Create Your Life

“Your life will be defined, as much by the things you say no to, as the things to which you say yes.”
Anon.

When you are trying to create your best life, it can sometimes be hard to resist temptation to settle for an easier, safer, more secure or simply faster option.

Having a choice isn’t a bad thing; a rich and interesting life will always be filled with options, and compromises are an essential part of getting what you want out of life.

What matters, is that even if you do decide to accept a compromise, you use this opportunity to adjust your plans, not to give up on them altogether.

So today, when faced with a decision, ask yourself, ‘will taking this path feel like a good compromise, or will it leave me feeling compromised’.

Once you know the answer, you can say yes or no to the the option presented, safe in the knowledge that you are still pursuing your best life.

The Difference Between Gratitude & Attachment

There is a difference between feeling gratitude and appreciation for something, and feeling attachment to something.

Appreciation and gratitude are states of pure love, while attachment contains fear – fear of losing or not having what you are attached to.

When it comes to something you want in your life, appreciation and gratitude attracts, and attachment pushes away.

If you are feeling afraid that you will not get what you want, or losing what you have, then you have attachment.

To remove the attachment, keep shifting yourself into a state of appreciation and gratitude, until you can feel that the fear has gone.

Be your potential!

“The difference between what we are doing, and what we are capable of doing, would solve most of the world’s problems.”
Mahatma Gandhi

Are you a dreamer?

Do you ever find yourself thinking about things you could do, or would do, if only time or money or circumstance would get out of your way.

The truth is more often than not, whilst these factors may be less than ideal, what is really stopping you are self-imposed limits.

Limits of belief… in who you are and what you can achieve.

We all know a story of an entrepreneur who started a business on a shoestring, a mother with small children at home, who wrote a best selling novel and countless others about people who had a less than ideal starting point and went on to create amazing things.

So today, I want you to see yourself as one of those people…

Suspend your limits and start to believe that you really can have anything you want from life, if you are willing to go for it!

Why? – because you are worth it

Till next time

Are You Just Mediocre

“Mediocrity is self-inflicted. Genius is self-bestowed.”
Walter Russell

Let me ask you this can you imagine what your life would be like if you only ever gave your best efforts to what you were doing?

Imagine the great heights you could achieve, the things you could accomplish and dreams you could make your reality.

Being the best you can be, doesn’t mean you have to be perfect [listen up procrastinators this is aimed at you]; it means giving 100% of your ‘available’ capacity to the task at hand.

It’s not about what you could have achieved yesterday or what you might be able to achieve tomorrow – it’s about what you are able to give, right here, right now.

Today, I challenge you to be the best you can be, in all that you do.

Your day still might not be perfect and you may still encounter ups and downs, but at the end of the week you will be able to relax, confident in the knowledge that it couldn’t have been any better than it was.

Then enjoy the feeling of having given your all and look at what you actually achieved.

How to Have More Energy

What are the most common causes of feeling flat and lethargic?

Lots of people are living quiet lives of desperation, not invigorating lives of inspiration- not doing what they love nor loving what they do.

They aren’t grateful so they are putting on the brakes in life and lacking the energy and vitality to live.

Are you suffering from a lack of energy?

I think that the people who are in the most risk of ’suffering’ a lack of energy are those who do not feeling like they are living purposefully; they feel lost, overwhelmed and out of focus.

They are scattered and trying to live other people’s lives.

They are the ones also whose diets and lifestyles are also not all that ideal and are out of alignment.

So using the K I S S approach here are seven simple solutions?

1. Know where you are going- Your energy soars when you are clear on your aim and direction in life.

2. Be Thankful and Grateful – When you are grateful for all that you have rather than dwelling on all that you are lacking, you will discover a very powerful source of energy.
Count your blessings daily .

3. Eat Moderately – Many people try to perk themselves up by pigging out but this is definitely not the way to do it.
It has actually been shown that if you eat less you have an increase in vitality and overall energy.
Biological research also shows people who eat less live longer.
Walk away from the table a little less full and you will have a lot more spark to do the things you want to do.

4. Eat wholesome nutritious foods; become aware of what you eat.
Be sure to “eat to live”; not “live to eat”;

5. Drink Water – lots and lots of fresh clean water – stay fully hydrated.

6. Breathe fully and deeply. Here’s a thought have you ever tried to use your diaphragm with breathing exercises rather than the usual way of just lifting your shoulders to breath deeply – try it you’ll be amazed at the difference.

7. Smile- Smiling can change your physiology and make you look up at life a little different.

Did you know that 95% of everything you do is determined by your habits?

From the time you get up in the morning, to the time you go to sleep at night, your habits largely control and dictate the words you say, the things you do and the ways you react and respond.

Successful, happy people have good habits that are life enhancing.

Unsuccessful, unhappy people, have habits that hurt them and hold them back.

One of the most powerful positive habits you can develop is the regular practice of zero based thinking. On a regular basis, ask yourself this question:

“Is there anything in your life that, knowing what your now know, you would not get into again today, if you had it to do over?”

For example, is there any relationship – business or personal – that you would not enter today?

What about your business?

• Are there any of your current products or services you would not offer today, knowing what you now know?
• Is there a market to which you are selling that you would not enter?
• Are there customers you would not take on?
• Employees you would not hire?
• Processes you would not adopt?
• Channels of distribution you would not use?
• Sales and marketing strategies you would not follow?

Have you invested time, energy, emotions or money in any relationship or venture to which you would not commit today, knowing what you now know?

If you answer “yes” to any such question, there automatically follows another obvious question:

Why are you still involved in this relationship, strategy, investment or whatever?

No one with a degree of common sense begins something that does not at least appear to make sense.

When we enter a relationship, hire an employee or make an investment, we do so because we are convinced it will benefit us.

Over a period of time, our needs change.

So do our circumstances.

What made sense yesterday may not necessarily make sense today.

Yet often, we are so busy that we fail to recognize these changes and, out of habit, we find ourselves perpetuating an outdated or outmoded status quo.

In applying zero based thinking, you expose these habitual parts of your life.

Then you can ask a second question:

What are you going to do about it?

Normally, there is one answer: eliminate it from your life. Then move on.

This practice of zero based thinking and taking appropriate action requires courage and commitment.

You must be brutally honest in your self-assessment. And you must be resolute in your determination to change.

Begin now, and make it a habit to regularly ask yourself the zero based thinking question,

“Knowing what I now know, is there anything I would not get into again today if I had to do it over?”

Then take action to eliminate these from your life.

The results can be quite extraordinary, as you eliminate negative, non-functional or even dysfunctional aspects of your life, replacing them with new, positive aspects.

You will have higher energy. You will enjoy greater peace of mind. And you will be far more productive.

The purpose of this blog post is to help focus your attention on those areas of your life that will change your life forever.

This act of observing – focusing upon – these critical life elements ensures maximum return on your investment of time and energy.

Why you ask – well because you are worth it

Success is a journey not a destination

“Without deviation, progress is not possible.”
Frank Zappa

Do you want to change the way you live your life.

Do you sometimes find yourself chastising, critiquing or judging yourself for the things you haven’t done.

I’m not talking about the largely inconsequential things that fill up to our huge to-do lists, but the more serious stuff…

So often I hear people beating themselves up because they haven’t achieved this goal, that dream or some other life ambition.

The truth is, life and success, are a journey, not a destination – it’s not a cliché it’s a fact!

As long as your intention is to live your best possible life, this is the life you will be living… regardless of whether it is filled with all the things you thought you would have or have done, by 30, 40, 50 or whenever…

So now I want you to focus on appreciating the life you already have.

BE GRATEFUL

Forget about all the things you haven’t done and instead express your gratitude for all the experiences your life has been filled with so far.

And imagine the experiences yet to come

Focus on what matters!

“Nothing can add more power to your life, than concentrating all your energies on a limited set of targets.”
Nido Quebien

In today’s 24/7/365 life and lifestyle do you ever feel that you are being pulled in lots of different directions all at once, expending energy on a million different things, but never truly feeling satisfied?

If this is true for you, it could be that you aren’t paying attention to what really matters in your life…

So today, when you are faced with different choices, take the time to check in and compare what you are doing with your life values.

When you are clear on what matters most to you, deciding how and where to focus your energies will be become easy.

Real success is not about having it all…

Here’s the thing, the real juice – it’s about having the things that matter!

What the Law of Attraction can’t change

So you read or heard about the Law of Attraction and that incredible powers that you can tap into by following the Universal Laws.

Well here’s the thing, you might call it the small print

The Law of Attraction cannot change anything in your life that you hate.

Why’s that you ask well its because hate prevents the change from coming.

Since the law is giving us exactly what we are putting out, when you hate something the law must continue to give you more of that and that’s the things/people that you hate.

You will not be able to move away from it.

But there is a way and its this – LOVE

Love is the only way.

If you focus completely on the things you love, then you are on your way to a beautiful life – one you truly deserve

Finding Your True Passion

“Nothing great in the world has been accomplished without passion.”
– Georg Hegel

Let me ask you this – how do you want to live your life? a life of mundane days where one day slips into the next or a full and passionate life where you are experiencing all those rich rewards that are at the end of the rainbow.

So you ask me how do you discover what you’re really passionate about?

How can you separate the dreams from what can actually be the accomplished?

You could be passionate about ruling the world.

Well you know that you’re not the first to dream of that and here’s the thing it can be done.

Alexander the Great ruled almost the entire known world in his time.

So let me ask you – what is your true passion?

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to discover those currents that travel deep inside you:-

• Read your own body language.

  How does your body behave at your present job?

  Does it tense up and ache all the time?

  Do you get panic attacks very often?

  Are you so bored that you snooze at your desk?

  Do you keep looking at the clock as break time comes near?

  Guess what if that’s you

  Then you are in the wrong job.

  You simply don’t have the passion for it.

  When you work on a job that you are passionate about, all your aches and cramps will dissolve.

  You will find yourself working extra hours, talking to your friends about your work and simply bubbling with life.

• What did you love doing as a child?

  Your childhood hobbies and obsessions can indicate a genuine passion.

  Education and family pressures often move us away from our true calling.

  Did you love bikes or gardening or trekking?

  Then maybe a career in the automobile or landscaping or travel industries is where you should be!

  So sit back and recall your childhood and write down your memories.

  What made you smile then may still make you grin today and in the future.

• What do you love doing now you are an adult?

  You might very well have passionate side pursuits even today.

  Do you love your moonlighting job more than your regular day job?

  Many corporate types work the night shift as chefs or night school teachers.

  Start spending a few hours every day on your pet hobby.

  It may just hold the key to the real you!