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We've all been told "freedom isn't free". But meanwhile, is "free" really "freedom"?

12 Wonders From The Past That Post-Modernity Has Stolen From Us

Scot McKay — Sun, 10 Feb 2019 23:51:15 +0000

I was a high school kid in the early ‘80s when the term “digital” gained traction in the public headspace. I specifically remember the very moment I learned what the term meant relative to the analog nature of, well…everything in life up to that point. As naïve as I may have been, I wondered …

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The Future Is Also Male: 12 Ways It’s Still Up To Men To Change The World

Scot McKay — Thu, 24 Jan 2019 10:26:11 +0000

You’re probably familiar with the saying, “The future is female”. No doubt, we love strong, empowered, dirt shredding, Krav Maga ass kicking women who are 100% feminine all the time around here at Casa McKay. Those who know our family best have seen it first-hand. But naturally, we’re also still about strong, empowered, 100% …

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Behind The Scenes: 15 Secrets About The Mountain Top Podcast I’ve Never Admitted Before

Scot McKay — Tue, 20 Nov 2018 22:23:17 +0000

Lots of you listen to The Mountain Top Podcast, and possibly even X & Y On The Fly also. Awesome. I’m grateful for every one of you, and genuinely appreciate your support over the years. Well, except for any of you who are among the handful of angry, easily-offended women out there who’ve left …

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A Dating Coach’s Take On Why Mass Shootings Happen

Scot McKay — Wed, 21 Feb 2018 00:43:42 +0000

I don’t consider myself a world expert in sociology, abnormal psychology or criminal justice. Nor am I sworn to the political right or left. Given the conversation at hand, all of that might be an advantage in my case. At the very least, I have no problem “opening a can” on the conversation about …

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15 Things No Man Should EVER Say

Scot McKay — Tue, 06 Feb 2018 22:39:52 +0000

Most of my online research on the subject du jour uncovered articles by angry women whose baseline vitriol toward men was barely concealed under the surface. Predictably, the vast majority were specifically about what men should never say to women in particular. I found myself reading enduring endless rants over purely innocent, and in …

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10 Ways I Knew Emily Was “The One”

Scot McKay — Thu, 22 Sep 2016 18:39:06 +0000

Getting into a committed relationship is scary. As much as we hope the person we’re with is our “one and only”, everybody knows the reality of divorce rates. Even so, I remain appalled by how many people willingly jump like lemmings off a cliff into an exclusive relationship—or even marriage—with Mr. or Ms. Wrong. …

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What Have We Replaced The Seduction Community With?

Scot McKay — Thu, 21 Jul 2016 21:14:34 +0000

What’s truly bizarre to me is guys who have been working on getting better with women for less than, say, five years (therefore, the vast majority) have probably never even heard of The Seduction Community. Essentially, it’s a lot like how my sixteen year-old daughter has no idea who Sam Kinison is. So for …

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5 Weird Things That Happen To Men After Sex

Scot McKay — Wed, 01 Jun 2016 20:29:54 +0000

Knowing you’ve grown accustomed to mostly serious dating and relationship advice around here, I’ve been thinking it’s time to take a break and look at the lighter side. And what better way to take ourselves less seriously than to turn our attention to sex? More specifically, let’s talk about the strange, crazy things that …

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A Dirty Dozen Examples: What To Do When She Does You Wrong

Scot McKay — Sun, 10 Jan 2016 22:27:01 +0000

I’m disheartened by the number of truly angry guys there are out there. Nonplussed by the trend toward female empowerment at the expense of the male gender, more and more men are “going their own way”. They’re saying they just don’t need real, live women anymore. You need only rifle through the hundreds of …

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Top 10 Subtle Signs That Someone Lacks Character

Scot McKay — Sat, 14 Nov 2015 21:38:28 +0000

Anyone who is blatantly narcissistic or psychopathic, has a hair-trigger temper, gets their jollies from swindling people, lies even when the truth is easy and/or robs banks is obviously short on character. And on the flip side, people who have a well thought out belief system that’s the cornerstone of their lives, deliver on …

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9 Ways You Ended Up In An Exclusive Relationship Without Even Knowing It

Scot McKay — Tue, 03 Nov 2015 20:24:52 +0000

As far as you were concerned, you’d met someone attractive and interesting and were simply “seeing where it all goes”. You wanted time to evaluate the possibility of an exclusive relationship. In your mind, going steady with someone implies testing the waters of a long-term committed partnership. You don’t take that lightly, which is …

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Asian Women Vs. Beer Men And Traffic Lights

Scot McKay — Sat, 26 Sep 2015 05:17:40 +0000

It’s already an established fact that I have this thing for Asian flight attendants. And it’s not even like I prefer Asian women in particular. It’s just that the flight attendants over there tend to be more feminine, more graceful and—best of all—almost obsequious in their pleasure to serve. It all makes for a …

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How To Be Everyone’s Favorite Person…Instantly

Scot McKay — Thu, 17 Sep 2015 18:08:56 +0000

By now you’ve figured out that I don’t make unreasonable “easy button” claims. But here is one of those exceptionally rare truths that isn’t only going to add ridiculous, off-the-chain value to your life, it’s also as simple as flipping a switch: Be a man or a woman who does what you say you’re …

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6 Incredibly Hot Things To Say When She Casually Brings Up Sex

Scot McKay — Sun, 30 Aug 2015 20:21:58 +0000

It’s such a shame, really. Sometime back in the pickup artist era it was decided that whenever women casually bring up sex during first date conversation—or friendly chit-chat, even—it must be some sort of “test”. The assumption there is she’s evaluating how we deal with the “hot potato” she’s suddenly dropped in our lap. …

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Tindog: Straight Pimpin’, Canine Style

Scot McKay — Fri, 07 Aug 2015 20:45:37 +0000

In a completely random move, one of my Ten-Plus guys sent me pictures of what looked like his Golden Retriever on Tinder. Upon closer inspection, the logo on the app said “Tindog”. Dude…what? It’s not like dogs need help hooking up. I mean, they’ll hump anything that walks…including my left leg. …

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The Lost Art Of Writing Love Letters

Scot McKay — Wed, 29 Jul 2015 16:02:46 +0000

I recently got a call from a guy who couldn’t wait to share his latest success story with me. Suddenly, his new girlfriend was more adoring and affectionate than ever, which boosted his confidence to new heights and thrilled him to no end. What’s more, even the woman’s mother was now completely won over, …

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Who Else Is Ready To Message Mariah Carey On Match.com?

Scot McKay — Sun, 07 Jun 2015 19:59:12 +0000

This past week Mariah Carey signed up for Match.com and posted a profile. In case you think I’m kidding, log in and run a username search for “MC1toInfinity”. There she is…at least as of June 7th, 2015 when I’m writing this. It’s all legit, by the way. Mariah talked about it herself and major …

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8 Surefire Ways To Tell: Are You A Fun Person?

Scot McKay — Tue, 24 Mar 2015 20:35:00 +0000

Astonishingly, there’s very little on the web addressing the topic du jour. Mostly, it’s a few quiz sites asking pretty random questions that carry the personal assumptions of whoever authored them. There’s nothing really, well, helpful or definitive there. So then, given how absolutely crucial being fun is to the attraction process, let alone …

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Why Approaching Women Is So Puzzling

Scot McKay — Sat, 31 Jan 2015 21:14:17 +0000

We’ve done ourselves a disservice by assuming that each situation where we’re approaching a woman is going to be identical to any other. But who can really blame us? It seems as if everything we’ve ever read on the subject prepares us for interactions with beautiful but bitchy women, who are typically saturated with …

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7 Women Who Are Probably Dateless (And Will Stay That Way)

Scot McKay — Tue, 16 Dec 2014 16:21:33 +0000

Whenever I set out to write a post like this, I’m tempted to lead with a disclaimer. This time I’m going to indulge. If you’re familiar with my writings, my general philosophies and especially the strength of my relationship with my wife Emily, you already know that I genuinely adore women. What you ALSO …

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7 Major Clues You’re Getting Better With Women

Scot McKay — Fri, 21 Nov 2014 20:05:18 +0000

Hey, there’s a lot of talk about how to improve your skills with women. But how do you know when you’ve actually ARRIVED? On the surface, that seems like a silly question. I mean, you’re either attracting women or you’re not, right? When you start attracting women, all is good…at least you’d think so. …

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If It’s Not Fast, It’s Only Half-Fast: 5 1/2 Situations With Women That Call For Speed

Scot McKay — Thu, 06 Nov 2014 22:28:19 +0000

Go ahead. Say the first part of the subject line out loud. Do it briskly enough so you can hear what’s REALLY being said. In other words, don’t give it a half-fast effort. So gentlemen, what does a clever motorsports phrase like that have to do with women? Well, I’m about to pull the …

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Will You Pass The “Interesting Test”?

Scot McKay — Thu, 28 Aug 2014 13:07:51 +0000

By now you know that a man who leads an interesting life replete with way cool and exhilarating activities stands a much better chance of attracting desirable women than a guy who spends most of his time on the couch watching the tube and eating Cheetos. This is much to the chagrin of probably …

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6 Foolproof Ways To Make Your Male Unit Delicious To Women

Scot McKay — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 12:38:19 +0000

Yesterday something happened that was at the very least amazing, even though it may signal the impending end of the universe as we know it. It all started when I happened across a bizarre, weird post written by a woman named Holly Jean way back in April on a blog called http://www.myfatpocket.com. It had …

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Do Men Even Notice Women Anymore?

Scot McKay — Wed, 30 Jul 2014 17:02:05 +0000

[Please Read: This has obviously become an incendiary post, to the point of going viral. If you are a #MGTOW and wish to take me to task for having had a vibrant, highly-satisfying dating life that led to a happy, fulfilling relationship with a wonderful woman, I’ve already responded to similar comments more than …

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My 8 Favorite Female TV Characters Of All Time

Scot McKay — Fri, 28 Mar 2014 01:38:15 +0000

First of all, some of you are going to roll your eyes and shake your head at this list. I’m actually looking forward to that, if for no other reason than it will prove the true point of this post (if there really is one). That’s this: All that really, seriously matters when it …

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12 Things Some Guys Do, Mistakenly Thinking They’re Cool

Scot McKay — Thu, 07 Nov 2013 15:15:38 +0000

Let’s have some fun today. Recently I got into a discussion with a few friends—some female, no less—on the subject of what guys who decidedly don’t “get it” are like. Essentially, it quickly became a referendum on coolness, particularly in the eyes of women. As you might imagine it turned out to be a …

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7 Bad-To-The-Bone Skills That Women Love

Scot McKay — Mon, 23 Sep 2013 17:38:19 +0000

I’m not sure what it is lately, but I’ve been getting more than my fair share of e-mails from guys saying something to the effect of this: “But Scot, I’m incredibly useless/boring/average and there’s nothing about me that a woman would be attracted to, especially compared to other guys out there.” My knee-jerk reaction …

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Do You “Take Yourself Too Seriously”?

Scot McKay — Fri, 13 Sep 2013 19:54:12 +0000

I’m going to level with you on this one. Part of why I’m writing this particular blog post is because I want to force myself to finally come to grips with a subject that I’ve always thought I understood—at least in principle—but lately am not so sure I REALLY, TRULY get. That would be …

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Stop Chasing, Start Choosing: Take Control Of Your Dating Life, Get The Women You Truly Want

Scot McKay — Wed, 28 Aug 2013 22:40:11 +0000

Subject: Turn Fantasy Into Reality Have you somehow been led to believe that women hold ALL the power when it comes to male/female relationships? It’s true that the hottest ones are approached dozens of times per day by eager men who want to be with them. It’s as if a desirable woman can casually …

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Seducing Wild Alaska: The Truth About Male/Female Ratios Up There

Scot McKay — Mon, 19 Aug 2013 22:35:43 +0000

We’ve been in Alaska for the past two weeks. For real. In fact, we just got back two nights ago and we’ve pretty much been catching up on sleep since. Now, you’ve probably noticed that like one out of four shows on the Discovery or National Geographic channels have something to do with Alaska. …

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Do You Really Have A “Porn Problem”?

Scot McKay — Thu, 18 Jul 2013 17:55:47 +0000

What I’m about to share with you comes after months of consideration, countless conversations with real guys everywhere and yes…a final decision that despite how controversial my thoughts are going to be to some, this post really NEEDS to be written. Here’s the thing. I get a lot of messages from guys on the …

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Women Made Easy: What They Do, Why They Do It And How To Be A Man About It

Scot McKay — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 23:59:24 +0000

Subject: A Dirty, Messy But Absolutely Thrilling Journey Into The Female Mind What if… you could rise above the frustrated, confused ranks of men all over the world who are convinced women are impossible to understand? In other words, what if you finally figured them out? For real… By that I mean legitimately knowing …

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That New Bud Light Commercial Where They’re On A First Date

Scot McKay — Wed, 03 Apr 2013 21:58:25 +0000

If you’ve been watching the NCAA tournament at all this year, you’ve probably already seen this commercial about three dozen times: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wMExuin6U-c Considering that it centers around a first date between two people who’ve met online, I figured it would be fun to talk about it some…especially since I haven’t broken down any TV …

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7 Clues That You’re Being Too Picky

Scot McKay — Tue, 26 Mar 2013 20:53:48 +0000

If you’ve been reading this blog and/or my newsletters for some time, you already know how much I tend to harp on “settling”. Essentially, I firmly believe that we shouldn’t allow ourselves to get into a long-term relationship with ANYONE who isn’t really who we want. That’s all well and good. But a couple …

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8 Signs Your Girlfriend Doesn’t Respect You Enough

Scot McKay — Tue, 15 Jan 2013 12:02:45 +0000

If the subject line of this post grabbed your attention, it’s probably because you’ve been there before. You were crazy about a particular woman, and what do you know? She actually went out with you. What’s more, she actually became your girlfriend. Maybe she was even as hot for you as you were for …

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Flirting Like Wildfire: 50 Hot “Done For You” Conversations That Lead To Sex

Scot McKay — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 20:59:03 +0000

Hey everyone. Today marks the launch of my new book Flirting Like Wildfire on Amazon.com. I’ve put my heart and soul into it, as I do everything I write for y’all. You can get your very own copy for a mere $2.99 here, and that includes access to a secret website containing ten free …

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5 Ways Dating Has Benefited From Modern Technology

Scot McKay — Sat, 13 Oct 2012 14:51:03 +0000

Having driven over 2000 miles so far on our first annual “International Fall Road Trip” Emily and I have had plenty of time to come up with weird topics of conversation. Especially while driving through Missouri and Indiana late at night. One such discussion centered around how modernity has affected dating relationships. Needless to …

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Pushing Each Other’s “Hot Buttons”

Scot McKay — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 20:49:47 +0000

Top 10 Songs That Are Guaranteed To Make Her Hot For You

Scot McKay — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 03:02:01 +0000

I was recently asked during a media interview what my favorite “love song” was. My first “knee jerk” reaction was, well…NO reaction. I mean, I’m a guy. Who asks a dude a question like that and expects an answer any different than, say, “Let’s Get Drunk And Screw” by Jimmy Buffett? I mean, it’s …

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Is It A Bad Thing For Couples To Argue?

Scot McKay — Fri, 07 Sep 2012 18:22:35 +0000

If you’re like me, you’ve seen your fair share of couples talking on TV or whatever about how happily married they are. Maybe they’ve been blissfully married 50 years, etc., etc. Have you ever noticed how often they talk about how LITTLE they’ve argued over the years? I mean, my own parents have rarely—if …

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Adventures In Relationship Management

Scot McKay — Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:56:53 +0000

Today, with the long weekend approaching I wanted to take a break from the dating advice stuff per se and tell you what happened here at El Rancho McKay this morning. As she often does, Emily held one of her now infamous “Estrogen Fests”. Actually, they’re not really called that. That’s just what I …

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5 Questions That No Dating Coach Can Answer

Scot McKay — Sat, 18 Aug 2012 21:54:24 +0000

Now, you see…before I even write a single word of this post, you’re probably already gearing up for the challenge of finding some OTHER dating coach to answer the questions I’m about to list, just because I said it can’t be done. Well, so be it…but fair warning: once you see the list you …

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What The Heck Is A Man’s “Feminine Side”, Anyway?

Scot McKay — Sun, 05 Aug 2012 18:00:29 +0000

First of all, before we get into this you have to know how impossible it was to find a decent pic to go along with this post. Just about every potential image I initially thought would be clever turned out to be nothing short of creepy. Maybe there’s no coincidence there. Perhaps talking about …

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Cheating Or Not: What Does “Being Faithful” Actually Mean?

Scot McKay — Sat, 28 Jul 2012 19:29:01 +0000

How come this topic hasn’t been discussed more frequently? I mean, there’s zero doubt that infidelity is a factor in countless broken relationships. Perhaps we encounter so little elaboration on the subject because each of us believes we have a firm grasp of what it means to be “faithful” to a significant other. But …

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Are We Guys Really The “Commitment Phobes” Some Women Think We Are?

Scot McKay — Thu, 19 Jul 2012 19:19:38 +0000

Guys: Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman who, perhaps even subtly, is putting the pressure on you to marry her? If the relationship had been going on for a matter of months (or even years) without you ever mentioning anything about “future plans”, let alone putting a ring on her …

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10 Simple Tests Of Whether You’re A Wimp Or Not

Scot McKay — Wed, 11 Jul 2012 19:18:16 +0000

By now you know all too well that being a “wuss” is not attractive to women at all. The very essence of what ignites femininity is directly tied to facing fear with courage, coming up with a plan when crisis hits and being a protector when danger and uncertainty loom. And, well…you just can’t …

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The Weird Pattern To Questions We Get

Scot McKay — Mon, 09 Jul 2012 01:14:34 +0000

Given what Emily and I do for a living, as you imagine we’ve probably heard just about everything. And truly, there’s no limit to the potential topics of discussion when it comes to matters of men relating to women and vice-versa. Maybe that’s why it’s so blasted curious to me that about a quarter …

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Three Little Words (No…Not THOSE Three Little Words)

Scot McKay — Mon, 28 May 2012 17:12:23 +0000

It was my oldest daughter who started it. Back when she was about two she started saying, “I like you” to me. Of course, we told her we loved her all the time. But she was the one to take the initiative to take things a step further. Even though she was so young, …

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