Be kind to your siblings and they’ll listen to you.

Be kind to your relatives and it will make the evening go much more smoothly.

Be kind to your classmates because school is for learning and growing.

Why should this notion stop just because we grow up?

Are you kind to your spouse? I mean do you really make a conscious effort to be kind?

Do you listen with kindness when they are worried, but you are busy and tired?

Do you respond with kind words when you are annoyed with situations?

Do you show acts of kindness when it’s unexpected?

Showing kindness can do great things for your marriage. It creates an environment of closeness, security, and happiness; all of which lead to great times in the bedroom.

Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness

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He said, “Always keep God first and you’ll be fine. Remember that you marriage comes before anyone or anything. It’s not about your mother, father, sister, or brother anymore, it’s about your marriage. Keep God first and your marriage second and you’ll always be ok”.

That was the first dose of Christian marriage advice I received. Before the wedding no one really gave us advice from a Godly perspective, everyone just questioned our decision.

-Aren’t you too young?
-Are you rushing it?
-You have your whole life ahead of you

While those are valid points that any Christian single should consider before he or she gets married; there’s still so much more to it that barely gets covered.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

This verse has a lot of practical meaning to me. When you have a marriage that’s built on the foundation of Christ, you have an added bonus, not a hindrance. A lot of people will mention the bad things about marriage, but we as Christians should be uplifting couples, as well as educating them.

As this verse points out to me, when all the trials, tribulations, and attacks come down on you, you have someone right there with you to pray with you, support you, and help you make it to the light.

That’s how I see marriage. Yes, it’s important for Christian singles to keep a few basic things in mind. However, it’s not always about getting your life together so you can get married. Sometimes getting married helps you get your life together.

Because let’s face it, you’ll always want more; More money, a better promotion, longer vacations, and if you listen to the crowd that tells you that you must have all these things before you get married, you might find that you’ll never get married.

Still, there are a few things that we all should mention when talking to Christian singles about marriage.

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Needless to say there were some things that I didn’t count on like:

I don’t believe in making excuses for the poor choices that people make, but realistically speaking you have to make sure your partner is sexually fulfilled because as soon as you don’t, that is when Satan will come tip toeing in, and with it, he’ll bring temptation that grows.

Corinthians 7:2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.

So don’t let the “we don’t have time” excuse open up the door to marital dissatisfaction. There is enough time in the day, you just have to chose to use it wisely.

What are you doing when you get home from work? Are you spazzing out in front of the TV, or are you making time for your family?

What would happen if you woke up 30 minutes earlier and spent it with your spouse? Would it ruin your entire day to miss 30 minutes of sleep, or would it enrich your day to start it off with your better half?

Do you plan your time in advanced, or do you just go with the flow? Do you know that by planning in advanced you can find time that you didn’t know existed.

I don’t mean break out a schedule and write down “sex days”, but plan a date night or two every month. See if you can schedule a day off together. If you have kids, plan in advanced when they’ll be away at grandmas or on a school trip so that you two can spend time alone.

We are all busy and we have have commitments. But saying “we are too busy for sex” is really saying “I choose not to plan my time wisely and I really don’t like to prioritize”.

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