Don’t do anything at the beginning of a relationship that you’re not willing to do for life.

If you buy her flowers in the beginning – buy her flowers forever.  You had the right idea and it prompted you to do it because you understood it would make her happy.  You’re already golden.  You’ve already figured out one thing that will make her happy.  Add it to your mental list.

If what makes her happy is that you bring her a cup of coffee in the morning – be prepared to do that for life.  If you’re not prepared to do the things you do in the beginning for life; it’s best to not do them at all.

It’s better to have no expectations than failed ones.

A lot of people make the mistake of going all out in the beginning of a relationship to impress the other person.  They peak from the start.  Peaking from the start leaves no room to advance – it only leads to a certain and steady decline/drop.

This is no good.

This causes people to say things like, “They were so wonderful in the beginning.  They don’t do this, that or the other anymore” – and it causes resentment.  It causes self-doubt.  It causes us to look at you in a different light.  It causes us to think that you’ve lost the interest you had in us initially.

Remember that song, “You don’t bring me flowers anymore?” – they were talking about this very thing.

Pace yourself.

And Men, one of the things you need to keep in mind is that if you make the gradual climb over time versus all the grand gestures initially – you will be less burned out on trying to figure out ways to make her notice you and happy.  You’ll be adored for the continuous progression.

Things are suppose to get better over time – not worse.

So make your life better and pick something that you know you’ll be okay with doing for the entire duration of your relationship without resentment.  These are the building blocks of good years to come.