The previous 30 days have been very eye-opening, inspirational and challenging. It’s not easy to come up with a blog every single day. It has taken a lot of energy. You know that I am creating 3 books, a 21-part newsletters and a Body Image Revolution course and blogging every single day next to having these responsibilities was a challenge. But it has shown me that one can go far beyond one’s perceived limitations.

But I learned a lot about myself and even more important, I learned a lot about YOU. I am so grateful that you have been so kind in sharing whatever you thought about a certain topic. You can still go back to the previous 30 posts and still share what you think about them. The more comments the better.

This blogging challenge has shown me once more how much I love what I am doing and how much I love you. You inspire me, you keep me going, you are helping me and you are simply incredibly strong and real fighters.

In the last 30 days I opened my eyes to many new areas that have to do with eating disorders. I developed even more strategies to teach you to love yourself and fight even harder for you. I wrote about extremely inspiring, interesting and important topics, some of them I would not have come up with on my own. I surprised myself often in thinking completely differently and come up with ideas for a topic that I never thought I would.

It was great to have this community of bloggers who are participated in this challenge and in this important revolution. The most interesting discovery was that everybody always came up with a different view, unique ideas and suggestions.

If there was one thing I would like you to take away from this challenge, then it is this: Change happens every single day. It can happen to you too. Never give up hope and always keep on fighting!

The moment you lose hope, your chances of recovery reduce drastically. Don’t let this happen. Make a promise to yourself today!

The previous days have been especially rewarding for me, but I would like to hear from you what this daily blogging has done for you.

Was it annoying? Helpful? Inspiring? Overwhelming?

Reflections is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

 I recorded the video above in November 2011, so exactly half a year ago. As you saw, it says that someday I will love me for the way I am.

Since I recorded this video, I have made tremendous progress towards loving myself and looking in the mirror seeing a beautiful women. I don’t want to sound cocky, but that is what I am. That is what every women and every guy is. It has been an incredible journey since that moment. I encourage you to write down dreams and prepare a list of someday you will do this or that.

I haven’t seen the film yet, but I hope to get a chance to do that very soon. If you have the chance, if you live in the US, then don’t miss this opportunity and watch the Someday Melissa film. I am sure it is extremely inspiring and moving.

I still have a few things that I would like to do someday, so I am going to write them down here, even though I am far down the road of recovery. But still, we all have wishes beyond recovery, don’t we?

Someday I…

will have children.

will teach my children what it is like to love themselves and to feel beautiful no matter your shape or size.

will be a good cook.

will have a very successful business.

will make sure that my Body Image Revolution will reach women all around the world.

will do my best to help every single woman love her body.

will work hard to make the media will stop hating on women.

will publish a physical book.

will see my eating disorder as just another chapter of my life.

will be completely free.

Have you ever created a list like this?

Would you like to share with us what your list of dreams, wishes, hopes and possible actions for the future are? I am a curious person and would LOOOOOVE to read your comments!

Someday I… is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

I had a hard time deciding which song to choose for this post. I was going back and forth between Destiny’s Child’s “Survivor” or Lady Gaga’s “Born This Way”. Both are songs that I relate a lot to and have helped me find perspective, strength, courage and a myriad of inspiration.

But I ended up choosing “Survivor” as my song since that is what I am, what WE all are. The lyrics describe the freedom of having gotten away from the horrible prison that Ed put me in and how I am laughing him in the face, showing him that he is nothing but a little sucker who has no power over me whatsoever. I hope it inspires you and if you want to feel really, really, REALLY empowered listen to this song every morning to get into the right fighting mood.

The lyrics with my commentary!

Now that you’re out of my life
I’m so much better (oh yes I am, you tiny little bastard!)
You thought that I’d be weak without you 
But I’m stronger (HAHA)

You thought that I’d be broke without you
But I’m richer (the amount of  money I gave up because of YOU for ruining my body can’t even be counted. But that’s OVER)
You thought that I’d be sad without you
I laugh harder (oh, how often and LOUD I laugh)

You thought I wouldn’t grow without you (You held me back, a**hole)
Now I’m wiser (infinitely more wise!)
Though that I’d be helpless without you (You are helpless, which is why you destroy lives! Coward!)
But I’m smarter  (whereas you are the one standing there completely out of your wits)

You thought that I’d be stressed without you 
But I’m chillin’ (who’s stressed now??? haha)
You thought I wouldn’t sell without you
Sold 9 million

I’m a survivor
I’m not goin’ give up 
I’m not goin’ stop 
I’m goin’ work harder 

I’m a survivor 
I’m goin’na make it
I will survive
Keep on survivin’ 

Thought I couldn’t breathe without you
I’m inhaling (deeper than EVER before)
You thought I couldn’t see without you
Perfect vision (How great the world looks without you altering my view!)

You thought I couldn’t last without you
But I’m lastin’
You thought that I would die without you (LIER!!!)
But I’m livin’ (and how much more fulfilled, happy and fully)

Thought that I would fail without you
But I’m on top (Prospered without you more than ever before! Take that!)
Thought it would be over by now
But it won’t stop (I am just BEGINNING!!!!)

Thought that I would self destruct (NO WAY, YOU are the one who is self-destructing)
But I’m still here (You aren’t, haha!!!)
Even in my years to come
I’m still goin’ be here

I’m wishin’ you the best (No, absolutely not!)
Pray that you are blessed (Nope!)
Bring much success, no stress, and lots of happiness (The opposite is what I wish for you)

I’m not goin’ blast you on the radio (but I’ll do it on the internet!)
(I’m better than that) (no, not when it comes to you!)
I’m not goin’ lie on you and your family (because you have none. awww)
(I’m better than that)

I’m not goin’ hate on you in the magazines (Yes, I will!)
I’m not goin’ compromise my Christianity (I don’t really have one)

You know I’m not goin’ diss you on the internet
‘Cause my mama taught me better than that (No, she taught me to fight you will all of my power!)

After of all of the darkness and sadness
Soon comes happiness (YES! VERY SOON! DON’T LOSE HOPE)
If I surround my self with positive things (lots of them)
I’ll gain prosperity (and HEALTH)

You’re a survivor 
You’re not goin’ give up 
You’re not goin’ stop 
You’re goin’ work harder 

You’re a survivor
I’m goin’ make it 
You will survive 
Keep on survivin’

Recovery: This Is My Song is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

There remains, still, an almost glamourized myth surrounding eating disorders. Write a
bracing reality check based on your experiences of eating disorders. Consider how it felt to
suffer and the things your eating disorder cost you, as well as the damage it left you with,
how hard recovery was etc.

050 Fighting Anorexia – Reality Check! is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In this episode of Fighting Anorexia, we make a reality check and talk about the glamour factor that anorexia still possesses, but also about all the people known worldwide and how they dealt with the sheer unachievable standards of beauty the media portrays: with falling into an eating disorder.

Celebrities with eating disorders. 

If you would like to leave me some feedback, you can mail it to feedback@fightinganorexia.com

You can follow me on twitter: @anneso87

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050 Fighting Anorexia – Reality Check is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

I can’t believe that I graduated after all.

I can’t believe that I’ve lived in the US twice.

I can’t believe I survived my childhood.

I can’t believe I (almost) beat anorexia.

I can’t believe I can eat a Snickers bar or two without feeling like I have to kill myself.

I can’t believe that I founded my own company with blogs, podcasts and my own products.

And most of all, I can’t believe that I have so many loving, kind, compassionate and strong listeners and readers who so graciously walk this way with me as they are walking their own difficult path.

Struggling to regain control over your life is hard (which is even an understatement). It often feels overwhelming and seemingly undoable, which is why we never try in the first place, right?

Yet, you can develop coping skills. You can learn to live with a belly that isn’t screaming for nutrition. You can still love yourself even if you don’t walk around almost fainting because you’re so malnourished.

A year ago exactly, I had to leave my treatment program for anorexia because I hadn’t gained enough weight in 4 weeks. I was devastated, of course, and they relocated to a new ward. I was suicidal and at a very low point. I felt like I could never go on and live again. In fact, I didn’t want to make changes anymore, it was all too much for me.

But then I reminded myself of my goals and I started to fight again.

When I looked back now at those weeks, I shudder with agony for the girl I was and what I went through. BUT it was ALL  worth it.

Why? Because today I am alive. I am healthy. I am happy. I love fully. I give graciously and I full of purpose.

And I am surrounded by YOU.

I can’t believe I am at the point I am at, but I have earned my every step towards this place.

AND YOU CAN TOO.

Is there something you’d like to share that you didn’t believe you could do?
Inspire us with your accomplishments! 

I Can’t Believe That I… is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

For those of you who know me, the book that I am going to review is quite obvious. You know, or most of you do, that Portia de Rossi‘s book “Unbearable Lightness” has been the catalyst in helping me to realize that there is something very wrong with me and I need help and can even get it. I am not alone. Somebody shared the similar experiences as I am still experiencing and she got out of it even though it was a difficult struggle. But now she is free.

Portia explains her story very candid, very open. If you are easily triggered, you may not want to read “Unbearable Lightness” until you are really ready for recovery. If you are serious about recovery though, I recommend you reading this book because Portia shares not only what she went through and how draining her time with her eating disorder was.

But she also goes into the details of how terrible it was to keep her struggle a secret at the same time as being on a TV show, which required to have to fit into certain sizes (and we all know how unrealistic those are). She describes very well how strangling the pressure was.

Portia’s vivid portrayal of the erratic behavior we often have when we think we ate one calorie too many or we think we let ourselves go is incredible and so relatable that you almost feel you’re with her while it is going on.

Portia doesn’t gloss over the medical effects her behavior had on her body. For her, nothing too serious happened, but not everybody is exactly that lucky as we all know.

For me reading Unbearable Lightness was a wake-up call and it was the starting point of a long story to health. I read this book in one take.

I bawled throughout the entire experience of taking Portia’s struggle in. I’ve read it many times since because I just can relate to how so many things like how she gets up in the morning and the first thing she does is calculating how much she ate yesterday and figures out whether she has to punish herself today.

Also, her portrayal of her obsessive workouts super early in the morning, during lunch breaks and all of these insane behaviors we have when we are controlled by an eating disorder.

It is an incredible book with a very hopeful message at the end. I wouldn’t have gotten help, wouldn’t have believed that recovery is possible had I not read her book and I’ll be forever grateful to Portia for having written it.

Unbearable Lightness: ED Sufferer Book Review is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Sometimes pictures express more than a thousand words, which is why I chose to simply show you what helped me through the dark days of recovery.

How about you? Which tips and tricks do you have for us?

Recovery Toolbox is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Having a conversation with the parents of someone who is struggling with an eating disorder can be very challenging and delicate. I had to learn that from first-hand experience.

Why can’t you just stop?

Why is recovery taking so long?

Look at this friend of yours and how confident she is in her body and how full of joie de vivre she is. Why can’t you be like this?

Just eat already?

Why are you not yet performing on a level like healthy people?

Why are you doing this to yourself?

Can’t you see what you’re doing to us? 

Sentences like this are very common among parents or relatives because they just don’t understand. And how could they, right? They’re extremely privileged not to live in this cage we our locked in. It is completely understandable that they are frustrated, worried and maybe even a bit annoyed.

This is why the dialogue between families is so crucial. Having their support often makes a huge difference in recovery and the way towards a stable, healthy life.

The one thing that I would like to tell all parents is to not pressure their children too much. Of course, there has to be a certain level of challenging your child, but it should always be done in a very loving way. Tell them why you’d like them to eat and why you don’t intend to make them fat (which is what we often think!). Tell them you fear for their health and life and can’t stand the thought of losing them.

Don’t tell them that they are so skinny that they’re hardly noticeable anymore as this reinforces the eating disordered thoughts and produces a feeling of pride and accomplishment.

And my most important advice is to connect with your children beyond the constant subject of food, eating, weight, etc. Notice them as a person, ask them about their likes and dislikes. Start a dialogue and just show them how much you love them. The omnipresent subject of recovery causes so much stress and resistance inside that conversing about something completely different is a huge relief and much needed break from all the pressure!

Tell me, what would you like your parents said to you or acted like?

Parent Conference is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

“If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love others. You will not be able to love others. If you have no compassion for yourself then you are not able of developing compassion for others.” – Dalai Lama

I value this quote because despite what we are taught, believe and even think we’re doing, we won’t understand the full capacity of loving and feeling for others if we don’t first love ourselves.

We have to cultivate self-love, not only because that way we can cherish others more deeply, but also because it is an invaluable part of recovery.

You will never fully recover if you hold on to your self-hatred and feelings of worthlessness. In order to let go of your anorexia you need to go on a deep journey of discovering your true self. Consider what you like, what you dislike, what you value, what you dream of, how you view politics, religion and other aspects of the world. The best way to do this important self-reflection is by either coaching or journaling.

Compassion is another aspect we so often lack not only in recovery but also when we’re still very sick. Be kind to yourself. Remind yourself that you’re not choosing this fate and that relapses and bad days happen to everyone. Be patient, even if this is the last thing in the world you want to be.

The more you get to know yourself the more you’ll understand your eating disorder, your moods, your feelings, reactions and decisions. The more you will feel compassion for your emotions, the easier it will get to accept them just as they are.

The love that results from you falling intimately in love with yourself and developing a deep sense of kindness will fill your world and those of your loved ones with abundance, joy and peace of mind. It won’t happen over night and the world will not be one full of bliss, but everything will get easier because you’ll act out of a deep sense of confidence, respect and, well, love.

Choose A Quote That Means Something to You is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

When I went into recovery, I thought I WAS my eating disorder. I thought that my identity was tied to my horrible illness. And yet, over time I learned that I was NOTHING like that beast that tortured me for such a long time.
However, at the beginning it is almost impossible to differentiate between yourself and Ed and it is extremely frustrating not to be able to fathom who is who. But it is not completely impossible, it just takes a bit of soul-searching, which is what we’re going to do today.

It is extremely important to find out who YOU are in order to let your eating disorder go. The stronger your sense of self becomes, the more confident you’ll be and the more strength and reason you’ll have to fight!

Take some time for yourself today and answer these questions. You’ll feel amazing afterwards and Ed will have no chance to take away your skills, talents, knowledge and awesome character traits away from you!!!

Keep YOU and Kick ED is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In this episode of Fighting Anorexia, I talk about 5 people who were huge blessings in my life and played an important part in my recovery.

1. My husband who showed me that there is something to live for.

2. My sister who has been there from the beginning with a lot of patience, love and inspiration.

3. My mother who has never given up on me.

4. My caregiver at the treatment facility who took me under her wings and had a myriad of patience and acceptance for me.

5. My current therapist who is responsible for me being able to make such great progress and helps me come to terms with and make sense of my emotions.

If you would like to leave me some feedback, you can mail it to feedback@fightinganorexia.com

You can follow me on twitter: @anneso87

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049 Fighting Anorexia – Healers With Heart is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Silence. There are two sides to this loaded word.

Of course, there are times when silence is extremely beneficial and opens your mind to new ways of thinking and your eyes to new discovering to make. I am in love with my daily 10-minutes of meditation. It feels like the world is at my feet and I the day so full of opportunities that I often wish it had more than 24 hours.

However, then there is the destructive, sometimes deadly side of silence. When you have an eating disorder or any other mental illness, you feel a deep sense of shame and often hide your problems, struggles and heartaches for way too long.

You often pretend that everything is fine and it looks worse than it is, but deep inside you’re dying.

It’s important to speak up, to confide in someone, anyone you feel close to. There is nothing shameful about having an illness. There is nothing weak about seeking help. In fact, it’s a great sign of strength and a step in the right direction when you can be honest with yourself and others.

Breaking the silence is essential for recovery and to heal inside. The feeling of relief and freedom that washes over you when you’ve finally spoken the words out loud is like a refreshing glass of ice-cold water after having been deprived of liquid for days.

That’s why I am such a proponent of therapy or other support systems. You have to have an outlet. You have to speak the words.

Silence in matters of threat, illness or any other problems is destructive and often the one thing that stands in the way of finding a solution.

What have you been silent about? What were the consequences because of it?

The Sound of Silence is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

There was a young girl scared to live,

Who thought the world nothing worth to give. 

She awoke one day and saw

The beauty of life in awe. 

That’s when she started to forgive.

This was a fun little creative exercise. I’d love for you to create your own limerick and if you’re brave enough to post it here. Limericks work as follows:

Limericks consist of five anapaestic lines.
Lines 1, 2, and 5 of Limericks have seven to ten syllables and rhyme with one another.
Lines 3 and 4 of Limericks have five to seven syllables and also rhyme with each other.

Get creative, my friends!

Love Life Limerick is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

I see her getting smaller and smaller. I see her eyes losing all the hope she ones had. I see her mood deteriored.

She beating herself up over having a C in a stupid test. She’s studying like an obsessed person starting while eating breakfast. She doesn’t take breaks, doesn’t eat properly, doesn’t care.

Where is my sister? I am scared. What can I do? I feel helpless.

I’ve tried, haven’t I? I’ve offered her support. I’ve created relaxation practices for her, tried to give her a perspective on her talents, gifts and future life, but she doesn’t listen. Or can’t she?

The years go by and nothing, not a single thing has changed.

Now she’s lying in bed 24/7 while I am going to school. She frustrates me. That has been going on for too long. Too many years of suffering. I want my sister back, the one who dance with me, who was silly with me, laughed with me and didn’t have that tortured look in her eyes. I wish I could force her out of bed and confront her with reality.

She doesn’t care about me, only looks after herself. I need her too. I need my older sister more than ever now. I wish I could make my brother go away in order to make everything good at least once in our lives. I wish I could show her how beautiful she is on the inside and that her body size does not matter at all.

I wish she would grow more confident and become the girl she used to be.

I visited her in college last week and what I saw shook me to the care. I couldn’t help but exclaim at her skeleton-like frame. I tried to talk her into going to a treatment facility. Taking a few months for herself would be life-saving for her, but she’s still not waking up, keeps telling us everything is just fine.

Will she die? What will happen in the future? Will she ever be there for me the way I am trying to be there for her? I am scared and lonely and disappointed at the same time and yet I need to live my own life, go my own way and that’s what I’ll do.

Her visit here in Cameroon was something I had looked forward to for such a long time. I wanted to show her not only my boyfriend, but also where I’ve been living for the past months. Sure, we had fun, but she looks more emaciated than ever before. I had hoped her marriage would change things, but it seems that it’s only gotten worse. I got so frustrated with her when once again all she ate was a bit of vegetables while I wanted to share a pizza with her. Why does this stupid, disgusting eating disorder ruin everything?

Why doesn’t she finally change?

I’ve seen her for the first time since she went into treatment. She doesn’t really look much different, but I am elated that she has finally seen how sick she has been for 14 years. I wish her eating disorder hadn’t ruined her youth, but at least she’s getting help now.

It’s amazing how far she’s come in only a year. Our brunch last week was so much fun and she ate just like my mom and I. I am so glad that this episode is at least much more resolved than ever before and I know that she will never go back. I can see it in her eyes. I have my sister back and what more can I ask for?

It shows that it’s never too late to fight back and that there is always hope.

Changing Places is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Life with an eating disorder is frustrating, hopeless, irritating and full of fear. I never felt optimistic about anything. School scared the heck out of me. Graduation seemed terrifying. Youth was there for adults to humiliate you. Life seemed to be about suffering, worries and constant sadness.

That was my attitude. Those were the effects of what anorexia told me and made me see.

Now I am living each day with an excitement that I had never experienced before. I am up before dawn and work on projects that I am extremely passionate about (an empowering email Newsletter, a book called “Diet for the recovering anorexic”, a Body Image Revolution Class, a book about the benefits of social media on recovery and my lessons of one year of recovery). I can hardly keep up with myself, but I now know that life is incredible. It’s fun. It’s full of possibilities, opportunities and everybody has the power to make a dent in the universe if only we fight hard enough.

Whatever it is your eating disorder is telling you about life. However depressed you feel. Make a leap of faith and just image what life could really look like.

So, here is my question for you tonight:

Think about what you feel pessimistic about, frustrated about or are struggling with, either
now or at some point in the past. What were/are those issues? What stops/stopped you
from making changes? What do you need/ did you need to confront those issues? Can you

make plans to take steps to change? If you have done this, were you able to make
changes? What challenges can you set yourself for the future? (Remember to make them
realistic and achievable!)

I’d love to hear your comments and thoughts (I may even turn them into either a podcast, blog post or a video one day!).

Attitude Makeover is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

You cannot BE FAT.

Fat is a substance and you can’t ever be a substance!

Whenever you feel fat, ask yourself what you are really feeling in this moment.

Scared? Tired? Frustrated? Jealous? Lonely? Anxious? Depressed? Tired?

What is the root cause of your feeling?

I always felt inadequate, lonely, depressed and simply not enough and all of that translated into feeling obnoxiously fat. However, now that I’ve learned that those were just interpretations of the mind, it is so much easier to cope with whatever it is that I am really feeling.

Your body and mind is telling you something when you’re feeling fat. Take a moment for yourself, breathe and figure out what is really going on and if you can be proactive about it and change your situation and emotions.

Have you figured out what you are really feeling when the thought enteres your mind that you are truly really fat? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Fat is NOT a feeling… is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

I tried to write this post over and over again, but I always reverted back to one of my all-time favorite songs of Pink.

I have been a fan of her since her very first song, have seen her in concert (which was on of the best concerts I’ve ever had the pleasure to see and I’ve been to uncountable ones) and am in awe of her voice and work.

Pink has carried me through many dark, dark years and I could always relate to her music because her family issues, her struggles, her lyrics hit so close to home.

Her songs remain the most played songs ever in my playlist and I don’t think this will ever change. I must have listened to “Conversations with my 13 Year Old Self” thousands of times sobbing uncontrollably.

Since I am not as genius with words as Pink is, I am just going to post the lyrics, with the disclaimer that reading them rips my heart out because it feels like I was the one putting all of that on page.

You’re angry
I know this
The world couldn’t care less
You’re lonely
I feel this
And you wish you were the best
No teachers
Or guidance
And you always walk alone
You’re crying
At night when
Nobody else is home

Come over here and let me hold your hand and hug you darling
I promise you that it won’t always feel this bad
There are so many things I want to say to you
You’re the girl I used to be
You little heartbroken thirteen year old me

You’re laughing
But you’re hiding
God I know that trick too well
You forget
That I’ve been you
And now I’m just the shell
I promise
I love you and
Everything will work out fine
Don’t try to
Grow up yet
Oh just give it some time

The pain you feel is real you’re not asleep but it’s a nightmare
But you can wake up anytime
Oh don’t lose your passion or the fighter that’s inside of you
You’re the girl I used to be
The pissed off complicated thirteen year old me

Until we meet again
I wish you well
Little girl

It’s not like I was a rebellious kid or my parents were always absent, but I feel the pain of fighting all alone, without hope, pretending you’re fine when you are anything but that.

I so wish I could have reached out to my little me and given her the love, encouragement, hope and SAFETY she so desperately needed.

I wish I could have held her, comforted her and told her that one day, she’ll have am incredible husband, the love of my life obviously, TRUE friends and a purpose in life.

I wish I could have told her to not give up on herself and keep going strong because the future would be full of love, laughter, excitement and a community of people who love her for who she is.

I wish I could have told her that she is changing people’s lives in the small way she can, but that her life will not go by completely unnoticed.

I wish I could have told her that soon, I’d have soul-mates like Winnie, Maggie, who are so similar to how I think and share the same interests.

I wish I could have told her that through Lost, I’d make friends all around the world who have gone on more than one adventure with me and who will forever my near and dear to my heart. The list of names would be too long to mention here, but you know who you are!

I wish I could have told her that through blogging I’d get to know incredible souls like Bernando Medez or Farnoosh Brock (who I share sometimes spookily many similarities with…).

That’s what I’d have written in a letter to my little me.  But I can’t compete with Pink, which is why her words are far more powerful than my own.

A Letter to Little Me is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In this episode of Fighting Anorexia, I talk about Crimes against Clients. I share my personal experience and those of my listeners and readers.

I go into the following points:

• Weight

  There are many patients who experience not being helped because they are not underweight. People can starve themselves even if they are not underweight. It doesn’t mean that those who are underweight are more sick than those who are not. Everybody who eats disorder is in danger.

• Age

  The perception that eating disorders can’t happen to older people is absolutely wrong. If your doctor doesn’t take care of you because you’re not a teenage girl, then see another physician. Everybody deserves to be treated, no matter the age.

• Money

  It is so sad to see that people are still denied treatment because of their financial background. However, there are many ways to receive treatment. Don’t take no for an answer.

• Not Being Taken Seriously

  I wasn’t taken seriously by  a few doctors, including my own father. I think physicians are still not educated enough to see the signs of eating disorders. If you feel like your therapist isn’t listening to you or is thinking you are making stuff up, then look for another one. You don’t have to be belittled. Your professional help should always be understanding and should take your feelings very seriously.

• Being Ridiculed

  My therapist once laughed at me. Yes, he really did. That’s when I gave up on myself. Whatever you are experiencing, if you don’t completely trust your therapist or doctor or if you feel you cannot tell them what is really on your mind, then the therapy process will be extremely difficult. You should always be confident that your doctor has your back.

• Gender

  As I shared in last week’s episode, men are treated especially bad because of the stigma surrounding eating disorders.

It is up to us to change the dialogue and make people aware of what it is they should and can expect from their physician. Don’t let them walk all over you. You are the one who needs help and you deserve to get it.

What crimes have you experienced in the past or maybe even the present?

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There are three people that come to mind when I think of role models: my sister, my husband and Portia de Rossi.

Let me explain…

My sister has always, always been my biggest rock, my soul mate and the girl I looked up to despite her being three years younger than me. I love her drive, her confidence, her ability to embrace life in ways I thought I never could. Spending the weekend with her has shown me yet again how wonderful she is. She was there in the darkest hours of my life, never ever turning against me, but trying to help me in every way she could. I love her to pieces and hope that one day I will be at least half as compassionate, loving and kind as she is.

My husband is a role model when it comes to changing your relationship with food and your body. You see, when I met my husband, he was a very, very extreme eater as well. He didn’t touch carbs, had a body of a man half his age, worked out radically and basically drove me (unwillingly, of course) to go even deeper into my anorexic behaviors. However, once I opened up to him and started telling him how desperate I was to get help, he changed his habits in order to help me get out of that hell.

I will forever be grateful to him for doing that for me and showing that yes, it is possible to change and it is OK to eat whatever you like without being judged.

Portia de Rossi is a role model because she was the one who opened my eyes that I needed help. I read her book in the fall of 2010, sobbing all the way through. I could relate to almost everything she was saying and it was as if she was reading my mind. Her story gave me hope and it was then that I knew for the very first time that I had a very serious illness and needed to make a change.

It’s important to have role models in your life. It’s important to let yourself be inspired. You won’t be able to move forward in recovery unless you see that somebody else has already achieved whatever it is you are yearning to do.

How about you? Do you have role models too?

Role Model Roll Call is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In a few short minutes, I’ll head out the door and take a train to visit my sister. I haven’t seen her in a while and I am super excited to spend tonight and tomorrow morning with her.

Why am I telling you this?

Well, the thing is that this is a huge step for me. Not only will I cook with her tonight, but we will also do brunch with our mom tomorrow. You see in the past this would have freaked me out. I would have to up my abuse of laxatives and the night at my sister’s would have been nothing short of a nightmare with cramps and shame.

I would have been extremely tense throughout our conversations and especially during dinner and brunch. My thoughts would not follow the conversation, they’d add up calories over and over again guessing how much that slice of bread or the bowl of noodles had.

Today, however, the situation is completely different.

I am excited about tonight. I am looking forward to brunch tomorrow and I cannot wait to have a girl’s night out with my baby sister. It’s going to be a much needed break of routine and I will enjoy every single moment of it. I’ve been going through the motions, although completely fulfilled for a while now doing the same stuff every single day. I know that that is life and I am not complaining, but I’ve been longing for a break, a tiny occasion to reinvigorate and get a new perspective. I couldn’t have wished for more than to link that with a new challenge in recovery.

I am not scared anymore. I am not filled with eating disordered thoughts. I am not paranoid with the idea that I’ll come home weighing more than before.

I am just thrilled to live like “normal” people.

That’s why recovery is so very awesome!

Freestyle is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Your eating disorder is not your friend. Your eating disorder is your worst enemy. No matter what Ed/Ana/Mia tells you, it’s a lie. Eating disorders are inherently belittling, deceiving, mean creatures.

They promise you that everything will get better if you only listen to their sweet words, but in reality everything gets worse if you follow their path.

They paint a picture of perfection, glory and accomplishment that goes far beyond what every other human being can achieve. They make you feel superior. They more you feel in control. They make you cope with life.

What they don’t tell you is that there is not a nugget of truth in what they say.

They don’t tell you about the misery. They don’t tell you about death. They don’t tell you about the loneliness. They don’t tell you about all the horrible consequences of starving yourself.

They do not tell the truth.

Don’t believe what is going on in your head.

Claim your spot again.

Claim your voice.

Take over YOUR LIFE again.

Stop listening to the toxic voice of your eating disorder.

Life can be great. Life can be fun. Life can be lived without obsessing over calories and weight. It’s up to you to make that a reality.

You have the power. You have the strength. You can STOP the relationship with your eating disorder.

I believe in you.

I know you have power.

I know you are brilliant.

I know you are kind.

I know you have a lot to offer the world.

I know you have the strength to fight back and zone in on what is really going on in your life.

I know that once recovered you will have the most fulfilled, happy and healthy life; a life you’ve always dreamed out.

It’s time you start believing that too.

I want you to understand that… is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

5 Words on My Experience with Anorexia:

Misery

I cannot describe those 14 years in other words but misery. I was miserable from the moment I woke up until the moment I went to sleep. Everything felt worthless. Life seemed to be about agony. I couldn’t see what other people found so worth-wile about it. i just wanted out.

Loneliness

There is hardly a lonelier place than living with an eating disorder. You feel like nobody understands you. You have no friends. You have secrets that you’re ashamed of. You may even be extremely depressed. The deeper you walk down the road of an eating disorder, the lonelier it gets.

Fear

I was scared of everything and I really mean everything. School, people, life, homework, exams, teachers, food, exercise, failure. The only place I felt save was in my room. Alone.

Weakness

I mean both the emotional and the physical weakness. There’s not a lot you can take. You are so worked up all the time that you are emotionally extremely instable. The physical weakness was what drove me insane. The fatigue, the dizziness, the legs that seemed to give in any moment. It was a horrible prison to live in.

Terror

The mental terror you’re under is the worst. All these vicious things you’re eating disorder is telling you make you want to die. It’s hard not to believe you’re fat when that is all you hear all day long. It’s destructive to count your calories over and over and over again, yet this is all you can do.

5 Words on My Experience with Hunger:

Emotions

Other than feeling miserable, you don’t really have emotions when you’re in a relationship with an eating disorder. Everything feels numb. When you finally recover, it’s like you wake up from a long dream/nightmare. You suddenly start to reawaken your senses and all the feelings you’ve tried to avoid arise again. I loved being able to feel joy again. I loved being happy again. I even enjoyed a few moments of sadness. It’s a completely different life.

Strength

I am now more stronger than I have ever been, both physically and mentally. I am confident in my abilities and in my skills and I am putting my heart and soul out there to help to make the world a kinder place.

Power

Recovery is about taking away the power from your eating disorder and giving it back to yourself. That’s what I did in the last year and I am in the final stages of claiming complete power and control over my life. Take that, ana bitch!

Forward-Movement

I was stuck in my childhood, trying to come to terms with everything that had happened in the past. I was also trying to hold on to a body that belongs to a child and not a grown woman. Now that I have let go of those limiting and destructive behaviors and thoughts, I have been able to move forward and build the life that I have always dreamed of.

Self-Love

Part of recovery is forgiving yourself and falling in love with the entire you, body, mind and soul. We all deserve to be loved deeply and intimately and we have to start with ourselves. It is a wonderful place to come to and worth every struggle that you face in recovery.

What are your words for your experience with your eating disorder and recovery?

Only Words? is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Being different is the essence of this world. There’s hardly anything that fascinates me more than looking at different cultures and races. I love seeing the rituals that people in Africa still follow. I love looking at traits Asian people seem to have in common. I even like to see similarities between family members. But seeing how different each and every one of us is, no matter the family or culture we grow up in, makes my heart beat with glee.

Yes, there are things we all share, but there is so much more that is unique to us. Nobody has my body. Nobody has my style. Nobody has my eyes. Nobody has my taste in music. It’s unique to me, myself and I.

Of course we are all brainwashed into wanting to look just like a supermodel. But wouldn’t the world be a super boring place if that were the case? Wouldn’t the fun of meeting different people with different stories and different experiences be completely negated?

It’s time that we stand up for ourselves and claim our uniqueness. We are all perfect. We are all beautiful. We are all different. That is something worth celebrating, don’t you think?

Vive La Difference! is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

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*I am participating in the first ever Hungry For Change Blogger Challenge. Throughout the entire month of May, I’ll write one post a day all about the topic of eating disorders.

A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In this episode of Fighting Anorexia, I share my view on how difficult it is for men to admit they have an eating disorder and how they must feel in this world where being skinny seems to be the greatest accomplishment in life.

Here is the interview with Benjamin that I spoke about.

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047 Fighting Anorexia – Forgotten Brothers is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

What do we need from our doctors when anorexia or any other eating disorder is threatening our health and possibly our lives?

This topic is a difficult one for me. Why? Well, the medical professional who should have looked after me was my father and he neglected to help me the entire time. Thinking about that today brought up a number of conflicting emotions. Was he too close to see what was happening? Was he helpless? Was he not educated enough?

Whatever the reason, he didn’t give me the help that I needed so very much.

So, the number one answer to this question is a single word long: HELP.

When we go to see a doctor, we’re already terrified or so deeply affected by an eating disorder that we need to doctor, be it a mental health or general professional, to take control and start to act for us.

I think that most general physicians still don’t know how to handle people with eating disorders and are inadequate to see signs that suggest they need help.

Often times, we keep our eating disorders a secret for way too long and wait to get help until we almost hit rock bottom. I wish more physicians saw the early signs and had the information needed to get a patient the treatment he or she needed.

Another wish I have towards physicians and therapists is to take us and our problems seriously. My therapist ones laughed me in the face because of something I said. Granted, it may have sounded ridiculous to him but for me the fact that I was “wasting calories” when eating something I didn’t want to eat was a major problem.

He should have known better than to ridicule this.

The last thing we all need is compassion. When you’re in recovery from an eating disorder, you’re in a very vulnerable place. The more compassion we get, the stronger we become and the more chances we have to heal.

What is it that you need from the medical professionals that treat you?

Doctor Doctor is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Since today is body appreciation day, I dug up an old blog post of mine that I wrote on Thanksgiving last year. Here’s what I had to say:

In the last 14 years, I spent an uncountable amount of hours staring at myself in the mirror, looking for imaginary fat or checking if one could see any changes from one day to another. Once or twice a day, I would measure myself to see if I had lost or gained a millimeter. I stepped on the scale so often that I will never have the urge to repeat this task.

However, despite focusing so much energy and time on these things, I never paid much attention to the body itself. That might sound contradictory, but it is true. When I looked in the mirror, I didn’t see my body for what it was, all I saw was whether I had controlled myself enough or whether I had failed. It wasn’t about my body, it was all about my mind.
So, in order to please my mind, I abused my body in ways that are beyond comprehension.

Yet, as I started to heal my mind, I started to heal my body as well. And today I can look in the mirror, appreciate what I see and even have a feeling of gratefulness.

I now understand that my body is a part of me. It is my base. No other person in this world has this shape. It was, is and will forever be only mine. I am unique and I am built exactly the way that I am supposed to be.

Now that I am strong and healthy again, this base enables me to do the most fascinatingly ordinary things and I love it.

Because of my body, I can walk across a meadow on a sunny day feeling the grass under my feet.

Because of my body, I am able ride my bike across town.

Because of my body, I can begin to try the craziest yoga Asanas.

Because of my body, I can dance Zumba and have a blast doing it.

Because of my body, I can chase my beautiful, sweet goddaughter around the house, laughing until I cry.

Now, this might sound very basic to you and I guess you may have a point. But have you ever truly, honestly sat back and thanked your body for what it does for you?

If not, then do that today and think about it today and appreciate your body for letting you live.

Body Appreciation Day is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Anorexia destroys.

It doesn’t help you. It doesn’t heal you. It doesn’t make anything better. It only destroys. It hurts. It finds its way into your life and holds you imprisoned, making you believe all kinds of lies and misrepresentations. It destroys your body, your relationships, your health and your life. There is nothing, nothing, good about anorexia.

Recovery: Yes, you can!

Okay, okay, this may be cheesy, but it is true and hard to forget. You can do this. You can beat this. You can take away all the power that your eating disorder has and give it back to whom it belongs to: YOU. Yes, you can. I believe in you. Do you?

Anorexia and Recovery Slogans is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

* I love the idea of creating your own recovery mascot. I thought long about what would represent my way to health for me. Would it be human or an animal? Real or fictional? What would it stand for exactly?

Then one thought popped into my head: our inner child.

I have come to understand that recovery is all about developing a deep love for yourself. You can’t ever fully recover if you don’t accept yourself for who you are with all your characteristics, flaws and strengths.

When you come from a place of hatred for yourself and your body, it’s not an easy way to get to a point of love. However, envisioning yourself as an innocent child who needs your love and affection helps tremendously.

Would you deliberately hurt a child?

Would you starve a child?

Would you hate a child?

Would you belittle a child because of his or her natural body shape?

Would you label a child as good or bad because of what he or she eats?

Would you tell a child that he or she is worthless?

Would you judge a child as critically as you do yourself?

I know all of you are incredibly kind people, so no, you obviously wouldn’t do any of that.

Why are you doing it to yourself then?

Think of your inner child and treat yourself the way you would treat that small, vulnerable and love-seeking person inside. You deserve it! You owe it to yourself and the baby you once were. It’s important to nurture yourself. Start small with little signs of appreciation and then grow these little steps into big. life-affirming ones.

*I am participating in the first ever Hungry For Change Blogger Challenge. Throughout the entire month of May, I’ll write one post a day all about the topic of eating disorders.

My Recovery Mascot is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

* 1. I want to have children.

If I don’t eat enough, I don’t have my menstrual cycle and therefor I won’t be able to have children. I have always dreamed of being a mom and this was my number one reason for wanting to recover.

2. Life is too precious.

Now that I have had the chance to experience the freedom of letting go off most of my eating disordered behavior, I cannot imagine ever going back. Life is so incredibly fund and full of opportunities and I don’t want to die and miss them.

3. I want to experience feelings, both good and bad.

When I was in my darkest anorexic phase, the only feeling I knew was agony. Now, I know what happiness feels like and what it’s like to be at peace. I don’t achieve these mental states all the time, but when I do, it’s incredible and therefor more than worth to fight.

4. I don’t want to give calories and the scale power over me.

Calories and scales have ruled over my life for way too long. How belittling and ridiculous is it to give things like this so much space and power? I am done with that and I will never again count calories or own a scale. Life is more than that.

5. I want to be a better wife, daughter and sister.

When you’re caught in the vicious cycle of anorexia, all you think about is yourself, at least that’s what it was like for me. I had no energy and therefor sucked at being a wife. I also didn’t really listen to anything other’s told me about and instead constantly counted calories or thought about how much I had to exercise when this conversation was finally over. Now that I don’t spend all my time at the gym, my relationship with my husband is a lot better and I can give him so much more than ever before.

6. I want to use my gifts and talents

Since I’ve started my road to health, I have uncovered a lot of hidden talents and gifts and I’ve been creating a lot of things that I am proud of in the last few months. I would have never done that had I still been so sick and had I still wasted all my energy and thoughts on eating disorder related stuff.

7. Energy

The amount of energy I have now compared to a year ago is incredible. There’s no replacement for the nutritious effect of food on your body and the more you eat the more energy you have and the more you can do, create and love.

8. I deserve to eat, live and love too

I always thought that I only deserved to exist if I was as skinny as possible. Otherwise, I’d be judged and hated. Well, now I know that this is not true and I deserve to be here just like everybody else.

9. Freedom

When you’re eating disordered, everything feels like you’re incarcerated. You live in a prison built by yourself and there’s seemingly no way out. Well, step by step I found my way to freedom and I don’t want to lose it again. Ever. This feeling is just too great to ever give up.

10. I want to have the peace of mind

I am not there yet, but I know that one day I will wake up and just go about my day without giving food another thought until I am hungry. I don’t want to plan my meals and simply eat whenever my body is telling me it’s time. I want to focus entirely on my life’s work and I want to give this all my attention, energy and time.

Anorexia kept me alive for a while. It was a crutch I could use during the hardest years of my life (so far), but now it’s time to finally start living. Having a kilogram more or less won’t ever stop me from doing that again.

What are YOUR reasons for fighting or staying recovered?

*I am participating in the first ever Hungry For Change Blogger Challenge. Throughout the entire month of May, I’ll write one post a day all about the topic of eating disorders.

Top Ten Reasons to Fight For/ Stay Recovered is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

* … I’d like to show those who are still suffering that recovery is possible, that there is hope even on the darkest days.

Since I started my journey of recovery about a year ago, I have learned a lot about eating disorders and myself and I believe that I can help others even if it’s just a tiny little bit to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

I am writing about anorexia because seeing the progress that you, my lovely readers, are making is inspring me and motivating me to go even further. I am hoping to do my part in educating those who still believe that anorexia is some kind of lifestyle worth celebrating.

I am speaking up and adding my voice to the ever-growing list of people who stand up against the sick representation of women and men in the media and I am trying to make society see that we’re destroying each other by comparing us to standards that are unachievable for most of us.

It is important to break the silence and show the world that there is nothing sexy about looking emaciated. It is important for those who are caught in the hell of having an eating disorder to show you that there is a way out, even if it’s a rocky one.

I am just trying to spread the world about how amazing life can be if you’re free of all of these limiting thoughts and behaviors.

I am writing about eating disorders because you deserve to give yourself a second chance and if it is through this little blog, then I’ve done more than I could ever hoped for.

And last but not least, I am writing about eating disorders because it is simply too important NOT  to talk about.

Every voice counts. Yours does too.

*I am participating in the first ever Hungry For Change Blogger Challenge. Throughout the entire month of May, I’ll write one post a day all about the topic of eating disorders.

I am writing about eating disorders because … is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

1. Take a walk
2. Take a few days off and travel
3. Go shopping
4. Evaluate your emotions: journal, what is bothering you?
5. Put some make up on and were bright colors
6. See a funny movie
7. If you are on meds, evaluate if you might want to change something
8. Do a random Act of Kindness
9. Write a list of 10 things you are thankful for. Be specific.
10. Schedule an appointment with a counselor.
11. Talk to a good friend who knows how to listen.
12. Have a good cry.

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046 Fighting Anorexia – 12 Ways to Get Out of a Funk is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

“Try your hand at this workbook and you will learn to love yourself for who you are, not for what you eat.”

I strongly believe in working with guides, otherwise I wouldn’t have written one myself. So, when Lauren Lazar Stern, an art therapist and licensed professional counselor, asked me if I’d be interested in writing a review of her book called “The Slender Trap“, I immediately and excitedly agreed.

The purpose of this book is “… to help you decide whether you are suffering from symptoms associated with an eating disorder or body image disturbance, to help you begin to look at and understand more about yourself and the way you live and feel, and to help you resolve some of the issues that are getting in the way of healthy functioning.”

This purpose was more than met.

While going through the workbook, I was impressed with the detailed and step-by-step approach of the different stages you go through once you are ready to admit that something is not quite right with your body image and/or your eating habits.

Lauren takes you from the early stages of finding out about different eating disorders all the way to finding a therapist that fits your needs.

Laure goes into detail on how genetics play a huge role in the way your body looks. She talks about exercise addiction, the diet trap, how relationships affect eating disorders, embracing the new you and so much more.

This book helps you to work through your issues in many ways, which keeps it interesting and super informative. There are detailed explanations, lots of pictures and ways for you to write, draw and express yourself and your feelings.

While going through the book you are always checking in with yourself, going deeper and deeper to figure out what you are trying to hide with your disordered eating.

After every chapter, you are encouraged to see how you feel. Hot or cold? Light or heavy?  Getting lots of feedback from Lauren herself helps you to process the new information and understand why you’re experiencing your feelings the way you do.

This book requires a lot of thought and action on your part and may seem a bit overwhleming at first. However, you don’t have to work through it in one setting.

You can pick the chapters that most interest you or that you feel speak to you and your current situation and ponder on them for a while. Take your time with the answers and be really honest.

Treating yourself to this book, giving yourself the right to take some time out of your busy schedule in order to work on your problems is a great first step towards health. However, this book does not replace having therapy, it rather complements weekly sessions.

While this book is focused on girls and women, I think that men can equally benefit from the information and the exercises.

Overall, it’s a great workbook and I can absolutely recommend it! I learned a lot about myself while doing the exercises and I can see myself going back to the myriad of facts and information many times in the future.

The Slender Trap is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Every week, I feature an inspiring person who has struggled with anorexia at one point in his or her life and has recovered.

I am all about spreading the message of hope because this is something we so often lack.When we’re in such a deep relationship with our eating disorder and these sick thoughts and behaviors take up most of our time and shape our days, it is hard to remember that there is a way out.

I am hoping to inspire and motivate you with these interviews and that you too will see that you can get your life back.

Today courageous and super active Benjamin of  A Pensive Insight  will give us his take on recovery.

1. Tell us something about yourself. Who are you? What do you do in life?

My name is Benjamin, a 24 year old student currently living in the Warwickshire. I am an avid reader of philosophy, and I read and write poetry. I currently live independently with two cats.

My eating disorder started when I was approximately fourteen years of age as a result of bullying, insecurity and depression.

My biggest fear was being ridiculed and bullied, both at home and at school. Another big fear that perturbed me was the feeling of being “out of control”, feeling rejected, isolated and incredibly depressed.

4. When did your healing process start and do you know what made you decide why you wanted to change your life?

I have been in and out of recovery for numerous years and the biggest motivation to change came from the induction of love into my life. Relationships and friendships were all a big motivation for me; a catalyst to change, a new horizon to embrace!

Without deviating into conjecture, I think a big factor in my healing was to grasp onto a rational viewpoint, to look at my position as pragmatically and with as much prudence as possible. I clasped notions to change, uttered the dangers of perpetuating this torment that this eating disorder would create and I remembered the wishes of others of whom I cared immensely for. I thought about the ideal life, the ideal me, then I contrasted that with my current life. I mused over what was needed to be adopted to deviate to that ideal, an ideal that was possible, healthy, and long-lasting and an inspiration to others!

6. Do you still have a “black list” of items that you won’t eat? Or can you now say that you eat everything you want?

7. Do you consider yourself healthy now? Do you feel comfortable in your skin?

I am much healthier than I used to be and it took a lot of effort, determination and persistence to embrace the required mental and physical resilience. There are too many individuals who exert too much time and effort on their body image without ever having time to actually take the time to enjoy it.

I think there needs to be societal shifts before the number of people with eating disorder dissipates. I think that we need to highlight the importance of love, the acceptance of oneself and how unhealthy and inimical it is to be so beguiled with one’s looks. We only live once; be the life that you would feel proud to have placed as your epitaph.

9. Is there any advice that you could give to our readers?

Contentment is not the fulfilment of what you want, but the realization of how much you already have. Your life should never be quantified, what is important is the depth of one’s life. Change your thoughts and you change your world from the inside out. Never try to change your world from the outside in. It was once said that the journey of discovery is no in seeking new scenery, but having new eyes. Eating disorders are not truly about weight, calories and one’s body image; it is much more complex than that. Appreciate the beauty of life, the importance and health and confide in those you trust if and when you feel yourself having struggles with your body image.

Hope Interview Series Part IV – Benjamin is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In this webinar we will talk about

1. Body Image and Self-Love

2. Ed and Relationships

3. Clothes

4. Triggers

5. Inspiration: Your Life Starts Now!

By the end of this webinar…

• You will know more about Body Image and how to Improve It
• You will know more about how to love yourself
• You will have gotten rid of a few pieces of clothing
• You will see how Ed affects relationships
• You will know more about your triggers
• You will be motivated to start your recovery journey now

If you would like to leave me some feedback, you can mail it to feedback@fightinganorexia.com

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045 Fighting Anorexia – Working On Your Body and Mind (BONUS) is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In this episode of Fighting Anorexia, I talk about having the right mindset and how crucial this is in recovery. I distinguish between 3 kinds of mindsets that all work together, but are helpful at different times.

Mindset #1: “I can Beat this” – Attitude

If you don’t completely believe that you can do it, you won’t. You have to be convinced of your own strength and ability in order to be able succeed. The more you tell yourself, you can do it the better your chances for recovery. If you constantly fill your mind with doubt, you will basically sabotage your recovery process. If you don’t believe the outcome is possible, then what is there to fight for?

Mindset #2: “Kindness” – Attitude

There are always periods during which we feel down or make a few steps back. Knowing that it is OK to have off days and being gentle to yourself is super important. It is crucial that you are relaxed about it at times and that you accept your periods of weakness and not beat yourself up over them.

Mindset #3: “F**k It” – Attitude

Sometimes we just have to stop making everything so meaningful and say F**k It to society, the weight loss industry, our fears, our insecurities, food, the scale, exercise etc. This takes work, but starting with saying these words whenever Ed’s voice is extremely loud helps even if you can’t stop following Ed’s orders (yet).

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In the third part of this series, we talk about:

1. Eating
2. Coping Skills
3. Weight Gain
4. Feeling FAT
5. Inspiration: Consequences of Starving Yourself and How it Changes!

By the End of This Webinar…

You will know more about a Balanced Diet
You will be able to deal with the Stress of Eating
You will know more about the Benefits of Having a Meal Plan or Routine
You will have written down your Black List
You will have zoned in on your Fears of having a Healthy Weight

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043 Fighting Anorexia – The Inevitable: Eating and Gaining Weight (BONUS) is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

8. Do you think that there could be done more in order to prevent eating disorders?

I do think that schools could educate students more about eating disorders and the stigma about them should be broken. I also think that the focus of eating disorders should not just be about weight. I have many friends in treatment who showed early signs of eating disorders or had EDNOS but were not taken seriously and not given the help they needed until they were dangerously underweight or suffered serious health issues.

I think that in order to prevent eating disorders,we should help those who show signs before it gets to a serious level.  Many people dont get help or are turned away because they are “not sick enough or not skinny enough”. Help should be given when someone first has ED thoughts or ED behaviors to prevent an eating disorder from occurring or progressing. I also think that more education on binge eating disorder would be helpful.

I also think that the media should stop sending out messages to young girls telling them that they have to be skinny. The media should focus on loving and accepting yourself no matter what you weigh. Magazines for teens are covered in diet tips. This can cause someone who is already hating their body to go to extreme measures in order to lose weight and be seen as perfect.

If society and the media focused on loving our bodies perhaps it would help stop eating disorders. Treating people who show the early signs and symptoms of having an eating disorder would also help stop the ED from getting worse.

9. Is there any advice you could give our readers?

I would tell the readers that if they feel as though they are struggling with an ED or showing signs of developing one to tell someone and get help right away, don’t wait. Please dont think that you are “Not sick enough”. Anyone who has ED thoughts or behaviors deserves treatment. It does not matter your weight, ED’s are also about the thoughts feelings and disordered actions.

Please dont let it get worse. I would also tell your readers that recovery is possible. It is a long journey and I am still struggling everyday but I am making progress. Little by little I am beating my eating disorder. In the end, this struggle will be worth it. Please dont give up!

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This is a guest post by Nikole of Stubbornly Delighted.

The battle with an eating disorder is exactly that, a battle.

I’ve been eating fairly normally for about a year-and-a-half now, but I often get mad at myself for no longer obsessing with food like I used to.

Instead of being proud of the progress I’ve made and the healthy weight I find myself in now, I sometimes get disappointed that I’ve “let myself go.”

The negative thoughts I’ve had on my body for so long leaked into my thought process; if I’m happy with my body one day, I’m disappointed with my skin, or my teeth, or my hair, and of course, finding complete satisfaction with my body is still difficult.

I thought that I beat my disorder a year ago, so why do I still have these feelings?

For an entire year, I have rarely spit out food, and even more rarely have I skipped a day of eating. But, the desire to do so still hits me hard at times. So, how do I resist that unhealthy longing to not eat?

It’s not exactly easy; in fact, it can be very very hard. But after a while, I’ve discovered a few things that help me to silence these thoughts and move on to the better things that are in my life now.

Don’t Blame Yourself for Any Consequences

The first, and one of the most helpful ones, is to not blame yourself for any consequences that you now have from your eating disorder.

I’m engaged now, and I’m extremely excited to start my family, but with that excitement comes a very serious concern. My ability to have children is questionable because of the eating disorder.

So here I am, I can finally move on, I’m getting married! But often, the excitement gets dampened because of my worry.  I’ve always wanted a family, but can I have one? How could I have ruined that? How could I have risked so much? I hate myself for doing that. I hate this all. It’s then that I have to remind myself, that yes, life is hard, but it’s doable for everyone!

There are other options, and I can have a family. And besides, it wasn’t really me that had the eating disorder, that wasn’t me.  It’s not my fault. It is not my fault.

Distract Yourself from Your Bad Feelings

I also learned to distract myself from my own bad feelings. At first it was just repeatedly thinking about one of my favorite songs whenever I had a negative thought towards myself. Eventually, it became such a habit, that even when I really wanted to feel those bad thoughts, the song would intrude.

After that, I learned to distract myself with other thoughts. This is a lot more fun, because I basically think of all the positive stuff going on in my life! I have a job, and friends, and I’m in a better place!

Eventually, this became a habit too! And now the negative thoughts rarely win the battles in my mind.

Look for those that love you and want to help you. Be completely honest with them, and hold nothing back. Holding in negative feelings, fuels those feelings, until they get bigger and bigger.

There is always someone out there that loves you and is willing to help. If you can’t think of anyone, or if you feel all alone, I’ll help you! There’s always someone!

Find a Hobby

Finally, the thing that is helping me most right now is a hobby. Find a hobby!  It doesn’t matter what it is, as long as it’s healthy and something you’re actually interested in.

I taught myself to play the piano, and the guitar! I’ve learned to knit. And now, I spend a lot of time on my blog! Stubbornlydelighted.blogspot.com, named for my desire to be happy and how I’ll accept nothing less.

For me, writing about things in my life helps me to realize that everything is okay. There’s no need to dwell on things that I have done, and I can move on. I love writing, and I found my hobby.

For other people, maybe it’s making jewelry and selling it on Etsy, or playing sports, maybe drawing, or even making ice sculptures! It doesn’t matter as long as you really like it!

There is something out there for everyone, and finding that hobby can make a world of difference. I promise.

Keep Fighting

And remember, always keep fighting! If I could have seen who I’d be now a year and a half ago, I wouldn’t be happy. I would be miserable that I let myself become this way, but now that I’m here, all I can do is cry with happiness. I never knew life could be so amazing.

How To Resist the Longing to Not Eat is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In this episode of Fighting Anorexia, I talk about the lesson that I learned last week: Listen to Your Body.

When we are at war with ourselves, it is not easy to reconnect the mind and the body. It is even harder to act on the messages that our body is sending us. However, we have to learn that our body wants only the best of us and is there to help us survive.

Give yourself 10 minutes every morning and meditate. Try to really tune in to what your body is telling you, even if you cannot act on what you are learning yet.

The more you listen to your body the more you will get to know what it is like to be healthy and balanced. Recovery is about starting to listen to the signals your body is sending you and learning to follow them.
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In the 2nd part of the Pro Recover Webinar Series we will talk about:

1. Ed’s Lies

2. Ed’s Voice, Society’s Voice and Your Voice

3.Talk Back

4. Take Action

5. Inspiration: Anne-Sophie’s Turning Point

By the End of This Recording…

• You will know which lies eating disorders like to tell
• You will have differentiated between Ed’s voice and your own
• You will think more critically about the voice inside
• You will be able to talk back
• You will be able to act against the voice

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041 Fighting Anorexia – Taking Up The Fight (BONUS) is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Every week, I feature an inspiring person who has struggled with anorexia at one point in his or her life and has recovered. I am all about spreading the message of hope because this is something we so often lack.

When we’re in such a deep relationship with our eating disorder and these sick thoughts and behaviors take up most of our time and shape our days, it is hard to remember that there is a way out.

I am hoping to inspire and motivate you with these interviews and that you too will see that you can get your life back.

Today I am excited to share the interview with Arielle who truly has A Voice with A Commitment with you with you!

Happy Reading!

1.     Tell us something about you. Who are you? What do you do in life?

My name is Arielle Lee Bair and I wear many hats. I’m an Eating Disorder Recovery blogger, ANAD eating disorder support group leader, MSW graduate student, and wife. I’m also a Caseworker for a non-profit agency in my county and a Graduate Intern Counselor at Turning Point of the Lehigh Valley, an agency which helps victims/survivors of domestic violence.

I’m 27 years old with a Bachelor’s Degree in English and in Women’s Studies. I am currently finishing my Masters in Social Work.I am a recovered individual myself and my number one goal is to show others that recovery is possible. Hope is my favorite personal value. I have 2 cats and a lot of energy.

2.     When and why did your eating disorder start?

My eating disorder began when I was 11 years old. I was bullied during middle school and began coping unhealthily from that point onward. I cannot guess as to a “why” and certainly do not blame the girls who bullied me for “causing” my eating disorder. An eating disorder is a mental illness and I feel strongly as a woman and as a professional that eating disorders are related to both biological factors and environmental factors. I was not officially diagnosed with anorexia until age 18 and began recovery soon after.

3.     What was your biggest fear? Why did you starve yourself?

My biggest fear was losing my identity of the “thin” girl or the “thinnest” girl. At the same time, I starved myself for a number of reasons, including: I was coping with emotions unhealthily, I was punishing myself, I was trying to make myself smaller or uglier because so much emphasis had always been put on my (positive) appearance rather than my worth or intelligence, I sought to control something in the face of external things I could not control.

4.     When did your healing process start and do you know what made you decide why you wanted to change your life?

My healing process began just after my official eating disorder diagnosis. I was 18 years old. I knew what I was feeling, thinking, and doing was not good or healthy and I wanted recovery as soon as I recognized that.

5.     Can you tell us more about your healing process?

I gathered as much support as I could. I went to therapy and a nutritionist and support groups. I looked within myself. My degree in Women’s Studies helped me to focus on myself as a woman and all the greatness that could mean. My writing also helped me a great deal. It was a healthy way of coping with bad things and it allowed me to process through the things that hurt. I had to work both on gaining weight and on strengthening the health of my mind. The two go hand in hand.

6.     Do you still have a “black list” of items that you won’t eat? Or can you now say, you eat everything you want?

I eat anything I want. I am fully recovered in body and mind and have been for several years. I am not afraid of food, or of certain foods. I am not afraid of meal times or my own body or of numbers on a scale, clothing sizes, or fat. I am me and I am happy with that. I eat to fuel my body because it is the only body I will ever get in this life. I enjoy food. It’s a huge difference from the way my life used to be years ago, but I enjoy food very much.

7.     Do you consider yourself healthy now? Dou you feel comfortable in your skin?

Yes, I consider myself healthy, but more than that – it is a fact. I AM healthy. I feel comfortable in my skin, in front of the mirror, when I wake up, when I go to sleep. Before, when I was in the midst of my eating disorder, I didn’t like myself. That fueled the eating disorder. It fueled my unhealthy behaviors and thoughts. Now, I like myself. I love myself. So the logical and happy choice is to take care of myself and treat myself with kindness.

8.     Do you think that there could be done more in order to prevent eating disorders?

Yes, I think more could be done to educate the world at large. I also think that warning signs could be better noticed. In terms of prevention, I think that if eating disorders are noticed early on because people are made more aware of them, then recovery is more likely to be possible and help can happen more quickly. I don’t think as a whole eating disorders can be prevented, due to the fact that they are a mental illness with certain predispositions in place – but there is no reason the environmental factors that contribute to eating disorders could not be reduced.

9.    Is there any advice you could give our readers?

You can be your own worst enemy… but you can also be your own best cheerleader. Don’t forget that. Don’t give away your power to things like trauma, food, weight, fear, etc. Take your power back. Recovery is possible!

Hope Interview Series Part II with Arielle Lee Bair is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In this episode of Fighting Anorexia I talk about how we can protect ourselves from dieting co-workers, crazy weight loss gurus and other toxic media messages.

Here are a few strategies that you can implement today:

• Ask people to stop talking about their diets when you are around. Be blunt about it but in a kind way. You don’t have to tell them you have an eating disorder, but tell them their constant conversations about this topic are bothering you.
• Put earphones on and listen to music or podcasts. This will drown the other voices.
• Start a different conversation. Sometimes people need a push in the right direction. Be that push.
• If friends are hindering you in moving forward, stop seeing them, even if it hurts.
• Read books and take in different ideas, different subject, important topics. Inspire yourself.
• Remind yourself of what is really important in life. Write down a list and have it handy.
• Get some perspective: go out on a walk, talk to a friend, see a therapist and remind yourself what life is really about.

Here are a few links of what I’ve mentioned in the episode:

• True Beauty Podcast 
• http://healthland.time.com/2012/03/27/dukan-diet-founder-to-face-ethics-hearing/
• http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/03/31/facebook-feeling-fat-eating-disorder_n_1393778.html

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040 Fighting Anorexia – How Can I Protect Myself From Toxic Outside Influences? is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Happy Easter, my lovely Readers!

Happy Easter! is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

My eyes are wide open. My thoughts are running in circles.

I lay in bed anticipating this day. It’s Easter Sunday. A day where I would allow myself to eat. But not just that. I would eat everything, all day long, no big breaks in between. I’d have a huge breakfast, chocolate Easter eggs all day long, a big lunch, cake in the afternoon and an even bigger meal for dinner.

I would stuff myself without worrying about the calories. I had been waiting for this day for weeks. It’s a holiday, an exception. It’s a day when I can let all my rules, all my restrictions, all my guilt be overruled by the fact that this day is to be celebrated. And so, that’s what I did. For years.

I didn’t care about spending quality time with my family or the Christian importance of the day. All that was on my mind was food and the knowledge that tomorrow I would have to go back to my destructive habits and punish myself for taking a day off.

This was my reality for 14 years and I missed out on so very much because my mind was preoccupied with this triviality, which, even if it is an illness, it objectively is. This is not the way to live. It is a way of damaging your health, digestive system, relationships and ultimately life.

How Times Have Changed

This year however, the first year where I am not going into the holiday starved and deprived of any valuable nutritions, everything feels different. I haven’t anticipated the binge fest for weeks. I did not buy chocolate bunnies and easter eggs in quantities that would probably be even too much for a family with 10 kids, but instead I am focusing on sending messages of love and appreciation to my friends and family.

Sure, I bought some yummy Easter treats, but in moderation and I am certain that this Easter celebration will be the best one since my early childhood.

I will be doing an Easter egg hunt with my stepdaughter and I will be enjoying the moments as a family. I will do my best not to worry about the calories of the chocolate and the cake, which, to be honest, will be a challenge for me too. But I will not let that keep me from savoring each bite of my favorite kind of Easter bunnies in the world: the white chocolate ones.

I am proud of that fact and it shows yet another time how much life can change if you are willing to fight your eating disorder and never ever give up.   

How You Can Challenge Yourself this Easter 

Holidays are always tricky for those who are battling their inner demons. Whether you are scared of having to spend time with your family knowing that they’ll be watching how much it is you’re putting in your mouth or the large amounts of chocolate in the house are triggering you, it is a time of high inner stress. 

But it can also be an opportunity to challenge yourself. If you’re in the process of having to gain weight, why not try to eat an Easter bunny to up your calories just a teeny tiny bit? Why not have a piece of cake during tea time with your family? 

This, of course, doesn’t apply to those who are only in the early stages of recovery and are still struggling to eat at all. But if you’re a bit further along, a day like this can give you a chance to crush another big barrier: the barrier of eating items that are not necessarily incorporated in your regular meal plan yet.

How You Can Master Easter Without Anxiety

If this seems simply ludicrous for you right now and you cannot possible do this, don’t feel bad about yourself. Try to shift your focus from the food and instead enjoy the time with your loved ones or treat yourself to some nice activities that you would normally deny yourself. 

Maybe schedule a massage for Monday, get a manicure or pedicure to reduce the stress of the previous day or watch a nice movie with a few friends.

When the situation on Sunday becomes too unbearable for you, go out for a short walk, journal and keep encouraging notes handy in order to help pick yourself up.

Have a mobile phone with you and a contact you can always confide in when things get too difficult. Have a sincere conversation with your family that this day is going to be nerve-wrecking and that they should please not observe you with eagle eyes since you are already trying your best.

But most importantly, don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Do what you can and celebrate each and every little victory you have on this day. And remember: It is only one single Sunday.

My Gifts for You

In order to celebrate Easter with you, I am giving away one copy of The Ultimate Guide to a Healthy Body Image and a 20-minute Coaching Session with me. You choose the topic! 

Simply share a few Easter strategies, stories, happy memories or whatever else you can think of with us and I will randomly draw a winner by the end of the next week.

I wish you all a Happy Easter! 

A Tale Of Easters Past is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In this first part of the 4-week Pro Recovery Series, we will talk about:

1. The WHY of Recovery
2. The Fear of Letting Go
3. Your Support System
4. Education and Inspiration
5. Inspiration: The Benefits of Life Without Anorexia

By the End of this Recording…

• You will know your Reasons for Recovery
• You will Envision Your ideal Life and Determine Goals
• You will Zone In on What’s Holding You Back
• You will have an Idea About Your True Talents, Skills and Passions
• You will Have a Deeper Understanding of a Support System
• You will know more about the Benefits of Life Without Anorexia

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039 Fighting Anorexia – Building your Foundation (BONUS) is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Every week, I will feature an inspiring person who has struggled with anorexia at one point in his or her life and has recovered. I am all about spreading the message of hope because this is something we so often lack.

When we’re in such a deep relationship with our eating disorder and these sick thoughts and behaviors take up most of our time and shape our days, it is hard to remember that there is a way out.

I am hoping to inspire and motivate you with these interviews and that you too will see that you can get your life back.

The beautiful and geniurs Jen from Ms. Morphosis will kickstart this series with a lot of insights, motivation and advice.

Happy Reading!

1.     Tell us something about you. Who are you? What do you do in life?

4.     When did your healing process start and do you know what made you decide why you wanted to change your life?

I don’t black list any foods except for diet drinks and artificial sweeteners. My appetite changes depending on things like how much I’m exercising or if I’m getting close to my period, but I try and just listen to my hunger rather than my mind. When I’m working out a lot I eat more, and really crave lots of salmon and healthy carbs. When my period is coming, I sometimes just need a night out to eat some mexican food or a rich Italian dinner

7.     Do you consider yourself healthy now? Do you feel comfortable in your skin?

Yes

Please share your comments, thoughts or other feedback with us!

Hope Interview Series Part I with Jen from Ms. Morphosis is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

In this episode of Fighting Anorexia, I share what has been going on in my life in the last week and how I have struggled with eating. I also share how I checked in with myself in order to stop the relapse and continue to go strong on the way towards a recovered life.

Being in recover, you have to be especially aware of your thoughts, emotions and actions and you have to constantly question why it is you are doing something. Are you really not hungry or is it your eating disorder that is dictating that? Do you really feel sick or is it an excuse? The more aware you are of your true motives the better your chances for a successful recovery.

When you notice that you have gone a few steps backwards, it is important to take some time off, ground yourself again and figure out what the problem was in order to work through it and get back on track. Setbacks happen to all of us, but it is important not to let those setbacks turn into a full-blown relapse. Get a massage, go to the movies, get a manicure or a spa treatment or simply watch TV all day long like I did in order to breathe again and remind yourself of the reasons you want to go this way and not walk back. Be kind to yourself. Don’t judge and give it time.

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038 Fighting Anorexia – Emotions, Appetite and the Art of Taking Care of Yourself! is a post from: Fighting Anorexia

Today was a rather quiet day. I had been quite stressed in the last few days and I had been feeling uneasy and sick because of some things that are happening between a friend and myself. Tuesday was an especially bad day where I just felt abandoned and unwanted and, to be quite frank, treated unfairly. This has made a huge impact on my diet. I skipped dinner 3 nights in a row. I just couldn’t eat larger amounts of food.

Whether this may be a human reaction to circumstances in life or not, I know that I have to be especially careful and cautious. So, I decided to take it easy for a day, catch up on Fringe and do some wellness for the soul in order to get back on track, both mentally and physically.

I worked on a few guest posts and wrote down a few examples for misunderstandings between those affected by an eating disorder and their loved ones, but mostly I was just resting.

A few months ago, I would have labeled such a day as unacceptable and would have had a major bad conscience. Taking a day off in the middle of the week while trying to build a business sounds nothing short of crazy, right? Yes, it does.

But you know what? I don’t care how it sounds, I only care about my health and I have learned that this has to be my priority, at all times. Yes, being successful is great. Yes, being prolific is amazing. But nothing trumps the security of being stable in recovery.

We can slip so easily. A few missed dinners turn into a habit of skipping them altogether again. A few more minutes of working out here and there will turn into another compulsion. All of that combined will get me back on the road towards anorexia in no time. 

Knowing that, having that awareness is crucial. It takes both this awareness and an intense feeling of being in tune with yourself in order to have strong pillars on which you can build your recovered life.

In the first few years after you make significant changes in your lifestyle, it is easy to slip back into destructive habits. One confrontation with your boss, a broken heart, problems with your family or financial struggles can easily be used by your eating disorder to allure you back into its loving arms.

It takes your mind off the real problem. It gives you an agenda and a clear, achievable goal. It is something you can control and can see success. At least that is what it makes you think. In reality though, going back to your disordered eating is only going to create more problems and will lead you right back into the hellish cycle of a bad relationship.

Knowing that, I decided to intervene right away without letting myself slip back further.

So what if other people think I am lazy? So what if other people may think it is unacceptable? So freaking what? 

We are in a unique position. We fight more fights every single day than most people will ever in their lives. We are warriors and we are fighting for nothing less than our lives. So, let other people think whatever they want to think. We know exactly what is right for us. We have to be careful with our minds. We have to take care of us more than others do. And doing that shows extremem strength and determination.

After all, what greater determination is there than wanting to live?

So, take that day off. Treat yourself to something nice. Get away from your routine. Let work be work and just leave it be for a day. Recharge. Get some inspiration. Get a new sense for your recovery. Reenergize. And then live. 

That’s what I did today and you know what? I feel awesome.

Give Yourself a Break is a post from: Fighting Anorexia