Christopher Evatt blogs

Are YOU the attraction?

Christopher Evatt — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 22:48:12 +0000

What you experience is who you are! Have you noticed how, when you feel good in yourself, life is good? The right people and circumstances naturally flow into 'your life, often with no effort on your part. Have you also noticed that when you are feeling "off", the reverse is true? What is happening is your experiences are reflecting how you are being. They provide a mirror reflection of you. The key to experiencing the life you want on the outside, is to first experience that life on the inside in your imagination, thoughts and feelings. The challenge is when your outer current reality does not match the outer reality you would like. The key to having the latter is to accept the former for what it is, without judgement or resistance, but to keep your mind and feelings on what you do want. Tips: * before going to sleep, run over all the experiences you have had during the day that are in keeping with the reality you wish to experience. See yourself experiencing them and feeling them. * as you wake up, repeat the exercise. Over the coming days you will find the people and your circumstances becoming increasing like the reality you want. So you can track your progress, keep a small note book and each day record your positive changes. Doing this will also spead up the process. What you focus on is what you get and who you are being is what you will experience. I would very much like to learn about your experiences and how you are creating the life you want. Let me know. Best wishes. Chris

Robot or human? Which are you?

Christopher Evatt — Sun, 23 May 2010 02:49:41 +0000

After an intensive interactive session with the 30+ year old executive students at university this morning, one said "I would never express myself like this if my boss was sitting beside me." Another added, "It starts when we go to school. We have to sing a song in front of class and that makes us all feel like idiots. Then we are trained to do as we are told without question. We are never asked what we think." Another student questioned, "Why is it the companies want creativity and innovation, yet when I'm at a job interview I am never asked what I think or anything to do with my creativity or ability to innovate? They only want to know if I can do the job." Are we being trained to shut up and mindlessly take instruction? Perhaps it is no wonder that after the age of 7 children have lost much of their imaginative ability, their willingness to ask "why?" and their willingness to try.. Until turning seven, what is later named failure, was just another fun experience. After then, the word failure is the label given for trying and then experiencing an outcome that was different from expectations... usually others. We are judged and begin to judge ourselves according to others standards. And the outcome? Could it be, one ceases being ones own person and instead becomes the standard model others want us to be? Does one cease to think for oneself and become disconnected and mistrustful of ones own natural wisdom? Have we become like those USA college graduates who were questioned a few years ago to see how well they could appropriately apply in different situations what they had learnt? They were found to have the ability of seven year olds. Unless we are encouraged, we can lose our creative spark, initiative and willingness to experiment and try and to fully live. How do we break free from becoming a human robot? The steps back to sanity and our humanity: 1. recognise what thoughts, beliefs and values you have inherited from others and ask yourself, do these really serve me? 2. go into your heart. Move out of your mind, tune into how you feel and ask how do I want my life to be? 3. ask, what thoughts, beliefs, values and actions will cause me to experience my life the way I want it? Start to think, feel and act accordingly. Use your imagination and envisage you and your life being the way that allows you to feel the greatest amount of joy. The result. The kind of life you have been experiencing that has not worked for you, will simply fade away. You will begin to feel a shift. Rather than finding life draining you, you will have more energy, more enthusiasm, more inspiration and more joy for living. What's more, you will get more done with far less stress and effort. Being true to yourself, rather than a copy of others expectations, is totally empowering. You come alive to yourself and life. You become a full human. Only when you are, can you be of service to others.

The Key to Success

Christopher Evatt — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 18:44:25 +0000

What is the key to success? Success? It is what what you are being as opposed to an external achievement. We usually think of success as the accomplishment of a goal or achieving an ambition. The external success is an effect. The real success is the cause, and that cause is who you are being. All external success is the result of that cause. The KEY to your success is you first being the success you want to experience.How do you do that? Simply see in your mind and feel you have ALREADY achieved the success you want and behave as though you have. Here is an example. There was a team of young teenage ice skaters who had been training and competing for several years and were being coached by a very competent coach. The team was technically excellent yet year after year they failed to achieve a medal. I was asked if I could help. We met for two hours and I had the team members tell each other about the beauty they saw in one another.I wanted them to know and feel their own beauty. Using brightly coloured plastic shapes they together made a picture of the collective beauty they wished to express on ice when they next competed. For a few minutes they looked at their picture holding it in their minds and seeing and feeling themselves expressing that together. A few weeks later at the next world competition they received a silver medal. Their "success" was expressing their collective beauty on ice. By doing that so well they received their medal. The medal was an effect.. Them expressing their beauty was the cause. The key was not focusing on "winning a medal". They had been doing that before and all that did was to increase their stress and decrease their performance. The key was them expressing their best on ice..... the result was the medal. Remember, you are already a success..

What's your purpose?

Christopher Evatt — Tue, 24 Nov 2009 05:24:08 +0000

We have taken 13.8 billion years to get here. According to Dr Jean Houston, that's how long it took after the Big Bang, for you and I to be these people we are. And what's the purpose? To go from that flash of light, gas, into dust, then a cell and finally into you, who is able to read this, is almost incomprehensible. Congratulations, but how did we do it? We were definitely not there at the start. Where was the receipt for you and me? Where was code? So we just formed ourselves as things evolved. And what does that tell us? The universe is super intelligent in coming up with us. I don't know about you, but I could not have designed me even if I was around to do it. So we went from that flash of light, gas and dust to who we are now. So the universe is also creative? Super creative. And unfolding in every increasing complexity. Now we are here. Did we just emerge here on the shores of life by an on-going freak accident or is there a meaning? To get us here from that Bang was a very purposeful process. And therefore everything that took place along the way therefore had a meaning ... a purpose, which was to get us here at this point in time. Now we are here, what is our purpose? What's is the meaning do we wish to create? What is your unique gift or contribution to this unfolding process? And, as we are not here for long, we had better be quick in deciding before we are again dust. But do we really have to bother? Can't we just be mediocre, exist and then die; do what we are told to do; get paid; get a pension; leave? Most probably do that. Fit in and fall off life's disembly line. But is that a life? That's not living. So what is our purpose? What are we living for? What are we giving our lives to? Like the universe, we are intelligent, we are creative and we are unfolding ... expressing ever more of our potential. Life has given life to us, so why don't we return the favour and give life to life, making our unique contribution to the quality of life and the lives around us. Let me know what is the unique contribution you choose to make.

What do you choose?

Christopher Evatt — Fri, 28 Aug 2009 01:28:33 +0000

Because you are free to choose, how do you decide what to choose? The choices you make dictate your future, the quality of your life, your relationships, your well-being, your wealth and health and possibly how long you live. Making your choices is THE MOST IMPORTANT task you have. So how do you decide what to choose? Tips on how to choose: 1. Choose life! When you make a choice ask yourself what choice most serves and supports life. What is life-supporting adds to life .... your life and the lives of others. What you will find is that when you support life, life supports you. I will share an example. When I moved from New Zealand to Finland I decided it would be best if my children could enjoy the company of their Finnish grandparents because my parents were no longer here. Any thought of a career was put behind me. Within days of arriving in Finland my wife talked with the woman who owned a cafe. She said her son was studying international business; a subject I was interested in. I spoke to him and got the name of his university. Then spoke with the dean who arranged for me to meet the head of the business studies faculty. He said "we need a native English speaker in leadership. Would you be interested in lecturing on that subject?" Of course I said "yes". "There's a problem. The students are not interested and only half turn up." "No problem" I replied and left to go to the main book shop to select a book on leadership to study. A week later I was lecturing. A week after that the class was full and the lectures were rated by the students as the best they had attended. 2. What choice best adds to my happiness? Your mind, heart and body is one intelligence sensitive to what is best for you. When you face a choice between two or more alternatives consider each alternative and ask your self "does this add to my happiness?". Sense the reactions in your heart and body. The choice best for you is the one where you feel a sense of fulfillment and increased happiness. It could be called your intuitive sense. Even though the choice you make may not appear rational or sensible you will invariably find that it was the best choice for you at that time. Try this in simple ways first developing and trusting your ability to make the right choices. It is a skill you can easily develop and is a skill used by many, such as business leaders, who are making big decisions. 3. Observe the outcomes of your choices. Although we may think we make our choices on clear rational grounds, many of our choices are driven by our sub-conscious urges that we are unaware of. The outcomes of your choices will inform you about the nature of the inner urges that caused you to make the choice you did. You may find you have a pattern of making choices that are not good for you. For example, you may have noticed that sometimes women who are in relationship with alcoholics leave their relationships only to go into relationships with other alcoholics. Once you are aware of your inner urges you can change your choices to be more beneficial. Later I will explain ways to do that. 4. Sometimes it is better not to choose. Instead you may rather not do anything when faced with a problem. Why? A new manager of the subsidiary of one of the world's largest companies realised the previous manger was always solving problems. No sooner had he solved one problem, another would pop up. As he observed this, he realised that the manager's solutions would often be the cause of new problems. When he took over as manager, he decided not to solve problems but rather wait to let the problems solve themselves. Only, if they did not, would he intervene and often only to ask those who were most affected what they considered the most appropriate course of action. 5. Choose not to do harm to others. This is similar to No 1 and relates to No 2. You will find by choosing not to harm or hurt others will add to your own happiness. Go the next step. Choose to benefit others; not to save them from themselves, but to help them to help themselves. If do the former you could be disliked. If you do the latter, they will be empowered and you may or may not be liked, remembered or even thanked. That is not why you chose to help them to help themselves. The help you give is best if given without thought of reward or thanks. Your reward is knowing that you have the power and the opportunity to make a positive difference in someone's life. When you are aware of your power you become more powerful. When you are aware of opportunities you attract more opportunities. That is your reward. If you have a question, email me. I will read it and, if I'm not too busy, will reply.

Why are you missing your opportunity?

Christopher Evatt — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 13:08:03 +0000

Your best opportunity is always RIGHT NOW. That's right. It is not tomorrow or the next day. It is now! That's the way life works. In every situation did you know there is always the next natural step for you to take? ... the opportunity for you to move forward in your being well. That is how it has always been. Think about it. Look around you and you see nature is constantly providing its full support: the air, the rain, the soil, the food. And this same life-supporting principle is constantly in operation supporting you. Would you like to know how it works and can work for you? The opportunity that is waiting for you is exactly what matches what you need for your progress. It is exactly tailored to fit you and can be much better than what you may have wished for or could reasonably expect. We will look at a real life example that happened me that shows how this life-supporting principle works. As I share the story I will also share the keys for you to find your best opportunity. I was in my early twenties, self-employed in my new business with no capital and too little income to pay the rent for even the cheapest of offices.. This was my situation and I accepted it... no point in feeling depressed, frustrated or worried about it. Rather, I went to the best office area in the city and decided where I would like to have an office if I was able to afford it. KEY 1: Accept your situation, just as it is without judgement. KEY 2: Focus on what would be best for you Having decided on a ground floor and a street front location about four minutes walk from the city's down-town main street, I contacted the property manager of the building and asked if he had space to rent in that building. He said the very space I was looking at, the rest of the ground floor area and the first floor was soon to be vacant and, of course, he was only too happy to meet me to show me what would be available. Key 3. Do not sit and wait for your opportunity. Go for it NOW. We walked through the space and I asked how much he wanted in rent for all the space that was soon to be available. I asked "If I could arrange for it to be rented, what commission would you pay me?" He said 4%. "Could you give me a copy of your lease agreement as I and another company maybe your tenants?" Key 4. Find out what the other party wants. I began by asking a friend if he knew of someone looking for office space and he told me about a book shop having to move and the manager, who he knew, was looking for shop front and storage space close to the main street. I went to see them and asked what his needs were and invited him to look at the space. He looked at the space, less what I would have as my office, and said it was ideal and agreed to the rent which was the rent the property manager said he wanted. KEY 5: Make sure each party, including you, gets what they want. The property managers lawyers drew up the agreements marking my space on the floor plan in red. We signed. I was paid my commission of 4% which I used to pay for a wall to be built between the space I was going to use and the book shop and moved in to my rent-free space on the ground floor just a short walk to the central business district and main street.

What really matters....

Christopher Evatt — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 01:53:42 +0000

Join me with this family. We are in their kitchen,listening. "We are off to the shops..." Before he could finish his five year old daughter grabbed him by the knees and gazing up "daddy, can I come too?" "Of course you can darling. How could we not go without you!" She lets go, jumps with delight, puts on her shoes, picks up her small shopping basket and, skipping behind her father and elder sister, follows them to the car. Her father opens the back door. She carefully places her basket on the seat and moves across and fastens her seat belt and beaming expectantly. They drive off and we follow them into the car park and watch as the three, holding hands, make their way through the supermarket doors. Inside they take a wire shopping basket stopping here and there, filling bags, weighing and moving on. Now they are at the bread and bun section. With an expectant feeling we draw close. The father reaches into a woven basket once filled with buns and takes the last four. Suddenly the little girl cries and, with tears running down her cheeks, she frantically tugs her father's hand. He looks down speechless, bends and, in open eyed surprise, holds her around the waist asking "what is wrong?" "Daddy, you haven't left any buns for the next person." He slowly straightens up, reaches into their basket and thoughtfully takes one of the buns and puts it back. They move on. The five year old is holding her father's hand and skipping.

Have you lost your joy of living?

Christopher Evatt — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 23:57:03 +0000

Would you like to know how to get your life-spark to burst into flame? ...to get that joy of living back? ...to feel the excitement of being alive? Here are my tips. When my flame had gone out and my life seemed pointless, I developed some techniques that helped me move out of reverse gear, back into first, up into second, then third and into top. I had too. If I had not, I would not be writing this. 1. Make your film. The first time I did this I was standing as I could not sit on my bed without feeling I was being sucked into a black hole of ever deadening depression. Shut you eyes. Go back over your life and search for those moments when you felt happy and at your best. Recall humorous, fun situations; jokes. Your good times. At first you may find just one. That's a good start. Focus all your attention on that moment. Take yourself back there. Experience the experience. See the people. Capture the time of day. Was the sun shining? How were you dressed? What were you saying? What were others saying? What was your expression? How were you feeling? Go fully into that moment. Why? Because your body-mind recalls it all. It is indelibly etched inside you, part of who you are. It is you. And as you recall how you were, you return to how you were then. It has not gone. It is like a book on your shelf. You can take it and open it at any time and you are there, fully alive. Once you have your first picture flaming, you will readily be able to recall more and more. With each mental picture, go fully into the situation until it bursts into flame...into your life. The night I first did this I start to laugh and, the more funny situations I recalled, the more I laughed. That was until my land lady started stomping on the floor above me saying "I told you. I told you, you were not have any parties in my house".The laughing stopped. Keep doing this until you have a story board of such mini-film clips to string together and then run them through your mind and feel the feelings you felt with each clip. Now open your eyes and write them down. Every night before going to sleep take out your paper and play your film to yourself. When you wake in the morning, do the same. Even when you are feeling good, do this. It is a twice a day exercise 2. Take a walk on the wild side: Get moving. The more you move your body the more alive you will feel. However, what I am going to recommend, is a walk with a difference. A difference that will make your life-spark flame, raise your self-confidence and bring back that joy of living. This time take your name. Let us say your name is Christopher,like mine. Starting with the first letter "C" make it the first letter of a word that inspires you. "C" could stand for courage. Now see the next lamp post up ahead of you. Walk or jog to that lamp post saying to yourself I am becoming more and more courageous, more and more courageous. See the lamp post as a winning post .. like a finishing tape at the Olympics. When you reach the post firmly reach out your hand and slap the post saying to your self "I AM courage". Of course you say this silently otherwise you may be wizzed off for some serious observation. When you have caught your breath and have fully absorbed into yourself that you are a winner that is courageous, go for the next lamp post. The next letter is "h". This could stand for "humour" or what ever quality you wish to experience in yourself. And do the same again. Once you have gone through all the letters of your name, repeat the process. I started doing this one evening and found myself still running on the far side of my city, from lamp post to lamp post, at four the following morning, totally high. Totally exhausted, I staggered back to where I was staying with the stomping land lady. Was it worth it? Of course it was. It rocketed me out of depression and self pity, right back into life. My life flame was now burning like a mini sun. And the joy? Yes, that is what I discovered. Ones joy is always there. It sometimes needs turning on. That's how I did it. Tell me how you are doing it. I would love to hear so I can share your story with others to help lift them up and inspire them Email me at chris@chrisevatt.com For more idea,s go to my www.chrisevatt.com. View my videos.

Rush Forward Slowly

Christopher Evatt — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 19:06:10 +0000

Festina Lene (Latin. By Augustus 27BC) "Am too busy. No time. Got to rush. The kids can wait. Will be back late tonight. No time for dinner......" Is that you? STOP. You are getting no where fast. STOP and think: You are already there! Today is where you were rushing to yesterday. You have arrived. Congratulations. You made it. Now ... for your sake and our sake...just take it easy. Make the most of this time that you have been rushing to. Why? Because it is the only time you have. And this moment is as good as it gets. As good as this moment can be. It is what it is so accept it fully. And the next moment can and will be different. Time is an illusion: All other time is an illusion in your mind. You know full well the past has gone and the future is not here. The only sensible, rational and meaningful thing to do is to make the most of what you have. This moment right now. What do I do now? There is nothing you have to do. The most meaningful thing to do is to be. Yes, be who you are. That means fully accepting who you are...all aspects...the ones you like and the ones you do not like. And accept what is in all its aspects because all aspects of you and all aspects of your life are equally valuable. Unless you accept them, they become your master and follow you as relentlessly as your shadow. What happens then? You experience: ...being fully present. Your thoughts go still and your mind clears as you become totally aware. ...being fully alive ...feeling fulfilled i.e. without need All tension and your need to rush disappears. Your power is no longer scattered ahead of you causing you to feel powerless and the victim of your present circumstance. Now you feel your power. You are your power and what seemed difficult or impossible becomes feasible and probable. Ideas flow naturally and effortlessly into your mind as you become ready for your next moment. All we need to do is to focus on one option ... one moment... at a time as all other options evolve out of we are focus on. When you are BEING YOU and being fully present in this moment you are perfectly prepared and ready for your next moment. Then you and the next emerging moment are in harmony and are aligned...the perfect moment for you!. Email me your experiences about you being in your state of alignment. E chris@chrisevatt.com Like to hear more? In invite you to visit my web site and view my videos. www.chrisevatt.com .

Stressed out. Worried. Not valued

Christopher Evatt — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 23:25:05 +0000

"We work in environments in which humanvalues are placed a distant second behindeconomic ones. What inspires us to workhard is ignored" Michael Leiter, US psychologist.For many work is not working.Do you feel there is social value in what you do?Do you feel what you do makes your positivedifference in the lives of others... adds to theirwell being?Or do you feel a sense of "profound personalworthlessness" as described by Piece Johnson Howard, author ofThe Owner's Manual for the Brain"?If you feel what you are working at does notreflect your highest aspirations or is not alignedwith your values, what can you do?Here are my tips:1. Express what you stand for in a non-accusing way, explain why and what could be the benefits from whatyou stand for. You may have a way at looking at thingsthat others may not have considered and may find valuable.2. Be a positive role model. Do not complain. Instead walkyour talk and be true to yourself, your ideals and what you standfor. You know, your "actions speak a 1,000 words." Others will be effected. They can't help it. They pick up the quality of your energy. If you do not "walk your talk" you becomedisappointed in yourself. You lose your integrity, your self-estemeand your power. Ultimately, you become depressed.3. "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" as you may have heard.It means you see what you want to see. In every situation and jobthere appears to be both the positive and the negative. I said "appears"because this your interpretation. Look clearly and non-emotionally at your work situation. Make a list of your work-positives and work-negatives. Ask yourself, is this where I wish to be?Is this where I can make my positive difference?Is this where I can make full use of my natural abilities?If you can, stay and make your positive mark.If not, find a work environment where you can.Never ever forget, where you give your time is where you give your life.There is no price you can ever be paid that is worth your life. You are priceless!The world needs you to express the very best of who you are.Nothing less, and life wants you to be fulfilled, putting your passion into action and receiving all the rewards that you deserve.Go for it!Let me know how you are making your work an expression of thevery best of who you are. Send me your story and I will share with othersto inspire them.Email chris@chrisevatt.comView my videos to lean more at www.chrisevatt.com