Set your preferences to pleasure ladies, because here we go.

Sex is only as good as the effort you put into it. Now, that may sound mechanical, but hear me out. When you’ve been with someone long enough to know their strengths, weaknesses, fantasies, and pleasure points, it’s pretty easy to make love like a pro. But that can often be the problem.

Think about your favorite singer, painter, or even chef. Do you adore them for doing everything effectively, or for taking chances, opening up, and breaking down your walls? The answer is obvious, and so is my advice. But many of us stop trying new things in bed because we know what works. And there’s no shame in that. If you can drive your partner crazy in 30 seconds flat, you have every reason to get your groove on. But when was the last time you took the long way ‘round?

Try this: Next time you’re getting close and cozy, challenge yourself to find a whole new path to pleasure. Take a detour and kiss, nibble, or graze outside your preferred waypoints. Got a surefire move that always delivers? Tonight, that one’s off limits.

Trying in bed can mean a lot of things, but creativity comes first. Even if it doesn’t beat your all-time best bedroom bets, your partner will feel totally attended to and remember what it was like before you knew everything about one another. This could be as simple as starting with a new kind of kiss, a new position, a new piece of lingerie, or in a new part of your home. No need to throw it all together! But by adding a dash of the unexpected each time you come together, you’ll both get a chemical dose of excitement and adrenaline that can simulate the bliss of the unknown.

And if that sounds exciting, stay tuned! We’ll be interviewing some truly inspiring sexperts for all kinds of ideas on spicing up marriages and long-term relationships. And if you really want to kick things off, I can’t tell you how much I recommend Her Solution supplements. Having used them for a year now, I am astonished at the very noticeable difference they’ve made for my libido.

Go forth and get lucky!

Nicci Frost

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While the technique of “thinking off” hasn’t been clinically studied (awkward!), there are scientific reasons why Breath and Energy Orgasms may work. Clinical psychologist Cindy Meston conducted a study proving that women who hyperventilated before watching erotic films “had significantly higher levels of genital sexual arousal” than women who breathed normally. And plenty of studies demonstrate that the hypofrontality, or low activity in the brain’s frontal cortex, caused by similar breathing releases inhibitions and creates an altered state. In other words, you may feel slightly drunk or dreamy.

Want to try it for yourself?

Here’s how to achieve a Breath and Energy Orgasm.

First, lie fully clothed and comfortably on the ground, spreading limbs to naturally fall at your sides. Next, concentrate on breathing without pausing between inhalations and exhalations—this may feel a bit like hyperventilation. Meanwhile, try rocking hips back and forth on the ground, clenching your kegel or vaginal muscles and releasing them in a pulsing manner. Letting out any moans or sounds naturally can help focus energy. Ultimately, enjoy the combination of body connectivity, moving, clenching, and breathing in a way that feels satisfying. Breathe as deeply as possible and eventually work toward pausing breathing while pushing your body into the floor.

To get the official technique, you’ll have to sign up for classes with creator Barbara Carrellas in Brighton. Otherwise, enjoy taking this technique for a test run!

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Guys find the ease and playfulness of boyshorts sexier than stringy thongs

The difference between right and thong

By far the biggest (and most controversial) response we got was about the littlest thing in your closet. While some men admitted thongs can be sexy and that panty lines aren’t alluring, almost all named other undies as their favorites.

“Put my girl in boy shorts any day. I love the more casual, easy look of underwear that leave something to the imagination,” says finance guru Joseph. Other popular cuts were hipster and bikini briefs, and anything trimmed with just a little lace.

Health bonus: Thongs can carry all kinds of bacteria, as well as create chafing. They may even contribute to urinary tract infections and worsen yeast outbreaks. So save thongs for the outfits that really need them, and rely on something more practical for everyday wear.

Douche proof

Overwhelmingly guys said no to perfumed douches and wipes—in other words, save the flowery fragrance for your neck. What’s always hot is sex that feels wet and natural.

According to web developer Jake, “I love it when a woman gets really wet—it lets me know she likes what I’m doing. Biggest turn-on ever!”

Health bonus: Douches can really irritate your sensitive tissues. If you want to do something special to stay fresh down there, try a lubricant or vaginal tightener that creates moisture without a strong scent. We recommend Invitar or V-Tight Gel.

Creative color lips

Bright pops of mint, lemon, and even black cherry are puckering up lips on runways and sidewalks alike. But before you pop your pout, craftsman Kurt (and 22 others) want you to know their take. “I don’t get the trend at all. The last thing I want to do is a kiss a girl with bright blue lips and end up looking like a Smurf!”

Confidence first: Most of us wear the makeup that makes us feel amazing. If a bold, bright lip makes your confidence pop, rock it anyway!

Do a bold lip for you, just don’t expect him to get it

Baby talk

Talking like a lispy fourth-grader in speech therapy may work for Paris Hilton (or at least it did for as long as she could remain relevant), but sing-song tones and smacking lips can sound really theatrical for the everyday woman. Try letting your bright eyes and sparkling smile show off your undeniable adorability—not some abrasive affectation.

“I want a woman who speaks like a woman,” says CIO Will. “Sure if she gets excited talking to a puppy or a toddler, I get it. It can be cute. But good, adult conversation is the key to desire, if you ask me. Which you did,” he winks.

Tongue-out twerking
A definitive total of zero guys found Miley Cyrus’ barely-clad bump and grind appealing. In fact, almost all found “twerking” or overtly sexual dance moves unnecessary.

“If a woman carries herself well, that’s the only move she needs,” says marketing consultant Micha.

Sous Chef Chris adds, “If we’re talking about dancing, I like a girl who just gives into the music. Even if she looks like a total nerd, I dig a girl who’s just having a blast. More smiling, less thrusting!”

Confidence first: If you’re having fun, the people around you will naturally open up too.

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Mood-boosting drugs help millions of people hold onto their dreams, even in tough times. But for all they do for your mood, they can throw your libido severely off track. In fact, 60% of anti-depressant users reported negative sexual side effects when asked. The most common complaints? Decreased libido, decreased physiological arousal leading to dryness and friction, and decreased sensation inhibiting orgasms and all-around pleasure.

For a lot of us, anti-depressants and mood stabilizers aren’t an option. They’re vital to our daily wellbeing. But a diminished sex life can obliterate confidence, euphoria, and sometimes even our most precious relationships. Here, we compile the best professional suggestions for staying stable yet satisfied on meds.

1. Explore new meds or alternative treatment
Be up front with your doctor about the libido loss. This may seem embarrassing, but doctors hear it all the time and are happy to help. Satisfying sex may not be your number one priority (nothing trumps safety and stability), but mood and confidence go a long way in fighting depression. A healthy love life is a major ingredient to overall wellness, so consider antidepressants with lower incidence of sexual side effects like bupropion, nefazodone, or mirtazapine.

2. Consider a supervised “drug holiday”
If you like the meds you’re on, you may be able to lower the dose or even take a little vacation from it. Again, it’s imperative to work with your doctor here, but studies suggest giving your system a break from antidepressants can help stimulate libido.

3. Embrace a makeover
Looking sexy and feeling sexy not only lifts libido, but also turns others on to our sensual sides. Both men and women overwhelmingly agree that a new hairstyle, a tightened physique, or even a new outfit can spark even the dullest flame.

4. Augment medication with sildenafil
Sildenafil, often called Viagra, can do wonders for sexual arousal but won’t improve ability to achieve orgasm. And, like any prescribed medication, it comes with its own set of side effects.

5. Consider all-natural libido support
Holistic, natural treatment is the best way to reduce all three major sexual symptoms associated with antidepressants. Look for ingredients that stimulate blood flow, lubricate, and relieve stress, like niacin, cayenne, DHEA, L-Arginine, horny goat weed, or maca root. The best formulas address the physiological, the psychological, and the emotional issues that inhibit sex drive in antidepressant users. All-natural Lyriana and Her Solution are both highly effective treatments for patients experiencing bipolar, depression, or anxiety.

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Somers loves natural solutions for real rejuvenation.

Somers is a huge advocate of HGH releasers. (Our favorite is GenF20, which comes packed with nutrients, peptides, and amino acids to help you get the most out of safe, reasonable doses.) She says it makes her look and feel vital and vibrant, citing decades of clinical research, personal results, and the advice of many prominent doctors like Ron Rothenberg MD, an authority on anti-aging.

According to Dr. Rothenberg, “Growth Hormone is one of the most studied compounds in medicine. When growth hormone deficiency is present, growth hormone replacement therapy has widespread health benefits on quality of life, body composition, cognitive function, cardiovascular outcomes, bone density and exercise capacity.”

Unlike extreme HGH injections, supplements like GenF20 stimulate the pituitary gland to release your body’s own vitality. And while many A-listers like to deny any help when it comes to looking ageless, the jury is in on these famous faces who openly or allegedly benefit from HGH releasers.

Kim Cattrall: Though she’s much more demure and soft-spoken than her Sex and the City counterpart, Kim Cattrall is no fading star. “I’ve been playing sexually aware women most of my life. At this point I expected to be playing moms and wives.” She’s huge on personal confidence and growing up without growing old.

Mary J. Blige: CNN reported this diva was actually using HGH injections, but we hope she’s taking the safe and natural path with holistic anti-aging supplements like GenF20. The courageous crooner admits, “My breakthrough came when I stopped feeling sorry for myself and took responsibility for every part of my life. No more pity parties. I’ve gotta love me more than anybody else loves me.”

50 Cent: Major networks have often reported that 50 Cent is one of many cut and cutting-edge artists to use HGH products. We dare you to find an ounce of fat on this hardcore hip-hopper. Fiddy is a firm believer in making each day count, proclaiming, “I’m a track star running through life, chasing my dream.”

Heidi Klum: The total gold standard for women who have babies, careers, and bangin’ bods to boot, Heidi Klum looks for natural ways to mature with confidence and grace. “You have to think about your whole body when you think about aging,” says Klum, who’s busy keeping things steamy with her hot young bodyguard boyfriend. We especially love that this super model won’t skimp on snacks!

There are plenty of options for fighting age with HGH releasers. Click here to get the facts on our favorite “fountain of youth” supplements.

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I try to keep you informed and excited about ways to lift your libido, but as we all know, it takes two to tango. Without a sexy partner, what’s the point in getting all riled up in the first place? So, in the spirit of seeking great passion, I’m introducing a new column I think you’ll love: Take it or leave it. Here, I rip bad advice from popular magazines and break down a better solution.

Today’s alarming tidbit is from the pages of Cosmo. They advise:

Walk down the street thinking, “I am sexy, and any guy would be lucky to talk to me.” Trust us, it makes a difference in how you act.

Well, they’ve got one thing right; confidence is key. But sticking your nose to the sky and robotically strutting like an impenetrable automaton? Would you be attracted to a man acting the same way? Because I’d probably call him a tool under my breath and keep moving.

There’s a line between confidence and untouchable arrogance and, while Cosmo might see it as a fine one, I disagree. There is a thick, permanent, and inky line bisecting healthy self-esteem and infuriating ego. And even if you need a boost of self-appreciation, an inflated ego is just as visible and vulnerable as a big red Mylar balloon. It will either pop and fall or float away beyond anyone’s grasp.

Telling yourself that anyone would be lucky to talk to you evokes snobbish entitlement, which can seep into your demeanor subconsciously. Without realizing it, your mantra may be turning off everyone you meet. So how can you build real confidence without going full-on snob? Try walking around with headphones blasting any song that makes you feel like you’re on a catwalk. You’ll feel the music wash over you, uplifting your natural energy and sex appeal. Plus, a good soundtrack makes life feel more like a movie, so you’ll be open to new people and new experiences as part of the adventure.

Ciao bellas!
Nicci Frost
Resident Sexpert

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Or maybe hoses and fire extinguishers are a bit too soft for you. In that case there’s always handcuffs and sexy black duty vests.

Either way, we’ve picked out 10 of the hottest couples costumes for the 2013 Valentines holiday, and at least one of them is sure to suit your fancy. Take a look below.

Sometimes all you need in the bedroom is a bit of humor, and what better way to liven things up than to dress up in a costume?

Give it a try this year. You can thank us later.

Costume images used with permission from http://www.couplescostumes.com

Top 10 Valentines Costume Ideas

Sexy Fire Babe & Fireman

Sexy Swat Team Couple

Strip Search Officers

Sexy Top Gun Couple

Rugged Tarzan and Jane

Superman & SuperGirl In Action!

Sailor Couple

Operation Game Costumes – Don’t touch me there!

Sexy Scottish Costume

Dark Vampire Vixen & Vampire

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Let’s do brunch

Brunch with your honey is not only a reason to get dolled up in the morning, but it’s also a chance to load up on aphrodisiacs like eggs, cinnamon, and chocolate. Buttery pain au chocolat or cinnamon buns are a sweet choice and the fast-burning sugar helps energy spike. Pair it with a bubbly mimosa and you’ll both be feeling light-headed and lovey-dovey by noon. Suggest going home for a nap or cuddle time and see what happens (just avoid overeating, which can send your body into food coma instead).

Text like a teenager

Many modern couples keep in touch with texts and e-mails, but more often than not the messages serve a pretty bland purpose. Apart from reminding your partner to pick up milk, why not use texts to remind him of your passion? If you know he’s got a slow day at the office, try texting something a little naughty. If he takes the bait, why not suggest he meet you at home (or even a hotel if you’re feeling adventurous) for a “long lunch.” This spontaneous midday tryst may reignite primal urges you haven’t felt in years.

Make it a date

While it might not always be easy to put your day on hold for romance, use your afternoon libido boost to initiate a date. Call or text your guy with a little preview of things to come. Whether you choose to be demure or straight to the point, give him some hint of what you’d like to do tonight. For example, “You seem so stressed lately. Tonight when you get home why don’t you let me loosen you up?”

Go get him girls!

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A study conducted by authors Deborah Roedder John and Ji Kyung Park, from the University of Minnesota, concluded that brands and bags with extra flair can actually affect consumer behavior. They report, “Using brands with appealing personalities can rub off on the way consumers see themselves, even if the brand is used for only a short time.” And which brand comes with the most sex appeal? Slinky pink Victoria’s Secret, of course!

It seems that just carrying the iconic pink striped shopping tote makes women feel sexier and more glamorous, which can provide a big boost to libido. Out of 85 women surveyed at a shopping mall, many admitted that a Victoria’s Secret bag was enough to make them feel confident and even a little naughty. Some even indicated that simply reusing the bag for grocery shopping or sack lunches was exciting in its own right.

As women, the lingerie we buy, from a cute new pair of boy shorts to a lacy bustier, is our little secret. Any woman you know will admit that special underwear or pajamas make us feel feminine, even if nobody else ever sees them. Perhaps strutting the mall with a flashy fuchsia shopping bag says, “I’ve got a sexy side, but I decide who sees it.”

So why not grab some girlfriends and stock up on some sexy essentials? Then hit the food court for a grande latte and a little adrenaline rush. Because for some of us, it seems confidence is in the bag.

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Video Transcribed

Hi, how are you?

I wonder if Kate Middleton has been taking Breast Actives the last month, getting ready for the wedding.

So, I’m feeling pretty good about the boobies, not gonna lie to you. Actually somebody said to me, wow, your boobs look huge! Funny, huh? How bazar, I don’t understand how it works though. I don’t understand a lot of things and how they work. What else don’t I understand how it works?

Space shuttles … I should learn more about that. I’m going off on a tangent.

You know, it’s not like having surgery or something, that’s a no-no. I know sometimes people think they just want to be bigger and better, but I don’t think that’s necessary. Just think of that Heidi chick who went overboard, and it was kind of sad.

So, I’ve been really happy with it. Sorry for doing this in my bedroom tonight. It’s just something new, and exciting. So I’ve been really happy. Things seem to be going great.

I did miss a couple pills here and there, but honestly, lets get the profile. I love my boobs, thank you very much for asking. It seems to be doing okay, and see I’m wearing a lower cut top. Oops, did you see that? See, I wouldn’t have done that four weeks ago, now would I?

I’m going to say ciao for now.

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