My name is Serita Wesley and I am a casting director at Left/Right, an award-winning television production company based in New York City. We are currently developing an exciting new documentary series about individuals who are ready to reveal a secret to their loved ones.

Currently I am focusing my search on individuals who actively participate in cross dressing and would like to open to their friends and family about it. Seeing as though you are affiliated with a site that helps people open up about their true feelings, I thought you might be able to help get the word out.

The series will showcase men, women & couples who have struggled with the decision of whether to share a particular secret with their loved ones, and who are currently ready to reveal the truth. We are especially hoping to highlight the courage and strength that comes with the decision to divulge a secret that may be proving too painful or otherwise difficult to continue keeping from others.

We are very interested in hearing from anyone in your network whom you feel may be ideal for our project. Our deadline for submissions is Friday, April 29th. For more information, including details on how to submit, please contact me via email at SWesleyCasting@Gmail.com or SWesley@leftright.tv, or by phone at 212.695.2092.

Left/Right is a nonfiction television production company that specializes in telling real stories about extraordinary people. Our recent series run the gamut from the Emmy-winning Showtime documentary series This American Life to VH1’s formidable competition show I Want to Work for Diddy, to the dramatic new Planet Green series Boomtown.

If you are interested in learning more about Left/Right, we encourage you to visit our website: http://www.leftright.tv.

Thank you for your time, and I look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

Serita Wesley

When I got older I moved out and got married after a couple of years my wife found out about my crossdressing and left me. As I have my own place I am always dressed up. I have not been out in the day time dressed up, but have been out dressed up late at night to go to the cash point and to just walk the streets near my place.

Love Tracyxxx

My big but opening secret
I've always been the one in my family to do things right and was the "good" boy. If anyone saw me in my family they knew I was the one they could trust to stay out of trouble. Around sixth grade I was hitting "The Growing" stage but also found my moms bra. I would sneak her bras into the restroom and put them on. It made me feel so good. So I did it for a little while till my mom found one and asked "Who is taking my stuff ! ". I didn't answer to her nor did my younger bros. So I stopped for a while and didn't start until high school again cause I started feeling the urge again.

I still cross-dress to this day but I finally told a cousin of mine and she kind of thought it was cool cause we wear the same size clothing. I plan on telling one more cousin cause I know she will understand. It is scary but it gives me comfort to be able to share this with someone. I love dressing up cause it makes me feel sexy, beautiful, and plus it kind turns me on hahaha. Right now I am an indoors dresser but eventually plan on taking it to the streets.

So if anyone can give some good advice one looking legitimate as possible I would love all comments. Hope all of you feel as good as I do and keep being super sexy girls!!

Love, Alexis Marie Salazar.

Jorja's little secret
As far back as I can remember I enjoyed wearing panties and nighties, I honestly have no idea where these feelings originated from but I ran with it. I can remember wearing my older sisters panties and bras. My mother caught me one time and I had no idea what to say to her. I think I was about 14 or 15. Since then I find myself being intoxicated by these items. I would always find a reason to go to a friends house where i could sneak a peak at there mothers or sisters panty drawer. Sometimes I would come across a item that i must have and take one or two of them.This went on for years obtaining quit a collection of lingerie. I would wear these trophy's if you will most every night and under my school clothes. I know that was wrong to steal them and to this day i feel a little bad but in my case how was i going to get them.

Moving ahead some 15 years ,through many girlfriends some understood some did not, then a long comes my wife who embraced it to the fullest. She would always buy me new items and knew exactly what i liked. One night she brought a man home and said I was to go get dressed for him. Needless to say i was shocked and played it off but she demanded and took me to the bedroom where she lay out this outfit for me and said get dressed. I did as she said and from that moment on i knew what i must do. i divorced her sometime later.

I now have my own home and yes my own panty drawer, I truly enjoy the feel of womens undergarments on my body ,Standing in front of a full mirror dressed in some red panties ,red bra ,garter belt ,stockings and 5" pumps is quit pleasing to the eye. Someday I will get enough nerve to go out into the night air farther than my front door.

Thanks Jorja

If my girlfriend was against it I don’t know what I’d do. It’s not a bad or wrong thing that we feel and it shouldn’t be ignored. I’m happy and in love with my alter ego I hope you can be to.

XXX

Samantha.

photo credit: Valentin.Ottone

Hi, I have always felt a compulsion to wear feminine clothes particularly lingerie. I never told my girlfriend about this because I was scared about how she might react. We often work diffrent shifts and one afternoon I couldn't resist the urge and dressed in some of her lingerie. I then applied make up and felt great so sexy and natural and...right. I looked my self up and down and felt a wave of sexual excitement wash all over me. Then I heard the front door close. SHE WAS HOME. I scanned the bedroom and saw the clothes everywhere there was nothing I could do. I waited for her to walk in to be honest I think deep down I wanted her to know about this and accept it. She walked in and looked shocked. I didn't know what to say. What could I say. "What are you doing?" she asked shocked and confused. I told her how I felt and how it made me felt. She took a moment to have a cigarette and then as I dressed back into my old clothes she stopped me. "What are you doing?" she asked. I replied that I was getting dressed. "No I want you back in those you sexy slut". She told me how my behind looked great in the red knickers. I felt so content. Sex was amazing and now we regularly incoporate it. I feel happier and the relationship is stronger.

Samantha
Los Angeles, the United States

http://www.amybloom.com/?page_id=16

I read the cover and the Acknowledgements and Preface in the library. Then,
when I came home, of course I read "Conservative Men in Conservative
Dresses" first, then read "Afterward". Then I read "Conservative Men in
Conservative Dresses" again. Then read "Afterword" again. Then I read
"Hermaphrodites with Attitude" and finally, read the first section of the
book, "The Body Lies."

Nobody is going to like what I am going to say, but crossdressing is a form
of sexual entertainment. Where sexual entertainment starts in any activity
is a fuzzy line. Certainly, by the time you are looking at a commercial on
television for just about anything, you are into the realm of sexual
entertainment. Then, it becomes a matter of intensity as to whether society
considers it pornographic.

In a lot of ways, crossdressing is the same as looking at porn or going to
the jiggly room. In one very specific way, it is different. There is some
desire on the part of most crossdressers to see the reactions of others to
our presentation of femininity. It starts with our own reactions to seeing
our selves dressed as a member of the opposite sex and then there is the
further desire to see the reaction of others to our presentation. We know
that the reactions can be wildly varied and it is the excitement of the
possibilities that is so stimulating.

And we, who are the creators of these feminine images, also have unfettered
access to these women that we have created. (Although, physically, it is
difficult to ... mentally, we see no restriction.) And, its a two way
street. As a man, I can have the woman I make myself into any time I want
and as the woman I make myself into, I can surrender myself to the man who
made me without consequence. Wanda Joy would never surrender to another
man, she is mine and mine alone. Narcissism to the nth degree.

My wife gets it. I have never put it in these words before or had it so
cogently put together before, but this wasn't Amy Bloom's conclusion. She
feels sorry for most of us, if I am reading her right, because what
heterosexual crossdresser's do is so vividly against societal perceptions of
normal that we are jailed by the doing of it. Nobody, but another
heterosexual crossdresser, has even the slightest chance at understanding us
and even supposedly sexually liberal communities like homosexuals, lesbians
and transsexuals barely tolerate us.

But now, I understand that the man who cheats on his wife may be more common than me, but he is doing the same thing with another woman that I, in a way, do with myself. That is, he pursues an image of a woman to meet his needs. (Which is to say about the cheating husband, he really could care less about the actual woman, it is the image that he has in his mind that he is in pursuit of.) On the other hand, crossdressers don't actually physically cheat on their wives with another woman. A guy sitting in the jiggly room for the 500th time is doing the same thing that we are doing, but he is too lazy to put on the nail polish, makeup, wigs and heels.

Crossdressers aren't normal in all ways except crossdressing.
Unfortunately, (and here is where everybody is going to blow their top)
crossdressing is normal aberrant behavior for men. By that I mean, although
looking at pornography, going to strip clubs or objectizing women in
whatever way we men do it is generally perceived as something men ought not
do, most men at some time in their life do it. Crossdressing is simply one of those things on that limb of the sexual identity and behavior tree that entertains us.

It doesn't even have to be that stark an action. It could be seeing the woman as the weaker sex, believing that you should drive the car, just because you are the man. The same prejudices that make us think that secretaries, nurses and elementary school teachers are women, while police officers, construction workers and airline pilots are men are subliminally at play.

What disappointed me with Amy Bloom's analysis is that she doesn't pick it
up, (and I add in a way that will offend women) probably because she is a
woman. While she does pick up that sexual identity and preference of sexual
partner are not the same, not on the same branches of the tree, she misses
(almost deliberately) what becomes so evident as you read the anecdotes of
the people she met to write about in her book. Crossdressing is a manly
thing to do.

Transsexualism and Hermaphroditism is not on the same branch. Where she
does an excellent job explaining the intersexed, and a fair job with the
transsexuals, it seems she was somewhat confused, even though amused, by
crossdressers. Even in the order of her book, she presents transsexuals,
then crossdressers, then intersexed. Yet, her own discussions show that
professional medical intervention is almost always required for intersexed
individuals and almost always sought by transsexuals, while crossdressers
never need medical attention simply for crossdressing. (Which is not to say
that crossdressing can not be a manifestation of some other physiological or psychological condition requiring professional intervention. In other words, if you are crossdressing because you are a transsexual or if you crossdress as a part of MPD or other issue.)

Her book makes it clear, even if she doesn't acknowledge it, that gender
identity and sexual preference is not a spectrum. It is a tree with
branches.

A P.S.

NORMAL only deals with F-t-M transsexuals "The Body Lies: F-t-M
Transsexuals", who are segregated from "Conservative Men in Conservative
Dresses, Heterosexual Crossdressers." The third section of the book refers
to "Hermaphrodites with Attitude: The Intersexed" and the book concludes
with her discussion "Afterword: On Nature." She makes statement which
assume facts not in evidence, particularly when it comes to crossdressing.
"No one knows why the loss of the mother early in life lead some men to have
extramarital affairs and others to crossdress." [NORMAL pg. 134] Tiger
Woods and I still both have our mothers.

If the proper word for crossdressing people on the sexual entertainment
branch is transvestism, I can take that. After all, I call my self a
trans-dress-tight. Sexual entertainment, by my definition, does not mean
that the person is necessarily actually having sex, but that they are
engaged in some desired activity where sex is a component, either because of
sexual identity, sexual orientation, sexually stimulating acts as a
participant or observer or some combination thereof.

Amy Bloom writes: "The crossdressers of Tri-Ess insist that crossdressing
is not about sexuality, and therefore not about sex. They are right about
the first, and we can all stop assuming that any man who wears a dress is
gay. But they are not right about the second, and their assertion that
crossdressing is their creative expression of both genders is unsettling
because it is at such odds with their behavior, their natures, and their
marriages. These men are as far from gender warriors and feminists as
George W. himself." [NORMAL, pg 95] I do not agree that you can generally
say it is at odds with their behavior, their nature and their marriages.
Instead, I believe that you will find specific instances of conflict if that
is all you seek. If you look for harmony, I believe you can find that as
well. I'd be willing to bet that there are men who dress up like a maid to
clean around the house on a fairly regular basis. But like Amy, I didn't do
the research or ask the questions to support that conclusion.

My point is that Amy Bloom has adopted this continuous spectrum belief. I
say our sexuality, both in how we express gender and the sexual practices we
find preferable, are individual choices based upon the radical concept of:
What We Each Individually Like. Therefore, when she looks at a group that
has crossdressing in common, and concludes that everyone who crossdresses fits neatly on a line between the straightest straight guy and the gayest gay guy, (which is not exactly what she says but is a fairly drawn summary of where she leaves it,) she is wrong.

But, to be fair to Ms. Bloom, her article on the Intersexed really got me to
thinking and taking more seriously the biophysical component of gender
assignment, expression and sexual practice. We are not simply the creatures
of our minds. Too many presumptions are drawn too quickly about sexual
orientation and identity. Too many people are too eager to enforce what
their experiences have told them is NORMAL on others.

What I realized, contrary to Ms. Bloom's analysis, is that crossdressing was
more NORMAL than even I thought prior to reading her book. Not because of
her statements, but because I realized that she took a position that, (and I
know this is sexist sounding) only a woman could take. She was blind to the
fact that the men she interviewed who were crossdressing enjoyed
crossdressing. What became obvious to me was that the guy sitting in the
jiggly room or watching porn on the big screen at home is really doing the
same thing as (at least some) crossdressers, enjoying a form of sexual
entertainment.

I think the key is to refrain from judging anyone. But, one more thing is
key, to have compassion for people who experience internal conflict over who
they are simply because they occasionally put something on the outside of
their body which may not be consistent with their genetic sexual identity.
Compassion is too lacking in almost every aspect of our society anyway, so
it is no wonder that it is missing here.

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Enjoy,

Wenjoy.

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