Pipes Output http://pipes.yahoo.com/pipes/pipe.info?_id=RNW6T2ZP3hG5Zx1zrbQIDg Thu, 31 May 2012 10:30:04 +0000 http://pipes.yahoo.com/pipes/ http://news.yahoo.com/marriage-isnt-cards-widower-girlfriend-050107277.html DEAR ABBY: I am a 70-year-old widower with three grown children. My girlfriend is 53. We dated for several months before she moved in with me. I thought maybe with her living here I might fall in love with her. It has not, and will not, happen.I hate to break her heart, but I know now that I will never ask her to marry me. I intend to remain single for the rest of my life.How do I bring closure to this relationship? What are the words? I'm lost because this is a first for me. I was married for 40 years, and I just do not wish to be married again. ... marriage-isnt-cards-widower-girlfriend-050107277 Thu, 31 May 2012 05:01:07 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/woman-wants-come-clean-online-dating-subterfuge-050204010.html DEAR ABBY: I do online dating. For safety, I use an alias. I look much younger than my 43 years, so I went out with a 29-year-old who thinks I'm 33. I have horrible luck with relationships and didn't think this one would be any different. Boy, was I wrong! We have been dating three weeks now.How do I tell him I'm 43, have two kids he doesn't know about and a different name? Or should I just break it off now? -- INCOGNITO IN MISSISSIPPIDEAR INCOGNITO: Do not "just break it off" with no explanation. ... woman-wants-come-clean-online-dating-subterfuge-050204010 Wed, 30 May 2012 05:02:04 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/bullied-boys-injuries-trigger-police-involvement-050009704.html DEAR ABBY: I am a retired New York City police officer and a resource officer at two high schools in Brooklyn. I must comment on the letter you printed from "Worried About My Boy in Tulsa" (March 29), whose 7-year-old is bullied. If a child hits another child so hard that medical attention is required, it is an assault. The police should have been notified and appropriate law enforcement action taken.The school then has cause to remove the violent child and have him/her placed in an education program better suited for violent children. ... bullied-boys-injuries-trigger-police-involvement-050009704 Tue, 29 May 2012 05:00:09 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/dads-dying-wish-burial-becomes-financial-burden-053016722.html DEAR ABBY: How important are a dying person's last wishes? My dad died recently and said that he wanted to be buried with his first wife in a state far from where we live. If his estate -- or his current wife -- can't afford to comply with his request, would it be horrible to do something else?In today's economy most seniors don't have any extra income. To follow Dad's final wishes would take a sizable chunk of his estate. His wife feels it's not important to follow his last wishes because of the cost, but it really bothers me. Dad was in the Navy during WWII. ... dads-dying-wish-burial-becomes-financial-burden-053016722 Mon, 28 May 2012 05:30:16 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/act-supermarket-kindness-touches-cashier-customers-053147401.html DEAR ABBY: From time to time you print letters about acts of kindness, and I'd like to relate one I witnessed:I was working as a cashier in a grocery store. An elderly woman came through my line with about 10 items in her basket, including some strawberries and shortcakes. Making small talk, I commented on how nice the berries looked. She agreed, and informed me that they were a little treat for herself. She said she didn't have much on her late husband's pension. ... act-supermarket-kindness-touches-cashier-customers-053147401 Sun, 27 May 2012 05:31:47 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/single-women-wonder-where-single-men-hiding-050046895.html DEAR ABBY: My friends and I are women in our late 40s and early 50s. Some of us are married, some are single. Individually or as a group we have taken classes, volunteered, gone on cruises, gone to clubs and bars -- you name it.We have noticed that nearly everyone at these activities is either female or with a female as part of a couple. There are loads of single middle-aged women out there joining things and having fun, but there seem to be almost no single middle-aged men. Friends in various parts of the country report the same thing. ... single-women-wonder-where-single-men-hiding-050046895 Sat, 26 May 2012 05:00:46 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/pause-during-holiday-thank-those-made-possible-050016229.html DEAR ABBY: Would you please remind your many readers that the greatest gift we can give to America's fallen is the gift of remembrance? The legacy of those who have died for our freedom -- from the Revolutionary War to the present -- is something that strengthens and unites Americans. I would like every child to say, "I know why I am free, and I know who died for my freedom."Since 1997, Major League Baseball has stopped all games in progress at 3 p.m. on Memorial Day to observe the National Moment of Remembrance. ... pause-during-holiday-thank-those-made-possible-050016229 Fri, 25 May 2012 05:00:16 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/aunt-left-home-alone-due-poor-holiday-plans-050010457.html DEAR ABBY: My sister "Ruth" and I spent most holidays dining out together after our families grew up and left home. Ruth died last year and her daughter "Lara" began inviting me for holidays "so I wouldn't be alone." I have tried to decline, but she persists. She insists that I should be with her instead of with friends, although her plans are always tentative and often change at the last minute.Last Christmas she invited me to a community holiday dinner at 2 p.m. with her friends. ... aunt-left-home-alone-due-poor-holiday-plans-050010457 Thu, 24 May 2012 05:00:10 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/peeping-tom-gets-eyeful-couple-reclaims-privacy-055703940.html DEAR ABBY: From time to time I have read letters in your column about Peeping Toms. You might find our experience interesting.Many years ago, soon after my husband, Klaus, and I arrived as newlyweds from Germany, we rented a small bungalow in L.A. There were seven of them in two rows behind our landlord's large home in the front.Between our little house and our next-door neighbor's was a brick patio that extended from our bedroom window to her back door. Not long after we moved in, the woman began looking into our bedroom window on weekend mornings, pressing her nose against the glass. ... peeping-tom-gets-eyeful-couple-reclaims-privacy-055703940 Wed, 23 May 2012 05:57:03 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/proposal-married-man-little-cause-celebration-053003755.html DEAR ABBY: I'm a 42-year-old woman who has been living with my boyfriend, "Matt." He has asked me to marry him, and I said yes. The problem is, Matt is still married.Matt and his wife have been separated for eight years. I keep telling him to get in touch with her and see if she filed for divorce, but he keeps putting it off.I really do love this man, Abby. Matt is good to me and to my children and grandchildren, but sometimes I don't know what to think or do. I want us to buy a house, but I'm scared that if we do, she'll try to take it from us. He says she wouldn't. Please give me some ... proposal-married-man-little-cause-celebration-053003755 Tue, 22 May 2012 05:30:03 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/grooms-mom-turns-bridal-shower-mob-scene-055027349.html DEAR ABBY: I agreed to be maid of honor at my best friend's wedding. I am now planning her bridal shower and just received the guest list from her mother and the groom's mother, "Alicia."Alicia has given me the names of about 30 guests and says there are more people she wants to invite. Abby, the entire list will amount to nearly 70 guests!DEAR OVERWHELMED: You and the groom's mother are not on the same wavelength. She may be trying to repay social obligations, while you are simply trying to perform your attendant's duties. ... grooms-mom-turns-bridal-shower-mob-scene-055027349 Mon, 21 May 2012 05:50:27 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/fueling-car-engine-runs-taking-dangerous-risk-053206744.html DEAR ABBY: My father absolutely refuses to turn off the ignition when fueling his car, despite the warning signs at the pump. How can I convince him to stop endangering himself and my mother? -- WORRIED DOWN SOUTHDEAR WORRIED: Motorists are instructed to "Stop Motor" while refueling for good reason. Gasoline is highly flammable. However, it is not actually the liquid that burns. Even at temperatures as low as 45 degrees, gasoline gives off vapor.It is the vapors that ignite. Gasoline vapor is heavier than air, so when it ignites, it does so at ground level. ... fueling-car-engine-runs-taking-dangerous-risk-053206744 Sun, 20 May 2012 05:32:06 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/teens-anti-cursing-crusade-causes-her-friend-cry-050205799.html DEAR ABBY: I'm 19 and have a dear friend, "Emily," who is offended by cussing. She literally has never said a curse word in her life. When I'm around her I never use swear words because I respect her and her friendship.My issue is that Emily gets very upset if people swear around her. There have been nights that she ended up in tears because someone used foul language. She also angrily confronts people on this issue.I commend my friend on her decision not to curse, but I think it's unrealistic of her to expect everyone in the world to bend to her morals. ... teens-anti-cursing-crusade-causes-her-friend-cry-050205799 Sat, 19 May 2012 05:02:05 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/dad-not-eager-celebrate-rival-graduation-parties-050207259.html DEAR ABBY: I am a divorced man with a live-in girlfriend I'll call Donna. Her two boys also live with us. Donna's older son will graduate from high school this year, and she has planned a party that her mother and other family members will attend from out of state.My daughter, "Sara," is graduating from the same high school. Sara has shared her concerns with me that Donna's family won't care about celebrating her graduation. I tried to assure her that it's my day to celebrate her accomplishment with her.I discussed this with Donna and asked if we could recognize Sara at her son's party. ... dad-not-eager-celebrate-rival-graduation-parties-050207259 Fri, 18 May 2012 05:02:07 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/many-possible-stages-await-boomers-looking-encore-050014170.html DEAR ABBY: "Searching for 'Me' in Texas" (March 4) is not alone! A wave of 78 million baby boomers will soon leave 30-plus-year careers and are looking forward to an estimated 20 more years of life.A vast majority of them are looking for meaningful opportunities for the second half of their lives. "Searching" should seek out a non-profit organization for a cause she's passionate about and offer her skilled services. If "Searching" doesn't need an income, she can volunteer. ... many-possible-stages-await-boomers-looking-encore-050014170 Thu, 17 May 2012 05:00:14 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/women-control-health-learning-050016632.html DEAR ABBY: Between juggling the joys and challenges of home life and staying productive at work, it's easy for women to make quick decisions now that could affect their health later on, or to miss early signs of medical problems altogether.To help women take control of their health, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration's Office of Women's Health and the General Services Administration's Federal Citizen Information Center have created the free Healthy Women's Action Kit. It contains tips that can help women of every age. ... women-control-health-learning-050016632 Wed, 16 May 2012 05:00:16 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/golfer-improves-lie-must-learn-tell-truth-050203420.html DEAR ABBY: One of my friends, "Max," cheats at golf. Otherwise he's witty, interesting and fun to be around. He moves his ball closer to the hole on the green and "improves" his lie when he thinks no one is looking. I have tried to overlook Max's transgressions, but others in our golf group talk and joke behind his back. How should I go about stopping the problem without stressing our friendship? -- FLORIDA GOLFERDEAR GOLFER: What you have described is considered a terrible breach of golf etiquette. What it shows about Max is a serious lack of ethics. ... golfer-improves-lie-must-learn-tell-truth-050203420 Tue, 15 May 2012 05:02:03 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/teen-traffic-violations-may-ticket-only-ride-050208060.html DEAR ABBY: My niece, "Amy," got her driver's license last November. Since then she has been stopped six times for violations. Unfortunately, she wasn't ticketed for any of them -- just given warnings. Who knows how many other times she should have been ticketed?When Amy told me about it, she acted like it was a joke and something she was proud of. Her parents are divorced and her father spoils her beyond reason. He gives her whatever she wants, including buying her a new car. Her mother has little control over her. ... teen-traffic-violations-may-ticket-only-ride-050208060 Mon, 14 May 2012 05:02:08 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/adopted-daughter-grateful-birth-mothers-sacrifice-050216655.html DEAR ABBY: I hope you will print this on Mother's Day. This Mother's Day greeting is for all those incredibly unselfish mothers who chose to place their child up for adoption. I am an adopted child whose life has been a wonderful journey.If I could send a message to my birth mother, it would be one of eternal gratitude for allowing someone else to give me the life she was unable to provide. My adoptive parents love me and instilled a value system and belief in God that have carried me through every challenge life has sent my way. ... adopted-daughter-grateful-birth-mothers-sacrifice-050216655 Sun, 13 May 2012 05:02:16 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/happily-unmarried-woman-cant-moms-nagging-050202024.html DEAR ABBY: I am in a relationship with someone I graduated from school with, so we have known each other for a number of years. We are both divorced. Because I'm an only child, my mother has always been protective and controlling. She hasn't recovered from my divorce, although it happened more than 10 years ago, and constantly finds fault with my current relationship.She argues with me almost weekly that I should get married because it "looks bad for her" that I live with this man, and "in the sight of God this isn't right. ... happily-unmarried-woman-cant-moms-nagging-050202024 Sat, 12 May 2012 05:02:02 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/adult-survivor-child-abuse-wants-break-her-past-050206514.html DEAR ABBY: When I was in sixth grade, my 19-year-old brother, "Ray," came into my room and fondled me late at night. I pretended to be asleep so I didn't have to deal with the situation. I told my mom afterward. She told me not to tell my father and bought a lock for my door.Years later, when my sister found out what happened to me, she told me Ray had also done it to her. She told Dad and confronted Mom. Neither one ever said anything to Ray. They told us it was "in the past" and to leave it alone. ... adult-survivor-child-abuse-wants-break-her-past-050206514 Fri, 11 May 2012 05:02:06 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/son-deserves-dressing-down-opening-bedroom-drawers-050206665.html DEAR ABBY: My husband's son -- I'll call him Duncan -- came to visit with his family. He lived with us for about six months on and off when he was younger. During that time, he twice went through my dresser drawers without my permission. The first time, we discovered a photo of me in a negligee he had found and hidden. The second time, he said he had been looking for a key. I was furious and felt violated.During his recent visit, it happened a third time. I discovered my underwear drawer was slightly ajar and knew Duncan had used the bathroom in our bedroom. ... son-deserves-dressing-down-opening-bedroom-drawers-050206665 Thu, 10 May 2012 05:02:06 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/attention-chocolate-lovers-prepare-start-swooning-050010827.html DEAR ABBY: I have heard that your dessert recipes are fabulous and I'd like to have them. I saw a column in which you mentioned your cookbooklets. I hope I'm correct about this, because I'd be interested in getting them. I have your booklet of poems and essays, which I have read and enjoyed many times.Would you print your personal favorite dessert recipe and let me know how to get your cookbooklets? Warmest wishes to you, Abby, and thank you for all your columns. -- ANITA B. IN NEW JERSEYDEAR ANITA: You are welcome. ... attention-chocolate-lovers-prepare-start-swooning-050010827 Wed, 09 May 2012 05:00:10 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/boyfriends-cheating-heart-leaves-electronic-trail-050011730.html DEAR ABBY: I have been with my boyfriend "Paul" for four years. We have a child together, and we each have a child of our own. We have lived together for three years, and our family life is great. However, when I was pregnant with our son, Paul contacted an ex on a social network. One day he left his computer open, and I saw that their conversations were less than innocent. I was upset and I said something immediately.We have stayed together, but ever since then I'm having a hard time trusting Paul. Because he had also been calling the woman, I now check our phone records. ... boyfriends-cheating-heart-leaves-electronic-trail-050011730 Tue, 08 May 2012 05:00:11 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/bride-doesnt-want-families-sides-wedding-050023283.html DEAR ABBY: I'm getting married soon. My mom says we should have one side of the church reserved for my fiance's friends and family, and one side for ours. I disagree. Not only does it make me feel like we would be separating people when the occasion should be about unity, but he doesn't have a whole lot of people coming. It could embarrass him if I have 100 guests on my side and he has 30 on his.My fiance says he doesn't care, but I do! I want our guests blended in celebration of our union. ... bride-doesnt-want-families-sides-wedding-050023283 Mon, 07 May 2012 05:00:23 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/laws-invitation-snubs-still-rankle-27-years-050202786.html DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband, "Stu," for 27 years. His brother's family continues to send invitations addressed only to Stu. When they call to invite us to anything and I answer, they ask to speak to him. He has asked them not to do that.When RSVPing to the latest invitation to our niece's graduation party -- addressed only to my husband -- I said that he would attend as he was the only one invited. I also asked if I had done something to offend anyone. ... laws-invitation-snubs-still-rankle-27-years-050202786 Sun, 06 May 2012 05:02:02 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/artist-achieve-dream-first-must-job-050011262.html DEAR ABBY: I'm an artist and budding filmmaker with a B.A. degree. My problems are my job situation and where I live.My dad has told me that -- like him and his father -- my brother and I share a similar problem. We all have trouble getting and keeping jobs. We never seem to get ahead or be content or comfortable. On my mother's side, however, she, her father, her brother and my cousin all have held steady jobs. Why is that?As an artist, I feel I don't really fit into any job description. Mom would like me to work for the federal government like she does, but I don't want to. ... artist-achieve-dream-first-must-job-050011262 Sat, 05 May 2012 05:00:11 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/bird-man-excluded-town-festival-tries-not-squawk-051210981.html DEAR ABBY: I am a professional ornithologist (bird expert) with a substantial record of accomplishments -- books, scientific papers, blog, website, consultant work, etc.My hometown has held a bird festival for more than a decade and each year it features a main speaker at the dinner. My expertise and experience far outshine that of any of the speakers they have invited by a considerable margin. I am well-known in town, but have not been asked to speak. ... bird-man-excluded-town-festival-tries-not-squawk-051210981 Fri, 04 May 2012 05:12:10 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/wisdom-age-teaches-man-hold-fire-insult-053206154.html DEAR ABBY: While standing in a serving line at a restaurant, a man commented to my wife about her weight. She was very upset. My take was, "Don't talk to strange men." Later, I wondered whether I should have confronted the guy, slugged him or waited for him in the parking lot.As a young man I was prone to rash actions. I would like to think in my golden years that I have outgrown this tendency. Still, I'm not sure I handled the situation correctly. I want my wife to be confident that I would come to her defense. Please advise. ... wisdom-age-teaches-man-hold-fire-insult-053206154 Thu, 03 May 2012 05:32:06 +0000 http://news.yahoo.com/offense-eye-body-arts-beholder-050402375.html DEAR ABBY: On a recent airline flight, a tall man who sat behind me had his left leg out in the aisle during most of the trip. He was wearing shorts, and you could see his large tattoo of a naked woman on his thigh. The drawing was very explicit, and there was no way to avoid seeing it because passengers had to cross over his leg to reach the bathroom. ... offense-eye-body-arts-beholder-050402375 Wed, 02 May 2012 05:04:02 +0000