Relationship Resource Center

Thoughts on Relating with Men

admin — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:11:12 +0000

Relating with men feels like a mixed bag to me. “Some of my best friends are men!” In fact, a lot of them are! I have two sons that I really enjoy relating to. Of my colleagues at RRC, I feel most comfortable with the men in many ways. On the other hand, I feel [...]

Moving Beyond the Power Struggle

admin — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 22:01:06 +0000

Remember the song that said “For everything…, turn, turn turn, there is a season…, turn turn, turn.” This is a phrase from Ecclesiastes that provides deep reflection on some automatic behaviors in relationships. After the “Romantic Stage” of all relationships there comes a period in which the partners feel hurt and betrayed by each [...]

MAKING 2012 YOUR BEST YEAR YET

admin — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 20:58:38 +0000

One of my favorite poets, Mary Oliver, once posed the poetic question, “What will you do with your one wild and precious life?” I have found this to be a wonder-filled, thought and action-provoking question, and one that is particularly poignant as we leap into 2012 (which coincidently happens to be a Leap Year). Another [...]

Being Present: Avoiding the Reactivity Trap

admin — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 18:26:53 +0000

Here’s a concept that I’ve been finding really helpful of late. It’s called “The Shelf,” and it’s the place where I can rest my “baggage” when I find that my buttons are getting pushed by something. The best example I can think of is when I’m trying - REALLY trying – to listen to something [...]

Conversations for Connection: Cultivating Community in the 21st Century

admin — Mon, 12 Dec 2011 23:05:11 +0000

Hello and welcome to the RRC blog community! Now that we have launched our new website, we will be adding new and thought-provoking blog posts on a regular basis. Our aim is to bring a fresh perspective that will inspire you to see your life and relationships through new eyes. As this is an interactive blog, we [...]

Stuck Pain vs Growing Pain

relationshipreflections — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 17:37:05 +0000

It seems to me that, although we often don’t have a choice about whether pain comes into our lives and relationships, we do have a choice about whether that pain becomes “stuck pain” or “growing pain.” We can choose to just endure the pain that comes our way and try to ignore it and/or numb [...]