Chatting Out Loud

TEN POUNDS LIGHTER…

judi — Mon, 21 May 2012 19:13:27 +0000

Researchers from Ohio recently concluded that men have thoughts about sex 19 times per day…. women on the other hand have 10 sexual thoughts per day, almost half of men. This same study cites women think about food 15 times a day ( more than sex) men think about food 18 times a day an almost equal amount to sex, no big surprise there!! I say all of us both male and female spend a lot of time thinking & lamenting ( a trillion times in our lifetime ) “ if I was only ten pounds lighter ” or “ ten years younger” my life would be so much better… WOULD IT… REALLY??

I say we should stop over thinking what everyone else is doing & just ”eat,drink & be merry (enjoy life in the moment) for tomorrow we shall die”…. That is right from the Bible….

TRASH TO TREASURE….

judi — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 14:41:38 +0000

You’ve heard the saying “ one man’s trash is another man’s treasure “…& sometimes another woman’s ex is another woman’s treasure…or so it has been said. One of my friend’s claims all the exes are exes for a reason…OK I admit when a woman leaves she usually has a pretty good reason & when a woman is pushed like Khloe Kardashian says” sometimes a Bitch is gonna snap” !!… BUT “ maybe she doesn’t have any specific reason, perhaps she is bored or going through a mid life crisis & doesn’t realize what she had until it is gone” I said. Treasures are out there….people dumpster dive & have found many fine things thrown away!! So if you are thinking about putting your man curbside with the trash for pickup, just know that either some foolish, desperate woman or a really smart woman will be happy to take your man flaws & all off your hands !!

A -TISKET A -TASKET…

judi — Wed, 28 Mar 2012 12:06:19 +0000

“DON’T PUT ALL YOUR EGGS IN ONE BASKET”!! This was told to me by my mom a hundred times over the years! It is good advice to follow in life with your finances & in LOVE. Nothing is ever a sure thing so don’t put everything on the line based on a hunch or a dream! Love is not a crap shoot, hedge your bets…have a strategic plan, diversify just like you would with an investment portfolio; ask yourself where do I want to be in 5 years & with who? So many people carefully analyze their financial needs & wants but put little thought & effort into their LOVE investments…then down the road they wonder why their love bank is empty or bankrupt?! Ooops…

JUMP START…

judi — Mon, 12 Mar 2012 15:14:41 +0000

How to be a happy go lucky divorced gal, people ask how do you find so many things to do?? Well it takes a little time & effort but it is painless. First try to hang out with people that are up beat & social . I do have Eeyore friends, the doom & gloom friends who are convinced that” nobody loves them” & being single is their destiny. Being single is a state of mind you can make the most of it or you can make it the worst case scenario. Everyone, even the most beautiful, successful people in the world have had their hearts broken. You can spend years licking your wounds or you can put the experience down as a gift (yes a gift) & move on.

Network… email, facebook, text, send smoke signals whatever form of communication you are most comfortable with let people know you are single & available to do things with. The key is newness break out of your usual routine reach out, there is nothing like jump starting your single life with new activities, connections & friends.

SPOTTED DONKEY…

judi — Wed, 29 Feb 2012 18:14:49 +0000

If you want to know if a doctor you are seeking medical treatment with has a good reputation people say ask the nurses they see & hear it all!! Well the same is true in the dating world. If you are lucky enough to know people who know people chances are someone may know the guy you might be interested in dating. ASK….around….( this goes for men checking on women as well )…I was at the gym with girlfriends & a few single guys names came up & one they said was only interested in dating much younger gals, another guy they said was nice but single for 23 years not really looking for to get married, the third guy was dismissed because he has a revolving door where he greets his dates with wine & has spread himself TOO THIN in the dating community.

Be smart when it comes to dating & if you hear things HEED the warnings! Sometimes people have to unfortunately find out for themselves that… a donkey doesn’t even have spots!!

P.S. Did you know the first Asses came to the Americas on the second voyage of Christopher Colombus …REALLY??!!

PERSONAL POWER…

judi — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 04:23:12 +0000

The mirror in my bathroom has these words written on a piece of paper that I read everyday as I am getting ready in the morning & right before I go to bed…it has helped me realize that when challenges arise in our lives & we ask why is this happening ?? … we should choose to live & follow these rules they will set you free…

1. Make no judgments.

2. Have no expectations.

3. Give up the need to know why things happen as they do.

4. Trust that the unscheduled events of our lives are a form of spiritual direction.

5. Have the courage to make choices we need to make, accept what we can not

change & have the wisdom to know the difference.

Anatomy of the Spirit by Caroline Myss

DOPPELGANGERS…

judi — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 14:00:36 +0000

This is an old German word referring to ghosts of a living person or any other physical double like your supposed twin. For example apparently there is a gal, my double in Scottsdale that has a much more exciting life than me. I will be out running mundane errands & some guy will come up & say hey didn’t I see you last night at such & such bar getting crazy? ”Ahh no I was home watching a movie with my dog last night”. They look at me like yeah right ??

Lately this buzz word has been used to describe men that are attracted to women that look like or have very similar features to women they serial date or even have been married to. For instance men that are attracted to tall, thin blondes are attracted to the gazillion other tall, thin blonde’s in the world. Mmmm…what about what is on the inside DOPPELGANGERS ??

ROCK A BYE BABY…

judi — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 16:14:38 +0000

The word is out, Scottsdale has become apparently the COUGAR capital. Young barely men are approaching my girlfriends & I when we are out. The latest incidence was interesting we were eating in a nice restaurant minding our own business when this young guy ( the youngest I have had the pleasure of being flirted with) comes over & asks us how our food is? Delicious we answered… We assumed he worked there! He doesn’t, he was apparently trolling for what he assumed are cougars looking for baby cubs. He told us about the clubs in old town Scottsdale that he & his homies from Chicago frequent. What are you ladies up to after dinner, ” I’m going home” Ahh the night’s still young… “so are you” I replied..…BYE BYE BABY!

TOOL TIME…

judi — Sun, 13 Nov 2011 09:00:44 +0000

Dating at this stage is not for the faint of heart ! I personally have been out with almost every tool in the shed, the one with the loose screw, the flat tire that needs a pump, the one that gets hammered, then there’s the dust collecting mower & I never saw the miter saw coming!

The competition out there is fierce, beautiful women are a dime a dozen… you need to be more than just another pretty face, you have to believe you are worthy & deserving of someone that is respectful of you. Men are genetically wired to be visual creatures, they are drawn to beauty & they are also by nature TOOLS ( I don’t doubt for a second that GOD is a man, I bet there are Home Depots in Heaven along with Victoria Secret Angels)… tools in all shapes, conditions & sizes looking to nail something at every turn.

We gals need to protect our selves from flying sharp objects, so put your safety goggles on, get that weed eater out & keep on weeding out the bad guys from the good guys…IT’S TOOL TIME!!

PISTOL PETE…

judi — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 20:43:53 +0000

When a woman feels SAFE it is not just about security. I had a girlfriend tell a man she was dating right after her divorce she felt SAFE with him. He became alarmed thinking her ex husband may be stalking her, he thought he might come after him. What he did not understand at the time is that she was trying to tell him she felt SAFE with him in an emotional way, she thought he was honest & had integrity, she began to open up to him, it had nothing to do with security issues!! Although women do want & need to feel protected by their partner physically if they are in harms way, we also need to more importantly feel SAFE in an emotional way. We need to be able to trust our partner when we fall in love & know that we are cherished!! So if and when a woman tells a man they feel SAFE it is a GOOD THING….it doesn’t mean you need to go packing a pistol for Pete’s sake!!