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:Lifestylers: Mindy

Sat, 19 May 2012 22:19:00 -0400

The first Lifestyler to grace the pages of iDoleo.com is Mindy. Mindy is a 30 something, shy submissive (sometimes switch) that hails from the Czech Republic. I met Mindy quite by chance while killing a little time perv’ing profiles at the House of V.

Mindy was off to one side of the bar dancing by herself. I took notice of her because her avatar was sporting a wonderful full wrap around set of braces. I was intrigued. When I read Mindy’s profile, I found that one of her fetishes was orthodontic braces and specifically orthodontic headgear. Having not encountered that particular fetish before, I IM’ed Mindy to introduce myself. What I discovered was a charming submissive with a wonderful and playful personality.

We chatted for a bit at the House of V and I introduced her to iDoleo.com. With Mindy receptive to doing an interview and photo shoot for iDoleo.com, I knew I had found my first Lifestyler. We TP’ed to a more scenic location and spent a fantastic afternoon getting to know one another while capturing some fantastic images.

So… What’s the scoop on Mindy? As I said, she is a shy submissive and sometimes a switch. She is in her 30s and is located in the Czech Republic. Mindy is currently unowned, but has been owned in the past in both 2nd Life and 1st Life. Her sexual preference is for males and she is in 2nd Life because she loves meeting new people from around the world. She also enjoys using 2nd Life as a way to learn about and try things unavailable to her in 1st Life.

Mindy’s fetish for orthodontic braces and orthodontic headgear is a bit unique. At least I feel it is unique. Exploring this with her during the photo shoot, Mindy revealed that she finds orthodontic braces and headgear highly erotic and loves them for the restrictive and humiliating nature of wearing them. This all fits in well with some of Mindy’s other fetishes, like chastity belts and using Restrained Love Viewer (RLV) in 2nd Life.

I had a blast spending time with Mindy and… I must admit, I did find her braces more than a little erotic! A great person… A great submissive… If you see her out and about in 2nd Life, she is pleasure to get to know. Don’t miss the opportunity, if you see her!

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:Doleo: Happy Birthday To Pete Townshend!!

Sat, 19 May 2012 11:53:00 -0400

Happy Birthday Pete!! What a great Rocker!! Pete is a true original and real inspiration. Thanks for all the wonderful music throughout the years.

:This Is My Avatar: Installment No. 1

Wed, 16 May 2012 21:14:14 -0400

This is my Avatar.
There are many like it, but this one is mine.
My Avatar, without me, is useless.
Without my Avatar, I am useless.

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SG: I think he’s hawt for TM.
TM: Me? Oh hell no!
TM: He looks like he belongs on My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding.
SG: Oh come on admit it… You like the prim beard thing?
Alec: No worries… I got your back TM.
TM: Well… There is something about a guy who can rock a bad 90’s hair cut and a leather jacket but no shirt.
TM: Rolls her eyes.
SG: Spews water across my keyboard.
Alec: That’s how I look in 1st Life.
SG: But… With less hair.
SG: Ducks
TM: Yeah… I’m gonna need to see pics to back that one up!!

:Movie: The Avengers

Mon, 14 May 2012 19:39:01 -0400

The movie a lot of us have been waiting for is finally here. After years of build up and five individual films later, Marvel Comic’s The Avengers is a reality. Was it worth the wait? Did it meet our expectations? You bet your ass it did!! What a great effort and an “AWESOME” way to kick off the summer movie blockbuster run.

The Avengers does not disappoint. It has lots of action. It has great dialog for a genre movie. It has well established characters and plot lines. It has wonderful and timely comedic relief. The Avengers is a complete package and well worth every ticket dollar you spend.

What made the movie for me? Those that know me, know I love Ironman and Robert Downey Jr.’s interpretation of Tony Stark. This is Downey’s third installment of playing the part and it is as fresh and intising as the original. Job well done!!

For many, though, I think the captivating character will be Mark Ruffalo as Bruce Banner and The Hulk. There are some truly memorable moment for Hulk fans. No spoilers here there, though :) lol

So… Take a few hours and escape into the wonder world of Marvel Comics and The Avengers. Log out of 2nd Life now and go see The Avengers on the big screen. Enjoy!!

:Doleo: Broken Promises. Broken Heart.

Fri, 11 May 2012 11:17:00 -0400

This is a difficult blog post for me to write. It involves feelings and emotions that will always be with me, one sided as they might be. One part of me does not want to express myself or explore these feelings, openly or otherwise. Another part of me just wants to let go with a flood of pure emotion.

Writing helps, though… So, with tear filled eyes, I will do the telling.

As some of you know, I am recently out of a 1st Life D/s relationship I loved and never wanted to end. I never thought it would end, actually.

After little more than a month, I reach out to the submissive that I once called mine. I sent her a text message and told her I missed her. I told her I still wear the knotted leather bracelet she bought me as an outward symbol of our relationship. Like her collar, this bracelet expressed my commitment to her and to the promises I/we made.

With the text message sent, I waited. An hour past before I received a response. It was not the response I had hoped for. It was short and somewhat cold and did not have the caring feel of the submissive I loved and knew as mine. It had the feeling of finality.

The response I got back filled me with all the same emotions of loss that I experienced the day our relationship ended. It affected me in profound way that is difficult to express in words. I read the text message, then reread it. I looked at the bracelet on my wrist. I looked back at her reply.

I began to write my own response… I was empty and numb and my text back reflected those feelings. I ended with… “I know this must feel right to you. It will never feel right to me. Take care.” I sent it.

I watched the progress bar side from left to the right as my message was sent. Then, it was done. Sent. Silence. I waited a few moments. Silence. I waited a few minutes. No reply came back.

I looked at the bracelet on my wrist. I reach out to it with my free hand. Touched it. Gripped it. Squeezed it around my wrist. Then, slowly, began to remove it. I went to unclasp the leather loop from the leather knot. The knot came undone. It untied. The bracelet fell off my wrist and laid in my lap broken.

I just looked at it, empty and numb. Broken, promises… Broken, heart…

:Doleo Design: Passion

Fri, 20 Apr 2012 11:08:33 -0400

Recently, I was asked what drives me? What is my passion? The answer is simple… It is the creative process and, specifically, photography and the convergence of digital photography and video.

For those of you that know me in 1st Life, you know I bill myself as a “creative”. For those of you that do not, I am, in fact, a digital media consultant in 1st Life with my own company and production studio.

With the above in mind, I thought it would be fun to post some images from a recent photography weekend from the middle of February. The location is Cape May, New Jersey. Cape May is a favorite location of mine and one I know well, as I grew up there during the summers of my youth.

Although the weather was mild, it was overcast most of the weekend. That, however, worked to my advantage as my main goal was to capture some stark black-and-white images. There are also a few monotone and muted color images in this collection.

The images that follow are a sampling of my effort. They were all taken with a Canon 40D and a Canon EF 24-105mm f4.0L IS lens. All the images were shot in Canon’s RAW format and processed using Lightroom 4. The final treatment of each image was done in a 16:9 aspect ratio.

I have never posted any of my 1st Life creative work here on iDoleo.com. I tend not cross the streams (reference Ghostbusters…lol) when it comes to my professional life. That said… I know there are a couple of people from 2nd Life that have asked to see my work. I hope these images live up to those peoples expectations. Enjoy!!

:Slave Girls: I Dream Of Jeannie

Thu, 19 Apr 2012 09:24:00 -0400

Let’s be honest here guys… How many of us around in the mid 60’s and early 70’s didn’t have a crush on Barbara Eden as Jeannie in the iconic TV sitcom, I Dream of Jeannie?

Show of hands, please? Mine is up!! How about yours? Hey… Young dude the back corner of the Internet, get your damn hand up too. You’ve seen the reruns. I see you smiling and nodding your head.

Okay, okay… Jeannie may not have been a slave in the classic sense. She sure as hell was a submissive, though, with a slave heart. She also liked to top from the bottom, only to give in to her Master, Captain/Major, Anthony Nelson, in the end. Captain/Major Nelson (Tony) was played by Larry Hagman and his character was an Astronaut working for NASA.

From the campy harem outfits to the over saturated colors (the first season was shot in black and white) to the underwritten sexual overtones and content, I Dream of Jennie and Barbara Eden were huge fantasy come true. Thank you Barbara… Thank you Jeannie…

Enjoy!!

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Personal Side Note: You know you’re part of pop culture when they design a slot machine after you. Last time I was in Vegas, I was there with my ex-pet, Mimi. We spent a whole afternoon playing the I Dream of Jeannie slot machines at the Luxor. Too funny…

:Doleo: The Dad, His Jeep, The Son, Their Music

Sat, 14 Apr 2012 09:13:00 -0400

Warning… This is a blatant feel good post!! About time, right?? Lol.

I love cool crisp Spring mornings. I love them even more when I am driving down the road in my open Jeep while blasting some righteous tunes (Yes, I just said righteous). Today’s destinantion… Day one of a two day soccer tournament with my son.

A quick stop for a coffee and a hot chocolate and then the urban road for an hour commute to the soccer fields. With my coffee in hand, I have my son dial in some music. For me… Jamiroquai, Chicago, and, of course, Hall & Oates (You can never have too much Hall & Oates!). For my son… AC/DC, Aerosmith, and Nelly.

What a great morning!! What a great time with my son!! My lesson to you… Enjoy these moments, and others like them, when they come.

:The Grid: The Roof @ NYC

Tue, 10 Apr 2012 16:44:00 -0400

Lately, I have discovered the live music scene in 2nd Life. I know… I know… Alec, where the hell have you been?!?! Lol. So with that in mind, I IM’ed a friend last night and asked her to slip into something head turning cause we were going out. After five minutes in Search, I stumbled upon a live music event at The Roof @ NYC.

I popped over and was pleasantly surprised to see an artist rich line up for the evening. The venue was of course packed, but I found a little slice of floor and TP’ed my friend in. Wow!! That was all I could say about my friend :) A real pink yummy gummy… (lol, inside joke). I dialed up a nice slow dance, pulled my friend close, and together we settled into a wonderful night.

The theme for the night at The Roof @ NYC was Superheros. The atmosphere was charged and electric thanks to the artists and their awesome energies. The music was fantastic!!

Who played, you ask? The first set was Voodoo Shilton and Mulder Watts. The second set was Maximillion Kleene, Stella Silvansky, and Raspbury Rearwin. The third set was Ganjo Mokeey. The forth and final set was Loreen Aldrin.

All good things come to an end though :( Sadly, after four hours of truly wonderful music, it was time to TP out. My friend and I said night to the artists and patrons and then TP’ed home for some cuddle time before bed. What a great night!! What a great venue!! Some of the best artists 2nd Life has to offer!!

:Doleo Life: The Stranger

Tue, 10 Apr 2012 07:39:00 -0400

Once I used to believe, I was such a great romancer.
Then, I came home to a woman that I could not recognize.
When I pressed her for a reason, she refused to even answer.
It was then I felt the stranger kick me right between the eyes.

Bill Joel - The Stranger

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This song and these lyrics have been playing in my mind of late. I find them to be a source of great comfort and distress. They are a comfort because I know I am not alone in my feelings on recent events in my personal life. They are a distress because they are a sad reminder of an all to common reality in relationships.

I would like to think that I do not have my own Stranger. That might be wishful thinking. I really do not know. I am sure others that know me would be better able to address and debate that point. What I do know is, I have encountered the Stranger of others in my life. It is a sobering experience, to say the least, when it happens.

The ironic part is that many of us exist and live as our Stranger in 2nd Life. Our avatars are the faces we hide away in 1st Life and 2nd Life is the place we take them out and show ourselves.

Here is hoping that you never see the Stranger. If you do, though… Take heart and know you are not alone.

:Doleo Life: Back From The Dead

Sat, 07 Apr 2012 09:36:00 -0400

Here we go again… Yet another attempt to keep this blog current and relevant. A lot has happened to me since my last post back in August of 2011. I left 2nd Life for a bit and returned. I lost Mimi, my wonderful and beloved pet of more than three years, to 1st Life and issues the two of us could not resolve. I recently found and lost my Chia (Samirah), a submissive and D/s relationship that will never leave my heart. All hard lessons learned with very high emotional costs.

Christ, how I have changed over the years since 2004. This was pointed out to me the other night while talking to a dear friend of mine named Gemini. Gem and I have a long history, good and bad. Through it all, though, Gem has always been an objective voice and, in many ways, my barometer and conscious.

Gem reminded me of who I was… Who I am… Who I need to be. Tough talk to hear from a friend that can be brutal. Sad how 1st Life and 2nd Life can take its toll on us all. Hard to accept we create our own reality, especially so after traumatic episodes in our lives.

All that said… Life does go on as long as we live and breath. Doors close and open everyday. And yes… I meant to say close and open rather than open and close for a reason. Stirred and shaken, I know who and what I am. I know what I want. As I am the sum of my losses and triumphs, so this blog will be reborn and reenergized (at least for a few posts…lol). Enjoy!! Please stop back to see the new posts and the new sections.

Thanks for the support and the read!! See you around the grid…

:Slave Girls: Orion Slave Girls

Mon, 01 Aug 2011 23:41:08 -0400

Welcome to a new featured category of iDoleo.com, Slave Girls. This category is dedicated to the representation and expression of submissives and slaves as depicted in art, the media, and pop culture.

I am kicking off this featured category with one of the most erotic representations of a slave girl found in modern pop culture. As the name gives it away… This post showcases the green Orion Slave Girls from Star Trek.

I am a huge fan of science fiction and of Star Trek. Hard to believe a serious minded Dom and Sadist is into either? Well… Believe it and enjoy the photo of Vina, the first green Orion Slave Girl depicted in the original Star Trek series.

Enjoy!!

:Doleo Life: Evolution And The Lifestyle

Sat, 30 Jul 2011 10:26:00 -0400

I found myself in what I thought was a friendly chat the other day at the Gor Hub. I was sitting in a comfy chair and observing the goings and comings that is the “Hub” when I began talking with a woman that teleported in next to me. At first, it was the typical 2nd Life getting to know you chat. Then… the discussion took a strange turn.

What was the topic of discussion, you ask? It was about one’s nature as a submissive or a dominant and whether or not modern humans fall into those categories or whether “evolution” has stripped us of the those basic traits for a reality that is less black and white and more grey.

Now, if you have read this blog at all, you know my views already. I am a Dom and a Sadist of many years. That is who I am and who I have been. Being dominant has defined both my personal and professional life. The woman I was talking to was a submissive, or so I thought, and was located in Germany.

The submissive’s points of view went something like this:

One’s nature as a submissive or dominant, is not a black and white position.
If those broad categories were the true nature of things, it would be a boring world.
There are no broad categories or traits in individuals, but rather people are composed of a mix of many characteristics.
There is no natural order of things or rather the order of things seen in nature no longer applies to humans.

All of these point are certainly valid given specific contexts. That said, these points are also the usual points that a Switch would give to the justification of their position. This isn’t going to be post on Switches, but I will just say… I do not believe in Switches. Every Switch I have ever met, 1st Life or 2nd Life, prefers either the dominant role or the submissive role and they basically switch because it maximizes their kink and sexual cravings.

After the submissive was finished expressing her views, I countered with mine.

There is a natural order to life on this planet. It can be seen in nature and in human culture(s), both past and present.
Like predator and prey, being a dominant or a submissive is a very real broad trait in one’s personality, even if not known or directly expressed or acted on.
The black and white aspect of being dominant or submissive is that these categories exist and are real.

This is where the conversation passed into the realm of a jaw dropper, what-the-fuck moment for me. This submissive actually started to try and defend the notion that the transfer of natural mechanisms to humans was “useless” since “we humans have hardly nothing to do with nature anymore as evolution did not go by without making it’s mark on us”.

Then the submissive’s point turned a bit more personal when she asked me, “hows about dropping your ego totally? …that would be a way to become natural again?” lmao… It always comes down to the personal attack, doesn’t it? Two people having and honest debate and when one of the people can no longer defend their position, it turns personal. Typical and sad…

The conversation turned one sided at that point with me stating I do not see how anyone that believes humans have evolved in the same closed system as everything else around us is somehow above that process. To me… That thought and point of view is what screams “ego”.

Humans have not left this closed system. Humans are still apart of it. And… The closed system and the evolution processes that created us still influence and shape us today. This means that those broad categories of traits we see around us, like “prey and predator” and “domination and submission” exist in us and will continue to exist in us. We cannot separate ourselves from the processes that created us.

This is not a question of black and white vs grey. Like it or hate it, this is a fact of life as it evolved on this planet. These broad categories and traits at their basic level define us. Welcome to planet Earth!! :)

:Doleo: Making More Of An Effort

Fri, 29 Jul 2011 22:51:00 -0400

Okay… Okay… I know I have let this blog fall into a terrible state of disrepair. Time to make an effort to mend the damage and get things hopping again.

To be honest, I have not really been in 2nd Life all that much. As I tend to do, I lost my drive and reason for being there. It happens, especially when one has been in 2nd Life as long as I have. Early 2004 seems like several lifetimes ago!!

Over the past year, not much has changed in 2nd Life, in my opinion. I still feel like the “golden age” of 2nd Life and other virtual worlds has come and gone. That said… Other grids and virtual worlds continue to pop up and grow.

The BDSM and Gorean communities also continue to disappoint. As much as I like to create and build, I must say… The continued lack of quality people inside 2nd Life makes it difficult to be there and participate in any meaningful way.

With all that said… I did greatly enjoy writing this blog and it is time for me to get off my ass and write again. So, if you see out in the wilds of 2nd Life, feel free to say hello.

Take care for now and keep checking back. New posts and content are coming!!

:Doleo Life: Mickey Mouse Dominants

Sat, 18 Dec 2010 23:42:00 -0500

I have not blogged since the Summer. That does not mean I have not been in 2nd Life. I have been in-world, but not as often as I used to be. Why?? Well, IMO 2nd Life keeps sinking into the abyss of “why bother”. This is especially true when it comes to being a serious Dom or sub/slave in 2nd Life.

I know… I know… I am always going on about how most in 2nd Life do not take the D/s or M/s lifestyle seriously and how most are just players at best. I wish I didn’t have to drone on and on about it, but I am just not one to let “players” pretend they are something they are not. I call them as I see them…PERIOD!

That brings me to the subject of this blog post, Mickey Mouse Dominants. The other night (well night for me), I logged to relax and hang at one of my favorite lifestyle hang outs. I ran into a couple of friends, one of which is a sub I have known for a fair amount of time and in fact owned. While talking with her in a private IM, I noticed that she seemed to be involved with a Dom of some note and inquired what that was all about. She informed me that she was his 2nd.

Upon hearing this news, I gave her a couple of LOLs and LMAOs. I have known her for a couple of years and have known of this Dom for just as long. This was the first time I saw her with him, yet… She made it sound like her 2nd status was not new. I found all of this even more amusing considering the Dom in question historically blows through subs with some regularity. Recently he has owned two subs, one after another in a short amount of time, and still has time for a 2nd.

Why does any of this matter? It matters because some subs/slaves see this Dom (and others like him) as being real because he is a regular in 2nd Life and has a bit of a 2nd Life presence. The fact remains… This Dom is no Dom. He is purely driven by the social and kink aspects of the lifestyle. This is even more evident as this Dom has also claimed to be a Switch in the past.

This is a classic example of what I call a Mickey Mouse Dominant. A 2nd Life player that wants others to think he/she is a serious Dominant yet shows he/she is nothing of the sort by his/her actions. This type of Dominant mostly attracts and seeks subs/slaves with little or no real experience or exposure to the lifestyle, online or offline. It is this aspect of the Mickey Mouse Dominant that is a real crime for those subs/slaves that are real, want to be real, or are seeking real training.

If the above were not enough, the real proof that this Dom is just a player was demonstrated when he was confronted by how others see him (the others in question being me…lol). Instead of asking me why I have this opinion of him and opening a dialog, he used his 2nd Life presence to confront and attack me directly.

How would he know my opinion of him considering I do not publicly discuss such things or use names when I write blog posts?? Well… That is a long story in itself and worthy of a blog post of its own. I will just say, at this point, it involves multiple instances of private log file transfers and clear violations of the Linden Lab’s Terms-of-Service by at least three known parties. As I said at the beginning of this post… IMO 2nd Life keeps sinking into the abyss of “why bother”.

:Movie: Inception

Sun, 18 Jul 2010 09:48:49 -0400

I went to see Inception last night. From the previews I saw, I was not sure if I was going to like this film. I could not have been more wrong. Inception is the first truly original film I have seen in a long, long time. It is creative, fresh, and very thought provoking, especially the ending (no spoilers here).

There are some that may have a difficult time following the plot and the twists it takes. It is a nonstop ride that changes both speed and direction on the viewer through out the entire film. Stay with it, though, and you will be rewarded with a wonderfully unique movie going experience.

Inception is a first. It is a true film Masterpiece that others will attempt to clone and copy. Get out and see it on the big screen!!

:Doleo Design: The New Store

Fri, 16 Jul 2010 08:53:00 -0400

I have been working on a new store for :Doleo: Design. It is smaller and much less ambitious than my previous business ventures in 2nd Life. It is, however, also more enjoyable and a true labor of love.

The concept and theme for the store is as follows: simplicity and multipurpose. It is located on a 16,384 sq. m. lot, rather than a full sim. It is housed in a 30m x 30m skybox floating at 1,500m. It is vendor based with a strong Second Life Marketplace presence. It is designed to serve many purposes, including 1) a small build area, 2) free and public photo studio, and 3) a comfy hangout for patrons of both :Doleo: Design and :Doleo: Life.

The new store is still a work in progress. It will remain that way for sometime as I tweak things and begin to bring my inventory and vendors online. In the meantime, I wanted to showcase my new baby :) So… Here are a few photos for your review and pleasure. When the new store is truly ready to open, I will announce it here and in my 2nd Life profile and provide links and landmarks.

Enjoy…

:Link: The History of 2nd Life

Tue, 13 Jul 2010 07:41:00 -0400

For the past three weeks, I have been reading a wonderful series of posts on Massively.com about the history of 2nd Life. This series was written by Tateru Nino and is a wonderful retrospective of the virtual world we all know and love (and love to hate…lol). Lots of good information and little known facts here. A lot of research and work went into this series and it shows. Well worth the read and highly recommended!!

The History of 2nd Life:

:Doleo Life: Real Time Limits

Mon, 12 Jul 2010 17:55:00 -0400

I love reading profiles in 2nd Life. Like many of you, I am a self proclaimed profile whore…lol Reading profiles is a wonderful pass time because you just never know what you will find.

The above is specially true for those in 2nd Life that like to roleplay D/s or M/s relationships and lifestyles. For that group, there is almost always a section in the profile dedicated to roleplay limits. This is commonly seen as a Picks Tab entitled, RP Limits.

I am not into roleplay. This is especially so in 2nd Life. Having said that, I thought it would be fun to compile my own list of real time limits. My RT Limits, if you will. And please people… No need to freak!! This is just some in-world fun and a bit of 2nd Life parody :)

Real Time Limits:

Keep it real. No roleplay allowed.
Voice, cam, and real time use required.
If captured, ownership is permanent.
Force collaring is guaranteed.
No limits on use or treatment.
If you displease, you will be punished.
If you continue to displease, instant death.

:Movie: Knight and Day

Thu, 08 Jul 2010 08:19:41 -0400

If it is another hot and humid night in the middle of summer, then it is a good night for a movie. Last night’s fare was Knight and Day with Tom Cruise and Cameron Diaz. This movie and the chemistry between Cruise and Diaz was hyped quite a bit prior to the release of the film. I was not expecting much, but was pleasantly surprised.

Don’t get me wrong… It was not the genre changer that the Producer and Director of the film would have you believe. It is, however, a fun and enjoyable romantic-action-comedy film that keeps you entertained. An over the top plot and predictable, but a wonderful escape from the summer heat and a great excuse for a big bucket of movie popcorn.