PARENTING & FAMILIES

Peaceful Parenting

noreply@blogger.com (the.denzo) — Tue, 15 Mar 2011 08:10:00 +0000

Peaceful Parenting

A way to a more peaceful parenting may surprise some to find children do not need rules to be caring, helpful individuals. Learning to raise your children without authority and rules does not mean you will have wild unruly children. Treating your children with the same respect as you would want for yourself or as you treat your partner means that you can enjoy peaceful parenting and celebrate in your children for who they are. Your children are amazing unique individuals that do not have to be molded into the idea we have in mind for them.

Children have amazing abilities that we do not give them credit for when it comes to making decisions that are right for them. They do not need strict rules, or severe discipline to be forced into correct behavior. If we live by our principles, modeling the behavior we desire, it is a child's natural instinct to imitate what they observe.

Peaceful Parenting does not mean a child NEVER hears the word no, yet if what they are asking for are within our means and will not hurt anyone, then why shouldn't they be able to have it. This will not create a spoiled child but rather it keeps a world of possibilities open to them with a security of abundance rather than a feeling of lack. If we give to our children what is well within our means to do so, then why shouldn't the child hear the word yes, rather than a quick habitual no?

Celebrating who your child is as the amazing individual that they are, rather than seeing all the "wrong" in them because they do not fit our ideals is what unconditional love is all about. This does not need correction; it needs a nurturing attitude so they can bloom into the person they are trying to be. They should not have to fill the ideal mold of our expectations for them; our expectations may not even be close to who they are trying to be. By supporting their needs, we are helping them follow the path of their design.

If we are caring, nurturing parents that give our children the same respect as we would another adult, our children will be caring nurturing beings. If we ask for help or accept it gratefully when offered, our children will naturally be helpful without having to have strict chore charts to follow. Of course this does work better if they have been encouraged to help since they learned to walk, yet I believe if it is modeled, it can be done no matter what age the child is.

If we stay involved with our children, supporting their interests, our children will want to be involved with us. Peaceful Parenting goes a long way of being joyful parents, who does things for our families because we want to, with no resentments. A child who truly asks to help you, does so out of a desire to ease your burdens and does it with joy, not because they are being forced to do so. They genuinely want to help out of love and respect and because it feels good to do so. That sure beats a battling every step of the way until it is done attitude.

Children do not need our expectations of who WE want them to be placed upon their shoulders; perhaps this is why we have so many unhappy adults later in life. They do not need "Discipline" and rules. If we know the things we value in life and live by those principles, our children will notice because we model it and they themselves will act according to the behaviors they witness every day. Children need our support, our love, our respect and a decent role model which comes from living within our principles we believe in.

There is no conflict or reason to lie if you do not have rules to break and live by honesty, knowing you will receive understanding and not discipline. Children are naturally good, not evil and a more gentle approach is not only possible but a wonderful way to build a close, cooperative, helpful and supportive family that laughs together and respects each other.

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Discover the Hot Pink and Zebra Print Messenger Baby Diaper Bag

noreply@blogger.com (the.denzo) — Sun, 13 Mar 2011 17:00:00 +0000

Home Family

One of the chief items on every expectant Mother's wish list is a diaper bag. After all, baby clothes, nappies, food and wipes need a home while you're out and about. And there is no chance in a million years they'll be taking residence in your Gucci Sukey Guccissima tote bag!
Sadly, most baby bags on the market are either made of cheap quality material or are too dull and ugly to be carried by a discerning fashionista.
Hence the dawn of the designer diaper bag.
There are companies that specialize in designing and manufacturing baby bags. The popular designer baby bag brands include OiOi, Fleurville, Kalencom, Skip Hop and Tim and Leslie to mention but a few.
These designer messenger bags are popular as they combine style with function and are great for everyday use. Also the top level of attention paid to the stitching, lining and design of the bag guarantee you will have in your possession a diaper bag you can be proud of and one that will last for many moons to come.
One of the baby bags currently on the market that is winning praise from Mums all over the country is the Hot Pink and Zebra Print Messenger Baby Diaper Bag from JoJo Designs. The lovely thing about this baby designer bag is that it is multi purpose and you it can be used as a messenger bag, backpack, beach bag, or an all purpose daily bag.
The touch of pink combined with the zebra design makes this bag a winner. Plus it's great for every day use. Its features include adjustable shoulder strap, front flap magnetic closure, side pockets for bottles and snacks.
Coordinating nylon zippered storage pouch, roomy wipe-able interior with inner pockets. It also has large outer pockets for all your bigger items plus sturdy bottom to hold bag upright for easy use. You will discover that it easily hangs on a stroller or can be worn over the shoulder. Its dimensions are 11 inches in height by 15 inches in width and 5 inches in depth.
So if you're thinking of buying a designer baby bag for your self or a loved one that will last for ages and also complement your style, then the Hot Pink and Zebra Print Messenger Baby Bag will make a wonderful addition to your designer collection. Don't be surprised if you see a discerning fashionista Mum with one when next you're out and about.

Don't be caught with a dull and ugly diaper bag. Discover a Beautiful and Practical Diaper Bag designed for the Modern Fashionable Mum - You!
Zebra Messenger Baby Diaper Bag
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4 Simple Rules to Becoming a Successful Parents

noreply@blogger.com (the.denzo) — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 23:44:00 +0000

Successful Parenting

Once you have children and become a parent, you will be a parent for the rest of your life. Preparing to be an excellent parent is something you should invest a lot of time and energy into. The rewards for learning how to become a wonderful parent are endless. You and your children will gain tremendous benefits from the time and energy you invest learning how to become an excellent parent.
You must approach parenting with an open mind and an open heart. Rearing children does he just not happen on its own, it is something you must intentionally do. There are four things you can do right away to become a better parent.
The first thing is apparent you need to do is show unconditional love. This is the most important step that will determine if you are a successful parent or not. Whether your children are disabled, tall, short, handsome, pretty, overweight, or any other adjective, you must show them unconditional love. You cannot put a condition on whether you will talk to them or show them your approval based on something external. If you do not show them unconditional love, you will breed insecurity within them.
You must accept that you are now able model. All parents are role models for their children and must hard to think like them. Your behavior will be imitated by your children, so you must make sure you are authentic and live life with full integrity.
You must accept that kids are not an optional responsibility. Once you choose to have children, it is up to you to make the best of it. Children can bring the ultimate enjoy or ultimate misery in your life. This all depends on how you decide to handle each and every day with your children. You must devote time and attention to your children if you want to become a successful parent.
The last thing you can do is very simple, but difficult for many couples. You need to try and stay together as husband and wife to raise your children. Two parent families are part of raising successful children. There are many great people who have been raised with one parent households, but ideally you want to raise your children together as mother and father.
If you follow these four simple rules, you will have the basic foundation for being a successful parent from start. Your children will love and adore you as they should.

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5 Parenting Skills - How to Discipline Kids and Build Character

noreply@blogger.com (the.denzo) — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 23:43:00 +0000

Parenting Discipline

When you practice the 5 parenting skills listed here you'll be building character and disciplining "just right." You won't need to feel ashamed about your words. You won't need to apologize for being too angry either.
When you dreamt of raising a family, did you dream of disciplining kids? Most people don't. Yet discipline is essential to good parenting. To discipline well we must avoid deflating our children's self-esteem.
First we'll look at a problem example. Then we'll practice the 5 parenting skills for disciplining well.
Discipline Problem Story:
Imagine a mom discussing her 8-year-old daughter.
Mom: "I try not to hit but she never listens."
Friend: "Do you do anything else?"
Mom: "I yell to get her attention."
Friend: "How do you feel about hitting and screaming?"
Mom: "I'm ashamed but I don't know what else to do. She doesn't respect me. She's such a difficult child."
This mother probably copied the way she was disciplined as a child. It kept her in line when she was young but it wasn't working with her own daughter.
How To Practice Disciplining Wisely and Building Character in Kids:
Yelling dreadful things like, "I hate you! You're so stupid! You can't do anything right!" is deflating to our kids' self-esteem.
Let's say your child forgot to do her homework, didn't feed the dog, hurt a neighbor kid, stole money from your purse, or something else. You've been yelling at her since she was a little kid. It isn't working. What can you do?
Go to the bathroom and practice good parenting. Turn on the fan to mute your words from outside ears. Look in the mirror. Practice the parenting voice, the parenting words, and the parenting look altogether. Keep your practice sessions to yourself. You are teaching yourself how to discipline wisely without regrets and build character too.
5 Wise Parenting Skills for Sounding and Looking Like the Parent:
1. Think before you speak.
2. Consider the best way to say things so you'll end up feeling good about the way you handled your frustration.
3. Practice speaking with kind, controlled, serious, and authoritative tones.
This will help you feel good about yourself. You'll sound like the parent too.
4. Avoid lecturing by keeping it short and simple.
Say just enough and no more.
5. Practice the kind and serious look, with the voice, and the words while imagining handling yourself well.
If your tone, your words, and your look are well balanced, then your discipline will be too. Remember, if you're replacing poor discipline habits with these new parenting skills, it will take practice.
Conclusion for Disciplining Children Wisely:
When you use the above parenting skills, your child's self-esteem won't deflate like a flat tire. You won't regret your words, anger, or actions. You'll be the parent you dreamt of being. Your child will respect you and you'll be building character too.

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Single Parent Family Statistics - Single Parents a New Trend?

noreply@blogger.com (the.denzo) — Wed, 23 Feb 2011 10:42:00 +0000

Single Parent Families Statistics

Single parent family households have become a common occurrence in the United States, and the number of these types of households has been on the rise for the last several decades. Currently in the United States, according to single parent family statistics, there are over 13 million single parents. Many of these parents do not choose to be single, but due to life circumstances such as divorce or separation, abandonment by a spouse, or death of a spouse, they find themselves raising their children alone. Nearly 85 percent of these households are headed by a female, while the remaining households are headed by a male. The vast majority of both female and male single parent households are either divorced or separated. Approximately one-third of female single parents have never been married, and less than a quarter of female single parents are remarried. Almost a quarter of single parent fathers remarried, while only about 18 percent of single fathers have never been married. Approximately 1 percent of single parents, both men and women, find themselves single parents as the result of the death of a spouse.
As single parents, both men and women face difficult, complicated decisions. Most single parent mothers and fathers work full-time jobs. However, according to single parent family statistics, even though the majority of mothers work full times jobs almost a third of these families live in poverty and approximately the same percentage receive public assistance. According to statistics, approximately 11 percent of single fathers live in poverty. In essence, about three times more single parent females live in poverty than their single male parent counterparts. These reasons could be explained by a myriad of factors, one being the discrepancy in pay between men and women in the workforce. Income is certainly not the only obstacle faced by single parent families but it may be one of the most stressful and challenging obstacles.
The health, education and behavior of children from single parent families can be adversely impacted by the absence of a parent. This is not to say that all children from single parents will suffer consequences such as these, but there is a greater chance that children from single parent families will face these issues. According to a report completed in 2005, about 63 percent of children in the United States grow up with both biological parents. That means that approximately 37 percent of children in this country grow up without both biological parents, which is reported to be one of the highest rates in the western world. Single parent family statistics indicate that black children are more likely than Asian, Hispanic and non-Hispanic white children to grow up in a single parent family or a family where both biological parents are absent. Incidences of teen pregnancy, suicide, and drug abuse are higher among children from single parent homes. In addition, children from single parent families are more likely than their counterparts to drop out of high school, go to prison, or runaway from home.

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