again, if only the flow of water from a big time, but the cold water as fresh as the mountains. There was some small expense of this shower, when I finished berwudlu, another cousin has told me as a joke, he asked, 'a', krannya 've closed yet? "Hahaha .... cash only I smiled, because the water here is not the same as in my house. In place, using a bamboo water channel, and derived from the time or the river, while in my home, using a pipe culvert with the end of the faucet, and comes from Jetpump or PAM.

Boy Tenant Umbrella

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 17:21:00 +0000

That afternoon, after follow-up exams at college, I caught the rain. And I only permit one hour to my boss, I somehow have to get to the office. I tried to step my foot into the front lobby, wondering how to get to the office. Arriving in the front yard, I saw the little boy was running a large umbrella little to the north, fancy he was around 6 years, reminded me of when I first entered elementary school level one. I just call him "de, motorcycles umbrella!", "yes om!" he said. "But little far, about 1 km" I said, and he replied "no problem!". then he handed me the big umbrella, then I hold up the umbrella as he walked her under her umbrella with me, in my heart to say "sorry for this kid in the rain, not necessarily physically able to resist the cold rain.

Then we both walked down the small streets behind the building offive affairs of Matraman area, we occasionally have to stop down the street when passing other pedestrians, because of the narrowness of the road. I purposely took this path, rather than a big way, because in addition to shorter, also can avoid the spray from a passing vehicle road. On the way I try to talk with the little boy

"Are you, Just back from school!"
"I'm not study!" He said
"Ohya! What about it? "I asked curiously
with origin he answered "no cost!"
"Oh so! What work did your parents'
"My father just finished contract at him office"
"Hmm .... your mother? "
with slowly he replied "my mother was dead!"
"Ooh, .. excuse me! "
"It's ok, om! Rilexs "style grinning little boy. Hehe ...
"soo, kmu live where?"
"It om my house!" While pointing her index finger toward the house.
Turns out she and her father rent a small house directly behind the building BCA, father've married 4 times, and the boy is the result of her marriage to the fourth, but unfortunately after having a baby, his wife died.

"Where u stay, om?" Asked the boy behind
"I live near form RT.09 badminton court, not far from here!"
"Ohh that's it! Field that's where I played ball together with friends "
"Oh ya! By the way, after finished work, are your money will you save?! "
"give to the father, pity him, more ill at home"
"Hmm ... you are very good! Diligent again "

Do not feel we've reached the office, after the reward, I say thank you to the boy, and he just grinned a horse, as he said "your welcome!" And then he stepped into the road, hoping there are other people who need his services.

I finally arrived at the office, but a short trip with the boy tenant umbrella, giving the former a very in to this myself, I salute all the boys, from a polite way of speaking like a kid who was educated at the school, although he did school yet. I guess his father is very wise to educate the boy. Then courage in living her life makes me ashamed, not visible at all face pleading, or the attitude of complaining, he is optimistic through life, when she was still young. But sometimes this self, just got a little test, was complaining, and become pessimistic. It's that attitude is a little slap me. Had my position as her, maybe I will not put up with such life. In conditions of scarcity he could care for her father who was sick, great sense of responsibility to my parents than myself. What I do for my parents, no nothing with the little boy.

Lessons from the boy's very meaningful to me. Not a lot of little boy who has an attitude like that, boy was like an angel to me, maybe it sent Allah SWT to scold.

Waver

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 16:31:00 +0000

Speech, as called
I shouted, as tears

I tried to run, I get only empty
I tried to hide, only the fruit of the brain that teraih

Is it fate?
Is it my lines?

Is hayalankuku is false?
Is fate desires?

Give me you say my gods
Give me your blessings my gods

Open the way for me
So I can get through your door.

Last Gift to Dinda

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Fri, 29 May 2009 17:17:00 +0000

That afternoon, the sky began to appear with the gradation, seen a few strokes of white clouds, mixed with yellow reddish, perhaps a reflection of the sun's twilight and the coming months. What a beautiful sight, like an abstract painting on canvas cut up into.

There were sparrows descend cracks hospital. It seems there is life, because some nests are composed of woven twigs of trees there. At the hospital, there is also life, only less than perfect life. Place, filled with a lot of hope, and despair. There are even some people who are only waiting for final seconds of his life in the world. Aroma chemicals, is dominating the air circulation in that place, and can make them sick for the allergy to the drug.

In one room, I and my daughter, was engrossed mingle. My left hand holding a small bowl of rice with several side dishes, and other hand held a spoon that is ready menyiduk contents of the bowl. Gusts of wind from the fan mounted on the roof of the room, add cool evening air. Occasionally heard mournful moans from the next room, which makes sad, the hearts of the inhabitants of the hospital.

"Well ... well ... .. ade buy a doll ya! Ade next week's birthday. "Says my daughter quietly. At that time dinda was lying in a hospital because of Dengue Fever hit.
"What a doll de?," I asked.
"Doll loo .... pooh, "she said, as he is led in pain.
"God willing, next week my father bought .... but ade to an appointment as a father. Ade should promise, if ade should be cured! ... hows? "
"Hmm .... yes, ade promise ... "
"Good child! That is just the name my father's daughter, ... if you want to quickly recover ade should eat, trus taking medication, "I said.
"Oh gitu ya, yah!"
"Iyaa, so, now ade eat ya! ayoo ...." I said, with a spoonful of rice into his mouth.

Finally dinda opened his mouth and chewed rice that I just grease his. "Siip ...... daughter's father was smart ,....."

I'm glad to see my daughter wanted to eat, because since the five-day hospitalization, she was very difficult to eat.

At that time I was smiling, but my heart cried. I'm sorry for all the dinda, after three months and then sentenced types of physicians, now he must be treated again because of Dengue Fever.

Indeed, since my wife died, he was just getting the love and attention from me. As for my time to dinda very little, I was too busy with my work.

I asked my sister who was in college, to stay with me, so that some company dinda when I was in the office.

When the sweat came, I lay my body on the couch home. My mind wandered to each side of my life. I could see my wife's face who had left a year ago, I missed him. He is the figure of a good wife, wise mother figure, while my best friend.

In that wanderings, crossed dinda a sad face. If the pain can be moved kediriku, I'll be sincere in his place. "Sorry for you, son," I thought. Did not feel I shed a tear.

Suddenly, my cell phone rang.

"Gung, before I am sorry nih. Forced, tomorrow I have to assign you to Borneo to conduct Site Acceptance Test, Indosat project, "
"Hmm, there was nothing else, sir? Frankly I was quite mind, know their own father, my son is still in the hospital, "as he wiped the tears, I refuse the request boss.
"No one else can, you only the best people in the company that can do this job. Come on, this time I begged kekamu, just four days aja kok! "

I paused for a moment, to think about what decisions must take. Finally I was forced to accept the request boss.

"OK, sir! I'll take this risk. "
"Good, tk's yes! I've got tickets and the necessary documents, then I'll send someone to send it to your house. "
"Ok sir! Tk's also yes .... "I said, as he ended the conversation.

That same evening I went to the hospital to see my daughter.

"De, you've better kah?," I asked dinda
"Still a bit dizzy, well!." I tried to hold his forehead with the back of my hand, not temperature. Apparently, his fever was still high.
"De, father had not bought you a doll! Aja ya later, four days away ... "
"Gpp well, but why should four days, yah?."
"Anu ... hhh .... father's work outside the office, but you do not worry, just four days aja kok! Father promises, his return would have bought you a doll. "

Frankly I was a little hard to say goodbye to him, but I have no other choice. I know, dinda very sad to hear that, seen from the look on his face that was still innocent.

But I also can not look sad in front of him, when I could not hold back my feelings, I'm out of the room dinda treated. Tears, I thought, "why do I have to take this difficult decision, very tough to leave my daughter I am."

But I must not dissolved with sadness, perhaps this is the best way should I go. I wipe my tears, and then returned to dinda, kissed her forehead, and left him still lying limp in the room.

When I was out of town, almost every 6 hours so I called my sister, in order to find out dinda condition, my daughter.

When the last day of duty, I sempatkan myself to buy presents for my brother and my daughter. Not forgetting pooh doll, sepesial for dinda birthday.

That very afternoon, with the plane I left Kalimantan to Jakarta.

Around 6 o'clock in the afternoon I arrived in Jakarta.

But when I want to get off the plane, I fell. Fortunately, when it was only a few steps back, so my fall was not too sick. For some reason, when I was very careless. And I've tried to be careful.

From the airport I went on my way to the house by taxi, after putting the equipment plan, I'm going to the hospital, to meet dinda.

Four days was not met my daughter, it was missed. After this assignment, I will take a sabbatical, so he could accompany dinda in hospital.

Around seven o'clock, I arrived in front of my house residential complex. But I was riding in a cab that could not get into housing, because the front portal was closed.

"What is yes, tumben-tumbenan closed its portal," I thought.

Then I fell in front of the housing, and continue on foot. A few meters from my house, I saw many people gathered in front of my house. It makes me nervous. Kupercepat fast pace to get home.

Arriving in front of the house, one neighbor, with a sad face, immediately approached me. Then said, "sir, the patient yes!." My heart is increasingly erratic, my mind wondered, "what's actually."

From the front of the house, I saw many people were inside the house to teach. Then I step my foot to get inside. What a surprise, after seeing my daughter was lying stiffly among the people.

"Not possible!." There was a suitcase and some plastic bags that I tenteng apart from my grasp.

Dinda eyes, was not seen as a closed cotton, and wrapped his body also had a white cloth. I approached the body that was not dead, the corpse had been so close to me, which encouraged the bodies to stay alive, my daughter's body so I care about.

I could only stare at my daughter's pale face. A few drops of tears rolled down my cheeks sidelines. I wish I did not remember Penciptaku, now I have a good cry.

I softly said,

"Why did you leave his father, de?,"
"Why not say goodbye the same old dad?,"
"Father, had brought the doll of pooh ya!,"
"This birthday gift for you .........."

Her lips are smiling made me a very sad time, who knows how many drops of water out of this mine. At the time I'm sorry, if I had not agreed to work outside the city, probably will not happen something like this.

But, I can not regret that, perhaps it's become his destiny. None of the creatures who could oppose him. Honesty have my daughter's departure, I'm sure now he was met by his mother in Heaven.

Six hours over ten minutes earlier, dinda last breath in the hospital, coinciding with the arrival of the plane in Jakarta. Indeed, it struck me greatly, I have wasted the only grace of God that I have right now. Hopefully this incident, can make my eyes wide open, how precious time I have.

He and intersections that.

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 17:00:00 +0000

Black smoke from the exhaust of vehicles passing by, adding the thick of hot air in the daytime. Vehicle traffic that cause a hoarse voice, helped enliven the atmosphere of pandemonium on the red light. When the red color appeared, the driver stopped the Cars like hypnotized by the color.

At that moment, kang asep and some friends went into action. defect legs (pincang), he following every vehicle that was stopped, no matter whatever extreme heat the stinging heat of the sun's black body, no matter what the thickness of fumes entering the nasal cavity. He continued his activities until the red color to hide.

"Cigarettes, mas!" He offers merchandise which he put dikotak whose size is only as wide as his chest. He selempangkan box rope hooks on the body rather thin to hold the load.

Visible left hand carrying a plastic bucket containing a few bottles of aqua, complete with a block of ice began to melt. In between the fingers of his right hand tucked into two bottles of 600ml size aqua.

"Aqua .......!" person's voice from the rear. Kang Asep who heard it, immediately to the sound source, then took a bottle of aqua and give to the buyer.

It's really hard struggle, with his work, not much he could produce. One day can get fifteen thousand dollars only, is a fortune for himself. Maybe he could actually get more than that, but he realized he was not alone in the red light, a lot of friends who have the same job with him.

When he was hawking his wares, he saw a family in the car silver panther, was busy mingle. His mind was far away, down the side of the past life. He remembered with bitter experiences.

Five years ago, he and his family traveled to the summit. In a steered, he was startled by the presence of a white corolla car coming from the opposite direction. That motorists do not carefully steered, thus making kang asep who was driving a car, slammed the steering wheel the other direction to avoid a collision. But, really na'as, at which he was heading towards the abyss.

In the accident, he had only just surviving, and after that, his life destroyed. He lost his son and his wife, he lost his job, having to be hospitalized for several months. He also owned property loss, because up to treat him. His chest was cracked and almost broke his left leg, so to have an operation that requires considerable cost.

His thoughts were interrupted by the sound of a car horn in front of him. Apparently he was hiding the color red. Then he wiped the tears that trickled from his eyes, as he pulled over to the coastal road.

"Kang ... kang asep, cry? "asked a friend of the profession lane road with him.

"Oh, ... I'm not ... the dust has enter of my eyes, it has Like after cries?! hehe .. "said Kang Asep entertain themselves.

In this world he was just himself, after the accident. Relatives and family no one would accept him. Now he is a cripple who do not have any.

Once he tried to end his life with a can establish liquid mosquito. Luckily, his friend who was visiting the rented, seeing conditions, who was then unconscious. Kang asep then rushed to the nearest hospital. Finally, life could be saved kang Asep.

"Hmm,. why am I not dead? Well, maybe God has not allowed me to die. "

After the incident, kang asep stupidity never repeat again. He realized, that is not itself that determines the end of his life, everything is determined by its creator, as well as with children and his wife who had preceded him.

Kang Asep is now, not a weak kang Asep. Although he was handicapped, he tried not to bother other people. He also worked with great enthusiasm. When his friends were still asleep, kang asep already in the intersection to work. when he else had returned to his home, kang asep still in the intersection.

One morning, the intersection was filled with many people. Several police officers were securing the area looking around, and the other officers busy directing traffic starting solid. Not long later, came an ambulance unit.

"What happened there huh? Whay appeared ambulance, "said wise, one kang asep friend who had saved him from death. When it was wise to walk into the intersection to work. Surprise, he, when he saw the bodies being brought four were health workers.

"No one else, that kang asep!." He said.

"Kang asep .... "He shouted loudly, and it invites other friends, who had just arrived at the crossroads ..

They really did not think the body is kang Asep. Tears could not be contained anymore, tears flowed freely, and the sadness surrounding community hawkers who then learned of the death kang Asep.

According to eyewitnesses, about five o'clock this morning, he saw a car from the west were speeding toward the intersection. As I passed the intersection, there was a human scream, followed by the sound of falling hard objects. Out of curiosity, he immediately ran toward the intersection, and there he saw the man lying with the body tensed. Fresh blood appeared out of the mouth and nose, he spontaneously shouted for help in the hope that there will be others who come and help. Until finally arrived several police officers, followed by an ambulance unit.

Vulnerability-spirited soul

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 10:02:00 +0000

When we decided to Live
Like sailing into full dense clouds
As a tarnished white cloth morality of dirty

When our inner crushed
The dilemma in taking thought
Locked gestures of lust
That's when satan laughing win

But it was the object of the challenge
If in our hearts only God Almighty

Vulnerability-spirited soul
Making a suffering human being
Lust is only a powerful
But when it scraped the holy sword
Listed the pen of truth
Observably clearly hopes will reinforcing
Melt the frozen heart
Illuminating the dark soul

Spread of Happiness

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 18:02:00 +0000

Happiness comes from spiritual wealth,

not from material wealth.

Happiness comes from giving,

not obtain.

If we try to bring happiness to others,

happiness will come to us and no one can stop it.

To find happiness, we must give

To maintain happiness, we must cast

Miss withheld

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Sat, 21 Feb 2009 16:36:00 +0000

[for my friend Bumi Maharani]

While rooted longing was reserved
I Plunged in thought of solitude
Neither solace
Only memories for company

Although you mute yourself
so that the birds no longer sing
will not change the taste my sympathy
I still believe, hope is still there

When desire culminated
Close your eyes my heart
Pray with the deepest thought
Begged Him
To convey this desire

7 Steps Dynamic Believe In Yourself

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 16:54:00 +0000

Believing in yourself is an important factor in life that make a big difference between success and failure, happiness and disappointment, satisfaction and frustration. Some people are lucky, naturally pecaya yourself. But believing in yourself is not difficult to understand the nature and owned. Confidence is an attitude that can be learned, trained, and utilized by anyone. Here, 7 steps that can help develop self-confidence that dynamic.

Start with the principle
In essence, this principle says, to get the nature you want, start by behaving as if you already have it. If you want more daring, try to act as if you have great courage. The same if you want to believe in yourself. Start with acting as if you are an extraordinary person believing in yourself

Accept responsibility
One important element to develop self-confidence that dynamic is the ability to accept responsibility for your life and your actions. According to business consultants, a sense of responsibility has a strong relationship with the sense of believing in yourself that can create success.

Gerald Kushel, Ed. D., director of the Institute of Effective Thinking said, on the basis of observations from year to year to the thousands of managers, he found, the most important qualities that everyone has high achievers is a sense of responsibility that encourages them to always excel, no matter what external forces that affect. Conversely, if bad managers fail to achieve their maximum capability, they pass the blame for anything, anyone: a difficult boss, a wife who does not support, co-workers who do not cooperate and so forth.

Do not let your words weaken your
Apart from all the efforts and good intentions, some people break down the sense of believing in yourself with the way they talk about themselves and their dreams. The road to self-confidence that the dynamic will move more quickly if you develop a positive belief in yourself. Way, according to psychologist Robert Anthony, Ph.. D., is to eliminate the deadly expressions and replace them with creative expressions. He suggested making the transition simple language, but effectively, from negative to positive statements. Instead of saying. 'I have to ...'. replace with, 'I want ....'. Eliminate the words 'I can not' and say to yourself, 'I can'. Leave the word 'difficult' and use the word 'challenging'. Imagine in the heart of seeing 'the problem' to 'see' opportunity '. Instead of saying, 'In the end I had to', it's better for the strong commitment by saying, 'Now I will! "

Accept the challenge
Rather than give in to your fear, try to take reasonable risks. Thank despite daunting challenges and try not to ask for help from many others. Doing this gives you the opportunity invaluable to overcome the situation, face to face with the challenge and conquer it. Accepting the challenge in life is always the power of belief in yourself.

Reject the negative feedback
Try to look at the people around you. Are they positive, supportive, and grow up of your heart? Or most of them are people who think negatively, which destroy your confidence by questioning the ability, experience and your aspirations? If you feel your friends, peers and even your family members too detractors and negative, consider to stay away from acquaintances who deskruktif emotionally. Avoid negative type and the type who says 'not agree'

Follow the positive voices
While setting aside the negative effects, try to be open to all poisitif influence in your life. Confidence is contagious. If you are surrounded by people who are positive, passionate, believe in yourself, your personality tends to make the properties of the same. That is why, a leading author, Robert Schuller encourage people to do whatever they can do to make sure, their environment is filled with people who strengthen and positive experience. Find friends, acquaintances, literature, books, tv shows and movies are entertaining, funny, inspiring, inspire, educate, motivate and challenge you become a better person and more productive, he wrote the book Tough Minded Faith for Tender Hearted People.

Make unrest as an ally
Seeking a promotion, ask the boss to get a raise, or tampail as public speaker, a few events in life that create a crisis of confidence, raising the level of unrest is actually an ally. In the sense of worry or fret there is always a tool to shape and beat him. For example: increased energy, higher awareness, sharper mind, thoughts that jerk. Rather than spending the energy wasted in panic anxiety, take advantage to meet the challenges effectively and assertively.

Year End Notes

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Sun, 28 Dec 2008 16:22:00 +0000

".. Those who today is better than the former, he included a successful person. Whoever is the same day as the preceding one, so he included those who were deceived. Anyone who today are worse than the preceding one, so he's among those who perish before God Almighty ... "the word of the Prophet Muhammad.

It is appropriate if the above sentence made upon reflection, as a preliminary evaluation in the context of our introspection. When talking of success, then this is better today than yesterday, and of course tomorrow will be better than today, and no matter how far we go, or how many yards we go, the important thing is have already we go? Because success is not a goal, but the journey. Traveling to where? Surely the way to the next stage.

Behold not wise if we say we are already successful, and our lives over. "I've reached the peak of success, let alone what should I do? All the things I've got ", read this sentence is in accordance with one verse which reads;" Know! Behold, the man actually transgress, because he sees himself as self-sufficient "(Surat Al'alaq 6-7)

There are still stages after successful, because on the success there was success, I was reminded by a statement saying "Being successful is important, but the big man was more important" big people do not just make themselves successful, but they also make success of others. The best of men, is useful for others

How we see ourselves? Do not see the point others to look at, but ask ourselves whether all the good we have done on the basis of sincerity, if we are sincere, or do we do it all simply to be judged both by the people. Have we wear the mask of hypocrisy, whether we have become ourselves?

How much good we have made, how many times we do bad, let's compare, our bitter words, our scorn, our curses, the rumors that we are gossiping about, our cynicism, our mischievous hands, hands that like to take a is not our right, the eyes are always used to kemudharatan, feet trampling always humanity, and our indifferent attitude to adversity, whether proportional to the words of our praise to the achievement of our friends, the word that we say thank you, good sentences we ask you, dhikr & Recitations that we sing before and after the prayer, and alms infaq us, tausiyah-tausiyah rukhiyah we listen to, and legs that are always used as a drag load when helping others. Whether it's worth? Even if we remain comparable should be ashamed of God Almighty, the pleasure we have got, starting from waking up to go back to the contest. Breathe delicious, delicious bread, good housing, good facilities, etc.. It's no pleasure to us is limited.

Let us mirror the actions of our previous football, let's take a moment to re-open our journeys scratch, take one day, when not even one hour, one minute, one second for our own good. Do not be satisfied for teraih achievement, but thanks to him, correct the mistakes there, scratched tintamu, color your life. May God Almighty bless our lives. Amen. Wallahu 'alam

Self Transformation

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 15:59:00 +0000

Emptiness is now possessed, without any opportunity for me to cover the holes that have been made, no expressions of love which encouraged me to always establish the throne of my heart, a sense of boredom, pessimism became my best friend now, no positive expectations which can cure this heart.

I tried to calm the heart, cool head as though the heat makes my head almost exploded, though looked healthy, my physical weak helpless, all because my soul was vulnerable, this disillusionment with the self-shredding and anganku ideals, whether to always follow my soul, because it which makes my situation seemed to fall from the highest mountain.

My big enemy is myself, even ramadhan yesterday could not resist my desire to obey, so strong is my enemy? Or because it's my soul is weak? Right now I want to get rid of it, to face my enemy who will never stop fighting me, this self seemed strong but weak, faith is like a big creature that is ready to eradicate the enemy but in fact only a small creature helpless. Yes Lord, I beg your strength, I beg of Thee convenience, I often raise this prayer, but sometimes my heart just side with the enemy, I like playing my Lord himself, I like a little kid playing around, I'm like a child who does not understand what I was doing, what I would do, and for what I do, I do whatever makes my enemies laugh cheers for joy weakness.

But now I must be strong, the defeats are enough to make me learn to be strong, the cheers and taunts my enemy is enough to burn my spirits, I had to get up, I am not a weak soul, I was not physically helpless, I've got faith, I have Lord, I have a duty to My Creator, I have a special duty of My Creator, and I've given a variety of pleasure as a means of my war.

With the permission of Allah, I am ready to change myself weak, a creature who is always cautious to You. Amen.

How do I look at myself?

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 16:02:00 +0000

Perhaps the question is asked of me right now to fill my time, because I rarely communicate with myself, after all this time preoccupied with worldly activities. Sometimes I'm so very proud of myself, my condition at home, at work, on campus, the organization that I follow, and my relationship with my friends, it becomes reason.

But while the other, when I was in the mirror, I felt embarrassed. I like fruit that looks good from the outside, but rotten inside. I always polish what he had seen people with kindness, but to be honest I'm ashamed of myself, I am nothing, I'm only human who often follow their own desires, I feel humble to myself, and felt stigma in front of God.

I always try to run a service to The God, but whether it can make the excuse that I was a sholeh, if that makes me proud ... just honesty I can answer it.

Often I seek forgiveness, ... I pray that all who do not worship solely seen well by others, but to expect God Given Right. I'm not a perfect human being apart from the mistakes, I'm not the instant humans suddenly became sholeh, I'm only mortal who tried to become a man sholeh, therefore please remove dirty things that have to me, so I can receive Guidance of God.

I often look down on me, I know it's not a good attitude, because it indirectly I look down of God, I'm trying to get rid of that attitude. Sometimes I also like prejudiced against you, I know it was wrong, I tried to fix it.

I felt a good drafter, but I'm not a good implementer, many of my plans are not yet implemented. Many hopes have not achieved, many of delayed desire. I understand that life is a process, and success is a process, so from that I realized that I had to skip that process, I know that the process is not a straight path with no obstacles, I know that the process is not like a river without the rocks and waterfalls, I also know the process is not like the streets without the valleys and mountains, sometimes we fall in one, sometimes we have to climb too high.

I must be a human being optimistic, trying to become good human beings, always think positive, trying to become a wise man, always doing good in order to worship Thee, utilizing the best possible time for the things that are useful and helpful to oneself and others . always learn anytime, anywhere. Always Instrospection of self, health care, and good at set times. Began to sort out the necessary activities, kind to everyone, and always make time for rest and remember My Creator.

Small Singers!

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 17:07:00 +0000

Yesterday night, I decided to come home parent, because my mother was previously contacted by phone and asked me to go home. Around 7 o'clock that night, after maghrib, in drizzle, I forced myself to leave the office. Usually, out of the office, I was able to cross the street, to wait Public Car [angkot] , but because the busway project, I was forced to walk again around ½ km past the bridge, because the usual way I passed was bounded of hedge .

from Matraman to Kp.Melayu, I got angkot M.01, the weather was not good, said my friend miss drizzle [gerimis ngrindu...!], because usually when the drizzle, he always remembered by his wife who was at home,. Hehehe ... when we get kp. Melayu, I turned angkot, and go to Kramatjati, I got angkot M.06. Increasingly unfriendly weather, a sudden heavy rain, thankfully I was sitting a little to the middle, if not, can wet clothes. When it is full angkot, meeting 4 people sitting in front of me, and that 5 people sitting with me, and 2 people sitting near the door, and another 2 people sitting in front with the driver. Initially pity also saw 2 people sitting right in front of the door, because they were in the rain, but because they are man, I get a little blase.

At the intersection Otista, angkot was stopped becasuse hit a red light. Then from the side of the road, there are 2 girls who approached. They hobbled, crossing their arms to the chest, a sign of cold. Then they rose, and stood at the door. Angkot start moving along with the migration of traffic lights to green. 2 children were singing softly, with a slightly trembling voice. When the driver know that there are 2 small children climbed angkot, he sent down to them, for fear of falling. But the children were ignored, and continued his singing is not clear. Finally the driver to slow down somewhat, and the boy sang trus. One said, "cool banget ya kak!", Then the only answer "bear wrote, later also used", it seems they both brothers. If I look at their age around 6-8 years of age who do not deserve to make money. In between their songs, they laughed together, who knows what's funny, maybe just the way they remove the cold, or just to entertain themselves.

Sometimes I think, how her parents! The hours should be 2 much for him to stay home and study. But I also do not know, whether they are school! Hmm ... in reverie, I think the more distant, if not the school, perhaps because their parents could not afford their school. Uhh ... I'm so embarrassed of myself, why do they have children, but rather to have been abandoned! a pity the children! They're was enjojed when made it!

Oops ... cursory I think what is the cause of children's? Until the rainy willing to singing! What is only just to eat? Or they have to deposit to their parents! And they will be reprimanded if not put up! Dear,. If you like that, his name suppression. Hmm .... then why should I also think that far ahead, eit ... I just thought, if only we in their position, whether we will do the same thing! Hmm ... maybe! Because the situatiob which forced them to do so.

Arriving at the intersection check mark, they end their song, then took out a plastic bubble, which is rather large, then passed it to the passenger, in the hope someone would give him coins in exchange for her singing services. I reach for my pants pocket, then I found a few coins, worth untold, I immediately picked up and gave it to the 2nd child. Indeed, not many gave him coins, but did not seem sad, or disappointed strokes from their faces, they seemed satisfied with what they get. Finally, when the red lights, they descended from angkot, and move to another angkot.

To be honest I really applaud them, they struggle enviable! [struggle loh! Not ngamennya]. Maybe they were fighting for the interests of others, regardless of their condition, could be due to the rain, the next they are sick. In heavy rain conditions, they forced themselves to work, singing, singing, for the sake of coins whose value may not amount to much. But they think that they've tried, they showed that they could find their own money without having to beg on the roadside, or at a crossroads.

Sometimes we complain when the rain came, and our intention to abort the work. Sometimes we complain cape! Because a day of work. Sometimes we do not remember, that girls are still small cape never complained, or too cold. When we enter the all conditions are not excited, remember that 2 girls!

Policy of a Healer

noreply@blogger.com (sachdar) — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 17:29:00 +0000

Once, long time ago, there lived a young woman named "lien" which has just proposed marriage by a handsome young man. He lived at home with the parents of the boy. The early weeks, he felt comfortable staying there, but the more days, he became angry, because of disagreement between him and her husband's mother. Almost every day, when her husband went to work, he and his in-law disagree, if only with words, but really it was not wearing his heart.

Even her husband, who already knew it, the stress made. All the way he did to reconcile his wife and parents, but no avail. Their egos are equally large, their properties are equally loud.

At the peak of his frustration, lien attempt to resolve the problem at home, he recalled with a physician, a friend of his late father. That day he was immediately to the doctor.

When I got there, he told all its problems at home, and he believed that the way out only, is to eliminate the mother-in-law lives.

Physician, who is famous wise enough, to understand the true problems experienced by the lien, he caught that, the arrival of a lien to him just to ask for the poison to kill mother-in-law.

"Hmm ... if you want to poison him, not with poison whose effects are rapid, so that other people do not have a suspect." Said the physician.

"Then, what kind of poison, whose effects are not fast." Said lien.

"Wait a minute,,," then the physician, went into his room and take something that is packaged in small bottles.

"You cook, cooking most favorite mother-in-law, then sprinkle it" said the doctor, handing the small bottle.

"And one more thing, .. so that no one suspected that you had been poisoned, you should be kind to him "

After receiving the bottle and some advice from a physician, a lien back to his home. He returned with a happy heart, because soon, the problem at home will be finished soon.

Since then, his mother-in-law lien against very good. This time the lien was never refute every word mother-in-law, he was very patient. He also often makes the mother-in-law's favorite dish, and it makes the attitude toward the mother-in-law was also changed. Mother-in-law, do not nag as ever, he loved his son [lien] as his own son.

Since then, the atmosphere of life at home is very comfortable, and full of happiness, because another one was able to appreciate and respect each other. Lien was delighted, because her mother-in-law is not like before, now leads the very fond of her. But ..... but there is one thing that makes a lien worry, she'll feel very guilty about it if, every day of the poison he gave to the mother-in-law will affect mortality. Currently, he does not want the mother-in-law died. Then he immediately went to the doctor who had been given poison.

Lien told his current condition, he did not want to mother-in-law died, because now he was too bad to him. He wants the physician to give a poison antidote.

However, the doctor just smiled, and it makes the lien was surprised.

The physician said that, a small bottle that once he gave a lien, it is not toxic, but only for the elderly rheumatic drugs. He deliberately did that, so that a lien would not open her eyes, that there is a more noble way to solve the problem at home.

After that, a lien grateful to the physician. He got a very valuable lesson at all from the old man.