1. Can Women Orgasm During Childbirth?

A new study has found it’s entirely possible for a woman to scream out in climactic pleasure as her baby makes its way through the birth canal. The study, conducted by French psychologist Thierry Postel and published in the journal Sexologies, is one of the first to attempt to nail down numbers when it comes to women experiencing intense pleasure during birth.

2. Warrior Princess’ book details life of Navy SEAL who came out as transgender woman Kristin Beck

Chris Beck played high school football.[...] He grew up to become a U.S. Navy SEAL, serving our country for twenty years. [...]To everyone who saw him, he was a hero. A warrior. A man.

But underneath his burly beard, Chris had a secret, one that had been buried deep inside his heart since he was a little boy—one as hidden as the panty hose in the back of his drawer. He was transgender, and the woman inside needed to get out. (Amazon Link)

3. I’m Not Easy. I’m Selectively Convenient

One of the things that often surprises people is the fact that being queer, kinky, and poly doesn’t have to mean that someone is promiscuous.

4. American’s Views on Sexual Morality are Changing

Gallup recently conducted their annual Values and Beliefs survey and discovered that Americans’ views on sexual morality have shifted significantly in the last dozen years, with particularly notable changes in the perceived acceptability of homosexuality, sex before marriage, and having children outside of marriage. At the same time, however, attitudes toward issues such as abortion and pornography have remained largely the same. Check out the table below for details on the specific changes in moral attitudes that have taken place since 2001.

5. Interview with a Porn Star: Lorelei Lee on sex, gender, and “Public Sex, Private Lives.”

If there’s a stigma around sex workers, it’s that we have placed them in a box of our own moral judgments, without really knowing anything about them.

What to make, then, of Lorelei Lee, who’s fluent in four languages, holds an MFA from NYU, writes poetry and screenplays, and references William Carlos Williams in her blog? Since emerging from the Kink.com dungeons (literally) more than a decade ago, she’s become not only a featured performer and director, but a poster child for the sex-positive aspects of the porn industry: she’s smart, literate, and firmly empowered by her choice to be a professional “pain slut.”

News

1. Boyscouts – It’s okay if you’re gay, as long as you’re under 18

Sponsor: Kasidie

Questions

Question 1:

Hi Jason!

I recently had an experience with a different kind of fetish I have never heard of before. This man was turned on by the thought of impregnating women. He would say things during foreplay like: “I want to have babies with you” and “Let’s make a baby” despite that it was a very new relationship. Thoughts?

Question 2:

I listened to the Bisexuality podcast and was wondering if you could you address the concept of being DL (down low) in men. This is when men have a wife, family, etc. but are secretly having gay/same-sex sexual behavior in secret. Do you think most of those men are actually homosexual and trying to hide it and remain closeted, or do you think they are mostly bisexual?

Fun with Words

Candaulism is the enjoyment of sexually exposing one’s female partner to the view of others.  The name is a reference to King Candaules from Herodotus’s tale of Gyges (which is substantially different from Plato’s account of the myth of Gyges).  In the myth, the king surreptitiously reveals his wife to one of his ministers. The sexual practice, then, is when one partner gains pleasure by showing off his partner, whether in person or imagery, to others, whether with the consent of his or her partner or not.

Distinctions.

Sex Tips

Mutual masturbation.

Tonight’s Topic: Polyamory

Summary: Polyamory is having multiple loving and sexual relationships and can be a real value in life that can help you live with integrity and be who you really are, instead of denying your nature and trying to force yourself into culturally approved patterns of relationships.

References:

- Robin Baker’s Sperm Wars

- Dossie Easton The Ethical Slut

- Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha Sex at Dawn

- Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up

- “On Polysexuality (Revised)“

History of Diana’s podcast:

1. Peikoff’s podcast (Aug. 10)

2. My “Contra Peikoff on Swinging” (Aug. 10)

3. On Poylsexuality (Oct. 10)

4. Diana’s “Polyamory vs. Monogamy” (Dec. 10)

- Private correspondence between Diana and I

5. On Polysexuality Revised (Apr. 13)

6. PIA “Question 1: The Ethics of Open Relationships”  (May 13)

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It should be clear to my readers that I have no love for our current president (nor for our last one, for that matter).  I talked about some of my problems in “Obama and the Path to Tyranny” and now even more more people are fed up with the administration.

Buzzfeed has an amazing quiz that challenges you to decide whether what you’re reading is from George Orwell’s 1984 or from Obama. Sadly, it’s hard to tell anymore!

This is partly in response to new information that not only is Obama doing all of the terrible things he has been (see “Obama and the Path to Tyranny“), he’s also completely violated the rights of citizens by seizing the phone records of Verizon customers, even those who have not been suspected of any crimes. See the Washington Post story U.S. intelligence mining data from nine U.S. Internet companies in broad secret program.

Even the very liberal New York Times has now come out against Obama:

Within hours of the disclosure that the federal authorities routinely collect data on phone calls Americans make, regardless of whether they have any bearing on a counterterrorism investigation, the Obama administration issued the same platitude it has offered every time President Obama has been caught overreaching in the use of his powers: Terrorists are a real menace and you should just trust us to deal with them because we have internal mechanisms (that we are not going to tell you about) to make sure we do not violate your rights.

Those reassurances have never been persuasive — whether on secret warrants to scoop up a news agency’s phone records or secret orders to kill an American suspected of terrorism — especially coming from a president who once promised transparency and accountability.

The administration has now lost all credibility on this issue. Mr. Obama is proving the truism that the executive will use any power it is given and very likely abuse it. That is one reason we have long argued that the Patriot Act, enacted in the heat of fear after the 9/11 attacks by members of Congress who mostly had not even read it, was reckless in its assignment of unnecessary and overbroad surveillance powers.

The New York Times is right, this administration has now lost all credibility, not just on this issue, but across the board.  No president has had this many serious concurrent scandals and who knows how many more are yet to come to light.

Let us be clear: this administration is corrupt and is actively violating the rights of its citizens.  We, the people, need to take a stand and say that the government has transgressed its bounds and must be restrained.  We can’t leave it to our politicians, I think we have seen that both the Republicans and the Democrats are perfectly willing to violate rights in order to meet their political agendas.  We need to start by impeaching Obama and working to restore our system of constitutionally limited government that works for the people, not against us.

All three of these articles are worth reading.  They’re each very interesting in different ways.

1. What Science Says About Arousal During Rape

Arousal and orgasm during rape happen. Probably much more often than we know. It is not a sign of guilt or pleasure. It in no way indicates consent. It is a sign that our bodies react, just as they do with a rapid heartbeat or an adrenaline rush. We react.

2. Survivorship Bias

When failure becomes invisible, the difference between failure and success may also become invisible.

3. Futuo! How the Romans Swore

The Romans’ mouths were incredibly dirty, and many of their taboos were ones Westerners still hold today.

Personal News

Eros and Ethos update: Part 1 is done at 110 single spaced pages and more than 58,000 words!  Really excited that it’s coming along. Chapter 8 is almost done and writing is going so much faster now.

News

1. Arizona Law on Abortions Struck Down as Restrictive

2. Gay Marriage in the News:

- Gay Marriage in MN

- Baltimore Mayor to preside over mass gay wedding at this year’s Pride on June 16.

- France’s first gay marriage

3. Canada updates gay blood donation guidelines

4. Politics – IRS, Benghazi, NDAA

5. Crowd Led by Priests Attacks Gay Rights Marchers in Georgia

6. Florida Teen Facing Criminal Charges For Relationship With Female Student

- Diana Hsieh on Statutory Rape Laws

- “On Pedophilia”

7. Smallest Penis In Brooklyn Contest

8. Ad Campaign Compares Gun Control to Gay Marriage

- Planet unicorn

Sponsor: Kasidie

Questions

No questions today.  Send in your questions to podcast@JasonStotts.com or you can email us individually at Jason@JasonStotts.com, Joia@JasonStotts.com, Devin@JasonStotts.com, William@JasonStotts.com

Fun with Words

Irrumatio

Sex Tips

Kegels (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegel_exercise)

Tonight’s Topic: Bisexuality

Summary: Bisexuality is a real sexual orientation and bisexuals should live their lives and not be ashamed of their bisexuality.

Books referenced: Lisa Diamond’s Sexual Fluidity

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If you’ve been reading Erosophia for a while now, you know I’m working on my first nonfiction book currently titled: Eros and Ethos: The Ethics of Modern Sex.  It has been going painstakingly slow for quite some time, but I’m happy to announce that the speed of writing has improved and great strides are being made now!  Not only that, but Part 1, the first part that contains the primary theory of Eros and Ethos, is now complete in early draft!    It’s 110 single spaced pages and 58,000 words.  Seeing it all together was such a thrill for me.  Now that the book is really taking shape and writing is going much faster, I’m really thrilled with things and can’t wait to get a complete draft so I can go and start editing and bringing things together really tightly.  At the rate I’m going now, I hope to be completely done in a year.  Perhaps even sooner if I can really push myself.

I hope you guys are as excited about this as I am!

Incidentally, if you are part of the admissions committee in a PhD program in philosophy…feel free to drop me a line.  Or the Kinsey Institute, which would be awesome.  Or a joint PhD in philosophy at IU with work at Kinsey. Dream spot.

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Introduction

Part 1: Theory

 Ch. 1 – Ethics (Done)

1.  The Necessity of Sexual Ethics
2.  Happiness
3.  Egoism
4.  Death as the Motivation of Ethics
5.  Virtue as a Means to Happiness

Ch. 2 – Emotions (Done)

1. The Problem of Emotions
2. The Nature and Development of Emotions
3. Philosophy and Emotions

Ch. 3 – Love (Done)

1. Challenging the Paradigms of Love
2. What Kind of Person is Capable of Love?
3. The Nature of Romantic Love

Ch. 4 – Romantic (Erotic/Sexual) Relationships (Done)

1. Relationships are not Love
2. The bases of intimate Relationships
3. Characteristics of proper Intimate Relationships
4. Marriage
5. Friendship v. Romantic Love

Ch. 5 – Sexual Attraction and Fantasy (Done)

1. Cultural Paradigms of Attraction
2. The Shallowness of Physical Attraction
3. Character Attraction
4. Philosophy and its role in sexual attraction
5. Fantasy

Ch. 6 – Identity, Orientation, and Self-Understanding (Done)

1. Understanding Identity and Orientation
2. Masculinity and Femininity

Ch. 7 – Sex, Union, and Intimacy (Done)

1. The Basic Nature of Sex and Early Considerations
2. Sexual Pleasure and Sex as Emotional Response
3. Intimacy and Union

Conclusion and Summary of Part 1 (Done)

Part 2: Applications

Ch. 8 – Erotic Decadence (Nearly Done)

1. Principles of Ascension and Decadence
2. Perversion: Making Sex Decadent
3. Fetishism
4. Sexual Violence
5. Inauthentic Love

Ch. 9 – Faith, Mysticism, and Sex

1. Virginity, Abstinence, and the Ethics of Denial
2. Dualism and Its Implications
3. Human Genital Mutilation
4. Taboos

Ch. 10 – Reproduction, Progeny, and Family

1. Family
2. Parental Responsibility
3. Abortion
4. Birth Control

Ch. 11 – Sex for Sale

1. Pornography
2. Strip Clubs
3. Prostitution

Ch. 12 – Children and Sexuality

1. The Sexual Child
2. Pedophilia v. Ephebophilia
3. Incest

Ch. 13 – Relationship, Love, and Sex (Partially Done)

1. Same-Sex Marriage
2. Relationships: A Continuum of Permissiveness
3. Swinging
4. Open Relationships and Polyamory
5. Polygamy: Polyandry and Polygyny
6. Friends and Sex

Ch. 14 – Kink

1. The Nature of Kink
2. Sodomy
3. Pegging
4. Fisting
5. BDSM

Ch. 15 – Public and Private

1. Public Nudity and Nude Beaches
2. Exhibitionism
3. Voyeurism

Ch. 16 – Obscenity and Legal Issues in Sexuality

1. Obscenity
2. The “Right not to be Offended”
3. The Age of Consent
4. The Right to Privacy and Sexual Self-Determination
5. Elderly Adults and Sex

Ch. 17 – Paradigms of Attraction

Conclusion

I hate how everything that becomes politicized becomes covered in layers upon layers of lies and deceptions as people try to bend reality to meet their political agendas.  Frankly, I find it disgusting.  Firearms are definitely one of those topics where people let their emotions run roughshod over their reason and attempt to pass feel-good legislation that serves the ends of security theater, but does nothing to help real people stay safer in the real world.

Consider the following two articles:

Gun Crime has Plunged, but Americans Think it’s Up, Says Study (LA Times)

Gun crime has plunged in the United States since its peak in the middle of the 1990s, including gun killings, assaults, robberies and other crimes, two new studies of government data show.

Yet few Americans are aware of the dramatic drop, and more than half believe gun crime has risen, according to a newly released survey by the Pew Research Center.

Media’s Anti-Gun Narrative Destroyed by Justice Dept Report (Breitbart)

Between the years of 1993 and 2011, as the assault weapons ban expired, more Americans purchased guns, the Supreme Court overturned outright gun bans, and individual states not only loosed gun control restrictions but also issued concealed carry permits to private citizens, incidents of gun violence in America collapsed.

Between 1993 and 2011, nonfatal gun crimes plummeted 69%; from 1.5 million to 467,300. Gun-related murders dropped 40%; from 18,253 to 11,101. Gun-related murders for black Americans plummeted by 51%.

The report also shows that the media-created hysteria over school shootings is wildly misleading. Between ’93 and ’11, the murder rate in schools dropped by almost a third; from 29 to 20.

It bothers me that the media’s selective reporting has completely distorted the truth about what’s happening with gun use in the US and whether are kids are safe in school (they’re much safer now than when I was in school in the 90′s).

Guns are not evil. Neither are they good.  They are simply tools that can be used for good or bad ends.  To ban guns in an attempt to reduce crime is just misguided.  People who want to hurt each other will always find new and creative ways to do so: like “glassing” in the UK.

This reminds me of a conversation I had the other day with a friend who was praising the idea of gun buy-back programs where police “buy” guns from citizens in order to “get them off the streets.”  This, at first, sounds like it might be a good idea, except:

- The guns turned in are not going to be the ones used to commit crimes.  Criminals are not going to turn in their guns voluntarily.

- The people who are going to be turning in guns are poor people who need the money.  Yet, the amount of money the programs pay is much less than the market price, thus cheating people of the money they could get elsewhere

- There have been reports that criminals have used the gun buyback programs to get paid to have the police destroy evidence of their crimes.  The programs accept the guns without questions, so this is a perfect solution for the criminals.

Thus, these programs accomplish nothing at all except waste taxpayer dollars on feel good programs.  This kind of thing has got to stop.

We need to look always for the facts and not try to impose our uninformed emotional reactions on others via the law.  Guns might be “scary,” but that’s no reason to try to prevent law-abiding citizens from owning them.

With all the scandals and terrible policies of the Obama administration, I think it’s about time for a good old fashioned IMPEACHMENT!

“They’ll warn that tyranny is always lurking just around the corner.” Barack Obama 

- Either failed to act or prevented military action in Benghazi. Caused the death of a US ambassador and members of US military.

- NDAA and the indefinite detentions of American citizens without trial (ACLU). VIOLATES 6th AMENDMENT

- Fast and Furious scandal. Resulted in the death of American and Mexican citizens.

- IRS Scandal #1: IRS used as a political weapon against conservative groups in an election year to silence opposition. VIOLATES 1st AMENDMENT

- IRS scandal #2: IRS illegally seized medical records of 10,000,000 people. VIOLATES RIGHT TO PRIVACY.

- AP News scandal: illegally tapped reporters phones and stole records from the Associated Press. VIOLATES 1st AMENDMENT

If you’re not upset about the president, you should really consider the precedents he’s setting and that tyranny never arrives all at once.  We must demand freedom in all areas of life: not just personal freedom, not just economic freedom, not just the freedom to have an abortion, to carry a gun, or to invest our money how we wish, but the freedom of a free people whose government’s only role is the protection of rights.

I just had my 3oth birthday yesterday.  I’ll be honest, it feels a little strange to be thirty.  Not that I feel like I’m old now, I don’t.  It’s more just that I expected that I’d have my life more together by the time I hit 30.  Well, that’s a little strong, my life is together except for one crucial thing: a career.  I figured I’d have one of those things by the time I was thirty.  This is not to say I don’t have a job, but rather that I feel like I could be doing something much more rewarding. Oh well, I guess I’ll figure it out sooner or later. (Incidentally, if you’re in charge of a philosophy department looking fro grad students or are offering a lucrative writing career…let me know.  I would also love to go and study at the Kinsey Institute for a while!)

I know that some people don’t like celebrating birthdays, but I’ve always liked celebrating my birthday and the birthdays of the people I care about.  I think it’s nice to take time out of our busy lives and focus on the value that those who are close to you bring to your life.  When it’s my own birthday I try to think about the things that I’ve done in the last year and the things I’ve accomplished.  For this birthday, I had a lot to think about with all the things that have happened since I was 20.

Two weeks ago before my birthday, I asked people to donate to Erosophia or at least write me to let me know that you value my work.  I didn’t get as many responses as I might have hoped, but I did get some really nice donations, a couple of notes, and even a couple of gifts. One of the gifts I got was from the “Objectively Charming” etsy store whose owner sent me some very nice things, including an Atlas keychain:

And an Ayn Rand tribute charm bracelet:

They’ve also offered to donate to Erosophia for every purchase, so go and give them some business!

If you want to help support directly Erosophia, please consider donating or at least letting me know my work is making a difference to you.

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The topic of today’s show is infidelity, cheating, and relationships. We’re also introducing a new segment of sex tips.

Sex in the News
1. Man Dies in Police Raid on Wrong House

2. Girl, 14, forced to become pregnant with donor sperm bought by mother

3. Second child of faith-healing couple dies after no medical care sought

(Referenced: Darrel Ray’s Sex & God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality)

4. Jason Collins comes out

5. The gays are destorying families in France (Link to picture)

Sponsor: Kasidie

Questions

No questions this episode.

If you want to ask a question, contact us at Podcast@JasonStotts.com, on twitter via @ErosPod, on this page here on Erosophia, or via our Facebook page.

Sex Tips

Todays tip: sex is like pool.

Tonight’s Topic: Infidelity, Cheating, and Relationships

The correct form a relationship should take depends on the relationship, but once you agree to it with your partner, to violate the rules you’ve set out for your relationship is cheating.  We firmly believe that monogamy can be a good choice for a couple, but it should be a choice and not simply a default in a species that is not naturally monogamous.

For more information about relationships, see: On Polysexuality (Revised)

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