Pipes Output http://pipes.yahoo.com/pipes/pipe.info?_id=RNW6T2ZP3hG5Zx1zrbQIDg Thu, 01 Oct 2015 23:09:10 +0000 http://pipes.yahoo.com/pipes/ http://news.yahoo.com/man-cant-cope-pregnant-girlfriend-ailing-ex-wife-050904127.html DEAR ABBY: My situation is upsetting and I don't know what to do anymore. My girlfriend, "Dana," is pregnant. My ex-wife showed up at our door with terminal cancer and nowhere to go. When I told her she could stay with us, Dana moved out.There is no one that my ex can rely on except me. I am torn. I love Dana and don't want to lose her, but I can't turn my back on someone who has no one in her life who cares. I wish Dana could understand what I'm going through. Please help. ... man-cant-cope-pregnant-girlfriend-ailing-ex-wife-050904127 Thu, 01 Oct 2015 05:09:04 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/needy-mother-law-plays-diva-family-drama-050904679.html DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 22 years. My father-in-law's health declined and he died last year. My mother-in-law, "Babe," and I didn't get on well in the past, but we have seemed to patch things up.Since my father-in-law's death, she has become very needy. As a result, my father has been at her beck and call, and I have become closer to her, too. My mother has started to become suspicious of the relationship between Babe and my dad. They have been seen drinking together and ignoring my mother.Abby, this has become a horrible mess. ... needy-mother-law-plays-diva-family-drama-050904679 Wed, 30 Sep 2015 05:09:04 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/people-ask-accent-being-friendly-not-rude-050256458.html DEAR ABBY: I have lived in the United States for 40 years. My first 32 years were spent in Puerto Rico, so I speak with an accent. My problem is almost everyone I meet asks me where I'm from. I usually try to disguise my discomfort by jokingly asking them to guess.The truth is, I feel singled out as being different and not belonging. My friends and family tell me I'm being too sensitive, that people are just curious. I say it's rude to ask such a personal question of a total stranger. ... people-ask-accent-being-friendly-not-rude-050256458 Tue, 29 Sep 2015 05:02:56 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/mom-back-dating-game-careful-score-050055082.html DEAR ABBY: My mom recently separated from her husband. They're in the process of getting divorced, and she is already talking to another man. She has known him since high school, but they only recently reconnected again.Last night they finally decided to go out. She says they're "just friends," but she got home at 5:30 a.m., wasted. She woke me 30 minutes before work, then passed out in my bed. I think she's moving way too fast. She isn't a teenager anymore, let alone divorced. ... mom-back-dating-game-careful-score-050055082 Mon, 28 Sep 2015 05:00:55 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/woman-wants-disconnect-long-winded-friend-050425176.html DEAR ABBY: I'm a woman who has always had trouble with women friends who like to call and chat. It has never really been my thing.One of them never asks if I'm busy; she just plunges into a conversation that usually lasts an hour. I never call her. If she asks me to return her call, I'll wait a day or two. I'm afraid to tell her I don't like spending that kind of time on the phone because I know it will hurt her feelings. I have lost friends in the past because of this. I think instead of avoiding her calls and feeling guilty, I'd rather not have her as a friend. ... woman-wants-disconnect-long-winded-friend-050425176 Sun, 27 Sep 2015 05:04:25 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/teen-without-plan-trouble-finding-direction-050506694.html DEAR ABBY: I'm 18 and live with my boyfriend, "Austin," at his parents' house because, frankly, my mom is too much for me to handle.I graduated from high school with no plan for anything afterward. I was going to follow Austin to the school of his choice, but then he changed his mind about college. I'm happy to stay here in Colorado, but I now feel like I don't have much going for myself. Austin already has a job because of a connection his dad had at work. I have applied for more than 10 jobs and haven't heard back. ... teen-without-plan-trouble-finding-direction-050506694 Sat, 26 Sep 2015 05:05:06 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/two-heads-no-better-one-grocery-store-checkout-050036541.html DEAR ABBY: There are no words to express how disappointed I am at the education kids receive now and still graduate with "honors." I was at the grocery store a short time ago. Two young ladies working there just completed their freshman year at the local college. One of them had been on the honor roll all through high school.I bought four packages of gravy mix that were on sale -- four packages for $1. As the cashier rang it up, I noticed that she had entered them at 44 cents apiece. When I brought it to her attention, she asked the other cashier if that was right. ... two-heads-no-better-one-grocery-store-checkout-050036541 Fri, 25 Sep 2015 05:00:36 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/birth-mom-not-options-repaying-daughters-loan-050048457.html DEAR ABBY: Your advice to "Poor Birth Mother in Georgia" on June 12 -- "Because the college loan agreement with your daughter was verbal and wasn't put in writing, you don't have a legal means to force her to assume the loan payments" -- was wrong!Verbal agreements are enforced if they can be proven to be true. Even if the daughter didn't promise to make the payments, she may be held liable for them because money provided for the benefit of another gives rise to an implied and enforceable obligation to repay it. ... birth-mom-not-options-repaying-daughters-loan-050048457 Thu, 24 Sep 2015 05:00:48 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/couples-open-relationship-may-end-closing-theirs-050307986.html DEAR ABBY: I am a 24-year-old woman and currently live with my boyfriend. We have a child. Before we started living together, we discussed having an open relationship. We realized how messy it can be, so we agreed on having a "free pass" with ONE person, ONE time. I have met that person; it is a woman.At first, my boyfriend was OK with it. But now that I'm ready to do it, he's acting jealous. I told him I would stand by his side if he changed his mind about me doing this, but I'm excited to experience this alone and not have him involved. ... couples-open-relationship-may-end-closing-theirs-050307986 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 05:03:07 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/woman-toxic-relationship-cousins-support-050515618.html DEAR ABBY: I have a very close cousin (and friend) who is in a toxic relationship with a man who breaks up with her repeatedly, manipulates and abuses her emotionally, and probably cheats. It has made me sad to see her go through the same pattern with him for so many years.They were supposed to be married soon, but are having the same problems again. She's unsure what steps to take, even though family and friends are advising her against marrying him. I don't support the idea either, but I don't want to create a rift with my cousin. ... woman-toxic-relationship-cousins-support-050515618 Tue, 22 Sep 2015 05:05:15 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/couples-adoption-foster-child-causes-family-rift-050007937.html DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Jeff," and I are fostering a 17-year-old girl we plan to adopt. Jeff's mother grew up in foster care, and after learning about her life and hardship, I felt we should help out in this way. I am a stay-at-home mother with three other children (6, 8 and 14), and we are a very tight-knit family, spending most of our time together. We love our foster daughter and look forward to many good times together.The problem is my sister. She's very opinionated and has made it obvious that she is against our adopting another child. ... couples-adoption-foster-child-causes-family-rift-050007937 Mon, 21 Sep 2015 05:00:07 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/teen-stiff-arm-moms-affectionate-friend-001004998.html DEAR ABBY: I'm 16, go to high school, play football and make good grades.At church every Sunday, a lady who is one of my mom's friends always makes a point of coming up to me to talk. She says things about me growing up to be a man, and asks me if I'm dating. She always gives me an extended hug. It's really uncomfortable for me, and embarrassing.I tried to talk to my mom about it, but she just said her friend is a very affectionate person. To me, the way she does it is creepy and scary. I don't want to be unfriendly to anybody, but this is different. ... teen-stiff-arm-moms-affectionate-friend-001004998 Mon, 21 Sep 2015 00:10:04 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/octogenarian-grateful-longtime-friendships-050135674.html DEAR ABBY: Last Christmas I didn't hear from several of my longtime friends. I don't have a computer, but someone looked up online obituaries and was able to tell me they had passed away.This Christmas I'll be 89. My health isn't the greatest, and I'm thinking of including a note in my cards to the other few good friends I've known for 60 years. I'd like to say how much their friendship has meant to me in case they don't hear from me again.Is this too morbid? What can you suggest? I like to tie up loose ends. -- NOT GETTING ANY YOUNGER IN ALBANY, N.Y. ... octogenarian-grateful-longtime-friendships-050135674 Sun, 20 Sep 2015 05:01:35 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/man-overcomes-disabilities-not-high-school-prejudice-050315137.html DEAR ABBY: Today was my high school reunion. I was the most notable student for all the wrong reasons. I was born with some birth defects and learning disabilities. I overcame them, but it was hard. While working blue-collar jobs, I lived in my car for a few years.On a cold winter night several years ago, I met Dr. X in the emergency room. He was a former classmate of mine, and we pretended not to know one another. He discovered I was living in my car and heard some of my story. Then he arranged for me to be admitted to the hospital for a day so I could get warmed up and recover. ... man-overcomes-disabilities-not-high-school-prejudice-050315137 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 05:03:15 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/sapphires-pass-diamonds-case-mistaken-identity-050100777.html DEAR ABBY: Last year I gave my new (at that time) girlfriend, "Alyssa," a pair of earrings for her birthday. They were in a box from a department store marked "fine jewelry." She loved them and became emotional in expressing her gratitude. I thought it was because it was the first piece of jewelry I had ever bought for her. When she opened the box I explained that they were her birthstone -- sapphires -- but white sapphires. In her excitement she must have missed that part. The earrings are large -- maybe one carat apiece. ... sapphires-pass-diamonds-case-mistaken-identity-050100777 Thu, 17 Sep 2015 05:01:00 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/practice-makes-perfect-polishing-social-skills-050120531.html DEAR ABBY: I'm 13 years old, and I want to know how I can make my life easier and not be as shy as I am. I have a lot of friends at school, but of course they're not popular either. I want to still have those friends, but I'd like to be able to strike up conversations with other people. When I try, I get nervous and chicken out before I can get a word out.I want to improve my communication skills and come across as more friendly and natural. My aunt told me you have a booklet that can help. ... practice-makes-perfect-polishing-social-skills-050120531 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 05:01:20 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/distant-husband-gives-no-support-pregnant-wife-050117643.html DEAR ABBY: I'm a few months pregnant and married to a man I love with all my heart. We have a young son together. For the last couple of months, I have had severe morning sickness, and my husband seems to resent me for it. He complains that I "don't do anything anymore," but I have been so ill that some days it's all I can do to get to work in the morning. I try to help out as much as I can, but it doesn't seem to be enough.Lately he has shown no interest in me or the pregnancy. ... distant-husband-gives-no-support-pregnant-wife-050117643 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 05:01:17 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/girlfriend-turning-down-travel-may-turned-well-050018815.html DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend, "Ashley," and I have been dating for three years. Every year I ask her to go on a trip with me to St. Louis where my parents live. It's a weekend trip my parents sponsor for our entire family, and it involves a Cardinals baseball game. Every year she refuses to go.When she invites me on her family fishing trip to New Mexico, I go. When I ask why she won't do the same for my family trips, she makes excuses like she doesn't want to get up early. Most people in my family are early risers. Ashley is not. I tell her she can sleep as long as she likes; no one will care. ... girlfriend-turning-down-travel-may-turned-well-050018815 Mon, 14 Sep 2015 05:00:18 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/man-told-hold-tongue-demands-apology-instead-050037787.html DEAR ABBY: I was at my brother-in-law's house with my husband and our 4-year-old daughter. We were playing our weekly video game, and when my brother-in-law won a round, he shouted a racial epithet. I asked him not to use it in front of my little girl because if she repeats it at school, she could be suspended, and we don't use that kind of language in our family. Now he claims I "disrespected him" and I should apologize to him because it was his house and he can say what he wants. He doesn't have children of his own. ... man-told-hold-tongue-demands-apology-instead-050037787 Sun, 13 Sep 2015 05:00:37 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/lasting-attraction-abuser-continues-trouble-victim-050106856.html DEAR ABBY: I am 19 and going into my second year of college. I was sexually and emotionally abused during my first two years of high school by a boy a year older than me. I attended therapy for a while and eventually found myself in a loving relationship with my boyfriend. We've been living together for a year. Everything was going fine until I came home for summer break. I have never gotten over the feelings I had for my abuser, but I love my boyfriend and would never want to hurt him or endanger myself again. ... lasting-attraction-abuser-continues-trouble-victim-050106856 Sat, 12 Sep 2015 05:01:06 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/teen-too-busy-college-ignores-dangers-diabetes-050725686.html DEAR ABBY: Last year, during her required physical for college, my 19-year-old daughter, "Lacey," was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes. She is in denial and hasn't seen a doctor since. She doesn't take her medications and refuses to change her diet or exercise. She is also obese.When I try to discuss this with her, she gets angry and storms away. Her school is three hours away and I'm worried something terrible will have to happen to make her get serious. She's in that "invincible/know-it-all/I don't care" teenage phase of her life. ... teen-too-busy-college-ignores-dangers-diabetes-050725686 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 05:07:25 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/daughters-unite-resisting-moms-domineering-demands-050105647.html DEAR ABBY: At what point does a parent no longer have the right to know who their child's friends are? I have three grown daughters, all on their own, living on the other side of the country. During a recent visit home for their grandmother's birthday, I asked each of them to give me all of their friends' phone numbers, in case I couldn't reach them. I also wanted to know who they were exactly, how well they knew them, etc. I was simply thinking of their safety. If I can't reach my girls, I want to know who might have seen them last and, if need be, give that information to the police. ... daughters-unite-resisting-moms-domineering-demands-050105647 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 05:01:05 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/wifes-family-affair-shouldnt-remain-secret-050021820.html DEAR ABBY: I recently married the love of my life. However, a few years ago, I had an affair with his uncle. It was a terrible mistake. Should I explain this to my husband or keep my shameful secret a secret? Please tell me what I should do. -- CONFUSED WIFE IN THE EASTDEAR CONFUSED WIFE: I vote for telling your husband the truth. Better he should hear it from you now than hear about it later from his uncle. DEAR ABBY: I started a new job four months ago after being out of work because of a large downsizing at my last employer's, an insurance company. ... wifes-family-affair-shouldnt-remain-secret-050021820 Wed, 09 Sep 2015 05:00:21 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/moms-surprise-pregnancy-not-pleasant-one-her-girls-050020748.html DEAR ABBY: I am 44 and my husband of 20 years is 48. On a recent second honeymoon trip to Sweden, I became pregnant. We already have two beautiful, intelligent daughters, 17 and 14. One started university this fall while the other's a high school sophomore.My problem is not so much the high-risk pregnancy, but rather that both of my girls strongly oppose the idea of us keeping the baby. Not only were they not thrilled when I broke the news to them, but they also cried.My younger daughter is now giving me the cold shoulder. ... moms-surprise-pregnancy-not-pleasant-one-her-girls-050020748 Tue, 08 Sep 2015 05:00:20 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/finding-playmate-daughter-wrong-reason-adopt-050029841.html DEAR ABBY: I am a 24-year-old single mother of an amazing 3-year-old girl. I have had more than my share of turmoil with her father. We are no longer together, and he isn't in the picture. Abby, I feel damaged. I'm afraid I will never love again or find anyone to love me the way I need.My daughter is my shadow. We are literally joined at the hip. She's lonely, always around adults and has no one her age to play with. I really want to have another child. While I may never have the right man to father one, I'd like to save a life and adopt another daughter and playmate for my little girl. ... finding-playmate-daughter-wrong-reason-adopt-050029841 Mon, 07 Sep 2015 05:00:37 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/bride-upset-ex-gets-job-wedding-venue-050020575.html DEAR ABBY: I am marrying a wonderful man I love dearly. We have planned a dream wedding for ourselves rather quickly. I secured the venue we wanted. There was no other place or date available to us as backup. At this point, we would lose thousands if we cancel. After months of meetings and negotiations with the woman who manages the facility, I was shocked to receive a text from my last ex-boyfriend informing me that he is the new general manager of the venue, and will be my point person of contact from now on. ... bride-upset-ex-gets-job-wedding-venue-050020575 Sun, 06 Sep 2015 05:00:20 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/family-prefers-sidestep-questions-girls-feet-050010600.html DEAR ABBY: My beautiful 6-year-old granddaughter has clubfeet. Although she had several surgeries, her ongoing treatment requires her to wear her shoes on the opposite feet. Every time we go out somewhere, well-intentioned people seem compelled to let us know she has her shoes on wrong. My granddaughter told me it bothers her and she gets embarrassed when we must explain the reason, and truthfully, I don't blame her. I worry about her self-esteem. ... family-prefers-sidestep-questions-girls-feet-050010600 Sat, 05 Sep 2015 05:00:13 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/moms-motives-marriage-questioned-older-man-050012118.html DEAR ABBY: I am a 63-year-old man living with a 28-year-old woman. She has three children -- ages 2, 6 and 7. They live with us every other weekend. I have fallen in love with them. We are planning on getting married soon, and I want to be sure the kids are secure when I'm gone. I have an erectile dysfunction problem. She says she doesn't care about sex, but I'm worried she will stray. I was 28 once, and that's all I thought about. I'm afraid she is marrying me for her own benefit -- the house, Social Security and my business. I love her and her children dearly. ... moms-motives-marriage-questioned-older-man-050012118 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 05:00:12 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/man-devastated-learn-wifes-long-ago-affair-050015743.html DEAR ABBY: My wife and I are in our 60s and have been married more than 40 years. It hasn't always been great, but we've made it.Recently, while going through some old boxes in the basement, I ran across her diary and discovered that she had an affair while we were engaged. This has left me depressed, hurt and feeling very down. Should I confront her with my findings? -- HURTING IN OHIODEAR HURTING: If you feel the need to bring this up after 40 years, then rather than let it fester and ruin the next 40, tell your wife what you have found. ... man-devastated-learn-wifes-long-ago-affair-050015743 Thu, 03 Sep 2015 05:00:15 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/scammers-dating-sites-hoping-lure-trusting-marks-050019857.html DEAR ABBY: I was recently the target of a romance scam on a popular singles website. After being a divorcee for 15 years, I decided to try online dating. Minutes after I went online, someone asked to chat. He said he was a widower with an adult daughter and a jeweler by trade, living near me but returning to Florida the next day with ultimate plans to relocate to my area. He mentioned he was originally from Germany and had an accent. We chatted on Google Hangouts, and he sent me sweet emails every morning saying how much he loved meeting me and that it was "our time to have a second chance. ... scammers-dating-sites-hoping-lure-trusting-marks-050019857 Wed, 02 Sep 2015 05:00:19 +0000