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Survive a Boyfriend and Girlfriend Breakup

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 14:40:00 +0000

We all know how difficult a break up from a relationship can be, especially if the guy or girl who broke up with you was your first love or has been in a relationship with you for a long period of time. Before doing anything drastic and out of heartbreak, remember that there is always a way to get over the pain and have so much more ahead of you. The old saying that "there are many fishes in the sea" actually still applies in today's dating schemes and this article is going to get you back in shape by giving you tips on how to survive a boyfriend and girlfriend breakup.

Usually when a boyfriend or girlfriend breaks up with you, you will start to feel panicky and frantic. Who wouldn't be since usually the reasons behind them are vague and misunderstood? But if you panic, you start to think of all kinds of negative things that will not only make things between you and your partner worse but make you look pathetic and desperate. The best way to handle the situation at the start is to STAY CALM. Don't panic, don't do anything irrational, and most importantly don't do anything to harm yourself.

Keep a positive mind even in an emotional crisis such as with a boyfriend and girlfriend breakup. It is normal to feel depressed and lonely, but do not let this get too much in the way with work, school and your social life. You can either tell yourself that you now have the freedom to look for new people or you can still save the relationship and get your boyfriend or girlfriend back. What is important is that you keep your chin up through this break up and preoccupy yourself with more important things.

Lastly, give each other some time and space to think things through. This is the perfect time to reflect and analyze what went wrong in the relationship. If your boyfriend and girlfriend breakup was because of a third party, you can take this time to figure out why he or she did this to you and what you can do to avoid it in your future relationships. If you think it is because of something you lacked, give your ex some time and just prove to him or her that you are still in love and would like to make it up to him or her.

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Tangela Mobley has been a successful internet marketer for the past year. She has had her share of broken hearts and relationships that did not work. She is now enjoying a loving relationship and wishes to share her experiences, wisdom and lessons learned in love with those who would benefit most.

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Aries in Love

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Fri, 08 Jan 2010 14:03:00 +0000

When Aries is in love they act like a bee on a mission to the nectar. Straight to the flower it is; no messing around- give me that nectar. If you are in love with an Aries astrology can help you understand the motivation beneath their actions. If you are an Aries, astrology will point to what feels natural for you and allow you to determine if your natural responses will give you what you want.

Aries is ruled by Mars and Mars is the planet that supports us in acquiring our desires and passions. Therefore when Aries wants something, especially love, Aries will naturally put much effort and focus on obtaining the object of affection. All is fair in love and war is an Aries concept.

If you are an Aries it is important to remember that unless you are in love with a person who also has strong Aries you can come off pushy and aggressive. When you are in a relationship it will be normal for you to fight or state your opinion if something is happening that you do not agree with. After all if you did not care why even bother?

As an Aries it is vital for your long term love relationship to be with someone who understands, and finds attractive, this quality. If the person you love and care about does not understand your need to tell them how you would do something then there will be problems. Your love also will have to understand you when you get upset you blow off steam and then are able to put it behind you and move forward.

An Aries is meant to face and deal with a problem as it arises. No sleeping on the disagreement lets have it out now! With Mars ruling Aries the test of wills is always part of the relationship path.

If you are an Aries and you have been struggling in your love life there are a few questions for self examination. The first questions are: are you giving up too much of who you are and what you want? Astrology is interesting, just because you are an Aries does not mean that you have mastered the qualities of Aries yet. Mastering the positive side of the signs is part of the fate of your chart.

An Aries first must feel secure and strong within and feel that they deserve to have what they want. Otherwise relationships will keep breaking up so you are alone again until you feel that you have the right to ask for what you want. The tricky part is you will know you have a right to get what you want in life however not having a childish I have to have my way. It is a mature place of understanding that everyone has the right to want what is good for them and in asking for what you want you will risk and know the other person may not want the same thing.

The other side of the Aries troubles in love is that you could be too demanding? Do you feel that you have to get what you want? Is it all about you? Do you feel that the person you are with never agrees with what you want, think, and believe about the relationship? An Aries finds solution on the other side of the zodiac, and that is Libra, the sign of putting yourself into someone else's shoes. What do they want? How do they feel?

It is an interesting path for Aries in love, on the one hand it is vital for you to be self expressive, be with someone who adores your spunk and willingness to call someone out on their stuff. Yet on the other hand if you are operating on an unconscious vibe of it is all about me then that will not work either.

Astrology gives us the gift of awareness. Once you become aware of your motivations and actions it will free you up to choose to act another way if you deem it appropriate. As an Aries, you want what you want and you want it now. However your gut reaction in how to have it does not always work. Stepping back from the situation, looking from another perspective, and getting clear on your intentions will support you in choosing the right form of action needed that aligns with your higher self.

Astrology can show you how to have a life you want. For more helpful tips go to http://www.lovinglightastrologer.com

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100 Great Romantic Ideas

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 06:20:00 +0000

Bury a "Time Capsule" together with trinkets, love letters or other romantic sentimental items. Then, draw up a simple map and store it in your safe deposit box. Date the map and decide together when you'll dig up your romantic treasure.
Create a special music disk together of love or fun songs. Have them ready for those special times together.
Plant a romantic note in a book your love is reading. It can be as simple as: "I love you," "I want you" or just XOXOXOXO.
Next time you're at the mall together, jump into a photo booth and take some fun pictures. Keep in your car or in your desk for a quick pick-me-up during the day.
Plant a tree together and plan to carve your names in it when it grows big. This can be a fun place to have a picnic or just hang out together; watching the clouds or stars.
Stop at a local coffee shop and spend some "two-gether" time there, or take a long walk or scenic drive in the county.
Send your love a letter at work. You can disguise it in a regular business envelope and it can be funny or/and romantic. Or even a little naughty if you're planning a special evening together.
Use heart-shaped sticky notes, one or a bunch to post little messages throughout the house or garage to add a little thrill to your love's life.
Pick up some dipping chocolate and fresh strawberries, cherries or bananas and make tonight's dessert incredibly romantic.
Take a long drive and stop at a new restaurant, or a deli to pick up a picnic lunch. Spend this time really listening to each other.
Name a star together and when you're apart; you can look at it and know that your love is waiting for your safe return.
Use glow-in-the-dark stars and black lights to create a romantic night sky inside.
Create a spa atmosphere at home with candles, essential oils, incense burners, mood music, massagers or other relaxation products.
Chocolate, the flavor of romance! Serve chocolate liquor in small glassware as dessert to vamp up a romantic dinner.
On a special night, dim the lights and put on some soft music. Then undress leaving a trail of your clothes from the front door to the bedroom.
Spend a quiet evening by the fire together. Roast marshmallows or have drinks available.
While your love is showering, sneak in and write, "I love you" on the steamed mirror.
Take a love letter or romantic vacation brochure and cut it into a puzzle. Mail a piece of the puzzle to your love every day or place each puzzle piece on table or dresser.
Make a romantic tape recording asking your love to meet you somewhere. You'll need confirmation that they can make it so be sure to leave a return number.
Next time you're walking together, grab your love's hand or walk arm-and-arm.
Make a "Prescription for Love" form on the computer. Then hand write each prescription using words like...take two doses of love and come see me now, make it more creative and intimate. Re-label an empty prescription bottle with heart stickers and set the blank prescriptions next to the bottle with a pen so you can both play doctor.
Create a romantic slideshow using old photos of you and your love. Sort pictures by years and events starting from when you first met until present. Add some romantic music then set a date for both of you to enjoy.
Don't put those photos away just yet! Pick out the best ones and frame as many as you want to display on the mantel, coffee table or dresser. This grouping will bring back wonderful memories every day.
Email greetings. They can surprise, create fun, show affection or entice your love. Send a free greeting anytime; why not send one right now!
Purchase an inexpensive romance calendar. Keep track of upcoming romantic dates and events; don't use it as your everyday calendar. You can, however, mark a black "x" on days that there's a family or other event so you don't overbook days. Likewise mark your regular calendar with a red "x" for romance days. Keep this calendar as a special keepsake when the year is done.
Sometimes changing your normal routine can spark romance. Like using candles or mood lighting or bringing home a bouquet of flowers to set the stage for romance.
Date night is a must! Maybe a picnic for two or tickets to a ballgame, movie or play. Consider mutual interests so you both have fun or take turns picking the entertainment. Remember, a date doesn't have to be expensive; get creative. The idea is to have fun and talk. Schedule a month in advance and don't cancel, as it's the most important appointment of the month.
Each one makes a list of romantic fantasies to share during a upcoming romantic evening.
Happy Birthday Banner. You don't have to buy one; it'll be better when you've created it.
A candlelight dinner for two is very romantic.
Splurge on some new, sexy lingerie which could be just the thing to give your love the urge.
You're the star. Have a personalized romance novel created where you star and he's the hero.
Alone away from home. Send a small gift or flowers to your love's destination to be received upon arrival.
For a personalized keepsake, consign a local artist to sketch you and your love doing something fun or romantic together.
Keep some coins handy so when you pass a fountain, you can both make an impromptu wish.
Slip a love note in your love's pants or coat pocket.
Acknowledge your love's interests. Get tickets to an event, i.e., game, opera or concert, you know your love is interested in. Keep the location a secret, however, mark your romance calendar so you both keep this date open.
Be extra understanding when you're love has a down-in-the-dumps day.
Cut small, heart shapes from colored paper and jot down a romantic message on each. Then, take them to a party store and ask the clerk to put one in each balloon before it's inflated. Tell your love to pop them as they deflate to find a surprise.
Buy a box of Lucky Charms and remove all the marshmallows except the heart-shaped ones.
At the mall, split $20 and plan a time and place to meet later. Then split to find secret romantic or seductive items for a special evening.
Fill a scrapbook with souvenirs and special mementos of your times together, such as concert ticket stubs, a napkin from a restaurant where you had a special evening together, romantic photos, etc.
Take your camera or use the picture option of your cell phone to record your special dates. Lots of people will take your picture if you ask and many times, they are looking for someone to take their picture.
Get a hammock, make some lemonade and spend a warm sunny date being lazy together.
Design and install a small sitting area at home where you can both enjoy the day and each other.
Take a trip to a winery. Don't forget to take the tour and buy a bottle for reminiscing at a later date.
Buy two disposable cameras and take pictures of each other being silly, loving and romantic. Have them developed in an hour and then talk about them over iced tea, wine or dessert.
Rent a funny movie.
Create a romantic bedroom. Spare no expense and splurge on a new romantic-style bed, soft fluffy pillows, sheets, bedspread and curtains that ooze romance. Soft, sensual throw rugs and mood lighting will complete the transformation from dull to soothing and sexy.
Pamper your love by warming bath towels in the dryer for a few minutes.
Move those candles into the bathroom for a candlelit shower.
Put a note on the remote. "Come, turn me on," may be the start of a special evening.
Pamper her and go to a chick flick; hold hands and let her cry if she wants to.
Plan a romantic trip and you'll find that half the fun is in the planning.
Spend a day at the beach....at home. Decorate an area with a beach or Hawaiian theme. Get some coconuts, lounge chairs, beach towels and maybe even some sand. Don't forget the tropical drinks and food.
Spray a heart shape in the grass so your love knows you care. Or use your lawn mower to cut one out.
Stargazing is fun, so buy an easy-to-follow book so you can both enjoy the sparkling sky.
Buy a smoothie maker and make a couple Pina Coladas or Daiquiris (alcohol or non), then pick a spot in the yard, throw down a blanket and enjoy your very own deserted island.
Drive to a nearby town and walk hand-in-hand to enjoy the sights, shops, restaurants or nightlife.
A moonlight picnic for two might be just what you need to set the stage for romance.
Plant some favorite flowers and when they bloom, you can pick them for your love.
Plan a midnight rendezvous on a hot summer night. Don't forget the blanket and cold drinks.
Sidewalk chalk is handy for creating a special message to your love.
Spend time just spending time together. Activities such as croquet, horseshoes, golf and cards are fun.
Stock up on hot cocoa, tea and popcorn for the cooler months when you just want to snuggle up together.
Instead of springing for a fancy dinner, have dinner at home and go out for the dessert.
Gently blindfold your love and lead into the bedroom for some soft, sensual pleasure.
Resolve to become more romantic and you will.
Get a small box and decorate with hearts and flowers. Then start throwing in your small bills and change so you will have lots of "fun money" to spend when the mood is right.
Jot down those romantic ideas as you think of them for future reference.
Light up the fire pit or patio stove for a cuddly evening.
Spend an evening together making up love coupons and then have fun redeeming them.
For the gals - Dress in layers of lingerie and ask him if he wants to play strip poker.
Take a nature walk together. Breath in the fresh air, feel the sunshine and enjoy the walk.
When you notice your love is looking your way, smile.
Write a love note and place in plastic bottle to slip into her bubble bath.
Spice up your notes and love letters by referencing a Thesaurus. For example, other words for "love" could be devotion, passion and affection.
Mail a postcard to your love with a hand-drawn "I Love You" heart.
On those cold nights when you want to cuddle, warm your hands under water before hopping into bed.
Assemble a pizza, putting the toppings in a "heart-shaped" design.
No matter how bad your day was, always give a smile or kiss to your love.
Have some fun at Halloween and dress up to complement each other's costume, i.e., Sonny & Cher, Biker Dude and Biker Babe, Cowboy and Cowgirl, etc.
Give your love a compliment when you can. Some example; that was a great dinner, you're really good at balancing the checkbook, I couldn't have done it without you or you look good in that outfit.
If you aren't, get healthy together. Take that evening walk together, find out what healthy foods you both like and plan some healthy meals together.
Spend some time in the kitchen together preparing a meal or cleaning up.
When your love talks, listen.
Surprise your love with a kiss when least expected. Say, "I Love You."
When using massage oil, pour on hands and rub them together to warm up the oil before applying.
If you're not sure of what romantic things your love would like to do, start off with some things you would find romantic.
Take your love dancing and ask the DJ to dedicate a slow romantic song to your love from you. Then dance the night away. Or, call in to the radio station to dedicate a special love song to your love.
Leave a love note in your love's car where it will be readily seen.
If you have a "Honey Do List," add some "special" things you would like your honey to do with you.
If possible, offer to help your love when it comes to home repairs or general fix-it projects that might have been a one-person job before. This is quality time spent together and will reduce the time it takes to get the job done.
Make a "Why I Love You" list of your love's best qualities and jot down in a simple, handmade birthday, anniversary or other card.
Spend a few minutes daydreaming about your love and the romantic things you want to do together.
Invite your love to join you for a drink and talk about a romantic vacation that you would both like to take if money was no objective. Be as detailed as possible and maybe you will find that you could enjoy some of those dreamy plans without spending big bucks.
Don't forget to say, "Thank You" when your love does those little things for you.
Start each day by thinking about all the good things in your life. Then keep that positive feeling flowing throughout the day by staying upbeat and helpful.
Always be considerate of your love when at a social or other type of event. Plan to spend some time together during the event.
When your love is sick, take some extra time to make things as comfortable as possible. If a doctor appointment is made, offer to drive and to stop at the pharmacy if a drug is required. Make sure there are plenty of liquids available and offer to put together a simple meal, like toast and soup.

L. A. Hunter is a romance expert and author of "Romeo's Playbook." An extremely male-friendly relationship book that looks and reads like a sports playbook. Along with being a romance consultant she is the founder of http://www.Romantic-Secrets.com, everybody's favorite romance boutique. Visit us for FREE romantic ideas and other relationship advice.
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Celebrating Anniversaries 1 - 5 With Perfumes

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 01:43:00 +0000

Most of us enjoy a whiff of a delicious perfume, either on ourselves or on somebody else. Instead of buying just any perfume for an anniversary, why not get one that directly has something to do with the theme of the celebrated anniversary? There are infinite amounts of options out there, so you do have to know about your partner's preferences. If a woman like musky notes, don't bring home a fruity perfume! To play it safe, I would recommend that you buy the smallest size possible, so it's not that much of a loss if he or she doesn't like it (and people sometimes have adverse reactions to certain scents). Plus that way, he or she will have used it up by the next anniversary and you can go out and buy more!

Anniversary 1 is Paper: We start out pretty lame, since I could not find any perfume that contained the word "paper" in it. But, there are cards with perfumed inserts, which might be most appropriate for women.

Anniversary 2 is Cotton and we have a few more options here. Cotton is associated with the scent of freshly washed linen, so most of the perfumes have a lighter note. For a woman get Cotton Splash Perfume by Marc Jacobs, White Linen Breeze by Estee Lauder or Crisp Cotton Perfume Oil sold in The Body Shop. For men there are not that many options; you could go with Cotton Candy Perfume by Demeter for men and women, or Lucky You by Liz Claiborne, since one of its ingredients is Cotton flower.

Anniversary 3 is Leather. A scent mostly associated with men (because of the whole cowboy thing, I guess), you have a lot of option for the guys: Containing the word leather in it's name are a series of English Leather by Dana, English Leather Wind Drift, English Leather Timberline and English Leather Musk.

The following fragrances for men carry a note of leather: John Varvatos, Polo by Ralph Lauren, Carlos Santana, Chaps by Ralph Lauren, Dunhill Fresh by Alfred Dunhill, Gentleman by Givenchy, Gucci Pour Homme by Gucci, Nicole Miller for Men, Safari by Ralph Lauren and many, many more. You can always ask for more fragrances with a leather note at the perfume store, should none of these appeal to you.

For women it's the same thing: there are only few perfumes that have the word itself in the name. The only ones I found are Leather for Women by Demeter and Aigner in Leather by Etienne Aigner. But when it comes to perfumes with a note of leather, you have more options: Cabochard by Parfums Gres, Fendi, Habanita by Molinard, Image by Nino Cerruti, No. 19 by Chanel, Caleche by Hermes and more.

For anniversary 4, Fruit or Flowers you will have so many options that I can't possibly name all of them. Most of the perfumes have both flower and fruit notes, so if you want to go with one of the two only, you'll have to speak with a knowledgeable salesperson in the perfume store.

Only a few options for her are Fruit de Bois by Jean Charles Brosseau, Jessica McClintock for women, Fruity Rythm by Adidas, Pacific Paradise and Island Kiss by Escada, Faconnable Femme by Faconnable, Guess for Women, Head Over Heals by Revlon, Incanto and Incanto Charm by Salvatore Ferragamo, Flower for Women by Kenzo, Spring Flower and Fantasia de Fleurs by Creed, Fleur de Diva by Ungaro, Fleur de Fleurs by Nina Ricci ... let me just catch my breath! The list goes on and on, so you will have many options here. Make sure with your darling which fruit or flower she likes, else she just might get a headache!

Since men's fragrances tend to be less fruity and sweet, you would think that you would have fewer options, compared to women's fragrances, but don't forget that almost all perfumes have a flower or a fruit thrown in somewhere. Some ideas for him are: Baldessarini by Hugo Boss, Black Code by Giorgio Armani, Neroli Sauvage by Creed, Curve by Liz Claiborne, Sport by Royal Copenhagen and Very Sexy for Men by Victoria's Secret.

Now to the last theme of the first five anniversaries. Year 5 is Wood, so if you include fragrance notes like sandalwood, you are going to have a lot of options again. For women, get Glamourous by Ralph Lauren, Eau de Dior Relaxing by Christian Dior, Shi by Alfred Sung, Versace Woman by Versace, Sensi by Giorgio Armani, Black Cashmere by DKNY or Blush for Women by Marc Jacobs. Honestly, there are so many I could fill up a whole page, but these will give you an idea.

And finally, for men you have Black XS by Paco Rabanne, BLV Notte by Bulgari, Brit for Men by Burberry, Cacharel for Men by Cacharel, Dune by Christian Dior, Gravity by Coty and Gucci Pour Homme, just to name a few.

Michael Russell Your Independent guide to Anniversary Gifts

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Believe in the Power of Love - Why You Should Be in Love and Its Benefits

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 12:42:00 +0000

People usually have trouble falling in love. They usually have all the reasons not to fall for someone. Some would cite being to busy with their career as their reason. Some of them would say that they've had enough of love and don't want to go through the same roller coaster ride again. But did you know that falling in love can actually be good for you? Apart from making you feel amazing it can actually affect your life for the better in the simplest of ways.

Here are some of the ways that love can improve your life. They may not be cure-alls but then again, a lot of people find a very good reason to wake up in the morning when love hits them. These reasons should definitely make you think about falling in love again or thank heavens for the love you have now:

- It makes you richer: In spite of the misconception that love costs you money, a really healthy relationship usually makes both parties involved more focused in their work and more success oriented. Because after all, they're not doing this just for themselves but for their significant others also. People also find doing their work much easier because of the promise of coming home to the person they love the most.

- It makes you more sensitive: Being sensitive and at times mushy isn't a bad thing at all! It just means that you are more receptive to the feelings of others and you would go out of your way to say and do the things that will make the person you treasure happy. It's not being unmanly. It's being in love.

- It makes you stronger: Even though in some aspects, love can really make you weaker, it can also strengthen you in a lot of aspects. Love and the inspiration that it gives can give unnatural fortitude to a person and give him strength to continue in situations where he could so easily give up. If you love in this healthy, constructive way, then that relationship is most probably for keeps.

There are countless reasons why being in love is absolutely amazing and should happen to everyone. If these listed aren't quite enough to convince you, go to: http://crunkish.com/top-10-reasons-to-fall-in-love/ and find more reasons!

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Make Men Fall in Love With You by Wearing the Right Scent

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 01:14:00 +0000

Wouldn't it be lovely if you could simply put a dash of perfume on yourself and men will be held spellbound by you? You can be Pied Piper of Hamelin with men following you wherever you go.

Well, let me tell you what fragrance attracts men and get the desired attention you crave. You will no longer be the ugly duckling. All the men will want to chat with you and want your companionship. You will be the limelight of the party or wherever you go.

1. Cinnamon

Cinnamon is native to Sri Lanka and South India. Men simply love this scent. Cinnamon is considered to be a aphrodisiac. It is similar to our own sexual secretion or pheromones. I read that just a drop of Cinnamon oil rubbed onto your genitals produces powerful sex stimulation. Not sure how safe that is though as you should never ever put any pure essential oil there. It would be far safer to put a few drops of cinnamon oil in the bath instead and soak in its fragrance. Research studies from the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago found that men were attracted by the scent of cinnamon in the presence of aroma of baked food. Cinnamon has been used since biblical times as a perfume. There is an episode in the Parables where the seductress lured her prey to a bed filled with Cinnamon. What accounts for Cinnamon's attractive scent? The distinctive odour comes cinnemaldehyde a yellowish oily liquid which is released when the cinnamon bark is crushed. There are other chemical components that contribute to cinnamons's complex aroma such as eugenol (clove), cineole (eucalyptus) and linalol (lily of the valley)

2. Vanilla

Vanilla is a very versatile plant. It can be drunk , eaten and smelled. It is an aphrodisiac. It has a sensual aroma that reminds one of fresh food in the kitchen.It’s an ingredient in sultry, exotic, and mysterious Oriental fragrances.As early as 1762 Bezaar Zimmermann wrote that "No fewer than 342 impotent men, by drinking vanilla decoctions, had changed into astonishing lovers of at least as many women." Currently, vanilla is popular as a fragrance from body care, candles to air freshener. Neurologist Alan Hirsch of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago conducted a test to understand the impact of smell upon sexual arousal. He discovered the smell which arouses mature men the most was vanilla smell.

3. Lavender

The Lavender plant contains 180 constituents. The perfume industry describes its scent as green, hay like sweetness and fruity. Some studies shows that scent of lavender to be the most arousing to men and may be useful against impotence. Since ancient times, Lavender has been associated with love and romance. Cleopatra used the seductive powers of lavender to seduce Julius Caeser and Mark Anthony. In more recent times lavender is placed under the bed of newlyweds to ensure hot passion.

4. Frankincense

Frankincense grows as small trees or shrubs which are found in Southern Arabian countries like Yemen and Oman as well as in Northeast Africa ( Somalia). Its resin contain chemicals which is virtually identical to our own sexual secretion. The aroma from Frankincense stimulates the senses and heighten your senses. It enhances communication between the lovers. It supports your respiratory and digestive system and has skin healing properties too. Frankincense is also used in Chinese medicine to internally stimulate the stomach and promote digestion.

You can find more scents that attract men at http://www.perfume-online.org/perfume-attraction-and-men.html and at http://www.perfume-online.org

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Women's Safety Tips - Dating Nightmares & Personal Boundaries - Safe Dating Tips For Women

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 00:59:00 +0000

If you are anything like me, you have probably heard about and or had your share of dating nightmares! It is ironic that we justify, make excuses for and gloss over bad behavior from a date when we would not accept the same treatment from someone else, yet this is the person we hope to spend our lives with. I developed healthy self-esteem, learned to trust my gut feelings and establish and enforce personal boundaries only after I was raped on a date and years later, entered into a domestic violence relationship. Read on if you would like to be safer than I was and avoid dating nightmares! Here are my top three tips for women who are dating:

Healthy Self-Esteem
Trust Your Gut Feelings
Personal Boundaries

Part 3 - Personal Boundaries

Establishing and enforcing personal boundaries entails determining what is acceptable and unacceptable to you and standing your ground when your boundaries are threatened. When you hear someone say, "She got in my space," or "He crossed the line," the space is their personal space and the line is their boundary line.

Funny enough, if you ask the person who made the above statements, it is doubtful they would know anything about personal boundaries but rather spoke from a feeling they got.

Dating and Personal Boundaries

We would not ordinarily allow the things we do when we are dating. We seem so focused on making the pieces fit that we ignore the fact that they may be pieces to two different puzzles. Since we teach people how to treat us, if your date speaks to you disrespectfully or makes jokes at your expense and you don't stop him, you just told him it's okay. You have just welcomed verbal, mental, emotional abuse and a disrespectful relationship. If, however, you let him know the first time he does it that it is unacceptable to you, he will either leave or change his behavior and have more respect for you. Which would you prefer? If you prefer peace of mind, respect and better guys to date, read on.

Establishing Personal Boundaries

Picture yourself inside a giant bagel (or donut if you prefer). Visualize a line 18-24 inches from your body all the way around you. This is the outside of your bagel and the proverbial line in "He crossed the line." See the space between you and the outside line of the bagel? This is your personal space or the proverbial space as in "She got in my space."

Permission Granted

You get to protect and control your personal space. You decide what is acceptable to you (between you and the line) and what is unacceptable to you (outside the line). Examples of acceptable dating things might be respectful communication, men who have a lot of friends, non-smokers and healthy activity dates. Unacceptable things might be disrespectful communication, men who bad-mouth their exes, smokers and bar dates.

Congrats! Now you have begun to establish your personal boundaries. Continue and include people, places and situations. Do this with a clear, unemotional head. Use your gut feelings.

Enforcement of Personal Boundaries

Decide what you will do when an unacceptable person or situation nears your boundary line and personal space. Will you remove yourself from the situation, say something in a non-emotional way or respond physically either to protect or defend your space? Determine how you will handle the unacceptables before something happens. That way, if you are in an emotional moment, you can think back to what you decided (with a clear, unemotional head) to do and follow through.

Can you see the tremendous value in establishing and enforcing personal boundaries? Children, teens and adults need to begin immediately. Combining personal boundaries and trusting gut feelings can make you and your loved ones up to 95% safer from creeps and criminals.

As "Your Personal Safety Trainer," one of my top three tips for women who are dating to avoid dating nightmares is to establish and enforce personal boundaries.

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Why Do Women Read Romance?

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 00:43:00 +0000

On a winter's day, worthy of a Tolstoy introduction with its unnerving degrees below freezing and a wind chill to rival an ice bath, I was given this article to write. At first, I really didn't have a lot of answers. I love romance fiction myself but truly to put it into a logical, framed box as an article is, I wasn't sure.

But I knew that if I did some questioning of family and friends, I would find out why forty percent of the bookselling market is devoted to this genre and why it sells so well.

Here are some of the answers. Not surprisingly, many of these are the intangibles in our lives.

Renewal:

We could have a truly lousy day at work or at our home business or as a parent. The boss could have gone completely crazy and assigned fifty projects due tomorrow. Or the fax machine in our home office could have eaten yet another fax which we now have to phone someone about and impress them with our office equipment. Maybe your two year old has discovered how to cut and run from the breakfast table with jam dripping down his toddler fingers and oh no, he's headed for one of the clean rooms! Many days, life can be chaotic.

When all the craziness of day to day life needs to be returned to a balance between living and reacting, there is nothing better than stepping into a romance.

Romance readers report having a sense of renewal after they submerge themselves in a happy, love story. It's a way of getting the day's dirt off our shoes and sitting down to relax.

A literary tome wouldn't do for the occasion. A mystery wouldn't be quite right but a romance is always the hero of the day.

Hope:

Romance readers also reported seeing a sense of hope in books about romance.

Maybe you're true life romance needs a little repair and a weekend in Bali, but fall into a book and they have it so much worse. I still remember a book I read years ago when the main character had done something out of character and mooned a car which of course turned out to be driven by her new boss. She spent the whole book, more or less cringing anytime she saw him for fear he would recognize her birthmark. From embarrassing, to desperate to any kind of random misfortune, the heroines and heroes get it all.

As human beings, we need to have a sense of hope and when our own spirit is battered, why not a romance?

If you've read the story of Pandora's Box, in amonst all of the awful things that escaped, hope escaped too. As an avid reader of romance fiction myself, I truly believe that romance offers hope. No matter the obstacles, the main characters get to work overcoming all the reasons why the world is rotten but then find throughout the book the moments of hope, the spirit to go on. Romance readers are treated to hope in every book that truly is a romance.

The Predictability Factor:

While not every romance is exactly the same, we can take the guess work out of a book by selecting a romance right away. We can know for certain that at the end of the book, we are promised a happy ending.

For this reason, most romances try to stick to a general appearance of a romance.

Sharing the Hero:

And naturally, we can also assume that women read romance in droves for the heroes. Think of some of the heroes you may have read. They are usually gorgeous, tortured, complex souls that absolutely would melt the heart.

Truly, I think many women just want to entwine their own lives in reading of these men who will do what it takes to solve the day's problem.

If you're looking for a romance and feel you have to hide the cover from the store clerk, forget about it. Women have been reading romance forever and you're justified a good romance book any day of the week. Just don't forget to turn off the stove before you tune into a good romance.

Robyn Whyte is the CEO of an independent press called Stargazer Press. Drop by and see available books athttp://www.stargazerpress.com anytime!

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Secret Romantic Love Poems

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 01:57:00 +0000

Romantic love poems are the poem of choice by many, although there are other great topics and all sorts of other types of poems, romantic love poems is what people automatically think of when the word poem comes up.

Back in the days when Romeo and Juliet written by Shakespeare, ruled, you can be sure Romeo tried and tried to seduce Juliet, and one of his many tactics was the all o mighty romantic love poems, and the reason being is they always work by capturing your lovers heart almost instantly.

Even today romantic love poems are a great tool used by many men trying to impress or win the love of a special lady in their life, there are many ways romantic love poems can be used, but a more widely used method of choice is the online email transfer. People are sending their loved ones romantic love poems by the thousands every single day.

Writing your own romantic love poem or finding one already written for you. if your a very creative person, you can write your own material, but if your not creative, you probably do not want to take the chance of using your own words, you could destroy the whole idea. So, the best thing to do would be to surf the internet for the best romantic love poem that suits you best or maybe something you seem to agree with more.

Just by typing the word "Romantic Love Poems" in your favorite search engine you would get thousand of results to choose from, you could also use the word love poems, even though its a bit broad you would still get some decent results. Then search through the material cause there's going to be a whole lot of it, and find that perfect romantic love poem for your special partner. Put it in an email, subject a romantic I love you poem. You can guarantee whoever see's that is going to open it as soon as they can, just waiting to see what you have written.

The secret they will never know if you wrote the poem, or had someone else do it for you, so make sure when you find a romantic love poem for you and her that it will not be so easy for them to find aswell, just in case they do search to see if you did write it or not.

Romantic love poems are on of the most efficient way's of expressing your true love to that special person in your life. If you would like more info about romantic love poems please visit the site. 2flavorlove.com

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How to Know If a Girl Likes You - 3 Most Crucial Factors You Simply Can't Afford to Miss

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 00:52:00 +0000

Women are very secretive when it comes to the matter of their emotions and showing the guy whether they like him or not. A majority of females out there would never even tell you that they like you when they actually do. You see this is the way females really are....But there are some mind blowing ways using which you can easily find out whether she truly likes you or not. Read on to discover what these ways are and achieve earth shattering results.......

She wants to talk to you and keep the conversation long- She will show strong signs that she wants to talk to you and at the same time she would try to keep the conversation going even when you feel that it's going almost no where. You see this normally means that she has high levels of interest in you and she is trying to tell you that she does like you.

She desperately wants to know whether you are single or not- The only reason why a girl would be willing to know whether you are single or not is that she wants to see whether you are available for her or not. She might be direct with this question or might mix it into the conversation.

She is highly attentive even when you aren't making any sense- Now nothing can be a bigger sign than this one right here. You see if a girl is still highly attentive and enjoying your company even when you are not saying anything which is interesting then she definitely likes you and is sticking around more just so that she can give you signals that she truly likes you.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but you absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover 9 most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know. This is something you can't afford to miss at any cost click here-Tell Me The Secrets

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What Qualities Men Love in a Woman!

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 00:36:00 +0000

Any man's wish list would include pretty face, innocent looks, a 1000 watt smile, loose flowing hair that's freshly washed, smelling great, slim, lithe silhouette, dainty hands, pretty feet, long legs, soft skin... feminine all the way...

But it is more than mere physical attributes that men look for, especially when it comes to the take-home-to-mamma variety. Read on for precious dope on what men love in women. Great for those looking to dust off your single status. Also great for those in a relationship. This bit may just be able to maximize the level of bliss that you already experience.

· Most of the surveys on what men love in women come up with the predictable answers. Well ok, men do lap up a pretty face and a bootylicious body ...the combination is certainly drool-worthy. However minus a ticking mind, the heat might just wane. Show him your curves, your moves, but don't behave brain dead. Men need stimulation of all kinds, cerebral kinds included.

· A well turned out lass anytime, anywhere. No one likes toads or slobs. Not women and definitely not men. Take out time. Dress it up and yes, nothing OTT. That'll make him look for the exit frantically. A small lippy-blush-eyeliner routine will make it easy on his heart. For the dress, remember less is more, but only in private. Elsewhere dress easy. For married women, ditch the sweatpants and frumpy nightwear please!

· You love the compliments. Your man loves it too. Up the positive stroke-play and drive his ego. Acknowledge his physical assets, prowess...give him small little squeezes, lock eyes with him...If he's got the synapses singing, compliment him.

· Nothing makes a woman more endearing to a man than if she plays a sport for his passions. Go for it, even if you cannot tell the rules of cricket from baseball. Cheer gustily for his team, allow him to be a couch potato, be a great stewardess and make him his punches and snacks...chances are he'll think you are an angel-on-earth and resolve to hold on to you. If it's books that he likes, make conversations around them. Is rock music his scene? Play along. Maybe you can get him a Jim Morrison T-shirt.

· Want to win brownie points? Take to his family, or at least pretend to. White lies never did matter. So warm up to his mother, father, sister, dog, and most importantly his sidekicks, his friends. Don't make it a 'me-or-them' kind of a situation. He might just choose them! On the other hand he'll know he has a good thing going if he sees his buddies and family approving of you.

· Men like space both physical and mental. Don't act the wilting wallflower for him. Get a life of your own and let him get a breather. Stud nights, booze sessions, a game of soccer...let him get his dose of this and your man will worship the ground you walk on. Meanwhile you get a rocking life of your own too.

· Men like some spunk, some independence in their women. So weepy willows are out. So are gossipy gals and the cribby crabs.

· Finally, all men love an out-of-the-world sack session. Turn into sex Goddess for him. Leave your inhibitions outside the door and make him love you. He'll love it!

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Tips on Kissing to Make Your Partner Beg For More

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 07:08:00 +0000

This article will give tips on kissing which will improve your confidence and get you on the road to better kissing. You will also gain step-by-step guidance on how to kiss, things to remember, and things to avoid.

One of the first and most important aspects of kissing is to prepare ahead of time. That may sound silly, but you need to work into the kiss so there is less awkwardness between you. Get close to the person through touching, cuddling or romantic play. Being prepared to kiss will make it seem more natural.

Now, on to the kiss. Another important kissing tip is to know what you're aiming for. Don't close your eyes too soon, like in the movies, or you may miss your loves mouth! Now, tilt your head to one side. Open your lips with your arms around her neck and move in gently for the kiss. Once your lips meet you can then close your eyes.

One of the most important tips on kissing is how far to open your mouth. A slightly open mouth is best. Too much of a closed-mouth isn't good and makes you seem to be holding back. A wide-open mouth can be overwhelming and make your partner feel uncomfortable.

Some other general tips on kissing include keeping your teeth brushed regularly and don't forget to brush your tongue. Millions of bad breath bacteria live on the tongue, so keep it clean and brushed. Another suggestion is to use lip balm regularly for smooth lips. However, please don't pull out and apply lip palm the moment before the kiss. This is not only tacky, but will kill the mood!

Also, don't forget to swallow. Take a break from kissing to catch your breath and swallow. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with a mouth full of saliva. Don't hold your breath when you kiss. Just take slow breaths through your nose.

Kissing doesn't have to be a stressful event. With practice and proper preparation you can become known as a fantastic kisser. By using these tips on kissing you are on your way to confident kissing.

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8 Ways to Heal When Love Hurts

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 10:37:00 +0000

Sometimes our loved ones hurt us. Dads can get physical or disappear from our lives. Moms can betray us with their anger and lack of support. A best friend can shock us by turning their backs on us. A spouse can be unfaithful and destroy our trust. Our children can take a destructive path that is sure to crush our heart. These are some of the big hurts in life that leave us wondering how we will ever heal.

But there are little hurts too that can build into mountains of resentment if we don't address them. Angry words are exchanged during an argument. A friend neglects your friendship. People take you for granted without even knowing it. Your child rejects you in a moment of hurt and frustration.

To hang on to hurt or anger is destructive to our emotional, spiritual, physical and relational health. It drains our energy, strains our relationships, and zaps the joy from our life. So how do we heal our heart when love hurts? Here are some suggestions to help you move beyond the hurt and get on with enjoying life.

Confront Your Anger: Our initial reaction when someone hurts or betrays us is often anger. Maybe we feel violated or disrespected. We want to perhaps lash back and make the other person hurt. Refrain from doing that. Anger expressed when we are hurt can be distorted and damaging to our relationships. Take some time to handle your anger in another way. Talk with a trusted friend, counselor or life coach. Express your feelings in a journal or write a letter to the person who hurt you (but don't give it to them).

Seek Truth and Understanding: How can you better understand the person who hurt you? What truth do you need to know about the other person? Sometimes people hurt us because they are hurting too. Other times people hurt us unintentionally. Ask for the truth and be willing to hear, accept and embrace it. Share your truth and help the other person understand you.

Search for the Lesson: Experiencing pain and suffering is not easy. However, there is usually a lesson to be learned from our pain. What aren't or weren't you paying attention to? What does this experience teach you about yourself and the other person? What changes need to be made as a result of your pain? While the human drama includes pain, we have a choice in how to view it.

Give Grace: We are all human, and we all make mistakes. Some mistakes are worse than others, and some mistakes hurt more than others. Most of us are doing the best we can in any given situation. People make choices based on their past, their belief systems, and the past and collective thought of humanity. Unfortunately, people sometimes make choices that hurt us. We need grace when we make choices that hurt our loved ones, and our loved ones need grace as well.

Accept the Love Deposits: When we are hurt, it is sometimes difficult to accept the apologies and attempts to make amends from our loved ones. Maybe your guard has been thrown up and you're unsure if you can trust again. One way to heal a wounded heart is to allow yourself to truly feel the sincere love deposits that are made to your emotional bank account. Maybe the love will come from the person who hurt you, but maybe it will not. Seek out and embrace the love that is being given to you.

Grieve the Sadness: With hurt comes sadness. Maybe you feel sad about what happened. Perhaps you feel sad about what you didn't receive. Sometimes the sadness is an indication that you need to grieve the loss of a dream. Allow yourself to feel the sadness - let the tears flow. Crying is a very cathartic ritual.

Set Appropriate Boundaries: When our loved ones hurt us continually, we may need to set boundaries for healing to take place. A child may need to go to his room when his anger is destructive. You may need to end a conversation with someone who is hurting you. It's even possible that you need to end a relationship that is repeatedly hurting your self-esteem. Healing cannot take place if we don't take care of ourselves. And people will not begin treating us with respect until we respect ourselves.

Forgive: Lastly, we need to forgive so that we can move on with life. Forgiving does not mean that we condone our loved ones behavior. It does not mean that we allow others to keep hurting us. To forgive means to give up all resentment and the desire to punish the other person. In our heart, it means we've cancelled the debt we feel others owe us.

Sometimes the only way to know love is to experience what love is not. Whatever the question, challenge or decision, love is always the answer. God is perfect love, and His desire is for us to model His character. Healing from hurts moves us closer to love.

Lori Radun, CEC - certified life coach for moms. To get her FREE newsletter and the special report "155 Things Moms Can Do to Raise Great Children", go tohttp://www.true2youlifecoaching.com

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3 Dirty Psychological Tricks Which Will Make Your Ex Crawl Back to You - You Shouldn't Miss These

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 09:11:00 +0000

Dealing with a breakup can be a highly complicated matter specially when you want your ex to come back to you. You see getting your ex back is not that difficult if you locate what really gets your ex moving. There are some extremely effective psychological tricks you can start using right away which will get your ex back to you faster than you can ever imagine. Read on to discover what these tricks are and get the desired result almost instantly...

Stay in touch with his family- This is the most important key to getting your ex back. You see family will always give your ex suggestions as to what he/she should do now and when you are in constant touch with them they will always force your ex to reconsider you once again. Often family can make anyone change their mind within seconds because people know that their family knows what's best for them.

Compliment him/her to his/her friends- When something is told to you by a third person that has a greater impact when the same thing is told to you by the person directly. You see you should get in touch with your ex's friends and you should tell them how much you miss being with him/her and how wonderful this person was to you. Again just like family friends can be a big help as well when it comes to the matter of getting your ex back.

Show no signs of neediness- This is one of the most important keys if you really want to get back with your ex. You see the more emotional you are about the breakup the more power you will give to your ex. The trick here is not to make your ex feel that you are too needy. Make him/her feel as if you are open towards getting back but it's not as if your life is dependent on it.

An absolute must know for you- Do you want your ex back? Now listen carefully. There are a set of astonishingly powerful techniques which will get your ex begging you to date them again. These techniques are so strong that no matter how bad your situation was you are GUARANTEED to get your ex back. So...don't sit back and relax. These are the secrets you simply can not afford to miss at any cost. I strongly urge you to read everything very carefully on the next page. Follow this link- Tell Me The Secrets

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To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back Here's 3 Simple Steps

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 08:49:00 +0000

So you want to get your ex boyfriend back and you have no idea how to go about it. Well you're not alone, I know that whenever I had an ex boyfriend walk out on me, not only were they some of the most painful moments of my life, I never knew what to do or where to turn! I cried, I didn't eat, I sat in shock and my heart ached like hell. All I wanted to do was to find a way to get my ex back into my life so that heartache would stop. So trust me, I really do understand where you're coming from.

So here's the thing you really want to do to get your ex boyfriend back: you're going to have to play it smart. I did all the usual dumb things before I figured this one out: I phoned him, I sent texts, emails and I even humiliated myself with one particular ex by turning up at his work place a sobbing wreck - so yeah, avoiding this mistakes is key. Play it smart, that means when he tells you he wants out, LET HIM GO!

Sounds wrong doesn't it? But trust me, it's the only way you are going to get your ex boyfriend back into your life for good. Agree the break up and you will have taken the first brilliant step to get your ex boyfriend back. You will appear calm, rational and level headed to your ex. No pleading and the sobbing, just accept.

Now you have roughly one month to get your head together. During this month you make NO contact whatsoever with your ex boyfriend. Trust me on this, to get your ex boyfriend back you need to take a break from him. Whatever caused the break up needs time to settle and you both need time to think. Work on yourself. Take some exercise classes, go on a trip, have some fun with your friends. Let's face it, you're going to have a lot of spare time and it is vital that you fill that time in a positive way and you are not sitting in a room thinking about your ex.

When the month is up, make contact with your ex. Phone him up and have a friendly conversation with him and ask for a meeting. The time apart will have mellowed both of you and you will both have put things into perspective. To get your ex boyfriend back you need to be sure that you are ready to apologise for anything that you may have done to cause the breakup. Make sure you give your ex space and time to say what they need to say. Ask your ex for a second chance and then leave it at that. Go home and wait for a phone call. Chances are your ex will call you in a few days and agree to give the relationship a second chance.

If he doesn't then you either leave it at that and move on. Or if you are positive that you want to get your ex back then you need a plan. To get your ex boyfriend back click on the link to my site. It will take you to a review of the book that saved my relationship and helped me get my ex back. Just click on the blue link to get your ex boyfriend back

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Divorce - Dividing Up the Money

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:49:00 +0000

Probably one of the toughest parts to any divorce is the emotional trap that revolves around money. Depending on your situation, you may have to part with a hefty chunk of your savings, investments, retirement fund, and pension.

For the most part, martial assets will be divided equally by the courts. The key word here was 'marital'. That means any funds that you have put into a joint account become marital. If you make $100,000 a year and your spouse does not work, the money you put into a joint account becomes both of yours. It gets divided equally. Doesn't sound fair, does it? The same holds true for your 401K plan. In my case, I had one, she did not. Now she's got half of mine.

I urge you to remember the fact that it's only money. We've all heard the old proverb that 'money makes people do crazy things'. Here's crazy for you, how about paying your attorney thousands of dollars to fight your spouse for the same amount. Many people get wrapped up in the money and forget to think straight. Chances are you will be required to divide your assets equally, so don't waste any more money fighting over things that will be out of your control anyway. Also remember the longer it takes to finalize your divorce, the more money you need to pay your attorney. My divorce went for over five years and over thirty-two thousand dollars to my attorney. I'm guessing my ex paid her attorney close to the same. Think about that, we could have put our daughter through college with the money wasted on attorney fees.

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How to Stop Your Divorce With Love

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:46:00 +0000

Love has been considered the greatest source of inspiration in the world and also the greatest source of despair and problems making it a polarized word in a language that references it constantly. If you are heading towards separation and are trying to work out how to stop your divorce these opposite ends of the spectrum of love play a terrible conflicting role in the decisions you make as love applies to your relationship as well as to all of those around you including yourself.

Confusing? Well so is love! When it comes down to it no tricks or complex strategies can even give you a long lasting, successful and happy marriage. The only way to achieve this is by making sure the commitment you both have to your relationship and marriage is fueled by love and nothing else.

With this in mind you can approach any conflict in your marriage with confidence as you will not be distracted by other petty worries. This does not mean you can dismiss the realities of being married however as most arguments are centered on the small things, the niggles of married life. To help you get to the point where love can take over and real communication that becomes resolutions to these niggles shines through here is the one important thing you must do to prevent further arguments.

LOSE!

Do not retaliate, do not defend yourself, do not use logic, do not try to find a solution immediately even. Lose the argument; let them win to prove that no one is keeping score anymore. Once you can defuse the situation the answer to how to stop your divorce will come with a communication that be based on love, that love then becomes commitment and that commitment breeds higher love but only when you are disarmed of ego and hateful thoughts.

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Save Your Marriage & Improve Your Relationship

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:45:00 +0000

Your marriage will not work when you and your partner are incompatible in everything whatever you want to do or would like to say. Truly, there are tough times ahead and nothing will ever be the same again, no matter how hard you try. But if both sides of the party are willing to believe then there is still hope of saving this relationship as well as marriage.

The entire relationship problems happen from a breakdown in the loving connection between two people.

There will always be some negative emotions that have not been expressed in the relationship. Usually unconscious feelings are destroying the marriage. The unexpressed feelings cause us to separate from our partner because we do not want them to see our negative side in case they reject us.

It is not easy to have a perfect spouse and a happy married life. We all have our shares of odds and even. But it is better late than never. It's time to have a discussion about why you want to save the marriage first. Sit down with your partner and start to discuss things that are keeping your together and memories that remind you of better times. You will want to make a promise to each other that you will do the best that you can to make things better between the both of you. Make a promise that you will give all of your free time and attention to putting in place whatever has been broken. And then stick to that promise.

The Secret of Successful Marriages

Your relationship needs specific tools to be fixed, but the way that works for you might not be the way that works for everyone else. This is why communicating with each other is so important. When you're able to talk honestly about your feelings and about your needs, you will be able to create plans that make sense for the way that you want things to work out.

An important thing to remember is that your marriage is worth saving and if you are willing to do what is necessary, you can be a success! Click here and get some fresh ideas about how to inject new life into your marriage and stop a divorce.

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Make Someone Fall in Love With You in 3 Easy Step

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:43:00 +0000

To make someone fall in love with you is a very tedious business. It involves a lot of fact-finding missions, as well as extreme ways to get the person to notice you. This is quite true in both male and female species - even animals do it in the wilds.

The process to make someone fall in love with you requires the conscious effort from both partners. There should be an understanding between the two regarding their emotions and behavior, as well as their physical attraction with each other.

Here are some tips on how to get started with this little project.

Tip # 1: Engage in Communication

Communication plays an integral role on how to make someone fall in love with you. Both parties need to relay their state of mind, as well as actions in a language that both will surely understand. Remember, before you get attracted to a person, you have to hear them out first.

Tip # 2: Understand The Other Partner

If you want to make your partner fall in love with you, then you have to listen. You need to know how they feel and that they need someone to understand their feelings. You need to form the initial attachment by telling them that you are always there for them -- both in words and in actions.

Tip # 3: Develop Physical Attraction

Lovelorn people will often say that emotions are the main aspect of love. In truth, love is a combination of physical, emotional, and mental attraction between two parties.

Both of you need to develop the physical attraction that is a requirement in developing the deep relationship between the two of you. Touch their hands one in a while, or give them a hug or a light kiss on the cheek - with their permission of course.

To make someone fall in love with you, the most important factor is to open yourself up to them; show them who you really are, the real you, so that they can also open themselves to you as well.

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Self-Improvement - Love is a Tiny Word With Huge Assets

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Love is the greatest power in the world. The Bible tells us that God is love. When we allow God to love through us then we are truly making a difference as His ambassadors to a hurting world. Dan Clark tells a great story which illustrates God's love to a hurting world. In the story, Dan tells about his friend Paul. One Christmas, Paul's brother gave him the present of a shiny, brand new car. It was Christmas Eve and Paul was looking forward to the drive home from work in his new car. As Paul made his way to the parking lot, he noticed a little street urchin walking around his car. The little boy noticed Paul and said, "Mister, is this your car?"

"Yes, it is," said Paul. "My brother gave it to me."

"You mean, you didn't have to pay nothin for it?" asked the boy.

"That's right," said Paul.

"Gee, I wish I ..." and the boy hesitated.

Well, Paul knew exactly what the little boy was going to say. Of course he was going to say, "I wish I had a brother like that." Well, that is not what the little boy said. When he finished his sentence it went like this, "Gee, I wish I could be a brother like that."

This was Paul's first surprise of the day. He was so touched by the little boy's expression of love that he offered to give him a ride in the shiny, new car.

They hadn't been driving too long when the boy asked Paul if he could drive him home to his neighborhood. Paul knew exactly what the boy wanted. He wanted all his neighbors to see him come home in a shiny, new car. This is when Paul got his second surprise of the day.

As soon as Paul stopped the car in front of the little boy's house, the street urchin jumped out and ran up two steps and into the house. He was gone for a little while and then came back. Cradled in his arms was his crippled little brother. The urchin gently sat his brother on the steps and said, "See there, Buddy. There it is. Just like I told you upstairs. And someday, Buddy, I am going to buy you one just like it and then we can go see all those Christmas windows I've been telling you about."

Paul was so struck with emotion that he got out of the car and walked over to Buddy and picked him up and sat him in the car. Paul, Buddy, and Buddy's big brother (I call him "The Dream Builder") went for a Christmas ride I am sure they will cherish for the rest of their lives. And that is the day Paul truly understood what Jesus meant when He said, "It is more blessed to give."

Wow, that is what love and success is all about. When we plant a seed of love in someone's dream, the gift of love will always flow back to us - many times in ways we don't expect. BE A "DREAM BUILDER" AND LIVE A LIFE OF LOVE!

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Love Tests - Does He Love Me? Find How How to Win Him Back

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:40:00 +0000

What do you do if the man you love is losing interest? The anguish of losing someone you love can feel unbearable at times. The good news is there are very specific things you can do to get a man interested again. If you're looking for 'love tests does he love me' then it is obvious that you've reached the point where you need some sound advice on precisely what to do to win back his heart.

Give him plenty of space. This is probably the toughest thing to do especially if you're impatient to repair things. Realize that putting any pressure on him will only make things worse. It's human nature to pull away when pushed. You must completely stop any desperate, needy or pushy demeanor.

Pushy behavior includes showing up where he is all the time, constant calling, asking where he's been, fighting about the relationship, etc. You know what I'm talking about... and in your heart you know that this type of behavior isn't working, right?

If you want to turn things around, start working on yourself. Do things that improve your life, spend time with family and friends, work out, etc. Now you've gone from acting insecure and desperate to someone who is doing their own thing. You're basically adopting an attitude of detachment about the whole thing.

Of course this doesn't mean that you should act cold or uncaring. Not at all. Continue to be polite and nice. You're simply showing him that your life doesn't revolve around him.

Resist the temptation to go back to your old ways. This will call for self discipline on your part. Remember to stay occupied doing positive activities and build up your independence and inner strength. You should see a big difference in his attitude towards you.

Remember, work with a guy's basic nature... not against it. The solutions are often simple... you don't need any 'love tests does he love me' to win him back. but that doesn't mean it's going to be easy for you. The toughest part for you is going to be having the patience and discipline to not fall back into your old behavior patterns.

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What Not to Say to Your Wife When She is Pregnant, With Another Couple's Baby

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:38:00 +0000

Four comments to avoid when your wife is pregnant with someone else's baby:

1. When your wife, who is a surrogate mother,is praying to the porcelain god at 3 months pregnant you DON'T say..." You volunteered for this!"

Instead you could get her a glass of water, a wash clothe and a hug and say how lucky you are to have a woman so willing to give this much of herself to others.....

2. When your wife is huge and uncomfortable from carrying twins you DON'T say...."Remember, You are getting paid for this!!"

Instead acknowledge how fortunate those babies are to have her carry them with such love, care and sacrifice. (A foot rub will help as well!) Adding the reminder that after the babies are born, she can sleep through the night!

3. When your wife is denying you the intimate part of your marital relationship (for what seems like months) you DON'T say..." Look what YOU ARE doing to ME!!"

Instead know that you can still be close and realize that this time of her pregnancy will go fast and she will appreciate you all the more for your understanding and support!

4. When your wife is about to give birth and wants YOU by her side you DON'T say.."Why, they aren't my babies!!"

Instead understand that this is YOUR WIFE, YOUR Woman and that she needs you no matter whose babies she carries. You are a huge part of this surrogacy and why not share in the end result, seeing the Intended Parents dearest dreams come true!

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How Can I Trust My Boyfriend Again?

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:35:00 +0000

Both of you have been together for years or months. You love him deeply and both of you enjoyed being together. However, you have occasional quarrels with him over his ex girlfriend or some flings he had outside. Finally, both of you break up for a while as he said he wanted some time and space to think of the relationship. You felt extremely upset and wanted him badly but on the other hand, you cannot forgive his affairs outside. He approached you again for a reconciliation and you decided to go back to him but there is a problem that you are facing right now. The trust in him. "How Can I Trust My Boyfriend Again?" " Will he really repent or is he going to repeat his mistakes in future?" All these thoughts have been in your mind every day.

The key to the relationship is Communication. Since you have decided to give him a chance. You should learn how to forgive and communicate properly. Communication will develop your trust over time. Both of you should agree to share on joy and problems. Listen and share your views together with him. During this period of time, you can watch his behavior and assess his honesty, reliability, trustworthy and loyalty.

If the affair happened was with his ex girlfriend, tell him how much you needed him to assure you on that. Even if you realized that he is still contacting his ex girlfriend, do not get so worked out. When a girlfriend flare up and try to prevent their boyfriend from contacting their ex, the situation may turn worse. Sometimes, in order to prevent the girlfriend from getting angry, they do it secretly behind their back to contact their ex. Try to talk to him in a cool way instead.

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Safe Sex is Still a Concern for Those Over 60 Years of Age

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:33:00 +0000

Just because you get older, it doesn't mean you can be careless about your choice of sexual partners. For those over 60 years of age, you want to do your part to protect yourself. Both men and women need to take the responsibility for having condoms readily available. While they risk of pregnancy is likely in the past, the risk of sexually transmitted diseases is not.

Most individuals over the age of 60 aren't out hooking up with new partners every weekend. Yet the biggest concern should be the people they have been with in the past. They may have been exposed to a sexually transmitted diseases such as HIV from a partner they were once with. They aren't able to share that information with you as they don't know it themselves. That is just too big of a risk to take.

Should you decide to be part of a committed relationship when you are over 60 with one partner, that is great. You both should be tested for sexually transmitted diseases though. The time frame for additional testing will depend on how much time has passed since each of you has been with someone else. Your medical professionals can provide all of that information for you.

Only after you get go ahead for the doctor can you stop using protection with that partner. You need to decide on the level of trust you have with that person though. Infidelity is a common issue in our society for people of all ages, not just over 60. If you are worried in the least that you may be exposed to anything due to that issue you need to continue using protection.

It is very naïve to assume that because you aren't a spring chicken anymore that you don't have to worry about the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. There is no discrimination from them based upon your age. Approximately 20% of the population that has tested positive for HIV is over 60 years of age. In at least half of the cases it is believed that they were exposed to the virus by engaging in unprotected sex after the age of 60.

Some individuals of this age group feel it is disrespectful to bring up the use of condoms. They don't want to offend potential partners so they don't even bring it up. Yet if you aren't able to discuss the issue of safe sex with someone you plan to be intimate with then it is best to avoid such activity with them all together.

Others simply don't realize they are still at risk at their age. There has been a great deal of information and education offered on the topic in the last 20 years. This was implemented as the number of individuals over 60 years of age with sexually transmitted diseases was on the rise for several years in a row.

The highest rate of sexually transmitted diseases among adults of this age group is found in male to male relationships. However, those that involve two females or one male and one female are also at risk too. There has been a myth in society that doesn't seem to go away that only homosexual males are at risk of contracting a sexually transmitted disease in their older years. Everyone is at risk and so you should assume that anyone you are going to have sex with could possible have such infections to pass on to you. Some of them may know about it but others don't and you need to not take such a risk.

When you are in your 60's, you still have plenty of life ahead of you to enjoy. A healthy sex life should be a an enjoyable part of that life. However, you do need to be very realistic about the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. You don't want to have something like that affect the quality of the remainder of life you have in front of you.

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5 Signs That Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You

noreply@blogger.com (Admin) — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 06:32:00 +0000

Pining for someone who doesn't feel the same way can be utter torture. Sometimes after a break up, the woman will still be deeply in love with her ex boyfriend. Seeing him and knowing that he's decided to break free from the relationship is difficult. However, it's important to remember that many people do suffer through a split only to be reunited and the relationship ends up stronger than ever. If you want another chance with the man you love, don't give up all hope. Instead, remember that he may be feeling just as confused as you are. There are five signs that your boyfriend still loves you that every woman should be aware of.

One of the signs that your boyfriend still loves you is that he'll want to save the friendship aspect of the relationship. If he suggests that the two of your remain friends after the dating relationship ends, that's a signal that he's still carrying some feelings for you. Never take this as a bad sign. You can use the friendship to leverage yourself as someone important and trustworthy in his life.

Another clue that he's still carrying a torch for you is he'll constantly be contacting you. It may be via phone, text or email but he'll do it on a pretty regular basis. It can be something as simple as him saying "good morning" or a quick "hello" but it's a clear indicator that he doesn't want to break completely away from you.

If he says he misses you, yet you two talk on a fairly regular basis, take this as one of the signs he still loves you. When he says he misses you that has a deeper meaning than it might first appear. He's missing the closeness and the romance that you two once shared. Take this to mean that he's starting to reconsider the status of the relationship and exactly what you mean to him.

If he starts asking about your dating status, he may be asking because he wonders where he stands. Be honest with him regarding who you are seeing or not seeing. Don't try and make him jealous by telling him all about an imaginary, perfect boyfriend. Some men are emotionally conflicted when the woman they love is dating someone else. They may even pull back forever if they believe she's happy with someone new.

The last of the signs that your ex boyfriend still loves you is his demeanor when he's around you. If you two are out for a friendly coffee or dinner and he seems nervous, that may signal that he's trying to bury his true feelings. Try and make him as comfortable as possible and if you are feeling the same way, let him know. One of you has to fess up at some point about your true feelings if you have any hope of a happy future together.

It's obviously important that you think through each and every move when you are trying to get your boyfriend back. Most women have no idea that everything they say and do after a break up potentially impacts the chance of a reunion. To find out more about what steps are necessary to get your boyfriend back, including what not to do, visit this Helpful Site!

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