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Opposites Attract vs Like Attracts Like

Dr Philip C. Agrios — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 11:51:08 +0000

There are a couple of expressions, “Opposites attract” and “Like attracts like”. Which statement is correct?

What can atoms teach us about relationships? Did you attract your mate because he or she is opposite to you or you both are alike? How about any relationship whether a friend, boss or lover? So which statement is true?

Well first of all, both statements are correct. Let me explain. In the compound salt, sodium and chloride ions, both have opposite charges and are opposite to each other. Therefore, they are opposites and ‘opposites attract’.

But did they attract each other because they have something in common and they are alike in other ways? Yes, they have something in common – they have voids.

Both the sodium and the chloride atoms have voids. Chloride is in need of an electron and sodium needs seven more electrons in order for both to be stable. Also they both have the ability to fill each others voids. In this way they are alike, so ‘like attracts like’. The attraction is dependent upon your perception.

So what conditions are needed for two people to create a relationship together?

There are always 3 conditions that must be present for two or more entities to unite. Anything that unites is a relationship, whether it is an atom/atom, friend/friend, lover/lover, parent/child, or even boss/employee.

The first condition - there needs to be an outside influence to bring them together.

The second condition - the entities must have voids.

The third condition - each entity must have the ability to fill the others’ void.

Here is an example of the 3 conditions and how they relate to a human relationship. I have two friends that I think would be perfect for each other. So I am the outside influence that brings them together by introducing them to each other. Or there could be another outside influence, such as a setting, meeting at a nightclub or anything else that is outside of them, that can cause them to meet.

The second condition could be that neither of them is in a relationship. Therefore, they have voids that are not being met.

In the third condition, they need to have the ability to each fill each others’ voids. I can have a man and a woman both have voids and I can bring them together. But if the woman doesn’t want to be with the man, then the union doesn’t take place. This happened because he did not have the ability to fill her void in her perception.

All three conditions must be present for a union to take place and this goes for any relationship. Why did a customer buy something? The first condition, the outside influence, a friend told her about the store. The second condition, is the customer has a void and the store has exactly what she wants in stock, and the third condition is that she has the funds to purchase the product and this is her ability to fill the store’s void.

It’s simple. Everyone when getting into a new relationship will follow these three conditions, because no matter what you do, you are trying to fill your voids as well as the other person’s voids. However, all 3 conditions MUST be met in order for a relationship to unite. If not, there will never be a union.

This will be the reason you don’t get that job, the sale, or any other relationship.

If you would like to know what part of you may be attracting the “wrong” people in your life or why you can’t find the “right” person, then go to www.SilentPartnerTeleClass.com and discover the real reason for this.

The Secret Within You

Dr Philip C. Agrios — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 12:42:43 +0000

I have found a secret not too many people know about. We have three personalities that I call Life Partners that are broken into The Dominate Partner, the Mediator and the Silent Partner. The secret is that there is only one partner that creates all of your past pain and suffering, creates your barriers to success and decreases your ability to obtain your desires. It also attracts your opportunities.

Yes - just one and that partner is The Silent Partner. Discover this within you and you find the secret to solve any problem you face.

In times of crisis as well as other times, we turn to what we know best and that is to rely on our Dominant Partner who is overworked and not as efficient as he or she used to be. Because of the imbalance between the three partners, it’s our Silent Partner that allows us to be given opportunities for us to realize that there is an imbalance and it does this by attracting people and events in our lives that are happy to oblige us.

So let’s quickly talk about Life’s One Law and how these three partners are related to it and how it affects your life.

Life’s One Law is a discovery that I made which governs the entire universe, from the atoms to the galaxies and everything in between – human nature. I am not going to go into how I discovered it, but just to say that this one law is made up of three simpler laws.

These laws do not work individually from one another but simultaneously making up the one law. Just like an organ cannot exist by itself without the other organs in our body and together working simultaneously, they make up who we are.

I named the three simpler laws:

The Law of Direction

The Law of Supply

The Law of Communication

So how does this law relate to you? Well if I replace the Law of Direction with the word Director, The Law of Supply with the word Supplier and The Law of Communication with the word Communicator, now we have our three personalities or our Life Partners.

However, there is a certain sequence we use the partners or our personalities in. I call this sequence -The Personality Sequence.

People use their Personality Sequence in different ways. Depending in which order the partners are used and sequenced will determine how a person reacts to their everyday challenges.

But the most important thing of all – once you are able to find out your Personality Sequence, you will be able to know why you did the things that you did in the past that have caused you to be in situations such as signing up for that mortgage that now caused you to foreclose. Why you attract the same type of relationships. Why you are a workaholic, smoke cigarettes, use drugs or drink. Why you may scream at your kids or why you are in debt. All the past decisions you made that did not turn out the way you planned will be understood very easily once you know your Personality Sequence.

But also why you made the decisions that you did that worked out great. Imagine reduplicating that again. Because if you knew how you did that, you would do it again, wouldn’t you? Of course you would.

Once you know your Personality Sequence, then you will discover the Antidote specific for you. This is just one easy action step that you need to implement so you are able to handle and solve your present day challenges, how to duplicate your success, how to avoid problems in the future and if you can’t avoid them, how to tolerate them until you are able to ride them out or find the gifts inside and use them to your advantage. This Antidote always works.

For more information, visit www.SilentPartnerTeleClass.com and read more about this discovery and how you can Solve Your Problems with This Easy, Proven Formula That Always Works – Guaranteed!

Relationship Compatibility

Dr Philip C. Agrios — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 13:10:14 +0000

We need to look at human behavior and why we do the things that we do. All of us are made up of atoms. Atoms behave in a certain way and their behavior is a good model to use to understand human behavior.

There are 3 atomic bonds: Ionic bonds, Covalent bonds and Metallic bonds.

The Ionic bond is a ‘give and take’ relationship between two atoms. Electrons are transferred from one atom to the other.

The Covalent bond is a ‘sharing’ relationship. Instead of one atom losing an electron and the other gaining an electron, these atoms share one or more electrons. Sometimes the sharing is equal and other times the sharing is unequal.

The Metallic bond has the characteristics of both Ionic and Covalent bonds. It ’shares’ and ‘gives and takes’.

An example of the Ionic bond can be found in the bonding of sodium and chloride. Sodium has an extra electron, and chloride only has 7 electrons in the outer orbit. When the extra electron of sodium is given to chloride, chloride then becomes stable and sodium gets rid of the extra electron.

The sodium after it gives up its electron, becomes positive because it now has more protons than electrons. Chloride now becomes negative because it has more electrons than protons. The sodium and chloride ions are now stable and the compound they create is called Salt.

This Ionic bond I am going to call ‘The Give-Take Relationship’. Each of these atoms has found another atom that can give it what it wants and needs. By giving, they also receive.

With a Covalent bonding, atoms are co-dependent. An example of this is with the hydrogen atom. A hydrogen atom only has 1 electron, and so is unable to give up an electron. When 2 hydrogen atoms unite, they share the 2 electrons and this makes them both stable.

This is the same as when two people who need the same thing come together. They rely upon each other to remain stable. This type of relationship is not strong because neither person can be stable without the other. These relationships have what you could call a ‘low boiling’ point and break easily. I am going to call this bond ‘The Sharing Relationship’.

In a Metallic bond there is both a sharing and a give and take of electrons. This is a very strong type of bond, and metals have a very high boiling point, so hence the name Metallic bond.

The outer electrons of metal are not bound closely. When 2 metal atoms come together the electrons can move freely amongst the nuclei within the crystal. They slip over each other, but stay bonded to each other by the attractive forces that exist. Within in this bond there is a sharing of the electrons and also giving and taking. This bond has a flexibility not found in any other bond.

An example of this bond is a ‘stable marriage’, where both people have the ability to not only share with each other, but they also give and take from the other person. They are both independent in this relationship, through the give and take process, and yet also create a dependence upon each other by sharing what each has.

The bond becomes stronger as time goes on because they have the flexibility to move about freely within the relationship, trusting each other not to bond (cheat) with anyone else. Neither person in this relationship wants to break the bond because not only are they filling the other persons void, but their voids are being fulfilled also.

I am going to call this metallic bond ‘The Fulfilling Relationship’.

Behavior becomes erratic or unstable when all of our voids are not met. When 2 atoms come together and aren’t able to fill each others voids, the created compound is known as a ‘Radical’. Just as with human relationships, we become radical or rebellious to others and ourselves when our needs aren’t met.

Why do some people eat food that isn’t healthy? Or smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol, do drugs or anything else that is unhealthy? It is simply that for many it is better to fill a void with something, than with nothing at all.

I think that we suffer in relationships because we are confused about what type of relationship we are in. You need to determine what your relationship is and then ask yourself a few questions. What do you give and what do you take from this relationship? What type of relationship does the other person think you have? If there is a problem with the relationship, can it be corrected? Or maybe you need to be separated from the relationship? This is true not just for a lover’s relationship, but it also holds true for relationships you have with friends, family, your children, co-workers, etc.

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Law of Supply

Dr Philip C. Agrios — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 04:06:04 +0000

Our minds control our perceptions and choices. It organizes, manages and regulates our body functions. It is the Commander, and controls our directions. In order for our mind to direct, it needs a supply, and a way of communicating that supply in the particular direction.

Since the mind needs a supply of some sort, then we need to talk of the Law of Supply, and this is the spiritual aspect of us. Not the religious, because spirituality is not religion, but a vehicle we may use to experience our spirituality.

Spirituality is interpreted differently, but there is commonality between the religious New Age and secular factions…God, The Universe or the subconscious respectively, there is an unseen energy or force. Within the subconscious mind, which is often referred to as the illogical part, is our unknown or deeper part where our experiences reside. They are experiences that are not seen, but felt. There is ‘One’ word that can describe these three interpretations of the unseen, whether it is spirit, a higher power or experience is ‘Energy’.

These are the functions or characteristics of The Supplier;
Supplier of Energy
Exchange/Transform
Taker/Attractor
Let Go/For Go/Forgive
Feelings
Time

There may not be an agreement on how this perception is supplied, whether it is God, The Universe or the Subconscious, but we unknowingly agree that we are supplied by some type of energy.

The Law of Supply deals with supply, and we need a supplier to distribute or receive the supply. It is an individual’s perception as to whom or what is the supplier. Important is ‘what’ we distribute and receive, and the ‘what’ is Energy. Everything and everyone is made up of energy. We do not create or destroy energy, but transform and exchange it.

One characteristic of the supplier is the ‘taker’, which we use to survive. Another is the ‘attractor’, which allows us to supply ourselves. The opposite of an attractor is a rejecter, but they are one in the same. To reject my supply is to release it to someone who is attracting it. When we release or reject we are attracting at the same time. The opposite of taking is giving, and giving is also the same as rejecting or releasing.

Synonymous words are to let go, to forego, and to forgive. When someone forgives, they are letting go of their feelings. We supply to each other our feelings. They are energy just like anything else. Reading these words I am supplying you with words as an energy, there is a feeling attached to them. It is your choice if or how they will affect you. Another aspect of the supplier is time. Time is energy, which is given to us. Without time, no supply could be given.

Our spiritual entity is our form of Energy. It might be God, Angels, Spirits, a subconscious intuition, feelings or any word that we choose to define as our supplier of energy. There has always been a lot of confusion, debates and battles of who is ‘right’ and who is ‘wrong’, within the discussions of spirituality or the unknown, because it is up to the individual to interpret the unknown or the unseen through his or her perception.

The portion of the brain that allows us to show, recognize and control our feelings is called the Limbic system. The mind is then the director, and directs our body to display our feelings using our muscles. It is the supply of certain chemicals or energies that actually initiate our feelings. This is why I have placed feelings with the spiritual and the emotions with the physical. The law of supply, supplies our feelings fueling our decisions and the physical plays out our feelings through our physical expressions.

There are only three ways to Supply
To Give or Release
To Take or Attract
Not To Take or To Give

We have already discussed the first type of supply, the Give or Release. The second is to take, to be the attractor, and the third type is to not give or take at all and just be dormant.

Energy cannot be seen unless it takes on a physical form that we are able to sense and interpret. Same is true with our spirit or feelings. We are not able to experience these without the physical body and mind. We need these to perceive and express, and this is very much what spirituality is about, therefore our Spiritual entity follows the Law of Supply.

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Law of Attraction

Dr Philip C. Agrios — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 10:20:02 +0000

My Guest is Jonathan Manske , an author, speaker, trainer and consultant. He is an expert on the law of attraction.

He states that everything around you is energy. It just manifests itself in different forms. What is going on in your head will affect the way others look at you because of your attitude and the energy you exude.

Listen to yourself. How often do you talk about your problems and what you want in life? How do you express these thoughts?

If you have problems in your job or life, you have attracted them because of your thoughts that acted as a magnet to draw or attract them to you.

If you are in debt and focus on this problem continually, you will have difficulty changing your focus because you are always thinking about the debt. Having a woe is me mentality will not allow you to break the cycle. This is where the law of attraction comes into play. You attract people with this same mindset.

Feelings are behind the law of attraction. How do you shift from unhappy to happy? Changing our body position will change our attitude. Shift your body position from putting your head in your chest and looking down and dejected to looking up and feeling positive. Focus on your good attitude.

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Law and Order

Dr Philip C. Agrios — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 06:46:40 +0000

What makes up our very being, the essence of who we are? We consist of three entities, the physical, mental and spiritual.

I use the term ‘Entity’ throughout this book. It signifies and encompasses everything in the Universe, a body, a thing, a being, a creature, anything or anyone!

When I use the term ‘Spiritual’, I am not referring to religion. Religion is not your spirituality, but just a vehicle to it.

The ‘Three Entities’, Physical, Mental and Spiritual are all equal. None is more important than the other. They are all equal and none of the three has more power than the other two. These three entities rely upon each other. One can not be affected without influencing the other two, nor can one exist without the other two.

I believe that I have found one law that governs the universe. The universe has a law and order. It governs the universe from fundamental particles, such as atoms to the galaxies. But more importantly, it affects human behavior.

I have always felt that there had to be a set of laws that governed everyone and everything. Since we all consist of the same particles as the stars and the planets, we must be ruled by the same laws.

What I realized is that there is actually only one law. Within this one law there are three simpler laws. These all work simultaneously to create just the one law. Even though these laws have not yet been proven, they are still my concepts and my hypothesis. I have tried to disprove my hypothesis, but I have not been able to.

Thinking about this, you may ask, “Can one law exist by itself”? The answer is No. Something has to make it up. Just like everybody and everything is made up of billions of cells and particles, so is what I call ‘Life’s One Law’.

I have found within this one law, there are three simpler laws;
The Law of Direction
The Law of Supply
The Law of Communication

These three laws, just as with the Entities of Physical, Mental and Spiritual, are all equal. None of the three are more powerful, or able to exist without the other two laws. As these laws work simultaneously, they create ‘One Law’.

I also discovered that within these three laws, there are three laws, within those there are three more, it is a continuous circle. Just as we are made up of billions of cells, within cells, that are within cells. It is a puzzle within a puzzle, within another puzzle. It is continual, a never ending circle. Using these same three pieces or laws over, and over again.

When does it ever stop? My opinion is that it doesn’t. Just as the universe is a closed system, or more simply a circle. The laws are also a continuous circle, continually moving and creating everything and everyone.

Another interesting discovery is that each law governs each of our entities. The ‘Law of Direction’ governs our ‘Mental entity’, the ‘Law of Supply’ our ‘Spiritual entity’, and the ‘Law of Communication’ our ‘Physical entity’.

It will be important to explain each law to you. What will make an explanation so important is that it will help you to understand how to turn your suffering into benefits that you have never been able to imagine before. Look for the explanation of these three Laws in my upcoming blogs.

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Free Self Hypnosis

Dr Philip C. Agrios — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 22:51:54 +0000

People have a subconscious mind that says that no matter what, the relationship they are in is no good. What ever happens in real life, the subconscious will tell you that it won’t work.

You may be reinforcing your thoughts in the conscious state, but the subconscious is overriding you. Hypnosis can help this and relax the subconscious to stop controlling your life.

Once you find out how loving and powerful you are and love yourself, you can enter into a good relationship. You need to quiet the critical and judgmental voice and be open to love.

If you need to change a subconscious thought, it takes 60-90 days of therapy to do so.

If you have a resistance to hypnosis, you need to learn to trust and put your faith in the hypnotist. Many times you may be in a light trance and not realize it. For some people it is easier than others to let go.

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When you are in your natural state, you will do the right thing automatically. You don’t need a cheat sheet for a date.

If you don’t love yourself, you cannot attract other people. The closer we get to someone and the closer we get to loving ourselves, some old problems may show up to be a stumbling block to long-term love.

Dr. Agrios says if you have a non-dominant director, you don’t trust and put up more walls. You don’t trust a person if you can’t let the walls down.

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To create more love in your life write down what you like or dislike in your relationship. What belief are you holding that keeps you in this pattern? Take 5 minutes a day and realize what your blocks are to the relationship, then create remedies to the problems. Be grateful for what you have in your life.

You need to start making a financial investment in your inner self and stop spending a fortune on the exterior.

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Perception is Reality

Dr Philip C. Agrios — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 23:09:36 +0000

I’m going to tell you a story about a couple who wanted more. They were an ordinary couple, at least they thought that they were ordinary, and this is also how others treated them…Ordinary.

Some days, they dreamt of a better life, a different and exciting life. But they would look at each other and their surrounding world and without notice slowly let go of that possibility. They just let it slip into a world I will call the “World of Never”.

The World of Never is not seen by anyone or anything, yet it is all around us waiting to feast upon lost and hopeless dreams. We all have dreams that we conceive, but they vanish into the World of Never before given the chance to materialize.

This couple went along with their daily tasks. They would sometimes visit the Dream Land, and when their disbelief in themselves became too great, they would allow their dreams again to be swallowed up by the World of Never.

This probably sounds all too familiar to you? I will tell you with absolute confidence that there is a simple reason why you are not experiencing your full potential. Why you spend more time in your Dream Land.

Your potential is so powerful that it scares you. You are not unsuccessful because you think you can’t. You are unsuccessful because you think you can and it scares the hell out of you.

Many people feel that they are failures when they do not reach their goals. There are many road blocks in life that come up and delay or alter your goals. Failure is a mindset, it is a perception, and it depends on which direction you are facing.

If you are starting at Point A and walking towards Point B and you are half way there, are you walking towards B or are you walking away from A? It would depend upon your perception and your view.

If you turn around and walk backwards towards B, then B is no longer in view. So your perception or view might be that you are just walking away from A, and not walking towards B.

If you were observing someone else doing this, then in your perception you could choose from three points of view, and you would be correct in choosing any of them;
1)Is the person walking towards B?
2)Away from A?
3)Or walking away from A and towards B at the exact same time no matter what direction he or she is facing?

There is no wrong or right answer. It is your perception and it depends on which part you want to focus on. Like failure or success, it’s the same scenario. What are you focusing on? What is your view point, success or failure? All of us are successful and unsuccessful at the same exact time. It depends on which side we are standing.

We could look at a person with a lot of money and say that they are successful at becoming rich. We could look at another without much money and say that they are successful at being poor.

The Rich person is not only successful at being Rich, but they are just as unsuccessful at being Poor. The Poor person is successful at being Poor and is just as unsuccessful at being Rich, Right? If you have failed at losing weight, you are just as successful at gaining weight.

All of us have been students and most of us knew the kid in school that was the “loser” or the “failure” who would always get 50’s and 60’s on tests. Was he actually a loser, or was he very successful at achieving 50’s and 60’s?

If you were constantly being told that you were a failure or a loser, would the idea of success ever pop into your mind? What if that same student was told that he was a success? Told that he was successful at obtaining 50’s and 60’s, but if he changed his study habits he could be just as successful at obtaining, 70’, 80’s and 90’s?

This student when being told that he is a loser and failure only sees Point B. If told that he is a success he can then change directions, seeing Point A. But, he has to give up his perception of being a failure, in order to achieve his new perception of being a success.

Have you ever started something new, just to have it all go down the toilet? Things were not going well, regardless of what you did? Where did you think you were going to put the new once it came in, if you didn’t have room for it? Out with the Old and in with New!

If you want something, truly want it, what are you willing to give up? You want a new job, but are you willing to give up the comfort of knowing the job you now have to learn something new? Willing to give up your free time partying with your friends to get a better education that is needed for a new job?

The saying, “You can’t get something for nothing”, is true. Also the saying, “You must give to receive”. You just have to decide which direction you want to go. Make a choice on what you are willing to give up, in order to get.

To learn more about the book go to Life’s One Law: Taking the Guesswork Out of Life!

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The Unified Field Theory and Life’s One Law

Dr Philip C. Agrios — Tue, 09 Sep 2008 14:06:50 +0000

The world’s largest particle accelerator complex, the Large Hadron Collider, will explore uncharted areas of the world’s smallest elements Wednesday, September 10, 2008. This accelerator, buried 300 feet near
Geneva, Switzerland, will attempt to circulate a beam around the 17-mile tunnel that will allow two protons to collide with each other.

This will recreate conditions a millionth of a second after the Big Bang occurred which
theorize the beginning of the universe. They hope to answer questions that physicists have had for decades. They are also hoping to confirm or disprove theories that already exist.

For decades physicists have been looking for the unified field theory or in lay terms, The Law of Everything. This law will explain everything about how the universe ticks and how the universe began.

I am writing this blog because I have found this law. I call it - Life’s One Law. Physicists say that there are four fundamental forces in the universe - the electromagnetic force, the strong force, the weak force and gravity. However, what I predict is that they will understand that there are only three primary forces. When these primary forces are split, then 6 secondary forces are created which will contain the four forces previously mentioned. Also gravity really doesn’t exist as they know it today. It is really two forces causing that gravitational affect. The two forces are the magnetic force and the repelling force.

What I have discovered is that this one law has three simple laws within it that work simultaneously
with each other. They are the law of direction, the law of supply and the law of communication. I call them laws because I cannot disprove them and believe them to be so. I challenge any physicist to disprove my theory. I also welcome any physicist to collaborate with me to mathematically prove it.

The law of direction governs two forces - the strong force and electricity. The law of supply governs the magnetic force and the repelling force and the law of communication governs the electromagnetic force and the weak force. I will not go into this in detail at this time.

But I do want to leave you with this thought. While the universe is governed by this one law, there is another
fascinating discovery that I made. Not only is Life’s One Law made up of three simpler laws that work simultaneously with each other but within each of the three laws are the same three laws working simultaneously as well.

It’s a puzzle within a puzzle within a puzzle, using the same three pieces or laws over and over again.

This is why physicists have discovered three generations within the families of quarks and
leptons. They continue to come up with the number three and I can show them how they are all related to the three laws within Life’s One Law.

Life’s One Law is much more complex than what I have written but it is very simple at the same time. For those scientists that may be fascinated in what I have discovered, please contact me at DrA@LifesOneLaw.com.

I will also prove that law also governs our own lives and how by using this simple formula, your own life can change with ease.

Visit me at www.LifesOneLaw.com and allow me to take you through a journey to the discovery of how life really works.

Self Control

Dr Philip C. Agrios — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 23:04:01 +0000

If you are physically stronger than someone else, then you can possibly control them in a physical manner, but you are not able to gain control over their very essence of who he or she is, unless that person willingly gives it to you.

No one makes us happy, angry, sad or depressed. We and we alone are the responsible ones for self control that includes our feelings and emotions. When faced with outside stresses, even though we may think we have no self control over, we still have the choice to allow these to impact us.

An example might be if you are stuck in a traffic jam. Though none of us particularly care for them, we know that they are going to happen. Now we can look at the situation in different ways, and make a choice whether they are stressful or not.

If you are going to miss an important appointment, you may become upset, and view this situation as a negative.

On the other hand perhaps it will make you late for an appointment, with someone you don’t care for. Thus shortening the time you have to spend with that person. This could be viewed as a positive.

Another possibility is to look at it as ‘just is’ situation, making a choice not to allow the situation to really affect you at all. Again, you are the only controller of your own feelings and emotions. You decide which influences will affect you.

Influence is power. To have influence over anybody or anything gives you power over them, but remember you only have control over yourself and no one else unless they give it to you.

We may be able to influence other people, but they make the ultimate decision to follow or not to follow your request. The opposite is also true. They also have the ability to influence and control you.

Interacting with people and things is a continual act of influencing, positioning ourselves in a way that we feel comfortable, safe and secure. When we feel that we do not have control or influence over a situation, we feel that our safety and security has been compromised without our permission. What we often don’t realize is that we DID give permission to that person to control us when we were influenced. Yes, permission! Influencing is getting permission!

Compromising is to give a person permission to influence us, because we may benefit from it. By compromising we give that person a little power. We allow them into our reality. By compromising we are creating new rules specifically for that particular relationship.

Our outcome of a situation will be dependent on how the influence was obtained. There are Three Ways to Influence;

(1)Scare Tactics – Using fear or force
(2)Guilt Tactics – Using shame or blame
(3)Respect Tactics – Using acknowledgement and respect

The first two tactics are most likely what you use most of the time. How can you tell? If you are a business a person, would you treat your customers the same as you do your family? If the answer is no, then you are using the first two.

I was raised in the Catholic faith, and weaned on the first two. My opinion really didn’t matter. My parents were brought up the same way, and it was their perception of good parenting. They did the best they could with the resources that they had available.

As children, did our opinions matter? Were we worth something or anything? I like to say that “Children should be unfolded, not molded”.

Everyone has worth, and it depends on what you think that you are worth. Were you influenced into believing that you are a loser? Told that children should be seen and not heard? What influences in your life do you still believe?

If you still have feelings that your worth is low, then those situations from your past are still playing out today. They are keeping your reality of worthlessness. Your parents that might have treated you badly might be dead, but perhaps you married someone or have a boss that treats you the same way. You keep these people around because it is more painful to be treated with self worth. It is ‘uncomfortable’ to be treated with self worth.

Remember that it is Your world, Your rules, Your reality. You’re the casting director of your own life. You choose the people and the things that are in your life. Your life is ultimately your responsibility, you created it.

By allowing others to control your life, you have relinquished your control and responsibilities. Your life is theirs now. They can do what they choose with it. If you don’t like how others are treating Your Life, then you need to fire them and take back control.

Don’t blame others for ruining your life, you gave them full control. You shouldn’t blame yourself either. It was a great experiment you went through. Learn and grow from it, and then move on.

Blame! What a great tool to use. We don’t have to take responsibility for our own actions. With blame we can focus on someone else’s weaknesses instead of our own.

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