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		<title>The Etiquette Of Modern Dating</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[The norms and etiquette in dating have evolved through the years.  As compared to previous centuries, dating in the twenty-first century is much more relaxed and less structured. Dating etiquette has changed and some practices which were considered taboo then are now accepted or tolerated.  For example, men were expected to pay for all expenses in dating especially meals in olden times but going Dutch is now common and more acceptable.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1173" title="modern dating" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/modern-dating.JPG" alt="modern dating" width="249" height="448" />Dating indeed has come a long way. As a social activity and a form of courtship, <a class="ld_link" href="http://www.datingxlence.com" target="_self" title="dating">dating</a> is an essential component for the continuation and stability of any society. The practice of dating and the rules that come with it usually differ from one society or cultural tradition to another.<span id="more-1172"></span></p>
<p>The norms and etiquette in dating have evolved through the years.  As compared to previous centuries, dating in the twenty-first century is much more relaxed and less structured. Dating etiquette has changed and some practices which were considered taboo then are now accepted or tolerated.  For example, men were expected to pay for all expenses in dating especially meals in olden times but going <em>Dutch</em> is now common and more acceptable.</p>
<p>As opposed to the etiquette in traditional dating, modern dating etiquette is much more open.  Though the male and female expectations of a date differ, many specific customs or actions depend largely on its context.  Nevertheless, the age-old essentials in dating like respect and honesty remain.</p>
<p>If you are in the dating game, here are a few considerations that you would want to bear in mind to guide you through dating in modern times:</p>
<p><strong>Context</strong>.  Concerns on dating etiquette depend mostly on its context.  Considerations like how well you know your date, your age and your date’s age, how formal the activity or the date is, and several other factors determine how you should act and behave on your date.  While taking advice and expectations into account, always bear in mind the context on which the dating activity stands and how it affects your date’s expectations at the same time.</p>
<p><strong>Punctuality</strong>.  Whether you are a man or a woman, it is never good to keep your date waiting for you.  Always make it a point to be punctual because this will speak volumes about you, your personality, and your values.  Some say that it’s okay to be fashionably late but if you’re at least half an hour late, you will not make a good impression on your date.  In these times when almost everybody has cell phones, contact your date if you know you are going to be late.</p>
<p><strong>Appearance</strong>.  When you are on a date, especially on your first date with a particular person, pay attention to your appearance.  Try to look your best without seeming to be trying too hard.  Your choice of outfit should be according to the occasion or place where you are going with your date.  If you are going to dine out in some fancy restaurant, for example, dress appropriately.  If it is just a casual date and you would be walking in a park, dress comfortably.  If you have no idea where your date will take you, ask for a hint so that you can dress appropriately.</p>
<p><strong>Money Matters</strong>.  Money issues like questions of payments on dates are always an awkward matter for most people.  In traditional dating, it is the men who always pay but in the modern times, many women find this practice quite condescending.  An important point to remember here is if you were the one who asked for the date, expect to be the one to make the payments.  This is quite tricky though.  You can read your date’s expectations without asking outrightly by being sensitive to your date’s body language, tone of voice, and subtle hints.  If you’re still not sure what to do, better offer to pay because it definitely is better to be perceived as excessively generous than being considered a cheapskate.</p>
<p><strong>To Kiss Or Not To Kiss</strong>.  Yes, those awkward doorstep moments can be quite stressful especially if you are just on your first date. For this situation, you need to read your date.  If you feel that there is no spark or chemistry between the two of you, a simple handshake or a brief kiss on the cheeks is okay.  If you are not that attracted to your date and you just agreed to the date for some reason, bring your own transportation, if applicable, so that you can part ways right after the date and avoid this very awkward doorstep moment.</p>
<p>I hope this has been of some help&#8230;</p>
<p>Billy Baker</p>
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		<title>Here Is How To Make Your Long Distance Relationship Work</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Some say that absence makes the heart grow fonder.  On the other hand, there are people who believe in the maxim, “out of sight, out of mind.”  Whatever other people may want to believe, the importance of constant and open communication between partners is very important, whether it be a long distance relationship or not.  With open communication lines, the couple can talk about any problem that could arise and be in the better position to resolve it the earliest time possible.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1168" title="long distance relationship" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/long-distance-relationship.jpg" alt="long distance relationship" width="234" height="170" />Being in a long distance <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/relationships/" target=" " title="relationship">relationship</a> can be really challenging.  While it takes quite an effort to make an ordinary relationship work, the long distance between couples is an added challenge that needs to be overcome for a long distance relationship to work.  Aside from the usual issues in any relationship that can be addressed by open communication between partners, the distance compounds certain problems and the communication process can also be affected when the partners live far apart.<span id="more-1167"></span></p>
<p>Long distance <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/relationships/" target="_self" title="relationships">relationships</a> over an extended period of time are harder to work out compared to situations when couples are apart for only a short time.  Extra efforts from both partners are needed to make it work.</p>
<p>Some say that absence makes the heart grow fonder.  On the other hand, there are people who believe in the maxim, “out of sight, out of mind.”  Whatever other people may want to believe, the importance of constant and open communication between partners is very important, whether it be a long distance relationship or not.  With open communication lines, the couple can talk about any problem that could arise and be in the better position to resolve it the earliest time possible.</p>
<p>It can get frustrating sometimes but letting such a bad emotion prevail can harm a long distance relationship.  With the advances in technology nowadays, especially in internet and communication technologies, communication between couples is not that hard compared to previous decades.  Here are some ways to make your long distance relationship work:</p>
<p><strong>The Importance Of Keeping In Touch</strong>.  If possible, keep in touch daily.  If large monthly phone bills is a concern, you can send your partner emails, cards, and letters.  With internet technology, you can talk online anytime you want, do video calls, and see each other on webcam.  With regular communication, you can get updated about your partner’s activities, friends, problems, difficulties, achievements, and the like.  You can also update your partner with what has been going on with your life.</p>
<p>You may live far apart and you can not even hold hands as often as you want to, it is still very important for couples in a long distance relationship to share not only information about their activities and friends but, most importantly, to share lives.</p>
<p><strong>Trust Is The Key</strong>.  The minute you agreed to a long distance relationship setup, you have also committed yourself to make it work despite the many challenges that usually beset this kind of relationship.  One major culprit why there are long distance relationships that don’t work is suspicion.  Being far apart and not being able to see your partner as frequently as you want to, even small and innocent things like your partner not being able to reply to a text message immediately or unanswered calls can tend to give way to suspicious thoughts that has the potential to break a relationship down.  This is why trust is so important not just for any relationship but especially for a long distance relationship.</p>
<p><strong>Keep The Fire Burning</strong>.  Being far apart is not a reason to allow your love and passion for each other die or flicker out.  Both partners would need to profess their love and commitment to one another as much as possible.  The little things that you do for your partner helps a lot in keeping the fire burning in your relationship.  You can also consider other creative means of expressing your feelings to your partner in whatever medium that you can think of.  You can also surprise your partner with a bouquet of flowers or an unexpected visit to keep the passion alive.</p>
<p><strong>Be Patient And Focus On The Future</strong>.  Patience really is a virtue especially when it comes to making long distance relationships work as it usually takes time for your long term plans to work out.  It would also be good if you can meet up or hold reunions with your partner from time to time.  Having a date is something that can greatly help your relationship, especially through rough times.  Focus on the future and make plans to eventually live in the same city if possible.</p>
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<p>&#8230;thanks, Billy Baker.</p>
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		<title>What You Need To Know About Speed Dating</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 25 Aug 2010 02:04:55 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Speed dating is a way to meet other single people.  During a speed dating event, you will either be one of those who go around in a rotation or the one seated.  During this activity, you can meet and talk with participants of the opposite sex for anywhere from 3 to 10 minutes.  Each participant will be given a sheet where you mark down who you feel compatible with.  This sheet will be collected by the organizers at the end of the speed dating event.  If two people select each other, both interested parties will receive the contact information of the other.  Then, it’s all up to you from then on.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1164" title="speed dating" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/speed-dating.jpg" alt="speed dating" width="237" height="242" />Speed-dating is something new to most people, the kind of thing that one only hears about or sees on TV.  Since it is relatively new, many people harbor the misconception that people who participate in speed <a class="ld_link" href="http://www.datingxlence.com" target="_self" title="dating">dating</a> activities are desperate to find a partner or are lacking the ability to meet someone the traditional way.  Truth is, many speed daters do not fall in any of the said categories.  Most speed daters usually do not have the time to pursue traditional courting or are just trying something new for a change.<span id="more-1163"></span></p>
<p>Speed dating is a way to meet other single people.  During a speed dating event, you will either be one of those who go around in a rotation or the one seated.  During this activity, you can meet and talk with participants of the opposite sex for anywhere <strong>from 3 to 10 minutes</strong>.  Each participant will be given a sheet where you mark down who you feel compatible with.  This sheet will be collected by the organizers at the end of the speed dating event.  If two people select each other, both interested parties will receive the contact information of the other.  Then, it’s all up to you from then on.</p>
<p>In the limited time that you spend to meet and greet with other speed daters, you are all trying to set an impression while trying to determine whether or not there could be a possibility of a building a <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/relationships/" target=" " title="relationship">relationship</a> with anyone of them.  Unlike in <a class="ld_link" href="	http://www.datingxlence.com" target="_self" title="online dating">online dating</a>, speed dating allows you to actually meet other people in person.  If you can’t find someone who interests you in a speed dating event you attended, you can still make friends with them.  Who knows, your new friends could introduce you to someone who is right for you.</p>
<p>When attending a speed dating event, here are some do’s and don’ts that you may want to consider:</p>
<p><strong>Don’t Drink Too Much Before Speed Dating</strong>.  Many speed daters, especially first timers do have a drink or two to loosen up and to help them talk more freely with other speed daters.  However, if you drink too much, get tipsy, or get drunk, nobody would want to meet you.  <em>You will only be making a nuisance of yourself if you’re drunk</em>.  If possible, don’t drink at all.  If you’re sober, you can make good decisions, be more focused, and be able to make the best impression that you can in the limited amount of time given to meet and greet with other speed daters.</p>
<p><strong>Do Relax And Be Yourself</strong>.  It’s easy to get uptight especially when you are nervous.  Just relax and be yourself.  After the third or fourth “hello, how are you,” it takes quite an effort to seem interested and you will sound fake.  Loosen up and enjoy the experience of meeting new people.  You see, it is much easier to talk to someone when you are relaxed.  Moreover, you can focus more on getting to know the person across you if you relax rather than thinking about how nervous you are.</p>
<p><strong>Do Not Do All The Talking</strong>.  Of course, how can you get to know other people if you do all the talking?  Some people who feel nervous just rattle on and on but others might perceive it as conceit or as being preoccupied only with themselves.  This is not a good impression to make.  With that said, if you encounter somebody who does all the talking, do not let them.  To have an equal opportunity to get to know each other, you would want to have an equal amount of talking.</p>
<p><strong>Do Keep an Open Mind and Enjoy the Experience</strong>.  Remember that when speed dating, not everybody participating in it is not in the same boat as you are.  You may meet some weird people or those with offensive personalities but you also have the opportunity to meet some genuine people, even the special someone you have been waiting for.  You can go with a bunch of friends to a speed dating event to help take the edge off.</p>
<p>&#8230;hope this is of some help,</p>
<p>Billy Baker</p>
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		<title>What To Do When Your Ex Dates Your Friend</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 21 Aug 2010 08:41:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[It definitely is not easy to see your ex and your friend together especially if they are lovey-dovey and all.  The feelings of hurt, frustration, anger, of being betrayed and losing your confidence can be overwhelming.  These could cloud up your perception of things and would make it really difficult for you to determine the right thing to do.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1160" title="ur ex dates friend" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/ur-ex-dates-friend.JPG" alt="ur ex dates friend" width="261" height="162" />Getting over a failed <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/relationships/" target=" " title="relationship">relationship</a> can be difficult, especially if you found out that your ex is <a class="ld_link" href="http://www.datingxlence.com" target="_self" title="dating">dating</a> your friend.  This can be very hurting and handling this situation is not easy.</p>
<p>It definitely is not easy to see your ex and your friend together especially if they are lovey-dovey and all.  The feelings of hurt, frustration, anger, of being betrayed and losing your confidence can be overwhelming.  These could cloud up your perception of things and would make it really difficult for you to determine the right thing to do.<span id="more-1159"></span></p>
<p>When this unfortunate incident happens to you, here are some of the things that you could try to do to ease your pain and to deal with the situation as maturely as possible.</p>
<p><strong>Keep A Low Profile</strong>.  If you want to heal your wounds, it would be wise to keep a low profile from your ex and your friend for the time being.  There is absolutely no point in getting super chummy with them as this would be like rubbing salt on wound.  It will not help you in any way.</p>
<p>If you spend time with them, you will only get hurt in the process.  If they behave like nothing is the matter, you might feel that they are being insensitive.  If they bend over backwards by being accommodating and sensitive, you might feel like an object of their pity.  These scenarios will only make things worse.</p>
<p>On the other hand, it will not be wise to burn bridges.  Who knows, you may all still be good friends years from now?  Moreover, lashing out at your friend or ex, or both, will not do any good to make the situation bearable.  Instead of looking like a sore loser, face them with dignity and self-confidence.</p>
<p><strong>Don’t Be On The Rebound</strong>.  It is oftentimes easy to be on a rebound when you’re really hurt and you want to disperse your hurt feelings.  This idea is a huge mistake.  You cannot really move on if you just use another person to transfer your attention to.  If you do this, you are being unfair not only to yourself but most especially to that person.</p>
<p>Take time to heal.  People get hurt all the time and many were able to rise from the situation they are in and emerged as better persons from the process.  We all stumble and get hurt a lot of times in our lifetime.  A failed love affair is only one episode of your life.</p>
<p><strong>Expand Your Social Circle</strong>.  Instead of moping and crying over your broken heart, it is better to expand your social circle.  Don’t dwell on your feelings toward your ex and your friend but focus elsewhere.  You see, the more you contemplate on it, the harder it will be for you to get over it.</p>
<p>You can make new friends or get a new hobby.  Join groups or organizations of people who share the same interest as you.  Getting out and seeing other people and new friends will help you ease the pain that you are going through.  Moreover, these will help lift up your spirits and you will again gain self-confidence in the process.</p>
<p><strong>Everything Happens For A Reason</strong>.  Sure, you’ve heard this a lot of times.  However cliché it may sound, it is true that there is a reason for everything.  If your relationship with your ex did not work out, there someone out there who is just right for you.  Be assured that the right person will come and it often happens when you least expect it.  Meanwhile, learn every lesson you can get from the experience and use it to make you a better person.</p>
<p>&#8230;hope that helps,</p>
<p>Billy Baker</p>
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		<title>The Secret To Improving Your Relationship With Your In-Laws</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Whether you like it or not, you have to deal with in-laws when you marry the one you love.  Some say that it is not only your spouse that you marry but you also marry your spouse’s family.  Though there are some people who would disagree with this view, the fact still remains that you [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1157" title="inlaws" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/inlaws.jpg" alt="inlaws" width="288" height="216" />Whether you like it or not, you have to deal with in-laws when you marry the one you love.  Some say that it is not only your spouse that you marry but you also marry your spouse’s family.  Though there are some people who would disagree with this view, the fact still remains that you would have to deal with your spouse’s family one way or another, whether you like it or not.<span id="more-1156"></span></p>
<p>While the success of a <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/marriage-tips/" target="_self" title="marriage">marriage</a> rests mainly on the spouses, how they deal with their in-laws can also strain their marital <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/relationships/" target=" " title="relationship">relationship</a>.  It does not mean that when you have a good relationship with your spouse that you will automatically have a good relationship with you in-laws.  This is an entirely different matter and you should work on it if you want to improve your relationship with them.</p>
<p>Many in-laws tend to be overprotective with their children and find it hard to let go when their children want to start a family of their own.  There are also instances when they can’t help but meddle or put their fingers into your family affairs.  Some are even the epitome of the “monster-in-law” depicted in the media.</p>
<p>Whatever the attitude of your in-laws may be, there are certain things that you must do to improve your relationship with them:</p>
<p><strong>Your Attitude Towards Them Matters</strong>.  The attitude of your in-laws toward you is something that you cannot change.  Your attitude to them, on the other hand, is something that you can.  You must first accept this if you want your efforts of building or improving your relationship with them to succeed.</p>
<p>Be courteous and respectful towards them.  Spend more time to know them better and pitch in with work or tasks that need to be done.  When your feelings toward them are genuine, they can readily sense it.</p>
<p>Make them feel welcome every time they visit.  Don’t let them feel like an outsider in your home if you don’t want them to treat you indifferently in return.  Your attitude towards them will greatly influence their attitude towards you.</p>
<p><strong>Your Attitude Towards Your Spouse Matters To Them</strong>.  Of course, any parent would want to see that their children are being treated right by their spouses or hell will break loose.  If you talk positively about your spouse to your in-laws, they will greatly appreciate it and they will feel good about you too.</p>
<p>If your marital relationship is undergoing some problems, do not display your dirty laundry to your in-laws and the things that their child had done.  In the event that you do iron out your marital problems, the negative things you said about their child will still be remembered by your in-laws.</p>
<p>If there are family matters between your spouse and his/her family, let your spouse manage that and don’t meddle.  If there is a fight between your spouse and his/her family, it would be wise to stay away from it and don’t take sides as much as possible.</p>
<p><strong>The Importance Of Family Functions</strong>.  Family gatherings for whatever occasion are very important for all families.  One mortal sin when you are trying to build a good relationship with your in-laws is missing family functions or gatherings just because you don’t want to.  Such activity is a chance and a great opportunity for you to know your spouse’ family better and to show to them that you really want to be a member of their family.</p>
<p>During such occasions, dress appropriately and treat your spouse with respect.  If they see that you are good to their family member, they will come to respect and appreciate you.</p>
<p>&#8230;good luck,</p>
<p>Billy Baker</p>
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		<title>The Secrets To Making Your May-December Love Affair Work</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Aug 2010 04:34:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[May-December love affairs are not that uncommon nowadays but people involved in it, more often than not, find it hard to have their family and friends accept and respect such relationship.  Some family members or friends would even try to break off the relationship but the important thing is you and your partner remains strong.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1149" title="Love" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/Love.jpg" alt="Love" width="224" height="168" />Love knows no race, creed, and, in the case of May-December love affairs, age.  Though many people frown upon such <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/relationships/" target="_self" title="relationships">relationships</a>, society is starting to accept it.  Despite this, there are still a lot of challenges for people who are in a May-December <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/relationships/" target=" " title="relationship">relationship</a>.<span id="more-1147"></span></p>
<p>May-December love affairs are not that uncommon nowadays but people involved in it, more often than not, find it hard to have their family and friends accept and respect such relationship.  Some family members or friends would even try to break off the relationship but the important thing is you and your partner remains strong.</p>
<p>How a May-December love affair succeeds depend on both partners doing everything to make it work.  Here are some of the secrets in making this kind of relationship work both for you and your partner:</p>
<p><strong>Know Thyself</strong>.  Do you really love your partner or is he/she just reminding you of how delightful it was to be young?  If you are older one, assess yourself whether you are just looking for a mother or father figure.  Assess your relationship and consider the future.  Make sure that you are ready to face the challenges and consequences of being in a relationship with a much younger or older person.</p>
<p><strong>Commonality</strong>.  You and your partner may be a generation apart but there may be something common that you share.  For any relationship to succeed, there must be that common denominator in interests and likes that you should share.  You need to find this common ground and nurture it if you want your relationship to last.</p>
<p><strong>Preserve Your Individuality</strong>.  As in any kind of relationship, you must keep your self identity and individuality intact.  For any individual and relationship to grow, personal space is very important.  remember that even plants planted too close together does not grow that much compared to those planted with enough spacing between plants.  Like in any other kind of relationship, giving your partner the chance to grow and the freedom to be himself/herself is essential.</p>
<p>Let your partner pursue his or her interests and pursue yours too.  Do not try to change your partner into somebody that you want but your partner is not.  Do not restrict your partner’s freedom and, consequently, do not let your partner do that to you, too.</p>
<p><strong>Openness To Change</strong>.  Differences are usual between people who are in a May-December relationship.  There will be instances when you will not agree on a lot of things especially in matters of tastes and styles.  This is inevitable because you do not belong to the same generation and you do not share the experience of your respective generations.</p>
<p>For your May-December love affair to work, despite the differences, both you and your partner should meet halfway.  You must not change your partner to like what you like and vice versa.  You only need to adjust a little, work something out, and find a middle ground you are both happy with.</p>
<p><strong>Communication And Trust</strong>.  Miscommunications and trust issues are common in most May-December relationships.  This, too, is inevitable and something that both partners should work hard at.</p>
<p>The importance of open communication cannot be underestimated in any kind of relationship.  You can make a promise to each other to tell your true feelings.  If any issue arises, talk it out and never ignore it.  Trust is also a key to a successful relationship, especially in a May-December love affair.  Give your partner the space that he/she needs and trust that he/she will be true.</p>
<p><strong>Strive For Acceptance</strong>.  A relationship is mainly between the partners but the acceptance of family and friends can also help make relationships work.  Be open about your May-December relationship with your loved ones.  If you hear unfavorable comments, don’t get too defensive.  There is no need to strain your relationship with your loved ones over your love affair.  You should also make them aware of your feelings and let them realize that you will carry on with your relationship with or without their blessing.  Just give them time and they will understand and accept your relationship in due time.</p>
<p>&#8230;hope that has been of some help,</p>
<p>Billy Baker</p>
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		<title>Know The Warning Signs Of An Abusive Relationship</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 13 Aug 2010 08:57:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Emotional and psychological abuse is not that easily to recognize but it is as damaging, even more damaging in some cases, than physical abuse.  When the wounds and scars inflicted by physical violence fade, those that are emotional and psychological in nature will remain.  These cause self-esteem issues and deep emotional consequences for those involved in an abusive relationship.  ]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1144" title="abusive relationship" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/abusive-relationship.JPG" alt="abusive relationship" width="188" height="256" />Millions of people, male and female alike, are in some kind of an abusive <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/relationships/" target=" " title="relationship">relationship</a>.  There are various degrees of how abusive <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/relationships/" target="_self" title="relationships">relationships</a> are and the reaction of people involved in them also varies.  Abuse does not only mean physical abuse but also emotional and psychological abuse.<span id="more-1143"></span></p>
<p>Emotional and psychological abuse is not that easily to recognize but it is as damaging, even more damaging in some cases, than physical abuse.  When the wounds and scars inflicted by physical violence fade, those that are emotional and psychological in nature will remain.  These cause self-esteem issues and deep emotional consequences for those involved in an abusive relationship.</p>
<p>The early warning signs of an abusive relationship usually go unnoticed or not taken seriously with the hope that it is just a one-time thing.  If you have experienced some kind of verbal cruelty, it can be easily dismissed as just a simple emotional outburst of your partner that would not happen again.  You may not realize at this point that it is already a beginning of a series of abuse that you have to suffer.</p>
<p>There are many factors why some relationships turn abusive.  The verbal, physical, emotional, and psychological abuses that one suffers in an abusive relationship tend to get worse as time goes by.  The severity of the abuse also tends to worsen over time.  Abusive patterns usually escalate if the abusive partners feel that they are losing their partner.  The earlier you are able to identify these warning signs of the making of an abusive relationship, the better.</p>
<p><strong>Belittling Behavior</strong>.  Does your partner ignore or put down your accomplishments and opinion?  This is definitely a red flag, together with outright humiliation.  If your partner would yell at you or severely criticize you or put you down, especially in the presence of other people, you may be in an abusive relationship especially if these happen often enough.</p>
<p>Other warning signs would be if your partner treats you badly and embarrasses you in front of friends or family.  This could be a way of your partner to assert superiority over you.  Another would be if your partner treats you as a sex object or property.  An abusive partner would also blame your for his/her abusive behavior.</p>
<p><strong>Threats Or Violent Behavior</strong>.  One sign of an abusive partner is unpredictable and bad temper.  Furthermore, he/she would threaten or actually hurt you.  Threatening to kill you is also a warning sign and definitely a very serious one.</p>
<p>If your partner destroy your belongings or threaten to hurt people close to you in fits of rage, you are in an abusive relationship.  Another sign is if he or she forces you into intimacy or anything that you don’t want to.  Also, an abusive partner usually threatens to commit suicide if you leave.</p>
<p><strong>Controlling Behavior</strong>.  Possessiveness and excessive jealousy sure are warning signs of abusive behavior.  Does your partner control what you do or where you go, to the point of keeping you from seeing your family or friends?  If your partner behaves this way, he or she wants you to have your life revolve around him or her.</p>
<p>If your partner exhibit extreme behaviors like constantly checking up on you and limiting your access to money, the phone, or the car, it is high time you assess your relationship if it is still good for you.</p>
<p><strong>What Does Your Inner Self Tell You?</strong> Is there that nagging feeling that your relationship is something you have not hoped for?  Does your gut feeling tell you that you are better off without the relationship?  Some of the warning signs here are if there are a lot of times when you feel afraid of your partner, if you avoid certain topics because you fear angering your partner, or if you feel emotionally helpless or numb.</p>
<p>There will also be times when he or she will successfully make you believe that you deserve to be mistreated or hurt and that you can’t do anything right for him or her.  If there are times when you wonder if it’s you who is crazy, remember that this is a red flag and may indicate that you are in an abusive relationship.</p>
<p>If you pick up on any of these red flags, you should assess your relationship and see if you need to protect yourself from further abuse.  If your relationship is not doing you any good, get out of it.  You can seek counseling and find the strength to move on.</p>
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		<title>What Everybody Ought to Know About Online Dating 101</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 11 Aug 2010 08:17:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[It seems like anything can be done online nowadays, even dating.  Online dating has been getting popular and a lot of online dating sites have mushroomed in the recent years.  The possibilities of finding that special someone is now not limited to personal contact but can be done now through a computer.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1136" title="8_1onlinedate" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/8_1onlinedate.jpg" alt="8_1onlinedate" width="228" height="146" />Millions of people all over the world go online everyday for various reasons.  As more and more people are getting connected through it, the online realm has become an inescapable fact of life.<span id="more-1135"></span></p>
<p>It seems like anything can be done online nowadays, even <a class="ld_link" href="http://www.datingxlence.com" target="_self" title="dating">dating</a>.  <a class="ld_link" href="	http://www.datingxlence.com" target="_self" title="Online dating">Online dating</a> has been getting popular and a lot of online dating sites have mushroomed in recent years.  The possibility of finding that special someone is now not limited to personal contact but can be done through a computer.</p>
<p><strong>Online dating sure is exciting</strong>.  You get to meet online various kinds of people from different parts of the world.  You can also learn about the culture in other societies in this setup.  Then, there is the chance of finding the right person you would want to spend the rest of your life with.</p>
<p>Many have indeed found love through online dating but others have sad, even traumatic, stories to tell.  Since communication between online daters seems impersonal, as compared to the traditional getting up close and personal way, because it is done in the online realm, you can never really tell if a person is the real deal or not.</p>
<p>Just like in real dating, you need to take certain precautions to protect your safety and welfare.  This is what you should consider first and foremost when deciding to try online dating.  Set your goal and expectations and act accordingly.  You wouldn’t want to hurt yourself, or others, in the event it doesn’t work out, do you?</p>
<p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-1137" title="8_11onlinedate" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/8_11onlinedate.JPG" alt="8_11onlinedate" width="257" height="171" />Do not just sign up for an online <a class="ld_link" href="http://www.datingxlence.com" target=" " title="dating site">dating site</a> at random.  Ask your friends, if they have tried online dating before, for advice.  You can also do some research on the internet and can read up reviews of this kind of sites.  The important thing here is you choose a respectable dating site.</p>
<p><strong>When creating your profile, be truthful</strong>.  Just imagine what will happen if you are already engaged to a person you met through online dating and the love of your life discovered that you lied.  The again, it is best to omit certain personal information like your home address and phone number.  The last thing you would appreciate is a disgruntled admirer stalking you.</p>
<p>On the other hand, don’t believe everything you read and see.  Most people who sign up for online dating sights put their best foot forward and even go the extra mile to exaggerate just to impress.  If the person seems too good to be true, more often than not, something is not right.  Take everything you read and see with a grain of salt and reserve your judgment.  You can check on their personal information as they are verifiable to see if they are really telling the truth.  You deserve a good date, not a liar.</p>
<p><strong>Don’t rush things</strong>.  Don’t get into any situation you are not ready for.  Just enjoy the process and the excitement.  Also, do not overdo it.  Do not correspond to everybody who happens to catch your eye all at the same time.  It would be physically taxing and emotionally confusing in the long run.</p>
<p>When online dating and when chatting, do not lie, be polite, and, most importantly, be yourself.  Focus on what you have and do not exaggerate.  Be truthful about how you look.   Be cautious in answering personal questions.  If you’re not ready to answer some questions, be prepared to inform your date.  It would also be wise to stay away from controversial topics.  The rule of thumb here would be not to say anything you wouldn’t say face to face anytime to a complete stranger.</p>
<p>In the event that you agree to meet (personally) somebody you met online, meet in a public place.  Inform somebody close to you about the date. Dress appropriately and bring your own transportation.  Trust your gut feeling and leave if you feel uncomfortable.  In the event your first real date is a success, it is important not to rush things.  Enjoy and go with the flow of discovering a new love.</p>
<p>I hope this has been useful&#8230;</p>
<p>Billy Baker</p>
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		<title>Breaking Up Gently</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Aug 2010 08:03:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[You have been in this serious relationship for a couple of years now. Suddenly, you find yourself falling hopelessly for another. You are now in a relationship crossroad and you need to make a decision. Will you remain in your stable relationship with your partner or should you take the chance with the new guy?

You are not alone in this predicament. Many people, whatever race or age, go through this phase in their relationships. In the event you come up with a decision, you would live with its consequences, whether good or bad, whether you like it or not. This is one inescapable fact when we get into relationships to find that someone who we will want to share our life with.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1130" title="8_1breakingup" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/8_1breakingup.jpg" alt="8_1breakingup" width="198" height="148" />You have been in this serious <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/categories/relationships/" target=" " title="relationship">relationship</a> for a couple of years now.  Suddenly, you find yourself falling hopelessly for another.  You are now in a relationship crossroad and you need to make a decision.  Will you remain in your stable relationship with your partner or should you take the chance with the new guy?<span id="more-1129"></span></p>
<p>You are not alone in this predicament.  Many people, whatever race or age, go through this phase in their relationships.  In the event you come up with a decision, you would live with its consequences, whether good or bad, whether you like it or not.  This is one inescapable fact when we get into relationships to find that someone who we will want to share our life with.</p>
<p>Matters like these are thorny issues and leave a lot of broken hearts behind.  It is never easy to say goodbye.  The guilt feeling of having hurt someone dear to you is something that you would carry for months, even years, even a lifetime.</p>
<p>You may think that since your present partner has been good to you, you should feel guilty and just stick with the relationship just because you don’t want to hurt him.  If you think like this, even if you want out of the relationship, then you are not being fair to yourself.  If you decide to say goodbye to the new guy, you might be missing something and might lose the chance of being with somebody perfect for you.  To be or not to be, that is indeed the question.</p>
<p><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-1131" title="8_1breakingup1" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/8_1breakingup1.JPG" alt="8_1breakingup1" width="211" height="151" />Before making a decision, do some introspection.  Give yourself time to get away alone to see things in a better perspective.  Are you happy with your present relationship?  Maybe you’re just getting bored with your relationship and the excitement of a new relationship thrills you? Is the new guy worth giving up your stable relationship for?  Is he a long relationship material? With whom will you better grow as a person?  What is it really you want?</p>
<p>You should give your present relationship the chance to perk up.  Having committed into that relationship in the first place, you have also committed to making it work.  In short, you should give it the first option.  Avoid seeing the new guy for the time being because it could get emotionally confusing if you do otherwise.  Besides, if the new guy is really the right one, he will wait for you no matter what.  If he moves on away easily from you, then you have saved yourself from a potential heartbreak.</p>
<p>If you see that your relationship is not really working out and you want to just move on, with or without <a class="ld_link" href="http://www.datingxlence.com" target="_self" title="dating">dating</a> a new love, then maybe the time has come to break it off.  Parting is indeed such sweet sorrow but it is one of the things that you should be ready for.</p>
<p>Since you and your partner have shared good times and memories together, you have to be sensitive to him when breaking up.  Carefully plan the place and the time when you could really talk.  Don’t just break up with him after having a few shots of tequila at the bar.  You need to have good timing. Explain to him your decision and your dire hope that he would understand.</p>
<p>As much as you owe your relationship, you also owe it to yourself to be happy.  Expect a lot of dramatic moments and be prepared to say no firmly yet gently when he grovels to give him another chance.  Better lay your cards on the table and do not resort to pathetic excuses like you want time for yourself, you don’t deserve someone like him etcetera, etcetera.  Your partner and your relationship deserve that much. Get all this out of the way before you go lunging into <a class="ld_link" href="	http://www.datingxlence.com" target="_self" title="dating sites">dating sites</a> for a better romance.</p>
<p>&#8230;hope that helps someone,</p>
<p>Billy Baker</p>
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		<title>Is Your Future Partner Waiting in Asia?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Are you looking for a lasting relationship from someone in Asia?  An Asian dating site will help you find the person you are looking for. Out of the 3.3 billion people living in the Asian continent, surely you will find someone you can build a relationship with.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-1123" title="Healthy-Couple" src="http://datingxlence.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/06/asian-dating-sites.jpg" alt="Healthy-Couple" width="300" height="199" />Are you looking for a lasting relationship from someone in Asia?  An <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/asian.php" target=" " title="Asian dating">Asian dating</a> site will help you find the person you are looking for. Out of the 3.3 billion people living in the Asian continent, surely you will find someone you can build a relationship with.<span id="more-1121"></span></p>
<p>There is a growing trend for ethnicity-based dating which is the primary reason why <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/asian.php" target=" " title="Asian dating">Asian dating</a> sites are now increasing in popularity. Online dating has the most paid content in the web. There are sites that offer absolutely free membership. Others have a trial offer while there are also Asian singles dating sites that may ask for membership fees.</p>
<p>There has been quite a demand for Asian women. Western people refer to “Asian” as someone from the Orient (China, Japan, Thailand, etc). On the other hand, in the UK, when they say “Asian” they mean people from India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, etc. Asian women have truly proven their worth as wives and relationship partners.</p>
<h3>Freebie Dating Sites</h3>
<p>The top pick for the free <a class="ld_link" href="http://datingxlence.com/asian.php" target=" " title="Asian dating">Asian dating</a> site would be Asia Funs. This site offers more than a place to find people. They also have blogs and news to update users of success stories that their website had made possible. What’s good with this Asian singles dating site is that the home page has a ticker that shows who are online as well as information about them. With a fair number of users, you are given greater chances of finding the right Asian woman or man for you.</p>
<p>Find Love Asia is another free online dating site for Asians and those who adore them. It offers what other online dating sites do without other really interesting features. However, it is quite free so what do you expect?</p>
<h3>Paid Membership Dating</h3>
<p>To offer better services, some online dating sites also charge membership fees for their valued clients. If you check the websites with paid membership, they have more features than those freebie sites.</p>
<p>Asia FriendFinder is one of those sites that charge a membership to their clients. The website is a dynamic way to look for a partner in life. Bustling with activity from members, there are success stories posted in the home page as well as member videos. Their membership has lots of benefits. You can share love advices and make blogs. They also have live video chat and social networking options. There are groups that you can join as well, local or topical. This is one of the most recommended Asian singles dating sites.</p>
<p>Asian Euro is another site for singles looking for Asian partners. It is tied up to the large Cupid Media network which also includes other location-specific dating sites such as FilipinaHeart, ChineseLoveLinks and JapanCupid. Their databases are shared to offer wider scope for dating. Asian Euro is one dating site where you can get additional benefits by signing up to their membership (Standard (free), Gold and Platinum).</p>
<p>Another site to check out when you want a reliable Asian wife or husband is Asian Singles Connection. It is a part of the Spark Networks umbrella. Spark Networks share databases with other large dating companies such as Single Parents Mingle and American Singles. Aside from the message boards and chat capabilities, they have color-coded membership accounts.</p>
<p>If you prefer an Asian partner, let these online Asian singles dating sites help you in looking for your soul mate. Online dating sites make it convenient for you to reach the other side of the world. Asian dating sites have lots of success stories to share. This is maybe because of the compassion and loyalty of Asian women that other Asians and nationalities love.</p>
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