What is success? Success is having a goal and focusing on that goal and not digressing away from the goal. Success is not what you achieve; but rather, it is the journey you go through while trying to achieve the goal. Think about that for a second.

Many times I have tried to push myself to commit myself to a PC exercise regimen. However, after two weeks or so, I get discouraged and stop. Overcoming premature ejaculation is a tough journey. I can definitely vouch for that. The important thing to remember is that you have to remember failure is inevitable and only you have control of what you want in your life. Learn from your failures and continue to be persistent on your journey to success.

TIP: Be realistic and honest to yourself. Overcoming PE takes commitment and time. Have faith in yourself and keep your mind focused on the goal.

Before you start your journey to cure premature ejaculation, you should take a look at the below questions which were derived from the Psychology of Achievement. When answering these questions, make sure you answer them with sincerity. Make sure you completely answer each question in numerical order.

1) What are the 5 things that you value the most in life?

2) In 30 seconds or less. Write down the 3 most important goals in your life (at this moment).

3) What would you do if you won 1 million dollars on the lottery tomorrow?

4) What would you do and how would you spend your time if you only had 6 months to live?

5) What have you always wanted to do in your life but have been afraid to attempt?

6) Looking back in your life. What activity gives you the greatest feeling of importance?

7) What would be your one dream to wish for if you knew you could not fail?

The answers to these questions should provide you with guidance to your life. If any of the answers to these questions involves your premature ejaculation, then you are definitely on the right track. This simply means that you are serious about getting this part of your life handled. For the sake of yourself, make sure you don’t give up and make sure to always keep your eyes focused on your goal.

The following is data that I’ve gathered for the past 5 years that demonstrate possible signs that one is suffering from premature ejaculation.

#1 During your first sexual encounter, your gut tells you that your performance was not normal.
All individuals who suffer from Premature Ejaculation know what I’m talking about here. These individuals all had an intuition that they were not normal down there before we even did our research.

#2 You can have an orgasm (ejaculate) without constant stimulation all the way to the point of no return.
When you have nocturnal ejaculations (wet dreams), is there any friction going on down there? Most sufferers of PE can come with a combination of a small amount of physical stimulation and a powerful visual stimulation. This basically means that your PC Muscle is not strong enough to hold back the ejaculation when you are visually aroused by strong sexual stimuli.

#3 You can get an erection almost instantaneously.
This can be seen in a positive manner; however, it can also be a tragedy as well. This is how I view premature ejaculation. Imagine a sexual performance scale from 1 - 10 (1 being the arousal stage and 10 being the ejaculation stage). An individual who suffers from PE runs through the scale from 1 to 10 a lot more quickly than an average sexual performer. This is why a sufferer of PE can develop an erection much more quickly compared to an average sexual performer.

#4 You have a hard time controlling your ejaculation when your legs are spread apart.
When a person who suffers from premature ejaculation masturbates, he may have a difficult time controlling his ejaculations with his legs spread open (far apart from one another). However, on the contrary, when he masturbates with his legs touching one another, he is able to better control his ejaculations. If you suffer from PE, try this little experiment next time you masturbate.

#5 You drip urine after you have completed urinating.
This one is a bit controversial, for it does not affect all PE sufferers. Some sufferers of Premature Ejaculation have reported that after the completion of urinating, they have a tendency to spill a few more streams (not droplets). Researchers believe the cause of this is due to the fact that these premature ejaculating patients have an extremely weak PC Muscle which causes excess spills. Unscientifically speaking, a weaker PC Muscle is less responsive and clumsier.

Today’s post is based on an actual encounter. Just the other day, I was talking to a close friend of mine about premature ejaculation. It’s always easier to share stories about a touchy subject like this one with your close friends. Well, he told me a very valuable story which I think all our readers at PE Awareness may appreciate. And the story goes as follows…

Steve was dating an attractive woman (by the name of Jenny) for a couple of weeks. On their fourth date, they managed to escalate their relationship to a sexual level. Steve, a sufferer of premature ejaculation, only lasted for 10 seconds before he couldn’t resist ejaculation. Jenny was really disappointed and started to doubt if Steve was good enough to satisfy her sexual wants and desires. Steve continued kissing and caressing Jenny even though his libido was completely gone. Fifteen minutes later, they were at it again. This time, Steve was able to last for 20 seconds. They cuddled and talked afterwards and the night ended like that. Steve managed to keep his cool throughout the whole sexual encounter not ever mentioning or acting out his insecurity of premature ejaculation. Guess what? These two love birds got married 3 months later. As a matter of fact, they are still happily married till this very day!

Why did I want to share this story with you guys? This true encounter clearly demonstrates that your dating life is not over or hindered just because you suffer from premature ejaculation. Women are caring creatures in search for a man who is confident and strong about their own selves. Steve is a worthy respectable person in my book, for he demonstrated his strong attractive masculine self and concealed his weakness.

I am going to get this part of my life handled! I am going to enforce a strict exercise regimen so I can end premature ejaculation once and for all!

I’m going to start off with simple kegel exercises 5 days a week.

No longer will this sexual hangup hold me back from my desires!

What did this awakening strategy reveal for me? Well, we all know that we could all last a lot longer the second time around, right? So this meant that we now could continue having sex with your partner even after the initial orgasm. The only unfortunate thing that I noticed was that I wasn’t as turned on or aroused as before the initial orgasm. Like every good strategy, there is some weaknesses that still need to be solved. I noticed the second time around, I wasn’t realy in the mood to continue having sex with my partner–my libido died down dramatically and I just wasn’t as excited sexually.

A medical article published on May 28, 2009 stated that Premature Ejaculation seems to have a genetic link. Is this a good or bad thing for those who suffer from PE? Let’s dig a little deeper into this subject matter, shall we?

Well, premature ejaculation is still a very touchy subject matter because not only is it an embarrassing disorder, experts still cannot pinpoint the EXACT cause/reason why premature ejaculation occurs. You’ll hear a lot of assumptions from scholarly journals and publications; however, none are factual. Doctors will say it is caused by anxiety, pressure, nervousness, inexperience, and the list continues… The fact is that premature ejaculation may actually be a genetic trait that is passed on from our ancestors.

The gene that correlates with premature ejaculation affects the checmical levels of serotoin produced in our brain. Unbalanced levels of serotonin affect a person’s mood, which in more severe cases, lead to chronic depression. In cases of depressed subjects, doctors prescribe SSRI’s (also known as antidepressants) to their patients to properly balance their patient’s serotonin levels. This is why there are case studies in the past where doctors would prescribe antidepressants to patients suffering from premature ejaculation as a temporary cure. Though the drug is meant for treating depression, it is capable of temporarily delaying ejaculation during sexual intercourse.

Though this may be a way out of premature ejaculation, I personally don’t recommend taking pills to overcome this weakness. Remain focused and train yourself to overcome this weakness!

Did you ever notice that sometimes you can last longer in the mornings compared to in the nights? Well, there is actually an explanation for this phenomenon. Read on and you will see…

A man’s sexual endurance is at its peak when the man is healthy, calm, relaxed, and full of energy. So, when is this even possible? The answer is in the mornings when one is just fully wake up from a good rested sleep. However, the drawback is that we all have things to do when we awaken from our sleep, don’t we? Some of us have jobs to attend, while others have errands to run. So how can we use this to your advantage?

You may improve your sex lives by incorporating this practice into your sexual regimen. Here’s how… First, try having sex in the mornings with your partner. Not only will this be an act of spontaneity (which is never a bad thing), it will also help improve your sexual confidence. Secondly, remember the reasons why you last longer during the mornings. Remember that the key is to be healthy, calm, relaxed, and fully rested.

Try applying this idea to any of your sexual encounters and you may once again enjoy your newfound sexual confidence.

I have good news for all you guys out there who suffer from Premature Ejaculation. You can overcome premature ejaculation by simply investing 15 minutes of your time 3 - 4 times a week. There truly is nothing special to this cure. All it involves is that you perform the exercises to strengthen your PC Muscle.

Here are the steps that you need to take…

Masturbate and notice the different stages of arousal that you encounter before ejaculation. After you are aware of the different stages of arousal you may continue to the exercises. To begin the exercise, you need to first get comfortable and make sure that there will be no interruptions of any sort. When ready, you may begin to masturbate and stop when you reach the 50% arousal stage. Let your erection subside to the 10% arousal state and then continue masturbating again; however, this time stop at the 60% arousal stage. Let your erection subside to the 10% arousal state and then continue masturbating again; however, this time stop at the 70% arousal stage. Let your erection subside to the 10% arousal state and then continue masturbating again; however, this time stop at the 80% arousal stage. Let your erection subside to the 10% arousal state and then continue masturbating again; however, this time stop at the 90% arousal stage (the point of no return). Let your erection subside to the 10% arousal state and then continue masturbating again until ejaculation.

Try to repeat the exercise mentioned above 3 – 4 times a week. Once you are able to masturbate for 15 minutes straight without ejaculation, then you may move on to a more advanced regimen. The advanced regimen includes using the same exercise but with the aid of a lubricant. Try to repeat the exercise mentioned above 3 – 4 times a week. Once you are able to masturbate lubricated for 15 minutes straight without ejaculation, then you are ready to try an even more advance regimen with a partner.

Let your partner do the 15 minute exercise mentioned above for you with her hands. Once you are able to withhold ejaculation for 15 minutes, then you may move on to a more advanced regimen. The advanced regimen includes your partner giving you oral sex. Once you are able to endure 15 minutes of oral sex without ejaculation, then you are ready to move on to actual sex. This is the final stage of the exercise. Try to have sex with your partner while incorporating the 15 minute exercise routine. Once you are able to withhold ejaculation for 15 minutes during sex, you have just become a Champ. Congratulations!

After a month of trying the start-stop method, I have come up with the following conclusions:

- I noticed stronger ejaculations.
This was one of the things that surprised me, for I was unaware of the fact that I had the capability to have such powerful ejaculations.

- I’m more aware of my “point of no return”.
This is beneficial when having sex, for you can pull out of the woman and stimulate her orally while you take a break from sexual stimulation.

- Gains aren’t as dramatic as I imagined.
Don’t expect this technique to solve all your premature ejaculation in one month. I still feel that I do not last long enough in bed.

- Morning wood happened very frequently.
The next morning after a session of the Start-Stop Method exercises, I would awake to an extremely hard erection. This was very suprising to me. I felt sexually healthy and strong.