What is the latest research about brain and behavior? How can you use this knowledge in your daily life?

Have you ever wondered why psychotherapy works (or not)?

Did you know that one goal of therapy is to link different parts of the brain together (called “neural integration”)?
YES – this can help you work through trauma and get unstuck.

Our brains develop around our experiences. For example, if you were exposed to music then parts of your brain are wired for music.
What happen if you were raised in a stressful environment?

Do thoughts really cause things? What does early intervention mean and how can it help your child?

All of these issues will be discussed with my in studio guest, Holly Miller , Pasadena psychotherapist (www.hollytherapy.com – free DVD!),
Tuesday at 1:00 PM on KPFK, 90.7 FM
Streaming live on the web at www.KPFK.org

Dr. Nita Vallens

Did you know that only about ½ of eligible voters have voted in federal elections? In 1960, it was 63 % and in 2000 only 51.3 % voted (Harris & Allen, 2003).

I believe we must vote to exercise our right to do so and we need to also lift the veil of secrecy around how our votes are processed.

If you saw the recent documentary screened last week on HBO, “Hacking Democracy”, your eyes have been opened and you may be wondering, “Why bother?”

The documentary pointed out that the computers that process 80 % of America ’s votes made by three main companies are easily tampered with in a way that cannot be traced. Individual counties across the country pay millions of dollars for these systems. If Bev Harris had not discovered the FTP site of one of the companies, the secrets of how these machines operate would still be a secret (Hacking Democracy, HBO, Oct., 2006).

In her book, “Black Box Voting”, Harris asks, “What would the founder of this country ask you to do?” In numerous quotes by J efferson and others, she offers the theme that our leaders are supposed to be accountable to us, the voters (2003).

Remember, one person can make a difference. Please vote and get involved in your community!!!!

Blessings,

Nita

Jane Hersey, author of “Why Can’t My Child Behave?.” She will be discussing the Feingold Diet and how to keep kids “food safe” on the holiday.

Do you know why teachers call the day after Halloween the “worst day of the year?” YOU think it’s the sugar or the excitement – wrong answer! Ms. Hersey says we should read the tiny print on the candy wrappers and look for numbers. It is actually the synthetic food dyes that trigger behavior problems in children, including hives, swelling and respiratory problems.

Also, we will have Richard Salva, author of “Soul Journey” sharing his method of uncovering hidden past life clues from the costumes you wear on Halloween. Or, is it deja vu?

Mr. Salva calls himself the “Reincarnation Detective” – do you believe you have lived before? After 30 years of research, he will tell us what reincarnation is and what it is not.

Today is all about fun with your calls!!

Dr. Nita Vallens

If you enjoyed the Wayne Dyer interview (MP3), you’ll be happy to know that I will be talking with him on today’s show in the second segment! His latest book is titled, “Being in Balance: 9 Principles for Creating Habits to Match Your Desires”.

Here are some concepts from the book that we will be discussing:

1 – Is there a discrepancy between your dreams and your activities in support of those dreams?

2 – How do you act on the longing or heart’s desire to be what you’re supposed to be?

3 – Which universal law can you rely on to transform your life?

4 – Are you ready to shift your thinking and realize your dreams? How do you get started?

5 – Are you controlled by addictions – how can you be free? HINT: It’s all about realignment, love, releasing shame, and living from a new knowing. (see p. 105)

6 – How can you know when you have thoughts or actions that unbalance your desires?

One of my favorite quotes from Dr. Dyer’s book is: “There’s no such thing as stress, there are only people thinking stressful thoughts” (2006, p. 108) www.drwaynedyer.com

Dr. Dyer will join us at 1:30 pm , after we speak with Marc Darrow , MD, a board certified physiatrist. If you have muscle or joint pain you will not want to miss this segment and you can get his book for free during the show by calling his office at 310.231.7000 or 800 REHAB10 www.1800rehab10.com

Please join me today on Inner Vision, 1:00 pm PST on KPFK Los Angeles, 90.7 FM, or on line at www.KPFK.org click on “listen live”.

All my best,

Dr. Nita

The detailed research in this book will turn many of your accepted and conventional ideas or beliefs about women’s health completely upside down and hopefully get you thinking and dialoguing with others, men too!

Some of the areas to be discussed on today’s show include:

How have women unwittingly accelerated the aging process?
What are the ramifications of delaying pregnancy?
Can staying up late cause you to gain weight?
Are we aging faster than previous generations?
Is it true that you can’t fool mother nature – what does this mean?
What did the work of Charles Huggins really say about hormones and cancer?
Is the trade off for living longer, aging faster?

Please join me today at 1:00 pm (PST) on InnerVision when my guest T. S. Wiley debunks many myths about women’s health and explains the facts on natural hormone replacement. Remember we are streaming live on the web at www.kpfk.org.

All my best,

Dr. Nita

Today’s show will feature author Cyndi Dale and her book, Advanced Chakra Healing: Energy Mapping On The Four Pathways. This show will give you tools to empower you in the area of self healing and helping others.

What is a chakra? It is an energy center in the body and when used properly miracles can occur in the healing realm – listen to Inner Vision today and find out more!
For a detailed list, go to www.cyndidale.com

Remember, this is about how YOU can make a difference helping yourself and others heal from disaster. You might have been affected by this hurricane or anther trauma. It could be a death, divorce or another significant loss for you.
www.nitavallens.com

Dr. Nita

How do we become more conscious?
What is the difference between consciousness and awareness?
Who am I?
Why am I here?

If you are interested in these questions, you will want to listen to today’s edition of Inner Vision with my guest, Steven Sadleir. He has taught self-realization to thousands of students in over 120 countries. Mr. Sadleir is also an author of many books and Director of the Self Awareness Institute in Laguna Beach, California.

Have you found peace within? Are you looking for bliss? Are you stuck looking for happiness form the outside in?

Join us today on InnerVision at 1:00 PM, PST on 90.7 FM or on line at www.kpfk.org, worldwide!

“By realizing this Divine presence within you, it opens up: it blooms like the thousand-petaled lotus.”

-Steven Sadleir

It’s all about love – tune in and find out more!

Our minds think stress if there is anything we’re worried about. It could be a health issue, family problem or difficulty at work.

However, our bodies experience stress as any CHANGE takes place in our lives. This includes happy things that occur as well as upsetting events. Stress takes place because it is the body’s de-compensation or wear and tear as we adjust to the continuously changing environment.

So, thinking about things or imagining about what might happen in the future is also perceived by the body as stressful. Pushing your body too hard, illness and environmental factors can cause changes in the body as well as, resulting in emotional stress.

Also keep in mind that emotional stress from arguments, conflicts, or other pressures can cause us to communicate in a less effective manner.

For example, Virginia Satir, a pioneer in family therapy, identified four styles of dysfunctional movements in response to stress (see “The New Peoplemaking”, 1988):

Placating
Blaming
Computing
Distracting

These are used to avoid, criticize, control or distract respectively, rather than talk through an issue until resolved.

Satir stated that the only way to communicate effectively is through leveling. This alleviates the need to use the four above mentioned dysfunctional communication modes and calls for careful listening, staying focused on one issue at a time and using “I” statements.

Here is a useful formula to use: (fill in the blanks)
“When you_________________, I feel______________________.
What I want/need is______________________________.

Tune in for more!

What would you do if you were the husband? How would you feel if you were the wife? What will happen to this marriage? Is it a set up for an affair?

Is a little lie ever okay? Should you tell the complete truth even if someone’s feelings are at risk?

Author Brad Blanton, in his book “Honest To God”, co-authored with Neale Donald Walsch, talks about how people fear the intensity of their feelings. “We usually go to the level of emotional interpretation and try to “understand” our feelings as a way of avoiding having the feelings at the level of sensation in our body” (2002). If you are in your head interpreting, are you over intellectualizing to avoid feelings? Are you secretly angry with the person? Do you take yourself out of your feelings to stay in your comfort zone?

If you are afraid of your own feelings, then no wonder you are reticent to hurt someone else’s. The cost of little white lies, “cover ups” or protecting someone’s feelings could be the relationship.

I believe we have to start telling it like it is – one truth at a time. Stay in the conversation with someone until it is worked out. Ask for what you want. Stay consistent – keep your integrity – do what you say you are going to do. Then, the truth won’t be so scary.

Tuesdays 1- 2 pm

Host: Nita Vallens

Email:
doctornita@KPFK.org

Official Website: www.NitaVallens.com

You can still enjoy today even if you are in “relationship transition”….
Pamper yourself!!

Remember, be mindful of your expectations of this holiday. Valentine’s Day can happen anytime during the year. Do something special for your sweetheart anytime.

What do you need to feel loved? Ask one another!

Focus on appreciation and gratitude – don’t think it – share it! Be who you really are and share something about yourself – hopes, gleams, dreams…

Speaking of dreams, February is also Black History month. It saddens me to see the level of divisiveness, prejudice and ignorance that still exists today. I hope you will join me in a prayer that in our lifetimes we will see this transformed….

“No people who are ignorant can ever be free”

Thomas Jefferson

Lastly, this is also our pledge drive month and I trust you will give generously!

A couple of years ago, the InnerVision strip was merged into the 1:00 PM hour and I was moved to Tuesdays. It has been a pleasure to serve you in the day time bringing you cutting edge information and helping you with your transform your relationships.

Highlights of the January shows will include Cathy Hawk and the latest on her coaching method and new products, Joyce Catlett and Lisa Firestone discussing their new work at the Glendon Association, and dialogues between you and me about your relationships, New Year’s Resolutions and accomplishments from 2005.

If you are recovering from the hectic holiday season, remember to relax and de-compress. Honor yourself by taking time out for you and do this every day! After you rest and recover, then you can begin work on your 2006 goals!

Extra demands can be overwhelming so be sure you take time to smell the pine cones, take time for you, and don’t say “yes” when you want to say “NO!”

Seriously, be assertive and ask for help when you need it; aren’t we all here to support one another?

“Cooperation is spelled with two letters: WE”

George M. Verity

Be creative: If you are bothered by the commercialism of the times create some new traditions with your loved ones. For example, have a potluck dinner instead of a gift exchange. Find your own inner meaning for the season and finally, be grateful for what you have accomplished for yourself in 2005!

As the conversation unfolded, I sensed that her fear of being alone and moving on independently was at the bottom of this.

I suggested that she begin the process of dialogue with her ex-husband to create an opening for a new living situation as well as dating and ultimately, a new relationship.

I hope you heard the call and noticed the shift as I did!

“You may be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don’t try.”

Beverly Sills

DON’T STAY STUCK – TAKE A RISK!

DO YOU GIVE AND GIVE AND NEVER RECEIVE?

HAVE YOU UNKNOWINGLY ABANDONED YOURSELF?

WHAT IS CODEPENDENCY?

After recent shows on codependency, many of you wrote asking for clarification.

So, let’s review.

The term was originally used to describe the spouses of alcoholics.

This was because they rescued and took care of others to the exclusion of their own needs and feelings.

Additionally, codependents usually cannot handle their own lives and are more comfortable managing yours and mine!

In the words of Maya Bailey, PhD, codependents “learn to care-take instead of care and to rescue instead of love.”

If you think you are codependent, get to work on learning who you really are, forming appropriate boundaries and learn to love yourself first!

GET MOTIVATED AND GET INTO ACTION! Read Wayne Dyer!

How could I finish off a November note to you without mentioning Thanksgiving?

Well, I saved it for last! Use this holiday to be grateful and make a gratitude list every time you begin that descent to the pity pot.

If you read the above and felt discouraged or had an “aha” moment, let the feelings come and then let them go.

For a shot of real “feeling good”, pick up a copy of THE POWER OF INTENTION by Wayne Dyer.

We have spoken a few times over the years and he is awesome and so is his work….dig in and enjoy and HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!