Monday, July 06, 2009

MASTURBATION is a taboo subject that many persons, particularly parents try to avoid talking about. But according to sex therapist, Dr Sidney McGill, masturbation is a natural act.

It is therefore important for parents to talk to their children about it so they will not be at a loss when they begin to develop sexually with a need to play with themselves. This talk will also help them in dealing with their sexual desires as they get older.

Talking to your child

. At age 11 or 12, children would have begun to develop sexually and may even have started exploring with their own bodies. So this is a good time to bring the topic up since they would now be able to understand the language.

. Start by explaining the meaning of masturbation - that it is sexual stimulation of one’s own genitals, often to the point of orgasm.

. If you believe it is wrong, give the child reasons why you believe it to be so and alternatives in dealing with their growing sexual urges.

. If, however, you share the view that it is acceptable, give reasons for this belief and benefits attached, eg, that it is safer than having sexual intercourse at their age.

. Explain to the child that it is a practice carried out by many persons. However, the frequency of it is determined by many factors, like one’s resistance to sexual tension, hormone levels influencing sexual arousal, sexual habits and peer influences.

. Explain to the child that masturbation presents no physical, mental or emotional risk in itself, but is often done to relieve boredom or stress. In either case, encourage the child to find the cause of the boredom or stress and deal with it rather than resorting to masturbation.

. Since religions vary broadly in their views of the topic, from considering it completely impermissible to encouraging it as a way to achieve greater spirituality, teach your child your views on the matter before it becomes a habit for them.

“Last night we received some good news from Terri McFaddin-Solomon who is good friends with Sandra Crouch. Three weeks ago Sandra and Andre’ spent some time with their close friend, Michael Jackson. Michael asked Andre` to play, “It Won’t Be Long And We’ll Be Leaving Here.” Michael then prayed with Sandra and Andre and accepted Christ into his heart. Now he’s singing in the heavenly choir.! Our hearts rejoice!“

The Lord knows what he’s doing! PRAISE GOD!!!

UPDATE - 06/28/09

Here are status updates posted on Andre Crouch’s Facebook page (administered by Dave Nassaney).  They were made yesterday and we’ve compiled the whole message together.

“There was NO actual “sinners prayer” however, but they did talk and pray about Jesus and the anointing of the Holy Spirit. They also told him, “Michael, we consider you as our son”, and he said, “Yes, yes, yes”, and he gave him his latest music on a CD, and he told him, “Andrae’ I trust you with this”, and gave him CD’s of 2 songs, unpublished, …beautiful music. He still had his Christmas decorations up at home…. He first heard it in NY, and loved it, and wanted it on tape. He had the engineer tape the song sang to him by Andrae’ and Sandra. He definitely had an “encounter” with them, Andrae’ says, “he did NOT reject Jesus or the prayer when they prayed, and gladly joined in prayer.” He usually doesn’t touch anybody, but he touched them, and held their hands in a circle as they sang and prayed… so Andrae’ and Sandra explained to him about the “anointing” and about Jesus. He wanted to know what makes your hands go up, and makes you “come out of yourself”, and what gives a “spirituality” to the music? He then requested to hear his favorite song that he loves, and wanted then to sing to him, so they sang that song to him, and joined hands and sang together, and he said, “it was beautiful”…According to Andrae’, who was relaying to Verdine to tell me over the phone just now, Andrae’ and Sandra did in fact visit with MJ 2 times, once ar the recording studio, and once at his home in the last 2 months, as recently as 3 weeks ago, asking for prayer concerning the anointing of the Holy Spirit, and how he could make his music more “spiritual.”… To all the NEW fans on this page, I am Dave Nassaney, the page administrator. About once a month, I get together with Andrae’ and show him all your posts, and he trys to respond to as many as he can. He appreciates all of you very much, and is really “blown away” by the number of, and love from your comments. he truely had no clue, and is very grateful that you are all still out there praying for him, and loving him.”

…….Sexually abused children face unprecedented challenges as they grow into adulthood.  This foundation was created to discuss and communicate those challenges and life altering effects with adult survivors from ages 18 to 100!

Research shows that regardless of whether survivors hold vivid, vague, or repressed memories of their childhood sexual abuse, the first step survivors must take is to understand the need for support and help to be able to LET GO… of the memories of the trauma, the shame, the fear, the isolation, and the one or multiple addictions they’ve developed over the years.  Once adult survivors can start to see and correlate how the sexual abuse caused their life of dysfunction and disassociation it is the foundation’s hope that they will start to live again and LET PEACE COME IN to their hearts and lives!

“We must start now to face this problem with courage, with resolve, and most importantly with honesty, especially in recognizing that damage has been done in our childhood and that it was not our fault.  We must then talk about it.  We must talk with someone who understands, someone we can trust, someone who will validate our story.  It will put us on the path to recovery, a path that will lead to a joyful and healthy life.  The more forgotten victims - the family members who lived with the actual victim- as well as victims, we can reach, the better our chance for a healthier world, not only physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.  We are all in this together.”

-Marjorie McKinnon

• Be informed. Because there are many aspects of this issue that believers may find distasteful, some may shy away from an awareness of the current culture that is pervasive throughout our society. We, as believers, cannot put our heads in the sand and act as though these things are not happening. Our children and youth are confronting a powerful lure in terms of sexual perversion of all types. We must have some knowledge about the cultural challenges our children are facing.

• Be supportive. As believers, we must offer homosexuals more than condemnation. Young people who are looking for a way out of the homosexual and bisexual lifestyles should be able to seek refuge and support at a Christian church. Just as many churches have programs for those who are seeking deliverance from alcoholism, drug addiction, smoking and other human frailties, a program for those who no longer wish to be bound by sexual sins should be considered.

 

• Be vigilant. Despite the statements made by most gay activists to the contrary, they are indeed targeting churches for legal challenges to gay marriage and gay partnerships.

 

• Christian believers, and those of other faiths, must know that this is not going to be an easy fight, but it is a necessary one. Being attacked and called names simply for standing up for one’s beliefs is never pleasant. But the early Christians had a much tougher fight than we have. We are blessed in that we do have the constitutional right to free speech without fear of government persecution.

Gwen Richardson is an author and entrepreneur who resides in Houston, Texas.

District Judge Robert Cheshire sentenced the man after a two-day trial.

The Advocate is not identifying the man because it would identify the victim.

He began molesting his daughter when she was 12 and continued to assault her for more than three years, according to a news release from District Attorney Stephen Tyler. He impregnated the girl while the family lived in Mississippi and tried to convince his oldest son to take the blame for the girl’s pregnancy, according to the news release.

The defendant fled to Victoria with his daughter and her child, where he was caught having sex with the girl. The family then fled to Louisiana and Oregon, Tyler said. In Oregon, the man was convicted of incest and sentenced to three years of probation.

Johna Stallings prosecuted the case.

The man is also on trial, but denies being her biological father.

The pair allegedly had a sexual relationship for more than 10 years. They met when she was almost 30 and he was in his late 40s, living in Britain.

On the first day of the couple’s trial in the Auckland District Court yesterday, Crown prosecutor Scott McColgan said that though they were consenting adults, if they had a sexual relationship it was “incestuous”.

The accused have interim name suppression.

Mr McColgan said that after the woman tracked the man down, she spent three weeks with him. When she returned to NZ, she split from her husband, then moved back to Britain.

She and the accused man eventually returned to New Zealand and lived in the house where the woman had lived with her husband and children.

Mr McColgan said they appeared to be “besotted with each other”. The woman sponsored the man when he applied for residency, telling authorities he was her biological father.

 After a complaint was made to police, officers searched their bedroom and found sex toys and pornography.

During a police interview, the man admitted the couple were in a sexual relationship but denied he was her biological father because he claimed the woman’s mother was sleeping around about the time she was conceived.

Asked who the father was, he gave two names -including his brother.

Mr McColgan said DNA samples were taken from the men and they were excluded as being the father.

However, DNA samples from the man showed he was one million times more likely to be the father.

Scientists would testify there was strong scientific support the accused were biological father and daughter.

When police spoke to the woman, she denied she and the man were in a relationship but said he was her partner and soulmate in other ways.

The woman’s mother told the court her daughter changed “overnight” when the man arrived on the scene.

At her daughter’s 30th birthday party, the man told her he wondered what it would be like to have both mother and daughter as the three danced. She was shocked.

A few months later she confronted the woman about the “unnatural” relationship.

The witness said the claims she was sleeping with several men at the time she conceived were “disgusting lies”.

Warning this video is for mature audiences only. This is a very disturbing video of the child speaking of the abuse. In order to understand more of the video read about it here on saveaaliyah.com. This video was edited to fit the 1o min max. requirement. It is 27 min. in length and many of you had the chance to see the uncut version on myspace before the abuser had it deleted. Please help get this into the hands of someone that has the power to help baby Aaliyah. Our goal is to get this situation out of Placer County to have an unbiased full investigation, psychological evaluation, lie detector testing or any other evaluations deemed necessary to end this unjustice for Aaliyah. Only the predators witnesses were contacted during the investigations which is not normal proceedure for molestation cases. Immediate action was not taken when these reports were made contrary to the corrupt false statements of the Sgt of the Auburn Police Department. Just to show you how corrupt Placer County is read the Auburn Journal article below that has deleted about 98% of the witnesses statements testifying to the truth of the matter for Aaliyah and her mother. Placer County has something to hide all at the expense of an innocent child’s well-being. We will be posting the testimonies that the Auburn Journal won’t post. Placer County is not looking so good due to the blatant covering of the facts pertaining to this revolting unjustice. Below are different articles, videos, witness letters, phone interviews, etc. There is more coming… We ask that you please spread this website until Aaliyah is safe and contact us for advice, prayers, or ideas. All donations are going straight to an attorney for Aaliyah’s defense. Thank you all for your help.

http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/help-save-aaliyah

Aaliyah Bedwell – An Update June 17

Posted on June 17th, 2009

by Simon Barrett in Society and Culture

http://www.bloggernews.net/121278 

My wife and I had the opportunity to talk to a close family friend last night. We were brought us up to date on the case. In the last court date (June 1) the judge stipulated that the attorneys representing both mother Connie Bedwell, and biological father Dustin Thompson needed to get together and arrange a visitation schedule. The threat was also put out, that if this could not be achieved within a couple of days then Connie Bedwell’s attorney should resort to an ex parte hearing.

Well 17 days later, nothing has been achieved. It is now 7 long weeks that Connie Bedwell has been denied access to her three year old daughter.

The next court date is scheduled for June 30, another two weeks. And it is merely a continuance. New Judge, same old stuff!

Dustin meanwhile has his attorney Sandra Amara trying to slap a $15k sanction on Connie for online transgressions. There is a supposed restraining order from Judge Kearney preventing Connie Bedwell from talking to the the press (and we here at BNN have made a point of not contacting her directly), however, no-one actually seems able to locate a ’signed’ version of this order. Attempts by the Bedwell family to obtain this information have been unsuccessful. Judge Kearney as you might recall removed herself from the case. The reasons for her decision remain conjecture. While I could offer some insider information, I suspect that my information would only cause more trouble for the Bedwell family.

What really surprises me about this case is that it is not happening in some no name town in a no name state, Auburn is a scant 40 miles from Sacramento, California.

A Florida based specialist Dr Saturley has offered his expertise to do a comprehensive family analysis, and he is offering this at no cost. Dr. Saturley has contacted the California authorities, and they have ‘green lighted’ the project. While the Bedwell family have signed on to the project, neither Dustin Thompson, nor his attorney have even had the courtesy to return his calls. Of course that is not surprising,  Dustin Thompson has no reason to comply to the request.

One has to wonder if the courts can force Dustin Thompson, and his intransigent lawyer Amara into agreement? Clearly the Thompson family have some pull in the area. Both Dustin and his father are county employees. And I certainly cannot forget the quote from the Auburn Journal “You have to remember that we have to keep in the good graces of the local police force”. This was the quote that Jan and I received from the reporter when we pressed her about the Bedwell case! At the time I was flabbergasted that a member of the press would say such a thing. That is akin to committing Hari Kari in the press world.

In fact this case has been extremely difficult to investigate. Dustin Thompson refuses to return our calls, and the closest we have got to Amara is her office gofer, who would take a question, go ask Amara, then come back with a ‘no comment’. Amara even took the opportunity to go on a fishing expedition. Needless to say she came up empty handed. I am sure that she will be reading this article, so I will reiterate what I have said before. If Dustin is being falsely accused, why are you so reticent to talk to the press? I would also like to know why Dustin Thompson will not agree to an independent assessment? In my mind an independent assessment could go far in resolving this case. Generally it is only the guilty that would refuse such an offer.

I know if I was being accused of heinous crimes against a small child I would welcome the opportunity to clear my name.

One of the more interesting court documents is one from Connie Bedwells’s chiropractor. I hear you say “What could that have to do with anything”. It shows a clear style. A style that has been well documented about Dustin, his past conduct is somewhat questionable, but it does seem to include quite a bit of violence. One of the strange aspects involves an incident while he was in high school. Although he was 18 at the time, the records are still apparently sealed, sealed as a juvenile. The incident concerned a serious beating of a younger student.

The letter from the Chiropractor can be read here. You can draw your own conclusions. Was Dustin involved?

Simon Barrett

From Editor - Further investigations reveal that the injury referred to in the letter from the Chiropractor is reputed to be as a result of Dustin Thompson slamming Connie’s head in the trunk of the car.

EDUCATE YOURSELF ON ABUSE: 

UNDERSTANDING THE BATTERER

http://www.thelizlibrary.org/liz/understanding-the-batterer-in-visitation-and-custody-disputes.pdf

UNDERSTANDING CHILD MOLESTERS

 by Eric Leberg  pg 86

Blaming the Mother 

The offender often blames people other than the victim. Most often, the offender will try to blame his wife or the mother of the victim. He will blame her in as many different ways as he will blame the victim herself, because he knows that people are often more willing to accept blame against the mother or wife than against the child. He will accuse the mother in a variety of ways: “She’s an alcoholic.” “She’s on drugs.” “She is sexually frigid.” “She was unfaithful.” “She never showed any interest in me.” “She’s mentally ill.” “”She’s always depressed.”  “She’s always tired, she’s too tired for anything.” “She’s violent. She battered me often.” “She’s hostile.” “She’s rejecting.” “She’s boring.” “She’s just angry because she was sexually abused.” “She hates men.” “She refused to satisfy me sexually. She left me with no choice, absolutely no sexual outlet!” 

The purpose of listing these blaming strategies is to let the reader know that when the sex offender tries to blame someone (you or someone you know), he is following a typical pattern that has been used by thousands of sex offenders before him. The  sex offenders attempts to blame others should be rejected. They are simply an effort to deflect attention and responsibility from himself.

As you read on the internet about Aaliyah’s case you will see her abuser try to call anyone attempting to help her and her mother “delusional,” “mentally ill,” or ”crazy.” You will also see random, insane, creative stories created by the pedophile himself posting as different people to deflect attention and responsibility from himself and his sexual abuse of the child. We ask that you not lose focus on the true focus which is Aaliyah’s safety and not further abusing the abusers victims with him. Thank you.

ANOTHER ARTICLE ON CHILD MOLESTERS

http://www.parmacityschools.org/safety/upload/UnderstandingProtectingChildrenMolestersPredators.pdf

WHY THE ABUSED PROTECT THE ABUSER:STOCKHOLM SYNDROME 

http://www.isaccorp.org/stockholm.asp

MORE INFORMATION ON AALIYAH’S CASE:

VISITATION EXCHANGES: REACTIONS TO FATHER AND MOTHER

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7VWzfM14Ha4

RADIO SHOW DISCUSSING ABUSE OF AALIYAH 

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Simon-Barrett/2009/05/09/Aaliyah-Bedwell-Real-or-Memorex

SOME of the DOCUMENTATION OF ABUSE

http://childprotectioncommunity.com/blog.asp?action=details&page=41327&int_blogid=378

UPDATE: READ WITNESS LETTERS

http://childprotectioncommunity.com/blog.asp?page=41327

UPDATE: 5-3-09

RECENT PHONE INTERVIEW WITH CPC

http://childprotectioncommunity.com/blog.asp?action=details&page=41327&int_blogid=350

http://childprotectioncommunity.com/blog.asp?page=41327

FOR CONSTANT UPDATES GO HERE: 

NEWS PICKING UP AALIYAH”S CASE

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 RADIO SHOW OUT OF TAMPA FLORIDA

THEBONEONLINE.COM 

http://www.btls.com/news/stories/save-baby-aaliyah.html

ARTICLE ABOUT PLACER COUNTY JUDICIAL MISCONDUCT AND CORRUPTION 

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/43819/placer_county_judicial_system.html?cat=17

LOCAL NEWSPAPER WHERE THE MOLESTING TAKES PLACE

The mother was interviewed for an hour and a half with complete answers and full details to the case. The Auburn Journal told BloggerNews.Net that they had to stay in the good graces of the local police. Therefore details were left out and information supporting Aaliyah and her mother on the comment section were taken off by The Auburn Journal. Placer County spells corruption. To answer the question left out by AJ- the ONLY reason the child was taken from the mother was because the mother constantly told the court and proper authorities of what the child was saying about her father. It is documented in the court file on July 3, 2008.

http://auburnjournal.com/detail/114617.html?content_source=&category_id=&search_filter=&user_id=&event_mode=&event_ts_from=&event_ts_to=&list_type=&order_by=&order_sort=&content_class=”1&sub_type=&town_id“

EVERY SECOND A CHILD IS PHYSICALLY AND SEXUALLY ABUSED. HELP BREAK THE SILENCE OF PHYSICAL AND SEXUAL ABUSE AND FIGHT BACK! 

PLEASE HELP AALIYAH 

Please help Aaliyah.  I would like to ask those of you in California (and elsewhere) to take the time to write emails and letters to the following about this case.Ask for a REAL investigation into this case of apparent child abuse of Aaliyah Bedwell, a 3 year old child in Placer County, California. Please reference the following in your letters or emails:

- SAVEAALIYAH.COM- a video of the child speaking of suspected child molestation called “Daddy’s Worm”.  Found on and YouTube at

www.youtube.com/watch?v=krihOkBsEt4 or saveaaliyah.com- copies of sworn statements of witnesses and family members at the Child Protection Community website -
http:/www.childprotectioncommunity.com/blog.asp?page=41327 o 

Here is a link to send an inquiry directly to the Crime Victims Services of the California Attorney General’s office. It is the fastest way to ask for help for this child at a state level, including an investigation of judicial malfeasance/misconduct:

http://ag.ca.gov/victimservices/contact.php 

Here is the info to contact the Placer County District Attorney to request a REAL investigation:Link to the Placer County District Attorney page:

http://www.placer.ca.gov/departments/da.aspx 

Bradford R. Fenocchio
County District Attorney
10810 Justice Center Drive Suite #240
Roseville, CA 95678
(916) 543-8000
(916) 543-2550 fax
Email the departmentHere is the phone number for the Placer County Child Protection Services : They are completely useless but here is their information anyway.
 
530-889-7650 Auburn
530-784-6000 Roseville

Here is how you can contact the California Judicial Review Board about the Judge in this case-
this county has a real problem with it’s Judicial system! 

Judge Jeffery Penney

Judge Frances KearneyComplaints must be submitted in writing. The Commission cannot accept complaints over the telephone or submitted by e-mail.

WRITTEN CORRESPONDENCE:
Commission on Judicial Performance
455 Golden Gate Avenue, Suite 14400
San Francisco, CA 94102

This child needs help, and it only takes a few minutes to write a letter, or send an email, or send a fax. Please, all of you that live in California, make the extra effort to contact these officials. Out of state contacts are also welcome, but politicians pay attention when constituents write!

Please visit http:/www.fightcps.com/, they may be able to help find resources

You can read a portion of the mothers documentation of the abuse on the “about us” page.

 If you are a:

• Private Investigator 
• Polygraph Testing expert 
• Police officer
• Psychologist
• Lawyer
• Judge
• Child advocate
• Sheriff
• The Media
• Expert on pedophiles/child molesters and/or abuse

and/or know someone that  can help, please contact us.

Please continue to spread saveaaliyah.com and help raise funds for the defense of Aaliyah. The money is being used to go towards an attorney to present this video to the court- the judges have never seen it!! Your prayers, help and support are greatly appreciated.

FOR THE PEOPLE THAT CANT UNDERSTAND WHY WE WOULD POST THIS ON THE INTERNET, ASK YOURSELF WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOUR CHILD WAS SAYING AND DOING THESE
THINGS AND THE PEOPLE THAT ARE SUPPOSED TO PROTECT YOUR CHILD ARENT? WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU AND YOUR CHILD’S LIVES WERE BEING THREATENED? WOULD YOU SIT THERE AND WAIT UNTIL ONE OF YOU WOUND UP DEAD? OUR CHOICES AT THIS POINT ARE TO SIT HERE AND DO NOTHING AND TAKE THE CHANCE OF OUR LITTLE BABY’S LIFE BEING TAKEN OR TAKE THE SAME CHANCES AND DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT… WE ARE DOING SOMETHING ABOUT IT.   WE HOPE IN SAVING AALIYAH THAT OTHER CHILDREN CAN BE SAVED AS WELL FROM THIS TYPE OF CORRUPTION AND/OR LACK OF KNOWLEDGE IN THE SYSTEM.

IF YOU ARE WANTING TO HELP, PLEASE DO!!! AND THANK YOU TO ALL OF YOU THAT HAVE. SORRY FOR THE WAIT FOR SOME OF THE EMAILS TO GET ANSWERED, PLEASE BE PATIENT, THERE ARE MANY COMING IN! 

This is the mother Connie and baby Aaliyah. Please help get her out of the abuse and bring her home safe.

 BLOGGERNEWS.NET

Cara Bedwell said,

in May 5th, 2009 at 8:39 pm

I am Cara Bedwell, Aaliyah’s Aunt (the one in the video). There is so much to say and I don’t even know where to start. I worked in the afternoon at the time and Connie worked in the evening so a few nights during the week I would watch Aaliyah make her dinner, give her a bath and put her to bed. The Pedophile had visitation with Aali and would take her for 1 to 4 hours and bring her home. Aaliyah had grown to have a relationship with him throughout his supervised visitation. Approximately May of 2007 he had knocked on the door and she ran away, so I picked her up and opened the door. I handed him the baby bag and she was crying, as I tried to hand her over to him she was screaming, digging her nails into me, fighting to get away from him and was holding on for dear life! I looked at the pedophile and every ounce in my body was telling me not to give her to him because she had never acted that way before! He grabbed her from my arms and left.
Almost everytime he had come to pick her up after that time she has screamed, dug her nails into us, pulled out her eyelashes while crying and running away to not have to go to him. Most of the time she wouldn’t even look at him. We even have some of these exchanges on video.
A little over a month later I was giving Aaliyah a bath one night and found three bruises on her. That was the first out of 11 cps reports.
From that moment, up to the time they took my niece away from my sister, Aaliyah has done and said all that i am about to tell you.
* Multiple times she has stated daddy and grandpa give her owies and hit her. She has stated where they hit her, and how they are always mad and angry.
* Aaliyah has put a pillow over my lap, sat next to me and put pillow over her lap and said, “We need to be safe from daddy.”
* She has told me multiple times her dolls and stuffed animals are crying, scared, bad and dead. Her whole world revolves around being safe.
* She no longer wanted to use her potty after we had already gotten her out of diapers even to this day she is in diapers from his abuse towards her.
* Aali stated multiple times daddy hurts her pee pee and her butt hurts.
* She has horrific nightmares that last all night long sometimes. She screams and doesn’t want the light off or even want to sleep in a bed. She uses a flashlight to protect her in the dark and would tell us it is safe with the lights on.
* She constantly would cry and say she didn’t want to go to daddys house and that he was bad, mad and hits her. She would come home brainwashed thinking he was a parrot and spoke of grandpa how had two split personalities that she called grandpa and papi.
* When we got Aali back from his house she never wanted her pants changed or her clothes taken off for her bath. She had never use to do that. She use to love bath time!
* She came home with a bruise on her lower back and forehead. She explained to me twice how daddy kicked her and she acted out how she flew and bonked her head on the table!
* She is scared of men because of the abuse.
* When she falls down she starts crying and runs and hides like she’s in trouble or like someone did it to her.
* She has been afraid of worms because of the abuse we just didnt understand why until later when she made disclosures about daddy’s one eyed hairy worm.
* She has told us to kiss her baby with our tongue. She would lick us when she would come home from him.
* She would tell us how daddy hits her and he had to hit her but she is not supposed to tell mommy but she is supposed to tell grandma.
*She has told us that grandma doesnt love her anymore because she watches grandpa(the mean personality) hit her and she doesnt help her. She has explained that after he hits her grandma cries and says sorry to her. She has mentioned her little cousin cries also.
* I’m sure most of you have watched the “Worm”
video. That should say enough in itself. There have been numerous times of her complaining how daddy’s worm hurts her tongue. She has said he doesnt like her boobies because their too small. She has tried to stick objects up her vagina. She would state gross in pee pee and daddy hurts her under her poo bear diaper.

There is so much more I can’t even begin to explain…it has been going on for two years now this May. There is so much intricate detail to this situation and the authorities dont seem to care to even talk to a single person who has witnessed all of Aaliyah’s behavior, bruises and statements. Aaliyah was never coached, she would be telling us right out of his arms and in the car on the way home from the exchanges.

That video is just a speck of what Aaliyah has said. I have seen the changes in her character from never wanting to go to the pedophiles and now she is now stuck with him. Connie has every right as a mother to protect her child when her baby is saying and doing these things! I have seen so much and have been disgusted with this so called “justice system” not stepping in to help or talk to anyone who has seen my niece’s cry for help and instead giving my niece to an alcoholic who has a long history of abuse. He used to be on supervised visitation for his alcohol abuse and abuse towards Connie and abuse towards Aaliyah when she was 4 weeks old. He even has a previous criminal record. Connie is a great mother and puts Aali’s needs before her own and will stand up for the truth no matter what.

It is heartbreaking that she is 3 yrs. old and has to go through more trials than most people do in a lifetime!
I want to thank everyone who has been supportive and has helped spread aaliyahs story to try to bring my sweet little niece justice. Please continue to pray for her safety! Thank you both for taking the time to investigate and give us witnesses a chance to be heard for Aaliyah’s sake.

- Cara Bedwell

Cara Bedwell said,

in May 5th, 2009 at 9:04 pm

And Darrel is my sisters boyfriend. The pedophile started abusing Aaliyah because he found out through stalking my sister at our apartment that she began dating someone else. Abusers think their victims are their possessions. In the pedophiles mind Connie and Aaliyah are his property that he thinks he can do whatever he wants with and that they are his to control. Aaliyah is all he has left of Connie to use to try to control her. I actually believe in his sick mind he is molesting Aaliyah because he thinks in his own twisted way he is having a sexual relationship with Connie. He is obsessed with her. He told her when she was pregnant that he hoped she would get stretch marks all over her entire body so that nobody would ever want her again. The pedophile is like another Scott Peterson that charms the heck out of everyone. He threatened to kill Connie while she was pregnant with Aaliyah. This guy is a complete utter sicko. Most of the outrageous lies started around the internet are straight from the peds mouth. He is an extremely skilled liar and has managed to fool people that he isnt abusing her even when her bruises were right in their face. He has managed to talk his way out of the worm video. When she came home with the bruises the first time that were in the shape of a hand grabbing her and a larger bruise across her thigh and hip were so obvious as to how she would have got them. The bruises from when he kicked her in the back were obvious there were two opposite forces hitting her. She had one bruise across her back that she complained about for almost two weeks. We thought he had broke her tail bone because she kept grabbing it saying it was hurting. He wants to talk like we just had her x rayed for no reason. You cant get your child x rayed unless a doctor does a referral which Aaliyah’s pediatrician did luckily she didnt have any broken bones. He is sick, sick, sick, and he is good at keeping it behind closed doors. After everything he has done I hope the truth is exposed to a point he cant deny the facts and play off of all of the “professionals” here in Placer County that dont have the brains to keep up with the games of pedophile.

Cara Bedwell said,

in May 5th, 2009 at 9:14 pm

The saying is so true… where there is smoke there is fire!! The entire nation should be able to see the smoke coming from the whole State of California because the whole County of Placer is on fire!!

 412:May 2, 2009, Darrel Payne, California
In response to #165– As you said there are parts of the story that the mother has not shared… First off- how she had to move to Alaska with her family a few weeks after her daughter was born because the father abused the mother WHILE she was holding their newborn baby- or how he pulled a baseball bat out on her and would not let her leave with her baby. She also forgot to mention that she tried to let the father have a “normal” relationship with his daughter- but when the daughter started returning from him with bruises on her arms and legs she became worried. Or when suddenly the daughter would start screaming and run away from him the instant she saw him or heard his voice, how she would pull her eyelashes out screaming while digging her nails into her mothers back holding on with every ounce of strength she had to not go with him. She forgot to mention how her daughter would NEVER look him, or her grandpa in the eyes when they exchanged custody, she would always look at her mom or stare at anything but him. She never mentioned how his attorney is married to one of the two family law judges in the county that is hearing the case- that his attorney knows everyone in the county and is friends with them and they have never once looked at the evidence before making a judgement against her. She must have forgot to state how many times her daughter BEGGED and PLEADED not to go to his house, how she would always ask me to go to my house instead of his! She also forgot to mention how her daughter was seeing a psychologist for play therapy after you-oops I mean him- started molesting his daughter- and that the psychologist said that there was definitely abuse going on with the father. It’s a plain out lie on your part about what the professionals said about her… Im sure you have read the psych report as well as I have, and NOWHERE in it does it ever say she is diagnosed as narcissistic, delusional, and borderline schizophrenic– but it does say that she is in the top third of intelligence in the nation, and COMPLETELY FIT TO BE A MOTHER. For you to twist and lie about that is completely dishonest- but what would we expect from someone who is “friends” (I say friends because I’m sure that this is not the sick father himself writing the comment…) with someone who thinks its ok to abuse women and molest children, especially their own child! Why would you spend so much time writing this comment trying to make her look bad- but spend only one quick second saying anything about the video? Is it that the fact a two year old who says her daddy puts him worm in her mouth and it makes her cough… and it tastes yucky, and he HAS TO WIPE IT OFF WITH LIKE A NAPKIN!!! SOUNDS LIKE YOU KNOW THERE IS NO WAY TO FIGHT THAT IN COURT AND YOU ARE GOING TO DO ANYTHING YOU CAN TO KEEP THAT VIDEO OUT OF COURT! Anybody with half a brain can CLEARLY see what this sweet little girl is talking about- it’s funny that you can offer no excuses for it! Im sure that your comment is out of desperation, trying to get anyone on your side- but you are realizing people are not blind and the truth will come out eventually and you will get what you deserve… I am not scared to use my real name as I know I have seen the truth and am speaking the truth- as I have been dating the mother for over two years and have witnessed everything the daughter has told us, and I have witnessed how AMAZING of a mother she has been, and how your daughter completely changed attitudes towards you about the time the bruises started showing up… Ohhh and I looked up the name Ann Cloter from texas- she died a few years ago- thats pretty low to use a dead woman’s name…

PEDOPHILE?S attorney wrote #165. - Her twisted, distorted misrepresentations and outright lies aimed at the mother on behalf of the pedophile and his family. With this in mind, readers should examine its veracity in light of one having to have your attorney write their slur, clandestinely in the shadows, so the Pedophile clan could post under numerous false names including the name; ?ANN CLOTER? a woman who?s been dead for two years in Texas. Pedophile?s attorney resides in Placer County, California. This letter originated from there and was posted to various sites. Pedophile clan, are you people so ignorant that you dont know your ISPN # is traceable? (GIVE THAT SOME THOUGHT) Isn?t that right, ?Dave?, ?Ann Cloter?, ?youareliars?, ?itdoesnotmatter? ?Iamamotheroftwo? and #675 and all the other various lying, rumor spreading posts? All of which come from only five people. Further poof, compare the writing styles of the five compared to ?ANN CLOTER #165?, you can clearly see the ?pedophile clan? collectively, are not capable of such methodical writing. Each of their posting to discredit the video and the mother, traces back to the city where Pedophile lives, written by the Pedophile and his family clan and friends. (what a shocking surprise!) Which leads us to; If what Pedophile?s attorney is saying about the mother is the truth, why didn?t Pedophile?s attorney put her real name on the petition to stand up and be counted for her “innocent client”? Could it be because attorney?s are held account able for what they say and do by the California Bar Association. This brings to mind the saying; ?How do you know an attorney?s lying? ?.THEIR LIPS ARE MOVING! Pedophile?s attorney tells the tale from the shadows, crafting the ?spin of diversion?. When attorneys can?t speak to the facts and specifics of the evidence, they change the subject from evidence of the crime, to attack, malign and destroy the credibility of victims and witnesses? IT?S THE ALWAYS PREDICTABLE STRATEGY OF THE GUILTY! Pedophile?s attorney?s attempts to shift the readers thoughts from the appalling retched disgust of the ?pedophile?s? acts of sexual molestation of his 26 month old baby daughter, through a spin of twisted, distorted misrepresentations and lies for false perception of the mother rather than address the evidence. All designed to discredit the mother, bring support to the idea that the baby was coached to say all these things. COMMON SENSE SHOWS THAT TO BE IMPOSSIBLE! Pedophile?s attorney presents no evidence whatsoever to back up her deceitful spin! She hopes you?re unaware that all evidence submitted to the court is served to opposing parties. She to would have possession of evidence that she?s misleadingly requesting from the mother. A correct question to her and the pedophile is; WHERE ARE ALL THE HOURS UPON HOURS OF VIDEO THAT SHOWS THE MOTHER COACHING THE BABY THAT YOU CLAIM EXISTS AND THE COURT HAS REJECTED AS BEING COACHED??? If it exists as she so adamantly claims, she should have a copy or can get a copy from the court. When you find your copies, be sure to post it on the internet and prove us ALL liars! You know and we know it doesn?t exist so quit the spin and dispute Aaliyah?s accusations with facts not fallacious fantasy! ?If you can?t dazzle them with brilliance ? Baffle them with B.S.? The rule the pedophile clan operates under!?. SO BACK TO THE DADDY?S WORM VIDEO EVIDENCE?I ask the ?DADDY?S WORM VIDEO? viewers to give careful, examining, detailed thought to how one would go about coaching a 26 month old child to describe; a penis, how her ?DADDY? has her touch it, all the descriptive sequential acts of fellatio even describing how ?DADDY? cleans up her mouth and face after the fact, in 27+ minutes of uninterrupted video? This in conjunction with Aaliyah?s symptomatic nightmares and fears related to her described traumas. Explain how that would relate to what the baby saying, ?DADDY?S WORM? hurts my tongue_ ?DADDY?S WORM? hurts my mouth?_ ?DADDY?S WORM? hurts my throat?_ ?DADDY?S WORM? makes me cough?_ ?DADDY?S WORM? tastes yucky_ ?DADDY? wipes it off with like a napkin, all in the context of ?DADDY?S WORM? How is it that she can accurately describes male genitalia, ?It has one eye and hair like on my head?. NOT like Baby Einstein?s two eyed, green and orange worm! Ask yourselves, what has caused her to be so terrified of Baby Einstein?s worm and now all worms! She NEVER once says it Baby Einstein?s worm that does any or all these horrific things to her! She consistently says its? ?DADDY?S WORM?! Explain her intense dislike of father and grandpa? Yes the ?professionals? say she has a good and healthy relationship with her father?. Have any of these ?professionals? ever considered that she?s been beaten into submission and non disclosure, by people 3 time her size and 100 times her strength, with no one she can look to for protection? Not even grandma! Of course while under threat she?s going to perform to her father?s dictates. Why at every visitation does she beg her mother, ?take me home with you to your house?. This sweet, beautiful, innocent baby has been mentally, physically and sexually abused for over two years now. That?s 2/3rds of her life! The pedophile is doing everything he can do to silence her through physical abuse, threats and indoctrination to confuse, intimidate and silence her crying out for help. AALIYAH WE STILL HEAR YOUR CRIES and were fighting for you with all our might and with all we have! We love and miss you Pooky, you?ll be coming home to Mommy & Darrel soon, with many thanks to THE THOUSANDS OF GOOD, DESCENT, DISCERNING people who hear your cries too. I love you and miss you. Pop Pop. PLACER COUNTY THIS CHILD IS IN A REAL AND PRESENT DANGER OF GREAT BODILY HARM, FAR GREATER THAN WHAT SHE HAS ALREADY BEEN SUBJECTED TO! REMOVE THIS CHILD FROM OUT OF THE HANDS OF HER ABUSERS IMMEDIATELY & FOREVER! AFTER THEIR CONVICTIONS, PROSECUTE THEM TO THE FULLEST EXTENT OF THE LAW! 

UPDATE FOR YOU ALL SO VERY CONCERNED: THE CHILDS ABUSERS ARE ATTEMPTING TO TRY TO GAG THE MOTHER FROM GETTING HER DAUGHTER ANY KIND OF HELP OR SUPPORT. SHE IS TEMPORARILY NOT ABLE TO HAVE PICTURES AND THE VIDEO UP HERSELF. SO WE ALL FIGURED SINCE THERE IS SUCH A MASSIVE  AMOUNT  OF PEOPLE AWARE OF THIS SITUATION THAT BACK THIS MOTHER AND CHILD 100 PERCENT, WE ALL DECIDED WE WILL JUST DO IT FOR HER. AALIYAH’S ABUSERS CANT SILENCE THE THOUSANDS OF US THAT HAVE HEARD AALIYAH’S OUT CRY FOR HELP. THE MOTHER HAS TAKEN THE PICS AND VIDEO DOWN AND WE ARE PUTTING IT ALL BACK UP. NO CHILD SHOULD EVER HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS…EVER.  PLEASE HELP THEM, NO DONATION IS TOO SMALL.  THANK YOU TO THOSE CONTACTING NUMEROUS PEOPLE TO TRY TO FIND US HELP. THANK YOU!

“UNDERSTANDING CHILD MOLESTERS” By Eric Leberg

The setup is a pattern of all behaviors that a child molester uses to create oppertunities to molest children. He carefully lays the ground work to avoid detection and disclosure in advance, before he begins molesting. He continues to strengthen his elaborate plans after molestation has begun by manipulation others, usually without their awareness, to make molesting easier. In his mind, everyone, adults and children alike, are the enemy with the power to send him to prison if they catch him and reveal his sexual abuse of innocent children. He sets up the victim, the victim’s mother, neighbors, relatives, professional colleages, fellow church members, and others, each in a deliberate manner, because everyone of them has the potential to catch him and turn him in. The setup consumes nearly all of his waking hours and is the motivation behind nearly everything he does. With practice, often years of practice, he becomes quite skillful. Thus those around him usually fail to notice and understand his motive: child molestation.

Child molesters can setup virtually an entire community.

Ironically he can paint a picture of himself as the victim who is willing to suffer to spare his family any grief. He may even believe, in his own distorted way, that he actually is the victim and that others should feel sorry for him for suffering on behalf of his family.

By maintaining his pleasant meek appearance while making himself out to be the victim, he can usually be persuasive. He will be curtious, helpful, agreeable to most requests or concerns, and will generally project an air of confidence mixed with personal indignation that he is being treated unfairly.

 AND PLEASE IF ANYONE SEES POSTINGS OUT ON THE INTERNET OF “SOMEONE” CALLING THE MOTHER “CRAZY”, “MENTALLY ILL” OR THAT SHE HAS “Münchausen syndrome“ PLEASE FORWARD THAT HERE TO SAVEAALIYAH.COM, BECAUSE IT IS THE PEOPHILE HIMSELF UNDER FAKE NAMES. WE WOULD LIKE TO KEEP THAT AS EVIDENCE. HE HAS A COPY OF HER PSYCH EVAL AND KNOWS IT ISNT TRUE. ABUSERS ALWAYS CALL THEIR PARTNERS BY THESE TITLES. THANK YOU!!

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But a senior National Party figure has backed the erotic dancer in a family court battle between the girl’s parents over custody.

The professional stripper who cannot be identified for legal reasons formed a relationship with the father of the eight-year-old last year. The businessman had an informal custody arrangement with the girl’s mother, a primary school teacher, which allowed him to see his daughter every second weekend.

But the girl’s mother told Sunday News she approached Child Youth and Family after the eight-year-old began exhibiting “bizarre overt sexual behaviour”.

The matter went to the Family Court, which in March issued an interim parenting order banning the businessman’s girlfriend from seeing the girl. The order permitted the father to see his daughter only “on the condition that [the child] is not to be in the company of [the stripper] until further order of the Court”.

In her affidavit to the family court, the girl’s mother said of the eight-year-old’s actions at the Christmas party: “She started strip dancing in front of the family.

“She was told off immediately. She then took her underwear off and threw them up into a tree.

“She then jokingly flashed her private parts to some of her cousins.

“[The girl] has never done anything like that before.”

The woman said when she spoke to her former husband about the impromptu strip dance, he told their daughter: “A body is beautiful and something that we should not be ashamed of.”

In her affidavit, the furious mother said she wanted her eight-year-old “to be a little girl”.

“We would not allow her to wear provocative clothing,” she wrote.

She claimed her daughter was “starting to behave in a way that is not normal behaviour”. She blamed both her former husband and his girlfriend for this. “I feel that [the father] has lost his way with respect to our parenting of our daughter,” she wrote.

The mother said the eight-year-old had told her, after returning from the home shared by her father and the stripper, that the dancer “has nude photographs of herself on the walls and the ceilings in the bedroom”.

A lawyer, appointed by the Family Court to act for the child, said in her April 20 report there was concern “about the direct effect [on the child] of viewing or being exposed to adult material”.

But in her affidavit to the court, the stripper said she was careful to separate her personal life from her erotic dancing.

She said when the eight-year-old first stayed at her and the girl’s father’s house, she had a Hannah Montana poster and Barbie toys set up for her.

“I put away anything that could be seen as potentially risque … (thigh-high boots, and outfits).”

The stripper obtained character references for the court.

One support letter came from National’s Hamilton East electorate chairwoman Megan Campbell, who said: “[The stripper] is truly one of the good people in the world. She is warm, loving, caring, responsible, kind, trustworthy and dependable.”

Campbell added: “I understand there has been concern that there are nude photos or images [of the stripper] in the house. I have never seen anything of this nature … [she] is always so very careful to keep her working and private lives separate.”

Hamilton East MP David Bennett said last night he was unaware of the case: “She wrote this letter in her personal capacity.”

The stripper refused to comment but her businessman boyfriend said the stress of the case was likely to cause him to separate from her. “It is just getting too much,” he said.