Habitual Winning Pro Blog

Disown the Soft Corner

2013-06-15T13:10:00.001+05:30

We all have a soft corner where we can be at ease. When we're procrastinating, we've this silent soft-corner we cling to that helps us do more of it and keep our minds away from searching for the solution.

It could be internet, television, some friend or any activity that keeps your mind diverted from what you really want to do so that you can skip worrying about the task itself and let the time pass.

So, what you should do is, find out this soft-corner of yours and break it down, turn down its company whenever possible and probably hand over its control to someone else.

When you disown the very soft-corner that makes you procrastinate, the possibility of diverting your mind into something productive will have a chance of survival and also of regaining clarity of your pursuits.

The first step to learn something new

2013-06-11T16:28:00.001+05:30

Everything you want to learn starts with a desire. A desire to play with it, a desire to spend time with it, a desire to imagine yourself having learned it even if you have not. You see, like everything else, all learning happens when you've a burning desire to learn, without which all your effort becomes inconsistent, insignificant and futile.

Committing Honesty

2013-06-08T19:15:00.001+05:30

I will exercise every day this year. I will spend 5 hours studying every day. I will take you out for dinner next week. I will stop smoking from tomorrow morning. We tell such things to ourselves and others every single day.

We don’t try to be honest. We simply try to look committed. We know what we’re committing to is a complete dishonesty and we won’t last a day and yet we promise such things. We promise vague things and we fail to stand by them, for ourselves and others, and that costs us self-respect, and respect in the eyes of people we care about..So stop this!

Stop promising dishonest commitments. Gauge your promises on the grounds of self-honesty before you commit to them. Make it a habit to commit to yourself before committing to anything that you might not be able to fulfill later...

A life lived without memories

2013-06-05T07:23:00.001+05:30

Very few people live this way, but the only thing you could do is sympathize for those who do. A life lived without having moments so thrilling, so enriching and inspiring that you want to collect them as your memories to grow old with, is a life lived without purpose and maybe, a life not lived at all!

Journal your days, your adventures, memories, pictures and places. Make it as important a task to journal your life’s greatest lessons as saving your hard earned money is because, you’ll need both, and you wouldn’t want to grow old without any one of the two..

Choosing love over easy

2013-06-04T08:15:00.001+05:30

Procrastination sometimes is exactly this – you don’t do what you really want to do but instead convince yourself to choose something because it’s easy. What happens is, when you choose easy, you become like everyone else. Since it’s easy, everyone’s doing it! And no one’s appreciating you for it since everything thinks it’s normal. Life feels pretty pointless.

Practice choosing love over easy. Do it because what you find tough and unachievable will one day define you, and only you will be doing it the way you do, and that it will be worth it.

Shifting Perspectives

2013-06-03T05:56:00.001+05:30

You can’t always change things. Sometimes, even for a short interval, you got to live the pain and repent for things you did in the past. And when you do, a strange negativity fills your head, spreading the anxiety to change it and the paint of not being able to do it simultaneously into your body. So, is there nothing you could do about it?

There’s this one thing – shifting perspectives. Whenever you’re in a situation that can’t be transformed into something better, ask yourself this question – Is there a way to look at this situation with a more enlightened positive perspective?

Shifting perspectives is what you need to do when you can do nothing about the situation itself and it all starts by asking yourself the right questions, and by positively expecting the right answers to arrive, in time...

How to practice kindness

2013-06-02T06:48:00.001+05:30

A lot of us sometimes skip practicing kindness even when we want to. When the moment to practice kindness arrives, we simply can’t do it. Our mind withdraws itself from the heart and all we do is speak out our potent emotions, then bubbling within us. And we repent those words, those deeds and actions lacking kindness.

If you’re on the path of discovery, if you want to be kind to people who surround you, practice looking at them and their actions from their perspective, and when you do, you might find that they aren’t all wrong after all, and that they deserve your kindness.

Then you’ll be thoughtful enough to practice kindness because, for once, you’ll realize.

The consistent loser

2013-06-01T07:31:00.001+05:30

Winner has this strange quality to adhere to their ideas. When they are passionate about something, they put all their focus, attention and effort to bringing that idea into existence. They lose, and sometimes even become habitual to losing, but at the back of their heads is a plan they stick to, a method they want to work, an idea they want to turn into reality, no matter what or how long it takes!

That’s what you need to do for success to! Don’t be a mule at following your ideas. Create a plan, no matter how blur in the beginning, and focus upon it all your strengths as well as weaknesses, and survive because you want to bring that idea to life!

On things you own

2013-05-31T07:00:00.001+05:30

You own this life. You own this day, this moment, this conscious understanding of your self, your beliefs and the consequential actions that come with it. You own your decisions, your purpose, your results. And no one is as much responsible for what you are than yourself. And this theory isn’t going to change anywhere soon..

So, stop being a bystander. Stop letting yourself indulge into things that make you believe you no longer control your life, because that’s the only way you can keep your most precious thing your own - YOU.

How to change

2013-05-30T06:37:00.001+05:30

Change is about moving ahead, trying to create something new out of the old, creating something more useful, easier, simpler, and yet powerful out of what it already is. But, you can’t make change happen when you say “We’ve been doing this all this years and that’s how it’s supposed to be!” but when you’re saying “Okay, let’s change it if there’s something better.”

Passionate People

2013-05-29T22:50:00.001+05:30

Even the most passionate people sometimes discover emptiness. Even the most prolific writers experience writer’s block. Even the loveliest musicians sometimes fall silent. But that’s not the end. Maybe, that’s the necessity of beginnings; new beginnings.

How to make friends

2013-05-28T07:04:00.001+05:30

Be interested. Acknowledge. Keep secrets secret. Comfort those secrets. Care for what they stand for. Playfully accept their inabilities. Applaud their abilities. Stay connected.

Desperate lives

2013-05-26T21:03:00.001+05:30

We live desperate lives. We want instant updates, instant results, instant friendships, love and happiness. And when someone tells us that they can quench our desperation, we readily get lured into their gimmicks, only to realize their words broken and their promises falsified.

Accept this. Everything happens at its own perfect time, after you’ve made enough effort, mental and physical. Don’t let your desperation become your inability to get things done.

How to spend a day

2013-05-25T20:48:00.001+05:30

You could plan a time table, plan next step routines, create a to-do list and get stuff done in that order or even just let the day move you around. But, there could be one more way to productively and joyfully spend a day.

Spend your day using the learn-apply ratio.

Like, if you’re a software developer, spend your morning working on things you know, the projects you need to get done, by applying the knowledge you already have. That earns you money and that’s necessary.

But, when you’re done with it during the day, spend your evenings learning something new. The feeling of having learned something new will enhance your creative motivation and applying what you learned today will help you stay motivated for your work tomorrow.

So, here is how to do it. List down activities you need to get done by the end of the day and allot a part of your day to get it done. Then, allot at least 10-15% of your time to learning something new that you could apply in the future.

“The illiterate of the future are not those who can’t read or write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and re-learn.” – Alvin Toffler

You need a mentor, so find one.

2013-05-24T06:54:00.001+05:30

More than anything else, we all strive to have a source of support. We all search for someone who listens to us, understands our goals, guides us towards something more fruitful and saves us from failures and emotions that come with it.

And, this job is done best by a person you can call your “mentor”. If there is one thing you need to do, when you’re distracted and disconnected, is to find yourself a mentor because when you do, you’ll be focused, you’ll know what to do next and for once, you’ll believe you can do it.

Let your mind go…

2013-05-23T18:47:00.001+05:30

Try to control your mind and it will pull you into wildness. Let go of it and it will guide itself into peace. Try both, then settle for one.

Waiting for Perfect Timings

2013-05-14T08:28:00.001+05:30

I’ll do it when I’ve that thing. I’ll do it when I have that equipment. I’ll do it when I have everything I need to get it done. I’ll do it when my life is perfect. I’ll do it when nothing comes in between me and my goal. I’ll do it when I’m in the perfect state of mind.

If you’re processing thinking patterns like the one described above, you’re so going to procrastinate on it for the rest of your life, because nothing is ever going to be perfect. In fact, even if you have all you need, the end result isn’t going to convince you with its perfection.

Do it or not do it. That’s the only question! Don’t let your self depend on perfect stuff and timing to show up before you’ll make something great happen! You’re not so feeble.

The great conversationalist

2013-05-13T04:19:00.001+05:30

A great conversationalist is a person that converts. He knows what he is talking about. He knows when to make a point or share an opinion and times it well enough to be convincing. A conversationalist is a person who keeps his eyes and ears open and listens and observes more than he expresses. He isn’t overwhelmed about what he wants. He is at ease. He tells stories to back up his ideas. He is a marketer. He is excited. He’s a hero.

Are you a great conversationalist?

Your time is limited

2013-05-11T07:32:00.001+05:30

Remind yourself that your time is limited. Do it again, and then again. Do it when you get up in the morning, do it when you go to bed, do it when you’re waiting for the train to arrive, do it when you’re procrastinating, do it when you’re unhappy and also when you’re happy.

Remind yourself of the moment that just passed by you. Do it so that you are consciously aware of what you could have achieved and what you could do now to make the coming moment achievable…

Acknowledge your meaningful life

2013-05-10T07:18:00.001+05:30

How do you bring meaning into your life? How do you understand what you are, what you have become and what you want to be? One great way to do it is create a journal of change. Make it a habit to write down your journal of life every single day.

Don’t write your life’s story or how you passed your day, but instead, write the lessons you learned, write what you think about life, experiences, etc. Time and again reach back and read what you’d written and marvel at yourself for the meanings you’ve been collecting on the way…

Your life is already meaningful. All you need to do is acknowledge the meaning. If our good ol’ Leo could do it, why not you?

The best way out is always through – Robert Frost

2013-05-08T11:36:00.001+05:30

One of the best things about life lies in its uncertainty. And it all starts from having to take decisions we’re unsure about. But, once a decision is taken and enough acted upon so that there is no turning around, there are only two things you could do – stop there and repent or keep going until it’s done away.

Turning around isn’t possible because though we can get back to our past in the mind, we can’t really alter it and quitting in a way that keep you as miserable for ever isn’t any good option either. If you’re passing through something that makes you miserable, you should keep going, and pursue the direction of the visible light, and do it until dawn.

A simpler way to stop procrastinating

2013-05-04T19:50:00.001+05:30

When you are procrastinating, you’re either like “I can always do it later” mode or you’re in “It’s out of control now” mode. The key is to do something that helps you keep yourself in between the two and focus on the essentials. Find a partner, for example.

Why meditate – the law of attraction perspective

2013-04-29T21:48:00.001+05:30

When you meditate, you withdraw yourself from consciously thinking about things that are hindering your attractions. When you stop thinking about stuff you don’t want, when you let go of your thoughts that eventually hold on to your emotions, you create a space for new attractions to flow in.

After you come out of meditation, all you need to do is stay aligned with yourself and the new attraction you’re expecting by appreciating your current attractions and being grateful for upcoming attractions.

And also, that’s the best way to be alive, isn’t it?

Safe Circles

2013-04-23T20:37:00.001+05:30

As you grow up, you create this safe circle around you. It includes people you’re impressed with, books you’ve found thoughtful and stories and morals you've been collecting all the way. These are the people and things you readily believe into. If some information is made to pass through these safe circles to reach you, you'd readily agree without further effort.

Larger the diversity of information you are into, the more safe circles you need. But, as we grow up, we stop creating new safe circles and allow ourselves to take in information from the same old ones that have limited base of understanding about the newer subjects.

Create new safe circles for all the information you are into and desperately strive to keep them updated with the best people and resources. With best opinions from people you could believe in, you’ll have the power to go places…

"Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth." Marcus Aurelius

A simpler way to cultivate mindfulness

2013-04-23T01:29:00.001+05:30

Count to 10. Start counting whenever you’re distracted. From taking over you anger to convincing yourself to focus, the simplest way to cultivate mindfulness is this – counting.

We often receive this advice – count to 10. And what happens when you do it? As you gradually distract your mind from anger and start counting, you bring your focus back onto yourself, you become aware of your words and thoughts.

The same technique can be used to cultivate mindfulness into our daily lives. Count. Eat. Pray. Love. Count.