Relationship Resource Center

Dead Stop: An Extremely Useful Action

centerRR — Fri, 17 May 2013 11:00:02 +0000

Not long ago, I came home from work tired and hungry, and my wife hadn’t started dinner yet, even though I thought it was her turn to cook. I began to complain and rag on her. And I kept at it while she was fixing the meal. Our 15-year-old daughter was doing her homework at [...]

A Rare Occurrence In Our Culture? Men Who Like Women and Women Who Like Men

centerRR — Fri, 10 May 2013 11:30:29 +0000

Sadly, men who like women and women who like men are pretty rare in this culture. Before you object absolutely to this statement, let me try to explain what I mean a little further. I am not talking about physical, sexual or romantic attraction between men and women, which is wonderful and exciting and better [...]

Men and Women: Equal Opportunity Offenders

centerRR — Tue, 30 Apr 2013 11:00:53 +0000

Men and women, when behaving badly with each other, are basically “equal opportunity offenders.” That’s right! They will each get their digs in and twist the knife a little bit when they get the opportunity. However, there is a basic difference. When behaving poorly, men usually scare women and women shame men. Take your choice? [...]

How To Get Your Needs Met Without Asking

centerRR — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 11:00:40 +0000

Since men learn in “Guy School” to think that they don’t have any needs and to be needy is weak, but men really do have needs for affection and nurturing and connection – we have a situation! Most women are trained in “Girl School” (Oh yes, there is a school for girls, too) to take [...]

Guy School: Enculturation of Raising Boys Into Men

centerRR — Mon, 15 Apr 2013 19:56:32 +0000

I recently came across an article from The Meadows that stated “trauma is anything less than nurturing.” Wow! This led me to think about how “guy school,” the almost universal cultural training for the raising of boys into men, is in many ways traumatic. Boys learn, from early on, that they can be mad or [...]

The Spiritual/Life Journey as Surfing

centerRR — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 00:57:56 +0000

We really aren’t in control of what waves life sends our way. We do have the choice of whether to fight them, sink, or do the best we can to ride them with as much grace as possible!