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On Fifty Shades of Grey: There Is Better Erotic Romance Out There

2012-05-23T16:54:00.000-05:00

The Fifty Shades trilogy by E.L. James consists of these 3 books (in order): Fifty Shades of Grey, Fifty Shades Darker, and Fifty Shades Freed. If, for some reason, you have not heard about these books...don't worry. With 10 million copies sold in the past 6 weeks alone, I am quite sure the books are coming your way soon enough. Even better, just a few weeks ago, Universal Pictures bought the book rights so we can all expect a movie shortly. These books are, basically, erotica. They are...

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On the GMAT: Attack of Basic Math and Some ADD

2012-05-11T14:10:00.000-05:00

My relationship with standardized/big tests has actually been positive. From the Common Entrance in Nigeria up till that one time period where I tortured myself with the MCAT. Little known fact, I took the MCAT in my junior year of college. My score could probably have gotten me into a really decent D.O school or perhaps a school in that safe haven for disappointed/unlucky/time-sensitive premeds, the Caribbean. Fortunately for me, and my possible classmates, I abandoned the idea of medical...

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Cohabitating: Your Questions Answered.

2012-04-25T12:11:00.000-05:00

I recently joked that it has been great to have someone around to take out the trash and rub my back when I need it (not in that order) and it is. So far I have learned things about Alpa Chino that I did not know. Not major things, like a hidden wife or something, don't worry. Just things. For example, with allergy season I have discovered he has a sneeze that can deafen a person. It sounds like he is yelling through his nostrils. This may not seem important unless you are dozing on the...

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Plans, Priorities, And Some Advice for New Grads.

2012-04-03T09:02:00.000-05:00

I recently finished reading a very interesting book "Sharpen Your Heels: Mrs. Moneypenny's Career Advice for Women" and I think every woman who calls herself "ambitious" or "career driven" should read this book. Every chapter in the book ends with "Homework for Ambitious Women". Little exercises you should do, depending on where you are in your career. One of the homework assignments mentioned in the book a few times is to list your top 5 priorities in order of importance and make sure...

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Maybe I Am Not A Feminist After All.

2012-03-02T11:08:00.000-06:00

In my post, "On Reverse Marriage Proposals, Leap Day Is Fast Approaching" I shared my thoughts on the reverse marriage proposal i.e. when a woman proposes to a man. Myne Whitman (Nigerian author and blogger) also wrote a post about this, where she shared a quote from my post. So I went over to her blog to see what the comments would be like. Most people seemed to agree that reversal proposals are not for them at least, but there was one comment in particular that made me think. A...

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On Reverse Marriage Proposals...Leap Day Is Fast Approaching

2012-02-27T18:58:00.004-06:00

Back in 2010, a little movie came out titled Leap Year. I won't spoil the story for you, since it was Oscar worthy *coughs* but it revolved around a woman who planned to propose to her boyfriend on Leap Day. Apparently a man cannot refuse a proposal on Leap Day. Nobody told this to Chrissy on Love & Hip Hop last year. Perhaps if she had properly scheduled her proposal it wouldn't have taken so much to get Jim Jones to actually say "YES" to marriage. There is something to be said for...

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Happy Valentine's Day!

2012-02-14T09:30:00.000-06:00

Readers, enjoy the rest of your day. "We" haven't planned anything out of the ordinary this year. Dinner, some Moscato, a movie, that's it. I didn't get him anything (terrible, I know) so I have to make up for that somehow... Have a good one!

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Cohabitating: Basketball Has Become The Bane Of My Existence

2012-02-11T10:53:00.000-06:00

People, I need your help. It has been about 5 weeks since I moved to Chicago (as most of you know). In that time, nothing important has happened. Living together has been relatively easy going. Well, except for one thing which will become a huge problem if we don't find a resolution soon. I just need to understand how the rest of you in similar situations deal with this. Alpa Chino's love of sports is going to make me plan an attack on ESPN headquarters one day. So, I am...

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Stop Settling. It Is Wrong (and Stupid).

2012-02-01T21:30:00.001-06:00

For the marriage hungry... Yes, yes, all of you have seen this blog post about "Folu" a woman who is marrying a man she is not in love with or even attracted to. I debated whether or not to write a blog post in response because I can be a bit...what is the word..."brash" when it comes to sensitive issues like this. I have little patience for women like Folu and only involve myself in an attempt to make sure I learn from their experiences and avoid repeating their mistakes. Today...

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Kim Didn't Want To Be Married Anymore: Thank God We Have Divorce!

2012-01-23T13:14:00.000-06:00

Folks, I am all for divorce when necessary. There are people who CLEARLY should not be married and can end up doing more harm than good to each other when they stay together. So, with my "open minded" view on divorce, I decided to watch this season of "Kourtney and Kim Take New York" (KAKTNY) to find out what happened between Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries. I tuned in every Sunday to watch the show so I could see what "irreconcilable differences" led to the end of their 72 day...

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On The Nigerian Fuel Subsidy. I Will Not Gloat.

2012-01-05T11:42:00.002-06:00

After years of REALLY disliking Nigeria (I don't like to use the word hate), this fuel subsidy issue has managed to do what no amount of insults, threats, cajoling, or arguing could have accomplished when it comes to my feelings about that place. I am actually experiencing pity. I have never felt sorry for Nigerians, even when I lived there. Really. I have been annoyed, irritated, flabbergasted, disgusted, laughed at things, but pity has never been part of the gamut of feelings till...

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Impending Apocalypse Or Not, I Look Forward To 2012

2011-12-30T11:17:00.001-06:00

Once again another year draws to a close. I blogged a lot less this year than last year, I just realized this looking at my archives. Only one post in November?! *hides head in shame*. Thanks to everyone who read and commented here. Although, due to a mishap in June, I lost almost all my comments from August 2009 to June 2011, I am glad that you all visited and shared your thoughts over the year. I hope 2012 is a good year for everyone and starts off great! I have things to look forward...

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Happy ChristmaHanuKwanzakah

2011-12-24T08:27:00.002-06:00

Happy holidays everyone! I shall be doing last minute Christmas shopping as every year I somehow end up waiting until right before the holidays to buy gifts. Hope you have a great weekend!

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Money Can't Buy Happiness? Or Can It?

2011-12-22T13:46:00.000-06:00

"People" say money cannot buy happiness. I want to know, WHY not? This came up when I discussed my future plans with someone from my old old job (not the one I left this summer). I was explaining my "plans" for the future and she basically told me to "adjust" my plans. I will not get into how some people set low expectations for themselves and others, that is for another time. As a person of generally average means, I cannot understand why "money" would not make me happier. Mind...

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Cohabitating: When Two Decide To Find An Apartment

2011-12-15T17:16:00.000-06:00

I originally planned to write a post that was basically going to be about why money is good. However, that will have to be for next time. Perhaps over the weekend. Who am I kidding? This weekend I probably won't have time, but I will try. As some of you may have noticed, I have been a bit absent. Mostly because this whole moving thing has had some twists recently. Well, one twist. Sidenote: Packing up your life for a move this huge is kind of a pain in the a**. After I had...

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Cohabitating: When Two Decide to Become One, Sort Of...

2011-11-11T10:46:00.001-06:00

Welcome to what will probably turn out to be a series of "Cohabitating" posts. I have spent the last few weeks investigating various moving related topics: neighborhoods, apartments in said neighborhoods, transportation options (since I won't have a car for a bit), furniture, places to buy furniture, prices for "stuff", even cable providers (found out my only choice is Comcast, so annoyed), etc. At this point, I think its safe to say I know more about the northwest suburbs of Chicago...

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Cosmo Article Points Out The Obvious, Pushes Campaign Against Fake Orgasms

2011-10-27T14:05:00.001-05:00

Ladies, I have written previously about the dangers of magazine articles when it comes to "relationship advice". But, I don't think I covered the issue of pointless magazine articles as well as pointless "research" designed to share "insight" into relationships. Today, as I browsed the internet while eating my surprisingly tasty veggie cobb salad (chik'n is actually not that bad) I was drawn to an article titled, "Researchers Discover a Major Relationship Predictor". Hoping for...

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AfroCandy Gets Engaged, "Good" Unmarried Naija Women Lament Their Failure

2011-10-05T16:54:00.000-05:00

I don't know anyone who was not surprised by the news that AfroCandy (aka Judith something or other) got engaged recently. But, the surprise turned to shock for many when they found out she was engaged to a "millionaire". Tells you a lot about Nigerian mentality, doesn't it? The moral of this story, doing everything your mother told you not to do may be the best way to snag a rich husband, especially in Nigeria. Okay, maybe I am exaggerating. This story has touched me...

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Saving Your "Man" From Your Family (Kim K Would Understand)

2011-10-03T13:08:00.002-05:00

Okay this post is based on my own "situation" although I am sure there are others like me out there. This week, Alpa Chino and I were discussing the possibility of finally ending this LDR and me moving to the midwest. The explanation of how this will work without my having to change jobs will come in another post at another time. I will know for sure about this possible move by December, but it looks like it will finally happen. So we were browsing a few apartments in...

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City Slicker: New York City Aint All That Afterall

2011-09-29T11:37:00.000-05:00

I am far from being a city slicker. Well, I may be a city slicker, but I doubt that right now that city is New York. Ladies and gentle folk, I have been doing the "commuting thing" for the last month. It has been interesting and eye-opening and it is my opinion that New York is not a city that lends itself to people like me. For those of you not living and/or working in New York City, consider this a helpful guide. There is one inescapable fact of being in this city. It is crowded. If...

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Where Am I From? It Depends...

2011-08-23T09:15:00.000-05:00

In my weeks of absence from blogging, a few things have happened. Of course there is the new job, but that is just one thing. I have discovered that I (legally at least) could claim South African citizenship if I really wanted. This revelation, startling as it was, occurred over chin-chin making one fine day with my mother. It's amazing what can happen when the whole "mother-daughter" bonding thing happens. Is this good news? YES. Does it change anything? For now, not really. Except I...

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My Leap In The Dark

2011-08-19T14:12:00.000-05:00

I know I have been MIA but I have good reasons! For the last 3 weeks, well 4 weeks really, I have been busy. Unemployment may seem like a "break" but not when you are me. Between scouring the web for job postings, then filling out applications, then having phone screenings, then 1st, 2nd, and even 3rd round face to face interviews, OF COURSE classwork, and other miscellaneous things, I haven't really had time to blog or even keep up with Twitter. But I am back for good. I...

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Is It Ever Okay For A Man To Hit A Woman?

2011-08-19T09:25:00.000-05:00

So, I came across this video that was recently shared on the internets this week and it is SHOCKING. I say shocking because to be honest I am not sure what to think. Sidenote: this video "premiered" on World Star Hip Hop and, as many of you may already know, that website is just...well..if you're not familiar with it please check it out. Some people think TMZ is bad but they've clearly never seen WSHH. Their slogan should be "making black people look bad is our schtick". In my...

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Women Are Powerful...According to Beyonce & Summer's Eve.

2011-07-29T12:33:00.001-05:00

I have met many a Beyonce fan who called me a hater after I expressed my dislike for some of Beyonce's songs. First of all, I laugh at anyone who seriously uses the word "hater", so if you read this post and feel the need to defend Beyonce by using this word to describe me, then save it. My issue with Beyonce's "woman power-ness" began with Irreplaceable. I will not lie and say that I didn't sing the song very loudly and out of tune, when it was released. I did. But in the back of my mind...

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In Bed With Google...Using Google+ (Plus)

2011-07-18T20:44:00.001-05:00

Readers, it has come to my attention that I may be a Google whore. I have evidence to prove this. Clearly, I use Blogspot for this blog (which is a Google product in case you did not already know)/ Next, I use Gmail for all my mail both for the blog and my personal email address. My mobile phone is an Android. I run blog ads with Google Adsense. Even as I type this up I'm using Google Chrome. I think it is safe to say that I haven't met a Google product that I didn't...

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